Hi Ireon, believe it or not I have wives in my Communicate Clearly Course who have been able to impact their marriage by doing the work by themself. It's been incredible to watch!
I like the idea about studying your partner... What you suggested is not only genius, but romantic... The idea of my husband and I being so devoted to each other that we literally document every little thing about the person so that we can fully learn about our partner and understand them on a near scholarly level. Get a PHD in your partner
Bravo. This is brilliantly put together, very well articulated and 100% spot on. I say that as a marriage therapist with 16 years working with couples.
@@tanayafowlkes2603 The problem there, is that if he is actually one, he plays by a different rule book and no, regular communication doesn't work. If he isn't one, yet uses those communication weapons, he would need to gain awareness of his impact on you and be WILLING to take responsibilty for his impact on you. If he won't take responsibility (responds to your request for change), and instead criticizes you for being too sensitive, (for example), you're left with setting boundaries which means moving distant in some way to not be impacted by his words/actions.
I think your right on. You always hear one of the most important things for successful marriage is communication . We can communicate all day. But it must be meaningful and effective. I've been married 30 years and still learning things too enhance my marriage.
Good gracious I am grateful for stumbling upon this. I saw myself immediately as a verbal assassin and I can not stand that horrible side of myself. I can do so much better than I do now, but lately I just seem to continue ending up in this same space. What's even more pathetic is that I really want to see my man face his challenges and overcome them, but I have watched myself wither into a person I also detest after the resentment kicked in. I need God.
I've been married 7 years and my wife really ignores me,disrespects me with in some ways I really feel she seems suspicious whatever she do I want her back to the same person she was when I met her. Don't even sleep in the same room.
This message is so on point I watched it twice just now. I wish the text message at the end was still active… I need the 30 day communication challenge in my marriage.
May God provide you with love, respect and understanding for all of those who go through troubles in your marriages and if you are separated from your spouses. Keep the faith. Jesus loves you!
Good morning sir. Pls sir how can get to u I need to go to MARRIAGE cancelling academy. I want to be a marriage cancellor . Am v much ready to learn . Pls I need your help sir. Even if people pay for the teaching am also ready to pay for the teaching. Pls sir I need your help. Thank u.
Eeeks. Persistence beats resistance. This is something that a former friend used to say all the time. He’s now serving time in jail! This works on yourself, but also works in manners for an abuser! This is a very tight rope to walk. She complained about trying to change each other but in the end his persistence beat her resistance! This is still abuse. The long game of waiting for things to blow over is still something people use today. Feeling is literal. But now is subjective. Today could be great and who knows what brings tomorrow? I think we should think more about tomorrow than what we feel today! Todays feelings could be tomorrow’s heartache!
Getting married outside the light of God is unnecessary.. problem are demons that follow people around so a person can act out of character under demonic influence… Hear more here ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-VDhQPmmDUws.html
Both people must want to deeply do this. I implement ways to work on us, I was rededicated to god and my husband wasn’t, I involve biblical principles in my marriage and then some. He isn’t taking the charge to change his side of communication and yet, I’m always self aware of how I come off, reacting, while ensuring him that I’m listening. What’s so crazy is that his effort is Zero. So that means he’s not willing to change and that means he’s not self aware and doesn’t see his lack of husband efforts. But that’s great you two got it right! I’m very happy for y’all. To God give the glory.
Nov. 8, 2023, i viewed this video on Communication. Towards the end you gave text info of how to acquire a 30 day challenge on communication. I tried using it unsuccessfully. However, I’d love to have the download if possible. Any direction as to how I can get a copy?
Communication with the right people is key to help solving problems in your marriage. Instead of trying to gain the attention of other women & venting your frustrations about your spouses physical appearance, ie, she looks disgusting, or that she’s has terrible body order, you should be communicating with a marriage counselor & adjusting your behavior to accommodate your judgements. Do this with the right people. 🙏
I recently discovered a fascinating video on how to prevent communication from becoming a destructive force in marriage. This video provided me with a fresh perspective on the importance of effective communication in a relationship and how to avoid common pitfalls that can lead to misunderstandings and conflict. I was impressed with the practical tips and unique approach presented in the video, and I'm eager to incorporate these ideas into my own relationship to keep it strong and thriving.
Kudos for the Video! Sorry for chiming in, I would love your thoughts. Have you heard about - Mahorrla Guard Marriage Method (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is an awesome one off product for Saving Your Marriage without the headache. Ive heard some decent things about it and my friend after a lifetime of fighting got amazing results with it.
Getting married outside the light of God is unnecessary.. problem are demons that follow people around so a person can act out of character under demonic influence… Hear more here ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-VDhQPmmDUws.html
I’m definitely a verbal assassin when I’m open hearted share my frustrations and get them invalidated, which I end up insisting on explaining myself just to get deflection pointers - it’s not his fault that I feel “that way”- my frustration level explodes and the verbal assassin takes over. I’m not sure if that’s the example in this vid, but I’m pretty certain it’s the narcissist/codependent dance happening :-( .. overall I’m glad that you too can admit it. I also am awfully satisfied that he pointed out our differences in communication, females do express their current feelings, and that way it also falls into radical honesty. I hate fighting, but I hate not receiving the honesty I expect, it’s disrespectful for me.
Greetings and thank you. We sent text but haven’t received any response. Is the challenge still available? My wife and I could definitely benefit. Thank you again.
I find it hard to communicate with my girlfriend. Sometimes going out for a meal together is uncomfortable because we both just sit there in silence even tho we both just had fun at the water park before hand. I want to hear from actual people who have had bad communication and then managed to turn it around. Need a bit of hope
Raising my hand over here! We really struggled to communicate early on. I shut down and wouldn't talk for days, sometimes weeks and my husband was more the verbal fighter. It took us years to learn how to use the tools to overcome these obstacles. Now we love paying it forward!
@@IntentionalMarriages My husband and I are in this boat, I really don’t care anymore and just am at the point I don’t care what happens to our marriage. Relationships really aren’t worth the effort. It’s all so pointless
@@patriciaadamson8711when a relationship hits the apathy stage it’s very difficult to turn it back around but if there’s any hope, there’s plenty of skills you can implement to restore your marriage. Here for you, if interested.
I don't believe one person can constantly be wrong each time, rather the other partner has a problem admiting their wrong. Being the first to apologise doesn't mean you are wrong, it only means you choose peace rather than strife.
Getting married outside the light of God is unnecessary.. problem are demons that follow people around so a person can act out of character under demonic influence… Hear more here ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-VDhQPmmDUws.html
I just stumbled across this video and Im blessed already 10mins into it. Please help me,Im going to be just a year into my marriage by January,but there's no peace nor excitement,my husband is the verbal assasin,always raining negative words on our marriage since we got wadded,he's the talkative type and loves to keep intouch with what happened/is happening around the world currently,and Im trying to adjust by watching the news and videos to be able to have something to discuss when we talk,because he's in the US and I'm in Africa,but it seems like nothing to him,he calls the marriage a failed marriage,a mistake and all the negativities you can imagine,though this is his third marriage,and our marriage is at the verge of tearing apart,sometimes I feel like just letting it go,because Im truly unhappy,please what do I do.
Getting married outside the light of God is unnecessary.. problem are demons that follow people around so a person can act out of character under demonic influence… Hear more here ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-VDhQPmmDUws.html
