"We're not judging how you dress...", but... "we're judging how you dress". Personally, I'm not a model or high flying businessman. I'm a regular guy, and I'm dressing like a regular guy. If my Filipina wife wants to dress up, good for her! I don't judge her and she doesn't judge me. If you want to be the next Filipina Pea, you need to learn more about Western culture. Some of the things you are saying are ridiculous for us. We are who we are. Either a Filipina likes us or she doesn't. There's a million more Filipinas right around the corner. Filipinas should find a man that fits what they want, and foreigners should find a Filipina that fits what we want.
I completely agree. Maybe all Filipinas 'in general' tend to be a certain way. But at the end of the day, every person is different. You can't just generalize and say all Filipinas do X thing. I have encountered many different Filipinas that all value certain things differently. Never underestimate the power of the individual. There is no such thing as a 'one size fits all' Filipina
I am glad you made this post. Most foreigner sites leave most of these points off their list of what Filipina's like or dislike. Especially the dress and hygiene.
But upsetting your girlfriend in the Philippines is not a problem , just get another one. There is always another ready to move in. Maybe if philippinos could accept some constructive criticism, things might improve for the average person
Whether they are married or not, their parents want grandchildren. What they mean is just don't go around calling her bitch, greedy, or slut. Especially when you've been tapping through multiple girls before you get to her.
@@adriver4471 if you are not in the PI and that is the way you think maybe PI is not for you... if you are in the PI and that is what you are experiencing maybe look around at other areas away from the bars to stay/live
8:48 Dont criticize the Philippines? You do realize this is a free world, right? Most westerners will also criticize their own country, and anything else they feel has some issues that could be improved. It’s not an insult, it’s a statement of opinion. Often it’s constructive criticism.
You say don't be weird but do not define what that means to a filipina. Whether someone is weird is subjective, not objective. Therefore you must define what it means to a filipina. And if it's different for every filipina, then it's not a valid thing.
I love how blissfully naive you are. I promise that’s not an insult and I genuinely like you channel. 1st in order to define weird you have to define normal and both of those are impossible but I really get what you are saying. 2nd I would not date or marry any woman who yells at me every day. I NEVER raise my voice but I expect the same back. It’s funny how part of this comes across as “how not to piss your girlfriend off” LOL I still enjoyed the video and you made some awesome points. I love Pinays and there are some very different types there. In the last 2 years if I talked to 120 girls on Pinay dating sites at least 90 of them wanted to sell me nudes. LOL I am not interested in that at all I want a traditional Pinay with conservative values. I know they exist in huge numbers there. BTW You are maganda and please keep making videos.
Thanks, your advise is helpful. Americans are blissfully ignorant of other cultures. Even though I went to Philippines and brought my wife back to the US. We tend to look at a Christian who speaks passable English and think they are just like Americans. It took me literally years to unlock the mystery that is a filipina! Please help others along their own journeys;)😮
Good info. Maybe for the next video like this, pair do's and don'ts. This way, someone doesn't think: "how depressing, I can't do anything in the Philippines" after listening to a long list of don'ts.
I like and agree with all these tips! Great video. I would never yell at anyone. But I will add that if I find a Filipina girlfriend and she starts yelling at me... she's done. I will be single before I live with that disrespect. Respect goes both ways.
I really appreciate your help in this video . If a woman want to keep her reputation she will treat the man as well as he treats her and not take advantage of him or harm him or she will deserve to ruin her reputation
Any gentleman would already be on top his game and knowledgeable as to what type of lady he desires to attract, however she gives good advice for for the losers
On 4. Don't be weird. The trouble is, we don't know what counts as weird vs. sweet, normal, funny to a Filipina. This is especially true for guys who are ... a bit weird. #7 - Rice is like Spam in the Monty Python sketch. If you don't know, in youtube type Python Spam. Note: If you act like the people in this sketch, you will be considered weird. #12. Corny or cringe - again, we don't know what makes the list. Note that many guys come to the Philippines because we don't have mad skills in the dating scene back home. 13. Listen. Watch. Imitate good behavior. Love rice and karaoke.
read other comments and see your difference.... the fact that you start by asking makes a world of a difference. usually men that wonder, observe and in the end adapt. that will save you tones of bad moments. men who think they know.... well, tend to forget the reason(s) they had to leave their country just to find a hug half the planet away.
