Your Parents Are Lonely. Do Something Now. 

The main reasons of loneliness of parents starts after high school of their children, in INDIA students are also so lonely, because of future tensions and also due to competitive exams and the failure, because of which both parents and students feel lonely.😒😕

Living under same building, same room, and still feeling lonely while your family is together is a big crisis.

Everybody is Lonely brother 😐😐😐

When ever i try to talk to my parents, I regret it. Constant judgement, complain and so many things. They make me regret talking to them really.

Parents themselves and their obsession over social status are becames biggest reason of stress and anxiety for child

"The biggest reason for our loneliness is the expectations we have from each other 😢

This might be an unpopular opinion - but there is a reason many Indian children want to live away from their parents. My parents always see and treat me as a child. Despite multiple efforts to try and help them change their ways (eating and staying indoors for entertainment) they laugh at my attempts to stay fit in my own life, and are very often racist and do not want to make friends their own age. They only want their children to take care of them, but are authoritarian and will not budge from their positions. I love my parents and recognize they gave me a lot - but that is what a parent is supposed to do. Staying with my parents meant not achieving my full potential and succumbing to their negative habits. I know I am not alone in this situation. I look at other parents who have better relationships with their kids and often crave that.

Such kahu na to hamara culture hi kharab hai na koi sports, na koi club, na book reading, na fitness, na koi music sikhna,, sirf agle pidhi ke bare mein sochna aur unse ummide palna aur parents kabhi jee hi nhi paate pura dhyaan unka baccho pr hota hai kabhi khud pr bhi dhyaan dena chahiye unhe aur jb baccha koi accha job krta hai to wo kahi bahar jata hai ya apne mein vyast rahta hai to parents ke paas apna kuch nhi bachta.. Our culture must reform.. That's it!!

parents don't understand us, we don't understand them. Simple. Everyone's lonely they gotta get over it

This is by far the best comment section on any video of mohak, people sharing their personal experience gives me so much perspective on the relationship dynamics between a parent and their kids.

The reason is the toxic family system of India and parents failing to be there for their children emotionally which in turn makes their children have the same attitude towards the m

My father used to be in electronics servicing business for 40 years. In my entire childhood all I could see was him going early and coming late. He enjoyed his life at his fullest along with mother who works for the government. He eventually retired and went to farming while my mom is about to retire soon. All my life I can remember about them is their expectations from me. They wanted me to do engineering which I obviously denied but they still force me to do other things their way. They can't understand or appreciate my personal perspective towards things which makes me a bad guy in their eyes. It hurts me that I can't make them understand cause they're too stubborn and just call me out on it. I do love them but in the end, if I stay with them in the long term the only thing which I'll see is their happiness and not mine. I know that I'm not alone in this sinking ship so I do appreciate others speaking out to their parents and doing something about it. Cause leaving them would be the most heartbreaking but a necessary process for self development.

😢Loneliness is not the absence of people, but the absence of purpose. It's the feeling of being disconnected from the world, and from oneself. But even in the darkest moments, remember that loneliness is a universal human experience, and that you are never truly alone.❤

Her dad found her naked, lying motionless on the floor with a broken pelvic girdle, disfigured limbs and shattered pieces of glasses in her eyes, bleeding incessantly. Her plight in those final minutes is unimaginable. Her parents were denied any contact with her dead body for 3 hours . A scapegoat is in custody. Dean said she was psychotic. After the transfer to CBI, renovation work started in the hospital. At this point it's not just a doctor issue anymore, it's just inhumane. We keep unlocking lower levels of inhumanity year after year. Fools were those, who even hoped there would be reforms after the Nirbhaya case. It's been 12 years. Nothing has changed. Please raised you voice and do something regarding this case.

