💍 What We WISH We Knew BEFORE MARRIAGE 😅| Msnaturally Mary 

Sometimes we are so quick to sought after “godly counsel” forgetting that God is literally the ultimate counselor. My husband and I go directly to God. There are time when I’ve gone to God about something I didn’t like and In a few days my husband would say... you know last night I dreamt this or God told me this... and I simply smile because I knew I went to my heavenly daddy on him 😂... I’ve found that there is nothing better than going to God. I keep opinions out of my marriage...period.

Hey Mary my sister the word says you will have trails and tribulations. I have been married for 34 years. Put God first, sometimes be quiet before you speak. Because words hurt. My husband and I don't argue, we take a moment to think. It could be an hour, or maybe more time. Then we come together and discuss it, then we let it go. Bringing up the past is a waste of time. You can't go backwards so move forward. God and forgiveness is a great thing without God forgiveness for us where would we be.

I find that churches do offer far more resources for married couples vs singles apart from the standard singles groups bible study and concerts. Apart from being told, "No sex before marriage," so many singles are going in to marriage and relationships in general with no clue with how to navigate them.The world offers far more information on dating, relationships and the like and the church seriously falls short on this. I recently went to a Love conference for singles and married couples and was blown away at the topics talked about and the realness that the couples shared and the singles as well. Stuff the church NEVER talks about: porn addiction, sex, hygiene, staying fit while married, dealing with trauma like past sexual abuse and hearing from more men than I have ever hear from in church in my life with their perspective from their marriages and HOW to date in and prior to marriage. I realized, for example ,and heard also on a talk show with Yolanda Adams and another gentleman this week, that men in the church will never approach a girl in church and I have always noticed this and wondered why the church has become so unappealing to men who are of age to date and marry when there are sooo many eligible women there. You hear always about Ruth and Boaz and superficial and focused on Ruth's character, tho never fully, and never talk about what a Boaz really is, a man at the time who was single and Ruth approached directly. For men in church, I wonder how they learn to date because it is certainly not learned in the church. And many of us don't have good examples of marriages in the home and yet rarely get to hear from godly couples about the reality of marriage and dating. I have been approached 2x only in church, once by an imposter who was just there to creep and i nearly had to call the cops on him for inappropriate messages he was sending, another by a young group bible study leader who was very immature and moved way too fast and then ghosted. I honestly find men in the world are more deliberate when dating even if worldly, are not as shy or reserved and approach women far more often than men in the church, for the few that are even there and available, and am approached way way more than men in the church. It seems men in the church are not given the same level of information in the body of Christ vs women and it is not surprise that we would come into marriage with a distorted or unrealistic expectation of marriage. Most of the info is directly towards the women. I do wish more churches would talk about real issues good and bad in relationships for our generation that is relevant to today. Thats why your posts are so important as there is very little discussion like this in the Body of Christ and really glad you are continuing them with your husband. I hope you guys continue this series and maybe bring more godly couples to do the same as it is so desperately needed, especially from the perspective of godly men.

My husband and I we go to marriage retreat every year, and people always assume that it’s because something is wrong! Marriage is a beautiful when God is the center of if! Great content ❤️

Thank you for sharing, and those who may be struggling to understand why before marriages almost everything is perfect, and in the marriage, things change, you must understand that the enemy hate MARRIAGE, Because through marriage is where existence of God displayed most of the time

My Pastor tells us that a marriage that works takes work... 💖💖💖

I absolutely love how you two are so open and honest with each other. Most couples do not understand the work that goes into marriage. It's not always sunshine and smiles.....😂🤣! But you learn how to love your spouse as Christ loves the church. And when you decide to love them... it's not about physical appearances, emotions or finances. You have to make the decision to love them thru the trials and tribulations. And listening to you today....I need to plan a date night ASAP🤣😂! Great video.

Some true gems were dropped for both married people and singles! May God continue to be the head of your union! #MaryAll2020

I see that a relationship with God is needed for marriage 🌸 ,even before marriage mostly. I don’t know about everyone else, but my relationship with God isn’t always peachy, especially when he ask me to stretch out my comfort zone, that kinda gives me a glimpse that my marriage for my husband just might not always be peachy as well. Lol thank you so much for the transparency ♥️.. I will most definitely be praying for my marriage with a higher perspective 🙌🏽🌸🤗ty ty ty

You two were truly created for one another, what a beautiful love story! What makes it even more beautiful is that your marriage is centered by strong faith and both of you willing to do the work necessary to make love last. Continued blessings!!!

