What do you think about "Perfumetok"? Does it have you or someone you know in a hold? Also, What percent is your phone 🔋on right now? I'm on 88% it's 12:00 a.m. 😭
agree it becoming toxic in these app of overconsumption and the people wonder why they are broke and can't afford daily necessity like food/water/utility bill and so on
Yeah same here. I’m completely obviously to all of these trends until I hear people on RU-vid talking about it. I can honestly say that I’ve never bought a product because I saw it on TikTok or Instagram and some influencer said it was the best thing ever. I really do feel bad for a lot of people because they spend all of that money and then they have nothing of substance to show for it in the end.
I don't think they can see it sadly! And some people know and see it but ignore it. They may feel it won't change anything but it can! You can do alot if you use you head! 💕
Brace for the haircare, nailcare collections next. Heck, prolly eyecare collection after they messed up their eyes scrolling through all the other colections 😅😅
When my mother passed away in 2013, my dad asked me if there was anything of hers that I wanted right away. (I'm my mother's only child and my dad and I were taking care of her through at home hospice when she had cancer.) I grabbed her ONE bottle of perfume so I could spray it on my pillowcase. I still have that one bottle of perfume. When I need my mom, I spray some on a pillowcase or a handkerchief and she's right back with me. ❤❤❤ You can't get that kind of scent memory from 200 bottles of perfume.
I did the same thing with both my mother's and my grandmother's signature fragrances. I've narrowed down to four seasonals for myself, and trying to determine which of them will be my lifetime signature just like they had theirs.
@hillarybergen6214 Yes, I agree with you about scent memory. I own around 197 bottles of perfume and recently I asked my kids which perfume reminds them of me… they said -none 😮 that’s absolutely sad.
When I grew up women looked for their signature scent and then stuck with that scent and was known for that scent not for wearing a different fragrance every day
Yep! Truth! I wore Calvin Klein Obsession for a whole decade before I found a different signature scent. And only because something changed in my chemistry or that fragrance and it wasn’t the same anymore.
I mean you wouldn't wear the same outfit for every occasion, so why wear the same fragrance for every occasion? It's no different to having a range of lipstick to choose from.
I have seasonal scents bc those scents are only sold during a certain time, but usually I just buy that one and use it until it’s all gone. The next time I buy perfume the next seasonal scent is selling lol
I stopped consuming perfumes and perfume content because i came to realise that these influencers ( ie Jackie Aina, Funmi Monet etc) get those perfumes in PR and dont pay anything for them while people compromise their budgets trying to smell wealthy and like old money
Funny actually gives a lot of or back to her followers and she purchases a lot of them in her own. She just did a giveaway where she is purchasing them in her own to give back. Jackie is wealthy because she has her own business selling candles and she also purchases a lot of perfumes on her own and also other products. Do they get PR sure but the ones you are mentioning are black influencers who gets not the amount that other ethnicities get when it comes to PR. Black women can buy perfume on their own they don’t need to get it for free. We have money. If they enjoy collecting they let them be
I don’t get it. When I was younger it was all about having your signature scent. Find the perfect fragrance for you so people would know it’s you just by your scent.
Former perfume junkie here…. Perfume goes bad. It doesn’t smell as good after a period or time. Having 100 is a literal waste of money because you cannot go through them all
Not really, I intentionally bought a new bottle after 5 years just for comparison. To my nose, there was effectively maybe 5% difference. The very opening was very slightly different, and only if I quickly went back and forth. The dry down was identical. The longevity had a 1 hour difference (old bottle longer), but that's dependent on spray amount, which is hard to control by hand. I have 7 year old Aventus decants that outperform new batches, probably due to reformulation. There are Creed bottles from the 90s being sold, and if they somehow went bad, I doubt people would be buying them. Overall, I think the "perfume expires" thing is a bit overblown considering just how pure and concentrated the scent molecules are. The bottles are literally airtight, the liquid has anti-oxidants and stabilizers, and the lab refined oil absolutes have no contaminants. Perfume is also literally at minimum a 70% alcohol solution, so nothing grows in there. The only reason it would go bad is direct sunlight or high humidity when spraying. In that situation, you're decomposing the scent molecules with UV light and diluting the perfume with moist air.
@@BillyTimes-dw7vs what do you consider high end? Because all of my perfume is expensive. I’ve had Kilian, YSL, Lancôme and the likes go bad. Once opened, perfume does not last forever. When I say I was a former perfume junkie, I meant nice perfumes….not Victoria’s Secret. If you buy a high end perfume brand, open it, and smell it one year later, it does NOT smell the same.
New and cheaper ones o goes bad. Old lux last decades. Just used my mom's Givenchy dragon cream from 90s, still good strong scent and stable. Saw online going for 300
@@Justcetriyaart I have a $300 Kilian perfume….if opened, it will not smell the same in 2 years. You can smell your mom’s 30 year old perfume compared to a new bottle….its not the same. This is literally science at this point
I stopped taking influencers seriously when this one lady was complaining about how poor she is and how difficult it is to afford to feed her dog and when yt comments told her she always has fancy nails and maybe she should use that manicure $ for dog food instead of begging for donations she said, “I need to get my nails done every week for yall! Yall don’t understand being an influencer and how I have to change my nails so they don’t look the same in every video to keep engagement”. She used her supporters to justify her fiscal irresponsibility (she could buy Polish from the dollar tree and paint them a different color at home or buy press on’s for
I've always had short nails for typing and guitar playing, but my friends would get theirs done every week. So one time I said okay, I'll get my nails done with y'all! 💅🏻 Imagine my surprise when the lady rung me up and it was forty dollars!! For the simplest mani they offered! They were paying that every week! I'll stick with my clean short nails.
