The Ally definition he used includes Queer Allys as well. An Ally isn’t a non-LGBTQ person, it’s just any advocate for the community. Also, Hi! I’m an AroAce female who uses she/her pronouns.
As a pansexual with a messed up spine, it is extremely funny to hear "skoliosexual" and think about being sexually attracted to people with scholiosis lol
Yeah, that's another part of why I always have to kind squint went I see that term. ^^; (The others being issues with stereotyping, invalidating, and kinda fetishizing trans folks.)
@@ninaxoxo8518 Parents be like noOoOOo lbgtq+ education gonna turn our kids gaE. Bruh ive been surrounded by so much straight media and im still hopelessly bi
It's so heartwarming to see the differenciation between good terms, bad terms, good words but bad actions & context terms... when began to do my research, I hardly found any differenciation & I think this is such an important thing to know
Something that I, a trans woman just want to point out is the word tr*nn* is can be used as a compliment or description from one trans person to another in a jokingly or serious fashion, however I agree, cis people shouldn’t say it
@@swampfae8309 It's possible. The example you used fits with the definition of "contextual term" that I found. It can definitely change the implications of the term given the context of the conversation, which can be both good or bad.
I saw yesterday outside a Lesbian Non-Binary dating a Polyamorous Bisexual Genderfluid Girl in a Restaurant and i was exciting cause it was my First Time i saw a Non-Bonary and Genderfluid outside besides on Internet and i told my Brother He says "Cool" and said He wasn't only Gay but Gay Genderfluid and i didn't knew he we're one and i said "You are so Valid" proudly.
One thing I wanna bring up is the hate specifically to demiromantic and demisexual people saying they aren't valid, that they're just the norm and that they never needed to be given a special title since they aren't a minority. I've seen a lot of this in videos mentioning the identity and not many fight against it due to it being less common to see spread around but rather lots of it in small places. As someone who supports this identity and identifies as demiromantic it's pretty sad to see.
I've somehow managed to avoid seeing anyone actually seriously make that claim about demi orientations just being "the norm" or anything, but I've definitely heard about plenty instances secondhand. I admit that I'd actually be surprised if there weren't any people IDing as demi who actually did fall within some sort of undefined "standard" range, but those individuals will be the only ones who can actually determine that and the only ones the slightest bit affected by it, and there definitely IS something there. One of the callouts/counters I've seen puts demi side-by-side with fray; functionally opposite ways of experiencing attraction. Both get accused of being "just the norm," but that is logically inconsistent. If you're not familiar with those already, should be able to look up some relevant memes easy enough to throw out when you see people making those kinds of bs arguments.
well I'm demiromantic demibisexual and before I understanding my sexuality, people be like: "you're normal you don't need to label yourself, just say you are bi" no they don't understand why I have to get an emotional connection before feeling sexual/romantic attraction
I'm demisexual myself (just figured this out a week ago and only out to 2 supportive peeps) but I bet I'll experience this at one point or another... sigh.
Thanks so much for these videos. I’m so glad I can get the LGBTQ+ education I’ll probably never get in school. I also love that you added “do you listen to girl in red” that sorta made my day. This channel is the safe space we all need. 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
I'm glad you put breeder in the red (I think last time you made a similar video it wasn't but I can be wrong). Either way, it belongs there because we shouldn't fight hate with hate.
When you say 'we shouldn't fight hate with hate' , does that include cussing out a homophobic/transphobic/racist person? Or protesting for equal rights? (I'm an ace cisgender who uses she/her pronouns; also I hope you have a great day/night!)
@@lauralott5303 such behavior should be called out and depending on the context,.anger and cussing out is at the very least understandable, but lowering our standards to their level doesn't help in achieving the overarching goal.
Even though so many queerphobic argument do, in fact, center super heavily around the ability to procreate (nevermind how there are plenty cishet people that also invalidates), I agree. I can understand someone using it while venting or potentially to call out someone making those sorts of arguments, but I don't like it. It bugs me in more ways and from more angles than I feel up to trying to elaborate on. It's just also among the things that I think warrants equity > equality on, in a way. If that makes sense.
