Hello. i just wana comment about what you said: "i hope it wasnt too gross for you". no it wasnt gross and I actually with that more women would talk about these things. because it just makes all women feel normal. we need to talk more about those issues and i wanted to thank you actually for doing this. it is great! and we need more honest videos like this :). you are lovely, and your family is gorgeous btw
Hi, I know this is an old video, but I felt like I should add something to the "don't be worried if you bleed alot" tip. I was told that after my first was born, but no one told me how to measure how much blood I was losing. IF YOU FILL MORE THAN ONE SANITARY NAPKIN AN HOUR, SEE A DOCTOR. I was filling 3 or 4 and thought it was normal. Turns out they left a piece of my placenta inside me and I was hemorrhaging for 6 weeks. I had no idea anything was wrong until I passed out for 2 hours and had to have an emergency procedure to save my life. Also, the blood clots should not be as big as your palm. If it is, save it and take it in to be checked. It might not be blood! Don't panic, but be smart.
Thank you for sharing! Trying to support my wife as she prepares to give birth, and this is definitely helpful to know some of the challenges post-partum. Maybe there will be a future video talking about what dads can do to support the mom during this time :).
Every single you mentioned is absolutely correct and true... I've experienced the same shockers in my 1st delivery. This will help a lot of people who watch this video. God bless you all...
Will nobody talk about the swelling in your nether regions after giving birth? THAT shocked me when I had my daughter because I'd never had anyone mention it and I never even though about it lol manoeuvring onto my tailbone to sit down was not fun at all and even with anti inflammatory tablets if you stood too long it would swell again lol
Omg! You really experienced the rougher side of the spectrum in labor... with your coccyx and stomach muscles. Thank you so much for being open about everything! This was super informative. xo
Thank you! I'm 22 weeks pregnant and even though some of these stories are scary (your poor tailbone!) I'd rather go in knowing what is possible and prepare myself mentally than go in blind. :)
The fact that doctors have you birth on your back when it can literally break bones just because it’s easier for THEM to see is INSANE. gravity helps and the tailbone curves up so it is much better to give birth sitting on a stool upright or on hands and knees
They had me do that, in a place that calls itself a natural birthing clinic, saying that in that way the baby will come out faster, of course it was because they had to do an episiotomy
i'm 18 weeks pregnant and this is my first pregnancy 😊 as much as i'm enjoying this beautiful journey i feel so worried on how to deal with the whole thing because i have no idea about anything but your videos are extremly helpful so thank you very much and bless you and your sweet angels ❤❤
Hi there. Hope you got treated and overcame your depression. This is the one I'm very worried about, very probe to becoming extremely depressed and I don't think there's enough being said about it. Scary times! Thanks for your comment!
Thanks for this. Although I have been having a tough time in my pregnancy, still being sick and I’m 24 weeks and can’t be active at all but I am grateful for the heads up so I can prepare and find even more strength for after the birth. Truly, thanks
Thank you so much for this information! We are trying to conceive our first child right now so I have a lot to learn. It's things like this I want to be prepared for and not have to call my doctor in a panic about every little thing.
Yes, weak pelvic floor! Why does no one talk about this?! I was fine post-partum, initially, but then when my menstrual cycle resumed (7 months post-partum) my bladder prolapsed! 😱 The shear horror and fear and pain! And having a doctor minimize it and say no biggie, it's mild...me freaking out, like it is a big deal, my bladder is falling through my vaginal wall! 😞😕 I then became pregnant once again shortly after and the problem resolved itself, but at 24 weeks it has come back due to constipation and straining. People need to talk about these things and be more open, prior to birth, not letting women discover all these scary things after birth; when you're already full of strange hormones, fatigue, anxiety, etc.
The after painsssss no. I'm pregnant with my third and think the recovery period is much worse than labor. Not looking forward to it! lol Great information! -- CANNOT believe you broke your coccyx!! You poor thing! Back pushing is definitely not the best position, but that's what OB's prefer! bah.
Have you heard of placenta encapsulation? It's suppose to help with the after pains! But you're right, just like each contraction during labor brings us closer to our baby, each contraction after labor brings us closer to our pre-prego body! lol
I love that you did this video. My husband and I will start trying for a baby next year so I’ve been watching a lot of these videos and no one talks about it. They say “yeah, it’s hard but it’s worth it to have a healthy baby”... well, of course. But I want to know what I can expect for me. That’s also important. Or they don’t show/talk about the scary/hard moments and make it look like it was some glamorous experience. I’m also so surprised reading through the comments that not knowing these things is so common. I would think your doctors would tell you when you’re pregnant/after delivery. That baffles me. But I so appreciate you doing this. I never would have known about not lying on your back. That’s the main way it’s depicted. So, thank you!!!
