💯 I’m even starting to feel this way about my own family (outside of my household) 😣 I mean of course I love them and care about them, but it’s too draining for me to interact with all of them constantly. In a family where everyone is extroverted, no one understands and a lot of them think I’m ‘rude’ and ‘distant’. Some of them understand, but a lot of them even though I tell them I’m very introverted and simply don’t have nearly the same energy reserves as them, they just don’t take the time to really understand or think about it and just shrug their shoulders and I guess they think I’m ‘weird’ that I don’t constantly want to attend every get-together, party, or even group chat messages . Sigh 😣🤷♀️
@@LauraAnne95 omg sane, like, I love them, but I don't feel like a need to talk to them, call them or even text them, and just the idea of having to make contact makes me tired
@@LauraAnne95 maybe one of the common extrovert people's fault(not all extroverts) is the fact that they don't understand the behaviour or personality of others being different I guess😕
Exactly couldn’t have said it better. If I’m around 50 people then it has to be 50 people that I care about and that I can have a decent conversation with :-)
I bet all the introverts here, enjoyed the whole covid lockdown event. I sure did! First time in my life that I didn't have to make excuses why I didn't want to participate, join in, meet people. It was great.
No! Introverts are not all the same. I enjoy going to pubs several times a week (even if I may not speak to anyone except the barperson) which in the UK were shut by lockdown. Introversion does not preclude concern about society as a whole as well as ourselves. Lockdown caused appalling damage to the health service, education, and the economy which will take decades to recover from. It empowered authoritarian politicians (notably Matt Hancock in Britain) and killjoy medical panjandrums, and advanced a socialistic outlook that governments can spend unlimited sums to alleviate any hardship. It was the worst disaster since second world war.
I can be concerned about society from afar. I don't have to rub shoulders with everyone to care. And I think things that will cause worse damage to society and the economy will be continuing automation, the climate crisis and people's disinterest in caring for the earth because it means change and half the population is mortally fearful of change even when it means something better will come as a result. @@michaelhughes4466
I wouldn’t say that while I did enjoy being alone , there’s still things I like to do besides sit at home , like going for a walk or going shopping ,getting something to eat , all things u can do and enjoy alone.
Old introvert who finally retired after 53 years; did a great job, remained diligent, helpful and kind, but this is my truth, I'm absolutely thrilled to stay at home, minding my own business, and shutting the world out; online interaction with very little contact is awesome; just me and my dog living and loving each day
Me too. I retired 5 years ago and I was so drained it took a full year to not be tired and I'm finally feeling less tense. I'm happiest at home with Noone around me. ( I worked in a public setting)
Every Friday evening I send my daughter to my Mums (they get along so well) for a sleepover and my husband out with his mates. Thats the only thing that prevents me to tape them up and throw them in the shed.
IKR. In my country we get marks for how much we say and what we say in class and that’s so annoying. Why do I need to speak in class? If I don’t, does that mean I am dumb or what? My grades would be so much better if it would just be my writing marks. I don’t think it’s bad that I like to be silent so why do I need to push myself to do things I feel uncomfortable with... I hate school for that.
My grades were good enough to exempt me from the final quarter of my senior year of high school which thrilled me to no end because I so desperately wanted to get out of that place. I hated being in a classroom.
I loved spending the last year of my highschool in my house tbh I didn't had to deal with a lot of crappy drama. Plus I got to deal with my own problems without having people breathing down my neck.
I can't help thinking there might have been ways for you to get out of these parties without needing something as extreme as a global pandemic to happen.
My friends think I’m depressed or lonely cuz I shut myself in my house without hanging out with anyone, but little do they know I’m living my best life.
I tried to explain introversion to an extroverted coworker (one time) and explained how I get physically tired in social situations. She immediately replied: "oh, that's not introverted, you must have a mental disorder." I had to talk to HR later about it because I told her she has the attention span of a tennis ball among other things. I've never had a problem being assertive when I'm angry or annoyed at stupid people
"Oh, that's not introverted; you must have a mental disorder." That is perhaps the most disrespectful slap in the face to not just you, but all introverts. There's nothing quite like trivializing introverts by claiming they're all mentally handicapped.
