15 Harsh Psychology Facts That Will Make Your Life Better - Adam Lane Smith 

I don't know... . Spotify I can listen to on my Sonos, but RU-vid I can watch on my TV.

I am a subscriber by the way.

I believe that the technique that the Implicit project is using is based on the Stroop Effect, is not at all accurate in measuring a persons implicit or even explicit bias. "To "assess the ability to inhibit cognitive interference that occurs when processing of a specific stimulus feature impedes the simultaneous processing of a second stimulus attribute." In short the Stroop test, a simplified version of the original experiment, presents incongruent information to the subjects by having the colour of a word differ from the word printed. The Stroop test can be used to measure a person's selective attention capacity and skills, processing speed and alongside other tests overall executive processing abilities. I would hypotheses that if people first took the Stroop test and one of the Implicit bias tests, the results would be similar and if they are then the Implicit Bias test is little more than a Parlour game.

Get this professor guy to go on Rolo Tomassi's pod cast immediately

I agree❤

Thanks Doc.

You should debate Rollo Tomassi. I think some of the stuff you said is erroneous and you don't really understand redpill.

"Don’t settle for re-creating the past over and over." Very well said and my number one fear.

@@kc6810 Redpill knowledge was crowdsourced and evaluated by 10s of thousands of men in the real world dating scene, not one man. Rollo just happens to be the most articulate and trusted purveyor of that knowledge. Redpill has a much larger sample size than any study, or one psychologist's anecdotal experiences.

I wish you could have taught your knowledge to me when I was a teenager. Would have saved me a lifetime of regret and misery.

So the zombie apocalypse is a real thing.

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Wow

Holy fuck, that is not a doctor I would want anyone to go to. Jesus christ

I was lucky where my doctor himself said no to giving me the pills. Idk why so many people want to give hard stimulants to children. It really should be the last thing used

I agree but those times are long gone.

It’s because you’re never really rejected and you don’t leave anything off the table. For me I always make it clear. Until we’re dating we should see other people as well. Imo it’s dumb to say I’m dating someone just to hookup for a few weeks.

Even unattractive women can get more guys than vice versa plus your line can go either way nowadays. Meaning a guy can say this but I feel he should take a little longer to get to know a girl.

has he told you if its mutually exclusive yet lol?

@@samuelgizaw7899 it's sure not an open marriage haha

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Right?! I didn’t tune in at first but his content and approach is going to win the long game.

Nah the bbc has the best... lol

Agreed. Or at least he is resonating with his age group.

Agreed. I like him more than Rogan. He actually takes and articulates a position.

He is just a man pursuing a goal to answer psychological problems and to do it as accurately to nature as he can. Notice he isn’t attractive or fit. Being great requires intense commitment and focus and sacrifice. All significant contributions to the world do.

That statement is so powerful, it makes you feel okay

Lol it’s not okay if it can be AVOIDED. Trauma can be avoided especially if it’s unnecessarily caused by third parties, who could alternatively grow the hell up, find better things to do, get busy and mind their own business! For instance, I was stalked, bullied, harassed and locked in the house by a psycho stranger, who lonely and single. I rejected him. His routine involved ruining my life at the expense of his own personal growth and progress. He hasn’t even had first job. No guy has approached me like him. He encouraged 3 other people to intrude in my privacy as well. Watching, listening, commenting and reacting like maniacs. No one has ever approached me like this before and no one ever will. It’s offensive and rude. They didn’t ask for permission. They simply asked third parties to be their eyes and ears, intruding in my privacy. It’s disgusting and I will never forgive it. None of them have EVER approached me or asked for my number. But they can find the time to intrude in my privacy, while they all want privacy for themselves and don’t want to disclose any information about themselves. They have spied on me. Gossiped about me. Watched me in the privacy of my OWN home, when I wouldn’t even trust them in a public setting. They’re weird AF! No people skills. No social skills. No communication skills. No class. No grace. They disrespect boundaries. Dirty people with no manners. Never in my life, have I encountered such dirt my malicious rude behaviour before. They want privacy but intrude in my private. They’re cheap as hell. Trashy. I’ll remember them for their behaviour. I hope and pray that whatever they did to me, is done to them. Don’t do to others, what you don’t want done unto you.

Basic as quote idk how yall betas get a hard on for it

If only there where way more therapist like this guy

@@sole__doubt every therapist I have met blames my struggle on the patriarchy. Sucks to live in a country where that educational field is full of commies.

there is no greater pursuit for man than the pursuit of purpose.

Why are we talking about male suicide when a whopping 1 in 5 victims of suicide are women ???