Wow , Thank you very much Rain !!! This video is really great !!! I will always keep these tips in mind when I return to the Philippines to visit my wonderful in-laws !!! You rock RAIN !!!! AGAIN, THANKS !!! 😘😘😘
What a sensible person you seem to be. Believe me, you can't reason with some men who could use some rehabilitation but don't want it. Feel sorry for them maybe, but understand they in all probability, will not be rehabilitated. How much baggage can you take to your girlfriend in the Philippines?
Got it! Rule #1: Don't scare a Filipina!! Rule #2: Shower with a bucket if you have nothing else, but be thorough!! Rule #3: Don't dress like a dork when you DATE a Filipina!! Rule #4: Don't ACT like a dork when you date a Filipina!! Rule #5: She can yell, but YOU CANNOT!! Rule #6: Take your time with a Filipina!! Rule #7: Don't forget the rice when you feed a Filipina!! Rule #8: Learn and respect!! Rule #9: Don't slander a Filipina!! Rule #10: Don't did the Philippines!! Rule #11: Observe the Philippine work ethic and spirit of overcoming!! Rule #12: Leave the 🌽 and 🧀 in your native country!!
I like your video. Many things you said resonate with me and I experienced all of them to be true when I visited my ldr in Cebu for the first time. We are engaged now, so the trip went well but now they are coming to the US. How do I ease them into western customs? In particular, rice. I will get a rice cooker, and we will always have rice at home, but when we eat out, very few restaurants offer rice on the menu. I've told them this, but between a new wife, and a new stepdaughter I know it will be hard to adjust. Any tips?
About dressing up... it is so d@mn hot in the Philippines... if we wear shorts and t-shirt it is still so incredibly hot, we are not accustomed to it! We will sweat pawis like a pig!
You make two points that conflict with each other. You say how important good hygiene is (I agree), yet you say Filipinas expect guys to dress well. Here is the problem, Philippines is hot & humid so while locals are used to it foreigners are mostly not. Thus if one is being forced to wear jeans and nice polo shirt and socks/shoes (or even dressier) then it is 99% guaranteed there will be a lot of sweating when going out! However wear shorts and dry fit shirt and sandals and one has a modest chance of not sweating out of control (thus creating a hygiene issue).
#10 "Don't criticize the Philippines" Constructive criticism will make everybody stronger. It's a win-win situation. But what Filipinos (males and females) are afraid of, is losing face ('hiya').
alot of things expats criticize about are far out of reach of average filipino to do anything about..plus this might shock you..they already know about the problems in their country...pointing the problems out that they are already aware of will not be a win.. most solutions to problems in the west is either private or government to throw money at it...that is rarely an option here..i worked in IT for over 40 years and now live here... i could easily show them a way to automate alot of things that they do...the uphill battle you run into is if you automate then fewer employees are needed and the philippines does not have enough jobs for the population as it is ..can you imagine saying i can make your business run more efficiently and smoothly with 25% less employees ..not going to happen easily ..but works well in the west..
@@MickeyMousePark, I cant remember the exact location in Cebu City where the following happened. We were in a mall kind of shop/store and I noticed 6 or 8 girls (they really looked young) at the check-out cashier. Doing basically nothing. So, I asked my Filipina gf what that is all about. She responded saying that to avoid one person taking money out of the cashier machine, they put more girls there. To that, I didnt say anything. Not bec I understood but out of insanity. Another 'incident' that proves your case is that on every bus there was not only a driver but also a conductor (selling the bus ticket and receiving the cash). It all reminds me of Hungary while then still part of the Iron Curtain. Basically, it comes down to a form of hidden unemployment. And hence the low wages.
@@MickeyMousePark, "they already know about the problems in their country" Then the solution to solve it, is easy. What are they waiting for? In almost all cases the problems are easy to fix. The problem is: do they want to fix it? I dont think so.
Maybe I should take a cold shower... I would take a hot shower and be all clean... then as soon as I got dressed I would start sweating again... I know you are trying... i got so mad... I was chatting a girl... my buddy found out about her and asked for nudes... she sent them to him!! I felt like a fool.... and so jealous. Please explain what you mean... give examples... you know what your mean when you say... "weird" "korney" Creapie" etc... but without examples I don't know what you mean... like disrespect... and criticism... they many differ in regards to gender and culture....
