10 MORE THINGS NOT TO SAY TO AUTISTIC PEOPLE 

When people say 'we are all a bit autistic' I like to respond "being dressed in red does not mean you are dressed a bit rainbowy"

Never say "I support Autism Speaks" Any relation I have with that person is over if they say that

The lady psychiatrist that I went to and asked for an autism test said to me, but you make good eye contact. Um, yeah, I've had 50 years to teach myself how to do that.

4:58 "high functioning doesn't mean that we dont struggle, it means that our struggles aren't as easibly seen by you and therefore are completely undermined" so true

it’s called masking, Karen 😂

When my friend said “thank you for trusting me with that!” When I told her I was autistic it was the most validating thing in the world, because I dont bring it up a lot

when I was little I made zero eye contact but then I taught myself to make eye contact so now I do it way too intensely 😅

I’m autistic and people at school say things like: “So you’re emotionless?” “No you’re not, you can walk and talk” “It’s just an excuse to be weird” “You don’t look autistic” “Don’t hurt me!” The last one comes from the stereotype that autistic people are violent 😑 I’m definitely the opposite, even mild violence scares me a lot.

I once got a "but you look normal" when I told someone I was autistic. Ugh.

The funniest part of the whole “essential oils and yoga” nonesense is that I can’t cope with the smell of essential oils and yoga stresses me out. They’d be lucky if they got their suggested cure within 5 feet of me

I hate when people use autism as an insult or things like “she missed the sped bus” it makes me so mad

I got yelled at so much growing up for not looking people in the eyes. That really pissed off my mother for some reason. So I learned to overcompensate then was yelled at for staring, lol. I had to put too much mental energy into getting eye contact to just the right amount. Fun stuff. I studied proper neurotypical social interactions and now I'm so good at masking everything that I can't get diagnosed.

I have them tinker bell earrings 🥳😂 twinning♥️😂

My grandaughter is autistic (7 years old) and I've heard all of these. I educate people as best I can without making them feel they have said something wrong. She is learning what is expected and masking/soothing techniques so it's harder to tell than when she was younger. I think "I'm sorry" is the only one that I still have a hard time with, but more people are aware and understanding of what autism is and isn't.

I love how you are able to express yourself in front of a camera like this! Some of these hit harder then I expected and I would never be able to out myself like that, so thank you on speaking on behalf of the autistic community 🧩❤️

Recently I was told “well it’s not like you’re autistic 24/7, it’s not something you have to deal with all of the time” I was dumbfounded and just walked away. I wish I would have thought of something more clever in the moment as a response or a way to correct and educate him but I’m not so great at that haha

I think in some ways I am still grappling with having autism, even though I was diagnosed 30 years ago. It still feels "wrong" to me. I often try to not think about it, or just pretend to be normal. But having said that I don't think it's worth getting offended by what people who don't know autism say, or what labels they give it. People who aren't autistic could never understand our experience nor should we expect them to.

I’ve had people say things like “you don’t look autistic”, “you can’t be autistic because you can speak” or “ you can’t be autistic because you have friends”.

4:57 - To me, “High Functioning” has NOTHING to do with how much someone struggles or not; it’s based on results. So, it doesn’t take away from someone’s achievements OR undermine someone’s struggles. To me, “High Functioning” is nothing more than someone’s perception of your mask.

Excellent video. I'm putting this in my research playlist to show to NTs, because it nicely explains common misconceptions about autism.

Your outfit made me hand flap 😆😆🤩😍

Hey! I just found your channel and I am literally binge watching all of your videos! You are amazing! I have already learned so much about autism. You have definitely made a positive impact on my life, so thank you so much and keep being you! ❤️

My mom is also a Christian & she raised me to Treat others the way you would want to be Treated Cloe. 😇

Chloe, I always enjoy your energy and enthusiasm in speaking up:)!! God Bless you for all you do:)!!! I really LOVE those Tinker Bell Earrings, Vegan Barbie Jumper, and your tie dye pants with flower and butterfly:)!!!

I agree with a lot of things about autistic people. I have members in my family, especially my cousin, who is in college with me, and he once told me that I need to come out more, and get out of your comfort zone, and I'm like "What comfort zone are you talking about?. It's just who I am". When they have been saying stuff like that to me, it pretty much hurts my feelings. I never wanted to be like my cousin at all. I just want to be like myself. I have a disability, and I have been battling seizures during my childhood, and it was not easy. I have been trying to get out more, but it was pretty difficult for me as a disabled person. I did not choose to have a disability. It just came to me. I am proud of being myself, and I loved myself for who I am, and my family is just going to have to deal with it. Thank you for sharing these video. It really does help.

