I'm getting ready for baby #2 and the support i have for birth (a counselor and a doula) are pressuring me to get a babysitter. . . It has become unusual to want to be at home with my kids! Why do people have kids if they don't want to enjoy the companionship? How am I the unusual one to actually want to bond with the people i make?? I still work nights and weekends. . . My husband gets break because I am the "babysitter". . . We can still be home and scroll our phones or watch tv while my child has independent play. . . Like what else are we missing out on? Why am I the weird one to have nothing better to do but be with my developing children? There is truly nothing more I'd rather be doing. . . My mom (who was a career woman and not a nurturer) is offering to TAKE my children. . . But truly it is my priority to be with my kids when it counts. Your example calls the man her husband because taising children together marries a couple even if you don't ask the government to regulate your union. Your Title is confusing. . . "Women in their 30s" not just 30 women
Women that make more are masculine, theh cheat, they will do whatever they. So men will do the same. Stop making family, make kids and share the weeks if yall need a leftover after yall passed
In the 70s women were told we could "Bring home the bacon AND fry it up in a pan".... tried that lie as well.... My two grown adult children 38 & 41 were not raised on commercially processed foods on a daily basis in the 80-90s, I included them in food purchases at the grocery stores ...READING INGREDIENT LABELS... sugarfree, high sodium and fat free, were all deal breakers..... it set a good foundation as we had "fun food" and "good food" . But the lies just got bigger and deeper... Turning my adult children on to Alex... a modern voice of reason and awareness ✌🏻👍
I don’t know what these American women are complaining about. I am a woman, I have a very high 6 figure income, enhineer by profession, and I still am able to cook my own food, eat healthy, and have a life. I did not grow up in America. Maybe American women need to learn from other countries women how to be at the top of your career and still have a family and healthy meals!
I’m a psychotraumatologist and researcher and a few years ago I had to give a conference talk. My topic of choice was: ‘stone-age babies, born into the atomic age’ I talked about all the neuroscientific research you mentioned - breastfeeding, carrying the baby on your body, co-sleeping at night, basically the continuum concept . You can’t imagine how angry my audience got… I needed physical protection at coffee break 😅
I do like Alex and her content, however I have to roll my eyes sometimes at things she says since shes not married nor has kids. Its nothing against her and I do believe she will find someone one day. But, she has a lot to say for someone who hasnt "lived that life"
Good topic but way too many breaks! I felt like there weren’t many insights in this podcast.. just general advice on traditional gender roles. John Gray from Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus has way more insightful content
All marriage counseling eventually devolves down to be happy with the s*** sandwich you are eating. Because marriage counseling isn’t about happiness or satisfaction it’s about keeping the marriage going at all costs. That is what marriage counselors call “growth”.
Perhaps the title is clickbait but I don't believe anyone was "lied" to. Things change in society and you have to assess what works for you and the future you want to have. Everyone is fully capable and makes their own decisions unless they are disabled. I couldn't imagine being 40yrs old blaming someone or something else on my life's outcome.
Well you got to trust right at the end. Why is it always the women talking at the men (rather than to them) telling them what men 'have' to start doing? One of the first casualties of feminism was trust. To many men, many women are not even half decent people any more, so why should they listen to a woman talking at them telling them what they must do or must become? Over the decades women have done an exceptional job of driving masculinity out of society, and now you want it back?! Moreover, it is the women, again, who are attempting to decide what aspects of masculinity we are expected to display, as if we were some kind of appliance with different attachments. Men have been seeing this for years and have hung onto false hope for too long now, and they are starting to leave the game. Getting them back will take at least the same number of generations as it took to push them away, but if you really want to make a start, try treating men like they are actually people..
Your back. The guys are checking out from marriage, this is not gonna end well. Single moms everywhere. Childless women everywhere. 80% plus / minus 5 % is the female filing for divorce. Yep, crap food, women don't cook, clean, little S3X. Government is in control and the Government / media has spread the lies and people believe them.
Who says 1950’s moms were bored? If you had 5-7 kids in the 50s as a mom, (like my grandma) you weren’t bored! Mabe the childless ones were bored (I guess Alex is childless and husbandless)
I am a Gen X-er. I had my children in my late 30s. The third and final one at age 39. My youngest just celebrated her 10th birthday. She wanted a party at the park. So, we planned for kids, pizza, cupcakes, a piñata and park play time. Simple enough, right? WRONG!! I had mothers RSVP-ing for 5 -6 people!! I had to send out a sequential notice telling these women that it was a CHILDREN'S birthday party & there will be refreshments for the CHILDREN! Of course, a couple of mothers took it out on my daughter by giving her a lesser gift, no gift, or not letting them come to her party at all. 🤯 My point in telling this story is that society has become SO incredibly glutinous that people can't even separate themselves from their children's own experience. In this economy, as a part-time worker/ stay at home mother raising 3 children (with my husband), I don't have the means to feed families for my daughter's 10th birthday party, & even if I did and wanted to, the family would've been on the invitation, not just the child's name, like it had been. 😮 Where have the manners, morals, and common decency gone?
