20 Tips to Deal with Homophobia & Transphobia 

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Dad found my "gay stuff". He was angry (confused; scared; threatened?) Mum said to him if he can't accept it he'd lose a son. Good choice mum. Wise decision Dad. A person is (a lot) more than their sexuality.

well my dad is a proud homophobe and he said to me “that being gay is a choice & i was going through a phase😫🤮 like im 19 and ive known i was gay since i was 9... just pure IGNORANCE ❗️

I can confirm that a lot of homophobic/transphobic people struggle with their own sexuality and gender identity. When I was in high school, I was super homophobic. I didn’t express it to anyone but kept it in my heart as something I didn’t like because I was scared. I thought that if being gay or trans went away from this world, I would be ok. That it would fix me. Well that didn’t happen. Some odd 10 years later I came out to myself as gay and non-binary. It just goes to show that sometimes fear and misinformation causes hate. But that can change.

Homophobes stink

God: love eveyone. Homophobia/transphobia people: even if there- God: DID I STUTTER!?

I'm sitting here in my room crying because of my homophobic grandma, and it's so hard to hear someone who, raised you , say stuff about you like that.

I really needed this episode. A while ago I was being bullied by an adult homophobe online (I'm a minor /under 18)It all started when I left a reply on a comment stating my orientation and identity. Bearing in mind for 1 sec I did not see the other replies he had said I only saw them later. RU-vid later came with a notification of a hateful reply. I did turn of notifications on the comment but stupid me decided to reply back. This started a whole war. We had other members of the community so at least I wasn't fighting alone. I was fine up until I checked it and I see this with my name tagged on @artlover you should be ⚰️ 💀 It hit hard. It was my fault to keep trying to change them but it was like someone punched me in the stomach. We tried to tell him that he literally told a minor to die but he denied it. We decided to do something. The plan was to call the police but there was one issue, none of us were out yet. So we sat there debating while all he did was taunt us. It did end when it hit 500 replies (because that's the yt limit) but I still need this. Thanks for this pbr🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

"I hate the word homophobia. It's not a phobia. You are not scared. You are an asshole." Morgan Freeman said that very well, lol. 😂😂😂

My daughter came out as trans and her name is Chloe. We told my 4yo niece that her cousins name is Chloe and she immediately said"thats a beautiful name" she has called her Chloe ever since. I cried

Imagine being homophobic girl with even more homophobic family and then falling in love for the first time in your life......for another girl. One whole year I was in denial with no one to speak about it, then understood that it's "not getting better" and finally decided to do something with it. To _accept_ it. It took me around two years to get comfortable with who I am. And that would be three years in total of mental problems... So thanks for all the people who do videos like that, write books and create TV shows. It's really hard to change someone's ideology, but it's not impossible. Be Yourself. Be Proud. Love you guys~ ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 The only thing left is to come out somehow lol 😬

I was disowned in the 80s for crossdressing. I had to wait until the late 90s to move out of my mother's home. Then I moved away from her area. We have not spoken since. So please use a out of town or job, to move away from your hell, if you can, and starting again, means that you can make your own life, with the people you want in it.

I’m a transgender and this was so helpful! My mom and dad are transphobic and I’m really depressed about it... thank you so much for posting this

There used to be a point where my mom was very openly homophobic. (In everyday life. I haven’t come out to her yet.) She’d tell me derogatory things about lesbians and liking girls and that broke my heart, but she’s recently changed her mindset. Being closeted, I seem to others as a very strong ally to the LGBTQ+ community, and she came to me and told me, “I love that you’re so empathetic towards people that need to be defended. If you came to me and said *”I’m gay”* , that’s great and I’d support you.” My point is that people can change. This might sound cliche, but it does get better. I’m not even out of the closet, but knowing that I’d be supported makes things better.

thank you. it’s tough being stuck isolating at home with non-accepting family. -nico

I like your channel, it's really nice. I'm transgender he/him and I have a lot of friends in the LGBTQ+ community. One of my teachers doesn't use my pronouns and the name I want to be called. She said that I can't put Jack on my paper, because that isn't my name in the school system and so it would look like this is someone else's work and that I would need papers to do all that. If someone wanted to have a nickname, do they need papers ,no they don't.

hey, I'd like to say that my best friend came out to me as non binary today ^-^ it made me really happy that they trust me enough to come out to me! i even drew them a portrait of themselves with an NB pride hoodie! i hope everyone has a safe coming out! edit: am working on a redraw of the drawing i did for my friend now btw lol

i had a teacher who was homophobic and it was something like: god hates gays Me in my mind:he does love us equally you of all persons should know this you are the wife of a priest

I'm an androgynous hetero man and I constantly get homophobic comments, gave me a deeper understanding of what the lgbt community goes through. I don't bother anyone, have no friends, and I stay to myself yet people still feel the need to make their opinion known. Heteronormative women assume I'm in the closet most times, I just wanna be me. I've decided to take a boxing class class and start lifting weights, I've noticed the buff gay friends I've had in the past rarely got the same hate in person. The weak only harass people they think are weaker.