I don't know how widely used it is (I could have made it myself for all I know) but I have an alternative to 'partner' and that is 'snugglefriend', basically a snugglefriend is someone with a close and intimate relationship with someone else but without the societal image of a boyfriend/girlfriend or to a less extent partner (an image which often has a sexual dimension). It's a bit different for me as my natural answer to the question 'do you have a partner?' is 'no, I'm self-employed', which might go into explaining how I find partner to be a more business like term which feels out of place in a relationship setting, since while going into business to make a profit is fine having a relationship on that basis feels wrong, like the relationship is more akin to a stock option, something to be jettisoned when its no longer profitable. Love the show by the way.
@@miligrammade Fair enough, I just wondered about a gender neutral way of expressing this relationship while keeping some more warm and intimate feeling, partner just felt too cold and business like.
@@edspace. Joyfriend is a term growing in popularity. It's a term like gf/bf but fr non-binaries. Not sure how often it's used, but you could give it a shot. I also agree with partner sounding too out of place, and perfessional.
@@yanar123 I definitely like the term, especially given that this (at least in my mind) can be broader too, as it can even include someone you are married to, especially as I believe marriage isn't a single day but a life long celebration of the joy of the life and love two people share for each other. Come to think of it I remember reading about the term Joyfriend as a common term for the closest companion back in the medieval era (boy and girl meant different things in the middle ages and were not firmly affixed to biological sex until around 1600, they were more used to describe temperaments in the middle ages, a boy would describe someone who was loud and outgoing and rambunctious (there's even a remnants of this in the root of the word boisterous) and girl was more for a calm, meek and emotional temperament with children being gendered much later than we do today (although given that might be at birth or in the womb its not much of a contest) and while biological sex would be noted it was normally not til puberty that a medieval person would receive their gender role (although there was some degree of flexibility (as there was still the medieval world of 'Those who work', 'Those who fight' and 'Those who Pray') and peasants would farm the land no matter what)). Sorry for the ramble, but still nice that Joyfriend is making a comeback.
@@edspace. Haha, no need to apologize, it's nice to learn something new. It's quite interesting how the meaning has evolved, I'd only found out about it recently. I really like and agree with what you said about marriage. Also, glad I could help.
My family doesn’t know I’m pansexual but in all seriousness it’s not that I’m worried that they’ll disown me for being pan it’s comes from a lack of understanding of pansexuality
okay. here's my advice this is advice i gave someone who wanted to tell their super catholic mom they were lesbian. have a friend or family member you can stay with be with you so things won't go ugly when you tell them. have a bag packed of clothes and stuff you might need in case you need to flee a hostile environment. sit down with your parents and tell them you're pansexual. explain your sexuality like you would to an 8th grade health class. use terms they are familiar with while teaching them new terms. give them an choice love you for who you are or you walk out that day with that family member/friend and only contact you when they're ready to accept you. now i should admit that this advice was given to someone in their early 20's who had a gay uncle they could crash with but... my advice did help. she went to go stay with her uncle for a few weeks and she got a phone call telling to come home she did and her mom embraced telling her she loved her for who she was. i don't know your situation but i know that sometimes you have to blunt with people. this advice applys for everyone and anyone who is reading this right now.
I really hope these videos not only help our lgbtqia+ people feel better about themselves but also helps educate people that need to be better educated on these topics. No matter what I hope everyone knows no matter what is going on at home. You have people that love you for who you are. You are valued, strong and valid in your thoughts, feelings, and being you is perfect.
I've heard that the term "skoliosexual" regarding attraction to specifically trans people is seen as fetishization of trans people and shouldn't be used.
karen's. they don't want their cis gender little billy knowing that it's perfectly fine to be LGBTQIA+. they don't teach them this stuff so when they're older they're live life as a happy cis gendered straight person.
Is it possible to be a panromantic demisexual lesbian? I feel like that’s such a long label. But it fits best with what I feel. And using just lesbian doesn’t really fit since I can and have had romantic relationships with guys but I’ve never wanted to sleep with them. Then girls I can become sexually attracted to if I form a close relationship with them. -signed a very confused girl
@@novadust6195 No, demiboy is feeling part boy + part something else, while demigirl is feeling part girl + part something else. I know about it, I used to think I was a demiboy lol
21:09 I'm not surprised that this is used by African American ppl as homophobia in the black community has been a huge issue since day 1. I'm a bi (possibly omni) Haitian-American girl who's also a Christian and my mom is homophobic. I came out to her in September of 2021 and she told me that I need to "pray" to get rid of my feelings. The two of us have fought about this subject twice and honestly, I just don't care anymore. I'm not going to fake the fact that I'm straight just so I can have an eternal life in heaven (if it even exists).
