35 Tips To Coming Out as LGBTQ+ 

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Wait, if the gays have "Yas queen" and "spill the tea" what do the straights have? Oh I forgot, they have rights

“And they weren’t cool enough to be invited anyway” probably one of my favorite quotes ever

Don’t show fear. The homophobes can smell fear.

If I could just be like:oH yEaH mY gIrLfRiEnD. That would be great

I almost outed myself once when my brother was raging at some random game and shouted "THATS SO GAY" into the mic. My immediate response was just "Me too" and luckily I think he didnt hear. It would've been fine if he did hear, I know my family wouldn't care but I'm just not ready quite yet.

I bet that one person who disliked meant to like but their hand slipped.

I'm still a kid, but I know im gay. Obviously. they'll think that I don't know what I'm saying. I want to find a way to show them that i'm actually gay. Lil Update: I asked my parents what they think about kids being gay or lgbtq, and I showed them a picture of a kid at a pride parade. My dad said that they were being stupid and 'what were that kids' parents thinking?! You can't be born gay, he was influenced by the media! He doesn't even know yet and he made such a big decision at such a young age!' My mother agreed and was a bit suspicious on why I asked that. Im just gonna. stay quiet until I'm like 16 or 17, probably 18.

Day 2 of asking matt to make a discord server for lgbtq people🏳️‍🌈

Last year on June 3rd I came out to my mom as bisexual. Turns out I'm lesbian so my goal was to come out again on June 3rd. She was talking about getting Pride merch so I said "Oh yeah, you know how I came out as bisexual last year? Turns out its just girls" it was so casual, she accepts me like she did a year ago, and I asked her for the date and told her my goal and it was June 4th she said it was close enough and we could pretend. I was so happy I wanted to cry. Especially since she already found out I'm non-bianary and got me a pop socket with non-bianary flag colors so now I have that and a rainbow pin. It makes me really happy to know even if I'm not out to everyone :)

I’m pretty safe with school, my teacher is gay himself and no one has a problem with it. Didn’t come out to him yet but I’m planning to!

I knew I was gay in first grade lol. I saw a guy on tv and said he was cute. My mom thought it was just a weird phase. A girl always felt unnatural to me and unhappy. I had a girlfriend and I hated it. Can’t wait to get my first boyfriend😊

Yeah I think this will help because I'm trying to figure out how to come out as bi :) edit: the fact that I found out I was a lesbian makes this kinda embarrassing-

To the one person that disliked... ...we need to FroCkiNg talk

5:04 Say it louder to my parents in the back, please! *I'm a genderfluid pansexual kid, i'm sure about it but when i tried to tell my mom that i'm a genderfluid she said ''no sweetie you're not, it's just a phase don't worry about it'' and this just made me feel like shit, I can't be myself, not even in my house and I don't feel safe here, my mom always says that pride parades are a waste of time and ''I just wouldn't like it if one of my children was gay or smt like that'' Yeah i'm just a kid but i know what makes me feel comfortable, i just want to feel great... Well, my parents just don't understand that you don't need to be ''older'' to know about your sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. I just want her to know more about me, I tried to tell my dad and my brother about it but they said the same thing ''it's just a phase.''. Sometimes i feel wrong, trapped, it's like i don't belong here and they still say it's just a phase. I have a gf (obviously my parents don't know about her, i mean we have the same age but since i was born female my parents would say ''I can't believe you're a lesbian'' or smt like that) but i didn't tell her that i'm a genderfluid, i told her i was trans because i thought i was a trans man,, yeah i was wrong but i didn't knew what genderfluid was. Well, i just wanted to share the things that happen to me and tell to everyone who's going thru the same things that... YOU'RE NOT ALONE! Stay strong! You're valid

if i ever told my parents how they feel, they would ask me "why do you want to know this?" then ill have to tell them-

(4:04) I thought I was bi when I was 10 1/2, then a few weeks before my birthday my crush came out to me as non-binary. then it hit me. I knew I was pan. I'm surprised I didn't find out sooner. And now me and my crush are dating! - w - also, I plan on coming out to my parents as pan, Asexual, and Agender after I'm done with collage and I move out!! I'm going to come out with a cake and a pun with the frosting on top! in the order of: Panromantic, Asexual, Agender! Edit from 1 year later (not exactly, but still): I have found out that I am Omnisexual and I still don't know if I'm Asexual or Demisexual at this point- also I ended up coming out as Omni and Agender early- they don't use my pronouns (they/them) or preferred name-