"introverts don't get engaged in group conversations" - well, everytime i engage, i end up being upset that someone stops listening to me after like 10 seconds or i end up listening to their 10 minute monologue or i give them the 10 minute monologue if they show any will to listen and then i feel embarrassed because i exposed myself
"You don't annoy me. We should talk. But not in person. And rarely. Because if people know you talk to me they might try to talk to me" -one introvert to another
lol.. one of my classmates (when we had to work on a group project) was like wow you’re quite fun online. And then he said ‘hi’ to me the next and I said ‘hi’ and then ignored him.
I think that the most simple and most agreeable definition of an introvert person can be " a person who is introvert will only involve in a conversation if the conversation is about something in which he has interest or else he would just fade out"
That is definitely me. I get bored very easily and will bow out of a conversation very quickly. In fact, I will disappear and people will have wondered where I have gone to.
@@theendfight8360 Same. Almost everytime, everyone is clueless and lazy in my group projects. The result is me being the leader despite the fact that I'm an introvert.
I get drained by social interactions faster when I don't trust people enough. I can talk for hours with my closest friends because they understand me and I trust them
On a similar note, I'm fine with a group I know, with room for maybe one stranger in a medium-sized group. I get really nervous and anxious when I don't know the group dynamic, so either when a large proportion of the group is people I don't know, or if it's a mix of people from different groups which I know/am a part of, because then I have no idea how to behave.
I understand what you mean, but at the same time, i find it easier to get into these deep conversations when talking one to one, i kinda feel lonely in groups, because i'm just there you know not doing much
As an introvert, I’m that one crazy person who actually enjoyed quarantine because I didn’t have to associate with anyone except my family. Who I would have preferred to be with less.
It is still cool. Working from home no pressure of socialising. You can mute and switch of video during calls. Tell them internet is wonky today and get the ticket to be out of the meeting. Best time ever to be alive for an introvert.. ;)
As a child I preferred being at home…always thought it was because of severe car sickness. Hated crowds…always thought it was from hearing loss it was exhausting trying to follow all the conversations. When I got older hated night clubbing and parties…thought it was my allergy to alcohol. Didn’t realise until I was in my 30’s that I am a true introvert. I love knitting, crochet, reading and diamond art all solo activities. Love the company of my daughter, husband and little dog but still like my alone time every day.
I used to think I was an introvert, but a psychiatrist I saw once told me that I was a schizoid, not an introvert. As a schizoid, I've never been night clubbing or partying (the only time I ever had alcohol was when I drank a cup of eggnog my brother-in-law made; of course, now I'm a vegan, so I don't consume anything containing eggs), and I've never had friends, romantic partners, or a spouse. Also, I take it that introverts are good listeners, where schizoids retreat into our own thoughts when others talk.
@@ghenulo Not necessarily -- not all introverts are good listeners, some do in fact retreat into their own thoughts (in my case, I do so if I find the conversation boring)!
I absolutely hate crowds. I also don't like people sitting behind me. I have to monitor what is going on around me and be able to make that quick exit if I need to. I have never done parties. If I go, I will be gone in less than ten minutes. I am currently taking care of my mom. In order to get away, I go to work. When I get home from work, it is a quick greeting, ask if she needs anything, and then I isolate myself. I even lock my bedroom door because I don't want interruption. I have a lot of trouble sleeping. If I can get to sleep I want to be able to do so as long as I can so I can function the following day.
@@psa722 I also don't like it when there are people behind me, and I always check my six FREQUENTLY if such is the case -- but that also comes from living in a diverse area, in a small town it's not as scary!
When I was young thought I was not an introvert because I went to parties, then I realized the parties had a lot of people who really don't notice you if you don't talk and because I was there for the guys, no guys, no fun. Even if it is a small party I have to know everyone there otherwise I am miserable.
This resonated so much. I’m the introvert’s introvert - I go at least 4-5 days a week without seeing or speaking to anyone but my pets. I don’t seem to actually have a point at which I become lonely. The COVID pandemic didn’t even faze me in terms of isolation.
As an introvert, any type of party is like hell. You have to socialize for hours and cannot stare at you phone without looking like you hate the person's party
I usually go to the kitchen and help with the food and dishes when I have to go to a party. It's also helpful to pretend to talk on the phone, to hide on the toilet and to play with present pets or children or find someone who loves talking and will be happy speaking all the time with you just nodding here and then.
I am 100% an introvert. I hate being the centre of attention, I don't make friends easy, hate going to social events and am very passive. I would love to be more assertive, but don't like confrontation. I feel comfortable in small groups of people I know well, but hate going to work parties and events and will make excuses not to go if I can.
