Me: oh yeah, I’m totally an INFJ Also me: watches every single “Are you an INFJ?” video because I need to be constantly reassured and validated or else I think I’m faking my own personality
Don't worry, being the rarest personality type isn't as cool as other types think. Being rarest also means being rarely understood. So, be happy with what you are. - An INFJ
Long before I knew my type, I liked the fact that I am somewhat different and original. Although it often came with many problems, I wouldn't change it. I always thought - better that some people don't get me and my values than go against my values and feel bad about it just because someone failed to understand the bigger picture. My values are my values and if you don't like it, you know where the backside of the door is.
Did any other INFJ’s get told that they were pretty mature for their age when they were younger? I feel like since INFJ’s are practically social chameleons, I had an easy time talking to both the adults and the kids without ever being able to actually fit in with either of them.
@@Cvandyful as an ISTP, I admit, I said this to xNFx’s. Why make social and personal situations difficult with trying to dive deep and reading into implications-
@@Laura-YuI'm never angry about it. I am frustrated and also always reminding myself to be gracious. It is likely true that I understand them more than they do me. Thanks for the interaction.
Right? I made the test several times and watched videos about it and really could relate but at the same time I'm like "nah I don't know if I do this" or "this character trait isn't that distinctive" So on the one hand I feel finally understood, but on the other hand I question it every time because I am unsure if it fits 100%
@@blackcat6374 the first time I took the test, I got ESTP 😱😱😱 Then I got ENFJ, then INTJ. But after truly listening to myself, I finally got INFJ 😁😁😁😁😁
Me an INFJ, reading all the comments so that I can relate to people and assure myself that there are people who go through the same situation and feel the same as myself. Phew!
No way, I was going to cmmt this. Why is this whole cmmt section so relatable ?! Am I really an INFJ as the test says and the cmmts I can relate or this is just a conspiracy of humans to tell basic human traits and trick people into believing they are Infj ?
INFJs be like: anxiously planning unimportant tasks, yet not having the perfect plan to achieve their goals, they have a vision though. Just things come up... You know.
I’d rather be any other type. It sucks so bad for so many reasons and I’m not just saying that to sound edgy. Anybody wishing they were INFJ to be “rare” or whatever is because they don’t understand the significant drawbacks that are included.
True that, I was deeply disappointed finding out, I wanted to be an INTP or INTJ instead 😞 Maybe, because I just dislike some of my traits like the confirmation thingy 😅
When I first found out I was INFJ, i was MAD 😂 i was like "i don't want to be different!" I also felt left out and like no one understood me cause of something else, then only to found out that I was the world's "rarest personality type"?? Yeah, that didn't sit well with me
@@NocturnalCachalot LMAO same 😂 Then took a test (on 16personalities off course 😂) and got INFP, I was like OK, the description is kinda me. I didn't bother until two years later I was like let me redo it for fun, and somehow got INFJ. I came to know people get mistyped as INFJ on that site hence proceeded doing tests on other sites too, I keep getting INFJ, INFP or INTJ. I somehow found this channel and I have never felt so exposed since then due to how much I relate to stuff on the INFJ videos, I also checked the cognitive functions but like in my head I'm still looking for that confirmation that it really is my type😂
Pull the iconic "i really wanna stay, trust me, like I REALLY WANNA stay, i wanna stay so bad that I REPEAT AND EMPHASIZE HOW MUCH I WISH TO STAY, but oh bummer- I have this excuse I iust came up with on the spot to escape this social situation and I really must go k bye-"
This is funny because I got instagram recently, and people from all my different social groups are following me and I'm not sure what to post that will appeal to all of them
@XxkittystickerzxX Yes! Most "INFJs" are not INFJs. Many of them seem to lack Ti-logic to easily see "why it is the case" that there are so many INFJs in these "circles". It is blatantly obvious.
As an INFJ I feel the pressure of being the RAREST type, and I'm like "I don't know if I am that special" "what if I am faking my entire personality" so this video made me really really happy and more relaxed, thanks Frank P.S I did do the test I'm no just saying that I am an INFJ.
Sometimes it helps us to sleep at nights telling to ourselves that how "cool" and rare we are, and sometimes those same things keep us at nights. It's a double edged sword.
