INFJ 7 Biggest Weaknesses 

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INFJ weaknesses 1. easily detached from reality 2. too reliant on inspiration 3. stubborn 4. struggle to express themselfs 5. struggle to enjoy the present 6. overly cautious 7. when intuition fails, it's devastating + 1 INFP weakness They do things that they won't ever need, just because it makes them feel good. And that's why I wrote all those points down.

"They overplan because they're trying to avoid THE WORK." i died lol

Frank James : " INFJs struggle to enjoy the present moment" Me INFJ: *Zones out* What was that?

"Life doesn't stop because you want to focus on something." Oof! So true.

"I was born to understand, not be understood." me

FJ: talks about intuition failing and it's devastation Me: flashbacks to every decision gone wrong in my life

INFJ - i found this channel a few days ago.. my whole life getting explained, FINALLY. very sobering.

The worst is when my intuition fails about a PERSON. I am devastated if I trusted or thought highly of someone who turns out to be a bad person . It doesn't happen often but when it does it really throws my self-confidence.

about n°4 : I also noticed that whenever I'm talking to a friend about how I'm feeling I often regret what I just said right after, not because I don't wanna open up but because the words I used weren't quite the right ones and they didn't mean what I wanted to say perfectly. Maybe it's an INFJ thing

INFJ novelist here: Brilliant idea Sits in brain for a year Starts writing at 60% formed book Paused for 4 months to allow ideas to coalesce some more. Writes another 20% in 4 weeks Pauses for 5 months Writes remaining 20% in 2 weeks Finished Pauses for 1.5 months to consider edits Edits book in 4 days over a period of 3 weeks (pausing between edits to let that INFJ brain do it's thang) Result: a book that took about 2 years to write but only needed 3 weeks to edit. (And will probably take another 6 months to perfect with professional editing and beta readers) More importantly, it was enjoyable the whole time. It was never tedious. And I respected how the creative process works for me. Periods of doing nothing combined with sprints of 30k words in days etc. This is my advice for any INFJ writers/creatives out there: if you don't have to be consistent, don't be. Had I tried to write this novel over 6 months consistently, if I had to do storyboards etc, outlines, had I NOT been able to just let it form in my head, it wouldn't have been as good. And more importantly, I wouldn't have finished it because I would have hated the process. It IS possible to enjoy the process/your life and still accomplish goals. Just lean into your strengths. If you're still reading, same goes with me for art. I will paint pieces for months, allowing weeks between them, and then suddenly they will be done, ready to ship off to the (very patient) client. Ultimately it's your life. And if you're being forced (forcing oneself often) into working in a manner that doesn't suit you, you'll burn out or give up. Wish I had known this about myself when I was 25. It took me a long time to figure out to just go with it. To trust that as long as I started something I would finish. It just might not be in the manner or timeframe expected.

I propose you make a video about INFJ and their relationships with other types!

7th weakness of INFJ: when intuition fails, it's devastating. INFJ falls in love:already imagining about happily ever after, settling down with good life. INFJ break-up: falling into deep hell of emotions. Darkness surrounded, no light at the end of the tunnel. Dream crashing into ashes. Dem true. But hey, weakness are there so that we can improve. What doesn't kill u make you stronger 💪

Detaching from reality anytime is a superpower I have

you’re giving me big bro vibes here

Mine is being a perfectionist!

Me: I’m not stubborn or a perfectionist Also me: Gets vexed over even the smallest mistakes I make and always wants to do things at my own pace and my own way.

FJ: "Intuitives like to skip over things" Me (INFJ): "Covid is already over...in my head." And then every time I step outside my house, I remember and cry a little bit.

Weakness, or whackness, that’s the question.

You look fresh sir

"Intuitives like to skip over things" so true. One example: I want to be with my soulmate and have a healthy relationship but categorically refuse to take part on the tedious process of (online) dating. How does that work? Well. It don't.