I appreciate the empathy you have expressed in this video. No one deserves to be lonely. But sadly a lot of people this age group are extremely selfish. My parents and many of the 1950-65 born folks, have 7-8 siblings, and they're always arguing and comparing and gossiping amongst each other. There is a general idea that just because someone is older, they deserve respect even if they express rudeness and ill behaviour. There is chronic envy and jealousy, abundant negative comments and zero positive reinforcements. Their chronically ill behaviour causes others to withdraw because you have to walk on eggshells around them and constantly be careful to not anger them because you disagree with them. Then these same people complain that no one wants to speak to them. I empathize with the loneliness epidemic, but a deep bond and connection can only be built if both parties are kind and compassionate, and not ego driven narcissists.

Meanwhile CEOs like Narayan Murthy, Anupam Mittal, Kunal Shah and many others like them want us to work for unrealistic 70/80/100/120 hrs. a week which drains so many precious hours from our personal lives which we would gladly like to spend with our parents.

Thank you Mohak for making videos on Topic that are serious but people often neglect it.

Well, quite often, the parents are toxic, and the children feel the need to keep them at hand.

Don't you wonder that elderly people from western countries ever feel lonely??? Even if they do feel lonely there's a high chance that percentage would be far less compared to the elderly people of our country and that's because they don't stop learning,they take care of themselves and hace active social life, unlike our parents whose entire indentity is being parent...they don't ever participate in clubs,they don't enegage in activities that would strengthen their body and mind and most important they think that it's the job of kids to raise them again,make THEM feel happy Once they become parent they are nothing now They are left being parent

Oversimplification of the problem. Many a times, the elderly are quite nasty and selfish. They will take out the guns of Sanskar every time they want something done their way. They will always preach about the things they have never followed in their lives. Many of them have never lived with their parents but expect that from their own kids. They dont want to move at all and want all the household work done by others, especially their daughter in laws.

The very first thing I did just halfway through the video was to book movie tickets for tomorrow for the whole family, realising that my parents might be lonely.

How are we supposed help our lonely parents when we ourself face a bunch of mental diseases.

Perhaps 50% of depressed parents can be explained by bratty or self-indulged children, sure. But probably 50% or more of such parents who are lonely or depressed thrashed their children, never emotionally connected, never took interest in the child's interests, never developed a single conversation with the child, demeaned the child routinely, physically and emotionally neglected their children while expecting god-like reverence in response. In general, they expected their child to be SEEN but never HEARD. Then those parents turn around and complain when their every desire is not met, children dream of an escape from that toxic life. People should ask themselves why if when 2 parents live together they become lonely, but a child living by themselves remains elated. The truth is between the parents themselves, 99% of the time there is some deep resentment, no social connection between husband and wife, no real interest taken in each other except for their "duty" and social obligations (like serving food, or paying for whatever bills). Beyond this duty, these types of parents remain in a toxic relationship with everyone in their lives, not just their children. Those parents never knew how to be in a relationship with anyone, and now find a socially acceptable excuse to blame the children, when really the children and the family is a product of their horrendous parenting.

My parents were not there for me you know...i will do exactly what they did to me..support them financially but emotionally no. They always crushed my feelings,never appreciated me, made me feel sidelined...so tgats what they get now. Let them be lonely...i am not going to talk with them just to relive my trauma.

Dear Mohak Mangal Team' I would humbly request you all to please make a video on Kolkata's RG KAR HOSPITAL case . please help the VICTIM to get justice by letting people know what is happening in KOLKATA. This is not a state issue now it is a national issue. It is not only about doctors safety but it is about the safety of women in India and please also address this problem faced by Female doctors in rural areas. The sister should get justice and whole India should know about this case and support the protesters. JUSTICE SHOULD BE GIVEN . i am asking you to make a video in this because people who are still unaware about this come to know about this and people should help the victim , the sister to get justice . PLEASE MAKE A VIDEO ..

if you try to treat your children like assests and try to dictate them and abuse them especially fathers this is bound to happen they will always try to run away as far away from them as possible.and later how do you expect them to love you back when you leave them in boarding school from 3rd class and expect them to love you with out you being part of their life sometimes i would look at my father photo just to remember his face because i never got to stay with him even i stay always comapring me with others and shaming me infront of my relatives and friends whay would i want such a person in my life. everyone do not get parents who are just friendly and underrstanding th ereality is most of the parents are just abusive😞