The whole beauty World is like...wasting money on shaving, haircare, skincare, makeup, lashes, nails, etc etc...can we unlearn all this bs? I mean its okay to have just our basics.
This reminds me of a fragrance RU-vidr who passed away a few years ago. He had an HUGE collection, like thousands and thousands of dollars worth. When he passed away, his family had to do a GoFundMe for his funeral costs, because he had no life insurance and no savings. It's really sad.
@@theladynextdoor313I wonder how much the perfumes were worth in monetary terms though. I don't know much about perfumes but I assume once you've opened and used them the value will drop significantly?
@@theladynextdoor313 It could be even more pathetic, had the family made a estate sale but everything he hoarded and spent so much money on, got so devalued, that it wouldn't cover the funeral ☹
I appreciate the person who asked about the difference between collecting and hoarding. Hobbies are fine, collections are fine. But they've turned into focusing on JUST the buying and flaunting of items, rather than actually using/appreciating them and connecting with others in the community.
A “collector” means you are into finding items that are unique and difficult to find. So anyone saying they’re a collector of something that’s easily available to the masses and on everyone and their moms insta…well that’s just a shopping problem
Exactly! I want to appreciate every item in my "collection" and wear it lovingly, not hoard them and buy every perfume that is trending on social media!
@@adriennethiery5432sorry, this isn't true at all. Anyone can "collect" whatever they want. People collect rocks. 🤷♀️ There is no criteria for collecting things.
I used to hoard perfumes, makeup & self care products. I saw it as a collection, but in reality it was a hoard. When moving I couldn't believe how much I really had. Along with everything else I "collected". Now that I'm older I realize I was just buying a feeling. It's true that fragrances can change your mood, but so can being broke. Struggling to get finances back to normal is not worth a temporary high.
Same, I was looking through Sephora App in the perfume section and then going to the Macy’s website to see if they have the 15% off perfume any size 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ Later today I went to Tjmaxx to see if they had this perfume I wanted, knowing the original prize at Sephora is $110 (3.4 oz ) and at Tjmaxx is at 48.99. The good thing i didn’t buy because i didn’t bring enough money. 😅😂😂
I fell into fragTok at the start of the pandemic but I never really fell out. I mainly buy samples though, but I do need to stop following the hype train on some of these fragrances. Almost every time I've been influenced by a trendy fragrance, it did not work on my body chemistry 😢. I will work up more stamina to distinguish between needs and wants. We can do this! 💪🏽
So I’ve been into perfume my whole life.. In the past years I really got into collecting and had a huge “collection”.Until I woke up one day a few months ago and realized I spent hundreds on bottles to only spray them ONCE!!! Like they were literally collecting dust because I bought them to feel “better” in the moment, until I realized I was doing it because I was really depressed and the temporary pleasure I used to initially get only lasted so long. It was literally hoarding which is *A mental health issue*. Overconsumption is literally hoarding in my opinion, with the justification that you have a “collection”
This was already a problem on RU-vid before Tiktok came around but now this type of consumerism has exploded. The extreme push for "niche quality" fragrances right now is crazy and these prices now are insane.
The niche thing really caught me, I bought Toskovat's Inexcusable Evil because the notes and the reviews were so bizarre. Now I have a 60 ml expensive bottle of Inexcusable Unusable.
Right. RU-vid used to be really bad with the overconsumption. I couldn't escape the perfume content and clothing hauls. Now it just spread out into other social media platforms.
Which is silly because niche isn't a particular price point, it just means a less well-known brand - like a lot of Middle Eastern perfume oil brands are both niche and inexpensive.
In the movie “Parasite” there is a recurring motif on smell. The two families are identified on the basis of how they smell. The poor families due to their environment and the eventual flooding of their home, develop a “bad” smell and the rich family calls them out on that . The obsession with how people smell is to me very tightly tied to social anxiety. Smelling “rich“, “clean”, or any fragrance theme can be associated with an effort to distance oneself from low social economic standing and sending signals of success and higher economic standing.
I was one of the ones who fell into this deep hole!!!. I have always been into perfume but very responsible. When i realized what was happening to me I unsubscribed from all these perfume channels.And i watch your channel to keep me on the straight and narrow😂
It is okay...I am no different than anyone else because I too was in too deep with natural hair care products and it was BAD! I know the feelings of buying way too much and being unsatisfied and spending too do it. Though I could afford it, so much money I wasted for products that EXPIRED before I could even use them. That's why I want to help people with similar issues. I'm glad you unsubbed those channels and took control of the situation! I feel so blessed to be able to help in anyway and thankful to have your support! 💕💕💕💕
@@inigoimagoThank you! i am so proud of you too. The sad part is staying in it for too long. Luckily we realised and recognized that it was a huge problem. And i believe we can only go up from here. No matter if it is slow progress. As long as it is in the right direction. Whitch is up and out!!!💕
@@rosa7302 And it feels so different watching those kind of videos after you've realized the deception. Than suddenly all of them seems so vain and sad!! 💕
Collecting things in general is a slippery slope. I started out collecting coins, shells, and rocks as a kid but now I love shoes and bags. I had to learn how to limit myself because overconsumption is no joke.
