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Zhang Shasha stares out the window at a rare, blue, Beijing sky. "Next week I can go out," she says. "I miss outside!"
But for now she has to remain indoors, wrapped in a thick sweater and woollen hat, even though it is a warm spring day.
Deeply rooted in Chinese culture, women have observed zuoyuezi, or the "sitting the month", for generations.
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It is considered crucial for new mothers and their babies, and they are expected to remain indoors for at least one month after giving birth, following a strict and elaborate set of rules such as not washing their hair and eating pig's feet soup.
But this age-old ritual has now become a big business in modern China with wealthy women hiring professional confinement ladies to help them navigate this fraught period.
101 East goes inside the private world of confinement to explore the growing industry that has emerged to meet Chinese mothers' every need.
If you're a mother, we want to hear from you. Have you done traditional Chinese postpartum confinement? Or were there other practices you swore by? Share your postpartum rituals with 101 East on their Facebook page
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@cutieepiee
@cutieepiee 7 лет назад
I'm not Chinese, but this confinement stuff is brilliant. A new mother should be well rested and taken care of!
@FoggedTears
@FoggedTears 6 лет назад
But she should still be clean as well.
@annakana32
@annakana32 6 лет назад
Purple Piano Hey, I think it's a good start!
@priscillaadomabadu2154
@priscillaadomabadu2154 5 лет назад
ikr i think in givin birth there
@malo3287
@malo3287 5 лет назад
Ellie Grace Banks I give birth to my son in California Modesto Kaiser hospital. My delivery was so difficult and painful 😣 after giving birth my whole body was so swelled and painful that even a small and thin fabric that came in touch with my body made me cry of pain. I was all alone and my husband wasn’t granted off from work. I Was in hospital for 6 days and each second I cried of pain and my eyes were always in search for someone to come and help me with my baby. He is now going to be 17 months old but the pain I go through still makes me cry and depressed
@inkbold8511
@inkbold8511 5 лет назад
Ma Lo guess asians were right with this.
@LadyKate691
@LadyKate691 7 лет назад
Isolation for the first 30 days makes sense, baby is most at risk of infection - especially in a highly populated area. Mother is also at risk due to post-partum blood loss
@tharun960
@tharun960 7 лет назад
Makes sense back in the day when most countries didn't have proper waterways and sewage systems and cholera and the plague and stuff spread everywhere to isolate yourself and your baby from others and hopefully the spread of infectious diseases..? Maybe not so much in the 21st century.. Though China has lots of air pollution so hmm..
@liorlimjiexin4232
@liorlimjiexin4232 6 лет назад
Even if waterways are clean, they can easily fall sick from people who are sick and don't wear masks or anything to protect as much of their germs from newborns & mom.
@emmamadison8538
@emmamadison8538 6 лет назад
ahri Yes but only if the babies breastfeed they get the antibodies.
@wowso4
@wowso4 5 лет назад
ParisianPrincess it’s good for babies to be exposed to different types of environments so that their immune system gets use to it and gets strong if they are sheltered and over protected they will get sick later on
@angenellafernandes7362
@angenellafernandes7362 5 лет назад
I found this really beautiful where woman are being taking care of. Nowadays women who just given birth are back on their feet. Cooking , cleaning running after other kids. Hardly any help from people around them. This is just beautiful to see!!
@QueenQueenly
@QueenQueenly 7 лет назад
I need a confinement lady even if I don't have a baby
@tl11rj7x
@tl11rj7x 6 лет назад
lmaoo
@jlewis122
@jlewis122 6 лет назад
Lol
@o0LoveLove0o
@o0LoveLove0o 5 лет назад
Me too
@wowso4
@wowso4 5 лет назад
Queen Queenly LoL would be nice wouldn’t it
@NikaBoyce
@NikaBoyce 5 лет назад
Queen Queenly god, yes
@shiningstar7775
@shiningstar7775 4 года назад
In Nigeria confinement is calle "Umugwu". Your mother comes and takes care of you and the baby along with other female relatives. The mother focuses on feeding the baby and resting. It's basic common sense.
@lucyroark4189
@lucyroark4189 2 года назад
How do grandmothers manage to do their part if they're working full time??
@trinichick76
@trinichick76 7 лет назад
I don't have a baby and I want a confinement lady, lol.
@missmac1771
@missmac1771 7 лет назад
Lol same! I think it's a brilliant thing!
@paolabueso
@paolabueso 7 лет назад
trinichick76 I agree!
@PD-fy6yq
@PD-fy6yq 7 лет назад
I think its slavery for spoiled rich women
@majorblues1128
@majorblues1128 7 лет назад
Is it slavery if they're paid and have agreed to the terms beforehand? Many jobs require that you move to a remote location with nothing to do but work. How is this any different?
@seliatoyindamola6682
@seliatoyindamola6682 7 лет назад
You can not be a confined mother.I guess there is a misunderstanding,it is for new mother to gain their strength.That is the whole concept.
@emmyeatons
@emmyeatons 7 лет назад
It's not to this extreme, but it's really similar in my East African culture. My mom said she didn't take any of her babies out for 30-40 days, you shave the hair off to ensure it grows back nice and healthy, and the mom is pampered during those set days. Crazy how similar cultures are.
@jhasjhis9
@jhasjhis9 7 лет назад
Yeah all except "Anglo Culture"
@tinamurray5670
@tinamurray5670 6 лет назад
Em S
@nazanin2012
@nazanin2012 6 лет назад
Same thing in Afghan culture but its for 40 days.
@SabzKhumalo
@SabzKhumalo 5 лет назад
Yep same here in South Africa, only people allowed in is the Dad, mother, mother in law and your siblings.
@ceekay2008100
@ceekay2008100 5 лет назад
In Ghana too not sure if it applies to all the tribes. It's normally 40 days until the baby and mother are strong. The baby has a naming ceremony at that stage normally. You can shower and bath though. Lol
@lauraereku6968
@lauraereku6968 5 лет назад
As a mum I feel this is a beautiful tradition. Glad RU-vid recommend this video
@shamelesshussy
@shamelesshussy 4 года назад
Laura Ereku You think it’s beautiful to discouraged to feed, dress, bathe or meaningfully interact with your brand new baby during its first month of life whilst being told not to wash yourself, brush your teeth, go outside, drink anything cold, and wear coats and hats even if it’s hot and apparently being isolated from your partner? Beautiful?
@lbw9830
@lbw9830 7 лет назад
In America you're expected to bounce right up the next day and look like a Victoria's Secret model with NO help from a professional team of experts 🙄 Confinement sounds grrrrreat!
@linahkadasia5679
@linahkadasia5679 6 лет назад
Hahaha
@mazimadu
@mazimadu 6 лет назад
Lol
@RipleysSanatorium
@RipleysSanatorium 6 лет назад
Maybe that was YOUR experience.
@mamsmith83
@mamsmith83 5 лет назад
Lol I know right
@eviejynx4550
@eviejynx4550 5 лет назад
no one cares sis.
