10 MISTAKES I Made As A First Time Mom & Why I Wouldn’t Change Them 

The reason I’m 34 years old and find your content comforting is because it’s so simplistically real, cozy and inviting. A lot of youtubers have harsh vlogging (by that I mean, they are very boisterous, they have unhealthy ideals of beauty, homes that are unrelatable and too squeaky clean)…you my dear are the pioneer of pleasant viewing. I love taking a minute from my stay at home mom life of 5 to hear your wisdom, enjoy your inviting atmosphere to your videos and be inspired to shop secondhand and do my best to be close to the lord. Sending blessings your way from CA!

As an expecting first time mom, I am literally sitting here with my notebook taking notes on what you are saying. I really appreciate you being a positive Christian example on raising little ones!

I am a sixty year old grandmother, and I just want to tell you that this is excellent advice! I hope you know how valuable this vlog is! You are an amazing Mom with a beautiful family. Keep up the great work, you are making a difference!

Your transparency and vulnerability is gold. You don’t know how many times you’ve encouraged me as a mom! God has really been reminding me of how it’s in our weakness that His power is made perfect. Thank you for reminding me that I’m not alone in my weaknesses and imperfections!

Literally on number 5 and I relate to everything so much. The fact that you pointed out that every child will grow differently, in terms of development and eating/pooping, made me look at my own daughter and realize she’s completely different than how the books and articles say a 21-22 month old should be. Your content is truly a blessing 😭

As a first time mom with a three week old baby I appreciate videos like this! Also the breathing techniques for labour are a must in my experience! I laboured for 29 hours total and pushed for 1.5 hours! It was the hardest and most incredibly painful thing I’ve ever done, but breathing seriously made a huge difference!

I’m trying to get pregnant the next couple months and I am gobbling up your videos like crazy! Thank you for sharing this information and helping first time (almost) moms like me

The Lord is really using you, Delilah - to bless and impact other Moms in such positive ways. I'm 52 and my youngest child is 12 now, but I so enjoy your content, and it is sometimes so validating of my own feelings/struggles as a mom when my kids were young. Thank you for all the time and effort you put into these videos.

I can relate to all of this. The milestones, the keeping track of everything.... motherhood is to be enjoyed, it should not be stressful... happy mamas equal to happy babies..... thanks for sharing...

Far from being a mum yet but I can’t wait to finally be financially stable enough to build a family with my love x

Ooow, what a great video! I too was 20 when I had my first daughter, she is going to be 18 this year. I regret a whole bunch of things, especially letting her cry it out. It was the advice that was given a lot back then. We all want the best for our kids and work with what we know, but if I could go back and tell 20 year old me one thing it would be to never let my babies cry all alone in their little beds. Crying is perfectly normal, that is how they communicate, but we have to be there to listen and respond.

I regret not holding my first baby as much. I was so worried about putting him down as he became tired so he’d learn to sleep on his own because that advice is everywhere. However, I hold my second little guy until he sleeps for naps and I love it. He does great at night and it works for us. So really I regret being hard on myself and losing out on that joy because I thought to be a good mom I HAD to put him down.

Thank you for mentioning Force Feeding, our parents always forced us to eat up but we have never been very hungry children and it ruined every family dinner.

I love that you discussed not teaching your kids to suppress their faith, but rather helping them learn to work through them. That’s something that my wife & I feel very strongly about. 💜

I definitely relate to not having mom friends. I have NO one in my life with the same views as me. Most of the time if I try and talk about my natural minded way, I’m told that I’m crazy, I’m a bad mom, I’m doing it wrong, etc. I still am looking for another mommy I can see and talk to about all of it lol. I’m in a much better place now than I was then.

As a first time mom, I expected perfection from myself, and I had so many expectations for how things “should go.” I feel like motherhood really teaches you how to be flexible, and I wish I could have been less rigid sooner

This was so good to hear 🥺I'm a new aunt and would've benefited from hearing messages like yours Delilah when my sister was experiencing motherhood for the first time. I think the more of us hear this the better we're able to support new mothers ❤

As a nanny, I LOVE what you said about not rushing the kiddos to milestones. They will get there, you just have to be patient and trust

I think the way you are tackling teaching your kids how to deal with their emotions is remarkable. As someone in their twenties who is now seeking help on how to do that myself, it makes my heart soar that you are putting the time in to validate and not minimise how they're feeling and reacting to something.