You sound like me! I to used to collect stuff like shot glasses for states we travel to or stamps, coins, stickers, dolls.. now I’m on eyeshadows and makeup 😅
The way she explained her justification system.. that was me when i was heavy into my shopping addiction. Now, i have about 10 perfumes. I will use them up or give them away before buying ANY new fragrance. Did that guy say super small collection???? 🤣
I'm glad you have it under control now! I have a thing with natural hair care at one point so I get it. But I was still OVERCONSUMING way too much and it was a problem. and yes he did! SMALL WHERE! 🧐 😂
Girl same one of my perfume is like $100 and I have 12-13 perfumes that are nowhere close to being finished. I overestimated how much perfume I could use up and now I need to finish all of them which might take 2 years to finish them off
This video spoke to me. I loved perfumes since I was a little girl, but when my parents got divorced money was tight and as a teenager I couldn't buy them. I eventually was able to buy designer perfumes once I started working, I had this idea to buy all the designer perfumes I've dreamed of, but I get tired of smelling the same scent every day, in 2018 I had 10 perfumes, in 2023 I had at least 250. I won't lie, fragance tube got to me 😅I've tried decluttering by selling and gifting, unfortunately I still bought more perfumes and now I have 200 again 😢 maybe more😣. I don't display my perfumes because I feel ashamed, every day I fight myself not to give in, so many blind buys disasters 😢 Only my husband knows how extensive my collection is but, I dare not tell him, how many bottles I actually have, what a waste. My sisters collections grew because of my addiction, and I think they're tired of receiving perfumes. I'm not trying to smell rich or make someone fall in love or something like that, hell I even feel some type of way when people compliment my perfume, because I feel is so personal... I need help 😔
I have a little basket in my room. My rule is that i can only collect as much perfume, as long as it fits in the basket. It can hold about 4 victoria secret perfumes, so i need to be picky when choosing perfume. This has helped me be more careful with my money. The same goes for makeup and skincare.
I have done the same with my Wardrobe. It is 2 door wooden. And I deliberately got this shabby chic design, so I can only have what fits inside it. Or I have to give some away, before I can get more. And I have a basket from some shower products. And I have stored that inside my Wardrobe too, with perfumes, shower things. I have plenty already. I never even wear make up daily, so forget needing anymore. With perfumes I buy good dupes or I can get tiny handbag ones at 10ml if I want a treat. At least I will use it that way. They go off way too fast anyway, I don't like to spend full bottle money and I can have variety too 😂
Buying perfumes that other people recommend is pointless. Everyone has a unique body chemistry that will make each perfume smell different. Always go out and test/sample a scent on your skin before purchasing if you can.
I have one perfume, my signature scent, and I buy a new one when I run out. I don't care that people are ruining their finances as much as I do about our environment. So much waste and plastic.
Same! I usually have 2 at the most. A bergamot mix smell for fall/winter and a Burberry fruity perfume for spring/summer. I don't replace until I run out or until it smells not good anymore. I'll just wear antiperspirant and deodorant if ik I'll be in close quarters with ppl
Same! I have my signature perfume which is a pricey one to begin with, that is the only one I buy and wear on special occasions or nights out. And then I have my favourite body spray that I wear to work and go grocery shopping! And honestly.. I don’t know how people like so many fragrances, maybe I’m just very particular lol
@@erins928 I agree, I find it really hard to find a scent I like! I've gone in store and tested out perfumes to find a new signature scent because I wanted a change, and most of them do not smell good to me.
I thought I was the only one. I only own one perfume (currently Miss Dior) for all occasions. I’ll stick with one I love until I’m bored then will switch it in the future but always just one
From not knowing what debt means to £4000 in credit card debt. This is where I’ve ended up due to my obsession with perfume. To me the issue is not the influencers though, it is an outlet for my depression and the things I miss in my personal life. It started with skincare and went through hair care to finish with fragrance. And the worst part is I can’t control it and I don’t know where to find help for it, it is just spiralling down, steady but surely.
you can spend that money on time with friends, picknick in the park,going to the movies ,swimming ,pilates, maybe a trip to the theme park once in a while, volunteer somewhere(if your friends are not autgoing go to pilates and the gym to make new ones)
I dug myself out of $10k in debt, of which a large chunk came from cosmetic and skincare purchases, for similar reasons. I’m glad that you’ve recognized this problem as that’s the first step for choosing a different path. To start, I would recommend seeking out Hannah Louise Poston’s early videos on her no buys and getting out of debt, in addition to seeking out mental health support to help address the core issues. You are so much stronger than you might think you are and you can get yourself past your current situation.
I've gotten to the age (45) where older perfumes from my childhood and twenties are precious for the nostalgia. I was broke then, so everything I wore was affordable. It's nice to be able to love an older scent and not care what others think.
young but getting older fragrances (britney, pink sugar, juicy) idk these old fragrances are just so good to me plus they are easily found at discount stores
Estee Lauder Youth Dew is what a few of the couple-generation-back women in my family wore. It's still around! Maybe when I've hit 50 or so I'll try it. Or not. I don't even think I liked it that much, but the memories of the smell and the bottle and the cute bow really are comforting.