I tried to come out but my dad said I was to young and and then I asked him when I could be 'old enough' and he said 20, so yeah

Heh let’s pretend that I’m actually gonna come out and not hide in the closet forever 😭

I'm going to turn 13 in august and I have already came out to my parents three times, but they still think I'm too young or things like that but I'm tired of hiding who I am, so I asked my best friend to give a trans flag for my birthday and I don't care about what my parents say because they had a whole month to think about it since the third time I came out to them.

Thx this is really helpful im trying to come out as omnisexual and it’s gonna be hard because a lot of people don’t know what that is and it’s kinda simple it’s just pansexual but your not gender blind lol

I just got an ad explaining pronouns and how to respect them! :D and it wasn’t stereotypical!! We’re making progress :)

WHEN I DIDNT KNOW THAT ELLEN WAS A LESBIAN-

god i still remember coming out to my friends and family i was so scared. my mom thought at the time i was only coming out as bi because i just broke up with my ex, but i told her that i felt like this long time. took her little getting use to and most of friends just had questions

As a 13 year old who has been questioning bisexuality for a year and a half this video was really helpful. I have already told my friends and classmates but I haven’t said a word to my family. Tysm for your channel it has helped me so much

I came out to a small group of people at my school and idk who told other people but now my whole school knows that I'm gay.

XD I just came out to my sister as pan and she didn’t question it at all I love her too much lol she didn’t ask: “are you sure?” Or “isn’t that just Bi?” Or “oh, it might just be a phase.” She was super supported and she just knew that she shouldn’t tell any one but she is gonna help me with my parents

I came out to mom without any preparation. I just -- told her, being stupidly happy and excited, that I am a boy. She called it unnatural, when I made her tell me her opinion. She also said that she was not surprised. For a few months, we didn't talk about it. I expected her to react differently, because -- well, she did always use the correct pronouns of my trans friend, after I explained her the science of being a trans. Because she called me a boy before. I still remember a dialogue we had, that cannot be translated into English with all the details. We discussed how I'd probably rather merry my female cousin than have a husband, and in Russian the word "marry" is different depending on whether you talk about getting a wife or a husband. She said it as if my sister was a husband; then, she corrected herself, "you'll get a wife. (pause.) Because you're a boy." It was obvious, in a sense, for both me and her. Still, when I came out to her, she called it unnatural and asked me to not talk about it. Months after, I brought it up again. I was talking about my friend and his experiences coming out to his parents as trans. I explained how they felt, and he felt... obviously, the conversation went to the topic of our family and my coming out. I explained my position. Told her I understand that it may be sudden and strange for her, but it is not for me. She said, it was and is. She needed time to process it, before and back then, too. She said, she hoped I would change my mind.She also said that it didn't matter what she thought, and that her opinion wouldn't change the fact that she loved me. I asked her if she would change her mind. "Maybe," she answered. "Perhaps, with time." Now I live alone in another city (renting a flat with my cousin, ha-ha), study in the university and only talk with my mother by phone. We don't talk about it. I use male pronouns (in Russian, it's impossible to talk without stating your gender, a constant reminder of who you are) when I talk with her. Sometimes, she repeats after me, and her voice sounds thoughtful and uncertain at times. It seems to happen more and more often. Perhaps, with time she'll get there. We'll get there.

3 dislikes: Donald trump, Mike pence and jk Rowling

This series has been helped me understand that even as a bisexual, I don't love men and women the same way, thanks

I'm thinking of showing my friend around lgbtq... *REALLY* hope she's accepting so I can come out and talk openly about my sexuality

Henlo noice person, havs noice life! ✌️

Your advice is greatly appreciated. I can see how this also applies to those of us who came out as atheist/non-religious to fundamentalist family and community. We're also ostracized and get disowned and threatened with homelessness when faced with family rejection. Some religious countries will even kill those who come out so it is actually dangerous to do so. I can empathize with how scary it can be to come out of any closet that is your identity.

