My in-laws are my relatives, I served them and respected them with my heart. My service was appreciated like you appreciate a good servant. The lesson I learned from my life that people use you, if you are a good person.
In my 10year marriage life I faced many unusual circumstances but I didn't let down myself and I feel that I have great patients and a humble personality. Today I can say proudly that my mother in law even all my husband's family members are thankful to my mom that you gave us a precious daughter 😇ALHAMDULILLAH I feel myself so blessed 😇😇🙏
sir I am a clinical psychologist and by nature I am a linenent and polite person. I tried to keep every relation in my life but eventually I realized that in the process of keeping everyone happy I was loosing my husband and myself as well. so at the end I decided to take care of my husband (my very first responsibility & priority) and a bit of myself. now am living peacefully.
this is a million dollar point, if you and your husband have a great understanding you'll stay happy, would be even great if you could take all the other relations along the journey of your life
دیکھیں مریم ۔۔ ہر جگہ ہر طرح کے لوگ پائے جاتے ہیں ہمارے ہی معاشرے میں اچھے اور برے شوہر موجود ہیں۔۔ سخت مزاج اور شفقت کرنے والی ساسیں موجود ہیں۔۔ بدتمیز اور ںاخلاق بہوئیں بھی ہیں۔۔ سڑیل اور اچھی نندیں بھی ہیں۔۔ ۔۔۔۔ اب آتے ہیں دوسری طرف کہ سسرالیوں کا رویہ، میں خود اس پر بہت زیادہ سوچ بچار کرتا رہتا ہوں کہ آخر کیا حل نکالا جائے اس مسئلے کا۔۔ کل کو اگر میں شادی کروں تو ان چیزوں کو فیس نہ کرنا پڑے۔۔ مثال لیتے ہیں کہ، آپ کی ساس کا آپ کے ساتھ روکھا رویہ ہے، تو کیا آپ نے کبھی سوچا کہ ایسا کیوں ہے؟ اور نکتے کو ڈھونڈا جس کی وجہ سے ایسا ہے؟ اور اس نکتے کو دور کرنے کی کوشش کی؟؟ باقی میں یہ نہیں کہہ رہا کہ صرف لڑکیاں ہی قصوروار ہوں گی، میرا ماننا یہ ہے کہ ہمیں اپنا سو فیصد دینا چاہیے، اور اس کے بعد اچھے بدلے کی امید رکھنی چاہیے، اچھا بدلے ملے تو ٹھیک نہیں تو اللہ کے ہاں تو یقیناً اس کا اجر اچھا بلکہ بہت اچھا ہی ملے گا ان شاءاللہ۔۔ رب تعالیٰ سب کی مشکلیں عطا فرمائے
Be that mom for ur children ... Be the first drop of rain and u will see the change in the society sooner or later ... It's the law of physics ... Khuda hafiz o nasir
Please mere liye Dua kren shadi ki age aa kr nikl rhi h sab dost cousins ki shadiyan horhi Bchy hogye Mgr Maa bap ko na parwah h na koi koshish din rat preshan rhti hn
Maryam Khan sahi kaha pakistan mein larkiyon ki tarbiyat par to bara zor rakhte hain larkon ko bilkul kuch nahi sikhate aur kehte hain larkon ne kon sa kisi ke ghar jana hai lekin doosre ki beti to ghar mein late hain phir un ka jeena haraam kar dete hain
Muhammad Asif koi hal nahi jo bat sch hai wo unhon ne boli lekn mardon mn to sch sunany ka hosla nahi foran badtamizi py utar aey aurat jitna hosla r sbr mrd mn aa jaey to masly hi htm ho jaen
Or aj kAL ki saas sirf larki ku hi keh rhi hoti ha kay tumhari trbiyt nhin hui. Buhat sey ghrany achy bhi hen jahan saas or nand bety ku kehti hen nhin nhin smjhota karo essey chorna mt . Or kai jagah aesa bhi hota saas pehli bahu kay kmrey mein beith kr hi bety kay sath uski dosri shadi ki baten krti ha. Its true.
