Supporting grief through therapy, meditation, spirituality, best practices and science based tools. Grief is widely defined as any loss of life, health, or relationship. Change not by Choice!
I am a twice suicide survivor. I’m glad I found you. I lost my only sibling, my brother to suicide. And now I have lost my youngest child, my son to suicide. I am struggling to survive this grief. It consumes my every waking hour. And even in my sleep through nightmares! Losing them is hard enough. But losing them this way is so much harder. I worry for my children more than ever now. I’m in therapy but I’m so distraught that I do not leave my house if I dont have to. I use to visit my daughter at least every other week. I don’t anymore. I am hurting & there is no way to hide it. I do the best I can when I do see them. I want to be there more for them more but I dont know how. It causes me more grief when I am with them. We do talk daily. But that’s not the same. I try to hide my sorrow as much as I can. But sometimes I can’t. I hope that what I learn from you will help me in my suicide grief journey.
I try so hard every day to find beauty in life and thinking of the future with positive thoughts but I’m a few weeks away from my husbands first “deathiversary” and we will be going to his favorite place to sprinkle his ashes that day. I last time we were there as a whole family was a long time ago and bringing him to where he wanted to be after death is like the final piece of this puzzle of torture. I dip into these dark holes and I pull myself out in a few days. This will pass also but this current hole sucks.
One of my longtime best friends unexpectedly passed away in a traumatic way this March. My living best friend since undergrad was there for me during the services but it feels as if family doesn’t consider my grief waves, others that i thought were my friends and sorority sisters didn’t bring any food, offer to walk my dog, or sit with me. It’s been very lonely and I’ve had to cut more ppl off than I thought I’d ever have to do. Counseling groups all have long wait lists, my insurance doesn’t cover therapists that I’ve found and work is getting stressful beyond measure. This is the loneliest I’ve felt in a very long time.
I said goodbye yesterday to my lovable Australian Shepherd, Lincoln. He was so sweet and loyal. He’d wag his little nub tail whenever we had visitors and loved being around small dogs (he grew up around chihuahuas). He would wait patiently by the food bowl and allow our Min-Pin/chihuahua to eat before he’d have his food. My dad called him a “gentleman”. My heartache is overwhelming. I miss you my good boy….
I can’t find a purpose after losing my spouse of 54 years. I have NO INTEREST in anything. I am functioning in a fog and am not on top of anything. It’s been 6 months and I can’t move forward. Bed is my happy place if sleeping 18 hours a day can be called happy
Everything changes. I'm so frightened and for the first time vulnerable without my husband. I can do things but I've lost my rock. I wish him back every day.
My sister died early this morning. I have listened to your video 2x now. You have so aware this grief is extreme. I care for my 90 year mother and have been preparing for her passing. Not my sister. I'm in San Diego if you can refer me to someone it would be very helpful. She was a friend and mentor just like you said.
The best advice, you need to listen to yourself. Kind people want me to go for coffee,go for a walk, meet somewhere. Some I have said yes to and I feel it was a mistake. I should have listened to myself. From now on, I will. Thank you.
Thank uou for your videos. 🙏🏻 Sometimes my grief makes it hard to breathe and I feel like I'm hovering over an abyss of some kind. But other times I feel my departed loved ones are very close. I can't really explain it, but it eases my sorrow. May everyone find some reprieve from the pain of your sorrow. 🙏🏻
My dad tried to kill my mom and me at 10 yrs old. 40 years later I found my fiancé dead in the bathroom… just lost my mama and step dad in 3 months of eachother. I dropped everything to go take care of them.. Feb 14 pop died April 25 mom died… I’m loosing it.
I re-listened to this video and thank you again. Pls do more on this subject as well as Ambiguous Loss. As I struggle to support my husband on this roller coaster ride of Parkinson's Disease, I try so hard to be there for him. Today, you helped me think of Anticipatory Grief from his perspective as well as my own. Such a complicated and painful journey.
Thank you Jo, you always seem to know which video to post. I love it when you confirm things That Ive been doing. I was feeling guilty laughing at funny videos. You just confirmed it okay. Thank you.❤❤❤
Thank you for posting this video. I think grief is forever? It's not ever healed bc we love forever. So the best I can do as I cannot speak for others is healing is coping that grief is now part of your life. A new bill you can never be released from. Some months it's hard to pay that bill. Other months it's smooth. But it's always there. The 1st of the month bill(s) are forever. Did I explain that correctly? 🤔
I cope with my grief is distraction. Exercise. Animals. Helping others. That way by the time I'm done helping everyone, everything...sweating out toxins...I only breakdown once a month. Sometimes I go weeks without crying. What is difficult is when my parents visit me in dreams as I wake up for a few seconds my dreams so vivid I can still feel the hug! Literally feel it! So for maybe 3 seconds, 5 seconds I'm so happy my mom hugged me. Good morning mom. I get confused for those few seconds that she's alive and her death was all a nightmare and I want to tell her my horrible dream. Then as I sit up to say mom I just....😢I realize I'm living the nightmare. Those days are very hard on my heart. My soul. I'm doing my best without my parents. Some days its unbearable.
💖The passage of time does ease the pain, but you do have to dive into life for those moments that will take you away from this type if crushing grief. How fo I know so much about it? I lost both my parents almost exactly 6 mo. apart. My Dad was first, then without much warning, my mother 6 mo later. It's been a little over 7 yrs since they died. I was their only child, and they were my best friends. I had to carry on. Life moved me forward sometimes when I didn't have the strength to move myself. I'm much better now, but it has been a long, hard road to this point. I'm still sorting through some of their belongings because I now live in the house I grew up in with them! That's a whole other story in itself. Hold on, distract yourself when you can, and let the grief flow out when it needs to. We'll get to that better place soon.💖
I am a nurse and after my Mom passed I am so thankful to have a job where I am around others. My Patients's have actually been there for me emotionally and have so many words of wisdom. I was not expecting that.I was always the caregiver who now finds myself being taken care of in a strange way by my many Patient's, thank God.
