“I’m Crazy For Him, But He Lives In Another Country. Am I Screwed?” 

My late husband and I were writing letters for more than five months (we were 10,000 miles apart! ) we had a romantic connections on those letters. We met and got married after two weeks of meeting. We were married for almost 26 years. Btw, we loved each other very much but unfortunately he was gone too soon.

“The fact that it happened means it can happen again in a much more suitable way” I soooo needed to hear this. Thank you

I married a guy from another country. It was hard work. Still is, but worth it. Ps we are having our 1st child 🤰🏽

From the comments, why are everyone's LDR love interests in London/England? You sure you're not all dating the same guy? 😂

The thing about long distance relationships is that if no-one has plans to move, there's a point where needs stop being met and it's a kind of limbo. You're in a relationship, but you're not. It can become so intangible that it may as well be an imaginary relationship, at least according to my experience. It's true though, there are many "the one"s scattered around, the hard part is finding them.

“i’m crazy for him, but he lives in another country” Me: “I’m crazy for him, but he lives in another country and he doesn’t know me”

Sometimes we can't fight these intense feelings. We were friends first. Met him on an online writing site and we collaborated for over a year on fictional stories. We talked on the phone, daily. I realized I really liked this kid, but knew he was thousands of miles away. So then went extreme online dating. I watched Matt's videos on how to date, how to put yourself out there. I wondered if my feelings for this guy were just isolation and loneliness manifested into fantasies that couldn't happen. This English bloke was so far away, it was impossible for it to work. Except every date, I was subconsciously comparing men to him. So, I reluctantly told him how I felt. He felt the same. We've been dating over a year now. We're still long distance, but that won't be forever. My feelings haven't decreased, if anything they have increased. I don't think the two of us have gone a full day without talking to the other. We plan visits, talk about options of one person living in the other country and try to build a relationship with the other's family too. I can't describe it really well, but I feel like I've known this person my entire life. We're like missing puzzle pieces. the both of us know how the other is feeling almost instantly. I think it's because of all the hours of communication. I know just by the pitch of his voice what's going on. Or, just enough to ask him. I trust him, unlike any person I have before. That could have been because we were friends for a long period first. It scares me how you can know someone almost better than yourself and what it does to you. Don't get me wrong, it's hard. We have our struggles. The physical intimacy is a challenge, just like Matt said. But, he's my bestfriend, and I just can't imagine a life without him. I knew he was 'the one' too, from one of Matt's videos. He talked about finding someone you can build a house with, not building a house on your own and putting someone in there. I realized how we work through issues, how we talk about big conversations, how the two of us work through problems...we're already building that house together. Best advice I can give, if you feel he's worth it...talk to him. If the two of you can't get on the same page in the beginning that's a red flag. But if he's equally willing to put in the work and goes, "Yeah, let's do this," go for it. If he comes from a place of positivity and not doubt to do this journey with you...then take the leap and go for it.

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I disagree with most of the comments.. I am an Australian married to an American.. we met on Christian Mingle in 2012 - In my opinion long distance relationships are the best kind because they force you to get to know eachother PROPERLY... you have to talk about what's important, you don't get swept up in lust etc... The best relationships I've had were long distance.. - When I was 21 I fell in love at first site with a guy I met in a bar who was from America.. I would have been 100% commited ALL the way but he was not.. - as long as 2 people are 100% committed financially, emotionally, time wise, it's a safe bet.. BUT YOU HAVE TO BE HONEST.. is he committed? - THE RULES book about dating gives great guidelines on telling if a guy is serious.. he needs to visit you.. etc

I've been waiting for this video. And now I have a big lump in my throat because now I know what I need to do. Situations like this suck, especially when the connection is more than a weekend fling.

what he says is so true. Someone closer with the same connection exist but it’s still not him😭😞 I want him not anyone else.

this speaks to me ! i fell stupidly in love over someone i gotten to know online who lives miles away and have no indication to relocate with me. I keep thinking of the 'what if' when in reality he is only a fantasy. i have to acknowledge that this is a nice feeling, however he is someone with his own life and i need to move on with mine, and take it as a n experience. It means that i am capable of feeling like this, and hopefully will be able to find this in someone who is more substantial. Thanks a lot Matthew for your excellent advice. :)

I think, it it is not possible, just to change the "object" and move on to a other person! If you have deep feelings for a particular person, you have that feelings for this particular person, and not for someone else! It drives me crazy, when I always hear "There are so many options out there! Why are you stucking on this one person!" Maybe because of love?