Lol, that's so true. But I know for a fact that I'm an INFJ cause I did multiple personality type quizzes personally over a large span of time, and I also did a couple for work/school related, and in specialised psychological testing.
I really think we should say “the least common personality type,” because soooo many people in online groups latch on to the word RARE. They wear it like an elitist badge of honor. “I have the rarest personality type therefore I’m special.” Which, honestly, doesn’t seem like a very INFJ thing to do.
True I mean being infj isn't that cool and special as others think. It is just the least common and one of mbti types. Every mbti personality has its unique strengths and weaknesses.
Wow me too! I'm a strange creative graphic designer who's strangely into spreadsheets and databases. I even taught the payroll officer a thing or two XD.
Hey, if you haven't heard of Notion.so, then you're in for a treat!!! Databases, note taking, lists, you name it. I use this thing every single day for every aspect of my life 😍
I think the hardest thing about being an INFJ is the amount of alone time needed-I mean HOW do we even function in families, the work place, and society if we mostly avoid socializing 🙈 then when we do socialize we care too much and get Insta-drained
I have a family member who at the least is an extreme introvert. They never smile, rarely laugh, uaually a straight zombie face. No emotion.I find it draining. Reminds me of autism. Thing is. It doesn’t take much for them to be drained AT ALL. It’s strange. Though I do try and understand it. Seems lonely to me. But, 🤷♀️.
Man I skip all social situations, including family events. I don't know how to act, then overthinking how people negatively thinks of me, how to act in a way I can prove them wrong. Then I just get anxiety and decide to fake some emergency and skip it all together
as an INFJ i reallllly relate to over-planning. i literally have specific times for certain things. i start work at 3:45, so i park my car at 3:35, wait until 3:39 to get ready to leave, get out my car at 3:41, walk to a specific part of the road until 3:43, and then i enter work. like wtf is wrong with me?? i take being an INFJ to another level sometimes.
Omg, I completely understand you. I have a time for everything I do, (when I'm at home though, I just don't care but this can be also because currently I have too much free time), but when I was studying I had even the time to do "nothing" planned.
NO I DO THAT TOOO. I just feel the urge to schedule my routine and WRITE A TO DO LIST. If i have lots of things to do, i like to break it down so that its easier and seems more "doable". If i dont make a to do list, ill panic on what i should do first because maybe A is much more efficient at this time but B is much easier to do! Planning my friend PLANNING IS KEY.
@@nndlovu1878 yeah I can see that. The appeal of being "unigue" and "rare" - this is why some people want to identify as an INFJ but in reality, there is only one YOU in the world and, no matter how many people share the same qualities...no one else can be YOU. For me it's like - every personality type is beautiful in it's own way. Imagine if everyone in the world had the same personality type...chaos, mankind today would literally cease to exist. Every personality type has something incredibly valuable to offer the world. Each comes with a slightly different way of learning new information, seeing the world, making decisions, and interacting with others. And that means that we each have the potential to positively impact the world in different ways.
@@sunnymorning228 While I've always wondered what it would be like to be crammed into a room with a bunch of other INFJ's, you're correct in saying that each and every personality type is important and brings something new to this world! We need different perspectives and unique qualities to expand the dynamics of society. Well said.
Mann nobody wants this, they talk behind our backs but wont dare say it to our face, alphas rallying the group against us. Then we have to assert our dominance using logic and ethics.
@@okplay9446 except there always are, specially when it happened multiple times before "No, thing X doesn't mean Y, you are being crazy" "yeah? And why did you do thing X _again_ after these several other occasions? We already talked about it, there must be a reason and Y makes sense, what is it then?"
I've taken 3 personality tests and got INFJ every time and I hear being a woman and an INFJ is even more rare... I have mixed feelings about this but its comforting to hear someone describe ..exactly who I am and say "we" .. it makes me feel understood and not so alone, its nice 🙂 thanks
Bring INFJ, had to do switch my mindset for when at work in comparison to my normal life. When geared to personal life, come out as INFJ every time. When forced to talk to others in a work setting, I wear an ENFP mask. There might be a lot of ENFP’s out there that are actually INFJ, if they switch their thinking to regular life, and not working life.