@khumishomogorosi2923
@khumishomogorosi2923 7 лет назад
This is almost similar to our culture in South Africa, called botsetsi. but it's not done by professionals, your mother comes to live with you or you go live with her for up to 3months. it's so amazing to find that we so different yet so similar
@ailinos
@ailinos 7 лет назад
khumisho mogorosi is that practiced by Afrikaans speakers too?
@khumishomogorosi2923
@khumishomogorosi2923 7 лет назад
Ailín Ó'S ,No it's a tradition practiced by native South Africans, Afrikaans speaking don't
@ailinos
@ailinos 7 лет назад
khumisho mogorosi Ahhh okay I see. Thanks for clarification
@laela6289
@laela6289 7 лет назад
Yes!! My family is Krio, (Sierra Leone), my grandmother came to stay over to help my mom when I was born. I'm quite sure many cultures have traditions where the grandmas come over to help their daughters and daughter-in-laws when they just had babies.
@kamdemcarole2300
@kamdemcarole2300 7 лет назад
khumisho mogorosi Camerun too and she gives you hot water massages ( painful) basically to clean you up..and flatten back your stomach. It's cool though because it tightens relationship with your mom, make you rest perhaps because mostly they don't allow you do chores.
@Lucyinthskyy
@Lucyinthskyy 7 лет назад
That redheaded father has some strong genes. There kids are adorable. I wanted my baby to have red hair like his dad.
@riverdeep399
@riverdeep399 5 лет назад
Lucy both parents need the red gene.
@westernyay1701
@westernyay1701 4 года назад
River Smith the mom has well black hair
@carolinemaxwell9780
@carolinemaxwell9780 3 года назад
I love red hair
@jazz-axy9924
@jazz-axy9924 5 лет назад
It makes sense she'd be getting paid over 2k. She's basically clocking into work today and clocking OuT 30 whole days later
@moshyi
@moshyi 4 года назад
Seriously! She's basically working for 30 days straight, no break. 2k doesn't even seem enough
@DJeantet
@DJeantet 5 лет назад
My husband is Chinese, we lived in America at the time of our daughter's birth, it's really impossible to stay home the first month as they want you to go to Doctor's appointments the first week. I went out a few times but the baby stayed home with his parents (who traveled all the way from China to help us). His parents took care of the cooking and cleaning and the baby when I needed to rest, I ate some interesting traditional dishes that were supposed to help with postpartum and breastfeeding. Overall they didn't pressure me to do anything traditional that I didn't want to, like the not washing bit, I took a shower the 2nd day in the hospital (requested by the hospital for post c-section). I feel we have the expectations on ourselves in America to do everything, be supermoms, which was honestly what I felt a lot during the first month, pressure on myself. The other disruption I felt was I wanted to just be alone with my husband and baby, and sometimes felt that wasn't really happening. I think next baby will be a bit easier as I'll know what I need, what boundaries I need to set. Overall, I was very fortunate to have such helpful in-laws. My parents both passed away years ago, otherwise I feel my mom would have helped as well.
@clairejevron6146
@clairejevron6146 5 лет назад
I had no support from anyone, my sons father drank and went out all hours. I was left in the house with a baby, weak from blood loss and having no one there. My mother would have helped me more if it wasn’t for my selfish, alcoholic father who demanded all her time and energy. 23 years later we are both living together supporting each other. My son has left home and my father is living somewhere else.
@carolinemaxwell9780
@carolinemaxwell9780 3 года назад
Hey there well done to both off you there’s nothing like your mammy your so lucky I brought two daughters up by myself my husband lived with us but drank like a fish and a dad that drank like a fish too my mammy died shortly after my youngest was born and I know that I would never have stayed with my husband I would have left him and moved in me my daughters and my mammy I’m so jealous of you and your wee mammy god bless you both stay safe and I wish you much happiness x
@sunnygc3010
@sunnygc3010 7 лет назад
I had a premature baby, the baby was in the hospital for 4 months. So for me it was like confinement. The nurses looked after the baby while I had a good night sleep every night and came into hospital to feed, bath etc. it was good as I was helped in how to look after the baby. I think this is really good.
@user-sm6se8pq2m
@user-sm6se8pq2m 5 лет назад
how much you paid them? it was incredibly expensive, wasn't it? one day of the costs you spent to the hospital could pay a Chinese confinement couple of weeks.
@kaylapratley3
@kaylapratley3 4 года назад
SUNNY GC my baby was a preemie to. He was in the hospital about 1 1/2 months tho. It’s nice to have nurses that were there to help
@balmofgilead7476
@balmofgilead7476 4 года назад
Me too! Mine was born 25 weeks so was hospital for ages, gave me a chance to have a good night sleep and rest
@prajanali
@prajanali 6 лет назад
It's been like this in most of India for centuries. The woman moves in with her mother for 3 months to get back her health, get parenting guidance and lots of help from her mom and other female relatives. The baby is given daily oil massages, bathed, changed, etc by grandma and relatives. Baby bottles are sterilized in hot water. The mother gets carefully prepared special food. There are no restrictions on bathing or brushing but moms and babies don't venture out for at least a month. After 3-6 months the baby's hair is shaved and is given a name in a "naming ceremony". A mother typically gets lots of help in India even after the first year of birth.
@yoongs3878
@yoongs3878 7 лет назад
What I learned from the comments : This confinement thing is practiced in India, South Africa, Latin America, everywhere, except among white people.
@thegirllikesmovies7389
@thegirllikesmovies7389 6 лет назад
yoongs yeah I've noticed that too. When my sister had my niece I was 16 and it was summer. I stayed with her for two weeks I did everything for her. I cleaned, did laundry and stayed up at nights feeding and changing diapers. That's just how it's always been done in my family for generations.
@nelliberry9403
@nelliberry9403 5 лет назад
There are white people all over the world. Don't make assumptions.
@shanadebusschere2137
@shanadebusschere2137 5 лет назад
Becaus we live in realty? We care for ower childreb ower selfs they wil come home thosex2xfrimbthe hotel and notvnowing how to change a dieper shexreally had no clue hat tocdo when the baby starte crying
@soroh0062255
@soroh0062255 5 лет назад
Yeah no. I'm sorry, I had to leave the hospital after three nights and I barely knew what to do and was super tired and bleeding and worried on top of that. Having someone around to help you, make sure you eat right, ... is excellent. In their last week in the hotel, they were getting more and more involved in the care of their child. they'll learn how to do things, just like any other parent. Living in "reality" doesn't have to mean being thrown to the wolves. Getting help from people (usually your mother in law and your mother) or a professional if you can afford it, is very much "reality", and it's healthier for everyone involved.
@gracenyantori9578
@gracenyantori9578 5 лет назад
Africa in general
@9400lilly
@9400lilly 7 лет назад
wow! lucky girls. After a day in the hospital after giving birth I came home to make lunch to my husband and elder kid and do laundry. I live in Europe. Not a helpful hand from a mother or mother-in-law. Always alone in absolutly everything. But now that they're elders they demand to be supported in everything as they never did! funny isn't it?