Okay little sweetheart thank you for the advice you're very smart I'll do my best and I think I will try to seek you out in the Philippines and have you give me an inspection because I know I will find a girl if you approve of me😊
I have been here on Leyte eight years I am ready to meet my first honest filipina. I have been told over and over That there are some honest women here.
I am so surprised at the criticisms about your 'dress nicely' comment! It it so easy, yet so respectful - and yet so many foreign men don't do this and can be both painfully embarrassing and oblivious. I was recently in a hotel 'executive lounge' with my wife. The area had a (posted but not enforced) ''dress code'. The most beautiful mid-20's woman I had ever seen came in and sat a the next table - she seemed shy but simply and really well-put-together. I assumed that the well-dressed late-20's black guy her age, who looked like he could have been a celebrity, was with her - and I was thinking, man, that guy really does go first-class. Instead, an older western guy wearing sandals, shorts and a baseball cap, looking like he just rolled out of ben, shuffled in and sat at this world-class beauty's table. I just felt bad for her - she seemed like maybe she deserved some respect.. This wasn't unusual anywhere in PH - girls who put in an effort to look both comfortable and neat, with foreign guys who looked like they'd never seen a collared shirt and probably had ggod reason to never take the ball-cap off indoors. So many western men don't seem to realise that a little effort can go a long way - and it really does show respect. Just a clean polo- or Hawaiian- shirt. And maybe not subject everyone to old-white-guy feet. In the Philippines, just a little effort goes a long way.
I agree with the yelling. In the u.s. we have a culture of violence and thinking that if you dont show youre not a push over they will treat you like a push over and they will in the u.s. because we have that culture of violence. Its very different in the Philippines and other countries.
@shhhlunchtime9742 A bit bs? It's considered wrong to yell hate in the Philippines and perfectly alright to yell hate in the u.s. In fact claiming freedom of speech missusing that right. Freedom of speech is to point out wrongs and for ideas to florish not to degrade or mentally torture people which is standard in the u.s. Indeed we have a culture of violence in the u.s. not only physical but verbal. You're a bit bs.
Unfortunately from what I understand the humidity over there would be dangerous for me to be in, having had heat stroke back in 2017 ,I can't get over heated without passing out and ending up in the hospital if I. Lucky
No offense to the older retirees here.. but coming from NYC, the bar is extremely low in Angeles. - Shower - Be younger than 80 - Dress like you didnt buy all your clothes from Walmart - Use colgne - Know how to carry a conversation - Esclate Do the bare minimum and you'll be be dripping with non pay to play tang.
I accept #1-11, but I reject #12. I’m gonna be bola bola. Lmao, btw, any guy who does #1, feel free to block them immediately. Those guys aren’t looking for true love.
If a girl yells at me. She is booted instantly. Any sign of disrespect they are gone. Men if a girl yells at you. give her a warning. She does it again. Leave her.
This was such an honest and wholesome take on Fil-Am realations 🥰 If foreigners can really listen and process her advice it will go far to make a good relationship
#5 - it goes both ways.... you dont want yelled at, dont yell. we don't drop our culture and replace it with yours... we give equal treatment, so take note... you yell = you get yelled at. #8 - Rice sucks #9 - No country, including the Philippines, is not above being criticized..... ask me how i know, Filipina Pea said so. #13 - Yes, a Filipina will share a man. The Tboli still allows three wives to a single husband.
What makes it ok for a philipines gf to yell at her bf but, he cannot yell at her :) . That will not work very ling . Neither bf and gf should never be yelling
I've been cutting the sleeves off of my shirts for over 50 years and you say it's hot in the Philippines! I'll be sweating bullets and miserable trying to keep up with the Joneses. Or should I say the Ricky Ricardo's 😅hahaha. I'm just saying. but I do understand ,,try to look nice be clean smell good that is all okay but we can't change who we are .I have a certain look a certain misteake I'm a mountain man! Cowboys a cowboy. a city slick is a city slick. all different. and we shouldn't try to look like something we ain't. because they'll find out soon enough if they hang around with us that we're going to be something else. try to be yourself but in a charming and attractive way. even if it's not their way
We foreigners not all use to the heat we wear the shorts and tank top or muscle shirts because it is hot and we want to be comfortable. In the states we may dress differently