Imagine going to school for 7 hours, and when you get home your parents go "why don't you ever hang out with us?" I just want to sit down, drink my tea, and read in silence. But nOoOo.
I got lucky like that once. Only two emails shared between us, one to divide the roles and the last with the completed project. No facebook, whatsapp, phone number, skype, etc. needed.
@@outrider8569 : 'optimism with a twist'- I like it:) I just call it stoicism perhaps - why would I root my well being in someone else? Well, I'm not a robot, so unfortunately I do get upset with humans at times, but then I tell myself: there is no logic in human behaviour, so don't be disappointed. What did you expect?
I guess I keep getting adopted by extroverts. Ehh, at least they treat me with food occasionally, all I can say this is how you make friends with me irl. Just give me a free snack and I'll stick around for 2 hours.
Imagine growing up in a culture where everyone thinks something is wrong with you for being an introvert. Thats my life and i still get questions about why am i the way i am as an adult. I'm just learning to accept that they just have nothing else to say.
I grew up with only one maybe two friends mosty life. My "friend group" is mostly their friends, or a person and their husband or wife. At most their kids. Families I avoid. My own we all agree we barely have stuff to talk on get the greetings and basic stuff out the way then leave.
The real sign you're an introvert: if you're hiking or taking a walk, hear people on the trail up ahead, and regardless of the direction you were going, you start walking in whatever direction will get you furthest away from them in the shortest amount of time. Or maybe that's just me, idk
Exactly, especially when you are in a bad mood, you go into "GHOST" mode, you simply ignore every freaking creature you encounter, you are too pissed off & it feels like no one will understand your emotional state in that moment so you go into a tactical withdrawal, you just want to get from point A to point B as sneaky as possible.
@@CreativeForcePro yeah, it can sometimes depend on the situation, but overall, if I'm upset or irritated, or just don't want to be there, I won't speak, react or emote until I can have a good hour to myself to sort it out. Which is also how I deal with my social battery draining!
Being an introvert, I actually enjoy conversations when there's more.than two people, because then I don't have to make the effort of trying avoid awkward silences or trying.to come up with topics.
It’s been a long time since I’ve had long conversations with a person. But I’ve recently started talking to a someone. It’s fun talking to with them but the long awkward silence makes me think I’m doing something wrong, even though it doesn’t bother the person I’m talking too. Even though we barely know each other, I’ve told her what my personality is like. So maybe it’s her being nice and knowing I’m new to long personal conversations.
Well the secret when it is two of us is that I look the person in the eye and agree with what he/she says with a fake smile that I practiced that makes the person talk more and I don't have too( downside a girl taught I was flirting with her because of that) so I adopted a new strategy I pretend to be sick and have headache
People think introverts are like some kind of shy recluse....we can SEEM that way, but really we are just more discerning about who we choose to be with.
as an introvert, i hate people who say that they're introverted just because they think its 'cute' damn 124 likes, your girl is famous 904 likes now lol
Chriael Samuil Yup :) They do it for the hype. There's a lot of stereotypes of introverts out - we're so mysterious etc... Many people romanticize introverts too. It's bothersome.
As an introvert, I actually prefer group situations to one on one situations. Because, like you said, in a group I can just retreat and play on my phone and no one will pay any attention to me. It's still draining but I can take a couple of hours of this. But in one on one situations, the other person is LASER focused on YOU. And that absolutely zaps my energy faster than any group gathering. But obviously, I prefer to be completely alone or just with my boyfriend. Alone time is best time, even if it is alone time with my boyfriend :)
When he’s talking about situations that drain you, he’s talking as if you’re actually participating in the convo. Obviously it’s less draining to completely ignore the group of people that’s with you than to talk one on one with someone
I am the opposite. I like one on one communication. The more people that join in on the conversation, the more nervous I get. After a short time, I lose interest and I leave.
Am I the only one who thinks that cats are the perfect pets for an introvert and dogs for extroverts? If you think about their personalities, they match a lot. 😂
No, dogs are very much my coping mechanism over cats. Cats never want anything to do with me, and never seen to _care_ about me, but my doggo always loves me
Yes totally agree! I love animals including dogs but I have a special affinity for cats. When I spend a day “humaning” at work I look forward to returning home to my books and my cat.
