What Makes a Man Suddenly Commit? | Matthew Hussey 

Same here. Could not agree more 👍🏼

true

Sometimes he said something I couldn't comprehend at the moment but later I worked it out...like....so this is what Matthew was talking about!

Thank you for posting this list!!!

That's a good summary, thanks ☺️

谢谢你

非常感谢。

Thank you! 🙏

I agree

Some can see something negative even in a try to smile and be nice. Have had some rant about that "sneer" you gave them. Then again, I might not have the greatest smile :)

Yes!!!!! A relationship could start with admiration and gratitude

❤❤❤

Will do love that

Lucky people that you found each other! I’m dating a nightmare right now, hate having to keep looking for a better match other than trying to fix this one.

@@youyoua988 Just stop waisting your time with the nightmare guy, give yourself the love, time and attention you need to recover from him and get ready to find yourself a dream guy. 🎶 I know it's easier said than done but if you're too busy fixing someone, you'll be unavailable to look around and notice what's better or if someone cool approaches you you'll be too distracted with the wrong guy to be available for the dude. Good luck 👍

You will never “fix” anyone. Move on.

Okay is this guy coming back to me or not 😊

@vibratac can you share how you communicated your standards and what they were? Ive always given too much of myself in past relationships and now that I've grown into a deeper love for myself and self worth. I have met someone new that I like and would like to do it better than before now. I have definitely learned boundaries at this point in my life but would love your opinion/advice. Thanks.

that era of human life, thats y where we are.

Stop TEXTING. Start talking!

What makes it stop before it reaches there ?

Not if your aware!

Exactly!!! They don’t give you enough time to get to know them, they don’t put enough effort so makeup by giving them too much and they still don’t care.

As a woman, I say don’t go looking for love .. focus on you, heal any trauma you have, try to be the partner that you always dream of finding and then love will find you unexpectedly.

@@majrminer IDK what types of women you and men with your mindset are dating but surely we all must take responsibility for who we're choosing to try to date. It's easy to tell if someone is shallow on the first meeting with them. Even in chat. If you're chasing the gorgeous woman all the time, you might expect her to be superficial if she's the type that needs tons of makeup and clothing to accentuate her "beauty". But I suppose that's type of woman that most men seek. If a female is high maintenance, she will likely seek a partner who has money, unless she has her own. I'm always seeking men of substance but seem to only have my inboxes and DMs full of men who only are DTF. Yes, women may have a buttload of dudes hitting her up, but all women will be selective due to that. Thus, the men we respond to are the one's were visually attracted to first, then, we chat to find out their personality and what they're looking for. We seek compatibility and we move on quickly to the next if it's not there. It's that simple. IDK many women gold digging but I do know it's a plus if a man has a good job and healthy lifestyle. Isn't that what we all want? Guys have told me I have "potential" to be their future gf or life partner but then run off with the shiny, hot chick they see. -the issue goes both ways. Another example, after becoming pregnant, a woman's personality often changes a bit because of the crazy hormones raging in her body. Men often become frustrated with these changes and unwilling to stay with her to work it out. There's little sense of loyalty in relationships anymore it seems, and it's hard to find someone who is DEDICATED to a LIFETIME of putting in REAL work into the relationship EVEN WHEN YOU NO LONGER WANT TO OR DESIRE TO. Ppl just quit on each other when it gets too hard. But do men give up on their career goals when it's too hard? No. Do they stop working on their workout routines when they don't want to? No. People need to realize that if they want a relationship to last, they need to put the same amount of dedication into building and maintaining those relationships. Sadly, I find that most men are unwilling to be vulnerable enough with a woman, and to face their fears. They're refusing to FEEL and face their past traumas in order to heal. When we heal, we're going to recognize the fake from the real ones. Anyway, that's my take on all that.

@@belleccino This is a great answer... It is a softer version of the opinion a youtuber (entrepeneurs in cars) has, that you have to chase excellence, especially as a man.

Hi Ronzalpha...i feel exactly the same way...lets be friends!

Showing that you are sensitive

Thanks Mathew looking forward to find one who elf commit

They are great tips! Took a screen shot, cheers

@@RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light You're welcome!

And you can be all these things and it still won't happen if he's not happy with himself.

@@vylet2292 It has nothing to do with him not being happy with himself. That's mumbo jumbo. A man doesn't commit when: 1. He's a player. 2. He thinks you're not attractive enough to be his girlfriend.... obvious sign being that he doesn't introduce you to friends and family 3. He believes you are "easy". Any other reason will be a made up excuse.

Much love and blessings I feel this 💛💛

Sending you love and hugs

He sounds like a narcissist. That's what they do and I've experienced it with my ex husband left me cold with babies. It hurts.

Nah, he doesn't deserve you.

late love bombing. make sure you have a support system independent of her m

That sounds awesome! 😊

It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

he is father Akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive

Yeah people and their peace drive me a bit up the wall tbf. I always watch out for those who say they want no drama… life is drama. And most of the time they’re looking for a barbie doll in a box. They have all the “crazy” exes… want their peace but don’t bring any to their SO. Shove petroleum on a burning match and let it burn into flames and wonder what the fuck is going on when it explodes… There is a masculinity crisis and it’s a shambles. First things first… women are women. We are hormonal. We are emotional. And if you want mystery and allure and desire and passion, as well as loyalty and commitment and stability - recognise that it comes at a fair price and please try and understand the opposite sex. Not repress us so much into a state of zen submission that we end up emotionally exhausted and drained but hide it and die of cancer at 48 cos it had to come out somewhere. Being the perfect woman shouldn’t cost you your sanity just for a man who is less than. Oftentimes when women fulfil this ideal role for men, they are often decreasing inside and usually end up being the dude’s therapist or mother. It’s a shocker what lengths people are going to in order to find love.