"They over plan because they're trying to avoid the work..." Damn. I like the grunt work of things I don't have to think about. Its almost like a meditation; dishes, sailing, working with horses, construction work, cleaning something that's really really dirty. Its like, my body has to focus on clear "set" of doing, which allows my NF to go somewhere else... When it's personally important, significant, and/or meaningful I drop into the over planning. Does this relate to any other INFJ's out there?

One of the biggest mistakes of an INFJ is that we need a reason and when we don't get one, depression and anxiety strikes. We get caught in a loop of episodes triggered by even a small issue and all life begins to seem as a disaster. That intuition thing, That's the mistake I always commit in my exams as I just jump without reading the question carefully and submit it without checking. It is indeed devastating when I don't get the expected marks.

I laughed hard when you said read the menu and reviews before going to the restaurant! Overplanners lol!

"Weaknesses come from the strength" - You couldn't have said it any better.

To confirm whether I really am an INFJ, I took tests five times on different sites and got the same result 😂

"They struggle to enjoy the present moment." Me: Well I don't know if that really is a weakness of mine... Also me: Why do we even bother to do things when we'll die anyway and the earth will be ruined and nothing will matter?

Patterns, connections! Everywhere, all the time, from everyone, from every thing...

What you said about everything to come together in our mind before starting a work, over planning if you will, is absolutely true. I always thought that I was just putting things off, but apparently it’s related to my personality. Even tasks such as cleaning my room, I seek inspiration, and I need to plan everything before I begin.

"Life doesn't stop because you wanted to focus on something" It HITS!

i saw this in my recommended 14 seconds after upload

So glad you're still doing these low-key vlogs.....and your massive increase in subs hasn't gone to your head😉.

discovering i'm an infj and everything about it has to be one of the most comforting process/moment of my life

This called me out on so many different levels

I’ve literally been forming a novel in my brain for 5 or 6 years. I used to do this with essays in school - form them in a week, dump-write then in a night. And I did this with my thesis - took about 6 months to form and another 2 to write and format properly. Novels take forever 🙄🙄🙄😜🤣

FJ I love your channel. I am an INFJ and this place feels like home. I feel understood! Keep it up ❤️❤️❤️

"They don't want to betray their own inner guidance." I can relate to this.

As an INFJ “novelist” (still letting it percolate in my brain)......your example was 100000000% accurate.

"Struggle to express themselves" that is a huge one in my life, whenever I try to explain anything, it seems like everyone looks at me with "Whhhaaat?"face! in my mind it's the most clear and logical thing but apparently it's not. By now, I just accept this and I love it to be honest. Yes it might make you feel isolated but I'm at this point where this doesn't matter anymore. It's the uniqueness of everyone's communication style.

Watching this while Im planning how to START creating a page of worksheet for my students, that is way easier to do IN MY HEAD 😭 than actually doing it

Spent the whole summer planning an elaborate, intricate, perfectly meaningful sewing project (quilt). Every detail fits into the overall picture, worked through every possible problem, made shortcuts and airtight plans. Organized supplies, drew up a 12-week plan, made the first cut today. Felt like I was taking a swan dive off a cliff. I go through this each time I start a new project. Creativity paired with deep hidden meaning. INFJ heaven.

As an INFJ, I have this great struggle I avoid fights with people because it makes me sick emotionally and sometimes physically. When it happens, its like a tornado just struck in the relationship. Even without the relationship, I still couldn't take it... I tend to be just agreeable all the time and because of this, people see me as an idiot/coward. Its sickening how Im just unable to tell the truth to someone or even take the action that would lead to conflict buy is the right one. Some opportunities are passing me by because I just couldn't express myself freely.

Honestly, becoming a parent has made me confront these problems more. When there is a problem I need to solve for my family I recalibrate my plans but for myself it's almost impossible...I wrestle with myself to get over that hump. Having abusive parenting growing up where I was made to feel like I should put myself last does not help. A lot to work through so thanks for putting it all in perspective.

As an INFJ, many of the weaknesses mentioned in the video I actually possessed in the past, but now I'm overcoming some of them and I'm glad this is happening

Frank looks so cute 😢

Please NO !!! Intuition not always right? It has been my GPS for the past 83 years.