My sister is an extrovert while I'm an introvert. She's so pissed about lockdown that she decided to leave our country, while I'm happily cuddling with my cats barely noticing any difference because I've been living the quarantine lifestyle for most of my life 😂
@@plan4life I'm not socially awkward, just socially uninterested. I'm not shy, just hate small talk. I'm not lonely, just a preference of being alone. I'm not timid, but naturally assertive tempered by natural empathy unless someone doesn't get the point. I can interact easily with people, in crowds, and unplanned activities - but that's very draining and alone time to recharge is not only needed, but required. I don't suffer from social anxiety, but can suffer from social annoyance.
@@plan4lifeactually that is everything that introverts are stereotyped to be. The fundamental trait is not social interaction or success but rather whether social interactions of certain types energize or drain you and how you feel most comfortable processing your environment, which is why some of those other things can present as “symptoms”. I grew up in a very small town where my family was known and I was related to many of them (there was a period where there was someone with my last name in every school for a period of about 60 years), and I would have random people stop me and talk to me from the time I was very small. My husband was very confused when I came up introverted because I am very socially confident, have no issues with building rapport, can speak at length on any topic, including the trivial, have no problem with asserting myself or being direct or creating conflict, and am not a “lonely” person from the outside. What he didn’t see is how tired I felt after a day of work as an educator, talking to people all day long, that I can sit quietly and daydream for hours without any external stimulation, the order in which I assess my feelings for and speak about something, and never NEED another person around me to contemplate a situation. He is extremely extroverted. He hates “lounging” where he doesn’t talk to anyone, cannot be by himself for extended periods, must talk to someone to think about how he feels about things, and requires almost constant external stimulation. I am the one who takes 3 hours to watch a YT video because I am pausing to contemplate and consider (by commenting) while he watches a short halfway through before moving on.😂
@@Kayenne54 Yes, this. Pre pandemic Monday morning at work always started with what did you do at the weekend? and me ending up feeling like I needed to justify staying home. In lockdown I actually felt free to be me.
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I don't like to be around people because, I get anxiety whenever I talk to someone and I think DON'T SAY ANYTHING STUPID but, than I say something stupid and the whole conversation get's wried
The conversation isn't the worst part for me, it's what to do DURING the conversation, do look at their eyes?! Do you look at the forehead?! WHERE DO YOU PLACE YOUR HANDS?! HOW INTERESTED IN THE CONVERSATION SHOULD I LOOK?! It honestly sucks
@@haileygrant8145 and at the end, cause we just spent so much time thinking, we almost ruin the conversation and they mostly thought that we aren't fun to talk (i know this cause many times they just didn't involve me to the talk even when i'm right beside them, just like an invisible one) yeah so i spent my lovely time alone haha
Ikr. 9th grade, Arts class. Group task: A unique, complex, art piece. Basically I had to share the horrible outcome of the art piece. Add to that -20% for "lack of participation"(I got pushed aside every time I built up the confidence to try and share an idea). If I could've worked alone I could've gotten 85%+, but because I "wanted everyone else to do the work", I got 20%.
Yep. We had a "quiz game" in history one year. Everyone in teams. Somehow, I was allowed to be by myself. Blew them all out of the water it was hilarious.
I was just about to comment about that. I like one on one conversation too but in the 2 or 3 person convos, you can just relax and listen. Takes less energy too.
Oh, yes, that third person is a lifesaver! And then I just get to interject a funny comment every once in awhile without having to do all the work of thinking up conversation topics. (ISTJ)
introverts:*exists* extroverted society:you're so boring,aloof,cold-hearted,weird,why are you so quiet?why are you alone?why aren't you talking to ppl?are you ok?are you sad about something?
And when you try to be social: "Look who got out of his cave", cut you off after 3 words, talks only about them, ignores you when you try to say something
We only ask because we care, and the ones that do it to be mean are mean. Beleive it or not, we only invite our introvert friends places so they can have fun too, hence all the questioning
I am not an introvert please I have lots of friends...(imaginary) I talk a lot...(with myself) I take part in lot of activities... (Like overthinking) I even have a best friend...(my dog)
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I’m mostly introverted. Though I raise my voice sometimes and my mom side of my family were extreme extrovert and my father side we barely talk to each other at the table I am mostly introverted
The only one i dont relate to is that introverts prefer one on one interaction. Its true i dont like large groups but i prefer 3-4 people so that the attention isnt constantly in my direction. In college my friends called me ghost because of how quiet i am in person. So when i am around only one other person, its like the most akward thing in the world. Unless we are besties and your used to me hardly speaking....