@krollpeter
@krollpeter 7 лет назад
PS: And Lilly, yes I noticed that. The grand parents in Europe often do not help anymore. Not all, but I did notice that too. Don't feel sad it is pointless.
@ReReChan
@ReReChan 7 лет назад
9400lilly your husband could help by doing the laundry and make his own food. :/
@krollpeter
@krollpeter 7 лет назад
He can do the grocery, he can clean the house, he can do laundry. If he's not at work he can also take over some of the cooking. Everyone can mock up at least a few simple things, and if not then he can go and buy some food. You focus on the baby. Be assured you will be rewarded by a kid that truly loves you, both of you. I went through that with my wife together, and we are glad we did. No help at all from any grandparents, too. Even the opposite. They only want the trouble free happy baby time.
@9400lilly
@9400lilly 7 лет назад
Thank you Peter. If there's a new baby some day that's wat will happen.
@9400lilly
@9400lilly 7 лет назад
ReRe Chan, Yes he could but those days I was young and naive. ;) It's good to see other people's realities to compare with ours and learn. Next time will be different.
@regularguyanonymous3248
@regularguyanonymous3248 6 лет назад
Bring this to the u.s my wife and I would have loved the help. Couple of amateurs leaving the hospital like “what do we do?” Lol.
@o0LoveLove0o
@o0LoveLove0o 5 лет назад
Just look at it. Make sure its breathing and feed a d change it lmaooo.
@maggie7408
@maggie7408 5 лет назад
If the couple are willing to pay $2800/month besides free food for the lady I think the US can create a lot of professional confinement lady too. But these days there are more care givers for elderly here in the US who cater for the need of the elderly who has ability to pay while the young mothers are expected to be strong, tough to meet the demands and tenderly loving the baby, then she is expected to go back to work after three months of caring for her newborn because that’s the only FMLA time given to a working mom.
@maggie7408
@maggie7408 5 лет назад
cp pc what’s the problem I’m just stating the facts, I don’t resent nor lament the situation, I’m replying to Regularguy Anonymous why we can’t bring this to the US, some rich people might be having this setting but the common or let’s say middle class cannot even afford that. I’m just saying that American women are tough and hardworking, as soon as my first born turn one month old I went back to work and at the same time took care of our son who is now a professional himself, as for the elderly some have the money so they can afford caregivers and that is just but facts so there I gave you a break.
@anayateh9996
@anayateh9996 5 лет назад
@@UnchosenRatomaniaTheS8 That wasn't the point.
@sventer198
@sventer198 5 лет назад
Call ya mom 😂
@lala7453
@lala7453 6 лет назад
As per my tradition i have been confined for 90 days. My mother and grandmom were the confinement ladies. It was such a great time. Eat , bath, feed baby , sleep and watch youtube videos. No tension.
@joycreateslife
@joycreateslife 4 года назад
Lol, you mean sneak watching RU-vid videos.
@tingwang2554
@tingwang2554 6 лет назад
The term confinement really irks me. They aren’t being forcibly confined, they are simply being nurtured back to health after doing something as strenuous as giving birth. I think the way they are doing it makes sense- giving women time to rejuvenate and being taken care of. I wish we did more of that in the US.
@r.brooks5287
@r.brooks5287 5 лет назад
A confinement is what staying home in late pregnancy and after birth was called when it was popular here in the UK. A short time for the poor, longer for the rich. It doesn't mean being forcibly confined.
@thariyyahazman2718
@thariyyahazman2718 7 лет назад
I think all over the world has this kind of tradition. This is for moms to restore back their health after giving birth.
@LeahLaushway
@LeahLaushway 7 лет назад
thariyyah azman No, on an international basis, this is unusual.
@majorblues1128
@majorblues1128 7 лет назад
Mostly old world non-European cultures, I think. So yeah, all over the world.
@TheFaro2011
@TheFaro2011 7 лет назад
Leah Laushway it really is all over the world but west
@meeeka
@meeeka 7 лет назад
Fari It USED to be in the West; the Enlightenment and later, the Industrial Revolution, killed it.
@bunnyrivera765
@bunnyrivera765 7 лет назад
susie C. Nope mostly Europeans. It's very common for Latin grandmothers they take care of their daughters & grandchild for up to 2 months
@bessyisyourbestieforever3164
@bessyisyourbestieforever3164 7 лет назад
omg I am Ethiopien and we literally have the same tradition. I just gave birth to my baby two weeks ago and my mother came from a week before the baby until yesterday to take care of me and prepare special foods and tought me and my husband how to take care of our newborn! Crazy how we literally do the same thing. I haven't left the house with our newborn yet, out of choice though not because I can't. Back in Ethiopia newborns stay inside for 40 days.
@pebbles987
@pebbles987 7 лет назад
It's the same in many African countries and Muslim countries
@c.morganfree1970
@c.morganfree1970 6 лет назад
In Somalia it's until the bleeding stops.
@intimom
@intimom 7 лет назад
Apart from the luxurious and privileged services provided for the rich. There is nothing wrong with this kind of practice as it provides the mother and baby long term benefits. It reduces the chances for a baby to contract any infection or diseases. The mother can heal without any stress and therefore can concentrate on bonding and nursing the baby which is so vital. Western culture does not value the mother and women's health so such wisdom and services are not supported. We have a lot to learn.
@cruisepaige
@cruisepaige 5 лет назад
intimom it does not look very luxurious to me. Looks pretty ghetto.
@user-sm6se8pq2m
@user-sm6se8pq2m 5 лет назад
this is not provided for the rich, this is for the middle class.
@ninninin656
@ninninin656 5 лет назад
@curiousinternals Actually she is very, very right. I would question, however, if it is truly any different in Asia. Especially a mother's life counts very little in most parts of the world.
@alisonmadalinski747
@alisonmadalinski747 5 лет назад
This documentary only interviewed people in 1st tier cities. The mothers and families were well educated AND wealthy. I live in a 3rd tier city and have seen some of my Chinese friends do confinement. Some are not particularly well educated and not well exposed to modern baby care (and if they are they ignore it BECAUSE of confinement). I have seen some pretty gross confinements and some really nice ones. It all depends on the family and the location. While the practice can be nice, it can also be stressful.
@emmaatwell3195
@emmaatwell3195 4 года назад
Doesn't the baby have a strong immune system that cannot catch diseases that protects them for 6 weeks?
@ingridtyree3284
@ingridtyree3284 5 лет назад
Those newborn days are so special and go by so fast. They are meant for bonding. I couldn't imagine giving that gift to someone else. No thank you!
@mchobbit2951
@mchobbit2951 5 лет назад
Right? I'll be glad to have someone help me with making food, doing chores etc. But no way do I want someone taking care of the baby instead of letting me do it, nor would I want to be away from my older children for a month.
@sidneyboo9704
@sidneyboo9704 5 лет назад
If you want more of a hands off, then you probably can request it. I mean shes cooking and cleaning so means more time for YOU to bond with the baby and not have to stress about that. She also knows how to make things to repair your body. I think its a great idea. Different for each client.