I’m watching this with my 3 day old baby in my arms. He’s number 4 & I get the worst stomach cramping when I’m nursing. Yes I have a 6 month pregnant belly still but I know this is normal so trying not to get hung up on it as I was back in my jeans after 3 days with my 3rd. My boobs hurt from feeding as well. The glamour of having babies lol thanks for the video it’s stuff every mum needs to know.
You are such a gift for new mums to be. Thank you very much for you infos and also the way you make videos. Sometimes people talk so much and you are just straight to the point. Love that
you forgot to mention piles (hemoroids).!!! probably the worst nightmare of many new mums especially if it starts before they give birth and went on labour while having piles😡
Giving birth on your back is the WORST possible position! The best position is squatting. It opens up the pelvis and gravity helps bring the baby down and out.
I'd like to add to your list, if I may, and if this would help someone to be prepared. 1. major thing that every doctor warns patients, PPD, if you start feeling lost, feeling weird, do tell them before getting discharged. Breastfeeding helps to get attached to your baby, but hormones may still make you crazy for few weeks (lucky it only lasts a few weeks to a month). 2. After delivery still feeling baby's kicks in the tummy, even though he/she is no longer there :), 3. Fear of #2 toilet action and fear of sex/orgasm (being prepared vs thinking it would hurt), 4. Having some consequences after the pregnancy; I ended up with gallstones.
Besides these, no one had told me the emotional trauma we had to go through..oh god.. 1st 3 months is the most difficult is wat I felt. Especially if it's ur 1st kid.
I was so scared to go number two! I had to have stitches and I was too scared to tear them. My mom actually snuck stool softener and lazurite in my food to make me go because I held it in for so long!!!
I know this is an older video, but I feel that it is important to say something about the endless advice to do Kegels. Only do this if your doctor and/or physical therapist recommend them! I have suffered from pelvic pains, and my pt found out that my pelvic floor muscles are too tight. She told me not to do Kegels at all, as these might make the problem even worse! After giving birth, I have to give my body some rest, see how it all feels, and then check in with her for further evaluation. Kegels are not the be all and end all of pelvic floor exercises. In some cases it is more important to try and relax the muscles instead! Get a proper assessment done by a pelvic floor physical therapist, before accidentally making any problems worse!
Due in 8 weeks yay... 😅 just wanted to say this is really helpful & you presented the facts with a lot of dignity. Sure it scared the living sh*t outta me, but would rather be prepared. Thank you!
So true top 10! I gave birth recently and had to pass thru all in ur list.. OMG someone really should've tell me all of them before pregnancy 😑 First 5 days were the worst. Next 7 days I had to deal morally and it was test period of my physical abilities. Afterwards I realized how blessed I'm to feel healthy without pain in my body.🤗 And my beautiful girl is my recovery power😄
the split muscle on the stomach isn't even treated in Germany. it's just left as it is and you're told to always get up sideways until it feels normal again
Thank you so very much for this video. These things should really be more common place and spoken openly about than they are. Yes it perhaps a bit scary but I feel like I now have an excellent chance to be better prepared for these changes...therefore alleviating unnecessary stress. Thank you.
In like half of your video I started to feel like tiny after pain down there... 😂 even it's already three years, we all still remember... Incredible... x
Some great info, although it is normal to bleed sometimes even after 6 weeks post partum. Also doing a number 1 can be painful too! I think these issues do need to be spoken about more often! Thank you for sharing xx
Yes I remember with my first pregnancy, peeing was sooOOOo painful for the first week, I constantly had a cold pad to help numb the pain but was terrified of going to the bathroom lol
I just gave birth two weeks ago and am going through all of the above lol! Oh fun! First time I gave birth I went to a ‘new mummy step aerobic class’. We were all new mums jumping around and by the end of the class we were all 😳 clearly suffering with little leaks lol! Great video!
I am 34 weeks pregnant and recently have been very emotional because of the anxieties of giving birth and the postpartum recovery. This, has shed some light on what I needed to know. Awesome vids, keep it up! :D
Wow brilliant video, I think it's great you made this! 👏🏼 I'm on my third pregnancy but I wish I'd known not to lie on my back with the first..all fours the next time & what a difference. Never again.
This is great. Finally someone is putting out there what happens afterwards! I feel to know and prepare your mind for it is so much better than struggling or being stressed about it all especially since learning how to be a Mamma is hard enough for the first time!
Yes! The after pains are the worst. After my third I was miserable. I'm due to have baby #4 any day now and I'm more worried about after pains than I am about anything else to be honest.
