124. Change the story. 

People come here like "Please help me to get my ex back. I can't live without my ex and I'm 100% sure I'll never find someone like him/her." And after a while, they leave like "Thank you for helping me to get myself back. And why on earth would I want someone like my ex? I deserve better and I have better, or I'll have better." Story changes :)

This video was uploaded in the best moment for me. My ex reached out 2 days ago after 1month in NC, saying: "hey, idk why i do write this but i miss u". I answered a few hours later saying "Well I understand, i think that is common after a breakup, dont worry:)" and she answered then "okay" (lol she might be upset now). I wish we were back, yes, but now I'm not falling into her arms that easily, now i got a value, Im not begging for her love anymore, and jesus, now i feel like if i took some of my power back. My door still opened for her, but now is up to her to prove she loves and respect me the way she did not do during the relationship and break-up...I deserve better. So, hopefully we can have a relationship 2.0 with our better stands, and if not, I ain't losing anything else. Stay strong people, we go first, then them.

HAHAHA this is comedy gold. The last month has been tough for me, a lot of memories and "what if" 's. But I kept working on myself and moving forward, allowing myself to grief, but never to let it control me again. I feel like the past weekend I finally managed to go beyond. I had a concert and had a great time, met new and old people and just enjoyed myself. My ex wasn't but an afterthough. And guess what, 2 days later aka yesterday evening she reached out through her mom, using the infamous indirect direct approach. This shit is so accurate it's not even funny. Don't give up guys. Allow yourself to be sad and cry, but don't lose yourself in it. Work on yourself, enjoy life, become a better person, stoo giving a shit, and results will come. NC does work! For yourself first and foremost. But it very likely will affect your ex in one way or another too. You are better than that, and you deserve better, never forget that! It's just like Rory said in the video, become the creator of your own story and flip their shit upside down. Only good things will come from it.

I can sense your excitement Rory! 👍🏾

Thank you Rory. I’m coming up on 4 months of no contact with me ex. I’ve learned that I’m much stronger than I thought, and that I value myself too much to give that power to someone. Just what I needed to hear today.

Putting this on my "Save for later" to watch daily! Plus side, I'm down 20+ lbs by jogging daily & feeling stronger!

Damn Rory came out with some heat today! 👍🏻

Always be changing your story. Think about where you want to be in say 6 months or a year. Write goals and cross them off as you achieve them. I want to travel. I know this will give me some of my drive and power back. That's my goal. To travel and pursue adventure in life. To find the person who will do life with me and make adventures happen with me, that will be a bonus. That's my new story and I'm going to make it happen.

By watching your vids, I'm starting to acquire your mentality, too! Sometimes when I think of negative things about the breakup I've gone through, I have answers that counter those thoughts. I admire this mentality and it's getting into me. Working my ass day by day to improve and give my ex the opposite of what he wanted to see. Not quite there yet but with this new mindset I gained from you, Rory, I think it will be far less difficult! Thank you so much!

Wow this is my favourite video of yours by far!!! So flipping inspiring!!!

This has been your BEST motivational message by far!!! I love listening to you!

Hello, Rory, this is so informative...I love it and I needed to hear this...I am changing my story for me becoming stronger and confident, physically inside and outside. Thank you.

one of the best videos I’ve watched of yours yet... the part about “chasing ghosts” got me thinking... I’m still in a place where I’m reminiscing about all the good times, and as much as it hurts, from now on I’m going to tell myself that those memories are of ghosts. Ghosts of the past. Yes I’m grateful for the good times that happened, but those people, that couple, no longer exists. It just gives me a little more power over them especially in the times when nostalgia can feel intoxicating.

Hello this is Rory with the live chat 💭 aye man your a blessing

The best part of being broken up is this! I love making people surprised and my ex's jaw is wide open while looking at my glittering life right now, that's for sure!

22days of NC and only now can I really hear and understand your words in this video. I scrapped myself off the floor, went through what I consider hell and of course just when I'm feeling a bit better and BANG- he called me which I didn't answer or contact him back last night. I decided NO I need this time for my own self improvement but holy hell it took me 3 long weeks to figure that out. When he walked out, I immediately, thank God, found your channel and hung tough. If it wasn't for your channel, I probably would have broken down and bagged him to please, please, please come back which would have taken a lot out of my soul. Thank you Roy from the bottom of my heart. I'm going to work on me! Yesssss

After the coaching session I could not see when I would start to feel like I had regained some power, and now it's starting to happen, thanks so much Rory.

Great video! Timeless message. Thank you Rory.

Such a powerful video!! I love you so much Rory may god showers you with unlimited blessings❤️

I like that you included the scenario of being blindsided. Thank you.

What a nice topic. Thank you. You are a blessing. 💕

Another great one Rory!! Thank you!!!

Good job buddy. Was a breath of fresh air👍

Absolutely love this! Beautifully put! Change the script and win! Readjust the roles distribution! Story about me, so am the star! The focus on me, my journey and how I came to be😋 The rest of the cast are lovely subordinate characters but no stars in this story! Focus on that and keep creating!!

