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Honestly, as long as the person recieving the surgery is an adult who understands the possible consequences and risks of such a surgery (which every life altering surgery has, reaffirming one's gender is no ike medically speaking.) I would argue let them do that! Yes there are dangers that one needs to be aware of, but instead of denying the surgery all together we should let people know of such dangers so they can make the choice with all the information.
Intersex people get (got) surgeries all the time against their will in order to make them conforming to a binary s*x grouping. Conservatives want surgeries when they can decide the gender of someone else, but not when people self-advocate and use their power of bodily autonomy to decide for themselves to have gender-affirming care! Anti-trans bullies want queer people and women to be controlled by others, and to specifically not exercise self-control or agency.
NGL, a the parent of a trans child, I worry about their choices in gender affirming care, but I know that it’s my problem not theirs so I help them find excellent doctors, I help them seek mental health services (because everyone has something they need to go to therapy for), I listen to well founded medical science, I’m open and honest with them, and support every choice they make because I know I’ve raised thoughtful intelligent children who know themselves. Above all else, I love my child unconditionally so there isn’t anything we can’t work our way through together.
Slight nitpick, depending in where in the world you are, these surgeries are occasionally available to transgender minors. It is, however EXTREMELY rare. From 2016-2020 in the US, there were approximately as many gender affirming surgeries (of any type) performed on transgender minors as there were breast augmentation surgeries on cisgender minors in 2020 alone. I will also add, when we say "minors" we're talking 16-18 year olds, not 5 year olds.
I hope this question isn't innapropriate so I apologise if it is, but I am just kinda curious... Would you once make the video telling us the story about how your wife got pregnant and how you found the donor, and do you still have contacts with him and when (or if) your child is going to meet him someday? I hope this question didn't sound innapropriate...
Its like with war they like to spread false propaganda like I'm ace and people just cant see how i can be celibate I even have to explain people what that means too X_X
I have a feeling I’ll be coming back to this one a lot lmao Shout out to my mum referring to pride month as ‘pervert month’ this year! so happy she no longer feels the need to hide her rancid bigotry :)
To add onto this, genital mutilation is children is VERY normalized in some countries (circumcision, mutilating girls for virginity sake, etc) but I never see them yelling about that. It's not about the children, it's about the fact that they're queer 🤷♂️
And it's always about MTFs. FTMs are never ever mentioned, for some reason. And yet when a guy is affeminate but not tr*ns they call him girly and s*ssy and g*y. It's like women are seen as lesser in their eyes.
Couldn't find the sources in the description, so here's the studies mentioned for anyone wondering: Regret after Gender-affirmation Surgery: A Systematic Review and Meta-analysis of Prevalence www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8099405/ Regret in Surgical Decision Making: A Systematic Review of Patient and Physician Perspectives pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28243695/ Long-Term Regret and Satisfaction With Decision Following Gender-Affirming Mastectomy pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37556147/
Just like you explained word queer being used as an insult and then, as an act of rebelion and liberation, started being used in the positive way... I had some thoughts that might sound controversal, about the word 'whore' as a deeply misoginistic term. How about, us liberal feminists, turn this insult into a positive term for rebellious and anti-puritan woman, but like, in a positive light, as something that we should be proud about? (I'm so sorry if this might sound offensive to someone, but I hope you'll understand what I tried to say)
I love it too! I always feel bad for women who are actually named Karen so I might change it to “Have a biscuit baby”because I don’t want Barbara’s subjected to ridicule either, but overall, it’s a great line and it completely got me dead 😂
They are doing these surgeries on kids, but not on trans kids, intersex kids are often forced to undergo these surgeries long before they can even understand let alone consent
Exactly!!! If people want to argue that kids shouldn't be having irreversible elective surgeries fine, trans kids have to wait anyway - the problem is forcing intersex kids and babies
First, she is speaking directly to the claims that doctors are performing gender affirming surgeries on actual trans children. These claims are patently incorrect. Second, she was speaking directly to claims that people who received gender affirming surgeries come to regret their choice and wish they hadn’t had the procedures. Finally, there’s been a major swing away from these the practices of performing gender affirming surgeries on infants and children who are born intersex in recent years because doctors started to realize how psychologically damaging it was for the children who were being treated in this way.
Okay, but I don't agree with giving gender altering hormones to anyone under the age of 18 whatsoever. I like you and you can have different views on that if you want to.
The only thing I can think that you're referring to is puberty blockers? But even then, there's plenty of reasons not trans related that people could need them 😭
Question are there trans people who are happy with just the hormone therapy and not the surgery’s or trans men who hate the idea of having facial hair?
I know of some trans people who have opted for minimal or no surgery. Ty Turner is an example, he has a lot of good videos on the topic, of I remember right.