I just wanna say that phobia is "an irrational fear of or aversion to something." It absolutely fits for homophobia and transphobia. They irrationally dislike and actively avoid those which they don't understand. Also just found this channel and I LOVE IT!! -Signed, a lesbian trans woman.

I needed this. One of my close friend of 6 years just proudly announced that they were homophobic. I am not out yet but I tried explaining things about the community, tried to educate them about the community but it was like talking to a wall. They kept playing the "religion" card. So I cut all ties with them and now I am feeling shit for feeling the guilty one.

I have this friend of mine who I recently came out as Nonbinary. I was at first really scared because he really means something to me and I was scared that he will stop talking to me. I was really sad this one day. He asked what's wrong and then I told him. I told him that I'm Nonbinary and I don't go my old name anymore. He instantly asked me what name I go by. I told him that. He instantly used it and not even once deadnamed me. He was still supportive even when I changed my name again because I didn't felt comfortable with the old name anymore. Everytime he uses my prefered name I'm so happy. I'm his first Trans Friend (As long as i know) and I'm just so suprised how good he is to use my new name because I know him since I am 5/6 (at the moment we're 13).

It felt nice seeing someone talk about this. I am a bisexual and transgender male. And my parents at home are always making hurtful comments on what I choose to be. They don’t accept me for who I am and end up forcing me to be what my assigned gender was. This really helped me cool myself down. Thank you for the great video.

I live in an extremely homophobic family and my mother stopped talking to a huge chunk of my family because my second cousin came out as lesbian. I'm a closeted bisexual and I'm horrified of coming out. I hear homophobic things almost every day. For some reason when I hear transphobic and homophobic things I feel sick to my stomach ✌️

coming out as pansexual non-binary was thought but i learned to love myself throw watching your youtube video. This youtube channel should be seen bye more people to understand to love themself.

I have been called a slur for being an openly queer trans man. I have faced discrimination for being queer at school, but I fight back

Commenting just because I can't think of a joke and I'm here before the premiere

I am familiar with the LGBTQ . I have a lesbian daughter and a transgender son. I had always planned to come out as gay and eventually transition from MTF. I felt I needed to wait so my children could establish their own identities before I could come out for fear that homophobes might think they were following their Dad's footsteps. I didn't come out until I was 50 and had 2 failed hetero marriages. I made certain that they never thought of any sexual feelings or romantic feelings were in any way wrong & encouraged them to make their own decisions. When I finally did come out nearly all of my friends and relatives had the general thought of "It's about time!". Including my doctor's and psychiatrist. My family is completely behind me and have nothing but love for Jess 2.0 and actually treat me with more respect now. I watch these videos so I can better understand myself and my children as well as help others. Thank you Professor Pride!

I just had a mental breakdown because of my religious classmates and you really helped me so thank you:)

I'm Bi sexual and I get harrased online and at my high school. It even got to the point when im thinking suicidal thoughts. The people who helped me a lot are family and my LGBTQ+ friends.

I live in an anti lgbtq country. A country with a 98% homophobic population. This rlly helped me.

When I came out to my best friends as a pansexual, they started thinking I’m crazy and telling me that I’m not pan. They really pissed me off…

My dad has said “I don’t want transgender bob going to the bathroom with my daughter” and I think I threw up in my mouth a little

I played Morgan Freeman's quote and heard my mom cracking up in another room. Strange coincidence.

Hi everyone! Stay safe during these trying times!

my relatives are homophobes and transphobes and they don't accept me for being non binary (who is a female that identifies as a male). They don't accept me for being pansexual either. i feel like i've made my own family with my sister and my brothers and i just avoid my relatives. i have 2 mottos that i live by 1) "Ohana means family and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten"-Lilo and Stitch 2) i got family that are not blood and blood that are not family I feel as though i was left behind by my relatives but my real family have stood by my side throughout my journey of me being who i am.

