Speaking on behalf of intjs we don't want to be the bad guy, we don't always like to be the bad guy, but if we must we will become your worst enemy. We may or may not like it. But once you are our enemy the closest you can get to us is neutrality, you will never have our trust again. Just think about that before you interact with one of us.
I second the motion!😉 very true what you say about someone who has made theirself an enemy! Once my trust is violated, I do forgive, but I never forget and never give a traitor a second chance to betray my trust again!
if annoying things happen often. There are times when my patience disappears, I get angry, I want to be alone and don't want to be disturbed. If disturbed, my emotions will explode even more.
We don't have poor EQ, we just aren't going to allow someones (even our own) feelings change facts or cloud our judgement. Part of EQ is being able to manage your emotions in situations not constantly having emotional breakdowns; sure you can acknowledge someone's emotions but that doesn't mean you have to get hysterical with them. Just imagine if first responders acted like the people they are helping...
Nothing pisses me off more than an incompetent boss telling me I have to consider other people's feelings. Why not consider mine? Why must I always be the one who has to compromise while everyone else gets to be incompetent? How many times have I heard the phrase "yes, you're right BUT..." This is a workplace, not a daycare! Most of my frustration in life had been in the workplace. I now work mostly for myself, and have a p/t job where others' incompetence doesn't affect me in any way. Life is good.
I really wish that people understood this, especially when it comes to having relationships with INTJ’s it is truly irritating to us, and I don’t even think that’s expressive enough
Yes all of these terms are right as an female intj my school teachers said to me that I am very serious and always like angry and they said that u have to be calm but internally I'm very calm and yes about unfinished tasks this is true I procrastinated much but once I started I complete it very fast like I complete my paintings in two hours ...and yess whenever someone says about how I feel it really irritates me and also embarrassed me to some extent
I have a friend, INTJ, who never gets annoyed when I ask him how he's doing and generally how he's feeling. He always answers calmly and judiciously, even if briefly. Sometimes I don't have much information to understand his exact condition, but I never impose on him to answer in more detail. He even sometimes asks me how I'm doing and how I'm feeling on his own. Does this behavior on the part of INTJ count as an act of trust with me? Because in a normal situation INTJs do not hide their irritation about it, and then they can avoid certain topics of discussion or even people.
@@MikuNiko yeah that also depends on what kind of ppl are in ur life I mean most ppl in my life even don't attach with me and they're like saying about how I feel and that irritates me and yah u're right that part of intj count as trust on other ppl I mean I can only show my feelings and irritation to my close friends and my family which I can trust so u're right I also avoid those ppl which irritates me and avoids that kind of topic which describes how I feel and also I'm saying very calmly about how I feel to only my closest friend and also I ask her too that how she feels ...but outside ppl who are out of my circle they always identify me as serious and cold ....
@@hassanaziz2622 So I was getting it right, watching my very close person. And even though I knew he trusted me, I wasn't sure if I was annoying with my occasional small talk and questions about his condition. Everything is much closer, it's very satisfying. Thank you for sharing your experience :)
when u have emotional intelligence and be INTJ, everything became more easily to understand, and how big, the world is. but talk about our feelings..............still so hard for INTJ 😂.
Don’t worry, if I say I feel like or it makes me feel this way, I don’t expect you to do the same. think of it as one What is speaks French, and one speaks English. We both understand the others language but we just prefer to speak our own language. INFP
Number 4 and 8 ticks me off more than most... I don't mean someone that said "I am a lazy bum" but more or less I see results. I claim to be someone that is lazy and carefree but I actually have plans ready too... But yeah surrounded by incompetent and lazy people is hell...
Don't interrupt... yes. Hence the reason why I prefer to have all communications in writing. I have a VERY short fuse with klutz who DO interrupt... constantly....get to the end of a phone conversation and, obviously, haven't listened to ANYTHNG they were told. Surefire way for yours truly to blow a fuse is ask me to repeat things because you did not listen !!!!
Can you repeat that or huh? Those two irritate me the most. Causing me to have to think back to what I just said and since I didn't write it down the well worded conversation gets tossed and I walk away in frustration.