That's valid. While when I do want to contribute something to the conversation I wish that it were less people present... But I also sometimes prefer groups so I can just ride out in the back lol
yes, was going to comment this! and you can let the other group members play against each other (i mean talking) while you shut off for moments. one on one is intense stuff.
Oh you're so lucky.. i'm glad to hear that. 😊 It should have been like that to me.. but i have to live with my extrovert relatives who always seek for any form of engagement with people around (including me), have to deal with video calls cause we can't meet in person (offline).. Video calls specially the one in group (involve more than 3people) really overwhelm me. My room used to be my private space to be alone, my comfort zone, but not anymore right now. I still need to adapt thou.
@@shubhankarghoshalroy3605 Thankyou. 💜 I think time will make it better i guess. For right now i only lock my room whenever i need to be alone. I let people at home know that i need to be alone in my own space to recharge. 😁 Self care is really essentials in this challenging condition. 😅
No. I feel guilty telling people that this has been a good year for me. I have hardly left my home. I love not having to make the dreaded small talk at work or social situations.
Y'all are feel like that? I have aspd. Witch have introvertic traits but for me, my brain saves everything about people. Like my brain is a stockage for people
10 Signs You're A True Introvert: (For people who are too lazy to watch the video lol) 1. You are rapidly drained by social interaction. 2. You enjoy being alone for long periods of time. 3. You prefer 1-on-1 social situations to being in a group. 4. You prefer to work alone rather than with others. 5. You seem less enthusiastic to others. 6. You don't feel the need to share your thoughts. 7. You spend a long time thinking about decisions. 8. You are easily overstimulated. 9. You tend not to be assertive. 10. You tend to be skeptical or even pessimistic.
It's strange; I feel lonely a lot of the times, but still dread social interaction. It's more so that I want to feel like I am somebody to someone, than actually want to hang out with anyone. A bad cycle to get stuck in- feeling lonely but never feeling like doing anything about it
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Yo I feel like I’m weird even with my friends , I’m not a funny person and I feel like the way I socialize with them is weird af, I’m more of a serious person..
same, i only talk to some of my friends that aren't dry texters and we don't have like "deep conversations" but we just talk about random stuff, we're all really sarcastic so like it is very fun and we can talk for hours but they are the only exception bc irl i hate talking to everyone, talking in person or calling is just so weird, idky i get all nervous when it comes to talking to people
Actually I've come to find that everyone has philosophical, "deep" side, some just hide it better. I'd love to talk to most dudes but I don't have the energy to unpack them and having that immediate connection, that's rare
I don't think it's that introverts don't like fun. We just don't like random last-second complications to our day when we were looking forward to doing nothing.
Personally, as an introvert, I don't like being cheerful -- it overstimulates me! In fact, when I find myself in a festive environment from which I can't easily escape (e.g. at a party which I couldn't skip for some reason), sometimes I even have to make myself sad on purpose just to keep from becoming drained to less than zero!
“They need at least a little human interaction” Well technically the people I bring to life from books, movies, and shows are most of the time human. So that counts, right?
@@Sabrina-ho5xz honestly, I just have a great time whenever I do this, it's just great...I wonder if it's sad or just a new evolutionary step in humankind?!?
I’ve always been an introvert, from a family of introverts. Which definitely had its pluses, because we all understood each other implicitly and were happy going on family vacations to quiet places where we could all hang out and read books most of the tome and not have to interact with strangers. Or even with each other very much, if we didn’t want to. I live in an introvert’s paradise right now, too. I live way up at an altitude of 9000 feet in a tiny unincorporated mountain town, where I share a fairly big house on 2 acres of land with one roommate and four cats. I generally only have to drive down into town to do errands and interact with people every third day or so, since I work from home now:
Yup. In college somehow I was elected as student president because people legit thought I was an "eloquent, high-spirited social butterfly" 😐 I can fake being a sociable person but I'll get super drained and have to recharge my social energy by shutting in for days - maybe even weeks.
doing group projects, holding presentations, forcing students to answer questions aloud, condemning and failling them if they dont do so? yeah...you might be on to something
I think the most frustrating aspect of being an introvert is the false perception others often have that we're unhappy or depressed. I'm frequently asked if I'm "okay" because I spend so much time alone and turn down a lot of invitations to socialise. To be fair, I can imagine and understand how introversion appears from a non-introvert perspective, but I think we need to do more to reassure others we're absolutely fine alone. In fact, we're thriving!
