Since founding MarriageToday in 1994, Jimmy Evans and his wife Karen have encouraged and coached thousands of couples toward building rewarding marriages and healthy homes. Jimmy and Karen know firsthand that no marriage is beyond hope. Their own marriage almost ended in divorce, but applying the principles they now teach saved their relationship. After 50 years together, they understand every couple has a 100% chance of success in marriage.
People feel most connected whe they feel heard. They feel most loved, when they feel connected. If she feels heard she will want commited longterm relationsip and also offer him listening. The same is with customers. If they feel heard, they always come back. They see a genuine interest. Woman feels loved the most, when she feels heard, therefore she is inspired to listen.....because she realizes on the other side of phone isnt just some "artificial robot" If man feels heard he feels loved the most. If their kids feel heard, they will listen because they feel loved and it inspires them to share ideas. "fake nice men" seek short term pleasure, or approval, from customers or wife, without listening. They probably are not bad men but they are most likely addicted to dopamine hit because "short term" pleasure gives much more dopamine and much faster, than "love and intimacy".... .because love and intimacy in sex connection" gives except dopamine also other hormones, like serotonin, oxytocin...there are much more pleasure happy chemicals during genuine sex love and intimacy. Plus genuine loving sex is better, because when woman is in love with a man, she wants to cook for her husband.....so the dopamine is very slow, but from different sources as hobbies, connection sports, so he gets slowly the dopamine, because he isnt "hustling" so much but its actually better, because he gets healthy connection with people. and he may go on picnic with kids so he gets the dopamine slowly not so fast, but from differents sources as playing footbal or playing with kids. "genuine nice men" offer listening and communication and mutual respect. You seek a genuine partner but make sure when they offer genuine listening, or genuine texts that you are able to share a genuine ideas, so they see your true personality, so they react to your genuine personality, not to "a fantasy" self. (the fantasy of some tv show) only then you realize you have connection, because they react to your true personality, and you react to their true personality. Maybe humor is also a good indicator that the person is genuinelly interested, that isnt looking for a perfect answer all the time. So first listen to your thoughts, without judgment. It gives you love and empathy from yourself and to change some habits. because when you dont judge yourself you change habits much more easily. and then you are able to listen other people, so they feel heard, loved and happy and maybe they notice not just their flaws but also the good qualities about themselves. they see that you dont judge their flaws, or that they dont judge your falws because often flaws can be short term thing and people learn new things.
Preacher Jimmy, thanks for a great helpful content! May God bless you more and more. Would you say that you were a narcissist level kind of selfish, or were you just selfish? I just wonder if a person with a high score of narcissism can be changed. Thanks
Bro you told her to get out over golf?? Man. If you guys heard about what my wife and I have done. Or all the crap in our life. You wouldn't believe me. Jesus is lord
My god ordained husband and I are in a covenant marriage but we aren't legally married. I love him and give anything I got and forgive. He got a baby on way so I got to help him.
"When you come alongside your wife and help her in a sacrificial way, there's a huge payoff in that." ~ Not always. I'm a disabled combat veteran and I told my Sarah I am happy to do the cooking, the cleaning, whatever, because she was the one working outside the home. I wanted to make sure she had a comfortable place, a clean place, to come home to every single day, and I didn't want to be the lazy one not doing anything. I showed her affection as often as she would allow me to. If she asked me to do something, I was either Johnny-on-the-spot with it or I told her I would need a few minutes before I could get to it. I always supposed Sarah's activities, because they were always Church or friend-based, and we had good friends. I was a good Husband, until the last day we were together and, somehow, what she never spoke to me about were her problems with me or with our marriage, and her nattering me to death about stupid crap, came to a head and both of us lost it. Satan came into our home and, now, I'm living on my own, praying day and night, studying the scriptures, leaving my hands-off because the Spirit told me to, for marriage restoration. I know God will, no but's. However, once we're back together we've got a lot of work to do, especially in communication. It would be awfully nice if God would find one or more people to speak into our lives and help us realize marriage does not have to die and that what we had, up until that last day, was an amazing marriage! I have nearly sixty gigs of images, videos, Christmas files, letters, and a bunch of stuff not on the computer that says we had an amazing marriage, except for the communication. I want my Sarah back so badly, and God has been working on me for eight months, now, but I will not be alone, forever. Amen.