@loveamerica5725
@loveamerica5725 4 года назад
agree with you 100%
@NayLouise24
@NayLouise24 4 года назад
I agree. I had my parents. Mymother stayed for 6 weeks when i had my first. My dad came for 6 weeks with my second. It was such a great help!
@stefaniaogun9268
@stefaniaogun9268 4 года назад
Ok
@user-hi9cv1sc2i
@user-hi9cv1sc2i 7 лет назад
Confinement sounds like a good idea providing support at a very critical time. I wish my mother had more support.
@lizcastaneda4755
@lizcastaneda4755 7 лет назад
i like the idea of having so much help but i think its also a bit disruptive during the first few weeks of the vital mother and baby bonding.
@CodexArgenteus
@CodexArgenteus 7 лет назад
I agree. I think having mother/baby bonding time & isolation so that the baby (& mom) is not at risk of illness are good. And having some help (especially if relatives are far away) is good if you are a brand new mother and have no previous children and no previous experience caring for a baby. I wish this was more common in North America since we have "maternity leave" for working mothers to stay home and care for their babies, but less of a tradition of family or professional help immediately after the birth.
@xuyahfish
@xuyahfish 7 лет назад
I think it's a bit different for China especially b/c of the recent history. The older generations are looked on as not having modern education b/c of isolation, Cultural Revolution, etc. New parents would be skeptical of their mother's advice (not brushing teeth or bathing).
@jililin2078
@jililin2078 7 лет назад
Liz Castaneda this is new to the Chinese population. My mom did this on her own with the help of my father. Letting someone else take care of your kid isn't a thing until recently
@kyliexlexirl6064
@kyliexlexirl6064 6 лет назад
Liz Castaneda they do bond with their baby, she can feed when she wants or play when she wants even when they want mommy they will bring the baby to her. but I wish we gad this in the u. s.
@londyn9314
@londyn9314 6 лет назад
It good it ways yeah
@janiceraby6175
@janiceraby6175 5 лет назад
Personally I think this is wonderful! All cultures should do this. I was especially impressed with the after care for the mothers long term health of joints etc. Gosh I was expected to be up and about straight away. Within 5 days after giving birth to my third, I was back to school runs and swimming/gym lessons with the elder two. This would have been wonderful for our family.
@OzzieOzzieOzzieOyOyOy
@OzzieOzzieOzzieOyOyOy 7 лет назад
I come from Britain. When I had a baby, they kept me and the baby in hospital for a week. The nurses took care of the baby and me. It really helped as I had a long, difficult labour, and was exhausted.
@JustMe-dn9fh
@JustMe-dn9fh 7 лет назад
Actually a lot of African American families do this same thing. No going out and about soon after deviling a baby. No cold drinks after the birth either. No as for staying in the house 24/7 I never heard of that. A new mother needs time to recover. Great concept.
@ThatGirlJD
@ThatGirlJD 6 лет назад
Just Me We just stay in the house as much as possible for about the first six weeks, we don't really think about it because we are spending the time learning how to care for and bonding with our baby.
@noniabiznezz8825
@noniabiznezz8825 5 лет назад
Only go to babies 1st Dr. appointment during this time
@cleopatra1311
@cleopatra1311 5 лет назад
I remember being told not to take a bath. Shower is OK. Don't go out because your body is open ( immune system ) don't take the baby out because of colic ect. My sister spoiled me. She took over Lol with all three of my boys. I love her soo. She never had kids so mine are hers
@chetyoubetya8565
@chetyoubetya8565 4 года назад
What ahh yeah ok not
@AnimeDirectionBabe
@AnimeDirectionBabe 4 года назад
I thought so. I always though all women took a a little over a month inside the house so that the baby doesn’t get sick and the mom can bond and learn about the baby
@dinamcnasty
@dinamcnasty 5 лет назад
I've had 5 children, my oldest is almost 30 and the youngest is 11. I so could have used this! I was on my own even after cesarean, had cancer on the third and started chemotherapy while caring for my newborn. This would have been divine!😍😍👍💕
@dinamcnasty
@dinamcnasty 4 года назад
@Your thoughts Not mine me too , been cancer free for almost 20 years👍😁
@stephenwest2
@stephenwest2 3 года назад
@@dinamcnasty I'm happy to hear you're cancer free, congratulations on beating cancer!
@francescaoconnor2314
@francescaoconnor2314 2 года назад
I was in M&S doing the grocery shopping the day after having my second. This looks like paradise to me, our culture of in and out of hospital and back to normal life asap is too much. I really struggled with a newborn and a toddler and zero support.
@msmelindaluv
@msmelindaluv 5 лет назад
Aw i wish i had this . Id probably wouldnt have gotten postpartum depression if i had someone to help me . Actually learning new things
@mishael.aljuaid
@mishael.aljuaid 8 лет назад
The same tradition we have it in Saudi Arabia, but it's slightly different , it's called (alarbaeen) and means literally 40, woman supposed to stay at home for 40 days and she eat special food and drinks and must stay warm and not leave the house for 40 days, new mum find it hard so they stay with their mothers house to get help, and mostly visitors come to congrats the family and after that the new mum and baby can return home . in my opinion it's exaggeration and overly protective process
@jessiejay5198
@jessiejay5198 7 лет назад
Here in Tunisia is the same . We have the 40 days too and the over clothing as to protect ourselves againts the colds etc . And we put olive oil in our hair and wrapped it around with some head scarf and oh the no bathing thing after 40 days . But I guess I'm not into traditions , I barely did anything of these . Even my wedding , I didnt follow traditions like henna or hammam or big weddings . I'm more of doing my thing than following any traditions .
@nishakuttan2822
@nishakuttan2822 7 лет назад
mishael aljuaid In Kerala, India. We too follow a similar routine. Boiled water, extra clothes, special food and avoiding certain foods and oil treatments for baby and the mother and many other rules.
@lrke208
@lrke208 7 лет назад
mishael aljuaid Of course it's in Saudi Arabia too. Just for the womens entire life.
@nora4981
@nora4981 7 лет назад
Things have changed there, Saudi Arabian women enjoy things now they couldn't over a decade ago. Some areas are loosening up a bit. The people have adapted to it, and many are calling for more convenient rules ... don't try to dishearten a culture that's slowly coming to terms with the rest of the modernized world.
@jk3488
@jk3488 7 лет назад
Lærke Bundgård This offensive and disrespectful comment only shows your ignorant narrow-minded view of the world which does not accept the diversity :) If Saudi women are living their culture, which you don't accept, it doesn't allow you to judge them based on your culture. well, according to them, you can be judged as being a woman who is being objectified by her culture which doesn't respect her to the extent of having a harrassment and rape every 9 minutes according to your govermental statistics. After that, you're being left at the elderly house with no children to care for you. Sometimes a lot of western women are living a homeless life. No need to say that your payment is less than men's payment ;) You can't see any of this in Saudi Arabia due to the respect they pay for women as mothers, wives, sisters and daughters.
@catwomanbd
@catwomanbd 7 лет назад
Within the African-American community, people don't usually take their babies out for about three months traditionally. It's considered unsafe for exposing the baby to illnesses too early.