This channel is underrated.

I used to be very bigoted as that was how I was raised. I changed. Now I realize that I'm genderfluid and mildly bisexual. I had no name for being genderfluid until recently. I'm sure my parents would not have accepted me.

I would like to state for the record that phases can exist, but that does not make you any less valid, or invalidate the phase if that is different than how you feel now. (Please feel free to correct me if you see anything wrong in this statement, I'm not perfect!)

Hey, I'm really glad you did this video! I really needed this.. my parents are pretty homophobic and this just really helps with some stuff. Just thank you so much for being on the internet to help LGBTQ+ peoples like me who dont know were to go to when you need advice but everyone you know is homophobic.. so thank you for being here!

I’m so glad that this came out when it did, one of my friends has been really homophobic towards me since I came out. PBR really is magical!

I gave my little brother to watch The owl house because it has good lgbtq+ presentation. Some of my family members are homophobic so I really hope he won't become one of them. Also he watched it and he really liked it. I'm really happy I did that

Second! And 13k already? What a king!

My dad be like “why do people want to transition just stay ur gender its not that hard 🙄”

Actually for me it worked to talk with haters on Discord. My strategy is basically to question some of the stuff they say. Mostly they can't find an answer. If they are making fun of you, identify how they are making fun of you and tell them that you know what they are doing. Explain to them as if you would explain to a little child. I have younger siblings so this may be easier for me but if you come at them without a single hole in your explanation, they will get defensive and that is fun to watch, especially if you expose them for being defensive. Never use any cussing or insults even if they do. One of them called me a "f*cking homo a*s n-word" and I just calmly responded that I'm neither black nor gay but that they could call me a f*cking a*s of course. Throughout the messaging history I subtly made fun of their insults and didn't let anything they say get to me. I feel like they noticed it because after half an hour of texting they blocked me. Same with a person I was discussing with about if Aegosexuality (a micro label of Asexuality) was real or not. I identify as Aegosexual. I got them to block me too with sources and logic. So it actually works but if you don't feel confident about it, you shouldn't try it.

Thanks this really helped me out a bit I just put all the dresses and girly stuff I had in my closet on the left side and all the boyish things on the right and it sucks how my parents don’t think being non binary is a real thing and that it’s dumb however I am going to be a senior this fall and I hope I can finally go to school in a few non binary clothes and finally be myself even though I have to go back to being Nia at home but I know that I’m Austin at school and I’ll always be Austin no matter what

My family and if they have homophobia or transphobia or not My mother: no My older brother (oldest) : no My other older brother (middle child) :idk Grandparents:yes Cousins:no Aunt: no Uncle:no

I really needed this rn because I just got sent an EXTREMELY homophobic video, these always pop up in my recommended at the perfect time

I came out as trans to my close very very religious family members recently and my mother told me im possessed by a demon and need jesus. I know that these people dont understand that words hurt but that one really got to me.

NO homo phobia

One of my closest friends recently came out and I’m so proud of them, they did it over text so everyone in the group chat was saying how much they supported them and their identity, but one of my other friends in the group chat didn’t reply to their coming out and I wasn’t sure if they did it on purpose. So then she invites people to a party but doesn’t invite my friend that just came out so then I was like hmm, maybe like she wanted to keep it small or something, but I realized that everyone in our group is going to a Halloween party which she isn’t hosting so after this I was like hmmmmmm. Then I brought it up with some of my other friends and they all agreed that it was strange so we asked the girl that didn’t invite them and she was like “oh I wanted to try a smaller group” which is a total lie because everyone is going to the Halloween thing so why can’t everyone go to her thing idk. So then I took things into my own hands and was like ‘I’m going to send some lgbt fan art to the group chat. So everyone likes it but she doesn’t like it, so then I sent another thing and she didn’t like the other one either, the I was like, there’s no way she didn’t see it. Also my friend is pretty religious which may have something to do with it. So now idk what to do, I could just be making something out of nothing. Idk if I should confront her about it or something.