I'm so grateful for videos like this, Mary. Honestly. As a single woman I have alot of the same preconceived notions about what marriage would be like, just like you did before you were married. But, listening to your story and watching alot of your videos, I'm gleaning so much wisdom. Thank you for sharing your story! ❤️🙏🏽 Please continue cause ya girl is learning alot!

I love how intentional you both are with marriage

Life is hard... Marriage is hard. Very good points. I was married very early, very early bc of a church's misconstrued doctrine but It was not forced at all just ill informed and at the wrong time. To God be the glory He blessed me with the best husband I could have ever asked for. BUT to me I can't worry about the wrong bc my husband and I FIGHT to glorify God in this union. The most important thing is our love for Christ has solidly kept us. But let me tell you I have grown and matured bc of our current church teachings and forget about the past. Bottom line is you cannot and should not do marriage without God and His Son Jesus. Period. I used to beat myself up DAILY bc I felt like we "did it" wrong, too early, but the compliments we get bc of the love we have for each other I realize it's about Christ and glorifying Him. I have made SOOOOO many mistakes but God's grace is sufficient. I'm 36 and have been married half my life soooo I know it'll work but you MUST keep your mind and hearts on Christ and it will succeed. You all have touched the surface level, and it's truly needed and so much wisdom you gave bc when sickness, not having finances, unemployment, children, near death experiences hit the union, and they will!! you have to be on the solid Rock that stands.

Lessons, 1,its never roses all the time.. 2,you need God to do marriage 3,Go for Therapy,counselling, mentorship 4, ask the right questions, dig deep Which church, DISLIKES, be intentional 5, Pray together DAILY. 6,keep dating still in marriage 7,pour into your marriage. Go for conferences before it's out of hand

You two are very blessed. The way you talk to each other, knowing COMMUNICATION is very important and being mature about things. I've been married for 29 years and my husband still doesn't believe COMMUNICATION is important. At this point we've just become "roommates". I wish he would just grow up and realize things would be better and different if we go about things differently. You can't expect things to be different if you don't do something different. Smh.

Yes ma'am, it's called being raised in 2, different households! Two different viewpoints!

Alright now! A “marriage” check up (counseling) ... just like you’re not sick every time you go to the doctor.. you get check ups🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

I am very encouraged by this video. To date it is one of the best videos I have viewed with you guys. I love to hear married couples talk about how important it is to make God the center of your marriage. Every marriage need Jehovah God at the centre of it for it to work. You should make more videos like this showing how absolute God is for all relationships

Wow I see the progress with u guys... Mary I see the growth with u as the wife , I am proud of u , I remember when u would just cut off your hubby when he would talk. Learning bible principles an guidelines an putting it in your marriage is paying off. Good job guys!!!! I am impressed 😊

Yasss... Marriage is a beautiful practice lol. Without God I wouldn't have this amazing man, so I know without I won't keep him. I agree, it is extremely important to have a strong foundation in Christ. 😇🙏

I'm glad you are sharing the work you are doing for maintaining a God centered ⛪, healthy, and happy marriage. The lessons I learned from this video was to look at your spouse from a Godly perspective even when you have a disagreement, take turns planning dates, and marriage isn't just who you will spend your life with, but the person you married is who you will die with. I truly enjoyed your Godly wisdom about differentiating between just dating and courting. Also, truly viewing marriage from the mind of Christ and praying together is key. My husband and I read our daily devotion, which has set the tone for the start of our day. Here is a date night idea: ballroom dance lessons and then have a candle light dinner on the patio 💒

This was awesome, my husband and I are attending a marriage session at our church called “Kingdom Marriage “ by Tony Evans. It’s awesome!

I like the idea of going to counseling not when you are on the verge of putting an end to a relationship but you go for check up. Well put

Mary i can see and hear your passion. I THOUROUGHLY enjoyed this topic and you all are so right about this especially.....ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS! Sooooo important. This helps you understand one another better. People can change....for the right ONE. Thank you for this series and im looking forward to more talks like this.