I'm an INFJ and I've dated at least 3 INFJs so I've always been skeptical of how rare we are...or we just have an innate ability to find each other, or...(cue the over-analyzing process).
Which doubles down as a good example of giving bad examples you see. Unintentional yeah but that's what gets the most laughs out of people I've seen. You dont mean it to be funny but for them it's actually funny.
I think a toaster wasn't the best example - as I don't perceive toasters as having a qualitative function, with toasters either it works or it doesn't. I wanted to buy a gaming chair however and was more swayed by the reviews telling me how much they loved it than necessarily a run down of its features.
INTJs maybe 😂 my husband prefers reviews like this because "I don't need my toaster to make coffee and do my taxes, I just need it to make toast. It doesn't have to be the best, toast is toast."
@@Emily-mv4cx my dad was an ISTP and that’s exactly him. Even buying a real Christmas tree when I was a kid… He would point at a tree and say let’s get this one. It was as if he was saying, hey this one has needles, it’ll do, and it’s green. LoL never mind what we kids wanted 🌲
"They tend to act differently depending on who they're around." Me, just realising why I feel like I'm acting differently with some of my friends compared to others: 😳 IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW
Ikr, I've been told I'm acting like my cousin after spending some time with her and only recently I've come to realisation that It might be the cameleon effect.. And now when reading your comment I've also realised that I act differently around my cousin and my friend too.
I tried out improv theatre, and it was really really difficult, but also So much fun! And now I'm better at being spontaneous and thinking on my feet, so it's definitely possible to improve it though!
Oh! Now I feel like a failed INFJ! I would get stressed by keeping notes. I can't even keep a diary because I feel too much pressure to communicate my thoughts with it. I'd write what I think my diary would 'want' to hear. 😂
I’m an INFJ, but I don’t think it’s important how “rare” someone’s personality is. I’m the type of person who has a soft spot for literally everyone, so as long as they’re a good person, rare or otherwise, I’m chill with whoever. Everyone’s important no matter their four letter personality type
I agree with you. Being an INFJ doesn't mean you're on top of the world and people claiming "lololol im the rarest type say respect to me bro" just make me tired. I mean, I have no problem with INFJ but those, well, are just cringy af. Considering INTJ are the most uncommon type by now.
So you’re saying my spontaneous plan to go hiking with my dog at 6am this Saturday in hopes of not running into anyone who’ll try to start a conversation with me isn’t actually spontaneous?
I've taken the MBTI test so many times and I get both INFJ INTJ and thats because I believe that its important to understand when you need to think logically and when feeling is better. Because sometimes emotion can only get in the way of making a decision. On the other hand it can also be one sided if you only think logically. And I need to have both sides in order to make a decision that I can be sure that I am making the right decision.
Same... but what gets me is I go and read the INTJ personality and I can't relate to it as much as the INFJ one. So that tends to give me more reassurance... and I say that yet here I am watching this video to gain more validation :)
I do agree with you that sometimes when making decisions, one has to figure out the best approach. Sometimes T decisions will not work for F problems. If someone you love hurt you deeply, all the rationality in the world won't help fix it. You need either an apology or an infj door slam to fix it imho. I hate when T say, just get over it. Or you're too sensative. Try a little tenderness and sympathy. When F is hurting, "you're too sensative", just makes you sound like an A hole.
It's not that I feel like I don't know who I am, it's just that sometimes I feel like a walking contradiction, and the contradictions all make sense in the context they are expressed in. Now, the fakeness can be real. Often I pretend to care when I just don't give a shit. However, if I somehow make a personal connection with someone, I care too much. There's the walking contradiction again. Damnit.
“Reality isn’t happening so much in the outside world, but in my inner understanding of the outside world“ woah I’ve never heard such a great description of the reality I’m experiencing!
I always described myself as a “floater” in high school. I didn’t have a group, I had a friend in every group.. I could always fit in wherever. Often times I didn’t want to fit in anywhere though. I didn’t want to be committed to a friend group
Yeah same like just couldn't connect with people felt almost older than people in some ways like some of my friends friends were talking about doing stuff and I would be like I can see where this is going and it isn't going to end good so just never joined in with it like house parties and that sort of thing.