ok so idk if u already talked about this at one point but here Neptunic or Nomascsexual is the attraction to women, feminine non-binary people, and neutral non-binary people. It can also be described as attraction to all people except men and/or man-aligned/masculine-aligned non-binary people. This orientation is mostly used by non-binary people to describe their attraction without relying on the gender binary but can be used by anyone. The term can be used as an identity on its own or combined with other orientations. i myself am not neptunic i just wanted to mention it ig
"Femininity" is a hard word to say. XD And I greatly appreciate your consistent effort to recognize asexual folks, agender folks, and even aromatic folks. The rest I typed while viewing, so it might be a bit messy. "Enby" might be good to move to the "contextual" list. While most are fine with or even appreciate it, there are also many nonbinary folks who feel it sounds too childish and is infantilizing (especially since it seems to be common for nonbinary folks and transmasc folks to be treated kinda as children or even a beloved pet by others who usually mean well). It can also be an issue when spoken since it does indeed sound like "NB" which nonbinary communities are trying to move away from out of respect to people of color, who have long been using NB as "non-black" (as in NBPOC, describing any person of color who's not specifically a black person). So far, the best/safest shortening seems to be NBi, just to get that slight distinction in there. I haven't seen FAAB or MAAB much; I usually see AFAB and AMAB. I'm also merely aware of CAFAB and CAMAB, the C being for "Coercive," and that those versions are supposed to be reserved for Intersex folks. An extension to what you said about Sapphic: it's use usually implies both expressing oneself in feminine-leaning ways and especially attraction to femininity, such as with "Lipstick Lesbians." I've seen some reference to the men & masculine version of this being Achillean (though I can't recall seeing someone actually use that, and I'm not sure if it's supposed to be more "idealized" or more generalized compared to Bears). The nonbinary counterpart of these is supposed to be Diamoric (but things can start getting pretty complex around here). I've also heard the term "Bambi Lesbian" which seems to refer to a woman/femme-aligned person who is either something like "bi-curious" or homoromantic asexual. Also kinda relating back to Sapphic, there are the terms Toric and Trixic, which respectively (and non-exclusively) refer to attraction to men/masc-aligned people and women/femme-aligned people. It's mostly associated with the experiences of nonbinary people whose attraction isn't as simple as homo/hetero (for those who aren't bi, pan, aroace, etc), but I have seen arguments that the terms can be used by people of any gender as a way to express their orientation without tying it to their gender. In that, they could *potentially* be less loaded versions of androsexual and gynosexual. Skoliosexual should maybe be in your "contexual" list. Some may use it to refer to androgynous attraction or something similar, but many take issue with the idea that there's any defining trait of nonbinary people to specify attraction to, and specifying attraction to trans folks is additionally seen as inherently invalidating toward binary trans folks. SAGA - Sexuality And Gender Alliance (some take issue with this one for being universally inclusive, including of cis and hetero folks) MOGAI - Marginalized Orientations, Gender Alignments, and Intersex (some take issue with this one for having phrasing that is inherently inclusive of cishet women; there are also intersex folks who dislike being "lumped in" with the queer community, especially since they are often reduced to being an example in arguments against transphobes) GSRM - Gender, Sexual, and Romantic Minorities Since you mentioned tucking - packing is the opposite, using something to create the appearance of a crotch bulge and/or to be a male-typical phallus prosthesis to help a trans man or transmasc person feel more comfortable with their body, either instead of bottom surgery or until bottom surgery can be gotten. Most packers are solid silicone or a similar material and designed to emulate a flaccid state, but some are designed to have additional functions, most commonly just as an STP (Stand To Pee) device. Common alternative packers include soft cups (like sports cups, but not rigid) and DIY options like socks. Some additional "common" neopronouns are xe/xem (and many of the ones starting with z or x get those swapped a lot), per/pers (short for "person"), and thon (a contraction of "that one" and apparently a very old "neopronoun"). I've also seen ey/em, just they/them with the th chopped off. It might be worth include "it" in reference to a person in either your "bad" list or "contextual" list. Referring to a trans or nonbinary person as "it" is a common way to both refuse to use someone's correct pronouns and additionally dehumanize them. At the same time, there really *are* some nonbinary folks who favor "it" pronoun over any of the more common alternatives. "Queer" should be on the "contextual" list. While its reclamation has been fantastic, it still has contextual origins as a slur and there are still people who are deeply bothered by it. I already forgot if you included the word "neopronoun..." Microlabel - An extra-specific label usually