​@@JezaLoki because the male suicides are responsible for female distress. We need to solve male suicide to help women as they're the only ones who matter.

purpose with reason

@@JezaLoki 4/5 are gamers :>)

There's no helping them.

Those men have already tried and failed and most of them are burned out.

Mother should stick around then.

"My hope is that these women looking to connect with a secure and confident man will be able to find him, that more men will be able to find their own healing and step up to become men of worth ❤❤❤" Beutiful, let me translate from woman to men language: "I hope those broken disturbed toxic women will find a beta simp who will be easy step on and gratefull to her for being treated like walking talking ATM and be valued as useful tool by her". mic drop

​@@randalldraco3822 A better translation would be reading the Book of Ephesians.

Absolute KING 👑

One of our boys is super hyper active and can get crazy angry. At 3 years old he smashed like 2 windows in our house with his bare hands, and a whole bunch of toys and things. I thought, you know "anger is an energy" so instead of suppressing the energy or trying to crush it, I worked on focusing the energy in the right direction. And it's working well. He's 4.5 now. Very detail oriented, he's really good at cleaning up, help watch his younger brothers and sister, believe it or not he dresses up in a suit and tie everyday. He can play in the sand and keep it all clean. I don't know how he does it. A boy like him would definitely be on meds bigtime in the public school system and he would have been ruined. We're still working on increasing his attention span but at the rate he's improving that should come together well too.

Huh. I had the opposite experience. I was off meds for like a decade+ since I was 15 and I only failed more and more. Ended up dropping out of University after spending like 2-3 years there. Glad you got your PhD but that doesn't mean not taking meds is an almost automatic success. It also doesn't mean that taking meds is an automatic success. When talking about ADHD treatment it should be medication in conjunction with solution based therapy where they teach you things you can do to help you manage the ADHD or how to utilize it better.

What was your specific method for handling this situation?

@@castirondude Diet can play a big role in a child's energy expenditure as a lot of kids nowadays consume a lot of energy(sugar) laden foods, and if they don't have a way to expel that energy, it'll become destructive through frustration. The same thing happens with dog breeds that are known to be hyperactive and the solution is to walk them or implement additional exercises into the daily routine to tire them out through energy expenditure or else they can become destructive by chewing on anything they can get their teeth on or dig holes. One of the main reasons why people have doggy issues(unwanted behaviour/destructive) is because their dog/s don't get enough exercise.

What if the doctors are usually right and there are reasons why boys are suffering that we could tackle?

Isn't there an better way to diagnose ADHD?? Isn't the actual def. The lack or comprised dopamine which is why ppl stop paying attention because it not getting any reward from the brain. Can't we scan brains and do blood tests? I say this without the cost of such diagnosis

Why can't it be similar to rape statistics? If 1% of men do 99% of rapes, why couldn't it be the case that 99% of erroneous diagnosi(or whatever the plural of 'diagnosis' is) of ADHD are handed out by 1% of 'bad' doctors, compromised by big pharma?

@@lodinblood I think the thing that makes using that metric so hard, is also the reason why 1 in 7 boys are being diagnosed with ADHD. There are some people who have by default lower levels of dopamine functioning the right way. Then there are the people who spend so much time every day doing excessively dopamine stimulating things that make everything else pale in comparison. Video games and social media like tiktok and youtube are designed to be addictive to the attention functions of our brains and to such a degree that our brains are not equipped to deal with. So the same symptoms (and probably relevant brain scans) you see in someone with a by-default low level of dopamine function that qualify them as ADHD are also now presenting in a huge percentage of the population because we have created technology our brains are not well adapted to handle. Given a few weeks away from technology, these peoples symptoms would disappear but we have intertwined our lives so much with it that taking that long a break is rare. We also don't understand how the brain and genes work well enough to know what exactly causes the by-default low levels of dopamine function or scan/test for it.

@@lodinblood There is NO current way to measure dopamine. Nobody knows what is 'normal'. That's WHY the treatment is itself also diagnostic; give a central nervous stimulant to someone without any evidence of dopamine impairment and you see a VERY different result.

I was in the middle of the original one today thinking the same thing.

Same here. Statistically normal, but feels weird, huh

S Y N C H R O N I C I T I E S When life syncs up like that, follow it. Life (God, the Universe, whatever you believe) will put things in front of you to guide you on your path, if you're willing to follow it.

How do you find time to listen to two videos like this at work? When I was working I barely had time to go for a pee let alone watch RU-vid videos.

@@sunmoonstars3879 try becoming android developer. Write 2 lines of code, press "build" - voila, you've got yourself another 20 minutes for your leisure activities. I work around 2 to 3 hours a day and earn like 20 times the average wage in my country. Try it, programming is 😊

It is common practice in Christian circles. Some churches won't even marry you without it.