As an INFJ i found out I can make poems, hence I made a poem to all the other INFJs out there: My Self esteem is so down, you can't even see the ground My Ego is do high, I can't even see the sky but the combination of both is nevertheless as a heartless composition of I - N - F - J - S (INFJs)
“Even if you feel weird, and that nobody can relate to you... you’re not alone and you’re not broken somehow...” Wow! I wasn’t expecting to get emotional at the end of the video. Lol Thank you for those encouraging words of wisdom. Great video (as always)!
“infjs are social chameleons” “focused on how they need to act around other people in order to put everyone at ease/fit in” “shape shift in order to get along with others” *alexa play mirrorball by taylor swift!*
Yeah this explains everything. I thought I am not an INFJ because I do this a lot. I thought Im a half extro then these lines hits me. And that was the time I admit, Im infj haha
I recently discovered that I've been an INFJ my whole life, but I thought I was extroverted because I wasn't afraid to socialize with others. I always felt like I was being dramatic for feeling like no one understood me, but now I know I'm rare...which doesn't really help me lol
I hate when I visit people at new places and can't find a good place to park ahead of time. Had a situation where I drove 7hrs to another state and didn't get the address until I was on my way. I was so nerve racked for where I was going to park. Which was not fun while driving 7hrs by myself.
I'm glad I re-watched this video. I've been in a bit of a personality type crisis. I've doubted myself a little bit because you hear how often the infj is mistyped or how rare it is. On top of that it's also easy to self type incorrectly because you do chameleon so much. It always stresses me out in these comments sections when people seem so confident about what type they are. I feel like I'm better at guessing other people's types then understanding my own. But this video, everything you list, struck me as true.
7:10 OMG YES. Everytime I found something I find interesting, I feel the NEED to tell and talk about it with someone, I just love explainig everything to everyone lol. Especially theories about things like movies or series or whatever, and just silly fats about animals lol
when i got into mbti recently i wanted to tell everyone about it, but knowing it wouldnt fit into the conversation at all, i just kept it to myself :( made me really sad
Very true! I am glad my parents and friends listen to me ramble on about weird things I heard in a youtube video. It is also weird being the introvert in class raising your hand to input your "connection trees" of what y'all just learned just to get validation that you actually are learning the right thing. Please tell me this comment makes sense.
I'm an INFJ and my sister is an ESFP. She was always making me do stuff spur of the moment and it stressed me out. Now, however, we have a great system. I plan our elaborate vacations and book all the hotels and activities months in advance. And then once we arrive, I sit back and she figures out where we eat and what to do in the downtime (I've learned to leave *shudder* hours blank on the schedule so she can drag me on adventures)
We really are bad at giving examples, huh? A while ago I was talking to my friend about some stuff I was going through emotionally. After I realised I was unloading a bunch of abstract crap on her, I said "i can give you an example if you're confused". And she said "yes please". And it took me so long to find a real life situation to apply to what I had been talking about... I even got confused just thinking about it.
yooooo i had the same problem too when i tried to talk to the psychiatrists about what i feel and how i feel usually, but then they always ask "what kind of situatione that make you feel like that/what did you do? can you give us some examples?)" and i was there like uhhhhh you think i can reflect the details on what actually happened back then on the spot?? explaining how i feel is already difficult enough for me???? aaand yeah of course i got misdiagnosed. like twice already i'm not even surprised at this point
The problem is only 30% of the population understands abstract thinking. 70% are concrete thinkers. Just try using a story to tell what you mean. You know,like jesus did. Oh yeah that didnt understand him either 🤷♂️
How other people feel vs. how I feel when making decisions is my biggest issue. I'll make decisions based on how other people feel/will feel and end up suffering in silence
I did this all the time and I still do. But somehow I learned to put myself first (at least in some situations) and it gets easier with time. Nevertheless whenever I do it I am still wondering how other people feel about it. I guess you can never shut it off completely just learn to live with it (which is totally fine)
@@patricemasterson2982 im curious, what website or test did you take to get this result? ive only taken the one on the 16 personalities website, but i was not aware about the letter after infj! :0
The, "Who am I...really?" Question can be answered in part by asking which types of friends do you enjoy hanging out with the most. It can better be answered by periodically isolating yourself for a few days or weeks and finding out what you do for fun on your own, instead of being influenced by what everyone else enjoys. What types of books do you pick out for yourself? What movies/RU-vid videos do you watch? What music do you listen to? What do you think about? The hard thing is that while I'm drained so darn quick (like two hours is plenty guys, no we really don't need to find another activity to do) I'm also highly social. Can any other INFJs tell me if they're also constantly torn between, "I wanna hang out with my favorite people all the time!" And, "Wow I'm so tired. Where's the bed??"
