There is nothing to waste and everything to embrace.” 🙌🏻 With every negative comes a positive; it’s how nature takes its form. You hit the nail on the head with this video. 👏
💯 agree. I’ve been very guilty of this in the past but it’s all a waste of time. There’s more fish in the sea, as they say, i.e. people who will love you for who you are.
@@welshboy4840 same here! I wasted so much time looking for love when I was already lovable, I just needed to give that love to myself 🩷 thank you so much for sharing and listening to so many videos!!! 🫶
❤ i think when you’ve had a tough childhood and a lot of unhappy experiences or made a lot of mistakes, being able to accept yourself for who you are, and processing events and emotions, makes things a little happier when you realise what is good for you. The future is bright as life has a lot to offer, and you will get a job soon, if you haven’t already. Life has a way of working out.
Any form of avoidance to problems are toxic, something I yet again know only too well. 😳 You obviously feel very passionate about the human psyche, and I love that. 🙌🏻
@@welshboy4840 I agree! Repressed emotions are always going to manifest, one way or another ❤️🩹 Thank you so much!! I really am fascinated with the mind. We understand the world by understanding ourselves ✨️ thank you so much for being here! 🫶
I love your philosophy on life and our natural state of being, which I think is generally overlooked as we are seen as something different to all other living creatures. We’ve evolved in to what we have become and we will continue to do so, but unfortunately with the rapid advancement of technology I do fear we are moving further away from our natural roots. Deep topics like this are a joy but sadly I have rarely come across anyone who has sat down with me to discuss. Keep up the deep discussions. 😊
I am so glad you love it!!! 🤗 Connecting with nature and understanding nature really helped me humanize myself. I like to go on walks in the forest and just watch nature and see the parallelisms. I am so glad you resonated with me!! I also find it difficult to discuss these topics with people, that is why I speak into a camera ahaha thank you so much for being here and resonating!! 🫶
@@welshboy4840 I am so glad!!! This has really helped me to heal from a lot of experiences in my life and has really allowed me to feel fulfilled and supported within me ❤️🩹 thank you! 🫶
You are awesome! 👏 What a lovely message to live life on our own terms. We shouldn’t need external validation for doing things we naturally love doing. I also resonated with the midlife crisis comment which, if we lived out our passions, wouldn’t have. Not that’s it’s a crisis, but more of a wiser understanding of where we would like to take our life to next. ❤
Yes, we might spend so much time and energy looking for external validation when we never really needed it. The person that needed to give us that validation was ourselves ❤🩹I learned this lesson by trying to please my father and when he died I realized how pointless it was trying to live my life for others and to be someting that I am not. Thank you for being here and for sharing! 🫶
@@LaurindalandiaYes, it really is a shame that we often live our lives to seek approval from others and all the while sacrificing doing something we really enjoy, or at the very least not stressing about proving something to others.
I have experienced that narcissistic people prey on those most vulnerable, and then twist the situation to suit them. Emotions are always valid but like you say, people often disregard them as a sign of weakness rather than a strength.
I can relate as well ❤🩹 Yes, we shame feeling emotions but we praise the ones that cause pain. Feeling emotions is actually a great sign of processing an experience and overcoming it. I hope for a world where we can feel emotions more freely with less shame and guilt. Thank you for voicing your perspective! 🫶
@@Laurindalandia Exactly. Neglecting our emotions and bottling them up for fear of rejection only leads to disaster, something I know too well. Thank you for another great video. ☺️
Another great discussion. 👌🏻 As a child, I didn’t feel fulfilled with my home life and was often walking on eggshells when my father was around. We didn’t do much together as a family and my ethic for parenting now is to do things together, and to be approachable if my children have any problems. I do think that some of the things I got up to, often without others knowing, was a reflection of my dissatisfaction of not having enough time taken to my needs, which was mostly down to my father. This in turn made me more determined to reverse that model and become something entirely the opposite when raising our kids.
I can relate to you a lot, I also had to walk on eggshells around my family. It is really beautiful and empowering that you chose to treat youtself and your kids differently. When doing that, you are breaking generations of patterns within your family and you are being really brave by doing it! I think sometimes we don't see how powerful it can be to choose different and we don't give ourselves enough of a praise for doing it. Thank you for sharing your story and thank you for choosing different for yourself! 🫶 You are positively impacting so many people! 💖
It does take a lot to work to be truly authentic. I seem to have nailed down my interests and people I want to hang around with, but speaking out my thoughts often comes with hesitancy when I’m either not sure if it will get a favourable reaction, or if I feel I will be rejected from those who don’t really know me. Being around people whose company I genuinely feel really comfortable with has been a game changer. No alcohol needed, and I get to express my often deep, philosophical thoughts to them without judgment. 😇
Yes, I think it takes a lot of self-confidence to express yourself authentically. I relate to you a lot, I don't express myself fully with most people. But as you said, it's about the people where you feel comfortable to express yourself authentically. When you feel comfortable to be yourself around people, I think that is a sign that those people are for you. And sometimes to find those people, we need to be rejected and criticized along the way. I feel previleged that you feel safe to share your opinion, thank you! 🫶
I’m so pleased you’ve come out the other side and seen the light after everything you’ve been through. Childhood traumas and addiction (to some extent) are things I relate to. Unfortunately, not many people know about how they both affected me, nevermind know anything about it.