As a closeted pansexual wanting-to-be trans male, I clicked faster than gay lightning when I saw this in my recommended

when i was 8 i was lesbian without knowing and when i was 9 i found out and i told my friend and she was ok with it and the next day i said it becuase 1 of my class mates was shiping me with someone and i said: "i dont like boys" and he told the whole class room and i was really scared that everyone wont bee ok with it but, the whole class was ok with it. so if people hate ignore them and try too look at the bright side of life :)) and, happy pride month!

I am trying to come out as demigirl and pansexual, this is very helpful to me, the only thing I'm worried about my twin, but I'm sure my family will be OK :)

Hello, I am from Turkey (15) and I recently decided to come out to my mom. I always try to test the waters and been doing the same for years and YEARS but just can't decide whether it is acceptable for her or not. She says she does not mind LGBTQ+ folks but she is supportive of being "normal". When I asked what normal meant she obviously replied with men being with women and women being with men. I know her thoughts on gay people, she is fine with it. Kinda. But when it comes to women of LGBTQ+ I have no idea. I have been bi ever since I entered middle school. I have seen people like me and some came out openly when middle school was ending and I was like- wow, the thing I am has a name for it? I never knew lmao. My mother and I went through a lot together. I try to be as supportive as possible of her but I think she may not be. A few years ago when we talked about this topic she said she would send me to therapy to try to "fix" me but then again it was a few years ago. I will try to teach her the labels in our community and would act according to her recent reaction. I think it is kinda safe to come out to her but this gamble is too much for me to take. I don't know what to do... Is this a good idea? because I am really tired of keeping thing from her.

My moms current boyfriend uses the word gay as an insult, so I'm scared that if I come out to my mom, who has all ready said that she will support me before I even knew I was pan, she will tell her boyfriend. What should I do? Edit: I'm going to try to come out to my mom tomorrow and I'm kinda scared... wish me luck, I hope it goes well...

I was just sitting here watching assuming you had over a million subs, jeez you really deserve more veiws for this great vid.

Thanks man! This is going to be very helpful when I come out as lesbian to my parents!

Love your videos! I've been out as a lesbian for over 4 years now but I was wondering if you could do a video about safe ways to meet potential partners?

Thank you so much for posting this! It will really help me since I'm possibly coming out to my family this month! I'm so happy I found this channel! :)

Hey, closeted Bi here. I found you channel a while ago and it has helped me so much and made me so happy, thank you so much ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

The thing here is: I've known I'm non-binary ever since I was 13, but I've asked stuff like related to the topic to my family, both my parents think it's stupid and my brother said he doesn't disagree with it but he doesn't understand it (which is fine cause I know he'd probably accept me if I just explain it to him). But even if my parents were accepting of it, I live in mexico, and we all speak spanish, which doesn't have neutral pronouns, so even if I came out to them I don't know how I would like to be addressed

My sexuality: Asexual, homoromantic (I like girls and femme/androgynous NBs) My gender: I use she/her and they/them pronouns!

Could you guys do a video about LGBTQ+ support groups countries outside of America( I think that is where you are based)? It’s hard to find that information for other countries, and you seem like you have reliable sources. This was a great video, and have a lovely day.

I'm so happy. i leaned in and had a gentle conversation with my aunt and i asked her what her opinion on the lgbtqa community was and she said she wasn't against us or supported us so taking that as a neutral response i flat out told her i was bisexual. she told me that she loved me and she had to call me to make sure it wasn't a prank by my older sister. that was the first time i actually talked to her in years so that makes me very happy knowing that she still loves me for me. and she respected me not wanting my dad to know. i deleted the entire text conversation so no one in my household can read the conversation we had.

I came out during my salutatorian speech it was rough.

"They weren't cool enough to be invited anyway". One of the best quotes ever, I love itt.

This video has really helped me come to terms with my sexual orientation. I’ve finally accepted myself as Panromantic and Greysexual(when you rarely feel sexual attraction)! This has really helped with tips for later! I’m REALLY not ready to come out and I’m a little afraid of what the out come might be, because my step brothers like to make fun of the LGBTQ community and some people on my dads side of the family laughs with them. Plus, my step dad on my moms side just thinks it’s ridiculous. I just need to build up the courage to tell the people that I think will support me. And another thank you to this video for the immense help it has given me. ❤️🏳️‍🌈

I came out 3 years ago to my mom as lesbian or bisexual. She told to be straight from then on (I agreed bc agreeing doesn't change who i love). My mom, til this day, is mad at me for it.