Addiction is one hell of a drug I thought just like you until I got addicted to buying perfume at the start of the pandemic. Luckily now I'm over it but back then I had so much perfume it was becoming scary.
Yes it really does unless you wear it everyday and that's your only fragrance. But some fragrances are not appropriate for everyday or to wear to work so it can take years to use up.
It also seems like some people like the sense of having "a lot". Like people with closets full of clothes and shoes and cabinets full of half used products. It's low key hoarding.
@@harrisindustries314High-key hoarding 🙃. I like switching up fragrances a lot though… and that is why I buy sample sets. I have two go-tos, that I’ll pay the EDP price for, but of course those last forever. Samples, people, samples.
I started a perfume channel a few years ago and at one point had 60+ fragrances. I eventually felt burdened by them. When a huge life event happened I decluttered my entire collection and now have 2-3 at any given time and when a bottle runs out I purchase a new one. I originally got into fragrance looking for that perfect signature scent, but the youtube fragrance community made it all look so appealing. I now only follow a handful of ladies to support their channels, but I have no intentions of building up a large fragrance collection ever again.
@@robinblack7883 I held on to my top 8 favorites and slowly wore through those. I gave away about 10 affordable ones to a teenage neighbor girl down the street and I sold the majority of them on Mercari. I actually turned a profit on two that had recently been discontinued. Now I have three affordable fragrances that I really love and occasionally buy a travel spray to see if I even like it enough.
@@sooyunkim9799 thank you! That’s so kind! I’m doing well, just trying to find a new normal! I’ve recently started a new job and am going back to school. I’m thinking I might start my channel up again, but the content will be very different now that I don’t have nearly as many fragrances 😂
I had a similar experience. Started a TikTok acc on perfumes and omg, when I think about all the money I spent on perfumes I didn’t even like that much (would lie to myself often to justify the high of a new purchase) I could cry 😅 Kept only five full bottles and I still have so many decants to go through.
Honestly this was a hard watch for me, because I saw myself in it. I love love LOVE perfumes, and like the idea of having a scent for each memory I make, so my collection grew and grew. Now, I’ve stopped myself from buying for about 3 months, as I’ve spent around $3k on perfumes in the past year and have just under 40 full bottles (50 bottles with travel sizes included). Overconsumption is real but you can escape ❤
As a recovering perfume addict, this was a good and necessary watch for me. I'm not nearly to the point of having shelves of perfume but I reached a point to where I started feeling guilty about my purchases. I certainly don't put myself in the red for my addiction, but knowing I already own more perfume than I need for years... Helps put it into perspective. Thank you for posting anti-consumption content and bringing a realistic mindset on buying things to just buy things.
My mom has a shopping addiction. I think she has gotten a little better over the past few years, but at one point it was really bad. To the point that she stop paying our car insurance, but she literally had a box full of tags from this one particular store. We ended up finding out about her not paying the car insurance because my dad got into a car accident and he was at fault…so needless to say she put us in a bit of a financial pickle. She also opened a credit card in my name when I turned 18 and said that she was trying to help me build my credit, but she ended up racking a $5000 bill that she has yet to pay off. She missed a payment this past October and dropped my score from a 730 to a 580. I’ve had my issues when it comes to finances, but now that I’m approaching 30 I’ve realized that this is something that I need to take seriously. And more importantly I don’t want to be like my mom and make those same mistakes. My credit is slowly but surely getting back to where it was, but that’s because I pay my own credit card off every month. And I have a decent emergency fund as well. I make more money now, but I really don’t like spending it, which is a good way to be.
I highly recommend you freeze your credit (with the top 3 credit bureaus). So the only one opening things in your name from now on is you. It's a pain having to unfreeze your credit every time you want to open up something new but when you have close family that have impulse control issues its a way to preserve yourself and the relation ship. Also I would see if the credit card she does have in your name can be closed down so it can only be paid off and no new charges be added.
@@af7959how long ago was the most recent activity on the credit card your Mom opened? You may be able to age out that debt by just ignoring it and then get it removed from your credit report 7 years after the last activity
Your credit score will govern your entire life . What was done to you is fraud. I’ve been there … you need to press charges or you will never have a credit score to ever rent an apartment, get a credit card or loan . Under 650 is pretty hard to live
As a person that is recovering from overconsumption of fast fashion/body care this is true.. Working hard for my money yet spending so much of it on products I barely even use it’s overwhelming and I became depressed because it didn’t really make me happy and my living environment became compacted with things.. This year I just went on a no buy and paying off what I owe and reselling online just to get rid of things.. Yeah I had to delete all social media platforms except RU-vid
I gave away a lot of perfumes. It was hard at first. I told myself I don't need so many. The ladies I gave them to were so grateful😊. Good for you for doing what is best for you. You are not alone❤
Honestly if you have a budget where 4-5% goes into fun money and you decide to spend it on perfume. I get it. I don’t agree with it, but I get it. But getting into consumer debt and neglecting saving for your future for perfumes is the problem.
I personally am a victim of overconsumption as well and am trying my best to avoid people like this. Social media is full of ads and marketing making you think you need something when you really don’t.
Me too! I don't know what it was but the last year I've been bordering on OBSESSION levels on perfumes. I'm not on Tik Tok but I've been on social media subs. It's definitely enabled my addiction.
