14 Ways A Narcissist Will Punish You 

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💯 Fast and effective! Don’t look for the problem look for the solution!

​@@smokeybear7669 Yep, thank you for the reminder.

Why doesn’t everyone do this? All we gotta do is forget.

Not that easy after being with one for 37 years… a lot of mental scars.

@@user-kf3yz7so6q the best way to solve your problem is not get involved with that toxic person 37 years ago. You’re welcome for such helpful advice. 🤣🤣

That's projecting the guilt on to you, of the things that they are actually doing.

@@terrycato3555 You are so right… absolutely spot on.

Yes.we had three children, 2 boys 1 girl... the first boy died @ 5 months before birth. The narc said the doctor told him that baby was a monster.!!! Second Son, after birth was rolling his eyes, which is common ,he said the boy was crazy......the girl born cesarean because she was breach, he barely made it to the hospital one leg was half out!!! Absolute DRAMA,TRAUMA & CHAOS constantly. He had to do it to keep total control over everything. The list of dysfunction is endless plus he was an alcoholic & prescription drug addict. What an insane mix. He turned the children against me, he had hidden most of the money from our Construction business so I couldn't get to it. I finally divorced him, went to Hawaii on a j9b transfer. I would send for the kids when I got settled.( they wanted to stay with him$$$$). He died of bone cancer. The kids were grown then but refused to help their Father. I flew from Maui to care for him when his Mistress of many years.....ran away. I morally could not let him die alone which he would have had I not been there at his death !!! Narcissim is from Hell.

​@@stupensardi2783my heart knows your pain I'm so sorry that demon mother inlaw stole the years from you and your daughter - The damage they creat is pure evil and sadistic. Big hug to you ❤ from me

Yes I've got a wicked mother-in-law too, the covert back-stabbing jealous little woman has smeared my name to her whole family then tried to turn one close member of my family against me which failed to work as I have a good relationship with all of my family. Covert's are horrible.

Thats exactly what I expierienced! They do it in a way you think that’s not possible and for a loving kind it’s like living hell cause they do it in a couvert way with a big smile and a kind of making you feel that they are little harmed children, you are forbidden to hurt! ( but they have every right to be cruel to you, cause they appear litke don’t know what they are doing) You got what I try to say???

Narcissists want's to removes what's valuable to their target,to a mom it is the child. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's.

Remi is a joy

He loves the sound of his mother's sweet voice - it lulls him to sleep. 💤

great list

One word: Evils

Yes. And it starts at hello

My narc ex claimed I was a narc because of point 10 & 11…when I went no contact due to his cheating and had to block him due to his constant verbal/emotional/psychological abuse - IMPOSSIBLE to stay friends with one after a break up.

​@@grand_air_trine_astro Unwilling to put in the effort required to build genuine self esteem (by doing the basics that others are willing to work on, like meditation/prayer, eating right, getting exercise, pursuing goals/hobbies, daily affirmations, etc)… NPD's gain their (fake AF) sense of self worth by crushing/collapsing the self worth of others.

I will be reading that book , I as well would like to write a book too

@@Yellow-oc4sl thank you hun, yes we write books to educate people🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

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Do it please. It helps a lot!! I realized what I was dealing the moment I listen something I'd lived previously that has no sense for me. I was trying to record a talk with someone changing my words, I was not even suspecting him, I was wondering how I told the things that he understood the opposite (a technique). Same experience like me!! I have a tremendous memory and never have this urgency or need to record a talk with nobody. But I Never before listened or know about this personality disorder. It is shocking to know about it.

I moved 5 states away from my narc sister. She manipulated my husband of 25 years and destroyed any trust I had in him. He also allowed her to do this. He was her flying monkey.

I had a similar experience. I told them that I wouldn't be responding to any 'news through the grapevine'/triangulation anymore and they magically? stopped bugging me!

Same here.. I'm done. Walking away from her. Thank you for sharing. 🙏

So smart✔️nicely done. I was born into a family with an overly Indulged 6 year old female who did NOT want me there. So I grew up with that as a role model. I never understood how she functioned and often thought I must be missing something or is she actually without a soul altogether. It took about 21 years to realize how to defend myself. She died thru the pandemic and as I learn more and more from three different sites what she was, it’s really incredibly helpful knowing now-what I was dealing with. Thank You Paula. You’re like a logical emotional surgeon.

Tell us more about the narc sister?

There's so many Narc's who puts the children against their mom,pure evil! JazzyT.

Not hate, but they had so many grudges, I couldn't keep up! They loved their grudges much more than the precious things. Ug!

Good for you. 💕 You didn't know what you didn't know. I didn't find out until much later in life as well. Ignorance is bliss but knowledge is power. You know now that's so that matters.

@@user56gghtf thank you for your kind yours.

Dr Jay Reid has good videos about the Scapegoat child. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's.

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@@rauxieswisdom3102 I'm so sorry I know the pain the altament heart wrinch and did your mom make you homeless . My narc is trying to make me go home less I'm scared to death but I'm not giving up on me and I have to keep on Don't give up on yourself then that's them winning.

