@@user-hf8zv7qw4lif only the happy ending they had in the movie could happen in reality. The only thing I wanted to know, which is not relevant to the story, & I’m sure deliberately left to the viewer to imagine what transpired & how, was what happened on the “wedding day “ w Wendy. I have no doubt Matt would handle it w compassion & sadness. He is one of those guys who is a true nice person & cares about ppl. I wish I had a Matt/ Mark Ruffalo to share my life with! At 13 and now at 58! ❤
this scene makes me sad. the way Jenna feels waking up to being and adult is how I feel everyday as an adult - I just still cant believe it that im not a kid anymore. I see people I grew up with getting married and having children, my parents getting older, and everything is changing, including myself, and I just want to turn back time and be 13 again and see everyone one around me younger and carefree
I’m 22 and still feel like a child. Have no idea what I’m gonna do and feel so lost 😔 thought I would be having so much fun during this age but I’m just depressed and lonely.
I'm 43. Friends' kids are graduating high school. I've been married, divorced. I still feel like a kid. I can hardly remember anything between school and now. I want to go back.
Agreed. Sad isn't it? When i was 13, i used think about boys,my body,study, random princess stuff. Now, at 20 its all about college degrees, job,and money,investment, I don't like it
And he describes what happened seconds later the moment Jena "time-travelled" so well that I can imagine it happening! You can see the pain in his eyes!
Especially if it’s happened to you. I stopped being someone’s friend. Someone stopped being my friend. It was a long time ago but it still hurts. I wish I didn’t remember but the pain at least reminds me that I’m alive.
@@anniedowling1762 Same, I feel guilty because I did something very similar to Jenna, I sent my friend pictures and would always try to chat with her but I got impatient with her and thought she didn't like me so I blocked her and never unblocked her again, I was 14 and now I'm 21 and I still feel guilty about it, but then again, I'm not friends with most people I've met in middle and high school as we've all moved on. What I did never makes me forget to keep on communicating and being honest with how I feel though so I use it to become a better person.
@@1950sbakermore often than ppl think unfortunately and the movie does an amazing job of showing the results & regrets of letting ppl who have been a huge part of your life just disappear bc you didn’t make it a priority or some trivial misunderstanding or circumstance. It’s a good illustration that you should be more forgiving & less quick to just let ppl go.
Matt may have forgiven Jenna but he never forgot about the pain it caused him. You can tell by the way he talks about it that the pain is still there and he remembers everything that happened like it was yesterday. People never forget something that caused them great trauma in their lives especially when it’s someone you were friends with and had strong feelings for. Which is why it’s hard to look at someone the same again after what they’ve done to you. Things can never go back to how they were no matter how bad she wants them to because Matt will always remember what happened that night when they were 13.
@@captainobvious6070 uh you realize this experience is something that can happen to anyone to right? This isn’t some situation that is exclusive to just guys. I was pointing out how anyone can relate to Matt’s experience because most of us have felt the same way he has or have been in a similar situation. This isn’t an exaggeration because it happens all the time not just to men but women as well. I’m sure there are plenty of women who have felt the same way.
Yeah, someone can do that in real life. It's not surprising My best friend threw at me the cookies I baked for her as high school graduation. Until now , we are not in speaking terms
@@ishanisen6547 that's life :) you know some people fall in love and they will choose their boyfriends more than their friends whom they have known longer :) anyway, it's all in the past :) I mean, they didn't end up together :)
Yeah I love this movie because Jenna realized what a jerk she was and she was so selfish and dissatisfied with her life and she has no friends only Matt. And then when she wished to be 30 and it came true she realized that being an adult isn't all as fun as it seemed for her. I dunno why but I can somehow relate to her as I had a guy as a friend and I was an outcast at school.
Disney65Fan same here... Expect it was switch .. I actually thought me and my best guy friend from 1st grade thought this could happen but in 7th grade .. told him and just saw me as a sister.. now we don't talk at all.. not even after high school
:( She gave up her best friend for popularity and to be "cool" and fit in. She was young and naive so I don't blame her but it's nice to see her self aware and grow when she does get to turn back time
This movie kinda reminds me of Click (Adam Sandler). Uses the remote to fast forward the boring and stressful moments, then the remote took on a life of its own and started fast forwarding months, then years. Next thing you know he goes from being a 30 some year old to a 60 some year old in a flash.
This scene is as real as it gets. To see Jenna instantly come face to face with so many painful things all at once. All the pain and loss that people usually experience gradually in life hits her all at once like a freight train. She's paying the price for turning her back on her best friend, and she's paying for the fallout that came with that decision in ways that her 30 year old self never had to. The 30 year old Jenna just continued down the same path, and we gradually see just how rotten her lifestyle is - made up of poor, surface level decisions, blatantly chasing instant gratification over real, deep and meaningful relationships. The more we learn about 30 year old Jenna that went down a path of poor decisions, the clearer it becomes that 30 year old Jenna is the real villain of the story, and it doesn't get any more grounded and real than to have the villain be made up of a series of poor decisions - she's always there in the background, along with the frightening idea of becoming her. It's beautiful to see a film explore a concept like this and to go all the way with it and do it with so much heart. I never forgot this one and I never will.