I used to love scented candles and I could treat myself to one every now and then but the prices have gone up so much that I've even stopped watching videos about them :( it's heartbreaking to watch people use stuff you dream of buying. That's torture tbh
maybe you can invest in a diy set/tools and make your own scented candles & by that you’ll have candles, a new hobby and some nice personal gifts to gift :)
This year I bought two big candles from bath and body works on the semiannual sale they were 60 and 75 % off. I will never buy full price and I refuse to buy more than 3 big ones. They last a few months so I bought one tropical for summer and one for fall/winter. But I don't want this to become another addiction ( I have like 20 body mist) so I set some limits.
Well, if you approach perfumery in the academic and artistic fashion, it can be called a hobby. You study chemistry and modern technologies, you learn about ways of extracting fragrant substances, you do simple mixes at home, you keep diaries about your collection and you learn about different genres, history of perfumes from different countries... There is a lot to learn and to do yourself. But most people do treat perfumes like photography - the more expensive device the better. At the same time these people ignore any basic scientific stuff and keep promoting myths and marketing lies, like the temperature of skin, the duration of the smell etc.
*Buying* perfume is indeed not a hobby but *experiencing* perfume can be. I consider perfume a hobby; it is a form of art, like painting or music, just in an olfactory medium. I buy a lot of samples and decants because I love getting to know a new scent and trying to understand the note composition, the vision and the artistry behind it... but I only own 3 bottles. Perfume as a hobby, like any other hobby, only becomes a problem when you are solely focused on and taking pleasure in acquiring new stuff and not in actually using/experiencing it.
@@d3adbysunrise rampant and gross consumerism isn’t a hobby. It’s more like a mental illness wherein people who have no real hobbies think spending money makes them interesting. There’s no skill in buying liquid in jars. Do you think alcoholics have a hobby too when they go the liquor store? Ahahahhaha
This video just came right in time! I swear I'm on a perfume buying frenzy phase lately after being on a no-buy for almost a year. It's a never ending vicious cycle and I thought I was over this obsession but here we are again. I need to block all these influencers on YT and TikTok, and stop reading all the reviews for hours on Fragrantica.
So grateful for channels like yours. The hyperconsumerism pushed to us online is wild. I fell into the trap in my 20s. Now I'm in my 30s, and I cringe at the amount of money I spent. Now I'm in such a better place. Hoping the same from these people.
Ouch, I feel attacked, lol! Seriously though, no lies were told. I remember growing up my mom wore the same three perfumes. Right now I think I am closing in on having 100. I'm afraid to count how many I have. I'm weaning myself off of purchasing new ones because I know there is no way I will ever finish them all. I'm also slowly decluttering. I do have savings and retirement but an unnecessary purchase is still a waste of money.
Apply some fragrance before you go to bed . . . you will enjoy smelling it, and therefore get more use out of your collection. If you have any young girls or women in your life, select some of your perfumes and let them choose one. I have loved fragrance since I was a very young girl. We were a poor family, so any fragrance was a big deal.
I’m a victim of this addiction! This is so true i wasn’t even paying attention to my spending, to the point when I did my bank account wasn’t looking so good! This addiction makes me happy but not when I’m broke, is like drug addiction. I suffer from depression and this hobby brought me joy and excitement something i haven’t felt in years! But this video is making see what I’m doing! And I’m not the only one, do I like being broke? Hell no! In less than 1 year I bought 146 bottles of perfume! I get it all set up in a beautiful display that helps me relax when I look at it, middle eastern perfumes are so affordable that i think it made my addiction worse! But I think is time for me to take a Deep breath and get myself under control! Maybe get 1 bottle a month instead of 8 😂 this was a good video thank you! And yes watching these influencers doesn’t help at all! Or the fb fragrance addicts pages. I need to take a break from that too.
FOMO and consumption has the public in a chokehold. I see videos all the time about everyone being broke while simultaneously seeing thousands of videos saying “You should buy this!” How sway?! 🤔
Honestly as someone who is trying to end me shopping problem your channel has helped a lot. I also found out I have a perfume problem I could purchase 2 perfumes in about 1-3 months, then be looking for a new craving
Thank you for sharing your experience! It means a lot to know that my content is making a positive impact. 💕💕💕 I really hope you are able to get it under control. YOU CAN DO IT!
I used to have the same problem with makeup. Even the RU-vidr that recommend the product said "listen guys, normal people don't have this many makeup in their house. One or two bottles of foundation is enough and you don't need all the colors under the sun for lipstick or eyeshadow. Just buy what you need or when you run out." It was wise to say but hard to follow 😂😂😂 but eventually I managed to stop buying things that I don't need and hoarding unnecessary things. But it did takes time 😊
As someone who got into fragrance a few years ago, some tips that I wish I knew sooner: 1) You really REALLY don't need more than 3,4 bottles. And even thats a lot. 2) Buy smaller bottles, especially if you want more than one perfume. I bought one big bottle from a perfume I love, and even though I use it regularly, I still have to throw it away because the smell turned rancid after 2 years. 3) You really don't need more than one "Special occasion perfume". You will not use it as often as you think because for most of your events, it will be too loud. After not even reaching half of the bottle, you will throw it away because it turned rancid. If you want more variety, maybe get 2 different everyday scents. 4) get samples before you buy the full size bottle. 5) You don't need a 300$ MFK Amyris femme bottle. You don't need any other perfume that costs 200, 300, 400 bucks. If you happened to like it and are able to afford it, good for you. But you can get a good scent with a lot of variety starting from around 40, 50 bucks. 6) Delete tiktok. 😂
Just enjoy the scent and buy a perfume you are going to enjoy next months. There's no problem if you have 5-10 bottles or even more. If you use perfumes intensively, you will run out of 3 bottles in a year. Perfumes don't expire so early, they need about 5 years to expire. There's no "special occasion" perfume, everyday is a special day. If you have too much perfumes you can give them away to your friends and relatives, colleagues or to go on a platform for perfume lovers so there's no problem at all. Of course buying perfumes is impractical, but if this is what makes you happy stop being worried and care about others. Just don't go into debts and don't save money for buying perfumes on something really important
@@ТамараКурицеваthis is factually incorrect. Many, many perfumes expire after much less than 5 years. Also synthetic fragrance is known to be an endocrine disrupter. 5-10 bottles of perfume are likely not doing good things for your health .