@emmamadison8538
@emmamadison8538 6 лет назад
catwomanbd I'm American and I never took my babies out of the house for first 3 months other then to their Dr appointment.
@ThatGirlJD
@ThatGirlJD 6 лет назад
I am a black American I was only restricted for 6 weeks. The hardest part was not washing my hair for that time. Lol It is shocking to me that people find this as odd or crazy, I always assumed most people did this in some form! It promotes healing and you get to bond with your baby and learn how to be a mother.
@KamilaDalmate
@KamilaDalmate 5 лет назад
catwomanbd my parents took me out. They had to. Both of them worked and I needed extra doctor’s appointments because I was a premie
@flaiirenn
@flaiirenn Год назад
i'm not african american, though we do the same. i wasn't taken outside until i was at least six months old. it's a practice that makes a lot of sense. babies are incredibly vulnerable.
@xuyahfish
@xuyahfish 7 лет назад
I will say that the only major problem with the Chinese mom's practice is that my doctors told me that walking every day after birth was important to speed healing. Lack of walking would actually slow down the healing process.
@racquelbaron6890
@racquelbaron6890 5 лет назад
5t
@samathatjoa
@samathatjoa 4 года назад
I guess different culture has different approach on this. Some of the theories here are even come from thousand years ago (especially the food, nutrition, and the qi). So there is the answer.
@ggaffgaff3072
@ggaffgaff3072 4 года назад
Samatha just because it’s an old tradition doesn’t mean it helps heal any faster. I’m not saying anything against this practice - I just wouldn’t discount modern doctors. Also I wouldn’t have the discipline to stay inside for a month 😂
@2degucitas
@2degucitas 3 года назад
Walking helps prevent blood clots as well.
@Janis.7-
@Janis.7- 5 лет назад
I loved doing all this for my baby! I couldn’t bear having someone else doing all the mothering. This is the most enjoyable time of a new mother’s life, enjoy it while you can it’s soon gone.
@elenialemu1323
@elenialemu1323 9 лет назад
in Ethiopia confinement is also a custom that deeply rooted in the culture of Ethiopians.new mothers who give birth for a baby boy expected to remain indoors for 40 days and who give birth for baby girl they expected to say for 80 consecutive days. like Chinese they will follow a strict set of rules excluding not washing their hair and eating pig's feet soup. surprisingly the mother in low plays the major role in giving care for the new mother as well as the new born baby.
@ameliaweights
@ameliaweights 7 лет назад
Eleni Alemu ugh! If i had to spend 40-80 days with my mother in law I'd kill myself
@yoongs3878
@yoongs3878 7 лет назад
actually its not the mother in law, its the mother. traditionally you have to go back to your own mom but nowadays people don't do it.
@kalkidanbelachew649
@kalkidanbelachew649 7 лет назад
am ethiopian and was alone with my baby but trust me my connection with my baby is different look at the mom when the baby is crying she couldnt even pat him correctly and you know the bond is different just saying😊 and me n my hubby we love and adore all the excpirence and cherish every moment
@tinamurray5670
@tinamurray5670 6 лет назад
Eleni Alemu
@gabibraule2892
@gabibraule2892 6 лет назад
in brazil we have confinement for 40 days too, it's called resguardo, during that time the mother can shower and wash her hair but she shouldn't do things like home chores, or lifting heavy things. She also shouldn't have strong emotions, like, she shouldn't get too upset or bothered, or her breast milk might dry out. the baby also is not recommended to have any visits during this time. I think its just the european/heavily eurocentric cultures that don't have the confinement time...
@missmac1771
@missmac1771 7 лет назад
Every mother should have this tradition! Recover, rest & enjoy bub for a bit :)
@chuimeilam6501
@chuimeilam6501 4 года назад
I have 2 babies in the West but keep the chinese tradition and it was perfect for my health and after 30 days i feel recharged and full of energy
@saritasarit
@saritasarit 5 лет назад
I followed quite a bit of these traditions thanks to an amazing malaysian midwife with my second child. It helped so much with healing, the diet with colic and the rest with the connection with my child and postpartum depression. Having a helping hand like this sounds like a dream to me, but its also important to be able to make choices as a mother.
@LynxChan
@LynxChan 7 лет назад
Pseudoscience about food and water aside, the idea of having a 24 hour nanny the first month of the baby's life sounds great. Having a baby is pretty overwhelming and having a professional there to help you through the first days would help a lot, though it would be better if they didn't promote all the superstitious stuff about not going out or wearing winter clothes in the heat.
@leeluv96
@leeluv96 6 лет назад
LynxChan, it's not pseudo science and it's not superstition. It may however be low tech by today's standards. But these thing were put into place during times when we did not ha e practicing medical doctors, pharmaceuticals, and hospital facilities. Through out history many babies and mother's died. These measures considerably increased survival. This was done all over the world in various ways. It works.
@nelsonta00
@nelsonta00 6 лет назад
The ingredients she uses are healthy stuff. Good food speeds up the recovering phase.
@nehashrivastav7552
@nehashrivastav7552 5 лет назад
You can't label thing psuedoscience if modern scientist aren't capable of explaining why a lot of old traditional people continued to do it It's common practise in many Asian country
@janicejanisjan
@janicejanisjan 5 лет назад
​@@nehashrivastav7552 Why can't women bathe or even brush their teeth? Brushing their teeth with cold water can give them a cold or something I assume. This confinement thing seems so based on old wives tale. What's practiced or passed on from many traditions doesn't necessarily mean it's appropriate or the perfect method. The only thing I agree with is that it is very beneficial to have an assistant minus all the other stuff.
@wuhhwuhh2913
@wuhhwuhh2913 7 лет назад
This tradition is not only found and practiced in China, even here in the Pacific Islands its mostly family members that helps with the care of a New Born member while the Mother rest for as long as she needs, considering PPD in women after giving birth. The Mother and Baby have their time to emotionally connect with each other but is supervised by another female and when Baby falls asleep we usually give an hour or two to separate them from each other.
@serendipity4365
@serendipity4365 5 лет назад
Every new mom would love it. I'm watching this video with my 3 weeks old baby lying next to me. Loving every minute of this video.
@carojames6776
@carojames6776 4 года назад
Hope you and the little one are well, enjoy every moment.
@danielleantony9971
@danielleantony9971 5 лет назад
I live in the uk and with all 4 of my babies I came home to other kids, housework and making cups of teas for my visitors who wanted to look at the baby! I’d of loved this cuz I suffer from chronic fatigue syndrome so it would of benefitted me so much! I always had a houseful soon as I stepped foot in the door 🙄
@YolandaEzeagwu
@YolandaEzeagwu 7 лет назад
I'm from Nigeria and we have a similar system in South East Nigeria where the mother of the new mom comes after the birth to help her daughter. She takes special care of the baby and cooks all sorts of delicacies meant to help whip the new mom back to her old self. Its called 'omugwo' and I think its extremely important.