I feel like the most common reaction is disbelief. Usually, when you finally figure everything out, you’re young. They’ll think it’s just a phase. They don’t understand.

I'm 14 now, and originally the only thing I knew was straight. I just assumed I was straight, and since I was attracted to guys it made sense. This past year I've realized that I'm attracted to more than just guys, and now I'm a closeted bisexual. I don't feel safe coming out in my home because my parents are very homophobic, but I am celebrating pride from the sidelines!

All your videos have all been uploaded right when I needed them thanks :)

How do you know you can trust someone not to out you to the wrong people thinking it's harmless

I’m a little young but I know that I’m trans/non-binary. My sister is also pretty open about her sexuality so I’m able to ask her any questions that I have(she’s 23 btw). She told me that if I come out to my mom, she might try to “guilt” me out of it. And I already know that she’s not very accepting of trans people. Edit: A few months before I knew I was trans, my mom yelled at me because I didn’t want to wear a shirt that she bought for me. It was really feminine, and she knows that I don’t like clothes like that so now I’m really scared to come out to her.😣

My dad walked into my room while I was watching this and I wasn’t wearing earbuds and I’m not ready to come out yet bc I’m not 100% sure I’m bi yet (but i think I’m just scared ppl won’t accept me) and he thankfully didn’t see or hear the video

Thank you!!! I am coming out of the closet today after church! Hopefully my parents are supportive and loving!!

amazing video and ill take that dr seuss quote for my coming out🏳️‍🌈🥰 thank you so much for helping the lgbtq+ community and validating the members still inside the closet❤️💖

I have a plan for when I come out I will be 13 so I don't have to worry about being to young It will be summer so I don't have to worry about being in school I will show them a coming out as Bi song because I get scared when talking to them It will be in a year so if it is just a phase or I am not actually Bi I will be sure to know to come out or not. I will tell my friends before my family so they can be by my side for when I come out and they can help me if something goes wrong. It seems so easy when you think your straight..... But then when it happens it's so scary....

If being LGBTQ+ was a choice, why would I not just choose to be straight and cis so I wouldn't face discrimination?

I am another step closer to coming out to my parents because my friend sent me to this channel. 💖💜💙 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

hehehehe… i wish (；ω；)

I texted my sister and told her I'm asexual just a text and she said "you be you" and my sister in law just asked me "what's all the stuff you're posting on Facebook do you identify as asexual?" and I was like "yeah" and she was like "what is that? I know a few about it but I don't understand much of it" so I explained it to her and she kind of got it my brother already knew about asexuality so he told my sister in law more about it I haven't told my parents my dad is anti lgbtq my mum had a gay cousin that died from aids she's more open to it so she'll be cool with it.

I have a tip on coming out (though this may or may not work because I just thought of it): Come our on April Fool’s Day so that if your family seems to not be accepting you can abort mission with saying April Fool’s. However plan out how you are going to display emotion as part of the “prank” and learn to control them just in case (you don’t wanna show fear after saying April Fool’s because then they may realize you’re not joking, especially if who you are telling is intelligent with body language and god forbid psychology)

When he said that your label might change, I was just like "Very much truth" as my label has changed about 10 times in the last year

Honestly having a trans bro has made me feel better about myself being in lgbtq+

"they weren't cool enough" Hell yeah, nobody is cool enough....

The amount of support you got is absolutely amazing!! 💜💜

"- and she seems like such a nice woman" aged like milk

these tips were helpful thanks for making them !

So he said 10% of my home town. I think most of that 10% is in class. Most of my class is LGBTQ+. You know how they say one person in every friend group is LGBTQ+? My friend group (about 8 people) has one person who isn't LGBTQ+. She's a dope ally though.

I think it's important that people should know that someone could come out as one sexuality\gender identity and then realize it is incorrect. Like, someone could first come out as bisexual, and then realize they are gay later on. It doesn't mean that we are deciding and it is a choice, it means that they haven't realized their identity yet.