100 batoon ki aik baat!!!! Khuda k liyai kabhi bhi apni zindaghi ko isi koshish Aur tagudo May barbaad naa karain k meri saas, mera sasur , mera shohar, mera sasuraal mujsay razi ho jaay, yeah insan hain kabhi bhi kisi bhi haal may khush nahi rehta, aap inkay liyai mar bhi jaain to bhi nahi 😑 Niyat karain k may in sab k sab rishto ko apni taraf say puray khaloos k saath nibhaon gi, Qurbatan illalah. Basically Allah ko razi karnay k liyai in sab ki raza hasil karnay ki koshish karon gi. Kaam asaan!!!yaqeen karain kuch Aur hasil ho na ho, sakoon e qalb Aur chehray pay Noor Aur itmenaan zaroor hasil hoga. Insha Allah Banday banday ki ghulami, Aur rang bhirangay chotay chotay khuda bana k unko razi karnay May apna waqt zaya karnay say behtar hay, faqat aik ki ghulami ho, jo asal Khuda hay, Aur sirf wohi iska haq bhi rakhta hay, kuch bhi ho jaay uski rassi Aur Raza ko nahi chorna, Insha Allah dunya Aur aakhirat ki khair e khair haasil hogi.
Haseeb Khan Na qadray bando k hathon may apni betio/ behno ki qismat na dain, khuda pay bharosa rakhain, Aur jaisay hi yaqeen ho jaay k yeah miss match hua hay , chor dain, zindaghi Aur waqt barbaad na karain aisay logo k theek honay k intezaar may. Jo log apni qadar khud nahi kartay , unki na qadri hoti hi chali jati hay. May yeah baat apnay tajarbay say keh rahi hoon.
Dear sister Zahra Batool, Allah paak apko apki mehnat ka khoob sila ata farmain ghay, Insha Allah Jab jago tabhi savera, karna abhi bhi apko unhi rishto ki khidmat hay, Lekin aub niyat aub Raza-e-Ellahi ko hasil karna hay, aap dekhna din ba din ap apnay wajood May aik zabardast qisam ki taqat mehsoos karain ghi, Insha Allah Allah paak hum sab ka hami o Nasir ho, Aamin.
Thank you Sir. Really this thing is missing in today's generation girls. A dinner set or tea set has become more important than the living relationship. Sir but pleas also make a video about the tarbeat of boys as well. Because it is equally important and I believe that you can really create a change in the life of your listeners.
That were my thoughts exactly when I married, I thought when you are good ,behave good then everyone will be good. I forced myself into kitchen the very next day and said plz let me cook, and guess what my mother in law gave all kitchen duty to me, she said ok cook this in lunch and then cook another dish for dinner I started doing my duties happily, didn't complain but what I received was not appriciation but my 'shikayat' in front of every guest. " Ajkl ki larkian ko to Kuch banana nhin ata" ajkl ki Bahuain aisi Hoti Hain waisi Hoti Hain blah blah... Now my thoughts are changed completely.. when you do good to every one, do their work and do everything in your reach to make them happy then they bagan to take you for granted, they bagan to think that you not being "good" it's your "duty" ! So sir doing good in every possible way and your in laws appreciate you is an ideal case scenario. Those in laws who speak good for their "bahoo" are also good and their numbers are small.
Bunda agr itni mehnut Allah ko razi krne k liye kre to akhirut to snwer hi jati he, Allah dil ko bhi sukoon ata krta he or asal hasil Dil ka itminan hi he. Jo Allah ki raza ki talash MN lg jata he us k liye Allah hi kafi ho jata he or jo logon ko razi krne k liye mehnut krta he us k hath or Damun humesha Khali hi rehte hn.
But u know what khuda ko razi karne me tnii mehnat nahi lagti jitni bandy ko razi karne me lagti ha. Or agar ap khalk e khuda ko razi kar rahe ho to khuda ap se naraz nahi balk razi hi hoga
Topic of working mothers is also very important, some ladies don't have an option to not do a job, the society has to be supportive of such ladies who manage job and home. Alot needs to be taught on this topic( it is hardly ever addressed) r as this will help the working mums run the house well and train the kids appropriately too. She cannot do so without husband, in-laws and work place support.
Getting married soon InshAllah. And jo bhi baatien ki hain , I would've disagreed or taken to my ego a few years ago , but Alhamdulillah Allah gave me wisdom and i 100% agree with everything you said. We as girls shoild look at our side of the behaviour and leave the rest to Allah swt. First video I watched and really liked it.