@acpjun
@acpjun 7 лет назад
It is such a narrow perspective to assume using a confinement centre means only consumerism and "delayed onset parenting" like a "parenting disneyland". Confinement is a tradition that is meant to help new mothers. It is particularly helpful in modern society in my opinion since most young mothers now have to return to work soon after giving birth. Getting used to having someone help take care of the baby is not only helpful but healthy for the mom to focus on her recuperation and later on in balancing her work and baby. Having a baby doesn't mean the mother needs to then only be all about the baby, when help can be achieved to have a healthier, more rounded and balanced lifestyle, why not? Why try to do it all by yourself, when studies have proven over and over again that it is only detrimental in the end and those that tried end up losing on both ends.
@idylledoll
@idylledoll 7 лет назад
Amanda Pj I totally agree. It's disgusting how the west ostracise any mother who makes time for herself. We need to prioritise mothers happiness and wellness so she can be a better mother, all the stress women go through in the first few months is underrated. Parents are basically slaves to their offspring in the western world and called selfish otherwise, we are beyond the idea of a family unit.
@swirlyt
@swirlyt 7 лет назад
I completely agree with you but as everything with western culture give it 20 years and they will soon have confinement centers and brand it as an innovative birthing trend as if that's, not something other cultures have been doing for centuries.
@atxbrighteyes
@atxbrighteyes 6 лет назад
For health reasons and such it seems great. But for the child not so much. That mother didnt even know how to comfort her 3 week old baby. That's a huge issue. She needs more time hands on with her child. More contact. Skin to skin. Feeding... all of that is necessary. There should be a balance of both.
@beautifulspirit7420
@beautifulspirit7420 5 лет назад
@@atxbrighteyes it's true but to be fair to her it seemed 3 other women couldn't wait to scoop up her baby or tell her what to do! (The nurse, her mom and mother-in-law). Once she is on her own she will soon learn, the baby will tell her what he wants! At least she would've had plenty of sleep and rest and good nutrition to get her strength back. The baby is only a month old, she has plenty of time to be with her baby alone. Although I prefer the lady who came to your home, then she fits around your life and routine and you learn to take care of the baby in familiar surroundings.
@xxgothxxxx
@xxgothxxxx 5 лет назад
@@idylledoll you're ignoring the capitalism, classism, racism, jobmarket and sexism that contribute to this in "the west " and when you talk this way about the child and mother care you actively contributein ng to the society that doesn't want to care for them properly
@TanjaHermann
@TanjaHermann 7 лет назад
My mom came to stay with me for the first three weeks and it was a great help! But her tasks were food, the household, laundry. The baby tasks were for me! After all, that's why I got the child in the first place. The first baths etc. are just magical events - scary but magical.
@MagMaybe
@MagMaybe 5 лет назад
Tho it is amazing, I feel like it dulls mother's instincts to actually take care for the child herself....
@mrjamila88
@mrjamila88 9 лет назад
I think this is great. Gives a break to new moms and babies are taken care of nicely
@sarah-annecarney5458
@sarah-annecarney5458 5 лет назад
I would have LOVED this.
@carojames6776
@carojames6776 4 года назад
It would be nice if some women got together and opened a confinement house for those that can afford it.(nothing too expensive). Provide an extra service via donations for first time mothers with no family support would be really useful. Set up small mothers group to give advice and share experiences.
@beautifulspirit7420
@beautifulspirit7420 5 лет назад
I would've loved to have a confinement after each of my three babies! My mother died when I was in teenager and although my loving husband did his best it would have been great to rest and enjoy the new baby with support from a caring woman, especially as I had anemia and was very physically tired. I also got an infection after my last child was born.
@badgalruth
@badgalruth 5 лет назад
My mother perform these practices with me. We’re partly Creole and Apache Indian she stated it was passed down from her mother to her. I wasn’t allowed to bath, do any chores period. I was not allowed outside for eight weeks...I almost went insane but all of a sudden my zen and chakras kicked it...I had never been at more peace 😌
@dorawang5451
@dorawang5451 6 лет назад
I did right for 2 weeks, one month was too hard for me to follow. but even 2 weeks was big help too. That maybe good reason why Chinese women look younger.
@motshabikgatle3712
@motshabikgatle3712 7 лет назад
This is a practice in Africa as well. The mother and the baby only get to see the outside world after a month. It's mostly for health reasons, for the mother to recuperate well after giving birth. During that month, the new mother and the baby is well taken care of by her mother or mother in law or s relative.
@TheFaro2011
@TheFaro2011 7 лет назад
isn't this this like the Muslim/south Asian tradition of staying home 40 days and shaving the hair
@faustinuskaryadi6610
@faustinuskaryadi6610 2 года назад
Yes, exactly. Even male-female segregation in Ancient China is very similar to segregation in Islam but just without hijab style veil. Ancient China use curtain instead. Even Chinese have similar culture to Islam Ta'aruf.
@rosamiramontes786
@rosamiramontes786 4 года назад
I am so fortunate to have had my mum she took care of me so well after giving birth to my first baby. Depression hit me hard and she helped so much 💗 it is so important for moms to have all the support
@flaiirenn
@flaiirenn Год назад
definitely! my mother got help from her mother when she had me and my brother.
@Artemis_me
@Artemis_me 5 лет назад
Hispanic culture does this too its called "la cuarentena"
@tathianafeneloneugene2543
@tathianafeneloneugene2543 5 лет назад
In Haiti also!
@baseddweller3544
@baseddweller3544 4 года назад
basically 40 days
@Artemis_me
@Artemis_me 4 года назад
@Jenn Jenn yes mam maybe not too this extreme. Hispanic moms almost always expect for you to go back home for the 40 days, or they move in with you lol. They help take care of and you and baby with the must have hand me down list of do's and don'ts because "this is what your abuela did for me and her mother before that". And the obligatory homemade linen girdle to help your belly get back to normal. Although it kinda of defeats the purpose because she insists you eat oatmeal 3x's a day because "it helps you produce more breast milk" lmao. And it's free! And they get bragging rights that she did everything w/the baby first. It's such a blessing especially when you have your 2nd, 3rd, 4th however many kids you have had.😊
@randomcitizen3939
@randomcitizen3939 4 года назад
@@Artemis_me >.> I want a Hispanic mum now.
@user-cv2vo5wn9m
@user-cv2vo5wn9m 4 года назад
in italian quarantena means isolating someone who has a sort of disease
@judyjudy1495
@judyjudy1495 5 лет назад
In Tanzania, Africa , some of the tribe stays strictly Confinement 40 days, and then you stay with a help of a mother in law, or mother or sister not doing any heavy duties, and have special meals for 3 months, after that you are on your own.. BUT Gaining weight is the sign of being taken care of after birth :)
@idpkydv
@idpkydv 5 лет назад
I m Indian and this type of custom is also practiced in India with minimum one and half months of rest..and you get 6 months maternity and 3 years child care leave too..I feel so lucky..
@jesussaves6625
@jesussaves6625 4 года назад
I could never have let someone else do all the changing and holding and comforting of my baby for the first month.. Even in the hospital I never let the nurses take my baby or let them leave the room without me. I like the idea of confinement but not having the other woman do so much for the baby i guess..