I watched this videos 3 years and a half ago, at the beginning of my long distance relationship, and even though i knew matthew's words were true, I wanted to give it a try, cause both of us were extremetly intentioned to make it work. It's been 3 years full of travels (17hours on average of flight), and i don't regret anything. I grew up and made amazing experiences which i'll always treasure. But so much pain came together. As Matthew said conversations kind of became the same at a certain point, plus frustration for the time gap and other types of misunderstandings. However, we could have get through this if not for the key problem, which is who was going to move one day. We dragged this issue for so long, i was almost sure that i would have moved, but i always had many insecurities. We're now breaking up for this and also other reasons and i feel so broken in this moment. It's been actually as so helpful and relieving to rewatch this video and focus instead on the last part of the advice. I also need to realize that i was living with an idea of scarcity and i glorified something only cause it was on the other part of the world. I'll try my best to heal and believe that later i can find again love in my city.... Thank you Matthew :)

It´s so funny. Everytime a caller tells you about the problem, I can see you thinking :D And you always come from another perspective than what people would expect. When people are stuck in a situation and they don´t know what to do, so they ask for help, you always give them another perspective on the situation. I wish you could be my best friend who I can talk to about my problems everytime ;) :D Great job!

I am from Brazil and my boyfriend is American, he lives in USA. We've been dating for 2.5 years and I am willing to move to another country for him if it's necessary. But we are still having a long distance relationship. During these 2.5 years we had a 7 months and a 8 months period of time away from each other. It's not easy, but.. Oh well..

Excellent distinction: Massive Attraction and Massive Intention... Thank you, Matthew, you are GREAT! 💎

I met a guy when I studied abroad in London who I connected with really well and we were casual for the months that I was there I still think about him often. When I returned home I could not stop thinking about him and it hurt so much to want someone who lives across the ocean but had to accept the fact that the timing was not right and if it is meant to be it will happen someday. Sounds cliche, but that's what I believe.

I love this video so much. Me and my boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship for 4 years (him England and me Canada) and we've learned all of the things Matt talked about in the video. In the beginning it was a lot of talk about our intentions and how we plan on making this work, then we learned how to better communicate with each other, which I truly believe is the upmost important thing in a LDR, and how to remain romantic and sexual with each other despite not being physically intimate. No doubt there have been times I was worried I was missing out on something here, and that I was going to end up heart broken, but he's moving to Canada next year and we could not be happier! It's very important you choose the right person to go long distance with, and to always stay optimistic for the next time you'll be together!

“The fact that it happened means it can happen again in a much more suitable way” OMG. I guess it is going to become one of my favorite quotes from now on. I needed this so much. And it is not at all about a long-distance relationship, but about every person who you feel connected to and yet find it impossible or inappropriate. I would go for it anyway and then end up hurt so much. In one of your other videos, there was a moment when you asked a girl "when did you feel like he is not right for you" and she said "from the very beginning". And she wasted a couple of years. I guess so many of us are this way. We feel that rare connection, and a spark, and an outburst of feelings, and we want to keep it this way no matter what. Even if a guy turns out to be beneath your standards. Or if there are red flags, or if you have cultural/religious differences. How do you let go of that feeling and torn the bond, while this person makes you feel so amazing? I would cling on the emotions and try not to let go till it would get too hard. I would dream on fiction scenarios where it becomes possible and you get a happily ever after. I was looking for this answer for so long. Just thank the universe it happened. Someone showed you that it is still possible to feel that way. You still have this fire inside of you. And this will happen with someone right. Thank you, Matt

I met my boyfriend when I was in Hungary, we had only a few days together, and the I left to San Diego for a year (I am Belgian and he is German). After a year of me being on the other side of the globe, he came over and met me in Belgium. Now I feel like the luckiest girl on earth, even though we still live apart, I enjoy every second we have together.

I'm madly in love with someone from Sweden and we've known each other online for 5 years nearly six years, and I live in the Southern United States. The whole situation is complicated in a few ways however I can't imagine living without this person.

probably one of the most helpful videos you've posted. i need this two years ago when I met the boy who lived across the country. no regrets of course, but it may have saved me some heartache.

Often we attract ourselves to unavailable men because of a subconscious fear of relationships or of being left. If we're dumped by an unavailable person, it's the situations and not my fault... Like a defence mechanism.