Great topic to touch, also a matter of discussion Mohak. You considered good points but not major ones (mentioned below), and I would love to see if you could create a second part on it too. 1. Living together limits few things, either it's eating habits or daily schedule, that needs to be on a common ground (not reliable in work related scenarios). 2. Single girl child who got married, please consider all possibilities (OfCourse, no issues with ones who got money). 3. Adamant parents, hark to talk and not easy to make a point. 4. Parents who do not socialize at all, how can they start it all of a sudden if they struggle with daily tasks. 5. Finding a common topic with large age gaps is hard, either parent won't hear it, or child would spend the time pretending to understand. 6. Money problems are not solvable anyways. If they have to stay away, they got to stick to it.

Not only parents todays youngsters also suffering from loneliness but when i visit my village in Maharashtra i don't feel loneliness

I was born in a middle class family, my mother died at young age. My dad and my grandmother are the only people who take care of me. When I was 8 years old I was diagnosed with ODD and learning disability. They made me feel guilty about it. I have a lot of anxiety. I stopped bathing for days.They always compare themselves to other kids, it affected me so much that I felt s***idal, they yell at me every d**mn day for not being like the other kids. My dad m**********s and watches p**** in front of me, even though I'm a minor, he doesn't know what privacy means.i solve it by using headphones at full volume and covering myself with a blanket. when my grandmother and my father are not at home. I feel like I didn't do anything wrong, I don't feel guilty like I feel. I want to stay away from them as much as possible so I don't feel guilty. To be honest, I don't know if I'll make it out alive after 4 years. Edit: some thoughts, mohak mangal was born in privileged family, he met his parents expectations. What about those who are born in middle family? I don't think his video reached target audience (judging from the comment section of this video)

I’m childfree by choice … it is sad people have children with the expectation that the children will give them life purpose…

If there are proper job opportunities in Hometown, no one will leave their parents alone. In small cities, people who have completed their post-graduation also get merely a salary of 10k-20k per month that too after crossing so many hurdles, which is too low to carry out monthly expenses.

yes. this is the reason i moved closed to family. and i have realized about this i am 25 now and if i don't spend time with them now i know i will regret this in my life. two days ago me and my brother took our parents to zoo where they for the first time saw tiger and some other animals i have started doing this and will keep in mind going forward in life

we failed as society humanity is no more . Justice for kolkata doctor

On the flip side, a lot of times even though you want to invite them to live with you, it just doesn't work out because they are too stubborn. They come to your house and try to make you change your lifestyle to suit their old mindset. They don't believe in science, trust fake whatsapp news over our informed opinions, and are openly sexist and racist a lot of times. No one wants to ruin their own marriage by indulging such obtrusive parents. They'd rather live alone than compromise on their mindset.

The reason for this is the parents themselves, they destroy their childrens childhood with their toxic and over expecting nature and then the child gets frustated with such idiots and decides not to talk to them, first of all parents need to know their responsibility before blaming the children of this generation

This topic was highly underrated until now. Thanks for a video about this serious issue. I also went abroad to build my future, and I could have lived a very happy life over there, but I always thought of my old parents getting lonely day by day and also noticed their sad faces during video calls, so I came back permanently telling them that I don't like it here anymore because if I would have told them that I'm coming back for them then they would have never allowed me to do that and act like they are very happy. Now I see those smiling faces everyday. I have decided that I would chase my ambitions when they won't be alive, but till then I will never ever make them feel sad or lonely.

Not all parents deserve children.

Message to current generation: Don’t sacrifice everything that you have to kids, save something for yourself. Prepare yourself financially, physically and mentally for life after 40s or 50s. You have given birth to your kids. They dint ask for it. They are also humans who want to achieve something in life. Kids are not investments that will give you benefits later in life. Don’t force your kids to be with you all the time, love should come naturally. Think that you are responsible for your kids until they turn adults and let them handle their life later on. Learn from animals they leave their kids to survive. Spend time with your partner. No one other than partner will stay with you till the end. Just remember this.