You have no idea how much this video helped me. My son will be 4 months old this Sunday & I swear social media has been making me feel like every baby should be the same and everything works for everyone. I was even considering doing some sort of sleep training which wasn’t something I wanted to do but had second thoughts about my intuition. I just started binge watching your channel & you have made me look at the positive side of motherhood & have been such an inspo you have no idea - thank you 🙏🏽 🤍

This video is so calming 🥰 my 17 month old and me (21 weeks pregnant) just had a collective meltdown and this is nice to snuggle on the couch watching!

So good, Delilah. 💛 I feel this is a good demonstration of humility as well, to be able to look back and say “I would do that differently, knowing what I know now” & that is really honorable. A couple of mine that I’ve recently thought about as well, now that I’m preparing to meet babe number two any day: 1. I wish I didn’t allow the pressure from social media to get the nicest trendiest things for my baby, make me feel poorly when I couldn’t afford those things. My babe didn’t care what swing she was in, or that she lives in a small apartment, & it was silly of me to spend soo much energy feeling guilt over something she didn’t even need. 2. This time I don’t want to rush a single thing. Much like what you said, I don’t want to compare my babes milestones to another’s, or rush them through what their learning in that moment. They’re their own person & I want to soak in every phase we’re in without rushing onto the “next thing”. 3. Rest isn’t a waste of time. Taking a day to play with your babes, snuggle more, and not run a single errand, is okay. It’s more than okay, it’s important to be able to do that without feeling like I didn’t accomplish enough that day. Anyway, love this video & love what you’re doing. 💛

Thank you! Being a mom is so much work, it's so satisfying, but also very draining at times. This is exactly why I watch your videos, because you make me feel less alone. Thank you!

This made me feel so seen. I’m currently trying to figure out first-time-momhood and it’s nice to hear you be open about your experiences. I’d love to listen to your Podcast while tackling chores 😊

Delilah, you are such a gift. Thank you for sharing this. My daughter is 3 and has always been a little “behind”. Some days it makes me cry with worry and feel really alone. It’s a helpful reminder to share that none of us are alone as moms, and that every child is their own little person on their own track 🤍not to mention I could relate to literally everything else you said too!

I love your videos Delilah because they are such a nice moment of reflection for me to see things through my mothers eyes and how she possibly felt about things. Being her eldest and her only daughter (I do have one younger brother) we have such a special connection and it’s only gotten stronger with time. I feel as though now at 23, I am really able to understand the why behind things she did. In my eyes she is the most wonderful mother ever and it’s been so fun to share these moments of realization with her💐💕

Gods timing is so beautiful! I really needed this video today, thank you so much for making this video. I have been struggling with these issues as a first time mom and its really good to hear i am not alone and that change is possible. I am so glad you have learned from your mistakes and shared with the rest of us so we can learn from them as well. God bless you and your family!

This video touched me in so many ways. Thank you Delilah.

This is definitely my favorite video I've watched of yours. The content and the aesthetic are ✨ golden ✨ Thanks, Delilah. This filled my heart!

Thank you for bringing up our expectations our little ones. I am an RN, being familiar with little ones I felt very confident raising my first child and when certain milestones were not reached "on time" I felt as if I was failing him as a mother. He has a speech delay and the doctors keep wanting to run so many hearing tests that he does not need. If he doesnt do a certain task at his doctors office they will not count what i say he does at home...and that he needs to be saying 10 words by age 2 or else"we will look into other things" !? I recognized it during a previous video, you said nurses push tummy time and this is very true its drilled in our heads. It was your videos that truly got me to take a step back, be in the moment and live intentionally, because felt like I was "training" him instead of naturally playing and let go of the thought that I was never doing enough. Everyone is happier, and he is just fine and already trying to talk all the time now. Sorry for the rant, its my first "break" ☕️ lol Thank you for all you do to help struggling mommas find their way 🙏 🌻