@@katie8325 in our world we always have to deal with chemicals and other synthetic stuff - washing liquids, cosmetics, shampoos and so on and so forth. Could you show me a scientific research that proves having 5 bottles of fragrance causes health issues with endocrine system?
@@ТамараКурицеваwomen's hormones and ph are usually disrupted by scented products. I use unscented body wash and perfume from dish washing soap. I developed a cyst on an ovary from scented body washes. I use perfume but I only spray it on my clothes. Not on my skin anymore. Take care❤
I have 6 perfumes and even that often seems too much for me. I just recently finished a 30ml bottle and realized it was probably the first bottle I actually used all the way up in like a decade. there are a couple I have my eyes on that I smelled and liked but I'll wait until I finish something before getting another one
Growing up frugal has blessed me. I wanted to venture into the perfume scene, once. I heard so much about Arabian perfumes and was like, huh I want that. I saw the price and immediately decided the hobby was NOT for me.
Never again will i judge someone for being unable to control their spending. I can only hope they honeslty do their best to get it under control. I fell into the perfume trap 6 months ago and have been trying to hone it in. Im glad i spot the problem and deal with it when its still a relatively small problem, but it has been so alarming to me because ive never done this retail therapy with my money before.
This is why i got into Arabian perfumes, smell good as hell and get a bang for your buck, I’ve slowed down on the overconsumption by making myself use the new scents I got to completion, unless I absolutely hate it then I just give it away to a friend, and I never pay more than 40 bucks for a new bottle.
Hi Symone, thanks for an another video. Another thing is perfume goes rancid overtime so all these influencers showing their walls of perfume...idk. I guess they get it some or a lot of of it free / PR. I usually only purchase/refill after my default perfume has run out. Skin care would be good one to cover next because the skin care cult is on another level.
You are so welcome! And yes they do go bad overtime! The influencers can get enough "new" ones to make a whole separate collection when theirs go bad lol. I kinds covered skincare in my "self-care" video I did last week but a separate one for it alone may not be a bad idea. Thank you! 💕💕💕💕
I am so glad more people are talking about the dangers of consumerist hobbies. Luxury online communities get so defensive when viewers question the ethics around normalizing and encouraging overconsumption and overspending. The best thing people can do if they're caught up in the addiction of spending is to start unfollowing and blocking this content. I say that as someone who loves perfume and luxury goods but I've set a firm limit for myself.
My friend who works in the cosmetics industry say perfumes rack up the highest margins because it’s so cheap to make them. Think about that again before dropping $$$ on perfume
Oh, definitely- perfumes are my weakness and have been for years. I had to unfollow all of the fragrance channels because I kept buying. Now I stick with a well-rounded collection of just a few that I will gatekeep until the end of time so that they don't become poplar and sell out.
I think the #1 theme in all this is that people need to start seeing influencer BS for what it is, something that doesn't make sense in the real world. People need to stop looking to these people as something to aspire to, or something that's even remotely typical. We live in difficult times, financially, and that's all the more reason to have some self-restraint. Also, perfume is *not* an actual hobby, neither is shopping. I think that people who lack a real hobby tend to fall into this trap, and it sadly leaves them with no money to put towards a real hobby that could actually be affordable to them (or at least more so than compulsive shopping).
I would add it's not fully BS. For a lot of content creators their fundamental relation with consumption is totally different, from why they buy to the resulting outcome of their purchases. That lack of disclosure though isn't healthy. Never try to out consume an influencer who's job is literally to consume
Of course perfumery is a real hobby, but as with any hobby capitalism will trick most people into endlessly buying supplies instead of exerting your creativity
@@goldmarie5918I'm proud of my army of 30+ perfumes 😅, none of them full price all of them full size. And living in a perfume crazy country, there's always someone who's all too willing to take perfumes as gifts.
i have nearly 30 fragrances and i would actually be a bit embarrassed to tell someone i dont know well that i have that many. even tho i genuinely love almost all of them i know it will take me so long to finish a 100ml bottle that getting more will make it overwhelming. hopefully i manage to not buy more than one more until the end of the year. overconsumption isnt a flex its a sign of mental illness.
I go for dupes and companies that sell miniatures of the originals but I am in the process of downsizing my collection and my spending in general. My obsession with smelling good is trauma based- I lived with a step parent in my formative teenage years (she did not allow me to shower in the morning )and I had to go to school with body odour and decades later I am still fighting the effects of that .I have made a financial savings goal and its helping a lot.