The whole "I never would've guessed!"/"High-functioning" thing....yeah. When I get that, I do try to explain that it's not a compliment at all (even though they may have meant well), and I'll try to get them to imagine what it's like to have to pretend to be something that feels totally unnatural whenever there's another human in the room (other than my wife, who understands better than any NT I know). Every day, for their entire lives, and that I have to do it solely because nobody would accept me in social situations otherwise. But then...there's the "Isn't there a treatment?"/"I'm sorry" thing, which...nope, even with the adaptations and difficulties, I actually really like being me. I love the fact that I see the world differently. Even if there was a "cure"(which is nonsensical in itself), there's no way in hell I'd take it because I don't want to stop being me. To most people, those two things are a complete contradiction that causes a total cognitive short-circuit in NT folk. The only people I've ever met who can understand it are my fellow NDs, and...I'm actually pretty comfortable with that :)

You came up in my recommended and I’m so glad that you did!!! I can’t stand the high functioning label either. I have an autistic husband and son (both diagnosed last year) the amount of people that say this stuff to me and my husband about our son is ridiculous!! I also tell people the same thing. You shouldn’t downplay me being black be sure it’s who I am and a big part of how I live my life. I don’t really talk to other moms of autistic kids because it boils my blood when most are trying to find ways of a “cure”. Thank you for sharing this I will see be sending this to people when I don’t have the energy to repeat myself in things they shouldn’t say.

I am autistic and i hate the fact that anytime I tell people the reason I talk slow, they ask me to visit a speech coach or they say 'so now everyone who talks slow is autistic' It is very annoying and those comments made me question a lot of things about myself before i became more self confident. I love how people are raising awareness about these, it's good to know I'm not the only one.

I love how positive she is! :)))

IM SO GLAD YOU BROUGHT UP EINSTEIN!!!

Lol, I have never got the "I would have never guessed you're autistic" I get ahhhh! That makes sense! So, I guess my mask sux 🤣🤣🤣

I loved the first point about identity, very well explained!

Much much looove girl!!! :) biiiig hug from me and my son!!!! (he doesnt speak english yet..he is five..also on the spectrum...and when he sees you he is sooooo happy!)

I love your energy. Those flower ears are giving me so much.

A suggestion! cc or subtitles for videos. I would love it. I'm sure someone in your devoted fan base could do it or lighten the load! Or just for focusing help pop ups on screen for your big points or lists. Thank you for the superb content

I came up with a response to "you don't look autistic" its a joke and I have said it only once. "You don't look autistic." "You don't look ignorant but looks can be deceiving" or maybe instead of ignorant maybe "like an ableist". its a bit rude though so I only used it once and it was a friend so he knew I was joking.

OMG I love you!! You explained this so well girl.

I know this is unrelated but so many people talk about autistic's (especially girls) being very skilled and art and very creative. Bruh whenever I try to write or draw I usually don't even know where to begin and my creativity just stops which pisses me off because I really enjoy these things and I want to get good but I'm just horrific at it. Also, I can't focus on it and my mind just goes somewhere else. (Plus I'm not very original, it's hard for me to create a word and I also have a hard time understanding different personalities. Every character I create acts similar or to 'normal' stereotypes) Finally, everyone talks about obsessive interest but I don't have one. Like once I found an art thing called 'Diamond Dots' and I was obsessed with it for like a day and now I just can't begin to focus on it. Anyway, besides that, I can be into things but I don't know EVERY SINGLE THING about it, just the basics. I know this is only like 2 things but there are so many other traits I don't have or fit into. Also, I always fought I'd be ADHD (tho I can stay still for a while) and before my diagnosis, my parents thought I might have OCD, and I was diagnosed when I had struggles with anxiety and depression, so I might see if I can be checked again to see if I'm even Neurodivergent. Imma get back to my life of just sitting in bed lol -A Random Autistic Bastard P.S. Everytime I go to spell Autism or Autistic I start to spell Australia, fun fact

You're gorgeous!! I love your aesthetic (that's how you spell it, right?) I'm not autistic, my husband is, I'm HSP and borderline and these videos help me so much!! I want your cat ears :c but I can't wear them because of my hypersensitivity. Just thank you SO MUCH for being you, for you and anyone else reading this.