Yup. It's all the mens fault as per usual. Good interview though. Lots of good insight..

My thoughts exactly. He blamed men on everything

@@Donotcare6 Devil's advocate - if men want solutions and women just want to be heard, which sex is most likely to respond positively to advice given to them by a stranger on the internet?

Beautifully said

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Men are my enemy's. speak for yourself.

@@Opal5674 you speak for yourself. You're a promile, I'm talking about majority of healthy people, not sick and toxic that are among all sexes

@@Opal5674 speak for yourself, again. And change your environment instead of pouring venom everywhere

@@beata7484 My environment is a man free as it can be. Nothing that's legal I can do to reduce it further

@@Opal5674 if that's what helps you, keep doing it. But don't say whole world has to do it

What book is it?

I'm 15 minutes into this and its just black pill after black pill to me. Good stuff but so depressing. Guess I need to listen more but honestly it just sounds like everyone's screwed and you can either kys now or slowly die alone for a few decades

@@zad0k91 I mean Adam's message about fixing your attachment is one of hope. If that's all it takes I think we're all gonna make it.

Just tell women that youre looking to find out what your life plan could be, and how you have been going about it and where it has led you so far. Tell her that a committed relationship being a father are going to be a part of it, but you dont know how you will fit all of that together with everything else in life, just yet. You will easily stand out from 90% of men out there. Especially you will stand out positively from the ones who tell everyone that they have already, once and for all, exactly figured out that one thing that their whole legacy is going to be about. Yeah yeah. Just be human and be a work in progress. You dont know how much women crave just human men that have something worthwhile on their mind.

You know, most women aren't looking for a guy with a Lambo who makes millions, they just want someone who has their crap together.

What I have heard about trauma is that it isn't what happens to a person that determines their outcome, it is what they think about what happened to them. It is the story they tell themselves about it that determines if things like anxiety and depression will manifest. It sounds like you are a very resilient person, which is becomming increasingly hard to find.

@@ssykes7 good explanation

Much like a parent who fusses and makes a huge deal every time a child falls down "cuz they care so much" may actually create a child whose very risk-averse and very sensitive to any pain, versus the parent who appears to love them less by not making a big deal out of it and just tell them to walk it off, will likely lead to less risk aversion and greater resilience.

If I can shed some light here... 1. The ppl who try to diagnose without a degree are horribly irresponsible & tbf, kinda idiotic. 2. PTSD goes waaaay beyond anxiety & depression. It can pop up in attachment styles, compensation, oversharing, focus issues, how you approach work or social issues, etc etc. Regarding diagnosis, it can even be mistaken for things like adhd & other personality disorders because there can be so many overlapping symptoms. 3. The idea mentioned about "how you think of it" isn't quite it. Researchers are actually finding the severity is more dependent on the amount of support one recieves directly following an incident. The reason "how you think about it" doesn't quite make sense is because there are plenty of ppl who block out & can't even remember their own trauma who still end up affected by it. Trauma effectively rewires the brain in ways & it takes a lot of mental & emotional consistency & work to rewire so that the brain responds differently. I had a lot of childhood trauma but I put a huge focus on understanding myself, my triggers, coping skills & understanding it so much that I started studying trauma-related physch & neurology at 14 as a hobby (so 20+ yrs now). I have ptsd & it would be impossible for me not to given my circumstances, but it took over a decade to get an official diagnosis because I'm not "clinical enough". I have control over my mental state instead of the other way around, but it took A LOT of work for me to get there. I do also get the "therapy" & diagnosis talks from ppl which is honestly annoying. It simply shows how ppl view trauma through a narrow-minded & low-key negative lens, even if they don't realize they're doing it... ironically, that only points to their own lack of self-awareness lol.

PTSD is only possible if you choose to drag your past around with you as if it may become an accepted form of currency at some point in the future.

Yep. Either scares the ones you don't want off or shows you they're more than just a body.

Separating the wheat from the chaff. Also communicating that you are not desperate and actually qualifying them rather than trying to get them to qualify you. It makes sense, but may not work if hung up on attachment issues (needing approval, validation, etc.) This was a fantastic interview. I am going to listen to it twice.

Ask for her body count...that'll challenge her mentally as she adds them all up 🤣 If marriage didn't penalise men financially, you'd see a change The point the psychologist made that women are promiscuous in college due in part to a lack of a father figure growing up...yeah for some. I know plenty of women from good stable families who played the field until they were 30. It's the culture today that a women's 20s especially is the experimental phase & they don't want to miss out on the fun. It's celebrated in culture today, in TV & film etc. I'd say the stable family is very much secondary to the fear of missing out, listening to their friends going great parties & getting smashed by chads.