@@aesinam I have gotten therapy but was not able to previously fully commit to downsizing my life.I have had about 6 months of getting rid of stuff in cycles. I need another 6 but its going well so far and I am optimistic about reaching my goals.
Good timing! I needed a reminder to be sensible with this new hobby. I’m mostly just ordering samples and decants, having fun exploring and learning about this art form. At this point in my life, I can afford to buy most of what I might want, but I don’t want to end up with a bunch of bottles taking up space and not getting used. Better to have a small curated collection I really love and use. It’s fun to just hit the stores and get different tester strips to bring home to familiarize myself with and learn what I like and don’t. My family is enjoying it too. But I can see how people can get carried away. Gotta be aware and be careful not to let that happen. Great video! Very well done and helpful.
Perfume TikToker and RU-vid perfume influencers with 100s of full bottles…😮 it’s bananas. It’s an expensive hobby and there’s no way you’ll be able to use all of it. I’ve definitely gotten way too many samples by wanting to experiment with the smells.
This is one of the most reasonable and common sense and important videos I’ve seen in a long time. I think a lot of people need to hear this, I know I did. Thank you for being the voice of reason 🙏
Yup. I’ve amassed 150 perfumes all worth between 250- 550 bucks. It’s ridiculous and im over it. Between the anxiety I get trying to choose what to wear every day, and the huuuuge dent in my bank account that could be going to vacations/traveling or more important stuff…I’m ready to downsize my collection. I would like to get to a comfy number of maybe 20. There is also something special about having a signature scent and not smelling different every single day
Same situation. At the end of the day I am really only drawn to 25-30 bottles (my top scents) and force myself to use the others because I spent the money on them. If I had more control, I could still participate and buy samples and decants and fit it into a small budget, but I would always give into to my cravings for the full bottles. I’m putting a pause on this spending…
I only own two “full size” fragrances, one I bought last year and the other is almost FIVE YEARS OLD. I still haven’t used up the entire bottles. Any other perfume I have is in travel sizes because I found that it’s cheaper and I’m more likely to use it all up rather than have a full bottle sit on my desk for YEARS
Seriously, everyone, what fuels these obsessions? I've discovered that the only effective remedy is quitting abruptly; setting limits just doesn't cut it. By stepping back, you gain clarity and recognize it for the madness it truly is. As time passes without engaging, the desire diminishes.
Yep. When i say influencers are pushing consumerism hoardering overconsumption to a concerning level... its crazy. Between the skincare influencers, hair product junkies, perfume enthusiasts, the restock culture, the aesthetic culture. I am desperately trying to deinfluence myself, get what I need and tell myself that expensive does not necessarily mean better. The perfume obsession is concerning. I finally splurged and bought a bottle of kayali perfume in December and i still have just about quarter left. So im literally wondering how do people get through hundreds of bottles. Perfume still does expire. And us the consumers are the ones that are being sold a lifestyle that we should have every perfume because "it smells so good". Natural hair youtubers had me in a chokehold buying a gazillion hair products and my hair still ended up being damaged and all. Skincare influencers had me where my skin was going through it badly. Since tuning off these peoole. My hair is thriving my skin is thriving. I know influencers have to make a living but these people are unrealistic. They are not relatable. They sell a mirage where we actually run ourselves broke and in debt and they mask it by saying its self care and we deserve nice things
@SocialSymone My thought mentally ever since I had my first bank account was, "Do you really need it?" I tell myself when I do fancy to splurge on myself. I've never been a serious lover of perfumes, but I do have the odd one or two. I only buy if it's on sale, to be honest, I've never been interested in wearing makeup and nor do I buy makeup. Only cocobutter and other skin moisturisers are all I need to put on my face. I love splurging on my hair and nails, though.
A Clinic Psychologist here. The lady on minute 5:50 needs profesional help. What I see is a problem with spending money and lack of self control ,which combined is the perfect recipe to oniomania (compulsive spending) , the perfume is just the top of the iceberg.
Omg This validates me so much 😭 I work at a hospital gift shop and we have a whole wall of perfume . We have a system that can take the hospital employees pay out and spread it across a max of 3 pay checks . RN, Janitors, MD almost every person will come and buy and spread it across 3 paychecks and some are so addicted when they try to buy more it actually denies the payroll because they are spending more then there paycheck is worth 😶 Everyweek I'm like yall are crazy and they act like im the weird one 😅
@@dust798 Thank you so much for the donation ❤ and I am taken back by this system! They are buying perfume from the hospital gift shop???? I need more details cause I was like no way 😂 YOU ARE NOT CRAZY!
I really appreciate your content! I’m watching this video and looking up at my perfume collection 😬 Sadly I fell into this trend BUT I haven’t purchased any in over a year and my collection is no where near the ones featured in this video! Keep schooling us🤦🏽♀️!
