Hailey Magee is a certified coach, educator, and writer who helps individuals worldwide set empowered boundaries and break the people-pleasing pattern. Certified by Erickson Coaching International, she has worked one-on-one with over 200 clients and her virtual workshops have welcomed thousands of participants from the United States, South Africa, France, Yemen, and beyond. Hailey has written for Newsweek, The Gottman Institute Blog and Medium’s Better Humans, and has facilitated group coaching sessions in partnership with WeWork, Amazon, Women In Music, and a variety of other companies and organizations. She received her BA from Brandeis University in Massachusetts and currently resides in Seattle, WA.
I had this issue with my mother and my siblings that live with her. It had originally started out with just my mother but then my siblings started attacking me for not talking to her. It got to the point I talked to no one in that household for 6 months because I was tired of not being heard and walked all over. They then came to my work and begged me to talk to them again. All I said was I wanted an apology, which they gave. I started going there every Sunday. They started showing old bad habits again so I started not going over there but still talked to them. I haven’t been over there in a while due to stress and moving and being sick. So far family is showing signs of improvement, but I’m wondering how long that’s going to last
Wow! This is so true! My boyfriend is the sort who loves being with me, but also needs a great deal of personal space. I give him his space whenever he asks for it, but of course always feel sad whenever he does, because I love spending time with him. This really makes me feel validated, knowing that I’m still being supportive of him and his need for space, even if I’m sad that we don’t get to spend the time together! Thank you! 💖
Tbh, the case described here is so extreme - hurtful and confusing - I even think it'd be reasonable if the person respected that boundary - and also found out for themselves that they don't even want to meet a couple times a year anymore.
@@crow_feather Yup! I agree with what you say - and with her point :-) it wasn't meant to be a counterargument, just an add-on. It's easy to forget that when we define the boundaries of what we're prepared to do in or with our relationships, other people are not only allowed to have feelings about that - they can also make choices in response, according to their own needs and values and beliefs. And sometimes , that can mean the end of it - without anyone having to do something "wrong". Sometimes that's just the way the cookie crumbles.
Was just trying to find a quick search for a better coping method or tip. Typically Tik tok will have those girls that are able to give you quick tips. You didn’t say a single thing that wasn’t already known. Your ‘3 sec’ thing was just a continuous yap leading up to your book.
2, 3, and 4. 5... sort of? My caregivers didn't have a robust life of their own, so I was taught that people "like us" just... can't. Be mediocre. Settle. You wanna be WHAT when you grow up? Uh, that'll never happen. Go for that $4/hour data entry job and be happy with that instead.
For some reason i , an anxious person, always attracts such emotionally unavailable people and they all make me feel like i am crazy funny how my parents are such people too :/
Yes, I find myself have a difficulty to express my feeling, my Face look like smile n crying, I never learn anything about abuse, narcissistic abuse, Pychologicial abuse or truama till 5years ago 😢
Been in that state since childhood, ' it unfortunately became so automatic that there's no ability to access anything of the mind and identity, you end UP being thé shell your mind has created...in order to ...protect you...but ultimately, i think it's a way of the ego to prevent you from being yourself
Really glad I came across this. And you have it available to view. I was wondering what workshop this is from on your website to purchase? There are a few workshops on there. I want to be sure I’m purchasing the right one. (I’m pretty sure I’m going to purchase all of them any way because your work is so phenomenal 🙏🏾🎉🎉🎉)
0:24 Yes, I think the reality dawning on them is they don't have power over you anymore but also *seeing YOU realize the power you have over yourself is what makes them freak out.* You are waking up, standing up for yourself and they know their 💩won't fly anymore....Great ..let me freak out.
After distancing myself for a few years from toxic (but invisible, due to normalized habits) family dynamics, when I am around it, the hate stress rage is so unsettling and uncalled for I just say NO and leave again. I am not a bad dog, naughty child. I am not an invisible worthless inconvenience. I will be alone before I go back to that- it makes me physically sick.
Wow! She has Mina Irfan’s view that a boundary is a personal decision, and not even one that you need to communicate. You just act on it if it’s crossed. Boundaries are taking personal responsibility for being treated well, and this is totally opposite of how some woke people use the word “boundaries.”
