10 Ways To Spot & Deal With A NARCISSIST | Dr. Ramani Durvasula & Lewis Howes 

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That is because they are incapable of loving anyone, they use the words but they can't feel the feelings.

FACTS 👌

And they pretend to be an empathic, kind, generous person but its a facade! Its really hard for the genuine empath to recognize, because we think their intent is like our own.. but not so, and that makes us vulnerable! ***Sigh***

Exactly!!!!

Just learned the hard way yesterday lol

Yes, and it doesn't have to be a love interest either. Narcissists are at epidemic proportion. I swear

YES! This person used every term on me that’s used to describe narcissists! I was completely lost especially when he went into a complete rage after I fought back. It took some time but I began to put the pieces of the puzzle together and figured out what he was doing.

It's actually true. Whatever the narc accuses you of, is what they're doing. Projecting..... but showing all their cards at the same time

Yes!

Yeah, they are the masters of projection.

Yes!

I’ve never agreed more with a statement than I do this one! ❤ the way she validated my life experiences has been a life saver! If I ever got to stand in a room with her I would give her the biggest, tightest hug. I went through every stage of grief over and over, in and out when realizing that the love of my life is a narcissist. Now I’m at acceptance (mostly) and I feel the safest I have ever been in my life. I have boundless gratitude for her and her teachings.

Are you still married?

I commend you! I'm trying to figure out who and where to go searching for a TRUSTING support system now, its been several yrs of situations. After I lost my husband (he died right next to me in bed I woke thinking he was sleep), never healed a few yrs later was pursued by a person I grew up with and had no idea how much they changed since. By the time I realized how bad it was I was already closed off to all my friends and family bc of my pride and shame trying to handle it myself, in the process lost my mother, best friend and countless other relatives in tragic ways during all these times I was emotionally and mentally abused. He was incarcerated for attacking my coworker a few yrs later I left the state for a better life for my children. I stayed single for a few yrs. Met someone another person whom was smoother at hiding who he really is but less abusive sim traits though, picking fights esp on days like my deceased mothers birthday or my deceased uncle day of death (by his son) and I have yet to really unload all that I have endured bc it just keeps on coming with no break in btwn to be able to start to heal from the 1st trauma up until present.

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How do you do that?I want to!

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Gonna remember! Checks all the boxes!

I would add and DON'T RUMINATE about their pathology or harass yourself trying to figure out the delusion behind their pathology.

Thank you so much! These are really great 👍🏻😃🤓❤️

The hardest being "dont't personalize"

Yes! We can breath again!!! Pay close attention to how you were before and during the relationship!

I've met so many men that are toxic it's sad.

I am happy for you! It took me five years to end my Toxic relationship, I too knew something wasn't right from the beginning, but I couldn't figure it out. I didn't know anything about Narcissistic personalities until I went into hiding when I was getting out of my relationship! I too am so happy I was able to finally get out of it.

It sounds like you're a covert narcissist that took advantage of a guy. The woman chooses if to get in or out of a relationship with a man. You gave no context to your story, which makes your "story" very weird, incomplete and it's usually what a woman does to make herself feel better about herself. My guess is that you trashed the guy.

My deal was to love this person to health, blah, blah, blah. Yeah, it's what I wanted for me & others; but, it literally set me up to be in the lion's den over & over. Now I'm older, exhausted, & am into being a recluse & little old lady. Just need to get meals on wheels going & I can stay inside & not have to deal with perpetrators around every FUCKING corner. Forget love interests. I'm just staying alive for now.

I had a narcissist friend who was very proud of the fact she went to therapy, and even weaponised it to get one-up on me because I'm not currently in therapy, BUT she would very carefully pick therapists who reinforced her view of the world. She actually fired one who she said 'stood up for other people too much.' These people will go to therapy, but only to use it for their own ends.

@@charitygoldart That's why it's so important to find a therapist that is trained to spot Narcissitic behaviors.

Happened to me too. He charmed the therapist and it all got turned around to me being the problem and maybe I had ADD. 🤷‍♀️

It's possible the counselor was a narcissist too and related more to them. Had that experience when speaking to a divorce attorney. It's a thing. Needless to say I didn't hire him but I did have to pay his consulting fee!

I totally understand! I don’t trust counsellors per se. they are human too and they can be bias

Yes!!

YES!!!!!

Absolutely true..

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pure genius…

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Ya Ike porn.