15 hours till it premieres? I'll be asleep by then :(

I was really upset about some things recently… But this video helped me a little. My homophobic classmate constantly angered me and made me feel guilty for being part of lgbtq+. The thing is that he told everyone how he beat up gays with his gang several times… They found them on a dating app by pretending to be gay person themselves. ….and, you know, in place where I live, there is almost no one I can report this to. I feel helpless and I want to simply disappear sometimes….. so yeah, my slightly homophobic family added fuel to the fire. I don’t want to be afraid of people like them, but I also feel like I have no tools to deal with this. Even if I educate them, they will still see that hypertrophied picture in their head that they want to see. I hope that someday things will change…. If someone sees this.. stay strong, I love you all and I’m really proud of you. I just wanted to speak out in case someone else is going through it. ( sorry 4 my broken english) ♡

"Hit that rainbow subscribe button" *Me scrolling to the subscribe button* "WHY ISN'T IT RAINBOW~

I’m non-binary and my cousin keeps purposely misgendering me

when being misgendered and dead named i try and keep in mind my step dad is a toothless hick and my mom is just a fat drunk but its really hard

Homophobic people can change, they just need somebody to talk some sense into them. This channel made me realize how wrong I was, and I now support all lgbtq people

My family was very accepting of when I came out as FtM, mostly because all the family I know are LGBT. Some family friend have recently gotten back in context after 10 years and at first I was worried about her but she is very accepting of me too. But just me. Not her non binary child. Her child is 12 and I am 19 and she is convinced that she could tell I was trans growing up and that her child is cis because they 'act like their agab' and 'is too petty' to be anything but cis. I nor the enby child understand why she is so against her child being trans when she treats me fine. She always says they're 'only a child' and won't even let them be out as Bisexual because '12 year olds shouldn't be thinking of things like that'. I came out as FtM when I was 15 but when I was 12, I identified as genderfluid. When I was 4 I identified as a lesbian, at age 10, I started to identify as Pan and then at 13 I found I am Asexual Panromantic. But this family friend didn't know this and when I told them, they just told me I was different. Is she just hateful because it's her own child? Does anyone have any advice on how I can help her and her child?

im trans and i have a transphobic stepdad this helped me alot he always tells me "im never gonna be a girl" or "if you were supposed to be a girl you would have been born"

The only fear I have is violence. I sometimes wake up worried that I won't wake up the next morning...

Thank you matt for posting this video as a transgender mtf because this has really helped with dealing with transphobia 😊😊😊😊😊👍👍👍👍

And thats on living on a very VERY homophobic small neighborhood (,:

as a closeted nonbinary lesbian, i find homophobes trying to look smart online extremly amusig, going like "Being gay is a sin and youll go to hell" like i dont remember asking *Susan*

I just discovered your channel, it's absolutely wonderful to be like you ❤️

As someone who recently realized he was bi after being a lifelong ally, this is a wonderful episode and channel. I understand how stupid people can be sometimes. The important thing to realize is that you are valid. Even if it sometimes doesn't feel like it, millions of people around the world support you. I support you. Love is love!

Thanks for the advice and I came out at seventeen and my dad doesn't accept me but I just ignore what he says

dude my mum doesnt even let me have a binder and calls me girl and she/her whenever she can just because she doesnt want to believe she has a trans son. i was in tears when i found this video it helped me to stop crying so much. she has told me that i am going against god and choosing satan's way. she is completely unaccepting and she almost took my phone away when i was dating a girl. i am a demiromantic male and so i didn't see anything wrong with dating this girl i really liked.. she forced me to leave her and it tore me apart. so for anyone reading, this was a very small piece of what transphobia looks like. it really tears you to pieces and hurts like hell. im afraid to even say anything to my mom about me being dysphoric or anything of the sort. its very hurtful to experience things like this in your own home i can say from experience. and it may not look like a big deal but it is truly emotional abuse. stop using religion to excuse your toxic opinions. stop silencing trans and gay people. so yeah sorry for the rant but for any members of the lgbtqia+ community out there just know you are not alone and there are people willing to completely accept you and embrace you and not want to harm you or hurt you. stay safe y'all

3rd uwu (your vids are the only thing I’ve had to look forward to for months so thanks btw)

I know I'm late to this, but Matt, thank you so much for everything you do. Both my parents aren't supportive and it gets terrifying living in fear constantly hiding who I am from them. Your videos have helped me through this rough journey and made me feel more accepted and loved. I appreciate all the effort you put in your videos so much.

Ooo I need this one I can't wait!!!!!

I remember once me and my friend (river) went around asking our classmates if they were homophobic/transphobic and if they said yes we said “well frick you im gay”

This is my favorite youtube channel for watching LGBT related videos, because it's the only one I can check the comments without seeing horrible, and sometimes violent transphobia and homophobia!

Just love the phrase "who are lost already to the dark side" it pretty much says everything about them.

Oh my gosh these comments are so wholesome and nice and supporting!