Many families don't have outside help. They can't just take one kid to a birthday party and then leave the other children at home by themselves. I've been to birthday parties were it was the unwritten rule that siblings were also welcome. Why? Because many moms were watching their kids while dad worked a Saturday shift or dad just needed time to himself to recharge on a Saturday.
@elliotselle2958 I don't have a problem with other children coming. In this instance, it wasn't a matter of extra siblings but glutinous adults. An 11 year old child who lives up the street from the park we had the party at had both of her parents there. Both morbidly obese people consumed half of the pizza that was meant for the children. My older daughter's didn't even eat. Children's parties are for children. If you have to be there for whatever reason, great, that's your perogative. But, if it's not a party aimed for whole families, then there shouldn't be an expectation of the adults to receive refreshments.
It was coordinated by early feminists so women wouldn’t have a real choice. Simone de Beauvoir, a feminist icon, was quoted “no woman should be authorized to stay home to raise her children. Women should not have that choice because if there is such a choice, too many will make that one.”
As a young woman I agree 100% with what you all say. Our society needs a shift else it’s over for us. I fear it’s too late because we have too many blinded people in this world. So many people bowed the knee and got the jab nobody fought back our countries are weak. They have weakened people. I’m 27 and don’t think I will ever get married or have kids but I have helped raised my sisters and nieces and think I’m tried now. I just want quietness.
No one wants to "settle" for a partner, but that's definitionally what marriage is. We commit to one person, for better or better worse. It's not easy for anyone, but family is so worthwhile.
Right on, Ladies; everything you said is SO true and logical! We, women , need to convince young women to get back to REALITY! Get back to when men were men and women were women! God bless you, Sisters!
Millennial woman here, extreme leftest mom and fell hook line and sinker for the lies. Suffered for years as i resisted my true nature. Did the boss babe life and still wasn't happy. Had my son at 40 and haven't looked back. The government did a number on us, and now we have to fight back.
In the past women had duties to the health and finances of her family that were things she could do WITH kids running underfoot. Gardening, cooking, sewing and mending and laundry for the neighbors, making candles or baskets or rugs and selling them, whatever it was, she was able to do those things at home and still sell them while raising and teaching her own children. Things that were traditionally womens work have been taken from her.
As a millennial woman I was never fooled. Married and started my family in my early 20s. My husband and I will decide what is best for me financially as a wife and mother; not a radical independent woman. For mow that means a family business for family stability, wealth, and maturity. For myself as a woman I am journeying with midwifery and doula care once I am in widowhood. Being emotionally available was never taught or expressed as necessary for my generation. Hence the prevalence of borderline disorder and anxiety
I think most women could get pregnant well into their 30s and even 40s. If you just think back to how many children older generations had, my grandma for example having 11, I believe she was 45 when she had her last baby and had babies all through her 30s. I think what’s happening now is our our food and water has been highjacked by all the endocrine disrupters. All the plastics we use daily, the water bottle, the fluoride in the water. We have all been massively poisoned. I still believe it is imperative for a woman to learn educate herself so that she doesn’t need to rely on a man to provide, this allows her to select the best mate and not settle for the first man that asks. Education doesn’t mean 4 year degree, it could be a skill, a trade something so that she can provide for herself.
I believe your argument women lost purpose and destroyed the nuclear family is the precursor to men losing purpose. And THAT is the foundation to veteran suicide. These young men come home and try to find build a life, and all that is destroyed. So they lose purpose and punch thier own ticket. Look at the suicide stats for men.
Millenial mom of teens here. Yes, we were lied to by the media and our boomer parents. Elder Millenials must speak out to help the younger ones. Thank you for doing just that!
I made a comment awhile back on another video that what’s going on with whìte women now is what has been going on with Błack women but nobody wanted to hear that then coming from Błack women. 🥴Unfortunately, that comment was erased
I actually read a similar comment on another video today that we’re seeing predictable societal decay in broader white society that hit black communities at least two decades ago
As a black woman too I see it. They are destroying families no matter what background you are. Single motherhood and people not having children or wanting children is on the rise. I guess we can only be the change we want to see in our little corner.
Well said.... predictable and at least, two decades old. It’s a “social phenomenon” now. A “societal conundrum.” A “national crisis.” We have been “totally blindsided by this” nope. Why such urgency? You didn’t want to hear about it, talk about it, or deal with it because it wasn’t your concern then. Yours, too, now. Now you’ve got a “problem.” agree😞
In addition to what Alex said at the end about women wanting to trust men enough to be able to "turn their brains off" and not have to make all the decisions - a true man of God and of faith is a man you can trust. A man who follows God is a man worth sharing a life with.