My partner cant keep up my introverted-ness. He keeps on asking me if I'm okay bec I'm always quiet and likes to stare directly on the wall for hours. Truth is, I just love my own peacefulness.
Relatable. My family was ready to have a deep talk with me after i was out for 2 hours on my own. I was just sitting in the park, walking around the city and listening to music and appearently im supposed to be with someone despite having no friends anymore lol
I also fear this as an extrovert, because I want to do everything and i dont work well with others.. Id rather just be chatting with everyone in a busy enviroment, but working on my own project
School life is done, but in the Mass, the Priest (before the pandemic) would say "now reach out the person who is beside you and give him/her the Hug of Peace😊"! Lord help me😣.
This video was an eye-opener to me because of this. I thought it was a control-issue, but it's really as he says. Either I work (coding) or I have a discussion with someone, and can't work and talk/be social at the same time. It's like driving and walking at the same time.
I DO NOT LIKE WORKING WITH OTHERS EITHER. BUT THAT IS BECAUSE THEY ARE ALL SO STRANGE AND DIFFERENT. IF ALL PEOPLE WITH WHOM I WORK WERE SIMILAR TO ME AND DID NOT ENGAGE IN ANY CONVERSATION EXCEPT LOGICAL AND REQUIRED ONE, I WOULD NOT HATE WORKING WITH THEM.
I actually had a teacher who wanted us to work in pairs. The person who was paired up with me wanted to work independently, so did I. We just moved our desks together and worked independently.
I’m an introvert but I prefer group talks because while everyone else is talking I can be completely silent Edit: I do actually prefer 1 on 1 if I want to speak to my friends or just my best friend
I always feared going out eith only one friend. I preferred 2 friends or more. That way i wouldnt have to interract. Now i have no friends so problem solved
I prefer very small groups 3-5 people total. If there's only one other person then there is focus on you. If there's one or two others you can have pressure taken off you. And if you also have anxiety you can see how the others react to situations to make sure yours is socially acceptable.
"Because that person was loud enough!" I experience this almost every week 😪 I can also add another important point to why introverts tend not to be assertive: Since they like to be alone most of the time, some of them don’t just sit and stare at the wall, they really love to gather information, and love to learn, and the more they learn the more they have doubt about everything, and the more they become skeptical. Because they see how much they still don’t know, and can not do, so they tend to overthink everything and start to get lots of self-doubt.
Excellent. I myself am one of those information gathering/researcher introverts. I found out that my mother noticed a long time ago that if I start having multiple notebooks lying around, or worse start writing on the walls in chalk, there are multiple big plans a foot. I found that I wasn't quite capable of keeping large ideas separate in just my mind so I compartmentalized with notebooks, made my life much less overwhelming. And I was introverted way before RU-vid was even a thought. Here's a weird thing though I've traveled to multiple countries in the world alone, not tour group alone but totally and completely alone where I plan out out everything and rarely have to take anyone else into consideration. It's wonderful! I have to add 4 days of down time for every active day but that may be due to fibro and lupus more than being an introvert. Anyways...
@@SNinjaQK I forget which personality test I took as parts of a college course but it informed me that I was a "mastermind". I see things like they're puzzles. I can start at the beginning and work to the end or I can start with the end result and work backwards, sometimes simultaneously. I have found, through out my years, that most people aren't big picture/end result people. And it still baffles me at times. What are you?
@Nour N I might be jumping conclusions here, but i still give it a try. The trick is do go out there and to do "something". What you do won't be perfect. Probably it will be a mess at the start. But guesse what, that is how everyone starts to exercise "something". Knowledge is no replacement for actual experience. The Problem is not, that you can not do "many things". The problem is, that you think you should be able to do "many things", which in fact you can, but probably not those which make yourself doubt yourself. Assertiveness comes from knowing what you can do and not knowing what you can not do. In fact there are lots of different ways do get things done. Intelligent people tend to think, that they should be able to do a lot just because they are intelligent, but noone gets good at anything without some practice. I know this sounds more trivial, then it is, but if you do not judge yourself for every mistake you make it becomes hell of a lot easier. Being compassionate to YOURSELF(!!!) and others is much stronger, than being judgemental to one another. Maybe you get something out of this xD.
We introverts like being out there having fun. What we can't tolerate is fake people, meaningless conversations and bullshitters. Thats why we are happy and peaceful alone or with our pets.