I would love more videos on balancing your roles as wife and mother. We recently implemented dates once a month (on the calendar!!) after really liking your once a week date plan (hoping to work our way there eventually). Its hard to find time for us when he works during the day, I take care of the baby, and we are both exhausted by the time baby goes down for the night. Also videos relating to how to not be perpetually exhausted. Having only one, I cannot fathom how you function on a daily basis, lol

I really appreciate your thoughts and I really felt like some of your words put me in check. I realized that I definitely need to work on some things and I'm so grateful to have had it brought up and worded as you did. It really spoke to me in a way of reflection and now I need to put it in practice before it's too late. Thank you. 😊

Thank you for being open and honest. It’s not the easiest to admit and acknowledge missteps. I have a 6 month old and already have situations I wish I had handled differently.

Thank you so much for this video. My daughter is 3 years old and I've been watching you since she was born. I fully relate to what you said. We as mums tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves to tick all the right boxes and do things 'perfectly'. I learned that it is imperative that I take care of myself because no one can pour from an empty cup. Also to be kind to myself, every day is q different struggle, when you think you've conquered one part of parenting there is always a new challenge to test you! Thank you for your honesty and insight.

I am so happy you put this out there! I am definitely struggling so much lately and this video really helps me think about things in a different way.

Those big little feelings ! I love how you explain it. Not suppressing them. I read and read about how to react but hearing you say that helps me to remember HOW to react.

LOVE this video! So many good points! As a psychology student with special interest in childrens development I love that you touched on the fact that children are often simply not able to do what we adults want them to do (!) and that the behavour is very seldom about defiance. Also a good point that trying to suppress childrens emotions in the moment is more of a short term sollution, mostly by making the current situation easier for the adult, but can lead to unhealthy emotional regulation techniques for the child further on. Helping the child learn how to regulate their emotions instead is such good advice!

This is such a helpful video. THANK YOU! I find these videos so sweet and empowering. I’m not a momma but I have always enjoyed your videos and have learned so much! My first video from you was with Theo and all about cloth diapers. Keep sharing all the knowledge! I know now of us is perfect but like you said, it’s so important to help each other.

Totally relate to 6, I had so many mums around me but needed someone who was going through it at the same time as me for the first time ❤️

It brings me so much peace to watch your vlogs, but I have to come on here and comment to say that I REALLY enjoyed this video! It was completely thought provoking in all the right ways. This thing called motherhood is a tough job and we’re all learning along the way, but what a blessing it is to have you share your wisdom with us!

Thanks for this! Number 9 really hit hard, I really needed to hear that. Thanks!

This video is such an enouragement to me. I really relate to a few things on this list, especially not learning more pain management skills and not accepting help. I'm experiencing a lot of the same things that you have, and hearing the things you regret encourages me to really work at not doing those same things. I regret letting my own emotions get in the way too much, because kids are frustrating! But I don't want to live like that, so thank you.

Love the retrospective video. I’ve been thinking about from just the past two years as being a mom. So much to learn going forward!

Thanks for being so honest!!

Thank you. Especially #10. Most of your points I’ve already thought about, but #10 is one that I needed to hear. You’re right, those feelings should be felt and worked through, not shushed. I was shushed a lot as a child and still have a hard time being candid in public about how I feel. My son is only 3 months old, and your words may have just saved him from the shushing. Thank you.

Wow i Love this Video! Thank you for beeing so open and honest ... I Love that i really See your growth and that this is really making us moms so strong and united!

This video is SO helpful! I can relate to many aspects shared by you!

So many good points. I struggle with not repressing my daughters emotions when she is upset too. Have been working on it 🙌

This has so much insight and I really enjoyed it! Thank you!

Absolutely loved this video, Delilah. Thank you for sharing xx

I can relate to every single thing you mentioned!! I am a first time mom and I’m doing my best to learn everything as I go along. You are a great example of what it is to be a mother🤍 thank you for sharing your life (even the hard parts) with all of us.

Tearing up listening to this video, because I can so relate to alot of these points. Thank you for Blessing us with such a raw, honest, beautiful video 💞

i recently found your channel and i am so grateful. This video helps me feel not so alone. you have inspired me to be a better mama thank you 💜🙏

Love this vid!! Other topic idea: you reacting to your birth videos, or your older advice videos - I’d love to hear your insight now that there’s been some time.