Thank you for sharing. It happened something similar to me, but he's surely an avoidant. It's difficult to bring peace to someone who doesn't the same with you. They are fine with you at the beginning, but it is not sufficient. I was SO proudly vulnerable and he treated me poorly anyway. My exciting vision of sharing with love seemed to be an alien planet to this man. My standards were told but he found his ways to skip them and when we are in love it's not easy to keep boundaries.

Omg, exactly! You hit the nail with the growth mindset

Better is on the way, he was wonderful, but not 'the one', he's coming and you'll be glad the old one made space for him 💜

You stated he was dismissive avoidant and it seems to me that’s why he broke it off. It was too much for him to handle that he might be becoming attached bc that’s the worst arrangement. They do not relate well so it may have literally scared him. My husband does this when he’s feeling close. It’s obvious now but wasn’t back when our children were little.

Most men don’t commit easily, specially if they’re young. They are like peacocks looking on how to attract as many women as they can. They are mostly inmature and don’t have a need to commit. Too many free women around… if you can get the milk for free, why buy the cow mentality. Moral standards and life principles too low nowadays. Men mostly mature and look for commitment after 38 or so… Be well And blessings from above.

Being a bit older now, I can honestly say that all this analysis of a person’s personality and attachment style is pointless. Most people will raise the bar for someone they truly are attracted to and respect I’m a terribly disorganized person. My boyfriend isn’t. I’ve been inspired to really see the beauty in things and presenting things at their best. He DID not want to feel like he was losing his independence and didn’t see himself getting serious. But he has. We just spent the holidays at each others family’s. It’s two very different examples of how habits and feelings change when you just approach things with the idea that honesty, respect, and yes, some chemistry are all you really need to worry about. Plenty of wrong guys will leave, but the right one will stay.

@@Mayfloweralways yeah his fears outweighed what he felt for op. But when it's the other way around as in feelings are stronger than the fears, it can be overcome

Your ego and lack of discipline needs to addressed 1.

Give her full access total transparency if you want to regain her trust or that distrust will never be dealt with.

Natalia Sivova. Ur words are so soothing.

Natalia Sivova..Ur saying absolutely right. I'm agree with your words. Really beautiful viedo nice content nd sweet voice. .

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Congratulations!

This is so true! I try to give as much safe space and peace as possible to this guy I’m currently dating, and he said “I can be myself around you.” But the moment I showed my vulnerabilities, he started pushing me around.😅😅 Is he the only one allowed to be himself in this relationship and I’m not…???

That peace has to be felt by both of you. It’s about sharing equally.

Exactly!

It seems you’re stuck! No good. Call it quits! No need to struggle for no one. Show that fellow you have dignity, which counts above all. Blessings from above.

Being vulnerable doesn’t necessarily mean you need to share past experiences. There are other ways of making oneself vulnerable, but honestly I believe the problem is with the culture through television programming and social media. People are not grounded and are unable to truly connect to others as they should. It’s a sin problem.

It’s them, not you. You’re doing great

My dear, without commitment how could there be a vision for the future? If a guy does not commit after 2 or 3 years, never mind, time to have a serious conversation. If no commitment, time to quit. They’re plainly not interested in you seriously. Quitting time. Harsh but true. Blessings from above..

Just tell t4hm what you envision that 4elatio shipt o look like... jot eith them, but with that guy who will be right for you one day. Its okay to share your vision

Vesna Vukadinovic. You are saying absolutely right.i.m agree with your words.

You did nothing wrong. It does hurt when you put your trust on someone you have grown to care for deeply. but we have to accept the fact that we can't control people's mind, thoughts and actions, we can only control ours, so when others do wrong, out of our expectations, it'stheir own choice. Remember that expectation leads to disappointment, so don't expect too much from anyone. Just be yourself and if they did not appreciate your loyalty and love you shown, let them go, it just means they aren't for you. When wrong things happens, see it as a good thing so you can let go of that person in order for the right one to come. There is someone for everyone. let go of the past and know that not everyone is the same. You have to let go of the past in order to move on to the future if you really want to have a brighter one. The right one that is compatible for you will come in it's time. No matter what, never blame yourself or blame others for someone else's mistake.

The key is trusting again... We ALL have been deceived but we have to keep believing...❤

Sorry to hear that, I think it would be important to remember that the new girl is not the last girl. I'm in a wonderful new relationship after my divorce and sometimes he is shocked that I want to get married again. My answer is always the same " Every man is not the same" Happy dating

Wipe every slate clean. If you hold on to past hurts, you’ll end up hurting someone that wouldn’t have hurt you, and the cycle will continue 😊

Your heart and soul will tell you which one is the right one to commit with. And do some homework: same values, same principles, dignity, same vision , brings you joy , love and peace? That’s the one!!! Blessings from above

How awful! Sorry for you. This kind of customs should be vanished!!!

Well, that was 3 months ago. But truly I have been struggling in this area for long time. I stuck between 2 men and at the end after all the fights and figuring out the truth I have to decide by my own which side I wanna stand with. It has been one year Matthew when I commit to the one who hold my hand first.

Congratulations! You did the right thing. Plenty of fish in the ocean to waste your time with someone who doesn’t care abt you. God bless.

"Teaching women to f---k--g meditate...." Sounds like you're bringing chaos and anger to the party. Guys, you DESTROY any peace a woman is foolish enough to bring to you.

Also women want commitment, though their offer isn't attractive

But why stay so long? Is it the "sunken cost" fallacy?