When I told a school counselor I’m neurodivergent, (in my case, that means ADHD/Autism) and she didn’t believe solely because “I communicate well” and “make eye contact” Well, I don’t make eye contact (even with my family and my crush and best friend of 5 years, I can only look at the Bernal direction of only one eye at a time) and I don’t even actually make contact with adults or other kids because I just learned “If I stare at people’s noses, I’m less likely to get scorn for not eye-contact-ing” As for my “good” communication, I think it’s mainly because I don’t spend a lot of time talking with other people (though that is changing because therapy and high school) so I spend a lot of time communicating with myself. I just sort of have my usual internal monologues aloud durring therapy and that seems to come off as “she knows how her mind works” But yeah, otherwise, my immediate family members, teachers, few close friends, and any person who knows me well enough has said with all seriousness that I am ADHD/Autstic, and I agree because I have a sizable list of (what is aprently) “Autistic” things that I do that I can’t explain with just my ADHD

i have hated my name till now as a chloe im PROUD to have the same name

Omg you’re so gifted! Everything I wanna say you say it so effortlessly. Also English is my second language so I have twice as hard but keep up the good work!

Dude, i can't keep up with your explosive energy!

Can you make a video about how and when to tell people, you are autistic? I really struggle with it🙂

Right on Chloe! Keep being you!

Someone in my family told me when they did work experience in a charity shop that they got to experience working with difficult people like autistics or menta,ly disabled. This same person told me a couple years prior that I had been diagnosed with autism

Not autistic (so I'm told) but I went to an autism test once as a grown adult, and it was the test designed for children. I had to show them that I could summarize a story in a picture book, make one up based on some objects strewn on the table and talk to the camera about myself. It felt a little disorienting to say the least. Apparently it was the only one they had kicking about? They even asked me if the footage could be used for training doctors, and so it was sent to a whole group of people who seemed to collectively agree I don't have autism, I'm just kind of weird. I didn't get any diagnosis at all. On a side note, if it hasn't been covered yet on this channel, saying something about how those diagnostic tests work and why they show someone has autism might be interesting.

Not all disabilities are visible. People need to remember that.

I've had two variations of "but you don't look autistic": 1) "I never would've guessed!" (from an occupational therapist, no less!), and 2) "You seem to be dealing with it quite well!" (from the facilitator of a social anxiety support group I was part of). I didn't know how to react to both incidents. Now that I'm more aware of how trash functioning labels are, if anyone calls me "high functioning" again, I plan to clap back with, "Oh, you mean I have Socially Acceptable Autism? Well, bless your heart."

Thankyou Chloe for making these videos! I just received my 7 year old sons diagnoses yesterday and I’ve been watching your videos for the last few months trying to learn all that I can about Autism. I really appreciate you! 🦋 🦋 🦋 💕💕

I have been diagnosed with HFA. Here is how I feel about each thing. 1. The thing about labels, I just don't like what they are to society. I like the idea of labels but now the idea of how we use them and think of them. I guess this mostly applies to me with labels of what lifestyle I have, or what sexuality I am. I hate being asked if I'm gay or straight or anything in between cause A) I don't like how that can change people's perspective on me and B) The way people always seem to change what those labels mean all the time and the fact that many people can't even agree what's what makes it so confusing for me to know which one I'm even a part of. And this applies to style stuff too, am I punk? goth? emo? rocker? metalhead? I mean nobody can seem to agree to one definitive definition to any of those things, so I have a hard time answering people on that. Even stuff like religion gets hard for me to assign myself a label to, am I atheist or agnostic? Well I believe for sure that the only religion I've studied is fake and cannot be real, and I doubt any others are, but I don't believe I truly know if the others are cause I haven't seen them, so what does that even make me? All I know is I'm a white male who likes the colour black and lives aggressive music, doesn't believe in god and has autism and adhd. I can't find good labels for that, because everything and everyone around me confuses me on that, so I actually have started to hate labels. 2. I just don't care if someone says they "never would've known". Some people have said that. I rarely tell people about it unless it's relevant to a conversation we're having, and if we just don't have a relevant conversation, well, so be it. I personally don't care. What bothers me more is people who don't know, and assume I'm just being bad whenever I'm in a mood. 3. I haven't heard this so I have no comment. 4. I haven't heard this so I have no comment. However people do call me smart and my special ed teachers say that supposedly being HFA makes me some kind of genius or something, I don't know what that's about. 5. I haven't heard this so I have no comment. 6. Anytime this word is mentioned in this response, I'm going to say "poptart" instead. Okay? Good. I've grown up hearing that word just used as a word for "idiot". Most the people around me don't usually use it to describe handicapped people, but that's just the people I know. However I get what the point of that is and I for the most part totally agree because I have heard it used that way, but it was a different term. I would hear kids at school use "special ed" as an insult. Even on roblox communities, they use special needs as an insult. That really gets to me cause for a while now, "poptart" wasn't the word being used seriously and/or formally to describe the mentally handicapped, but "special education" and "special needs kids" are real terms used for the subject and still are and people are using that as an insult, which really hurts because they know damn well what those words mean. So I have heard it in a different flavor than you have, but it's the same thing and I totally agree with you. That has to stop! 7. I haven't heard this so I have no comment. I've had special ed teachers and psychologists tell me that HFA means I'm smart or something, so I've heard the opposite as you. 8. If you see this and you're someone who says that, F you. 9. I haven't heard this so I have no comment. 10. I haven't heard this, but I do have a comment. I would hate to hear this too. I hate people feeling sorry for me, I do like to be the center of attention at times but only during good times when I'm trying to have fun and be happy. I don't want to be the center of attention during sad times because sad times are the times I don't like to drag out. And it feels like it's going on so long whenever I'm the main star in the middle of it.