WOW I needed this. Probably need to listen again and take notes and pray. I have a 2.5 year old and 2 month old. Both girls. I’m realizing some adjustments I need to make in my mindset! Specifically, don’t expect more of them than I do myself, teach them to process emotions, and I need to stop sweating the small stuff.

Love your 10th reason. My son is almost 18 months and we are getting into some really big feelings and they can be really hard and frustrating to deal with but it’s so important to remember that this is a teaching moment for them (and me) to help them deal with their emotions ♥️. Thank you for this video!

You are so wise - and yet so young! I've been watching since Theo was a baby (and a lot of the archives from before that) and seeing you become this mature is SO inspiring to me. You are honest and vulnerable about your shortcomings, and I respect that. I hope I'll be like you in my own way someday! I'm 20 and I have been married since I was 18, and when I finish my apprenticeship (as an electrician!) and we have a bigger place to live, we'll probably have a few kids of our own. I know I will definetly be coming back to your videos for advice - you are like an older cousin to me!

Oh yes, I totally relate to you. Maybe that's why it is so magical to have more children, because we trust ourselves so much more and we like more and more the parent we've become. I sometimes say sorry to my oldest because we make mistakes with her that we don't make with her siblings because we are learning with her and it's always new! We are expecting our 5th child and feel so, so happy!

Delilah. You have no idea how thankful I am for this video. I was watching your first videos when you had Eloïse TODAY this afternoon. Because I was trying to see if my 11 and 1/2 month baby boy is up to date with milestones!!! I have been on a mental rollercoaster for the past two weeks thinking he is not hitting a lot of the milestones on the list from the health visitor. I went on the autism rabbit hole and took him to see several doctors. It is so stressful. I keep sitting on the floor with him all day long trying to teach him to do things. We were reassured that even tough it’s too early to tell if there is anything wrong, he is very normal for his age. I have no family or friends to help. So hearing you talk about this is a breath of fresh air. Thank you again 💕🙏🏼

Thank you so much for this!! My son and nephew are 2 months apart and are the first on all sides of the family as well. It is sooooo hard sometimes to not compare where my son is st developmentally or how we parent vs my sis/bro in laws. I try reminding myself a lot (and then being willing to stand up for my son) that he is where he is, and thats okay. That big feelings are okay and so is acknowledging those feelings

That was an excellent video! I can relate to allllll of those! Love how you spoke about everything so gently!

Perfect timing, I was just looking for a chatty video to watch/listen to while painting x

So sooo helpful!! Thank you for this. Much needed. You and your family are so beautiful. 😊

Love this format! Thank for this Video ♥️

Would love to hear more on how you teach/parent your children during big emotions. More on this please! its such a delicate moment.

I loved this video!! I am currently 29 weeks pregnant with my first and the stress has begun of how am I gonna do this. Hearing your videos gives me a lot of hope and helps me realize I’m not alone. Also… I’d love to hear how you do family planning. I know you had mentioned it in a previous video and I’m so interested on how to do natural birth control after baby comes:)

I know we’re not close, but the offer always stands for you that I’ve offered from the beginning. I will always come hang out with your kids, take them to the park, or hang out in your backyard while you have a nap or work or anything. I’m always here, and my kids are obsessed with yours so I’m sure they’d love it too 😉♥️

I'm a first time mom and my girl is 10 months old. I regret thinking I had so much control 😅. I relate to your regrets so much. Thank you for being authentic, Delilah ❤️

Just love ur content been watching for years get so excited when I see u have posted. Ty sharing

Oh man I’ve been waiting for a video like this for so long. 😍 I only started watching when Theo was a baby but I watched a lot of your old videos out of order too and have marveled at how much you have evolved as a mom. I had a really tough time when my son was a new born and relate so much to your struggles with Eloise.

Thank you, Delilah. I am almost 39 weeks pregnant and I’m incredibly nervous. This was so very needed.