That was a good and emotional movie. Jenna got insecure about her looks back in middle school and even pushed Matthew away after the mean girls ditched her. She wishes she was a model and years passed but at the price of never keeping in touch with Matthew and he ended up marrying someone else. Never push away the people who care about you cause you could end up making a mistake. But luckily she got a second chance to make things right with the little magic dust that was left.
I can really see myself in Jenna. I, too, had a very good friend as a teenager. She was so sweet, so pretty, so funny, so everything. We didn't always understand each other and yet we shared secrets, insights and passions together. Time has torn us apart. We drifted apart and our lives went on. I miss her terribly sometimes.
try calling her please. i get that people drift, I get it believe me. But if you miss her so terribly, it's worth reconnecting. I'm sorry if you ever wanna talk I have a discord on my channel
We live in a world where it’s never been easier to connect with someone who lives a long distance, don’t waste that I’ll be honest it doesn’t always work, I grew up with a guy who I considered my brother, we drifted after high school, I missed him too, reached out to him on Facebook 10 years later during the pandemic and it was a good conversation but we never got back to what we were it was clear that our dynamic had run its course (perhaps if I had reached out sooner it wouldn’t have) But it was good closure and I’m glad I reached out, if I hadn’t I’d still be wondering to this day U should reach out, either u get closure or your friend back, no downside
I can relate to Matt. There was this girl I was close to in high school who is a lot like Jenna; suffices it to say, we didn't work out and I moved on with someone else. This is pretty close to my life except I don't regret my choices, and even though it's kind of sad it didn't work out, my stance now is really more "good riddance." I guess that was kinda Matt's stance before this whole magic thing hit.
I can relate to Jenna in this movie I became mean all of a sudden and this guy from highschool was like a Matt. I do regret it. And now I’m turning 30 life goes by fast!
@@Dev1cted Having made this comment three years ago, I'm finding it kind of vague now. People DID say that in 2004, but not in 1987. I guess I must have meant that people didn't say that back in 1987. It's the only thing that makes sense.
I'm glad she learned her lesson. Stopped trying to fit in with toxic people, learned to appreciate people who actually cared about her and was no longer in a rush to grow up so quickly
I had a bestfriend when i was in college i didn't knew he likes me that's why his giving me chocolate cakes and teddy bear. But i was so inlove with my pharmacy course back then because we don't have our own house. We r poor. But his the best thing i ever had. I wont forget him💝
What beautiful about this movie that you learn not everything you wish is the best for you when Jena got everything she wanted she became unhappy she had a faithful friend and caring parent but she was always dreaming about different life style and she got them all she wish to come back to her old life which is in real life is impossible.. this move show you that your decisions change your whole life
Growing up means a lot of choices, things that happened beyond our control, and people who are there for us but we ignored them, we loved somebody but it's impossible to be with them, etc.
Definitely, I regret when I was 14 blocking my best friend in middle school for 3-4 years cause I got mad they didn’t reply to my comment after several days, I’m glad I unblocked her though but I do feel very bad about being that selfish. It’s the same with a crush from high school, I also blocked that one because I always craved too much attention and validation that I never realized it actually hurt them.
Moral to this film Your true love is standing right in front of you and you realise that they are the one when it's too late. Now all I want is some of that wishing dust.
This movie proves that Chasing a Dream without any experience is one of the worst thing you can do to yourself!!! sometimes we don't appreciate what we have now, we always lust for more but when the time passes by, we silly humans always miss the things which we hate and can't get rid of'em by calling it "Nostalgia" We all stuck in past, We all stuck in our childhood, We all stuck in our high school era, We all stuck in our past friends which we hate'em and called'em worst, We all have regret of getting older sooner. I still can't believe the things I always used to hate are the golden masterpiece which I will never found in my entire life again. Big smoke already said in GTA SanAndreas "Same things make us laugh, make us cry"
Had a similar experience, the lady (girl at the time) dumped me while in last year of high school. She did it by a letter, telling me I was the last man on Earth she'd ever marry. Definitely knocked me for a loop at the time. Well, took me awhile, but I dealt with her loss. Still think of her though. And we talk on Facebook once in a while. Maybe that sort of thing, depicted in the film , happens more often than we know. Personally I don't handle loss too well.
This movie has a lot of meaning. & a lot of females are worried about guys having cars. Jenna and Matt where going on walks no matter how long the distance, taking Ubers everyday. It’s the effort. & crazy thing is Jenna was the one walking back and fourth because she wanted something Wendy had and she couldn’t have it at that moment.
