It’s our responsibility to write our terms of engagement for our relationships with others. It’s healing to remember that other people are not automatically entitled to our time, energy, bodies, and bandwidth; in order to be deserving of access to us, there are certain standards a person must meet: standards for respect and reciprocity.
“Revoking access” or “limiting access” is just a fancy way of saying setting boundaries. When we set a boundary with someone, we’re asking ourselves: “How close, connected, and vulnerable am I willing to be to this person based on how they act?” In the answer lies the boundary we must set.
Revoking access can look like:
👉 Shifting how often we see someone (e.g., shifting from once a week to once a month)
👉 Exiting interactions when a toxic or hurtful behavior arises
👉 Choosing to no longer share vulnerable details about ourselves with people who have shown they disrespect them
👉 Refusing to engage in conversations about certain topics (e.g. our bodies, our life choices, religion, politics, etc.)
👉 and more.
I walk you step by step through the process of figuring out, enacting, and enforcing these boundaries in your relationships in STOP People Pleasing and Find Your Power. You can pre-order the hardcover, ebook, or audiobook version today at the haileymagee.com/book
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