It's pretty funny when he asked her if she has any desire to move to London lol

This caller has a fear of real intimacy. That's why she's attracted to geographically unavailable men. Fantasy is more palatable than reality for some.

My mother and father lived in different countries. He came to her first, then she moved to him, then they moved to her home country. Married for 50 years and still in love!

I recently went travelling around Europe and also had similar experiences as the caller. And like Mathew said these experiences are actually there to show us that it's possible to have romantic connection with someone at that level, and we just need to cherish it and keep ourselves opened to the the ones available in own geographic areas. 👌🏼✌🏻️

With all respect , there is no distance or nobody could destroy pure love unless if the lovers themselves ruin it. Honesty and sincerity is the most important basis in every relationship so If she sincerely wholeheartedly feels and believes this relationship is worth (and so he does), they would make through this distance no matter how they're far from each other. To be honest, I completely disagree with you when you said she can find a suitable one for her rather being with the guy in London because Love cannot be found easily .

Matthew is so eloquent

Long distance relationships are wonderful! Many of my (young) friends have married their long distance boyfriends and have made their marriages work DESPITE the cultural differences. I even moved to Holland in the 70s for a long distance boyfriend. We parted, I stayed and we've remained friends for 43 years. That said, I do believe that most relationships are ultimately destined to end after a period of time whether you live across the world or across the street from that special someone. Have a great long distance romance with this guy and enjoy the moments you get to spend together .. then when it's over, you'll have wonderful memories to take into old age. But, go into all relationships knowing that they are very likely impermanent and you'll never be disappointed .. unless you've produced children .. then life becomes a bit harder.

What i learned from this: There’s a big difference between massive Attraction and massive Intention. 💥 💥 In LDR, you need to keep things interesting by showing that you’re interested! Don’t be in scarcity mentality- there are still many guys out there! 🔥 Such a great enlightenment 😍😍

This is basically the majority of my dating life, I always fall for a guy who lives in a city too far from me or one of us moves countries. Due to my career I can work in different places pretty easily and I do ask myself those questions of if I started to date this person long distance can I see myself getting work and moving closer to him. I've had one case where I really could see myself moving for them but the effort on his part to see me was so minimal, just sweet short messages and emojis, nothing substantial, no actual plans. He kept putting it all on me saying it was my decision if I wanted to move, basically as a way for him to get no blame if it didn't work out when me moving wasn't just because of him, he was one factor, a pro on the list. His lack of wanting to invest in a relationship with me made me lose a lot of feelings for him and I had to move on because I knew I deserved a relationship with someone who is excited and willing to try to create something with me. I'm still searching for my person but my advice for anyone in a similar situation is ask are one of you willing to eventually be with the other, if you are both set in staying in your own place then the relationship sadly won't work in the long run. And to just be careful of being more willing than the other person to take any step forward because I believe it should be equal if you want a solid partnership.

I love her passion and vulnerability, but a few points: 1. 48 hours into knowing this guy she has gone from 0-60 and is falling too hard too quickly. 2. The question "how do I keep him interested?" is the wrong question to ask. The proper approach is to build a friendship by corresponding and actually getting to know him to see if they are actually compatible.

Again, Matthew delivers the truth!!! Love watching him every Friday!

The empowering way of talking about "the one that got away" shed so much more light than the logic that was somewhere in my head (deep down of course, due to self-persuasion). Thank you for sharing this. I've found closure and finally letting go of the "what if" although that chapter of my life was a few year back :)

This is exactly what is happening to me right now.. thank you so much for this video, Matthew! It completely just changed the way i think about this situation I am in now and i think this will actually save me from a lot of heartache too. I have never watched any relationship advice videos before but i gotta say you are really helpful and i'm glad you do what you do! So, thank you!

Matthew just has solved my half-year dilemma in 17 minutes. Matthew, man, here's just another one voice proving you're doing a great job. The most precise-angle-looking-from coach!

Just what I need. I was struggling with long distance relationship, half world away, and it's just keep me questioning will it work or not. Sometimes guys don't really tell what they think or how they feel or fear. And Matthew, thank you for making it so clear and rational :)

I really needed this! I'm from Argentina and met this guy from London like 10 days ago. The connection was almost instantaneous. We've known each other for less than two weeks but we've been on 3 dates already. I've never felt this way before, ever. The thing is he's staying here for 3 months,, then he's going back to London. So I'm really struggling with what to do. Cause I know that if I stop seeing him I'll save myself a lot of pain, but at the same time I want to keep on seeing him cause he's a wonderful guy! I've never felt like this before.