Im so sorry,when its your parents, it is very hard to get thru ,but you have to know above all it is not you!Please get away

It would be hard to believe if so much of it hadn't happened to me

I did the same thing this week. I called him out and he got mad.

VERY SIMILAR EXPERIENCE

@@cancerianzodiac5349 They are pure evil. I didn’t know anything about Narcissists. Now I have the knowledge. They wear their masks very tight. Ex husband is one and ex boyfriend of 10 years is Sociopathic. Radical acceptance of my familial structure of Narcissism. Sorry you suffered under these soul rapers. So many people have no idea. Paula is brilliant in my opinion.

Enlightened Target is a Christian,she has video's about Narcissism and gives help to survivors of Narcisstic abuse. JazzyT.

Yes , I too , I was blind and now I see thank you God and all glory to him , no more of that toxic behaviors in my life ever again, father forgive them for they know not what they do , father forgive me for I know not what I do it's in the Bible I hope this helps you

Same!! I was living with satan and wasn't even aware. Thank you Jesus for setting us free!!!❤❤

Me too. And have me arrested by his FBI cousin. Oh my

Covert - I know! With my narc ex bf, him yelling and screaming at me would have been a gift because then he would have been easily identifiable as the enemy and I could have taken appropriate action = ending things, breaking up. But he was a covert narcissist who would manipulate me through using his depression, or his fake humility, or by fake emotional support of me - all this while talking smack about me behind my back, cheating on me, breaking and abusing my possessions, lying to me, and basically doing whatever he damn well pleased and having his own little life behind my back. So no, yelling and screaming at me would have been a gift (cause when someone yells and screams at me, I y/s back at them - even louder - and then show them the door). What finally wore me down after so many years was the cognitive dissonance that just hung in the air and finally wore me down into realizing that even though I couldn't figure out what was wrong and what he was doing that I just felt so bad all the time trying to figure out something that didn't feel right, that basically just on faith I left the relationship and decided I'd figure it all out later, which I did. Not all narcissists are yellers and screamers and overtly nasty - many fly low low under the radar and can literally go undetected by everyone for years as they wreak havoc and emotional destruction.

@@L.Fontein7 I feel this. The torture. I'm so happy that you got out 🕊️🌹

Ditto this!!! Paula-looking great!! Enjoy so much with “The Remy” 😇🐶🥰

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Wow Paula, you look amazing! Back here checking in again. Thx for your videos!

Keep them coming good info❤🎉

Narcissist's cut you to the heart and feel smug about it.💔

Oh wow,my covert narcissist husband has hidden so many of my things. I can't keep counting anymore 😢

They like to hide or throw things out and say we did it!

​@@charlottemuller2233ex-wife used to intentionally throw lots and lots of perfectly good food out to keep from having to cook it and one day I found she had been hiding it

What a jerk wad!!!!

I had no idea this was part of narcicism it has happened to me over the years

Poison you with what? And how did you cop that he was doing that to you?

Had it not been for ex-mother-in-law telling me I had a guardian angel I would have thought it was all in my head. Unimaginable hard to believe. Rest her soul.

Yes do true

Some Narcissists sleepdeprivates their partner,to weaken them and makes them easier to control.They often starts fights late at night,to get the target upset and then wakes up the target again early in the morning... JazzyT.

You're catching narc fleas. Don't stoop to games like him, doll. Seriously. You're better than that, no? Cheers. Christi

@@chrissemenko628I don’t think it’s really narc fleas until it becomes a behavior she repeats with others. Mirroring the narc to back them down isn’t much of a narc flea when it’s something this small. But I do know what you mean. Sometimes it’s best not to engage them, but sometimes (depending on the narc) they need to be dealt with in kind.

I learned it during my divorce that one should not be honest when dealing with a narcissist. If I had trusted him, as he requested, I would have lost everything for sure.

You go girl

It sounds like an interminable head games

My ex did the same to me. I figured he was hiding my keys because they always showed up in places I’d already searched several times. The last time he did it, I pretended to look elsewhere and watched him hide the keys in the fridge. He was shocked that I caught him and then angry.

Crazy 🫠 My x stole my keys from my car, pretended it was others and of course he looked like a hero and said he would pay for the locksmith to get a new key 🫠 It took me a year to put this part of the puzzle together.

To hide things like that is a part of the gaslightning. JazzyT.

@@saturdayschild8535 It's just clear proof of how evil they are. Who on earth does that, without being evil? Satan's foot soldiers.

​@@saturdayschild8535 Excuse me ma'am, But, can I have this laugh? That was perfect

I believe they very much know. Which is very sadistic because they know yet continue to choose to do it.

​@user56gghtf they live for the moment it registers what they just did to or took from you. Yep that's their orgasm and your gold*#*s**wer.