Been 4 months since cancer stole my beautiful bride. High school sweet hearts, married 33 years snd loved each other so much that I know it made God happy. I understand things will never be the same but just like the Fleetwood mac song says “ Don’t stop thinking about tomorrow…don’t stop it’ll soon be here….it’ll be here better than today…..yesterday’s gone….yesterday’s gone. I hope to find another special woman to love again as I know my wife insisted that I do that numerous times before she passed. She was so worried about me being alone and as always she was thinking ten steps ahead and boy was she right again….the loneliness really sucks but I got my doggo’s and my hobbies, my projects, my business and 12 grandkids to keep me busy at age 53.
I'm trying to practice some of these things but it's easier said than done especially gratitude. So hard to be grateful after watching my wife suffer from an incurable disease for almost 3 years and then pass away at only 66yrs old.. I know there are so many people that die so much younger than that but it still doesn't make it any easier.
We used to travel a couple of times a year. I tought that this was gone for ever (lie) About a year in i went for one night in a hotel . 6 weeks later 2 nights, another six weeks later 3 nights in a b&b ( to quiet for me). I live on the top floor and at 1 year and 4 month in, announcement came that the elavator wend in rivision for ten days straight in one week from now.... so i tought this is my sign, ( previous lies told me i dont dare to go alone abroad) that same night i booked the boat to go abroad and planned a trip to a well known aria. I felt i could do this, all my previous small test went well. The travel was healing, a comfort, so many beautiful memories came back. Strengtend my believe in myself and my abilities to fix things, be creative, think ahead, improviseren Just like i always did. And yes tears came too because i have loved my love, but they were because of love. I let them be, it is allright, things will get better dont believe the lie it will always be bad, i felt it too, but it is a lie. I am glad i took the small steps towards the one thing i could not live without travelling in my case. And yes dinner alone in restaurant is not (yet) fun for me i did it a couple of times we i was in for it, but more times i ate a big lunch and picked up a sandwich or take away and ate it in a harbour, a beach or in my caravan/ hotelroom. Be creative, go with what feels right
Could you talk about experiencing grief while also having Borderline Personality Disorter. The death of my boyfriend was very traumatic and now it's bringing up alot of memories of childhood trauma and other deaths I never processed growing up. All these things are hard to process and almost putting my brain in overdrive. I often isolate because it affects my mood, I'm sensitive to noises, I have nightmares, and flashbacks, I disassociate alot and I'm starting to deal with derealization now. I don't even know what's happening to me, but it's scary. How do you even begin to pick up the pieces?
I was so overwhelmed with grief this spring, the anxiety attacks at 3am felt like there was a pigeon in my chest beating its wings to get out. I am still in grief but it accompanies my life beside me as I get on with enjoying with others & finding appreciation & joy and something funny daily where I can find it. I have made 'friends" with my grief rather than denying it, or getting 'over' it, or being buried in it.
Making friends with grief is an interesting concept. Thanks for commenting, that inspires me a little and it could be a helpful way of carrying it. I hope you continue to find joy in your life and hope I find some in mine one day.
3pE: While caretaking my 98.5 year old parent, I was shutdown. 3 weeks ago, she passed on, and my initial response was, "Wonderful!" Now, I want to rejoin the human race, but I have headaches (maybe Statins,) incontinence, forgetfulness, sleep issues, and clutziness. Perhaps my body is not approving of the relief I feel now that they're better off. Thanks. ❤
My partner and I were going through a rough patch and he took his own life. Now I'm stuck in this permanent rough patch that he left me in with no possibility of resolution.
@@XNateXXDawgX lm so sorry. There's a great book that helped me. GRIEVING A SUICIDE BY ALBERT Y. HSU. I LEARNED ABOUT HIM AT MY GRIEF SHARE GROUP. GRACE AND PEACE TO YOU.
I am so sorry this happened, it must be very difficult for you to carry the burden of guilt. I do hope that you will find some peace and a way to forgive yourself. ❤
I am carrying a load of burden in my grief, as my in laws never wanted to celebrate my late Husband Robert wedding, but sure in their way celebrate his death.
Whoever we lost will want us to be happy … ❤️❤️🌸🌸 We need To realise that we did what we did at the time was what we knew best .. Birth death old age illness are part of life …unfortunately.. Every breathe we are closer to our own exits … We are b/w birth and death so please : Let us move forward in TLC … to ourselves and others … Every day is a new day so let us pray for the souls of our loved ones who we have lost …. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🕉️✝️☸️✡️🔯☯️🛐🩷🩷🩷☮️💟🌸🌸❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Peace ☮️ and love ❤️ to all of us healing ….. ❤️🩹
I lost my doggie two days ago, August 1st, he was my baby and the love of my life. I dont know how to cope I would give anything to have him back. I cant imagine my life without him.
We lost our 34 year old son about 6 months ago. Grieving is so painful as we feel his loss and feel guilt over things I wish we did and things I tried to convince him to do regarding his health. This is a good video because it's true. I think the only way to combat grief and guilt is through positive thoughts. We need to focus on the good things and not the things that cause pain. It's not easy to do at all. Thoughts always navigate to pain somehow. I hope the cliche "time heals all wounds" is true, but I never feel like this will heal - I think we can only find ways to cope.
Self compassion seems to go under the radar for most of us, yet it can give us comfort, acceptance and healing like nothing else. I've only just embraced this with daily meditation and l am simply more at one with who l am. This after always being dismissive of it. Wish I could have learned it much sooner,l am almost 70.