used in the context of a greater identity label, though sometimes it is used because more general labels simply do not fit right. These labels do not often get used outside of relevant communities. For example, the more recognizable terms I might tell someone regarding my own gender are nonbinary, genderfluid, or genderqueer. If I'm sharing in spaces centered around those identities or in more general queer spaces that are openly inclusive of those identities, or if I'm explaining finer details of things, I may go on to specify that I'm "genderfluidflux" (and usually note disliking the awkwardness of the term), a label that specifies having an experience of gender that changes both in what the gender is (fluid) and in how intensely it's felt (flux), but that I wouldn't expect someone unfamiliar with certain terms and naming conventions to immediately understand. Another microlabel (that's more about "how" instead of "what") applicable to me is "gender hoarder," describing someone who finds *so many* labels to be relatable that it's basically outright a collection. (And yes, my gender experiences can be very strange and confusing and even self-invalidating at times, but I've personally mostly relaxed into generally describing it in ways like "amorphous cloud" or "ambiguous shrug." Or "dammit why can't I just be a shapeshifter?") A-spec - Identifying somewhere in the spectrum of asexuality, aromanticism, and/or agender; or a term referring to those identities and their associated labels. It's primarily used to be inclusive of those whose experiences deviate in some way from the primary definition - for example, to include gray-aces, who experience very limited/infrequent or highly contextual sexual attraction, in asexual spaces. It also gives more room to those questioning - like I'm not 100% sure whether I'm ace or grey-ace since I'm still not totally sure what actually is sexual attraction. I personally usually see it in the context of asexuality and aromanticism.
Adding to your statement on neopronouns: 'thon' is an archaeopronoun. It's basically how you defined it - an 'old neopronoun', only archaeopronoun is the correct term. Thanks for writing this, by the way!
I was barely told anything about the LGBTQ community when I was younger which to be honest, was good. I had no negative beliefs forced upon me, and now in my post-secondary years, I am learning with a completely open-mind. This community is so nice yet suffering so much from uneducated people who warp their own religions.
Androgynous would have been a good one to include, and can be applied to either appearance or behavior. Androgyny is of course the category, but the adjective may be more useful in everyday conversation about a person. (This seems to be out of favor, but I'm not sure why. Maybe because we now have other, and possibly more precise, terminology, or because it was sometimes used derogatively in the past.)
I am currently questioning, previously lesbian. But from my last partner experience, I don’t think I have any sexual desire and my romantic desire is minimum. Idk how to know where I land on the attraction spectrum
It can be tricky to differentiate attraction and desire at times - but it's worth looking into "asexual" and "aromantic." Myself, I'm not entirely sure if I'm a "standard" ace or some variety of gray-ace, and I'm aroflux (my capacity to experience romantic attraction seems to vary up and down independently of circumstances). I seem to have a romantic preference towards those I perceive as men, though I have more and more reason to doubt that that is an exclusive preference; at the same time, I seem to have a (more clearly non-exclusive) aesthetic preference towards those I perceive to be women and towards androgyny. But sexually? Iunno, it's confusing, like I'm trying to figure out whether or not I'm colorblind to just one specific color.
I think adding more sections for asexual terms and the umbrella terms such as Demi and more complex forms of Ace orientated terms or kinds of terms. I wanted to ask does everyone agree to these existed terms? And it helps me understand the jargon and how it is used in real life, like the term Unicorn for straight couples and gay couples is interesting and a head scratcher. TLDR: PART 2 please and more parts after so we can understand what others may experience in real life.
It's so nice to see people genuinely asking questions instead of chaneling their emotions in homophobia. (Also, lesophbia, transphobia and other discrimination)
i would just like to say wrt the 39th "good" term, pgps, i think it's typically better to just say pronouns instead of preferred pronouns? the exception obviously being if the person in question uses more than one set of pronouns. for example, i use three sets of pronouns: my preferred/primary set, my auxiliary/secondary, and one set i'm experimenting with
The only time I use the bad T word is referring to a vehicle's transmission. That is the ONLY time I use it and I rarely do as it is a negative word towards trans people. Being genderfluid and married to a transman I see the harm this word causes.
This channel has become so different for me after coming out a bisexual male Edit:does any other lgbtq+ people feel a weird sense of reward from coming out
A lot of people have a huge feeling of reward and like a weight has been lifted from them after coming out. If you watch our episode on what to prepare for after coming out, we mention that feeling a lot.