The “stay cool and attractive” is like by far my favorite catch frase in the world right now

Ngl, I just found out my personality type through Frank's INFJ vids lmao and I finally makes a lil sense to me now

So I'm thinking that introverted intuition is maybe connected to authenticity and this is why it's hard to accept advice. I find it hard to accept advice on personal stuff. Who would know my authentic me better than me? 😁 I relate to a lot in this video. Thanks FJ!

The notification just came in and said "do you have to do something else, like homework? Guess what? You're wrong."

The restaurant menu and reviews thing is me😂

INFP here and had a pretty nasty argument with my INFJ sister this morning. This really helped me to understand why she's acting in a very unrealistic way. She is not dealing with Covid very well, and has kind of spiraled. This helps me to better understand why she is feeling how she is. I appreciate it! Thanks for your wisdom and insight!

"INFJ's do NOT like surprises," so true! FJ hit it out of the park, yet again! #INFJinnerturmoil PS: "word of the week," is very informative & helpful.

Gasp and woah I'm so early, because this wasn't posted so early! I'm not INFJ, but I must learn about you loveable oddball humans.

This is why I hate when people contradict themselves! I swear some people say something and do the exact opposite meanwhile I'm sitting there like " wtf no one else sees the contradictions"?

1. Easily detached from reality 2. Too reliant on inspiration 3. Stubborn 4. Struggle to adequately express themselves 5. Struggle to enjoy the present moment 6. Overly cautious 7. When intuition is wrong, it's devastating

Love these type of videos!

I’m an INFJ and I have a very good example regarding my weaknesses: I was talking to a really nice guy and he was kinda in love w me already but my intuition told me that maybe this won’t work out, he will never like me irl and a lot more overthinking (jumping to the unrealistic future). He was genuine and really an amazing person being, but I friend zoned him and blocked him bc I was scared, I’ve kinda regretted this later...

"Pick it up Pack it in!"

I think I just evolved a greater understanding of myself in the last 13 minutes, than I have in the last 13 years of my life. Thanks FJ ❤️

Honestly, I came here for a good time, and I just feel so attacked right now........ I identified with every single one of these, dang it.

Next: 16 personalities babysitting a baby.

Ni-doms are governed by a 2nd order differential equation whose general solution is a combination of blessing and curse. at the periods of their oscillation, they satisfy this quote by Hesse: "I wanted only to live in accord with the promptings which came from my true self. Why was that so very difficult?"

The communication thing is spot on! I’m an infj and realized after a video or two that I speak in nearly the same way; not really the best for job interviews🙈

As ENFP, when intuition fails it’s mainly devastating because I’m always yelling my ideas and now everyone knows I was wrong

This video has just confirmed that I'm INFJ instead of INTP, INFP and ENTP. Maybe I'm more of a thinker INFJ but my main and so 100% powerful function is Ni. Glad to know. Another thing: Playing at being a Psychologist or Therapist to every friend who needs the validation or analysis of their situation, giving tons of great advice... While sucking at giving advice to ourselves.

"4. Struggle to express themselves." Thanks for describing this. No wonder I always feel that I can understand others easily but people having hard time to understand me well. 😅

My intuition is like voice of my soul. I can sense it whether something is right or wrong. I depend on my intuition for taking decisions sometimes even big. And I've never failed - touch wood

"The weakness come from the strength" that had me a bit confused until I heard more

It's a contradiction and a challenge the fact that we have difficulty of expressing ourselves and at the same time we need to do that to be understood, since we have very peculiar opinions.

As an INTJ, I don't usually watch your INFJ-specific videos, but your claim that we share weaknesses hooked me , and, indeed, I recognized myself in this.

Thanks Frank ! I was literally so messed up in my head right now ... I'm going through a lot of problems both in family and at work(studies) , u just helped me understand myself , nearly why I'm so messed up rn

Now to figure out how to plan for my intuition failing me, that's a lot of scenarios..this might take a while..

#6: you can totally overcome this, learn to force yourself not to care. I was horrible at this, as million of things pile up, I have become rather good at avoiding to be overly cautious.

