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"I'm sorry you feel that way" is verbatim what my narc mothrr said to me throughout my entire life. Went no contact 7 months ago and I'm healing now. ❤
What if they are aware of obvious things they've done to hurt you but don't acknowledge them instead go to what they feel you've done to hurt them every time throughout a 30 yr relationship
Thank you for sharing. It's good to hear this women's truth. We all have a broken path somewhere..it's called being human. We can learn, grow and heal from others.
THIS is very important to note when a child starts to have a tantrum, or starts to act out. They obviously can’t regulate at their age, etc. so it’s super important to be the Parent, and evaluate the reasons for the tantrum and then act accordingly. And be consistent. It’s the most loving thing a Parent can do for their child, and for the rest of the family.
This is true however you have to first accept that it's a red flag to accept the help someone is offering to you. Basically, you won't accept the help if you don't see the problem.
They never say sorry ...they behave normally as if nothing has happened. The blame is going to come back at you anyway. They have a king-size ego. They can never be wrong
One coping strategy I learned was to walk into the kitchen while the person remained in the bedroom. I could not hear the words but the person thought I could. After their 10 min tirade they were satisfied they gave me what they thought I should get. Later I realized all of this was in response to my observations on the person's behavior or request for a change of behavior. When I stopped trying to have a relationship, no more fighting. Engaging the person by responding to what they were saying prolonged the yelling from 10 min to sometimes hours.
Thanks for saying the therapy field can be too flip. I heard that one the other day, "If the person was not physically holding you down while they were yelling, you could have walked away." They would have followed me around the house, then there could have been consequences later had I left the house. Also in this case it was totally unexpected and the person was standing over me. I was verbally hit so hard and so fast I didnt know what happened. Damage had already been done even if I had left right then. What I have learned since is to not try to have a relationship with the person. You do what they want as much as you can such as put down meals, and guard your important thoughts and feelings.
Ya in church, mosque, temples, synagogues. They are the priests, pastors, popes, uztas, uztasah, new age gods & godesses, jewish rabbi. 😢😅 A fragment of them, doesn't mean all of them, some of them, and it's like infectious to be like them if u want to be hit high to the pinnacle to reach the top level. God doesn't want us to be like that. In Bible said they're the hypocrites, the Pharisees. Some are true Narcs. and some not.
What about when your narc sibling has very young children? The only way to stay in the kids' lives is to not piss off their narc parent. I've been cut off from my niece and nephew several times throughout the years because I call out my sibling's damaging behaviors. No matter how gently I put it, it always ends in the same way. I get shut out, and the kids are stuck alone with the narcs.
After I did this, ignored her, she started emailing me pics of the sexual shit she was doing. She uses different numbers to leave sex noises in my voicemail. It's damn near insane.
It’s the self doubt that pave highways for all sort of Larry’s in the world. The girl had everything but self doubt and more focus on that little she lacked created a sinkhole of doubt eventually broke her
I have a hard time agreeing with that. The way I see it is that, we all live with our projections. I have learned to not take it personal if somebody triggers me. This is my foundation to forgive and forget otherwise unpardonable behaviour towards myself. I like to take it as "Hurt people hurt people". On the other hand I will not allow others to make me feel sorry when they feel triggered by me having a different opinion or when they try to gaslight me. Then I might resort to techniques of mediation and try to find the underlying needs. In such a case I might say something like "sorry that makes you feel ...". Can't find anything wrong with that. Then again often times all that is needed is a good hug.
My soon ex husband would always wanted to b in control and my options were not to his standards. He always had to b right. All I could think was… I really think he likes to hear himself talk. Lying, backstabbing, Arrogant, self righteous, gaslighting, manipulative, passive aggressive F@&$ing SNAKE!!! 🤬😡🤬……….. ……(🙏🥺😭❤..🙏
This does not identify a narcissistoc Person, also other people have this trait. Persons with a trauma can have this trait and because of videos like this they will be miss diagnosed.
What happens when you respond back with an even worse silent treatment? They go bonkers, especially if they are anxious and vulnerable. By bonkers I mean they think the sky is falling and a final discard is in order. Total regression to childhood
My mother was the queen of the silent treatment when I was young. She went from yelling for hours at me about how everyone in the family was treating her to completely ignoring me, and this started when I was still very young. If I didn’t do things the exact way she wanted, put things exactly where she wanted and didn’t speak to her the exact way she wanted me to I would cease to exist. Sometimes it would last for days on end and there were a few times where she would refuse to make food or even make sure I was bathed or anything. I’m 31 now and I still live in absolute fear of setting people off. Between her and my physically abusive father I have ended up with an anxious attachment style and severe anxiety as well as being a pretty reactive person, and I’m still desperately trying to work on that. It’s a literal NIGHTMARE.