I made a bunch of pride flags in mc

"Oh fuck, I'm trans." 20 seconds later "Oh FUCK, I'm trans..." Love and support for everyone!

I'm tired of feeling not "normal" based on someone else's opinion. My mental health has been affected not to mention the abuse/bullying. I'm tired of fighting. I'm tired of hate and I am tired of living in a web of lies. I'm just tired. 😢

I came out to 2 of my cousins and they were both lgbtq ❤💛💚💙💜

Hearing you voice break when you're speaking about this, tells me you suffered a lot for loving someone. I'm sorry you had to suffer. You're probably not gonna read this but thanks a lot for creating this channel it helped me and taught me a lot

I needed this after what happened last month. I only told 3 of my friends. 2 of them were supportive, but my other friend (who is now an ex-friend), told me that it was a sin, told me to go to hell, and slapped me in the face. At first I thought: "What the hell?" Later, I said: "Listen, you can't dictate who I am. It's not a sin, it's who I am and if you can't accept that, then we can't be friends anymore!" I felt like I didn't belong, but I was glad that was over.

How I address hate is with a calm voice and even friendlier body language, calling them “friend”, “my dude”, or “buddy”- that always throws them off (especially if I make sure to have my voice dripping in affection). At that point I can usually ether de-escalate the situation, get them to listen to me then or later, or weird them out enough that they avoid me (and whoever the target was) forever. Then depending on how it went I tell the teacher or the principal (I was buddy-buddy with my elementary and my middle school principals, I don’t know ether.) Uhh. Soooo- kill them with kindness??

Hi 👋 my name is Evlin, how are you ?. Have a good day everyone who is LGBTQ+

In Esperanto I usually call them "kontraŭ-GLAT-uloj" (anti-LGBT-people) or "kontraŭ-kvir-uloj" (anti-queer-people).

Sometimes I feel as tho you're a protective shield that protects us all from all the hate we face in this world •-•

All the ones who don’t accept you for who you are don’t deserve the gift of your kindness, beauty and companionship. You deserve love and respect from the ones who stand by your side even when the world starts to break. A little motivation speak

You always give amazing advice for straight people and LGBTQ+ people and we love you.

I came out as both trans and gay and lately my brother started to just adress me using the F-slur. The worst part about it is, that in calling me that, he's the only family member of mine, who doesn't misgender/deadname me.

This channel is so underrated! Thank you for this!

I went from homophobic to tolerater to supportive it's interesting how people can change

Where has this channel been all my life?

Thank you so much professor Pride ! You may not see this but i just wanted to say my thanks to you , because watching your videos helps me a lot and I'm really grateful for your help ! 😄❤

Thank you! I am struggling with people calling me gay, and this video really helped me!

thankyou for this i have someone at my school that always points out im gay so thankyou for giving me confidence

today, someone on discord bullied me for being lesbian, and called me the f slur multiple times.

As someone with transphobic parents this helps a lot! Thank you!

I'm MtF and transitioning in my mid 30s and I live in a rough neighborhood. This video is very helpful. All the cars on the busy roads are processions of hate passing me while all the drivers and passengers point and make fun of me. It's comforting to hear others' experiences.

If your parents don't accept you I'm your dad now

the fact we need this video is so sad

I'm bi and nonbinary. I told my mother I was bi after she asked me many times why I was talking about a "person" I would be dating / I like etc. and not a "girlfriend". She said that "gay sex" is disgusting to her but she would allways love me no matter what. A time after this at my mums birthday my sister and her argued over something (like they allways do) and my sister statet that my mum told her she would k*ll herself if I would date a guy. So she lied to me about "allways loving me no matter what". My sister said it out loud and I gave my mother the chance of telling me otherwise or maby apologize but she looked me dead in the eyes and said "What if I would do that". So long story short, my mum threatened to k*ll herself if I would ever be with a guy. My mum loves me and is very caring. She does everything to me and even after I moved out she texted me nearly every day. I just didn't text back really often. The problem is she doesn't know who I am. She does love me but not me now, maby me when I was 10. She wasn't there when I was bullied for 6 years, because she had her own problems and because of that we don't have a foundation of trust. (if it is called that way in English lol) This is why I don't want to tell her I'm nonbinary. But I'm not strong enough to break contact with her and I don't want to allow myself to forgive her. The worst thing is she thinks I'm cold hearted and doesn't know she is the reason why I don't want anything to do with her. She doesn't even know what she did wrong.

This video actually saved my life. Thank you so much!