As a fragrance content creator, this was a great video ❤ I can only speak for myself when I say this. I do have a large collection and I love talking about fragrances. I love reviewing fragrances. It is a hobby but I also have a job and small business that I tend to outside of RU-vid and social media there are plenty of fragrances I do not have I have some designer perfumes but the majority of my collection is Bath & Body Works, Victoria's Secret more affordable fragrances. I purchase 95% of my collection I have received fragrances from three small businesses but it was just to review with my honest opinion but I purchase everything myself Also, every year in October when my church has a carnival I donate a lot of products for prizes to win. I also like to have gifts available on hand and I have nieces and my mom that I will give to if they ask for something. Some people might buy what they can't afford but I make sure all the bills are paid mandatory things, rent, food, gas, etc. At times I can't spend on my hobby and I'm fine with that. I really just enjoy fragrances. It does make me happy and I love the community. I don't persuade people to buy them. I just love talking about them and reviewing them This year I have been purchasing from a ton of small businesses and not what's popular But this was a great video. Thank you for sharing!❤️
Just started this video but I already know I needed this reality check. I finally splurged on a perfume I have been wanting for years. I've barely put a dent in it but I've been browsing other perfumes lately. Now, I'm telling myself one is enough.
You know what, thank you for being the message i need to hear, i’ve been collecting fragrances since i was 13 years old, i cannot deny it anymore i collect fragrances mostly for the compliments … i want when people ask me what im wearing i can say “Oh it’s Chanel”, it does something to add my confidence level even knowing well that i am legitimately broke, im in debt and now i just sold my house to pay all of my debt, please pray for me ya’ll so that after this i could truly manage my own finance 🙏, God has given me a 2nd chance and i hope i can do good, perfume addiction is really hard to explain, sometimes you just gotta be stern with yourself and strict with the amount of spendings … consider being broke but looking and smelling good is actually ugly … i seriously needed this thank you 🙏 🙏🙏
I got into perfume more during the pandemic and have been downsizing using up my collection since. I was grieving the loss of multiple family members and caregiving at the time and was trying to fill that void 😩. I paid the debt off (buy now pay later apps) and started grief counseling. Now I buy samples and just restock my signature scents for full bottles 😅.
this is why i love Jeremy Fragrance at his peak. he showed us his curated picks for particular needs, styles, occasions, climate or budget. I learnt a lot about what perfume to wear and what parfume to buy in a curated manner.
I've caught myself watching these videos and wanting to buy the fragrances these people show just to have them but i found that setting myself boundaries really helps to not over consume. For example: A spending limit of 100 bucks per fragrance. So no matter how much i want the perfume, i won't get it if it's more expensive than that. IF i really want it, i'll ask for it as a birthday present. I also found that having a little organizer / display thingy helps because that way i'll only buy as many as fit on it. Mine fits exactly 12 bottles so until i finished a bottle and made room for a new one, i won't buy anymore. Lastly, no blind buying. No matter how cheap the fragrance is or how many people recommend it, i won't buy it unless i've tested it on myself.
Overconsumption is a problem not just for broke people but also the wealthy. Especially for the wealthy. Rich people are the biggest consumers who are actually destroying this planet.
I read a comment(on a similar video) saying that many influencers return the fragrances. Some were returning $400 worth of products EVERY MONTH and had to be banned from the stores!
I audibly gasped at 7:02.Thank you so much for making these videos. I recently took an Environmental Biology class and learned about waste and overconsumption. Your videos have so much insight and motivation.
Thanks for sharing!! All of this is so true and emotional shopping is awful. People will only get that dopamine for a few minutes. I wish people had something that would feed and fill their soul other than THINGS. ✌🏾💜
@SocialSymone Glad to be here!! 😄 It doesn't end unless we end it for ourselves. Neither the companies nor our own government cares about the mental manipulations and people crashing and burning. 🫤
@@SocialSymoneWhy buy a $150 perfume when I can buy 10 perfumes aka BODY SPRAY FOR $4.5-$8 😂 also I rather gift one of my sister in laws in Mexico a $8 body spray then a $300 Nike Jordan’s or a $80 Nike tennis shoes period 😂
me being a perfume collector and perfume influencer on social media and still agreeing with everything you said in this video. you're right, there's no reason for me to be purchasing the full bottle every time. there's nothing wrong with mini bottles/travel sizes, especially in this economy! and it is an emotional thing for us creators too, because sometimes we get insecure our audience will find our collection small or get bored if we talk about the same perfume too many times, so it's definitely an interaction where the creators and their audience keep each other insecure and that's something important to keep in mind! the biggest wake up calls for me out of everything you said were the car payment comparison and the reminder that we're more important than those objects we buy to feel important. wow! thank you for this 💛
For perfumes over $100 I always check mercari & but open box. I haven’t been let down yet. I think the most I paid was $50/$60 (including shipping) and I have Salvatore ferragamo, Versace, Gucci and other brands. In 2022 I recognized my obsession & gave away all my body sprays from bbw & vs (literally over 50. Maybe closer to 75 and I hadn’t even used most of them and they broke me out!), I cancelled my scent box/scent bird subscriptions. Rn I have 7 bottles of perfume (all designer & purchased 2nd hand) & I’m so proud of myself for making this huge shift. I’m not buying more fragrances until I’m down to my last bottle. I have a note in my phone with the next fragrances I want to purchase so it’s impossible to influence me to buy anything. There’s also no way that these women like all of those scents bc they all have vastly different scent profiles.
Your comment about the different scent profiles is spot-on. I think it's normal for someone in the first year or two of exploring perfume to get a handful of different ones and build up a small collection because they're still learning what they like, but it should slow down significantly after a year or two once they have a better sense of what works and what doesn't. If it doesn't taper off, something else is going on.
Your channel has been getting me all the way together. I struggle with overconsumption and your videos help me soo much. Thank you sis, you out here doing the Lords work 👏🏽👏🏽
