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I experienced all of this for 42 years of marriage then walked out and left me in our empty apartment homeless for two years until I had to divorce and get on my own and that was the best thing he could’ve ever had done for me I am so grateful that I’m out of that prison
@@annarichardson8284 it is better to get yourself a dog whose paws will accidently hit either the pause or the snooze button when the Nasty narc or the baiter bastard calls ! & if the phone receiver goes off the phone stand & then the dog will say woof woof , 🙄 Nobody Home 🏡 just ne the dog . The wife has gone overseas and only God knows so go & ask him ( God ) you nasty narc ! Obviously She needed to get away from you & all of your B.....bbbb........U.......uuuu..........L.........llll.. .............S.......sszs..........H...............hhhh...........I............iiii...........T.........tttt. ...........NooneNo one Home 🏡 The Nasty Narc has gone to Hell Michigan & The newly Single Ex - but nomore wife has gone to Maui with her dog called Mrs Manners !
they only forgot, that if you spot them right from the beginning, you probably get stalked or even raped... this happened to me and i am still fighting to not let myself been drawn in such a relationship... This is so much harder...
What do Narcs do to their wives- 1) Isolate them to make them dependent 2) Rage to frighten and distract their wives 3) Lie a lot to their wives 4) Use gaslighting to control their wives 5) Cheat on their wives 6) Criticise their wives for losing their self confidence (after they have criticised them for everything else) 7) Expect their wives to do everything for them 8) Treat their wives like possessions 9) Neglect emotional needs of the wife 10) Abuse their wives
I wish I knew all these things before I got serious with the man I dated for five years. He would always say I was his wife. After 5 yrs of dealing with a Mr. Jeckl and Mr. Hyde, I got a Restraining order after he punched me in the stomach and arm. I am so happy to finally be out of this Toxic relationship!!
I've been married to a narcissist. I have a sibling who is a narcissist. Every time you said what a narcissist does to his wife is equally the same for a husband married to a narcissist. It goes both ways. Both are dangerous people.
Not just wives get treated this way. I listened because I always self check myself to make sure I wasn’t the narcissist. I’ve had all these things done to me
My favorite part we don't talk about is the attentiveness they give others but refuse to give you. Like ... ANYONE that comes into their lives. But, refuse to talk to, listen, give time, or even those shot ass resources. What the hell have I been thinking
Rite when he is home he is on his phone adding his two cents to every fb post not a word are concern to me I will go nuts if I listen to another evening of how he saved his coworkers from there selves
My monster-ex used to sit on top of me until I conceded to him. I could not breath. He didn't care. He just sat with his full weight resting on top of my chest, "holding court" until I concurred and promised him I would act happy and agree with him. This abuse was presented at our divorce hearings but the judge invalidated my story and remarked that I was just a disgruntled person.
Omg I cannot imagine I am so sorry! I was held down against my will... Marital rape but that wasn't a big deal to me. Not letting someone breathe is really F-ed up!!!! And getting away with it! 😱😡😡😡
How I dealt with narcissists, as there were many. I totally flipped. Its pretty quiet around here now lol. I let whoever think whatever, flying monkeys and all. If you think im crazy why try to contact me hahaha I will just keep dropping them truth bombs!
Yes. I have refused to "play their game" when people say...don't react, don't say or do anything..bullshit. if you are a douche Canoe, I'm going to tell you and react as the human being I am. I refuse to play game so they don't supply...blah blah. I will call you out on your bullshit in front of anyone at anytime. It's time to not even give them any of myself that isn't true. Come at me narcs...Bring it empty meat suits.
Ooh my God! Been there...experienced all these and more for 17 year. But i Thank Almighty God for enhancing my Exit...two years out from ex covert Narcissist husband.
I can not believe this is exactly what waa in for 10yrs..messed up my entire life. Got out of it just to get someone who never showed affection & cheated. What a blow.
Although lot of these jerks are Male, I want to stick up for the guys who also endure this at the hands of their wives as well. Not enough press for this side of the issue. The guys need help and validation too. Thanks!😍
The level of abuse I endure by narcissistic had no limits. The narc would take everything from you and discard you like with no problem or concerns for their behavior
Grand Rising my loves and wishing everyone a wonder field full day from Empress K.Kash..I hope everyone be blessed and gain the life they want and know you are worth it*never fall for family secret gossip along with secret husband and streets and gas lighting past behaviors played by them to use on you to make you lose yourself or power or self-esteem many know was done towards you for fiscal gains by group that they conspired upon and now they upset bc an earth angel played there games in the past and now content with the out come with herself and how she handle it, now THEYS won't stop gangstalking me and using my resident for their temper tantrums after I exposed their behavior and what they did towards me and my kids they mess with me first and won't leave me alone for telling what they are doing upon secret to me and my kids in the past and now*I FORGIVE SO PLEASE YALL FORGIVE YALLSELVES AND MOVE ON*LOVE*#2023**
Renee I just went through this with my husband of 8 years left me homeless in a hotel room right after a hurricane in Florida and I'm having a hard time dealing with this what do you suggest???