Your empathy is beautiful, thank you!! I am sorry that you had to go through that, it most have been really hard ❤🩹 Unfortunately, we usually blame the victim and glorify the abuser which makes a lot of us having to endure and survive in silence. That is one of the reasons why I felt passionate about sharing my story because I think in some ways it empowers others to speak their truth as well. Thank you coming this far and being here! ❤
I never considered that the cause of being an emotional person is due to the ability to process our problems and past trauma. It does make sense though. I’ve never understood why so many people get so uncomfortable when others talk about their emotions. It’s good to talk about these things, yet people, especially men, try to laugh it off or make fun of others for having feelings.
That is something I learned when I started to heal. When I was rejecting my emotions, I was not processing my experiences because I refused to even see them. When I started to see what happened to me and feel it, that is when I finally processed those experiences and was capable of letting them go. We really demonize feeling emotions because it's hard to feel the pain of our experiences and it's easier to brush them off. I am glad you resonated with this message. Thank you for sharing your opinion! 🫶
That is such a beautiful vision!! It is also really endearing that you would choose to help others!! 🩷 I also have wild fantasies of helping others ✨ thank you for sharing, it means a lot! 🫶
Great video yet again. My biggest insecurity is/was my shyness in front of strangers, but I have learned that even the most loudest person hasn’t got it all together either. Over recent years I tend to consider my vibe as a positive rather than be too concerned about how (sometimes) I struggle to open up, because I do know that people who enjoy my company feel at ease. Having said that, if I get a good vibe from someone I’ve never met before, I can be very chatty.
Thank you for having the strength to share your insecurities! I am so glad you feel safe to do it as well 🫶 I think it's super valid to be shy and I even think that being reserved is a protective technique to keep you safe from people or environments that are not for you (and has probably saved you from a lot of unnecessary headaches). I do the same. I think we overvalue being super social and extroverted. I always say: In a room full of people, look for the ones that are the quietest because those are the ones that have the most to say. Thank you again for sharing part of your story, it really makes me feel seen! 🤍
@@Laurindalandia Thank you. One reason I used to drink alcohol was to numb out the emotions I felt about people I didn’t particularly like or get on with. I also used to wish I was extroverted but now I know that was a bad idea, as I’m happy as I am.
@@welshboy4840 I can relate to you a lot! I also used alcohol and substances to numb myself. A big part of my healing journey was just to accept myself as I am. I feel so grateful that you feel safe to share your story, thank you! 🫶
Wow! 😯 You’ve been through so much and I’m glad you are safe. Sorry to hear about your experiences and now with the roommate giving you hassle. 😡 Hopefully he leaves ASAP. Your thoughts on boundaries and emotions really resonates with me. Thankfully I have found friends over the past few years who are genuine and authentic. For years though, I felt the odd one out and often I would do things out of character to fit in. No more!! 😊
I am so grateful that you took the time to listen to my story!! 🩷 These are things that I kept a secret for a long time because I was ashamed of it and the validation you're giving me means so much to me! Thank You! I am so happy that you found people that accept you as you are, you deserve it! Thank you for sharing that you resonated with my story, sometimes I do feel alone in these feelings and it makes me feel so seen to know I am not the only one. Thank you for sharing part of your story and I am wishing you all the best!! 🫶
@@Laurindalandia I have gravitated towards your mindset and way of explaining certain issues. Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re obviously a nice person with a lot of knowledge on the subject matter. 🙌🏻
@@welshboy4840Omg you are so nice!!! 🥹 It feels so comforting to know that there are people out there that resonate with this mindset. It makes me feel a part of a community 🫂 thank you! 🫶
I agree with everything you said so have nothing more to add really. 😅 What I will say is that from my own experiences, many people with a lot of wealth are very insecure, whereby they will do anything to save face or avoid losing control. The lengths some of them go to are absurd, and I’m very happy knowing I have a simple life without the pressures they have on their journey.
I agree so much with you!! I really agree that having wealth doesn't equate to feeling secure within oneself. I think we glamorize a bit too much this pursuit of big amounts of money like it is the "end-all and be-all" and the magic fixer to all our fears and insecurities . Honestly, all I am looking for is a sense safety, peace, and enjoyment, and that is not that expensive. Thank you so much for sharing your opinion, I really apppreciate it!! 🫶
I love this perspective and it’s something I’ve been working on for over seven years now. A lot of us reach adulthood and lose touch with what we naturally enjoy as we deem those interests obsolete and/or it doesn’t fit in with associates expectations. I say, live for yourself, and not others, within reason. There’s so much pleasure we’re sacrificing for the sake of what we consider not serious enough.
I agree! We reach adulthood and we loose touch with the simplicity of playing and it's even frown upon sometimes, like you are "crazy" for playing like a kid. I really find it healing to have space and time to just play, especially when we have been through tough childhoods where we didn't even get a chance to be a kid in the "appropriate" time (according to societal standards). I am so glad it resonated with you and thank you sharing parts of your story! 🫶
Thanks again for a very in-depth perception of living with trauma and people pleasing. I found it reassuring that I don’t have to please everyone, and to accept that I’m not for everyone. 😂
@@welshboy4840 I am so happy for you! Yes, people pleasing can be a good discernment tool to choose environments where you feel safe! I am so glad you found that for yourself! So proud of you! 🫶
Yes people now are waaayy too sensitive.... this is soo not okay.... you guys are raising brainless drones who operate on just emotions.... what will happen when you are in a life/death experience and under pressure, are you gonna say im to sensitive and give up ?!?!?!?! Stop giving your emotions space more that they should... thank you.
Everyone is emotional. But you have to be emotionally mature and think things through, instead of pitying ourselves or even worse, dump emotionally immature conclusions on someone.