The hardest and most rewarding thing I have learned to do as an infj is to truly listen to people when they are talking. If I trick my brain into paying attention by remembering that people are happier the more I can recall about what they said specifically (not just the broad strokes). This has allowed me to make deep and more impactful communication with people in my life. Something I desperately needed but was missing out on all for the sake of avoiding a little bit of extra effort.

This video is so spot-on. I saw myself in every one of these.

Okay-- "over planning" is not planning where ur gonna park, that is just regular good and logical planning-- it makes sense so you save yourself stress and time when driving then at the moment!

True. All of them. Number 2 is a pleasure. Waiting for inspiration and enjoy it in a sudden is one of the most exhilaration things in my life. Yes, intuition is not always right but there is always "something". All we need is avoiding wrong assumptions and try to analyse facts. Rationally. Living in the moment is another challenge. We may try to do it. Cautiously.

I appreciate this, cheers Frank 🙌✨

I've been loving the Word of the Week!! It's been speaking to me so much!!

ISTP: The house is on fire. INFJ: I'm still asleep. ISTP: FIRE! The house is on fire! INFJ: Well yeah we do need to tak about some things but I want to SLEEP! ISTP: NO! LITERALLY! GET UP! THE HOUSE IS ON FIRE! INFJ: Oh. Oh shit! [Gets up and starts rounding up the dogs.] Welcome to my world as an ISTP. Real story.

FJ, this vid was such a treat. Do you think you'd make your own MBTI test one day? It'd be fun to take the frisky ponies MBTI test, maybe as a real one or a parody.

This is an accurate description of my mind everyday...always trying to live in the future.

Everything that you mentioned is all true.Its what that holds me back,stumbling my growth. And its so difficult when we already had a bad past.

"Intuition it doesn't mean it's right. It just means that's it's really a guess." Actualy this time i'm embarassed by my guessing about something that proven wrong. In the past, my 'intuition' bring me some huge problem too, although it's rare because most of the time it's right. But i need to control myself to wild guessing things.

Frank is handing out hearts 😂 I wish I have one 🌚

It's like you can see into my soul!!! This video is right on the mark.

Man, you're a hero I can't believe how you explained all that accurately

I think the intuition is highly on point. I find it hard to approach some people just because I have this gut feeling that they're not good people. MEANWHILE, the people I thought to be good stabbed me multiple times in the back :D

I feel like I'm always right on procedural or the order of things or how to do stuff when I skip ahead, even people's reactions down to what they even say. what I sometimes Miss and I'm mystified by once it happens and saddened every time.... Is other people's involvement and there sneakiness or them being conniving. I always forget to look into future on how people cannot always have everyone's best interest involved. If that makes since.

And yet FJ uploads a video on a Wednesday mid day, how unpredictable and chaotic! Thanks for the great lunchtime surprise!

yaaay! glad your back with the vlogs! as an INFJ i struggle mostly with putting my self first, i hate bothering people and i mean it to a pathological degree!engineered

Just now I was worrying about people neglecting me after about five years 😂😂

I'm not sure if there's anyone who's into Webtoon (ooor anime) Tower of God, but when FJ said something about world not stopping for us to make a decision, the first thing that came to my mind was Khun during the Door Test in season 1, and Hansung saying the exact same words as FJ. Edit: Also I just wanted to add that all the points were painfully correct about me (INFJ)

FJ, I'm a very grateful INTJ watching this video - you explaining this whole overreliance on intuition thing that you point out is inspiring me to communicate more and ask questions and not just assume I know everything just from listening. Thank you!!

Thankyou for the insight, FJ. This helps a lot.

Oh em GEE are INFJs ever stubborn (love u). I like working with INFJs and INTJs, though. I think our strengths and weaknesses balance each other out well. - INFP

I feel like I'm looking into a mirror when watching your videos. A very attractive mirror! 😉

Couldn't be more relatable! Also thank you for the word of the week! I read them with great pleasure every week. Very motivational😊 Thank you for contributing to my life Frank😊😇