Yes Mary share it👏🏾👏🏾! 1st of all love that you 2 are sharing this topic TOGETHER. A true queen and king! Marriage is definitely a journey that people don't realize... love this video already. I've been with my husband for 17yrs total. 9yrs before marriage and 8yrs married. Only 8mins in the video and already loving the topic! Keep shinning queen. I just love you so much! Also love that you 2 are doing it with God!! Totally engaged in the topic.

My perspective of the man death is not the physical death but that the husband kill the ego that will come up, killing the pride, killing the notion of who is right. Marriage requires constant sacrifice and sometimes the death of you were before.

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He didn't miss that amazing husband 🤣🤣🤣 Mary didn't say it loud enough sissss 🤣🤣

Great video 👏🏽👏🏽 So real! You’ve inspired us to make a video over what we wish we knew as well. 😅

Thank you for being an example of a couple putting god first. I love the transparency..ty and the fact you letting us know everything is not perfect no matter who you are..marriage is work between both partners. May god continue to bless your beautiful marriage.

#MsnaturallyMarySquad!!💜🙋🏾‍♀️I love this Story time and I'm sharing it with my Love.😍🤗👍🏾✔

I’m single and this helped me a lot. Thank you 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

I love to watch you guys.Your an inspiration to everyone,continue to share cause this is Gods will for persons to know that you can live a holy life before marriage.I pray God continue to bless you both.Nuff love from Jamaica

You two are such an inspiration. Your love gives me hope for my marriage that I'm praying for one day. Thanks so much for sharing!

Some people have said marriage is a 50/50 commitment; however, it takes 100% from both. I have been married for 10+ years and we're still learning things about each other and how to handle the certain situations. I have been dealing with a health issue for over 6 months and my hubby has been a trooper!! Keeping God first and at the center of your relationships (marriage, friends, etc.) you can make it through ALL things!! They say the first year is normally the hardest - merging two different people into ONE!! You guys ROCK!! You got this!! ❤️❤️❤️

30minutes of Straight FACTS!!

Agree that part “you’re not just roommates - you have to pour into your marriage.

What gives you guys hope in the valley moments of your marriage? The times when you guys feel like you can’t stand each other..? (If you ever have those moments, I sure do, going through one now 🤷🏽‍♀️)

What a breath of fresh air you two! 😍 I think I said this before but yall give me hope! God continue to bless y'all's marriage! ❤

Rock wall climbing, a play, indoor ince skating, bowling, mini golf, laser tag, indoor sky diving etc

As a young Christian woman in love I definitely loveddd this ! Thank so much ❤️ something I have to share ... keep it up👏🏽👏🏽 praying God continues to bless your marriage 🤗

This was great & very informative. I actually prefer this type of video from Mary. Not only with Jerrard, but anything else. I don't wear wigs or weave, so I often have to skip past Mary's daily videos because I have no interest in that particular content, but I LOVE Mary so something like this is a breath of fresh air.☺

I see fairy tales including the good, bad and ugly, but in the end LOVE prevails~ that’s my view...love your journey~ #righteouslywaiting

Great video guys😍❤🤗 when you guys was talking about bringing to lives together I thought about the 5 love languages quiz and 16 personality quiz ...I think you guys should do a video to show how you guys deal with those differences and how it helps the marriage/relationship...would love to see content on that😄

Here are some suggestions for date night in the DFW area: Casa Manana or Bass Performance Hall (theater’s where you can see live musicals). I saw Annie musical at Casa Manana and loved it. The Museum of Biblical Art, Medieval Times, Gondola Adventures, Mandalay Canal Walk at Las Colinas, Reunion Tower, Fort Worth Botanic Garden, Painting With a Twist, Little Elm Beach, Pinstack, TopGolf, and Coyote Drive-In movie, just to name a few.

You two are beautiful people. Thanks for this.

OMG!!!!We want more of these videos!!!!!God bless you guys!

Wow! Amazing, I love to hear marriage couples talking about this and doing it at there churches or going to counseling! It really helps out a lot, yes, always keep God in the center of you marriage and household it helps a lot! I’m so glad y’all talk about this. What stands out to me is asking questions towards each, you never know what that person about and always have God in the center, and making sure you on the same level with and always take the time to due dates nights! Thank you so much❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽

Hey the Bennett I love this video , what help out the most for me is the question to ask in the courting stage. My past problem was liking the person before asking the question so when I did get around to asking I was already feeling them and was willing to Compromise on the red flags.