Well I'm not perfect 😐 whatsoever but most of that stuff i do not do to my wife, I help as much as possible despite working long hours and miserable weeks, im supportive and caring, and have empathy. This list does make sense, I grew up with a narcissistic mom, however this list is also sort of vague because literally every person on the planet has at least some of these traits, any person can be selfish and controlling at times, etc etc.
@@LM-ol4wc lol I'm not offended at all im new to these types of videos, im just pointing out that anyone has the potential to exhibit such traits, their have been times when family members are selfish and controlling and other times when they are completely the opposite, im saying that people are complex. Im the opposite of a narcissist I have very little sense of self worth and don't value myself and have very little confidence at all, narcissists are in love with themselves
@@flowerpower4944 im curious to hear what went on if its not too personal, just a general idea? I'm super confused about covert vs overt, its all a mess to me
I myself experienced alot of sick guys doing this to their girlfriends/wifes. It's actually pretty easy to spot them if you know what a narc is. It's ok for the narc husband/wife to be unfaithful, but if the other part do the same thing they are up for a argument...
But that's just it.. It's not easy to spot them because there are so many people out there who have still never encountered these type of people . I'm 48 and just dealt with one for the last year and a half and was so overjoyed when I started noticing something wasn't right and I wasn't going to live the second half of my life with a person like that.. so it's not wise to say what's easy cause it may be easy for you because maybe you've dealt with this alot and know the signs some are just learning., Ijs..
It's awfully funny how the world looks at males as narcissist best but yet every woman I've ever dated was one. I was not educated I'm narcissism so I was blind to what was going on. I thought I just locked out with bad women never realized that they chose me
I've experienced a lot of women narcissists even in my family but my husband was a narcissist screwed over my life. I've been burned by both, gender doesn't matter. The world is full of them. They're everywhere.
All this and they get life insurance policies on their wives also. So don't get on the bike or go water boating. Don't even be in the car as a passenger while they take a left turn. $$$$ pay out.
A NARCISSIST IS DEMON POSSESSED JOHN 8:44-45 "YE ARE OF YOUR FATHER THE devil, AND THE LUST OF YOUR FATHER YE WILL DO. HE WAS A MURDERER FROM THE BEGINNING, AND ABODE NOT IN THE TRUTH, BECAUSE THERE IS NO TRUTH IN HIM. WHEN HE SPEAKETH A LIE, HE SPEAKETH OF HIS OWN: FOR HE IS A LIAR, AND THE FATHER OF IT." 45.) "AND BECAUSE I TELL YOU THE TRUTH, YE BELIEVE ME NOT." THE SCRIPTURE CALL IT "DEMONIC/ DEMON POSSESSED
First off, “narcissist’s” are not gender specific. Although there are more men narcs, there are many women out there too. Second, there are 6 kinds of narcissist’s. Let me share simply one example: A “self righteous narcissist” will never cheat. The abuse is a different flavor with these types. One shouldn’t preach, or assume that all narcissist’s have the same abusive behavior. There are many many kinds of narcissistic abuse. Another example is a “malignant narcissist”. This type of narcissist won’t be secretive. They’ll share their life, but will break down their partner through invalidation, belittling, gaslighting & many more underhanded techniques.
Not true. I've experienced Narcissism first hand growing up and I've studied in Psychology and my ex husband is a Narcissist.. and what I've learned is that there really isn't any difference between these Narcissists. For example there are many Overt Narcissists who will of course have all the traits of an "Overt" Narcissist PLUS those of a "Covert" Narcissist as well. So to say that a self righteous Narcissist "will never cheat" is just a bit extreme. Toxicity doesn't discriminate and it's ridiculous to even think that someone as Toxic as these folks, would even think of being Faithful when they are Abusing their partner and causing them to Breakdown Mentally and Emotionally and possibly even Hurting them Physically. Narcissists lack Respect of all kinds for others. The Narcissist knows no boundaries. My ex husband was the so called "self righteous" Narc but yet he cheated. So there's really no point in trying to even put them in different Catagories because at the end of the day.. Toxic is Toxic and Toxic does Not Discriminate.
@@LM-ol4wc Sounds like you’ve thoroughly studied & described the 2 people (2 Narcissist’s) in your life. I’m sorry they’ve painted your world black & white with no room for any new knowledge, so this video clearly matches your experience. Who am I to shed any light on what you “know” & have mastered? Do you have a PhD in these 2 particular people?
@@millyshona5007 Uh, do YOU have a degree?! I see you didn't Read my comment Thoroughly otherwise you would have seen where I clearly started off discussing the overt and covert but then Ended it by saying my ex husband is the "self righteous" Narcissist that you spoke of but yet he cheated numerous times. With that being said, I have not come across "only two Narcissists" as you have stated. Also, if you Google "how many different types of Narcissists are there", you'll see there are many articles that claim there are 4 or 6 while others say there are 7 types of Narcissism. Why? Because they don't even know what to make of it because of the simple fact that all it is is just a whole bunch of mumbo jumbo and makes Zero sense to think that Toxicity Discriminates. It's Ridiculous!!