@gayled3059
@gayled3059 4 года назад
It would be a major bonding time for the mom and child, and to have that taken away....NO, but to give the mom a lot of help so she can recover, that's good. C-section or birth...major trauma to the body, even if birth is a natural thing.
@BlessAllKC
@BlessAllKC 6 лет назад
A vitally important benefit of the "confinement" period after giving birth: Prevention & healing of post-partum depression. Either hiring a full-time private "confinement assistant" or living in a "conefinement clinic" for a month or longer , the new mother isn't left alone to cope with her new baby & her own depleted health conditions. she would be eased into the situation with gradual learning & practice. She would receive appropriate attention & support when she needs it. In the west, post-partum depression has ranged from the new mother feeling listless, hopeless & lethargic to commiting suicides. However, it hasn't resulted in compassionate effective medical treatments other than prescription drugs. Many new mothers feel isolated & helpless, & their male partners or relatives are not even aware of this medical condition & are clueless in dealing with it.
@Melikabiga
@Melikabiga 8 лет назад
The baby at the beginning makes it look like having a child wouldn't be that bad.. misleading XD
@orueom7720
@orueom7720 7 лет назад
No problem... please don't have children
@blondecat666
@blondecat666 7 лет назад
+Ese Omoru spot on reply.
@orueom7720
@orueom7720 7 лет назад
blondecat666 it's sad really... self obsessed narcissists like meldralala over here complain about babies when they don't even have one..... really makes me sad for any children they might potentially have who would have to put up with such selfish parents.
@orueom7720
@orueom7720 7 лет назад
Meldralala just so you know little "Ms. Me" parenting is all about self sacrifice... if you can't sacrifice your time and self for your child don't have a baby... stay by yourself alright? We've already got one too many incompetent selfish twats having children who just have to put up with them
@Melikabiga
@Melikabiga 7 лет назад
You guys completely misunderstood what I was saying smh
@Imran-fc2qh
@Imran-fc2qh 4 года назад
Confinement lady does help a lot. It has been proven in Malaysia since we practice it during the old days. But somehow, China doing it far better by taking it to the next level. It helps women from getting depression after labor. Mums need a lot of TLC, not just physically but mentally. Food plays an important role. Not just food but sufficient sleep as well.
@warpenguin6300
@warpenguin6300 7 лет назад
I haven't been able to get out of my house for more than 3 months.. not pregnant or with a child... just taking care of a disabled person.
@HM-nq7qe
@HM-nq7qe 6 лет назад
Momo Momoko u r a great person🌹🌺
@warpenguin6300
@warpenguin6300 6 лет назад
H M you are so nice, so sweet,thank you!.
@inkbold8511
@inkbold8511 5 лет назад
Then it's going to be forever for you, as baby can become independent after childhood whereas disabled person will forever need your help.
@ikiuafamily5017
@ikiuafamily5017 5 лет назад
This is amazing! We also practice this among my family in New Zealand (We are Maori/Polynesians). Our mothers usually come an help, we don't leave our houses for 30 Days as well.
@christieatuh
@christieatuh 5 лет назад
Omugo we call this in Nigeria, just perfect. But often done by lady's mum or mother in law for two months
@kimwong305
@kimwong305 4 года назад
That's so interesting!
@javakuppa3346
@javakuppa3346 9 лет назад
How lucky these women are. Being a new mother is not easy on the body from what I've heard..so it's cool that these mothers who can afford it get some time to relax.
@brengz7663
@brengz7663 5 лет назад
We share the same tradition. I never get tired of watching this
@rutituti678
@rutituti678 5 лет назад
I wish every mother, new or not had a great support system when baby is born. It really is such a blessing.
@TheMelbox68
@TheMelbox68 5 лет назад
Sounds amazing! We should have something like that here in the USA. Would be so great for new moms to have the help. The first month is the hardest.
@carojames6776
@carojames6776 4 года назад
Get together with a group of mums and set something up. A lot of women could do with some support but have nowhere to go.
@Irie2286
@Irie2286 7 лет назад
My mom had 7 kids and none of us left the house for 3 months except for checkups. If my mom left, it was for appointments only as well. Barely anyone was allowed to hold us. This was her decision and to this day, I still think she was crazy, lol, love you mom
@ScarlettKriss
@ScarlettKriss 5 лет назад
How is your health, are you healthier than the average peer?
@deegrant6426
@deegrant6426 5 лет назад
Not crazy at all. Think of the babies immune system. It's vulnerable. There was a story not to long ago that this couple brought their new born to the their wedding. Apparently someone kissed the baby and it died a few days later due to whooping cough.
@10akanksha
@10akanksha 4 года назад
This prevails in India too, and it's really helpful, only thing I haven't heard is such a professional confinement lady
@TheDAT573
@TheDAT573 6 лет назад
This is wonderful. I love a confinement lady. Everyone is so well looked after. Love it.
@elinlloyd7002
@elinlloyd7002 4 года назад
it strange for me to see this when I had my first baby I did not want anyone to touch her or be away from her for a minute.
@noufabdullah6027
@noufabdullah6027 7 лет назад
Same here but the mom stays for 40 days not a month and her mom helps her with the baby and feeds her nutritional food to get her bones stronger
@zyongslife
@zyongslife 10 месяцев назад
I think this is awesome! Every new mom and baby should be looked after like that.
@chelseavazquez8672
@chelseavazquez8672 5 лет назад
This sounds amazing !
@ifly7777
@ifly7777 7 лет назад
I am pretty sure the baby is way happier by just letting him to sleep in peace and keep drinking milk
@smellyface101
@smellyface101 7 лет назад
"you may think confinement lady's have easy jobs" No...no lady, ain't nobody thinking that.
@Chelsea-cd5lf
@Chelsea-cd5lf 5 лет назад
this is so great!!!
@MaiTran-eo1lr
@MaiTran-eo1lr 5 лет назад
I am Vietnamese and I’ve had to do this for the first month with my first 3 babies - but baby #4 I did not. Could not go outside for a month. My baby wasn’t allowed to leave the house either. I also was not allowed to walk or stand longer than a couple minutes - basically I was expected to be bed ridden and rotting (literally) because I wasn’t allowed to get wet by showering or bathing - not even brushing my teeth - strict diet ETC ETC ETC - the one month of rest and not letting my baby outside makes sense. I don’t believe in taking my newborns out anyways because they aren’t strong enough to handle it but the other things were so extreme but I had to do it.
@sandhiller49
@sandhiller49 5 лет назад
Its called bonding and is vital to a childs mental health, without bonding they are at risk of attachment disorder.
@normam.atchley9856
@normam.atchley9856 5 лет назад
Well put!!! I adopted my daughter and went home for 6 weeks with my husband. She is now 31 and I think we did great with her.
@LM-eu8yr
@LM-eu8yr 5 лет назад
@@normam.atchley9856 I feel sorry for her and her real mother.