I remember that when I had my first baby (son) my period lasts more than 30 days. Now I'm due(3nd) May 2020 I just hope a safe delivery both me and my baby will be good. Edit: I meant 2nd
I think it is importent to say that every womans body is and reacts different. So new mommys to be dont be scared. I gave birth to 2boys and didn't have any after pain. My stomach looked as if I was never pragenent just gained wait. Both where born in laing position and nothing broke for me . My Brest swall to the double size after 1Week and where hard (verry painful) I was liking 24/7. When my son was 3Weeks old it stopped. For my second son nothing happend when ever it swall a bit he would drink and that's it. My stomach split too, for my first boy I did physio for my second I didnt do nothing and it all shrunk back. Non of my hair fell out.
I'm expecting and came across your videos. I just wanted to let you know that they've been so helpful. Very straightforward, well said, and great information. Thank you for putting the content out. :)
Best video for soon-to-be-mothers!! Really wish I had found your video before I gave birth to my first child 6 weeks ago. EVERYTHING that you said was spot on! I also wanted to give birth in knealing position but the nurse refused to allow it even though i didn't have an epidural and was able to move about, so I just laid on my back. I regret not doing it anyway. Something is definitely not right with my tailbone/pelvic area. I'm also on my 4th day of quitting breastfeeding/pumping and this is just as hard as in the beginning but even more painful. Thank you for doing this video.
7 weeks PP and I have some things to add 1. Scar tissue from tearing. I knew I could tear, and I had first degree tearing, but I didn't know that scar tissue could build from that. I had to have mine removed because it hurt to wipe and then probably would hurt during sex. They clipped it and used silver nitrate to chemically cauterize it...was not pleasant! 2. Hemorrhoids! They come, go, and come again! Really bad after labor due to pushing hard. 3. How emotional you are due to hormones! 4. How weak you feel after due to your muscles being stretched out.
Always love your videos...especially because you edit them so well. You get straight to the point, no waffle, they are so easy to watch and ref back to.
Thanks for this Emily - I can never have TMI about having a baby!! Feel prepared for the after pains now. I also didn't know to expect internal exams after having a baby. Ouch!! I had an episiotomy with my first baby and so loads of stitches :-(((( And had to keep getting examined by my regular GP as well a the midwives afterwards which can feel sore and embarrassing (even after having babies!) But it's so important to heal right. SJ xxxx
Heaven's, l am 70 now and l now know a lot more than l did when l was 20. The two things l hated was the pull on my uterus when baby suckled in breastfeeding. The second, was how to REALLY do this breastfeeding thing. I wanted to do it but my baby just, what l call "mucked around" but that had to cease i.e. breastfeeding, as my mental space wasn't right on account of everything l'd endured. It was thought my milk might turn sour. I still think about a lot of these things to this day. I was in such a state that l vowed l'd never have another baby. I made sure l didn't and so l only had the one great baby.
I knew it. I knew it! I have been saying to my doctors that I want gravity to help me in labor and I don't want to "flat back " it. The birthing bar wasn't enough and I wonder if a birthing chair is what's needed. I am so sad this happened but so happy to confirm that it's possible.
After giving birth naturally.. You can get a tummy band. Post giving birth.. Wear it 6 weeks . Your tummy will contract back with breastfeeding. But this helps your uterus to go back.
Thank you , this was very informative and helpful . Please do more videos about issues during and after pregnancy ,how long would it take to recover fully ?how long does it take to be able to walk and go to the loo?
Okay, TMI alert. My first #2 took 40 mins! It was huge and scary also I had an episiotomy as baby was B2B and I was scared my stitches would burst, they didn't but I pushed as hard as I did in labour. Also no one really tells you what a commitment breastfeeding is. It took me 2 to 3 weeks to really get to grips with it and that was after some very sore nipples but i persevered and happy to report all is good 1 month on. Also how hot you are because your body is producing milk. I feel like a furnace mostly. Also cluster feeding was a huge and probably the biggest shock especially as I'm breastfeeding. Literally can be sitting for hrs swapping baby between breasts and it is exhausting, baby has what seems like constant growth spurts. However all of these are hugely paid off when they start interacting with you as a result of improved eye sight and their personalities develop, just magical. Also nothing is permanent so know the challenging parts are not forever but savour the good. Trust your instincts and baby is very smart, they learn very quickly. The world is a shock to them, new smells, experiences so they're adapting just like you.
I’ve just had my first baby and I gave birth on my back I was so scared about giving birth in general I was told I was going to have an epidural I was induced cos I had obstetric cholestasis they didn’t end up giving me the epidural cos it was too late I survived on gas and air and the labour wasn’t as painful as I thought it was gonna be labour pains were actually very bearable the most painful part was his head coming out but I’m not sure I would have survived on all for cos being on my back helped me push harder but I guess everyone is different. I also got a stomach infection after giving birth so going toilet was not a problem for me at all 😂 in fact I did not get off the toilet for 7 days and said to my partner I’d rather give birth again than go through that lol
One thing noone told me- you get hot flashes and/or will always feel hot after having a kid. Oh my, my mom always says I have menopauses already and im only 19! 😂😂 P.s. Love your videos Emily. ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for the video. I would recommend to every woman that they invest in a yoni egg as it helps you to connect with your vagina in a very positive way. (Yoni is Sanskrit for your womb, it also means sacred temple). It also helps with building your muscles inside. It takes a lot of the fear out of childbirth. You become more in touch with what is best for your yoni and it's a beautiful way to build a positive relationship with this wonderful part of female anatomy. Love the skin you are in
I'm not pregnant, I've had 6 miscarriages. I don't think I will ever get pregnant and carry to full term. But reading the comments I'm so so so sorry ladies this sounds awful!!