Thank you so much Jawed Saab me from India I'm a mother of two daughters my daughter's are small now but really I will apply all your advices in growing up my daughter's aapka bohot bohot shukriya
Sir also advise how in - laws should treat this new person/ addition in life and give her acceptance space and love. Our society greatly lacks training of men for marriage and hardly ever talks about proper bahaviour with daughter-in - laws
Girl is full of love esp for her family and husband some men may fail to get it out of her, only few literate realize baqi ko samjana dewaar se sir marna. Can't change their mind being alone can't influence much ,get to know of their mentality formost imp thing.
Thankyou so much Sir! My Father lack this ability to communicate effectively with me.. But this video made me understand some important aspects of marriage. While my mother is not that kind of role model but I'll be the One for my daughter surely ^_^ thankYou!
Cluster jolly. I’m a mother in law 4 times over. All mothers need to develop an age related vocation or interest in life. That way they’ll focus more on themselves rather than breathe down their children’s backs all the time. Elders should be role models and the rewards will be obvious
Wah Dr, sab, this is the actual moral knowledge which is lacking today in our curriculum, that's that's is why we only producing medical doctors but empty with the moral and ethical codes, teachers lacks in this,
aap saas susar k sath muqabla krny ki training ki bjaye اعلی اخلاق سکھائیں ۔ ساس سسر کا ادب سکھائیں پھر دیکھیں کہ کیسے راج کرتی ہیں اپنے گھر پر۔ انشاللہ
Me bhens ke samine been bajane ke khilaf hu lekin aik acha business man khabi ghalat cheez peh invest nhi krta .. or kabhi kabhar ap sabar ki investment se life me kamyab ho jate he Be an optimist but not a fool
ماشاءاللہ ثاقی تیری خیر تیرے مے خانے کی خیر تیرے پینے والوں۔ اللہ کرے تیرے یہ جام پینے والوں کو یوں ہی مخمور کرتے رہیں۔ الحَمْدُ ِلله یہ انمول ہیرا میرے دیس میں جڑا گیا
Assalamualaikum sir u r great ,the way u teaches thats so loving .Im a mother of 20 years old daughter please pray for her bright future as well .jazakAllah for this video .
Just don't marry her young and naive and then wait for a miracle to happen. Plus educate her so that she can write her own future by the Grace of Allah.
Thankyou so much sir ....i dont have a mother who will guide me these things ....but after listening you i felt like my mom is guiding me ...m soon getting married....allah mje apki batu par amal karne ki toufeeq de
Extremely grateful to you Sir, for sharing such precious words. May Almighty reward you infinite for such impactful videos. Can you please share some tips for how possessiveness and insecurity can be reduced in mother-in-laws. And how a positive relationship can be developed with her from beginning ( just after getting married ) without losing self-respect ?
آپ یقین کریں آج مجھے احساس ہو رہا ہے کہ میں کتنی اچھی ہوں ۔۔یہ سب ٹپس میں کر چکی ٹپ سمجھ کرنہیں دل سے خلوص کے ساتھ پر حاصل بس ⁰ ہی پے آج 16 سال بعد میں یہ کہہ رہی
Jab hmra wasta jahal logon se hota ha to hum jeet nahi sakty jo bten uncle kr rahy hn ye soch her larki susral ly k jati ha lakin agla mahol us soch ko b bdal data ha
Whatever you said sir my father also advised the same thing and I did everything but my in laws troubled me so much. See in laws have to respect their daughter in law as well and try to understand her as well. In my in laws bait he baat karna is something alien.
Pakistan main 24/7 nokarani ko wife kahtay hen-achee nokarani ko sosraal walay achee bahoo kahtay hen-agar larka wife say payyar or respect karay to kahtay hen wife k nachay lag geya hay-Most marriages are joke in Pakistan.
Sahi ye is lye admi deen se door han. Islam me kisi per susral ka boj nahi dala and admi ko agar wife ek ghar me tang ha to use kehne per gusra ghar dia jae jahan wo bachon per tawaja de sake or privacy bhe rhe. Allah ne kaha agar mere jese char khuda hote to kaynat ka nizam darham barham ho jata.
میری والدہ نے ان میں سے بہت ساری باتوں کی نصیحت کے ساتھ مجھے رخصت کیا تھا اور آج 36 سال بعد بھی میرے اپنی سسرال والوں کے ساتھ بہت اچھے تعلقات ہیں۔بیشک ایک خاندان کے سارے افراد آپکے لیے نہی بدل سکتے لیکن آپ خود میں تھوڑی سی تبدیلی لا کر سارے گھر کے ماحول کو بدل سکتی ہیں یہ میرا تجربہ ہے جو اچھا رہا