I was in Long, Long LDR (almost a decade) and boy did it hurt when we both realised it was going nowhere because we both weren’t willing to move to the other person’s country

If you want to make it work, you’ll find a way 💗 but it has to be from both sides wanting it.

I needed to hear this advice for some months ago. something similar happened to me and I felt like I lost the magic when he left. I felt heart broken and desilussioned. But like you said I am glad it happened. There's hope that I can feel that happy again some day. You are a light to me Matthew. Thank you

so many "aha" moments, thank you!

"sobering questions". Yesss, Matthew knows how to dissect these emotionalized stories and what to say. Great talent.

Listening to your audio makes me feel so peaceful. I’m Chinese and my bf is German. We’re doing long distance now it’s so hard but it’s also sweet. We’re figuring out the way to be together. Hope all of the long distance lovers can be together in the end.

Your honesty and kind wording feels like a warm hug to me, after experiencing this type of relating with someone. Thank you for allowing me to see the lesson of this! xx

A little bit late to the game but what he is saying in this video is extremely pertinent to my life right now - especially the idea of the scarcity complex and creating a fantasy of someone. This is something I've done in my life not only once, not only twice but three times. The second one came to a head very recently after nearly a year and was honestly one of the most painful rejections of my life. The third, which has just happened I have fortunately managed to shield myself from extreme amounts of hurt but I can see myself acting in these patterns of behaviour- idiolising someone, believing I will never find a person that good. It's so nice to have Matthew put this into words and to help me identify those patterns of thought.

Thanks Matthew. As I suffered from this same situation, I can say, we knew, both of us, that we couldn't have that kind of distance relationship especially when there is no solution for us to be reunited. And I agree with you that being stuck in it is just tortured and useless pain. Only point is that when you keep this relationship goes for months, you start to have feelings and this is so hard to move on and cut off even if you know that it is the best solution for yourself. so good luck to this lady and thanks for your pieces of advice which are very aware and it is good to here them from a man. Thank you very much.

Such a great conversation and valuable insight from Matthew. I love that he brough reality to the situation and didnt preach the "love can beat anything! go for it!" kind of discussion.

7 years later, when i matched a guy on tinder who lives on the another side of the world. I returned to this video and still got a lot from it. Thank you so much Matt, i hope he feels the same and let the universe find a way for us to meet and fall in love. Thank you so much!!

why girls are easy to fall inlove.. and im one of it. 😦😦

This video is very apt to my current situation. Met my 'dream' man on a train to Vienna whilst we were both travelling Europe. Him being from London, and me literally from the other side of the world in Melbourne, Australia. To make matters just a little more difficult, he's also a soldier with the Royal British Marines. Changing our plans so we could spend 3 more days in each others' company gave us time to squeeze as much information as we could to make sure we were a good match, and by both accounts (and the peoples' around us) -it was outrageously obvious! The thing that I feel most blessed about is we were able to establish a realistic and honest plan from the beginning, with guidelines and open feelings. I think this factor alone will be the saving grace of what seems like an impossible love story! Being cheeky as Matthew talks about here is such a fantastic way to keep the spark exciting! Earlier I was feeling alone and crazy in my determination for this to work, but reading these comments and knowing there are people out there going through the same thing, with some even having success, fills me with a little bit of hope. Thankyou to Matthew for the ever-wise perspective!

I live in one of the most isolated cities in the world. And I needed to hear this. Thanks for sharing it.

It's hard to be in a LDR. Especially if he's in another country. I was in a LDR not too long ago but it wasn't another country though. He was in Texas and I was in Indiana. We met online on OK cupid. He said how are you? You are very beautiful. I said thank you, I'm good. Then we started talking about things we were into and we were into a lot of the same stuff. Then he asked if we could kik. (it's an app for texting) So I went to his profile and looked at it and it said he was in Texas. I was like whoa because normally I have a rule about dating long-distance but I broke it this one time and it was the best thing I ever did. He asked me to be his girlfriend two days later. I said yes. We talked for a while and then in august 2015 I went there on vacation to see him for the first time. We met up and hit it off that much more. I was sad to be leaving and going home. Then about two weeks or so after I got back from there he proposed to me. I said yes because I really love him so much and we really hit it off and there was an attraction there. Then we kept talking but the distance was killing us. Finally we decided to do this so that we wouldn't have to be lonely not being together. I moved there in November 2015 and I couldn't be happier. Our bond is that much stronger and we are both very happy together. My point of that story is LDR's can work out, despite all the hardships you have to go through as a couple and all the work it takes to keep it going. If it worked out for me it can work out for other people too. More and more people today are in a long-distance relationship. We talked like he mentioned, the "sexy talk". I told him how my day was and he told me how his was. We were there for each other. LDR's can work as long as there's a plan for one person to move where the other person is.