@amandakwong2647
@amandakwong2647 7 лет назад
yeah, we asian new mom usually get help from our mom for a month after giving birth & it's doesn't matter how busy your mom or what career/ business by she has, she makes sure you're well taking care of & we also hired a nanny for 2 months for help too. Hiring a live-in nanny in America is kind of expensive compared to Asia, but it's worth it.
@amandakwong2647
@amandakwong2647 7 лет назад
I took a shower a day after having baby & my mom was so mad & there are so so much things you have to do & eat after giving birth, I didn't do everything so my mom got really really angry
@Kyraaa-rb3vc
@Kyraaa-rb3vc 5 лет назад
So interesting and so different to what Ive known.Thanks for recommending something actually good youtube!
@RuchiinChina
@RuchiinChina 5 лет назад
In India, the confinement period is of 40 days. Baths are also taken on special days. Mother is supposed to keep warm. Mother is not supposed to do household chores and special foods are prepared for her mostly with clarified butter, dry fruits, nuts, and other herbs which are thought to have medicinal and herbal properties. I don't personally agree to the confinement practice.
@leighness1988
@leighness1988 4 года назад
Confinement ladies remind me of post-natal doulas in western culture. Not every mother has one, of course, but they help with chores around the house, cooking meals, and even doubling as lactation consultants. It's good if the mother doesn't have any family close by to offer support.
@livinggratefully5778
@livinggratefully5778 5 лет назад
The book “The fourth Trimester” touches on the many many amazing aspects of “confinement”. Most cultures have a “confinement” period after birth where mothers are treated so well, the mother and baby can bond, the mothers body and mind can heal, and the new relationship can actually begin peacefully and completely. Western culture expects women to just jump right back up and do every single thing with a new baby and hurt body in tow. They expect us to look like super models and have everything down pat in 2 weeks after birth! It’s bullshit. Western culture needs to sit down and take notes.
@MsVickieharrison
@MsVickieharrison 4 года назад
I felt great right after birth and i never would have let anyone but me handle my babies, i had 3 loved every moment
@Tam712
@Tam712 5 лет назад
In some ways, confinement is brilliant, particularly for mother's showing signs of post-natal depression/anxiety. We need such support, but rarely have it.
@wanjiru2556
@wanjiru2556 5 лет назад
With this available to all women minus a few of the menu items, post partum depression would be rare
@firebenderkitty313
@firebenderkitty313 4 года назад
Not true. Post partum depression is due to hormone imbalances, not just people feeling overwhelmed.
@carojames6776
@carojames6776 4 года назад
You can have all the money/ help in the world but some women get postnatel depression due to their hormones. Some people have it for a few months some for years but you CAN get help.
@lindaelvenia7542
@lindaelvenia7542 6 лет назад
It’s very common for Chinese families to have a nanny to do chores even for those not in the upper class. A list of things that happen during confinement: you can’t wash your hair for the month. You have to have chicken soup everyday. You can’t use the AC. You can wash your body/shower and can only wipe down with warm water and a special leaf. There is a whole boo of things that you can’t eat. You can’t leave the bed, except to use the restroom.
@bleueviolette4549
@bleueviolette4549 4 года назад
We've had this in the US for who knows how long, only at the family home! I was born in the 50's - my parents hired a nurse to help for the first yr. of each child's life - finally there was always a "maid" during our growing up, so this method is not new, just different for different cultures.
@2degucitas
@2degucitas 3 года назад
My mother in law was tough as nails. Her mom famously gave birth, then got up and started working. I heard about that many times. I refused to be pushed into doing "more" after birth of the first born. It wasn't easy dealing with so much conflicting advice from everyone, esp other mothers with experience. Sometimes I had to get firm and yell for people to leave me alone in peace and quiet! Getting my husband to keep quiet (he's noisy) and defend me was also a thing. Phew! Somehow all 4 kids are grown and healthy.
@havingteawiththedevil
@havingteawiththedevil 6 лет назад
But can i just say the Thumbnail is adorable lol
@-a5962
@-a5962 6 лет назад
I don't get it how this is narrow-minded if you think it is you are too narrow-minded for accepting such culture, religious practice and tradition. 1: This is for moms to restore back their health after giving birth. 2: During first 30-40 days the baby is most at risk of infection - especially in a highly populated area. Mother is also at risk due to postpartum blood loss. There might be more reasons that I'm not aware of, but I'm pretty sure they are positive for both mother and the baby. But this is no near narrow mind, taking care is no near narrow mind.
@celticwarrior777
@celticwarrior777 5 лет назад
NOTHING HEALTHY ABOUT IT
@WhaleOilBeefHooked2024
@WhaleOilBeefHooked2024 5 лет назад
@@celticwarrior777 it's healthy for mother baby and the whole family
@kellymatijciokillick
@kellymatijciokillick 5 лет назад
The best way to protect the infant is by breastfeeding, early and often which also aids in restoring maternal health and wellbeing. (WHO)
@kimwong305
@kimwong305 4 года назад
@@celticwarrior777 Maybe not healthy for the baby to be completely taken care of by others but, it does help when they're helping to do laundry or cleaning
@PhilaArtistry
@PhilaArtistry 3 года назад
Amazing!
@OunRukAyame
@OunRukAyame 4 года назад
This is brilliant.
@ray_ayy
@ray_ayy 5 лет назад
Having all those people around constantly would drive me nuts.
@ShaunDreclin
@ShaunDreclin 7 лет назад
Honestly this seems like a great thing that we should have in the west. Not so much the eastern medicine quackery, but having a month of pampering and care and training in being a new parent. This could be bundled in with loads of classes on how to care for a baby and raising kids in general, would really help a lot of people.
@felinequeen9243
@felinequeen9243 7 лет назад
+Shaun Dreclin The West already have that. Just hire a doula. Many doulas today also do post-natal care and training for the new parents in addition to during-labour support. The "super moms" in China do NOT do during-labour support; they only do post-natal care.
@khanmaida
@khanmaida 7 лет назад
Shaun Dreclin I believe most none European countries practice it. I'm Canadian Pakistani and my mother made sure I was with her for 40 days, fed me a special diet of multiple nuts, protein, and God knows what to ensure my body heals well. The Canadian 18 month maternity leave also helps but yeah, I've heard the same concept from some of my Arabic and Malaysian friends.
@jebsmith323
@jebsmith323 7 лет назад
We do have doulas.
@tharun960
@tharun960 7 лет назад
Just watching this now: nutritionfacts.org/video/how-long-to-detox-from-fish-before-pregnancy/ "How many months does it take to clear 99% of the mercury and other industrial toxins from one’s body, and what role might our fat stores play in holding on to fat-soluble pollutants?"
@Kelly101Girl
@Kelly101Girl 7 лет назад
technically many ppl do practice this but not with an actual "professional". generally the mother of the woman that just gave birth or mil comes in and starts taking over the house for about a month or 2 lol. usually the woman is given around 3 months of maternity leave and the father is given some time off as well
@Yet2b4Sakn
@Yet2b4Sakn 7 лет назад
That wink melted my heart!
@itsjustart24
@itsjustart24 2 года назад
Amazing video so much care by so many woman
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