I'd like to see some focused on aro, ace, and agender terminology. I feel like there is such a bumper crop of different words that would be very educational.
We remade it because there were a few mistakes in the last version and we wanted to better organize the terms in more categories. We thought it would be better to remake it and make it accurate rather than keeping a bad version online.
Here are lot of transbian terms you should know: -Butchy(a butch trans lesbian woman) -E (estrogen) -Butch(a tomboyish lesbian) -Transbian(a non binary Person or a binary trans woman who is attracted to women and/or non binary ppl) -pocket sized( a transbian under 5'6) -Tuckies(panties-like item used for tucking)
Well it's mainly used in the trans community, particularly by us trans women. And it's more of a slang. "Fish" A term used to describe a trans girl that is passable. Also fish sticks. My friend calls me that Basically passable Tgirl that is skinny / petite Oh yes Tgirl/Tboy Another Acceptable way to call someone trans. Mostly used only by other trans people or allies. For example: Allie "I have a friend that is a newby Tgirl, I was wondering if you can help her out too?" Shouldn't really be used to refer to us regularly. We much rather just be known as girls or boys. But only used when specifics is involved. And if someone doesn't need to know then they don't need to know. But if you have a friend that you know that is into Trans girl's and you know a Tgirl that is single and you want to tell him/her "hey I know a Tgirl that might be into you and that is single would you like me to hook you both up?" Then that's fine to.
found this channel very recently and it's a great resource, however, I've seen/heard a lot of the listed derogatory words being used by members of the LGBTQ+ that claim they can reclaim them, or use them in a joking manner with other LGBTQ+ members. Just wanted to know what the general stance on that is. I personally avoid using them even tho I am LGBTQ+ as well
12:14 Pro tip: Use They/them Pronouns for everyone, and I mean everyone so you don't get peoples pronouns wrong(ask them first tho because Xe/Xer and Ze/Zer)
@@caca-iq8wf Basically, in recent years there's been new sets of pronouns outside of he/him, she/her and they/them which are referred to as neopronouns (self explanatory name). It started out okay with xey/xem, ze/zir etc. But people are starting to make it go past that and some of them are a bit strange like people using emojis (e.g 🤖/🤖self). Either way, we welcome them as a new addition :D
I think "pre-op" (#41) implies that the person does want surgery in the future. If they don't, it's more common to say "non-op". Also, I personally would have put "pillow princess" (#70) in the contextual section, as my own experience in queer and bdsm communities has only ever used it in a neutral or uplifting sense, not derogatory. Of course, I understand that my experience is not universal. For "femme" (#92), I've always heard it pronounced "fem".
Hey just a cishet here tryin to be a good ally but had a question for y’all trans males and females sorry enbys. Do you find the term skoliosexual or the people who identify with it offensive as it maybe implies theyre attracted to you as if you aren’t a “real” man or woman which of course you are. Heard the term for the first time and was curious about people’s opinions. HOPE YALL ARE DOIN WELL!!!!
mans really put "me" i- 3:34 edit: friendly reminder than straight women are also capable of domming men! as well as both men and women being switches in a straight relationship. (i get that this is an LGBTQ+ video but something rubbed me the wrong way about him saying "in a gay relationship")
@@langasnalga thank you, i just really wish my mom and grandpa would respect me 😔 i always wondered if my mom actually loved me and i finally got my answer
why is sexual preference bad? i understood it as you like a specific sexual organ (or other things) along with a sexual orientation. like if someone likes women but prefer vaginas or penises on them(?).
ayy. I'm bi. only people who can read this comment and who I told are my cousin and like 4 of my closest friends. I'm fine with only a select few knowing.
I've called myself a pillow princess because I feel like it fits me. I'm a lazy bottom but I'm very responsive to what my top is doing to me and expressive of that. Is it wrong for me to refer to myself with this phrase?
I belive this word should be included in a potential part 2 (Would be under conextional) Femboy: a typically young male with feminine gender expression, also used as a derogatory word for trans women unfortunately. Roseboy and other similar terms have been hailed as replacements, but many like myself still use Femboy as a term to describe themselves
I showed this to my little brother who was having a hard time understanding my pronouns and Pansexuality, The whole time he was taking notes and asking questions. My favorite question he asked was “ how do they turn a binder into bra?” 😂😂 Pronouns are : she/him/they