Yes of course! Not everyone does the whole hormone thing or goes through the surgeries. A majority of people will get top surgery and hormones and that's it. Others will only get hormones. I've had a couple FTM friends who just wanted top surgery and they actually enjoy looking a tad androgynous
Even if they were like the transphobes are saying; the transphobes don't care about them. They'll wipe their hands, go "Oh well!" and walk off with nary a care in the world for people suffering, no matter the reason. *Especially* if they feel like it's self-inflicted, like some messed up "I told you, why didn't you listen to me?" gotcha.
It's also MUCH lower than all elective cosmetic surgery regret by a lot, so it's MUCH more likely to regret a nose job or a cis boob job just as an example. So medically that's an excellent success margin.
On RuPaul's drag race there's a drag queen named GotMik. He's a trans man (afab). He had his breasts removed. You can literally see how happy and grateful he is that he was able to do that as he talks about the surgery. Trust them, they know their body and mind more than anyone. When you see people get these surgeries, you can feel how relieved and happy they are. 😊 I'm cishet and could never understand those struggles. Who the fck am I to tell someone who is lgbtqai+ what to do and not to do to their bodies?
So... implants? I imagine those depend on why the surgery was done and whether it had side effects, as well as on the overall quality of the surgery. It's much easier to get breast augmentation than to transition, for instance, so there will be a larger data pool and more subpar surgeons. I think it's interesting tho, for instance, how many female breast cancer patients are opting to "go flat" rather than deal with the discomfort and cancer risks of implants.
First off, I LOVE UR FASHION HISTORY STUFF (especially how you easily site your sources ON SCREEN!! As a fellow research enthusiast you have BLESSED my feed) Absolute instant follow!
What baffles me is that someone would really think that doctors would do such a surgery on a child. I'm pretty sure there's more 'doctors' who would do stuff like non necessary cosmetic surgeries on kids than gender affirming ones. And by non necessary I mean in cases not when something happens to their body, idk, they break their nose, but stuff like eye lifting (I remember case that was documented few years ago and it terrified me). And no one seems so angry about it..
Right? I totally agree. People will have their small children get braces or veneers, put them in tanning booths, dye their hair, etc. But a young boy wearing a dress is somehow wrong. Why is it okay for girls to wear pants but not okay for boys to wear skirts? Weird.
It's actually even more hypocritical than that. Doctors do perform medically unnecessary surgeries and treatments on intersex children to "correct" their bodies- leading to involuntary sterilisation, involuntary genital normalising surgery, irreversible sex assignment, and more. (Look at reports from organisations like Human Rights Watch and the United Nations if you want more information). It's really messed up. If these people actually cared they would be calling this out instead and demanding it be made illegal for doctors to do this.
@@montialarson...braces aren't a surgery. They are also, sometimes, medically necessary. Also, similar to gender affirming care, fixing someone's teeth can go a long way to helping their mental health. Also, it's typically accepted for girls to wear 'boy' clothes because being male/being a man is the 'obvious best choice'. Being female/being a woman is looked down on. So, a boy wearing girls clothes is seen as lesser, because girls are seen as lesser.
The fact that the only children who get these surgeries are intersex babies and that it’s sometimes done without the parents knowledge or consent, even in cases when it’s not medically necessary, bc of the fear it could psychologically affect them without any evidence that it would infuriates me. Unnecessary cosmetic procedures forced on children and babies should not be this common.
Facts!!!…TERFs, homophobes and transphobes don’t bother with such trivial things as facts and studies. They just don’t understand how ridiculous they sound.
Quite the opposite actually! Many of us try to ACTUALLY mutilate ourselves if we can't access affirming surgery and care <3 I can attest personally, I had MANY harmful thoughts of just... Chopping my chest off before I had top
@Somedude20282 I meant people after gender affirming surgery, like she stated. I had many conversations with people who tried to tell me that these people are all sad and butchered and regretted everything.
@Somedude20282 I meant people after gender affirming surgery, like she stated. I had many conversations with people who tried to tell me that these people are all sad and butchered and regretted everything.
This just hit my feed today, and I can't help but wonder at the coincidence considering the sickening election 'promise' by the toxic tories about making it legal to ban trans people from using 'gendered' facilities, 'gendered' sports -such as trans women being excluded from female sports because they may have a physical advantage over cis women (something already debunked BY TRANS WOMEN! And probably trans men). What really is sickening, is that the policy is kind of promising a witch hunt focused solely on a person's naughty bits. You know, the bits we ALL cover up in public and are of absolutely no business of anyone else AT ALL. So, exactly how will this go? Do we all have to flash a toilet monitor to prove our gender before we go into a public loo? Because that is the only way they can actually prove if a person is truly cis gender. sucky sunak and the toxic tories are VILE