As a INFJ #4 and #8 hit hard and I actually had #9 happen to me last night and I thought deeply afterwards why it was so unsettling for me even though it was a friendly gesture and invite from some coworkers. Also my boss would always tell me to smile when I came in so I’m no longer uncomfortable with that even in bad moods I see the utilitarian benefit of smiling especially in the customer service industry
I'm an INTJ and i find the information showed in this video to be mostly accurate. However, there are several where I sorta disagree with and these being numbers 7, 8, 9, 10. They still generally got things correct, but they lack a bit of nuance. I'm going to elaborate on them a bit further for folks to get a clearer understanding. #7. Small talk -- Plenty of INTJs actually enjoy small talk, similar to how exotroverts typically enjoy it. Depending on the individual an INTJ is hanging out with by simply making him/her feel comfortable or meshes exceptionally well because their inherent temperaments, attitudes, core values, interests and energy levels are so similar, which is also known as having great chemistry, the INTJ is prone to become a motor mouth or chatter box. Lol! #8. Laziness and ineffectivess -- INTJs are able to tolerate laziness if a circumstance or situation reveals there is no reason compelling enough to warrant diligent work. Many non-INTJs forget that INTJs often prioritize efficiency, so long when it's a doable and realistic approach. Preference to "Rather work smart, rarely hard" is the motto with the typical INTJ. When it comes to ineffectivess, INTJs, especially the mature individuals, can be very compassionate and forgiving. An example would a colleague or coworker lacking the proper training and experience due to unfair treatment and lack opportunities, or simply new to a particular role that prevented them from being effecive with assigned tasks, the INTJ is more than willing to give them a pass out of pity and may even reasonably set some time aside at helping what the person needs, so he/she could perform up to a satisfying degree. #9. Surprises in the last minute -- Not necessarily. If the surprise turns out that it somehow greatly benefits them or proves to bring fruitful results in the long run for the INTJ, especially when it neatly fits into one of the INTJ's goals, the INTJ will understandably become delighted and relish in the moment! #10. Avoid finishing tasks given by INTJ -- Similarly to the previous statements, it really depends. If the INTJ arrives to the conclusion that a given task aint worth the trouble due to a myriad of reasons, such as not being aligned with their closely guarded moral code, principles, became irrelevant from underlying dynamics that changed or evolved over time, or is no longer practical, the INTJ is more than happy to absolve the responsibility from you, including the INTJ absolving himself/herself from that task.
FROM AN INTJ: follow emotions is important sometimes more than think with mind. Trust me we don't lose our mental capacities if we improve letting go to emotions
the surprise one.. not only do I get upset or exhausted, I have a literal mental break down. Usually I don't like to show emotions at all to anyone. However, if you disturb my plans, I will cry and breakdown if there is no hiding place to do that. Once, My mother forcingly took me to a parlor (keep in mind I hate all these manicue or pedicure etc) So, I carefully planned everything with what she told me she'll do in the parlor. I estimated the time, my next whole day plan and I was determined. So when my facial n all was done, I was satisfied becz it was the exact time I had expected but suddenly my mom spoke to the parlor lady saying "Why don't you wax her facial, neck and arm hair?" I already hated everything they did in the parlor, then suddenly she wanted to wax which is smth I detest! Like really really hate. Then my time got messed up, everything I planned had to shift and many things I was supposed to do won't be able to be done. the thought if this got me so fired up that I started crying. (instead of showin my anger, I usually cry to let it out and stay calm and composed) she was waxing and i was crying. the lady then said "You must have pampered her for her to cry like this". There was another lady who was also getting waxed, was just laughing at me and my mom was like "Oh its fine its fine" After I got mad at my mom, she was still like "Whats wrong with you?" Tell me Its all my fault or hers?
Learning how to actually do "small talk" has been a project of mine, just to make other people less aggressive when frustrated, but it really doesn't come naturally. There's no point in it, no purpose aside from taking up oxygen.
INTJ: (explaining what was in the email he sent to the team) ESFPs on the team: (interrupting to join in because why not) INTJ: …yesss, and that’s a good point. Which brings us back to your question about the email. It’s because ESFP: Umm did you really need to send out a team email about this? I mean, we’re here now discussing this anyway so you should have just set up a call about it. INTJ: (death glare worthy of Aubrey Plaza)
"Umm did you really need to send out a team email about this? I mean, we’re here now discussing this anyway so you should have just set up a call about it." We're here now talking about because you morons didn't read the goddamn email!
I have yet to lose an "arguement" properly called a debate with any fool who tried! Why do I never lose you may ask? Because I don't debate on matters if I do not know what I am talking about and it is easy to tie fools in a knot when they don't know what they are talking about!