Yes! I am so sick of the “have you ever tried...” Thank you!

I'm 54 and I'm dealing with recently being diagnosed as autistic, do you want to tell people what they SHOULD be saying to autistic's? (Filtered 🙂)

Yep had all or some similar variation of all of these since my diagnosis a year ago ... I think my favorite (sarcasm) was when I told my family and my grandmother said "it sounds like an excuse to be difficult to me" I responded "that's not how that works but if you want to have a real conversation about it I'm happy to otherwise I'm leaving now"

I have autism and I was diagnosed at 8 thank you for making this video it's very kind

I hear alot of people when making fun, call someone's different-Ness "the 'tisim"

Honestly love the fact you showed off your outfit You are so beautiful and have the most amazing unique style I love your all your videos

Yesss another video!! Xxx

I think you already said #2 in the first one of these you made. But, that's fine! It definitely bears repeating! Thanks for the lovely video. :)

I made the mistake of telling the wrong group of people that I'm autistic. I heard someone say "what, are you autistic?" In a way that was obviously meant as an insult. I said out loud, "what's wrong with being autistic?" Whole group got quiet. Deer in the headlights looks. "There's nothing wrong with being autistic. Heck, I'm autistic." "You're autistic?" "I mean.. yes?" The group never said or did anything mean to me after that, but the group dissolved and floated away and those people stopped talking to me after that. Never treated me badly, but dang if that doesn't sting :')

I have had people say I don’t like like I have autism and say I’m sorry I agree it’s part of me and what makes me who I am

Autistic people are just so powerful, with their passion of their special interests and their strong sense of justice-nothing can stop them

Thank you so much for this video

I really like your personality.

Thank u for this platform. Mother God bless you ❤️❤️❤️🤗

On one hand I understand why people use labels like high functioning, it's a way to say something that you don't know a different way to do, but I also understand that it can get very annoying

Hi Princess. I recently asked my therapist for a referral to someone who could assess me for ASD (he hasn't worked with autistics that weren't children and isn't a specialist in that, either) and he said, "You don't seem autistic in that you seem to have a very good theory of mind. You spend a lot of time imagining how other people think." I think I said, "that has nothing to do with autism. The way I understand it, the difficulties associated with autism are about communication and socialization."

I FREAKING LUV U SO MUUUCH

I need HELP not coming off as stand offish or emotional. My inability has meant I've kept my diagnosis from others around me. I want to be able to talk to asd ignorant people well enough to not threaten them so they are more open to hearing the truth that's against preconceived ideas. If a small convo w/ me helps open their mind they will find so much info to back up the facts I lay down. I dont want to tell ppl I'm on the spectrum then not be able to answer or correct false concepts of autism. I would not want to see those ppl again to deal w/ the taunts or walk around the topic.

When I told my friend that a small percentage of autistic people go to college so I'm hoping to get a scholarship from having autism she said "but autistic people are really smart aren't they?" And like thanks I guess lol idk

I'm not autistic but i have a lot of autistic friends that i love very much. So one day in seventh or eighth grade the topic of autism came up somehow and this guy proceeded to say that autistic people don't have emotions. And i tried to explain why he's completely wrong but he wouldn't listen :( My one autistic friend once said that she either feels everything or nothing and she often can't tell what emotion exactly she feels. She is one of the most caring, funny, honest and nicest people i've ever known and i love her very much so obviously i was very upset. Didn't like that guy before, liked him even less afterwards.