I remember the dead Blank Stare in my brother's face when people were hurting. He knew people were hurting but didn't feel anything. Just a empty Blank Stare even as an adult. But they will relive the tragedy over and over in their conversations with each other

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Yes!! I think that you are very much in tune, you understand the crazy tea party and you have a wonderful sense of humor as you found your way up and out of the rabbit hole! I admire you, ❤you are a strong person!

Totally relate. They know when we know - then their silence is because they are scared.

You got it going on girlfriend!

Right never show too much energy. Or never let them see you sweat it's all about energy I suggested to my nephew not to get excited when he's ready to go

Same thing here. The covert narcissist is a deluded, walking nightmare. The law is also useless because I was just told to work things out or see a solicitor.

Yes, I read somewhere that no matter what country, culture, age etc, they all follow the same formula to the extent that they become quite predictable to the target if we are paying attention.

Yes, it's natural to want revenge - some of the manipulations, plots, schemes, smears are just so evil and destructive - but No Contact and letting the universe deal with them is the best move, as tough as that may be.

Yup , it's good to be free from toxic behavior that's when you start living and living yourself healing

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I am so sorry. You can dig your way out.

To hamstring you and break your legs just to watch you crawl, wow.

This is a form of domestic abuse. Can you get support?

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He left doggy in the car ... and cried in selfpitty blaming me 'if you hadnt left me doggy would still be alive'.

Narcissists are known to be terrible to animals,they are not capable of love. Dr Sam Vaknin who's diagnosed Malignant Narcissist,has a video called Narcissists And Animals Rights. JazzyT.

The best revenge on a Narcissist, is to live your best life without them. JazzyT.

Dr Jay Reid has good videos about the Scapegoat child. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's.

Thx, I’ll check it out!

Sorry he's abusing your pooch. I think my covert ex tried to poison my dog once by giving access to sugarless gum (it contains xylitol which is poisonous to animals it dangerously lowers their blood sugar and kills them). By the grace of God my dog survived to live many more years. Please be careful for both your dog and yourself. 🌸

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God gives us discernment through the Holy Spirit when you need it. You handled that situation so well

@@user56gghtf Thank you! Usually, I would start asking questions about where they had it last because I'm always the one to find everything and answer questions. Like them looking right in the refrigerator and asking if we have butter or ridiculous things like where the wooden spoons go. Then I'd offer to help them. Or I'd immediately stand up for myself and tell them I said I didn't have it, asking again was absurd and I'm sick of these accusations being framed as questions to be used as ammunition later. I was amazed by how I could see the outcomes. If I engaged with the question they could use the argument that I was the narcissist by hiding and finding the wallet. If I mentioned I found it, same thing. If I asked them to elaborate on the weird spot and asked questions/said that's where they always put it, same thing. It was the first time I actually realized no matter what I did, that situation could and would be used against me. So many situations were a game, created by them, that were rigged. It's sick and twisted.

@@ds6258 It is very sick and twisted. To a non manipulative person it's disturbing. You will come out if this stronger and wiser.

Dr Jay Reid has good videos about the Scapegoat child. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's.

I know exactly what you’re saying, my narc ex husband did the same, I was subjected to the silent treatment for two months!! because I disagreed with something he wanted to do. They are babies in an adults body… throw their toys out the pram. I’ve been separated from him for seven months now, after 37 years together. I always lived in hope that things would change and he would value me, but he never did… I was just someone who was in his life, someone to control, do as you’re told or else. You lose your life to live theirs.

Hugh Heffners first wife in the 70's did find him having s3x with their dog,he told that dogs also has their needs,she didn't left him alone with the dog after that. His eyes was Blacknd... Dr Sam Vaknin who's diagnosed Malignant Narcissist,has a video called Narcissists And Animals Rights. Narcissists are predators,not capable of love and lacks empathy,so children and animals can be in danger around them. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's.

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Here we may have a better weather, but I love absolutely Ireland and Colm Toibin's novels. Regards from Herzegovina!

@@michaelasun7593 Cheers, from the sunny Carolina's!

Narcissists are sick and evil creatures who feeds off on drama and others pain. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's.

The devil usually doesn't show up wearing a red suit with horns and a pointy tail - he shows up dressed as Fred Astaire in a top hat and tails. 😉

Yes,the food poisening by Narcissists isn't well known,I have never read so much about it as I did here today,so it's good that it comes into light. It's known that Narcissists puts alots of control into meals,and we knows that men who are feeder's who want's overweighted women to feed's,can be toxic personalities. JazzyT.

But your free ! From toxic behavior

Yes, thank you

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Omg dealt with this before. It's a horrible feeling. Pray you find peace .

Yikes

“Shocked and relieved”! I know exactly what you mean. All this time and we still need to be told…it wasn’t us.

It was way worse than I thought man I appreciate your comments I had similar experiences of having personal things destroyed and thoughtlessly given away most likely to impress new Supply. Now I understand why she used to quote her dad saying I ain't got a dime in it

Thank you! You too!

That's what it has really come down to. I appreciate your comment

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