I husband took his ring off and he was cheating but he said he didn’t even think of me. All his friends are cheaters and alcohilics and that’s what he was. Going to strip clubs and porn and one affair I know of.
See i just dont get pleasure. Its ok but it doesnt help i had almost 30 sexual partners prior to marriage. Also physically abused by my dad. And domestic violence household growing up. I wonder if that has anything to do with it
My mom stayed married to my dad for 22 years. Domestic violence situation. No affection whatsoever. My mom told me as a kid she stopped loving my dad after 5 years and was only staying with him for financial security. I'm hoping these videos show me what a marriage is because I didn't see a real marriage ever growing up
Hmm. Great advice. My husband and I met on christianmingle. In the beginning we were in church, praying together, etc,now 8 years later, no church, no praying, drinking alcohol, hoping to find a church, and pray again. We're still both born again believers who love the Lord but we have alot of struggles. Prayers please
Ok question, i dont get a man " needing sex". Is that just a man thing and obv i wont understand because im a woman. Im so disinterested in sex, i dont need it in my marriage. (Side note : going thru perimenopause, so who knows if thats part of it.). I love my husband but sex is just not that important to me. I feel because ive bern married now 8 years, i already know what its like and am bored. Im hoping someone out there can help me get a handle on this with a Christian biblical answer
So glad you guys fought for your marriage. This podcast and you helping others wouldnt even be ìf you guys split. Thank you. Just discovered your channel and really trying to work on my marriage.
Kmt.....no amount of agape can cover over the injuries received from physical abuse!!! Forgive the abusive husband? YES!!! stay with the abusive husband? H*** NO!!! Did i marry the wrong one? I MOST CERTAINLY DID!!!
I remember when my unfaithful wife had suggested a healing separation. What a joke. I believed then, as I still do, all she wanted was a vacation from dealing with the difficulties of her adultery. I saw absolutely no reason to get a separation and instead moved to divorce. You can still date again after divorce, you can still marry each other again after a divorce. You don't have any less options. "But marriage is sacred" yeah, don't tell me, tell her.
If my wife tells me she loves me and wants to be with me, but she sleeps with her dogs when I told her before marriage neither dogs nor children sleep on the marriage bed, and tells me to sleep on the couch if I don't want to sleep with the dogs, then she doesn't care about me, and is prioritizing her dogs over her husband. Sin.
I love this so much and all of the other teachings. My marriage is hanging by a thread and my wife’s mother took her and my baby away. No christian churches or counseling where I live believe this or say these things. I feel I have no help to go to. My wife’s family is all about independence and came against me and it’s a support group of division , different Christian values. They are saying it’s good for a marriage to take breaks. I wish we could actually sit with Pastor Jimmy. I want my family back.😢
Going through much the same, brother. My wife's family collected her and my then 3 month old son and moved them over 600 miles away. It's tough going, but stay strong, stand for your marriage, work on yourself and be guided by God.
😔 there is so much more to uncover. The teachings from these people are a lite teaching. Consult a therapist (CSAT) if you're the betrayer. And if you were betrayed find a therapist that specializes in your betrayal trauma.
My wife likes to talk, and I listen and respond appropriately. Encouraging her as well. But the pajams (NOT flannel) and the robe...well, that kills it for me. Oh, and at 69 years old, she claims she is "too old;" the pisser is I am not. And for all the things I do for her, I get "Zero Return on Investment."
This is so good. Thank you and thank you God. I Love my wife with everything I am, she wants a divorce. I know we can have a beautiful marriage and life together. I need God to work in us and our marriage. God please help us.
Then all the prophets of the Bible was not from God it did encourage them. It condemned them if they didn't turn from evil ways. Some told be captivated
Pastor, we in Evangelical Church Winning All (ECWA) Gospel Church Gombe want to invite you to Nigeria for our annual family seminar. But we don't know how to go about it. We need your guidance.
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I absolutely love this sermon! It was very eye-opening and relatable. I enjoy how you explain the word and apply to current life so that I can truly understand the Bible ❤