GOT EM

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@@Aspire705 thanks, fixed it

Great points

Excellent comment. Diet, exercise (or lack of) has a HUGE effect on mental and emotional health, as does less well known therapies which aren't based on talking.

Too true!! Physical health is connected to mental health

I had a therapist that did both therapy and physical training for his clients. While I don't need help for a training plan, just the motivation to do it, he helped lots of people with both.

Actually, I don't get this hype on physical health being supposedly that important on mental health. I don't buy it. Me myself am in a very good physical shape for many years, have perfect analytics results for years, have hypothyroidism under control and TSH levels is always in line, have been practising yoga since 13 years old, yet my other part of life is a mess. Mostly due to problems with men. And sometimes coworkers. Anything what depends on myself only: my physical health, my career, my finances, my whatever, is in a really good shape. Anything what depends on the outer world - like finding a good man who would be at least not abusive to me, or finding friends who would help me out when I am sick or something - this doesn't work. Just because I cannot shape the outside world, I can shape myself only. And the outside world is getting worse and worse, more and more narcissistic and abusive. And I am saying this as an always optimistic, helpful, and naive, open person, who has been abused so many times.

According to Adam, provider of 4 kids, your sister is probably one of these ultra rare mental women.

I totally agree with you! I actually went to the psychiatrist and I self diagnosed as I work in the health care field and I was spot on: super ADHD and I’m in my 40 ees. I truly have it and the pill has changed my life, that dopamine trickle!!!

Great comment! As a woman who self diagnosed myself with ADHD in my late 20s and got a formal diagnosis at age 30 it really frustrated me for them to dismiss ADHD as just another way of being and all the meds as making us zombies. I think most ADHD meds don't make anyone a zombie.

@@Yourtherapistknows 44 and got a formal diagnosis 2 years ago after losing my uncle and the father 6 months later. Went into a massive brain fog shutdown. Work was trying to fire me, and the self preservation kicked in. I ended up on strattera cause I'm really leery of SSRI meds, but it turns out Straterra was a pretty meh anti-depressant but seems to help as an off label ADHD med. I got 10mg adderall's as well. The Strattera did the bulk of the heavy lifting really quickly; The Pea soup of existence burned off, I suddenly had the experience of regularly waking up in mornings not feeling like trying to think was like running through water. It really minimized actual rem sleep i was getting for a good 6 months, but without the sleep debt cost. Had me a bit worried , but the benefits were such that I just sort of shrugged and focused on being grateful for the benefits. The low dose Adderal I would really only use as needed if I had to do something I normally struggle to make myself do.... read/write reports, or paperwork and other such tedium. Few months ago i weened off the straterra initiated by the MD i was using as the drug dealer finally decided to get wierd and wrote a script for some psychiatrist. I don't telemed, combined with default precision procrastination did the rest. I really don't touch the adderall. Escersiz and changing work groups and reorienting clutter etc, have seemed to supplant most of the necessity. I'm still interested to see if there might be meds worth utilizing to mittigate some of the other default neuro tendencies, but I don't see the ND umbrella as a disability outside of the context of the societal constructs normed to the ND flavored humans. I think the game now for myself is really to untangle a lifetime of CPTSD, learned survival traits and patterns that are now intrinsic, but lost the ability to provide the positive tradeoffs that made the cost worthwhile. I'm leery of artificial vectors for dopamine after a lifetime of being driven to external sources without connecting the dots. Hoping with time the body will be able to re-bias to a more normal baseline state so that the physiological mechanism might start to be able to begin to function as intended to regulate the chemistry as they were intended. cheers