Back in HS, 10th grade. I had a crush on this girl who i enjoyed chatting and sitting next to, especially helping her outside of school time. But when the 3rd classmate-friend, of our desk group, kinda told her what i felt for her. She laughed and somewhat joked about it, i can admit I pretended to laugh too but i felt frustrated. I stopped sitting next to her and the other classmate throughout our semester, i looked over on my shoulders a few times & she looked me back and was always mad at me. Maybe she did feel something about me? Never did see her again until i was about 20 or 21, we crossed paths one day when i was going to the park to play basketball. She looked way different: she seemed like she developed a habit of smoking Marijuana & drinking, had lots of tattoos around her body, & was overweight, no offense. At first we were both surprised at seeing each other after a long time, but then it got serious when we chatted about those missing years. Before we parted ways, she never really said sorry about what happened between us back in HS. But rather she told me that i was nicest boy that she ever met and felt a bit regret that she didn't stay in touch with me. We said our goodbyes but never saw each other again, last i heard she had a few run-ins with the law and had problems at home. To this day, i still believe i mattered to her even though she didn't want to believe it, otherwise she could've changed her life around for the better. I guess the point I'm trying to say is: be careful who you like because he/she may feel it as a joke/prank but will regret it in due time.
Matt reminds me of a good friend I had, his mannerisms and all, we worked together and we had a slight fallout due to obstacles and life in general, but I am hoping he comes back one day, I still care and have a soft spot for him still, I hope he's doing okay. ❤🧡
I relate to this a 100%...My best friend fell for my friend and she was jealous of our bond. I was made to prove to her that it wasn't more from my end, and by doing that, I started losing my best friend. He became bitter towards me, things became mean between us and we eventually stopped talking. His gang (which was first OUR gang) started to turn against me, threw petty remarks, then the whole class joined in as I was a student related to the management, they alienated me, and I eventually cracked & got burnt out. I was a great kid before all that and what was left of me was trauma & heartache for a very long time. Sometimes, I think is it right for people to have such power over you? I miss myself when I was around him...The longing for 'us' never went, but so didn't the memories of utter hate & disrespect.
moral is- ladies, as hard as it is, never ever friend-zone a good decent man who likes to date u. Either date and marry him or cut him out off your life- let him be happy with a woman who WILL treat him right. U canNOT have it both ways. HUMBLE yourselves.
Here I am on this wonderful movie’s 20th birthday. Two years later, I still find hard to believe it was Jennifer and Mark before Marvel and The Adam Project
Haha relatable. I may be a girl but I was in Matt's shoes. My high school bestfriend and I are still not in speaking terms for 16 years . It was march 2005, out high school grad. She got angry at me for not asking permission that I will go home. She didn't answer any of my calls and the cookies and brownies I made for her as graduation gift, she just threw them and said they're just trash just like me 🥲 We haven't talked until now 🥲 it hurted me so much in my college years . Now I'm 33 years old, i'm fine with it 😀 I was able to move on from heartbreaks of cheating ex boyfriend and backstabbing 2 best friends 😀 I mean, I can imagine my life now and I doubt if I will have a happy life if I will still have a relationship with a guy who just take advantage of me and having friendship with kinds of people who are backstabing and who are not contented with what they have and always rant about their parents ❤️ We are not also civil towards each other after everything because we literally don't talk nor even greet each other whenever we see each other at malls. It happened many times but I don't dare to do my first move. Had enough of it 😀 But in reality, a lot of friends drift away just like matt and Jenna, because people outgrew each other. I wasn't able to maintain my elementary friends, because I transferred school, but that's ok 👍🏻 . You cant always miss people. Life has to go on. 😁
Whats so deep about this scene is she realized how bad her 30 and thriving wish and life is it's not what she thought it was going to the be. Her kid self wanted superficial things and accolades in life but her adult self wanted something deeper and more meaningful.
I feel lost every day. Don't feel like an adult, or how im suppose to be I guess. My childhood was lost, and all my loved ones have passed away. I'm alone and everyday my quietness gets louder
Me pasó lo mismo con una amiga, creyó que éramos los grandes amigos y le dije que teníamos 5 años sin vernos que le hacía pensar que éramos los grandes amigos..😂😂😂
Sometimes i wonder why we couldn't stay 13 forever. Well for me its 12. I still feel 12 everyday and I wonder how people forgot how to be kids because I never forgot. I wonder how my friends grew up and became parents because I still feel like I'm a kid. I think about this everyday. Its funny, i have little memory of the years after those years but at 12, i remember everythig. I also remember loosing a friend this exact same way. How Mat lost Jenna...we only got back in touch after 16years. But by then we were different people.😢.