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Exactly

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@plumeria66 i soooo know what u mean! :s

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Good for you. Taking the supply away.

Plumeria...they cannot answer a simple yes or no question can they? Too important they are for that.

Heartbreaking for sure.

I know that hollow feeling when interacting with narcissists. They tend to talk at me, and it's obvious they're putting on an act.

@@jzen1455 That’s the only way they know how to act!

Good for you!!! Keep up the good work 👏 🙌 👍 👌 💪 😉

@@goodgrandma8936 Thank you! We are survivors! Best wishes! 👍🙏🤗

I noticed that when I talked about someone like for instance Dr Ramni about things I learned (just giving an example) he would say, "This again? You talk about this all the time." It's like gee thanks

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I had to take a class for my job and we were studying the gait and assessing one another's walk and how the foot hit the floor. It was the first time that I realized I walked on my tippy toes!!! Your heel is supposed to hit the floor, too!!! I was mind blown to discover that even after decades away from my narc parent I still walked in a way to not make any noise!!

Same. I told him literally via message, "When you F with mom, I did not choose to come. It is your fault for having fun for making me." Then, no contact.

That part on apologizing to being born

What would you tell a young woman who didn't know that her dad is a narcissist?

That's sad and I understand. Some man was grooming me at work and when I spoke up they said they would do something and they did nothing I finally just quit.

I’m not ever quitting for anybody

25 years is also the time I spent in, too long anywho lesson learned, DEEP.

@amorogombe96 in my 10-year relationship with a psychopath sociopath narcissist our relationship was not reciprocal but he did have a transactional one with prostitutes that he called that he called sex workers and literally stated it was a transaction he was helping him pay the electric bill which he just left out his illegal

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There are way too many of them for my liking.

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😂😂 Me too 😅

@@nadiyaahmed1394 🤣

I'm not convinced we ever should lol

It's been 20 yrs for me. PTSD, from the nightmare w/him, still working on trusting my own discernment.

​@@AprilSunshine If you ever want to be happy, just leave. I did but because they are so controlling, I had to plan it carefully. With the help of my Boss, he got me a transfer out of State. We worked different hours and I scheduled movers to move me on a day he was working.

Me too almost. With one for 25 years and now single for 6 1/2 years. I have literally said yesterday that I plan on being single the rest of my life. A relationship seems like so much work right now. Don’t feel like I’ll change. Going through death of my father 3 months ago now. We were very close and I took care of him the last 3 years. Now I’ve got to start over my career and my social life. I don’t have the energy for a man. Lol!

I appreciate your support! It means a lot! Big thanks to you!

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Hang in there. Stay strong and set your boundaries. Learn to say NO. Stick to the decisions you have made and don't let them persuade you to change your mind or drop the boundary. Do things for yourself not them. So if something he suggests doesn't suit you, just say no, and don't give a reason why. You don't owe them an explanation. If they throw the toys out of their pram because you don't want to do whatever, you know that is what they really feel. The love bombing is all an act. You're a known supply and he hasn't got new supply, so you're the easiest option for him. Just remember the shyte he put you through, the people he has alienated just to keep hold of you, and know that he will do it all again. They don't know how to love, it's all for their easy life, not yours. But if all of his drama and damage is what you want, then just jump right back in. You deserve better. Pop me a message or reply for support, if you wish. Best. E ❤

He can bad mouth you all he wants. That's none of your business. Just remember that those who know you won't believe him and those who don't, don't matter. Please stay strong and stay away. Your survival depends on it. He'll never change and you deserve infinitely more.

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Yesss... This video was a year's worth of Therapy & starting to heal 58 yrs worth of torment... Hope to donate when we have a better Gov. Again Thanks 🤗

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My sister is a severe narcissist! Nice to everyone until someone disagrees with her, then you become her victim for the rest of your life! Anything & everything she can do to make every day life miserable for anyone she can. Her daughter is exactly like her, they can't be around each other because they are exactly the same in every aspect. They make up things to cause havoc/harm to anyone & everyone they can.

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OMG, he needs to learn active listening skills! It is not about him and he is constantly talking over the expert. I can't listen to 3 hrs of him not allowing this doctor to complete a single thought. It's too irritating!

drama queens. he is simply enjoying the conversation stop being so judgemental. she has a million videos by herself go watch those

@@MCTobiasz You clearly lack communication skills yourself if you think what he's doing is professional.