Mohak bhai you were born in an privileged business family, you didn't really have to worry about meeting parents expectations!

A few years ago, when I was 25, I lost my mother to a sudden cardiac arrest just outside the hospital. There was nothing our family could do in that moment, and it was a devastating experience. However, I find some solace in knowing that, due to the COVID-19 lockdowns, I was able to spend a lot of quality time with her during her final years. It's natural to have regrets, especially when you're working hard to achieve dreams that you hope to share with your loved ones. But when someone you care deeply about is suddenly taken from you, it can feel like your world is falling apart. This experience has taught me the importance of cherishing every moment with your family, because at the end of the day, they are the ones who matter most-and you are the one who matters most to them. Celebrate every success with them while you can, and never take their presence for granted.

I can say this clearly that Mohak you're the only RU-vidr who raises issues like these. Issues which are underrated or no-one talks about. Thank you so Much.

Everybody other than children to college kids are lonely, also most Indian parents aren't even that good that you wanna stay with them, like in my home, for past 21 years(my whole life), all I've heard from my mom is how my father used to beat her, and from my father how she does not love him, now truth be told i am fed up since 10th class and my first aim in my life is to leave my home, now i am so close to, i will prepare for cat exam and get a good mba college, reservation should help there, once i do get a college i am out and never coming back, now tell me in this condition if my parents are suddenly feeling lonely, is it my fault ?, i dont think so, they should've thought about their future and what they were doing when they were fighting like animals

What I observed in most Indian families is - once parents enter into old age, like mostly after retirement , they think their children are the only reason to live the rest of their life and literally some of them will be waiting for death. This is just Devastating. Even, when parents help themselves, it is considered as disrespecting parents by children in our society. Parents should find some purpose in life other than just their children.Our parents should start looking after themselves and care less about children since we are mature enough to look after ourselves. Parents should get busy in their life by engaging themselves in making new hobbies, maintaining social circle, etc. In this competitive world, it is better not to expect children to always stay with their parents. But now, as we children , its our responsibility to create such an environment for our parents and for their mental health.

Here I promise to never ever leave my parents in a situation where they feel alone or helpless. I promise to never go to bed if I have not talked for atleast 5min with my parents. I promise to always try to understand their problems without them saying it. I promise to try to adjust to maximum on things that i may not like but they think is essential. I promise to always make efforts to make their each day a fairy tale. I want to fulfill all their wishes. Please god give me strength and capability to do so.

Such an important but ignored issue.... good that you covered this Mohak

I have sacrificed USA opportunity for my parents because im only son for them. I never leave them alone Be with your parents always

I haven't even watched the video, and I want to say this right off the bat, that most parents are purely evil. They want to have babies so that they can extract some value out of them, either it's about family heritage, or legacy, or they want somebody to care for them in old age, or they want to live their dreams vicariously through them, etc. There is always something in for them. They all choose to give birth to a soul which would be subject to intense suffering, just so that they can benefit off of them in some or the other way. If you truly want to have a son/daughter, ADOPT. The adopted child will probably be more grateful for your efforts, than your own blood. Don't say that "oh, we did so much for them, but in the end they left us alone". You were the one expecting something in the first place. It's pure BS.

At this moment, kids are more depressed & lonely because of tough world....

Good Job Mohak for highlighting this issue and spreading awareness. Keep it up

Seriously bro... Meri parents ke saath banti hi nhi.... Unko vahi toxic family rivalry ya toxic society ke ishaaro pe chalna pasand aata hai... Aur mereko bilkul bhi nhi... Isliye mein to bolta hi nhi ab unse... 😢❤

This video made me miss my Nana-Nani a lot, they both passed away, Nana in 2011 and Nani in 2015. They were both 97, were farmers and lived in a village. My Nana was a freedom fighter and was imprisoned by the British in the early 20th century, also worked as a criminal investigator and caught an illegal opium smuggling operation. He had to leave school at age 10 and became a child laborer to support his family. But regrettably I only found out about these things after he passed away and never got to hear from him about these experiences. Moreover, my grandparents only spoke Punjabi, whereas I grew up speaking Hindi and did not understand Punjabi well while they were alive. But despite not being able to understand each other, I always knew they loved me, and were always so happy that it brought them to tears when they saw me, because I grew up in the US and hardly got to see them. That unconditional love is something that gives me strength even when things are difficult in life.