I loathe the contradictory praise for intelligence and penalties for it's ability to pattern match disparate contextual points into either a broader scaled out fractal of the initial talking point. My brain defaults to non-sequitur as a way of play, not because I'm being random but because the jumps are logical and lead to more interconnected contextualization. Kind of like sure, the meta of the thoughts aren't changed, but akin to conveying the same conversational information to whoever, but instead of using repetitive words in a bland minimalism that tightly constrains the possibility of meaningful moments of unexpected insight that might lead to a more informed interplay of shared human understanding. Only example that comes to mind would be like when one sentence spoken leads to the next sentence being a song lyric, to a movie quote, and each one bounds the central thing in a sort of verbal negative space between aspects of an idea that add a depth of dimension... as opposed to dancing around the meaning of a thing and struggling to not use the thing within it's own describing. oh, and the soul crushing frustration when a friend or whoever makes a point or says something they believe, and immediately brain connects to a related topic around a subject or person they disagree with who said or did a thing completely in line with the thing they like, and the shifting of gears to a second example of the same idea from a different frame of reference only triggers 'I don't care, stop!' instead of the exploration of whatever towards a more refined understanding one way or the other. It's been a long few days. Hope there was a sailboat in the noise if you read to here. Which leads me to 'people can't even define ADHD; what is it' point. for myself at least, one of the big expressions that has worked against me for a lot of years, is when people are slow to get to the point and I would get frustrated waiting for them to try to get to the point, or the part of whatever that was unpredictable. My dad was one of the smartest and capable minds I've had the privelage to know. I would often bounce things off of him just to verify my own conclusion. It was like I'm the hair and he's cartoon tortoise, and i had a habbit of finshing his thought just to move to the end anlasys. He'd gotten pretty good at the "you gonna let me finish, do want to hear what i have to say" He taught me how to think well, and we shared a lot of temperaments/traits/beliefs regarding it all,. When called out for interrupting I was rarely wrong about where he was going, and it was more like an annoyed 'get off my lawn you punk' than frustration. The same tendancy to try to move people along caused me a lot of challenges with the broader world. In the end, after he passed I got a lot of stories from family and friends and am pretty sure he had a touch of the tism as well. he was always absorbing new things and shifting special interests, didn't process/express emotions well externally, and tended to be pragmatic in a way bordering on scary. I've learned he was very much not liked, as he was loved by folks. Like a lot of us (i believe) our original sin as it were in these times, is that a lot of our neurologic differentiation expresses in ways that other brains pick up on at a firware level, but not so different in the ways that break into the threshold of conscious identification. Folks will protect and nurture the maimed child, but if you look normal but your interface with reality is off just enough to cause behavioral discrepencies from the group, there is only animosity. if you're gonna be off, better to have turrets, than to lack the ability to register nuance; better to be blind than to struggle with eye contact. Thanks for sharing.

He nails it. Puts the red pill rubbish in the bin.

@@metatron8386 and the black pill stuff too probably😅 that place is a dark one

Only 50 minutes in but have heard a few comments from Adam that makes me think he doesn't actually understand Red Pill theory. Red pill doesn't state that it's a zero sum game and Men need to play games and manipulate to score as many points as possible. It's more of the game is rigged against you and you can only score negative points so why play at all? It's also interesting how guys who do walk away from dating and doing their own thing are always described as smoking pot, playing video games, watching porn, etc. Instead of most men I know who have taken themselves off the market and don't have time to date because they are pursuing their hobbies/interests. Building cars, traveling the world, flipping houses, playing DnD with friends.

Agree with both of you guys. FnF are definitely just using the redpill for money and fame. I think more 'OG' redpill guys like Rian Stone are the real deal.

Couldn’t agree with you more.

Thanks for sharing. Adam straw-manned the red pill community, which is a shame because he did so well in just about every other aspect.

he has no idea what ”the red pill” is. he sounds super blue pilled in that segment. 😂

I prefer: "hey, i know where i wanna take you today, and i think you will be very happy with that" and when they are like "oh damn, where are you taking me?" just say "guess" and likely they will say something that was on their mind already, or they wanted, but werent aware of. Worst case scenario, you could make them narrow the selection for you, by guessing the cuisine or the type of dining experience they want. Use variety of approaches, so it doesn't become repetetive, or find a style that suits this relationship best.

Agree, I'm not either a redpill zealot but, i don't think SOME things that this doctor says would work in a relationship long term, and that is why would be quite interesting that he debates with one of the main redpill leaders.

For anyone scrolling and curious, Dr. K's channel is called HealthyGamerGG!

Men who have decided that woman are game players will meet a women who's actually open honest sincere and innocent in that games aren't on her mind and he will treat her like she's already done something wrong. He will lie, manipulate, cheat, take for granted and then about the time he realizes he had a good woman she will be so fed up she's already gone.

He's out of the loop and has a clear selection bias because he sees dissatisfied people who are looking for relationships. That's not the majority of young women.

Fear of intimacy and being betrayed.

Yep

And so we will have population collapse. Much sooner than we think.

I married my highschool sweetheart when I joined the military and divorced shortly after as did most of the people in my squadron. Seems like people who stayed married were in the minority. Marriage and the military are just incompatible. Seriously think service members should wait until they get out if they marry at all. I never married again but I've been with my current partner for eight years. I think marriage is a joke anyway.

Marriage is a dreadful gamble for men

I salute you for this excellent and sensible comment

Thank you so much for bringing Adam on to your show. A truly fantastic conversation which deserves & requires to be heard far & wide.