@@LM-ol4wc A “Self Righteous Narcissist” doesn’t cheat dear. In many different cultures people are raised differently. There are people out there that would NEVER cheat, nor lie their entire life. It doesn’t mean they don’t Gaslight you, Minimize your experiences, Invalidate you, Abandon you, nor attempt Controlling you. This type of narcissist feels that they are truly a great human being & see no fault in themselves. This is tricky & difficult to walk away from as even in front of a therapist, they may appear “perfect”. They may behave differently outside the home & reserve all the emotional abuse specifically for the spouse &/or children. This type is a bit harder to identify. It’s difficult to leave more so if children are involved & if family & friends love the narcissist as they may pick up the tab always & be charming. They may withhold money from you if they are the sole earner & you handle everything else at home. And although there isn’t physical, nor overt abuse involved, that doesn’t mean it’s not equally, if not more harmful in the long run. Slow poison can destroy ones health, mind, self esteem, everything- Atleast cheating & physical abuse are easy & clear to identify. Society supports leaving such narcissist is external abuse is happening. Try explaining subtle dismantling & most people will INVALIDATE your experience. It’s easier to make the choice to walk away when such clear, open abuse is evident. Yet if the person consistently Invalidates, subtly Insult you regularly only behind closed doors & then Gaslights you when confronted about the behavior.. -as of you are crazy & imagining things, or overreacting.., IT’S SLOW POISON ☠️. Sadly, even videos on narcissistic abuse is often Gaslighting those that are experiencing a more subtle form of narcissistic abuse. This is just one example of an abusive situation that could be so confusing that a person may stay for 40 years unhappily because they don’t feel they have strong enough reasons to leave. Unfortunately those raised by narcissist’s (overt, covert, self-righteous, communal, malignant, grandiose, THEY ALL DO GASLIGHT) have been gaslighted so much that it generally becomes their second language. Just because your form of abuse doesn’t match another person’s experience, doesn’t mean what another person experiences isn’t real, not abuse, nor never happened.. Or if the abuser doesn’t specifically have the personality/traits of your specific abuser”s”, then it’s not narcissism.. this thought process simply baffles me- Also, the psychological study of NPD is very brand new. There was no awareness of this 3,000 years ago like Ayurvedic Herbal Medicine. Much new information is coming to light every month, if not every week in this industry. And although many books regarding this has many great generalized ideas & advices, one shoe Does Not fit all in this. Also, a Religious Communist Narcissist may be honest, loyal, & do a lot of good for the world, but specifically treat waiters, service workers, their spouse, or anyone they believe is “below them” badly. They may be very charming & friendly in public, but abuse specific types of people only in specific scenarios. And because this person is loyal (not cheating), not violent, & people in the community love them as they may be very involved in their religious group.. this partner may be difficult to identify as a “Narcissist” as community may love them. I personally knew a lady that abused her husband, Uber drivers, waiters, & taxi drivers when alone.., but gave a perfect performance in the presence of the world. It took her husband nearly two decades to clearly identify, understand this won’t change, & finally leave this lady. She is now single & abuses her maid, gardner, & those that she believes are “below her”. This abuse happens in private & comes in the form of backhanded compliments, insults framed as “jokes” & many many other forms. She is a well known Public Speaker who people perceive as a wonderful person. Her children ghosted her permanently. Other than that, everyone else finds her to be an amazing person. She’s a Communal Narcissist & because her abuse is different from the “standard narcissist description”, her family suffered slow poison ☠️ until they finally removed themselves. Her son often says, “I wish she would’ve just punched me. It would’ve been easier to throw her out of my life. Instead I dealt with triangulated abuse where my marriage almost fell apart because of her. He had married a restaurant hostess who loved her job, but obviously that wasn’t good enough for her mother in law, so she endured many subtle types of ongoing abuse”. It’s not as clear. Toxicity comes in many shades & colors. Those experiencing it can feel very isolated if “experts” are also gaslighting (most probably unknowingly), or simply don’t understand what they haven’t seen/experienced themselves. Physical abuse is really really bad. Psychological abuse can kill too though..
Omg from start im nodding n agreeing to every remark ?? Truevon all counts about at 1st made me change my entire wardrobe n col hair style . Showing me off to his older mates . N yes had threats physical assaults . Basicly wen i caught him cheating asked wat he wud do if it was me ? Kill yer both ??
Love the smear campaigns against men only to focus on women. I am trying a second time with my diagnosed bipolar 1 ex wife who has very heavy narcissistic traits at times.
Content that promotes a stereotype is not healthy imo. Wives are not the only targets of narcissists. Sometimes you tube providers focus on a special subset but the picture and title are not what I consider healthy content for promoting healing. I did listen to the video and considered it non helpful imo
I chose to change my life for our relationship that was all a ly moved to his house with promises of marriage 4 years ago not happening I did not sale my payed off still furnished house o. 40 acers have my own payed off vehicles he has killed any feelings I had for him he has cut off all intimacy intrest of me he is rude hateful says he owns me that is funny I never needed him at on time I wanted what I thought was a good loving man he is nothing but a scared abusive little boy