Parents are lonely because of their ego and over a small thing they cut off the ties with their children. Otherwise, nobody wants to make their parents feel alone.

Great job Mohak 👏🏻👏🏻for bringing light onto these kind of issues

✅ parents are stuck in their own cages of expectations ❌ parents must take lessons from birds✅

Let us consider a fact that there are still some people who does domestic violence to their children and wife. That child who saw her mother being beaten for silly reasons only has this way to extract his revenge. But tum sabko ye point kaha dikhega "parents is life" wala gyan bhi toh chodna hai.

1.4 Billion people still suffering from loneliness. it shows how much we lost our family culture. Sad.

The most important factor in loneliness for parents I find is that they are not active in their communities. They put all their eggs/ energies in one basket.... The kids This also isolates the kids because the parents become very clingy and have huge expectations from the kids. Ofcourse the changing family/ social structures viz a viz single family, isolation in so called gated communities seems to create distances

Bhaiya maine 2024 mein hei IIT ka 1st attempt diya aur clear nhi ho paya.Aaj mein ghar mein baitha hu mujhe har roj papa tana marte hai ki tu kuch nhi kar payega.Agar mai aaj ghar se bhagkar kuch kaam Karu to phir mammi bhaut lonely feel karegi batao mai kya karu 😭😭 Aur sayad mere jaise India mein bhut se log hai.

Khali haath aye the hum, Khali haath jayenge.. everyone dies alone😢

Thanks, I have been ignoring my mother for so long and from today, she will be my main priority. Thank you for making me realise that ♥️ 🙏

"A parent's love is whole no matter how many times it is divided."

Everybody is not lonely but they are just feeling lonely....❤❤

Loneliness has followed me my whole life,everywhere in bars,in cars,sidewalks,stores,everywhere There's no escape. I am God's lonely man.-Taxi driver

Justice for RG KAR hospital rape & murder case😢

Justice for the Kolkata Doctor

Firstly parents are not ready to leave the place they are leaving and join the city of their children Now u tell me how can a child find their livelihood in small city

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Hello Sir, Please make people aware of the horrible incident that happened in West Bengal, at R G Kar Medical College and hospital, a Female doctor is r@ped and brutally killed in her college seminar room while she taking rest after hectic 36 hour's long duty in medical college. What is more horrible and disheartening that Medical College administration tries to hide it, declaring it as suicide and also try to vandalised the crime scene and rid of evidences, please Sir do check news, and Raise your voice 🙏🙏🙏🙏

My greatest respect to you for creating this video. I am 49 years old and have no children so will not suffer in the same way but we will find a way.

This is such a beautiful and important topic. It's a powerful reminder of how much our parents mean to us and the significance of staying connected. Thank you for bringing this to light. I'd love to see more videos like this that inspire us to cherish and support our loved ones. 🌟🌟🌟

While taking care of parents in their last years might be possible for some boys. But for a majority of Girls, who are the sole child of their parents, it's impossible to take care or even to be with them after marriage. The only thing they can do is Talk on Calls. Sad 💔

We have to accept the fact that many of us don’t spend enough time with our parents and many realise this when they almost em,,…jao abhi hug kar k aoo sabhi ko meto PG me hu so I can’t but if you’re with them…spend time with them brdr. Great video mohak bhaiyaa!

Reason for loneliness is their strange expectation that kids will come and take care of them. Truth is, we are heading towards US lifestyle, where after 18 kids and parents have their own life. Kids building their life already whereas parents are struggling to get it adjusted to this new culture.