Thank you for sharing these 👍 I gave birth 3 weeks ago and I've since been noticing alot of tenderness and like a dull feeling at the bottom of my tailbone esp when I sit down or get up, makes me wonder if I damaged mine while delivering as I was laying completely flat at that point
I swear I watched this before giving birth, at least twice. And I just now understand the words at 3 weeks post-partum. Its truly a “go through it, then you’ll get it” experience. Wow. Thank you Emily, I feel more secure now. ❤️
Honestly we were never taught about important stuff like this in Biologie 2 Months ago I just knew about Labour and delivery and thought everything would be as usual after birth
I had periurethral tear (tear where you pee) so peeing hurt more than pooping. I was taking stool softeners so that helped it fall out lol but peeing burned and still sometimes burns almost 5 weeks pp. No one told me you can tear up and not just down.
I will share this with my friends that are having babies for first time because it is all sooooo true !!! Now I know , but before nobody tells you 😳🙄 thanks a lot !!!
Thanks! I'm due in january with my first. And even though it's scary, it makes me feel a bit better that you have had 3 babies so far knowing what it's like 😅😅 👍🏻👍🏻
have loved catching up on all your lovely videos! Congratulations to you all! P.S my after pains were that bad after my 2nd I went to the hospital thinking there was something seriously wrong, we all had a good laugh about it in outpatients lol!
1st pregnancy 3 weeks postpartum and what i thought was gonna be the hardest part (labor) was actually the easiest for me. I'm still taking stool softners and it still burns a bit when I pee and the first time seeing the blood clots is scary! This was all new to me and I thought all would be back to normal after giving birth, oh how wrong was I 😣
Totally agree, I prepared for l&d, but didn't think about post partum except that the baby would be there. How about if you need stitches there's a chance (and nothing can be done to prevent it) that you will overheal. I just had surgery for it and it has been awful. Our baby's worth it, but it's been rough
Omg I loved the fact that you spoke about the hair loss. I had my baby 3 months ago and I'm starting to notice hair loss. I was becoming a bit depressed but after u said this I'm doing my research and I feel so much better. I CANT WAIT TILL IT GETS BACK TO NORMAL!! 😓
Your videos are so helpful! I'm having my first in about a week and I'm so nervous about breastfeeding and hope my milk comes in and all that good stuff. I'm more nervous about breastfeeding than actual labor! Lol
I had a bad tear due to hospital negligence so no one told me how difficult it would be to sit and stand up postpartum. I can’t even laugh without feeling the stitches 🥴
Incase anyone doesn't know, you can take tramadol and ibuprofen if you have really bad after pains... And STILL breastfeed. It's just the opiates like Co codamol and codeine you can't ☺️
I know this is an old video, but it’s so real! I’m lucky to have had an amazing prenatal nurse who went over many of the things mentioned in the video.. still there’s always something we won’t know about until it happens. One of the things I wish I had known is how painful your first bathroom trips will be!
I would have like for someone to tell me before hand that your baby might cry a lot, for no apparent reason, and nothing can confort him. I knew obviously that babies cry... but didnt know it to that extent, and that cries can be exhausting and really difficult to handle, even more with the hormones changes, lack of sleep and physical recovery
I just delivered my 7th baby. The leaking bladder is something that o had forgotten about and thus time it's worse. Not sure if it's because I had to have a catheter this time but my goodness😶. I can't leave my house. Kegal is becoming my best friend.
Emily, that was really informative. My children are 16 and 12, both of which were born with me on my back, I was in so much pain with my tail bone during labour and birth with my second born. I am so with you, with the toilet thing - ouch! Omg I was so scared to pee and the hospital said I couldn't go home until I'd had a poo, not that they physically check, so I told them I had. I often think being in the comfort and privacy of your own bathroom at home helps 😂 sorry tmi. xx
I gave birth 3 weeks back. And yes I thought breast feeding would be an easy thing .. now I am suffering from breast engorgement and sore nipples and I dnt think it's going be fine anytime soon 😭
No one told me that 3 weeks later it will hurt to walk. My pelvic floor would be in so much pain if I got up wrong and the only way I could relive it was to squat! My thighs were NOT prepared for that!