I needed this!! Thank you Rory!

Rory you are the best! You have been an integral part of this journey and I haven’t watched your videos in a bit but I’m so glad I just saw this. I feel so strong thank u thank u

This is really inspiring, Rory!! Just wanna tell anybody listening to this channel that you’re the author of your own life:)

Loved this one, Rory.

Your videos hit different when you're excited 😂💕

So empowering! Thanks!

This video fucking rules!!!! Absolutely high-value revenge.

These videos hit different when you are successfully healing and growing as an individual and couldn’t care less if your ex comes back or not! Make more of self improvement videos, Rory. These are gold! 😄

i love you so much, my mentor❤️

Hey Coach Rory such a powerful piece..

Another great vid Rory, thanks once again. Life goes on,its hurtful in the beginning. Its time for a new chapter in life.

Amazing video! Thank you SOOO much!

Hell No! (Love that response from you)... You take the power back! Thanks Rory :)

Hey man just wanted to say I love you videos you have helped me through a lot as far as my break up I've been in no contact since October 5th 2018 and I'm trying to find myself again and your video's have helped me get my confidence back little by little

Thanks for the amazing information ☺️

Love this vid rory, keep up the awesome work.

I am so pumped up, awesome video

I don’t need to say anything. You’ve said it all. 💙

This was a great video Rory!

Love the contents

This video makes me want to knock out 100 push ups Rory 💪🏼 keep the top notch videos coming

Good shit Rory 💯💯💯

After this video Rory, you never have to post another one. This was every video that youve ever posted, all wrapped up into one...signed, sealed and delivered. I dont know about anybody else but I'm tired of feeling like my life started and ended when my relationship was over. Rory I am working on myself and hope and pray that one day that I will look back and be proud of myself. Trust me it hasnt been an easy trip. Thank you Rory, for all that you do.

I have learnt so much from these videos that when I bumped into an Ex last week we got on Ok as friends, even though he's with someone else. He was afraid I felt 2nd best, but I assured him I don't because I'm 'me' and no-one could ever be my competition. I have no need to feel jealous, unattractive anymore because I know I am. Thank you Rory for helping me feel like this. 🍒

this is the kick i was needing

This I think, is your best video as of yet!

True. Very true!

I'm so proud of myself. I have sever anxiety and I went to comic con over the weekend. I was seeing a friend who I have seen since the break up. She's seen me have panic attacks, cry, argue and get angry. But instead she saw a positive me. I evualte the situation, ushally I get so hot and angry that people are moving slow. And a guy in front of me did that and wouldn't shut up. And it made me reflect me. So I stayed calm and just went at a pace. People were slow because of their costume. I went slow because I respected them and didn't want to damage their hard works craft. I almost had a panic attack. But I poilelty said can I just stand to the side to take my medication. She was respectful said yes. Then took a breath and carried on. I would never have done that before. Before I would have cried, hypeevenutaled, screamed, argued and send loads of text messages how I was feeling. And I went shopping for myself and not rushed and demanding we must go to this store before it's too late. We just went with the crowd and told each other if we could stop at a stand that took our fancy. I honestly couldn't be happier. That I went in with a positive attuide And showed the development and changes to her

HOLY SH*T rory!! My ex just reached out!!! She’s on a rebound and even told me she loves the guy and she’s happy. I begged and pleaded but did not work. I did no contact for 1 month and she reched out just now! Even told me how much she misses me :)

I did exactly this. My ex is SO bitter that I didn't chase him or beg him to reconsider. He broke up with me and yet HE'S angry! Unbelievable...

LOVE IT!!!!!!

I'm going on 16 days post breakup. It's been very hard and I've been self improving and trying to be happy. I am stuck in the "what it could have been" mindset. Trying to stay positive is constant battle.

I flipped the coin,told them never will be their back up plan ,called them out on their narcissism and surprise surprise Blocked me😂...I'm not blocking them as they will have to look my profile pic forever on their block list to remind them this woman nobody's fool😎😎😌

I admit, I was a bit needy at times, a bit insecure. But no matter what, I didn't do what she did. She lied, and cheated on me (or tried, twice and I caught her) and she dumped me finally after 3 years... over the phone... during the Christmas/New Year holidays. NOTHING I did was ever that bad. I immediately went no contact but when I ran into her, we were very nice. I wanted to buy her things and write her letters... but why? As you say here, why validate her decision? Why reward her behaviour? Maybe breaking up was the right decision, but that doesn't mean I should reward her for doing it (especially the way she did it).

That's wat the hell is up!!

You are my GURU.Greetings from India 🇮🇳 Namaste

This is BY FAR my favorite video on this channel! Amazing stuff! Been in NC for 6 weeks and I told a friend that I‘m still into her. And I think that this spreaded and she knows it. So I unfortunately gave her this safety net lol

AMEN!!!

Rory, do a video on what it means " when the ex is posting semi-negative quotes and I'm strong and moving on blah blah blah blah" LOL

Yesssssssssssss 🙌💜💜💜💜

So questioning the no contact rule. What happens if your not entirely broken up but had to move out and haven't spoke to them sense it happened? There is a twist.... I'd like to go into more detail....