"You're not alone and you're not broken somehow. You have something unique to offer the world, don't forget that." His way of ending this video comforts me.
I am so confused by myself but I'm more confused that people can't understand me as I understand them and it's too disappointing. I feel that whenever I meet someone new in my life, I just have to send them this video for them to get to know me better 🤷🏼♀️
Since I started watching this channel I understand myself more than I ever did and as an INFJ you know I naturally spend too much time trying to understand myself everyday already. The overplanning for every small mundane task is a huge part of my life and I wasn't even that aware of how unusual it is until I heard Frank talk about it for the first time.
@@yurisurran9869 "Am I really INFJ even though my life experiences and these videos talk about all the things I have been through?" "I guess so, but there's always that chance I'm not INFJ"
Well if it is the rarest, then the 3k people who have commented out of the 7B+ people in the world, it means theres a 1 in 2,333,333.33 chance that you'll meet one of them.
few weeks back, im crying after I arguing with my family about the dangerous of plastic straws and they legit just laughed in my face 🥴 being infj it's fascinating and hurts at the same time, i take things too seriously it suck
Omg, I'm totally cracking up over the planning "Chipotle" analogy. Best ever insight to the INFJ, that's me. Before I go to any restaurant, I Google the menu, choose what I want, lol at the parking lot, etc. 🤣🤣🤣
us infjs should band together and psychologically analyze eachother so we don't have to do it for ourselves, while also getting to dissect other people's brains. it's a win-win any way i see it
It's really difficult at times to be an INFJ. Sometimes I just want to fit in without all the strategical thinking it involves, just to interact in a social setting.
As an INFJ, I can’t tell if my personality and ADHD are friends or enemies🤔 And that point about not knowing who you really are: Those personality tests are so difficult when you feel that your answers will depend on the circumstances. Like, I have to choose both options!
Being an INFJ with ADHD,OCD,dyslexia and having Aspergers is a shit show for myself! Every one of them want to put in their 2 cents on every situation! Overthinking is an understatement! Door mat? More like an oriental rug for people! My house is sparkling and extremely inviting though! I have nothing because I give everything away including all of my time! Well, I used to but now I've become even more introverted and now that I'm older my intuition is off the charts and so many people can't stand my personality,I see in them that it's nothing but jealousy though and that makes me enjoy my alone time even more!! I literally feel and see either good or evil ooze out of people!! I read people thoughts before they even have them. My resting bitch face doesn't change from what it is most of the time. People think I always look mad but that rarely happens. I'm so glad to finally know that I am not alone in this universe!! I just wish I could meet more people like me, even one person like me but since there's actually less than 1.5% of us in the world and I haven't met one other infj in 40 years, I doubt I will but it would be a dream come true to finally have someone that shares the same thoughrs,feelings, wants&needs without having to be a chameleon, bored or disgusted by narcissistic egotistical people that suck my energy and then up that use&abuse me then leave me for dead, honestly hoping for that to happen without a care in the world or for the world. The world is run by a bunch of narcissists but through the ascension process, the infjs are Rising Up,realizing our true potential and purpose and will take over the wrongfully placed power,turn it around and make this world a much better place! That's why we are here! We are going to save humanity as a whole! What you think becomes reality! Stay positive, make friends with your intuition and learn to sharpen it like a knife and beware the evilness that will try to destroy you! Facts! Peace,love and power to the people! Shine on INFJ's, angels,watchers, starseeds,healers,empaths, good people! Peace on earth and good will to men is here and now! Shine bright superstars, shine bright! 😇🙏
The giving examples part killed me. I was wondering to myself one day why I have a hard time sharing stories at parties... I just don't have one I can pull off the top of my head, unless I'd rehearsed it for the specific purpose of telling it at parties. I much prefer talking about the meaning of life. Lol!