I like this channel more than the others because it gives me a nice familar feeling of stability and nostolga that the others don't. I also trust this channel more than the other ones since it provides more factual and accurate imformation.
We INTJ hate interruptions and loud voices in the workplace We hate small talks at any time and yes we vanish to escape small unnecessary stupid talk Simply, leave us alone and mind your own business 😃
Apart from the emotional stuff (sharing emotions and looking gor others to too) and calling people out this is so similar to INFJs. But INFJs are usually talked about as emotional hippies. It's not true. Often.
INTJ female. So true. Can we add talking about astrology to this? I weed out the intellectuals this way. If someone believes in the unfounded claims of astrology being accurate or think it’s the same as astronomy, I know they don’t do research and probably won’t be able to hold a stimulating conversation.
I am an INTJ but ta few things about it for me are rules, last minute plans and small talk. If a rule makes good sense to me I really will follow it but it is true when the rules are stupid I do completely ignore them. I wouldn't say that I outright hate rules though. Some rules are for keeping you and other people safe. They have a logical reason why and so I am fine with that. I usually do hate last minute plans but there are certain people in which they will ask me to go somewhere and I am fine with it. Not talking parties or anything crazy. Like my sister coming in from out of state or my friend wanting to go to the comic shop. Both instances though I have ample time to plan out everything I want to do and expect from the encounter though. When it's something you did a lot you don't need that much time to have a solid plan for it to be fair. With small talk while in general I do hate it but with some people I actually don't mind it so much. Largely though because with the people I do talk with in that manner I can move it to a more meaningful conversation or at least get a few jokes going. Sometimes I just make the effort because I want to keep that person in my life. I might not need it but they do. Maybe I am not that social, need time to recharge alone and come across as cold and unfeeling because I embrace logic over emotion. I still like to laugh, enjoy jokes and memes. It gives me a break from worrying and stressing as much. I do tend to plan a lot of things out, worry about the future and stress over what I plan to do about it. In my opinion the personality types are merely a generalization of a personality. In general you might exhibit these traits but I feel there is room for uniqueness. We as people are individuals with different interests, experiences and personalities. Don't matter your type you might like something or do something that can be seen as atypical. However, I think that it would be perfectly normal. One INTJ is not the exact same as another INTJ. Same for every type. People are not generalized robots but instead individual people with different preferences, cultural backgrounds and different life experiences. You can still in general be a certain type have your own caveats. Be your own person and don't conform to some list. :)
Hi, I disagree at the point 4: I don't care if you are or do do something amateur, I can mange it, but if you are or do something amateur and you told you were an expert, that is the problem which I can't stand, the point 6 I reforumute it to "if you put rules, don't expect that an INTJ follows they always", the rules creat a frame, that's good but also is a restriction, and that's the problem, sometimes the right solution is outside the frame
As an ISTJ that uses some intuition, these all apply to me, except 6 because rules *usually* make sense to me as the underlying reason is usually clear, and effort to follow them is usually minimal, and 5 as I'm trying to learn how to be more open and vulnerable. But if you tell me I am breaking a rule in a condescending way, I will double down on breaking your rule.
I can't help but entertain the notion of turning up outside a particular INTJ's house in a giant cake, jumping out yelling "SURPRISE!!!!" and dragging them away from their project to a karaoke bar.
@@INTJRECLUSE That’s my playful INFP side that enjoys imagining pushing the INTJ to their limits- I would never actually do it. INTJs have a way of commanding respect- I think it’s because you know if you go too far they will cut you off and walk away and never look back. I cherish the INTJ in my life and intend to keep him there :)
@@shellbell8062 no offense was intended, I was just imaging something like that happiness to me and what I would think. I don't know of any infp's in my life, so I cant relate to that from experience
Yup, these are all extremely accurate. There is one caveat though. If you’re a parent of an INTJ child, it is your job to do all of these things (in moderate amounts) to adjust them to the outside world. They’ll be much better for having practiced dealing with irritants. - INTJ
NO hard no. Manufacturing hardship is abuse. All of this will occur naturally. Teach the kid how to cope and navigate the BS while being his/her support and safe person.
Is it only me who's realized videos from this channel tend to repeat certain sentences that they would have already said 🤔I don't know maybe I am just hearing things