I love how you included the point about the body image issues. I also grew up with this mentality, and you're right, it does not help your mental well-being at all. I still currently suffer with body imagery and am struggling with accepting my body. I am definitely going to take multiple pages out of your book, because I love the way you are raising your kids, and it's how I would like to raise mine in the future as well. Thank you for sharing your mistakes and telling us how not to make them. I hope that by the time I am going to become a mother, your videos will still be up so I can look back on them (which won't be for a time since I am only 19 and have no interest in romance at the moment). I again thank you for sharing your experiences of motherhood with us, it has taught me and no doubt a lot of others as well. I comend you for your effort, hard work, and patience with everything despite being such a young mother. Keep it up mama, you got this, and God bless!

I'm due it 8weeks so this video was super helpful and needed ! Love you Delilah ❤

taking pregnancy for granted... I lost my baby at 21 weeks of pregnancy and now i know how fragile we are

Would love to see a video about your cleaning routine/schedule and how you keep up with house chores in general.

About to be a mom for the first time any week now and I’m so grateful for your advice! I know it will also be a challenge for my introverted self to forge friendships and accept help from the women at my church, but your advice was a good reminder to be intentional about that!

Beautiful insight! Thank you for sharing!

Haven’t watched yet but that corner is such a cozy filming spot!

Amazing reflection and I relate to it so much. Especially 9 and 10. Definitely in the thick of those with you, but the self work is so worth it!

you are a great mom, God bless your family, i have 4 kids from 23-9 and i wish i had heard these words 24 years ago you spoke so much truth and love today i hope lots of new mamas find this and soak it in, and new dads too, may be do a video with a dads prospective and 10 mistakes

I loved this video ❤️ I'm having my first baby soon 33 weeks now. I hope you can do a follow up video on the ways you worked on those regrets.. like how would you help your kids express and manage their emotions or big feelings? Breathing techniques or talking?

This is so on time for me. My babygirl is due to be born any day and I've been prepping for her. Thank you for still putting out videos despite Mom and Wife life 🤗

Wow this was brutally honest, thanks so much, super helpful!!!

Thank you for this! This all has been on my heart too.

I love this fourth point! I work in a daycare and I observed so many Moms comparing their children with each other and where so unsecure, when they figured out that the other kids could do something what their child was yet not able to. They were even concerned when I told them what you said, that it's normal and every child development is different.

Accepting help was definitely a huge one. But even more so, not honouring my boundaries and standing up for what I needed or what my daughter needed 🧡

I'd love to see a video of you explaining how you address those big feelings with your kiddos!

Delilah, that is one interesting speech and it shows that you are trying to be the best mom that you can be.

Such a good video! great topic. I feel very identified!! Thank you for another great video

I am first time mom and I have 4 month old baby boy. I can completely relate to the things you mentioned in this video.. While I was pregnant, most of my time I spent watching and learning from your vlogs(how to discipline kids, giving them quite time, how to teach them manners to ask for certain things and so on)..love love your videos ❤️😊

Thanks for this! My daughter is one! Perfect video to listen to while doing data entry from my at home office

Honestly I would love if you did a podcast! I would listen to every single one because I feel I learn so much from you and especially love if you and Zach interacting and discussing

First time mom here, I needed this ❤️ We are all trying our best to be the best we can. It’s such an intense learning process, thank you for your content!!

It’s #4 for me!! So TRUE! Thank you for sharing this. 🙌🏽

Every single one is also on my list! It’s crazy how alike all mothers are!

This is great, very inspiring! I want to know more about how the transition was for you from being at a 'normal' job to being a full-time stay-at-home mom. I'm 14 months in to the SAHM life and struggling with emotions of losing my old self and old life, but feeling so lucky to be able to watch my son grow and change day to day.

That is such a good video! I relate to so many things! Thanks for your honesty😉

ok, so i thought i loved the uncut vlogs most... but THIS LOVED THIS, DELILAH!!!

I am a first time mum and my son is currently 6 months old.... this video really eased my mind.. things I have done now and things (the food expectations) helps me reassess my own expectations. Thank you!

Great video! Thank you so so much for sharing!! I reate to everything. Thankfully I think I'm doing better now with my second child, but being a first time mom was certainly harder than I expected... the beutiful thing is that we can learn every day from those mistakes.🌟 Love your content. 💖 Saludos desde Argentina 🇦🇷