I wish I knew he nags too much and soo orderly. We dated for 7 years but I didn’t know how neat my husband was. Nothing must be dirty or out of place not even for a seconds. I wish I knew honestly. Am not dirty but sometimes when am tired I won’t park kids toys but he will catch every toy from falling 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. An extreme melancholic husband.

I love the authenticity between you both as individuals and collectively! I also visited this Church on the day this series started and it was a GAME CHANGER!

❤❤❤😍❤💞💞 💞 It's called prevention when you seek help before you need it like getting a physical sometimes things show up during a physical and sometimes they don't!!! I am 65 years old nana and I discover you guys Channel about a week ago. And I fell in love with the both of you. ❤❤❤❤❤❤ One suggestion start a Channel so you can encourage others, you guys have the anointing and gifts within you. 😍🙏👼

This was good! Can y’all do a video on the key things to ask before marriage? Like what questions y’all asked or should have asked specifically

For those asking about specific questions, games like “We’re Not Really Strangers,” the book “ Eight Dates”or even the New York Times “36 Questions That Lead to Love” can help stimulate some really deep conversations with loved ones and even family and friends. Good as a starter and recommend adding more Bible-based ones as well.

Wow you guys had some deep questions, I myself would not have thought to ask. Thanks for the insight. I will definitely be proactive about it in the future.

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Thank you for your transparency and sharing these nuggets of wisdom for marriage. I’m grateful that my church offers several marriage classes, groups and workshops as well. Having all of these tools available plus videos like yours assures me that I am on the right path “this time” around as I am currently in waiting and pursuing holiness. Continuous blessings and prosperity to your union. #GodsPlan #FULLsurrender 🙌🏾

Very insightful!! I agree ask now before you are suprised! I'm sharing this video. Love you guys ❤❤🙏🙏🙏

You two are such a lovely couple.

How do you both handle time management regarding your personal quiet time & couple devotion?

Thank you for sharing a little insight to your life, I do find it very helpful. I am planning to get married soon and moving to the DFW area.. You asked about date night try a no money date around the city or if Dallas has a food truck festival coming up like my city it sometimes come with a free concert in the park afterwards.. I strongly agree with the courting stage for which I have instilled in my 2 boys who are 27 and 28 to do before dating any woman. It is finding the right plot to build your foundation in any relationship. I encourage them to ask the hard question and the most uncomfortable once and the beginning to aid in finding the right one that God has placed in their life.. When you attend the conference this summer I would like to know if you allowed to vlog a little without putting the people there in it but the content of the event.. I would love to know more about such events for me and my soon to be spouse. Again thank you Mr. and Mrs. Bennett for allow us into your life

I can't wait to see your kids! I have been watching your videos lately❤, but it's my first time commenting. Happy safe child delivery Mary. I pray God continues to bless your family and make you guys a blessing to others in Jesus name.

Thank you for sharing this powerful testimony. You guys are blessing others. My favorite couple...oh yea Martha and Gorden are a close 2nd... Love you all. Btw...you all need to take a couple's vacation or cruise together, I bet you'll have a ball!

I really enjoyed this video. It is very informative. It was great hearing both perspectives! This video is beyond awesome❤❤❤

Hi Mary, I have been watching your channel for awhile. You have been an inspiration to me and I love your story. I am 25 and I also got married to an awesome God fearing guy in 2018. I am so happy for you and your husbands' union and I pray that God continues to bless you guys. Thank you both for being obedient. I hope yall share more videos together and take us on your journey. I support you both! -Love Mrs. Murphy

Love how you guys look at each other 💥💥💥

Thank you for this wisdom about marriage. I’ve been married for 14 years...it’s so easy to fall into a routine but you’re right, you must foresee and take charge!!!