Your beautiful Chloe you seem like such a lively friendly person I have only been diagnosed with autisim and your videos always helps and I don't tell anyone your beautiful and perfect the way you are love you Chloe

Facts: Functioning labels don’t exist Autism Mamas: Chloe: oOOOPps

I love you Chloe!!💚💚💚🖤🖤🖤

I told a friend of mine i might be autistic and they went like: yeah but its propably very slight autism cause i know a person with autism and like they cant even talk. And that hurt me so much because, im good at masking. So just because you cant see my discomfort and my overwhelmed moments and when im in burnout or in a meltdown, then that still means it happens!

you make me happy stim!!!!!!

you are an amazing person.

Love you for how you are

I was diagnosed with autism (or, as the doctor who diagnosed me said: ‘not a child to be proud of) at a very young age, especially for a girl in the early 90’s. To be honest, I kind of envy the people who were considered ‘normal’ in their childhood. I had been forced to make eye contact as a child, so I don’t avoid it as much as the stereotypical autistic person does. I noticed that you were struggling to look into to camera when you were talking about eye contact. By the way, I love that you are always wearing flower crowns!

I feel like you could make the best memes or vines

I'm seeing doctors for a late diagnosis bc I have all the characteristics since childhood and my coworker yesterday said things like: "you don't look autistic, have you ever tried to see If youre adhd?" And when I told her my reality she was like "i do that too, i see myself in you" "oh and autistics are super intelligent!" Like nooo, she was Just being ignorant bc of lack of information but still, I was kinda uncomfortable, they see me was super intelligent and nerdy etc... I'm not, I Just like some specific topics

Your outfit is 👌🏼👌🏼

Doctors told my mom I can't be autistic or adhd because I'm too smart. Well well how the tables have turned.

I have atusim and ADHD too my mum found you and I've been watching your videos since I would love to know we're you get your headbands from

Yaaaas i found yur channel 😎

Litery everybody in my family said i just have sensory problems and im like sooo my random meltdowns,just upset for little stuff,very picky eater,scared of sudden noises, dont like loud noises but can tolerate them, hates making eye contact literly cant make eye contact unless is needed my counseling even notice i never or very rarely make eye contact its hard for me to sit and listen to church for more than 2 mins if i have nothing to do and i dont want people to think im being disrespectful if im tearing up a crayon during church i love god but i hate having to stay still i cant stay still for probably the life of me ,still using baby wipes at age 12,tears up crayons to be calm ,and much more dont show im autistic to u? My family think my brother is autism because he gets mad easliy still aint talking at 4 yrs old and other stuff i dont rember me like so he aint talking means he autism

Have you read the book ‘do you know me’ it’s about an autistic girl named tally and I think you will like it if you haven’t read it already

i love your pants ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

A popular quote people love to say: ‘vaccines cause autism’. Don’t mean to make things political, but I just despise the fact that people say things like this to promote their own agendas. They’d rather that than understand wtf they are even saying or what they are misunderstanding

Before I discovered I'm autistic, I always used to say the one thing no one could take from me was my brain

cutest saying ever 8:56

I do believe, as an autistic person, that autism could be increasing due to increased use of medications by pregnant mothers, that had not been invented in previous decades or further past.

Different but not less

What was number 6? I re-played it several times but i couldn't understand it very well.

Hello, Chloe! My name is Chloe, too. I will be ten on September 7th. I have recently started this channel focusing on my autism just like you. I hope you can give me some tips on how I can grow my channel just like you did. You are brilliant!

Everybody who I've told I"m autistic say, "you're really high functioning though" and "I never would've guessed, you don't look autistic" and it makes me want to yell at them, they say it like not looking autistic is a good thing, like I should be proud of masking and looking "normal"

Oh, I also wanted to share this just to clarify something. When I state to people that I'm almost autistic/might be if they slightly change the criteria in the future, I'm not suggesting that the "spectrum" goes from high functioning to low functioning and I might be too high functioning to be considered autistic. That would be offensive. I mean that we are still learning about things like autism free from stereotypes and for some people who are neurodiverse like me (ADHD and dyslexia and PTSD and EDS) teasing a part what behaviours (ciriteria) are due to what can be super hard. We are still learning. I'm definitely NOT endorsing functioning labels as I don't agree that any neurodiverse person should strive to be neurotypical.

I used to have a friend who told me i wasn't autistic because she didn't think i was

I love your cat ears 😆😁

Also another thing to add to your list "Take a hint" I have trouble with hints. Its basically people getting angry at me for not reading social skills. Also "Its common sense are you stupid" it might be for you but not for me........