Matthew is a solution to everyone and he is a great adviser. His words give us a lot of insights not only on that situation but for different situations that we may experience.

"We're so easy to come by, go and find another one!" 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I think Matthew is very inspiring and helpful and really helps make you feel that you’re not alone. “Lovelife” is amazing x

this video was a revelation for me in the situation I am, it's more or less the same experience the girl had. Your advices helped me to understand more and better what to do and how to be positive, a huge thank you Matthew!

There needs to be a support group for people in LDRs 😔

Thanks for this video. I'm struggling with a long distance "undefined" relationship ugh. And you are confirming my thoughts about the situation.

been in the same situation. if I had followed your advice back then would have saved me from so much pain. Well done Matt for giving your thoughtful, honest opinion. Always so many good points and words of wisdom from your videos!

It's so painful to hear this reality and to accept it. Thank you, bro!

Just started following you Matthew, I am amazed at the depth of your insight! What a gift you have. You are accomplishing what we all want to do, your making a difference.

God Matthew you're amazing Thank you so much. I had such a horrible time after breaking up with my ldr boyfriend. I wished I would have watched this video so many months earlier. You just opened my mind by saying I'll be able to feel this kind of love again with someone else in my life. There was a time where I thought there will never be someone else who can give me this kind of love again, but now.. I'm so ready to move on in my life, so ready to be happy again and just enjoy everything that's ahead of me. And this video just encouraged me to go on one step further. Your videos are amazing thank you so much. Love from Germany

I find this the perfect place to leave you a testimonial! I met my now husband and father of my child in London. He lived in Rio de Janeiro at the time. I followed your advice and it was magical. I had to get rid of the limiting beliefs to make your advice second nature but it was so beneficial. Thank you! Or as we say in Rio, Obrigada!

the universe sent this specially to me

You can have a successful long distance relationship if and only if; 1. you've been together for long enough already before doing LD 2. you know exactly when the LD is going to end (ie you will be in the same country/city again). Trust me I've tried LD many times, seen a lot of my friends try it, LD has to end at some point unless one person is willing to move.

This really hit home with me. Have experienced this "spark" recently with a guy who was emotionally unavailable. And I had never felt like that for someone before. The difficult thing for me is that I see him quite often but I know that nothing can come of it, which only makes it harder to get over him. I hope I find that connection with someone again soon!

I felt the same, I still miss him.

This is such a great video, wow! You are helping millions of women! Thank you so, so much, Matthew!!! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

Sounds like infatuation on her part. How can she be this smitten with a man she only knew for two days?

I can totally relate to this story and that's what I needed to hear right now... words of wisdom

I'm one of those who this content has definitely helped! Brilliant advice, thank you Matthew Hussey! 💞

I know the struggles. It happened to me out of the blue...and we have been talking for a month already missing each other... Great advice Matthew!!

Too late for me, I have been waiting for the love of my life for 9 years. We met on the internet and we have never met in person. We were suppose to get together a long time ago but too much adversity and hardships kept us from it. I truly love him and he loves me back, it is a deep connection and I can not find anyone like him here.We are trying to find a way to be together but sometimes it seems so impossible.I'm still hopeful, I truly love him. Hope it comes true for us.

Wow, I think I´ve been following your work for so long that I have it practicly internalised it. Funny story, a couple of days ago guy asked me out and I rejected him. I felt really bad for him after and because I´m only 20 this was the first time a guy had asked me out. So this came into my mind "You know this is actually a good thing. Becase this means it can happen again. So don´t feel bad for saying no to someone who is defenetly not your cup of tea. This is just the begining of a new journey.". Thanks for the video, you are such a role model for me. I hope one day I get the oportunity to help people find love just like you do.

I fall in love with this guy every time he speaks. Such wisdom!

this is quite what i'm going through righ now! thanks a lot. it's really helpful! it's not just the distance between us i mean we'er in two diffrent cities. the truth is we're the persons in diffrent world yes i feel like he's too good to me. so i pushed him away and it's torturing me every second. now what matthew says is a consolation to me.