This video was amazing! You have inspired me to try and start my own GSA club at my school! I haven’t proposed the idea to my school yet, but I hope I can start it! Your videos are helping me to find major/key things I would need to think about and talk over. Thanks again! 🏳️‍🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

Thank you so much!

# 30 made me feel good :) cuz i had a bad experience coming out to my parents (ftm) but after *almost 7 months,* they are starting to turn around...slowly. we're getting there.

thank you so much this helped me out and boosted my confidence!!!!!

I am now seeing you everywhere on my recommend and I don't have a problem with it!

My parents: you don’t know what you want, your to young to decide that much of a grownup decision to make at your age Me: Oh but I wasn’t to young for you guys to assume/decide I was straight since birth🤔🤭

Thx,nice video.

"might take a long time" LOL yea you got that right!

This was truly insightful. Thank you so much. ♥️🏳️‍🌈♥️

Everything about your channel is amazing! You help me with my own personal growth

I going to come out to these boys that I’m non binary who aren’t exactly my friends but hang out close to my friends (at high school 🏫.) I’ve told one of them though a friend (who knows and is a closeted bi at school but no longer at home) messaging him. I get my friend to ask him questions like, “are your friends transphobic?” which according to him is no. And “what the best way for (my soon to be dead name) can tell them without being dramatic?” Which he doesn’t know how because he’s cis straight. All the boys know I’m bisexual (sometimes with the things I say they think I’m a lesbian but that’s only because I’m bi that liked way more girls than guys) and have nothing really against that. They say “that’s gay,” sometimes but they do have an openly gay friend. I might come out to the nicer ones first though, because it’s mentally exhausting pretending to be cis girl and make sure I don’t accidentally out myself.

This: "testing the water" thing seems to be really helpful.

Okay, I came out to my siblings and three friends... all very supportive. Thank you so much! :) Kind of a coincidence too, uh my sister was coming out to me as bisexual, and she was with a female once, nobody knew AT ALL, well, I am so happy she accepts me and LGBTQ!! Later, I came out to my other sister, she's Asexual, or straight she said, she accepts me shes just still younger and doesnt understand as much.. but, she likes the pro nouns "she, her". Thanks for all the help, you have helped me so much.

Thank you im going to come out to my friend today and you have helped so much Edit: It went really well! Thank you!!

I realised I was gay at 11 and came out to my older sisters at 12 knowing they would support me, one of my sisters kindly asked questions and my other sister is a big ally of the LGBTQIA+ community, she does a lot of research and corrects me with some things since I’m still a baby gay.

I love the phrase invited to your party

I'm still a kid but i know that i'm pansexual and genderfluid, my three closest friends already know but i'm going to wait till i'm older to tell my family because i'm scared that they'll say i'm too young to know, or that i'm just confused. I'm probably going to wait till i'm 16-18 to tell my family

My friend was inviting people to my party. He didn't realize it wasn't okay at the time, and he apologized. I didn't really mind because I had invited everyone to my party a few months ago. He said he wouldn't tell anyone without permission again.

This was so useful to me! I've already came out to my friends and a cousin, and I'm hoping to break it to my parents sometime next year!

I just started coming out this year at 31, I've spent the last 20 years hiding it. One of my aunts, my sister, and a lot of my first cousins know so far. My dad and uncles are gonna be a bit tougher.

This was really amazing thank you so so much

I came out to my crush first, he asked me who made me realize I was gay, it was him, and that was very awkward

Great video.

I’ve known since I was 11 just like many other people. At that time I had explored the internet and educated myself about how I didn’t have to find a prince someday. Many times before I have tried to come out but the same: “you’re too young” or “give men a change” speech has started. I’d be lying if I said I’m not scared to come out one day but this video is helping me warm up to the idea of doing it soon. Sure, things might not work out but I will always support myself. 😊

I'm currently questioning and this (albeit indirectly) is helping me reach a conclusion. Thanks!

Y'all have to be really brave because *Im too scared to come out as aromantic to my family* Edit: I might come out today >-

13 and Asexual and Aromantic 🖤🤍💜 💚🤍🖤 Don't let anyone stop you or tell you who to be 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️