You seemed to have provided just one side of the argument. Most of the time parents want it to be like that. They would rather belittle, abuse, manipulate their child to protect their social status. I am a trans woman living away from my parents. And I can tell you everytime I try to talk to them I have an instant regret. They don't see their child as human rather as a trophy for them.

Brought tears to my eyes. I’m just 25 and I’m living from my parents the last seven years .

Aspirants of our country are becoming extremely lonely and dealing with pressure and stress.😢

13:44 senior citizen clubs 18:34 financial independence by saving/investing money 22:03

thankful to you for spreading this knowledge among youth to take care of their elders in their old age. which we have forgotten over time. keep making these videos. thanks to you once again.

I don’t have a father and I live abroad. This video made me realise i should call mom more often, ty

If you are working and also staying with your family then it's the biggest achievement A social circle is very important it will decide the trajectory of life

Kuch log to isliye bhi apne parents se nahi milte,ki kahi wo hamaare aansu naa dekh le. 😢

thanks for changing our perspectives!♥ Nowadays we talk a lot about DEPRESSION, but we often exclude older people and show them as villains. But it was high times, we acknowledge their pain and sorrows too. Maybe they couldn't give you the mental support that you needed. but you can break the trend! you can love them back.

Parents se jada unke bacche jada lonely haaa bro

The way you are taking your example only, its truly commendable. It shows your honesty. Keep it up brother, never change that

I dnt think so...parents are still better. We are more lost, confused, stressed, depressed, anxious. Indian parents can never be lonely they have a joint set up of family

Everything comes down to money. If you have enough money, you won't have to migrate and people also do connect with them who are affluent. But I don't get why Mohak is living in the US when he can do his work from India as well. Either come to India and live with your parents or take them also with you in the US. I don't think money is a problem for his family.

Mere parents to mujhe kamre ka darwaza bhi band nahi karne dete. Pata nahi andar kya kar Raha hoga? 💦😤😊

You are the only person who recognises this problem and makes a video. Thank you

One of the most realistic comment section i have ever seen in a video... Btw I'm quite lucky to have such an understanding parents who r always supportive and encouraging to what ever i want to do in my life... I do understand many children have parents which may be fall in the category of borderline toxic abd 4 them it would have been tough to live it... Pr still thk u mohak for bringing this video and let us know how to solve the issue of loneliness which our parents may face...

Justice for Kolkata female doctor

Money can solve 99% of all problems Still people say money can't buy happiness

Parents ko nahi but mai khud Lonely jaroor hu 🥲

Pls talk about the issue going on in kolkata its really an emergency. We need u to spread awareness

So beautiful coverage...!! Very important that we all must do as a society to bring back - connect, social connection empathy love and togetherness back into our society.

Maybe if parents stop living for societal status and actually listen to children, they won't feel lonely now. They used all their prime years to strangle their children for status in society . Now, once everything is over and no worries for status, they are crying about loneliness. Even now, if a child says lets just live normal with a minimum amount and live happily together they won't accept. They are the reason for loneliness. They keep demanding regardless of their childs wishes.

Request: Please give solution to elders as well from elders perspective, how they handle the situation. Elders have time, they may be able implement and handle it better.

Bro the thumbnail is so relatable my mom daily messages me good morning and good night 😍

I think more than parents, their kids are lonely because they have lived their life but kids life just started. Topmost reason is less money or poverty, Jobless ness, marriage at right age, good life partner selection, work pressure/stress, mental issues, less paying jobs, society pressure(very cruel), have to leave house because of jobs outside etc..😢🥺🥺😔

Really Great Video highlighting the actual issues of our society. Once having the greatest, joliiest cultures, our country now is breaking down in terms of our interpersonal social fabric. Materialistic things like money have taken over our priorities due to conditions prevailing forcing people to relocate which eventually breaks down the personal connections we once possessed. I believe the issue can only be resolved if both youngsters and senior take account of this and proactively increase interactions getting rid of selfish or transactional relationships our country is slowly evolving into.

Very Important topic to make a video when such small insignificant things are happening in west bengal