This kind of connection happens one in a million.

Matthew you're genuinely such a lovely person!

Matthew , each time I watch ur videos , I can't belive how much wise person you are! topic of this video relates so much to me . you've really cleared up many things to me . Thank you for what you do ! and as always- you look great:)

This is the question I have ALWAYS wanted to ask. I felt like it was me the one calling. Thanks MH!

So beyond true! I was in a long distance relationship and we closed it after a year. Now we've been together for 1.5 years :) - but it has been the most difficult, time-consuming - body and spirit - and everything in between - thing I have done in my life! I now live in Germany with my love (Canadian girl) but I still have many challenges to overcome - Learning the language, making a new group of friends, changing career paths, getting past culture shock, learning a new way of life, having to grow thick skin and be very strong and independent living as an outsider and being away from Home and the familiar - holy f - the only reason I think I have gone through with all of this is because he is my first bf and first love having met him just when I turned 21 on a vaycay through the Balkans (now 23 turning 24). Had I been less innocent and naive and more experienced I would have said NO! Hehe but we love each other and it feels so right being together. He did try living in Canada for me but due to circumstances it didn't work out. Thankfully living abroad was always something in my mind but I was thinking more about the Gulf or Hong Kong but here I am. Good luck to everyone who is in a lg relationship or has met someone from across the border :), it is possible but you have to be honest with how much you are willing to let go of and how much you want to put in.

i am from Malaysia and my beloved someone from US now. we've love each other and i am willing to move to antoher US for him. In march. he want me go to US for seen first time. Of Course i want because am really miss him. sometimes im afraid because he not infront with me..Please prayer for this realtioonship for the real one because am Love Him So Much.

Here i am joining this LDR! We've been talking about 2 months now and started to have feelings for each other. He is planning to visit me around May next year. But things are hard to plan due to covid and travel restrictions at the moment. I really hope this can work out for us in the near future!!!

I wish I saw this a year earlier. There is so much wisdom in this video. Always be empowered by your suggestions:) Thank you Matthew

Great advice and I previously left a long distance relationship after 6 yrs because there were no plans or intentions to end the distance

Fabulous video. More advice on long distance relationships please!

That is probably the #1 blocker...moving to another country and leaving the familiar behind ie. family, friends, food or country. I came to this ultimatum and I wasn't ready and lost him. * I was just divorced and balancing my life and indecisive. It took two years to balance and I'm ready now, but he got angry and couldn't wait for me. He wanted me there asap. It hurt us both. We met through a friend, talked over skype for a year, then I bought a ticket and flew to Germany and spent two months with him. I got spooked and flew home without saying a word, but felt he'd understand and we could work it out. He wasn't understanding. He grew up in Manchester, UK and he was all those things I wanted in a man. *after listening to your video today, I see I could meet someone as wonderful again. I hope, he was pretty unique. *Thank you, Matt. xo

Unselfishly, I hope Matthew is okay and his heart is not hurting for anything. Thanks for helping us, but we should help you too. No matter what you go through, if you feel down, just know that we are thankful for your presence and your efforts. Just being a nice human. Nothing prompted this message. I truly care about people who give and never take.

I had this exact situation happen..fell for a guy who lives in London. Never felt a connection like that. And it does end up hurting worse over time. it's hard to tell how someone lives their life when you don't have the benefit of seeing them on a day to day basis. I asked how can we make this work his reply was very practical, but I don't think he had the intention! So thanks for explaining that perfectly haha

Great work! So brilliant and insightful.

You're lovely! Thank you so much for this message Matt!! Oh! My heart goes out to that girl, I so get her, and thank you for the part of the thankful mindset, that the fact that we can be so attracted to someone assures us it can happen for us!!! God bless.

I love the last bit of advice so much, such a nice reminder

somehow this makes me sad. *teary eye

I feel like Matt should take this girl out.

I've recently lived the exact same thing being him in LA and I in Europe. This was so so helpful because although it still hurts for not being possible to live this fully it reminded me that I can have a connection. thank you so much... no words

My Man and I video Skype every morning and evening. It's a highlight of our day.

This advice was spot on!! It does make me feel a little melancholic, however. It's just crazy how many frogs you have to kiss to get to some decent guys... and even some of them don't work out-- but it's a good perspective too use that energy to keep us hopeful for other men who may have those same characteristics...