11. You describe your mind and personality using examples by Frank James... Just to save energy and to finally enjoy what it feels like to be understood! Ahahha greetings from Italy! 😀😀🇮🇹
“This makes INFJs very routine oriented” Pfft that’s not me “When the iPhone updates its operating system, an INFJ might have a brief panic attack” *holding a 4-year old phone which has missed at least 3 software updates* Roasted
Somewhat the same as mine, 4 year old phone, to me it feels fine but when my mum uses it, she asks me Why is your phone so slow? And stuff like that...
That explaining part hit me so hard. It happened once when I was explaining something specific in concept to my friend but when she asked about examples it all got messed up, the convo was getting messier and wider 😂
I guess I will always be: Yes, I am INFJ, 100% accurate. About an hour later: Analyzing everything to make sure I didn't miss anything and possibly not being INFJ
You’ve got that example thing right. I hate job interviews when they say , “ Tell me a time when thus and so happened and how did you handle it? Or, “ You’re in a specific situation. How do you respond?” ( My mind : who’s involved?do I know them? Are we friends or just coworkers? etc.etc.etc.).😳
I thought I'm mistyped (even if I can relate with pretty much all of these) but I just did another test (my 3rd ) and still gets INFJ, so yea pretty sure I'm an INFJ
16personalities has their own... definition for the types? It’s not like pure Myers Briggs. if people really cared about the actual MBTI types they’d study cognitive functions. So I don’t think 16personalities necessarily mistypes people, it’s just not the same... as... MBTI...
Struggling to follow my inner compass definitely hits home. When I tell someone about something I want to do, it's rarely met with excitement. It makes me feel I'm disappointing others and I avoid chasing what I actually want
INFJs want to know how other people feel not because we want suggestions. Rather to confirm that we already know how you feel. Because as much as we have an idea, we still doubt it.
I've already known that I'm an INFJ for almost a year now (shout out to my INFP acquaintance for introducing me to MBTI), so instead of seeing if I relate to these signs, I'm just imagining all of the baby INFJs watching this, nodding along and getting excited. Hello, baby INFJs, and INFPs who think that they are INFJs 💛
When I found out that I am the INFJ type, life became easier because I finally knew who I was. But in reality, it is sometimes much more troublesome. Take care of yourself INFJ's friends 🤍
"They will over plan, even something as simple as going to Chipotle" Urgh not me looking at the menu at home and deciding what I want before I go into any restaurant ever 😅 Another thing I guess that goes along with the over planning is basically because we don't like to be caught off guard because it leads to panic. Like being thrust into a new physical environment or meeting a new group of people or trying a new activity you've never done often doesn't seem like "an exciting new adventure" but rather anxiety and panic at not knowing what to do and how to act but if you had planned it then maybe you would.
Ugh, as a INFJ with bad eyesight I relate to this too much. I will look up directions, menus, prices, everything before hand because I worry I’ll freeze up on the spot or not be able to see the menu. Don’t wanna waste people’s time or my time!!
As INFJ i actually love that I'm the rarest of the types, and I make sure everyone who don't even know about MbTi knows I'm the rarest 🤣. But it's really hard to make connections because I overthink about what anyone would think of me and try my best to change my personality based on their perspective, then get depressed for acting like someone I'm not. It's a slippery slope
your words at the end made my eyes water. ive always felt wierd, different, misunderstood, and broken. since i was a child ive felt this way. i have always thought too much, felt too much, just im too much. and listening to you shows me im not alone, and reading the comments too.
me: **watches stuff about isfj** me: oh that sounds like me haha also me: **watches stuff about infj** me: oh that sounds like me too _[confused screaming]_
Well, people arent exclusively typed by one MBTI type only so ppl tend to shift(?) types. The type that were given by the test is just the type we tend to be like. Like we arent limited to one type only. Am i making sense? Sorry im not very good with words
@Rose Marian That's literally an INFJ thing, thinking we're wrong and that we're another personality type, and constantly re-taking MBTI tests to prove you're not an INFJ and then you're still an INFJ lol
@Toltecs Gaming As a random stranger on the internet who has never met you before, let me say with full confidence that you are wrong. "You are wrong."