Love u all time

My ex,love of my life I thought broke up with me after 3 years ,OUT OF THE BLUE 8 days ago I was like okay whatever you need to do to be happy, and he called me and texted me the next week telling me that he wanted me to know that he’s thinking of me and hoping I’m doing okay.... sooooo I think that maybe he’s not 100%sure about what he did but well...

Almost three weeks since Im dumped. I have worked out, enlisted myself in an old sport I used to do as a kid. Met new people there and old people that I didnt saw for 10 years. Going back to my old club felt as coming home. Got a new job and actually didnt play any games in that time. I dropped it completely, not for her, but I realised looking back over the 7 years Ive been with her that all the good memories werent of me playing videogames. Not saying Im not gonna play ever again, but going out into the real life out there and meeting up with friends and people just feels so much better to me now at this moment. I am truly sorry for what I did to my ex, and honestly I think a large part of her breaking up with me was my own responsibility. However people make mistakes and I just think its a shame she didnt stick in there and her love wasnt strong enough. I went to some rough times and couldnt handle it myself, there is no reason to blame her for also not being able to handle it well. How could I blame her for something I also couldnt deal with myself. Im gratefull that I had her in my life and the love she has given me. Its a shame how things went, I do truly think I came out of it all a stronger and better man, ready for a bright future, but she doesnt see that anymore. Her loss to be honest, but well when trust is lost its hard to regain. Moving on is going to be though. But I learned a lot about myself the last half year. Maybe it changed me more then I realised, maybe losing her was the price I had to pay to grow as a human. My door is always open for her, I did truly love her, letting her go is the hardest thing I have to do, but its time that she finds her own way. If thats with me Id be glad to work things out. But Im pretty sure that for now our roads are going to part. Its sad, but I have faith that everything will work out just fine. With or without her, I want whats best for her, so I guess its time she finds out what that is.

Do they expect that consciously or is it more subconscious

I decided to go no contact because i really would not be able to keep her around me, i wanted to get healed as soon as possible after the breakup. So i tried to text her the whole thing in a really nice way but i got instantly blocked and mean words thrown at me. I wanted to do this in person but she did not want to meet up with me after a ridiculous small incident. It’s been awhile since this happened but i feel like that i wanted too tell her so much more before we stopped talking for good but i never got the chance to do so. So now i’m stuck with my thoughts and wonders. I really don’t want her back after this whole thing but i’m still feeling bad about myself even tho i did nothing wrong. It just sucks that she thinks i’m a different person than i am. I guess i have to leave it like this and create my own end of the story to move on

Can you do a video on running into your ex... at a party, concert etc...

I’m really proud of how much I’m growing, but I’m afraid by her seeing this positivity in my life she’s going to think the break up was a good idea

Can you do a video about how to reconcile after cheating? Please and thank you, keep up the great work!

My Ex doesn’t care less, he ran off after 20 yrs when our kid was sick + says I am bitter and twisted. 🤔 yeah

My ex found out I asked about her what do I do?

Love this ❤❤❤❤

Please tell us How to seal deal with your ex when you are on friendly terms talking and stuff... thank you

First comment, great video Rory.

I broke up with her. I do miss her obviously. I want her to change the story. All i want to do is see if she is ok. She was way too good for me I worry about her. (Long distance relationship)

How to handle your ex’s good friend when they talk to you?

Rory, I know this time and space is really for us, but it's been 9 1/2 months NC :/ is there seriously any chance they will actually be affected by any work I do on myself after this amount of time? I won't say I've been doing 'well' but I've struggled through and made significant improvements like getting a new job, great new place to live and building up my own friendship circle, as well as working on myself internally and upping my self-care.

Ok, but I didnt do it , now I am, but have accepted friends before ,,

That was so in time! I had a bit of a throwback today after 8 months post breakup and 5 months in no contact. Very unexpectedly... given I met a guy who is very very cool. Sort of a better version of my ex. Hopefully in all aspects. P.S. in case anyone speaks Danish here or at least understands a bit, check out this breakup song ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-SaqU1IOpHlE.html

She blocked me after no contact

Will eye contact go against no contact rule ? Bc i accidentally made eye contact today

Can you make a videos about breaking trust and how to rebuild it

hey Rory great video! i need your advice, i am in no contact but my ex texts me random things once in a week and i just react and go no contact again but he learns my news from his father because i am moving out of our apartment and need his help with the furniture and bills, what should i do? i dont want him to know if i still live here or anything. please respond

Hey Rory.... I am in nc 1 month and learnt doing good But I saw my ex online yesterday after a month....he didn't text me...felt very cringed and cried. He never explained why he vanished....this is 3rd time in last 5 months he ghosted. First 2 times i pursued him on and off dying inside everyday But this time i took a stand.

You better be playing some Zelda games Rory ;)

I chased her away with angry msgs on her voicemail demanding closure because I thought she was with someone else. And a million other things

Mortal Kombat?

Awfully lean🥺