YAY! A video with both of you, what a beautiful couple :) I pray GOD's best for you both in your marriage--keep Him at the center! Thank you for being a positive representation of a Godly union. The greatest commandment says to love one another as we love ourselves...so self-love is very important as well so we are not projecting our shortcomings unto others. Also, understanding the love language(s) of your partner is imperative. Already knew the challenges would exist but HOW those challenges would be handled are the bigger blessing in the lesson. I love how the pastor said to the men you didn't die so you didn't do enough (yet)...lol pretty funny but so true. Of course, we should see our spouse as GOD sees them! God bless :)

This is so good thank you. Both of ye are a blessing. Such a beautiful couple ❤️❤️❤️

They way she looks at him is amazing

Lovely couple.. Great comments. Love. And. Marriage, is work , but ur right. Ms. Mary, play more, take alot of time to play, and. Hubby. Roses are nice,😀 and y'all have beautiful smiles. ❤& whenever aging, ( gray hairs ) don't u dare hide it& age grace fully, because it proves you been here and. Lufe's lessons. Well. Just speak those words of wisdom& teach the younger ppl !!🎈🎈🎈

I wish I knew all these things too..my marriage didnt work..if I knew then what I know now I would find a way to work things out...😣..I think pride and stubbornness caused most of the conflict in my marriage..but lessons learnt it was hard at the beginning, it's been 12yrs...pple he was my first love...😣a

Yess Mary this is soo good 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

For date night what about picnic on the beach

Just moved the Dallas area with my family. I visited One once. Love it. I would love to go back for this series. I would love to say hello if we go. I'll DM you for details.

Heyyy ya'll I am going to put a pin in this video, so when I start dating I can get some nuggets from you both thanks guys you rock!👊✋

Hmmm🤔 before doing or speaking, view them as if Christ is on his shoulder.... 🤐ooohhhh bouy you lucky! 😂😅

My husband and I needed this. Thank you for sharing

I'm not married, dating or in the market, BUT THIS IS SO DOPE!! I am SOOOOO happy for you two. I love that you two met and married. 🤗🤗🤗 Sidenote: I love this hairstyle on you Mary

So beautiful. I love this. I have been married for 2 years now. Marriage is tough. I would love to be in such a church but i live in switzerland. God bless you and your husband for these videos.

Wow! We go to the same church! This series has been great!

Wow! This is so good! Thank you so much for this Mary💕

I love this...Wow it's amazing!!! God bless Y'all baby..Mom

Y’all are a beautiful couple!!

I always get a blessing when I watch your videos. Thank you for that good word and reminder that trial and tribulations are part of this journey to glorify God, and Jesus had to suffer as well

Beautiful couple. Thank you for sharing. Very good info!!

This video has a lot of important information. I like how your church has those marriage programs too.

Wow! This is an amazing video! I’m going to send this to my husband. We need to find a church in Austin like this! God bless you guys for your transparency and encouragement.

Congrats On Your Engagement

Be careful with these Christian marriage groups. I have seen and heard from couples that they linked up with each other, share struggles and then one spouse ends up sleeping with the other spouse.... don't let the 'saved people' fool you.

I am happy for you guys that you found each other. I was engaged to a person, and he was getting advice how to handle relationships with women from various "thugs" on his job; and they were teaching him the "pimp way to handle hoes", and I left him. Going to get help from: counselors, religious mentors, & couples counseling is very important.

shout out to you guys from Botswana...just discovered your channel this week...love it... you are sharing inspirational messages.

wow you are Amazing you look Great together. you really are blessed

Thank you this is good because there’s questions I don’t ask that I need to ask to because it can stop a lot of people from jump and start dating with a purpose toward something not just to have a boyfriend.

Great video guys with such awesome insight! My husband and I really enjoy The Freeman's Cajun Cafe & Lounge in Deep Ellum (near downtown Dallas). They have awesome food & great live music DAILY! Romantic ambience and great for date night! ❤❤❤

Thank you both for sharing this. I feel like it's a great blessing to learn about such things when you're still single, which is my current situation now. May God bless you both and may He bless your marriage.

My boyfriend and I are not married yet but are going through counseling now to take it to the next level and it is definitely helping. This was really good thank you guys for sharing with us and always being so transparent. You guys make it look so easy. 😊 S/N: I feel you on planning date night, my bf is just better at planning it. He finds all the cool spots lol

Hey sis! 🙋🏾‍♀️ Enjoyed this vid. Good tips.ive recently gotten engaged (yay)!! Im going to look into the couple retreat with your church. Thanks again for this vid 😁

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Thank you both for this blessing❤️