16 Personalities as Contradictions 

whats ur type?

Just paint it over with white paint, as if nothing had happened

Wouldn't notice, if you haven't point it out. 😂

@@endgamez7621 he's an INTP.

No excuses & no regrets, Regretting things undone can be sharper and more enduring than regrets of things done.... However in this case, i feel this may be better left undone. ~INFP

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the hero we need

I love u bro

@@ciggytwiggy I'm not intp

@@burgersomers emotional scientist 10:43 🤯ay

Haha! Fair! ~ INTP

If given chance, i'll live only on that couch.

Literally. I sit at home all day then I just decide to go biking for like an hour or two and come back to the couch again.

ENFP: Can forget himself there, unless you remind him that.

How dare you make this unreasonable generalization about us INTPs! I prefer my bed

Thanks. ~from the lazy ;)

^ This is kind of wholesome.

For the efficient*

NPs: UR DA BEST BRO.

As a lazy person, I think it takes more effort to scroll down to the comments to find this than it does to use the RU-vid video sections feature.

let her know!! infp’s often feel out of place, like they’re fundamentally flawed and constantly missing something. keep her on track and let her know what a gem she is! don’t be afraid of giving her tough love at times though, we need somebody to bring us back to reality.

As a fellow INFP I can tell you growing up was a bit hard because the other kids were to egocentric to understand me. When we deal with grown-ups things get much better from that point of view.

Awww glad she has an amazing parent like you! 💚 Nothing is worse for an INFP then growing up with a parent who doesn't understand them.

My son is exactly the same! While I admire his ability to deeply empathize with people, I worry that he’ll lose himself or internalize someone else’s experience too much.

My mom said the same thing to me today -infp

That's the same for me mate! But i usually have to tell a convoluted story to show that i relate to what you say but in the end i make it sound like i make it about me .... Shit ~intj

It's normal for us INFJ, we always see and feel the both sides on all things. One of our names is the advocate, consellor. It goes well with hamony and balance I find. Observing and analysing. Hum maybe that's why we struggle on who we are. Fit everywhere and nowhere. Yes we INFJ are weird. Genrally I don't go or engage conversation first with people, because I think they are surely not interested by me. But if they talk to me, I am pretty ok to continue the conversation. And same as you, if someone want know me, just ask. If someone don't ask, I just think he is not interested. What do I think, what do I want ? humm I don't care. Want to know what other think, want. As if we just want to observe and analyse, to maintain hamony, as if we were omnicient ?

I relate to everything you said. I have no problem opening up to people but generally won't unless they directly ask me something so I know they're interested. And I can rarely take side in an argument and am generally unbiased since I can often see both points of view, but I feel like this can make people offended that I don't always agree or stand by them in an argument

Same

Intj here and i feel the same too. I can be much more honest with strangers, cause i don't care if they judge me since I won't meet then again

I agree. It made me laugh because it almost sounded like some of the symptoms and behaviors common in those with BPD.

@@annaandrea8320 Ngl, I sometimes feels like oversharing and out of control. It's scary. I'm not bipolar though, it may be because of how reserved I can be. Seems like everything does backfires. Lol (not the Newton's third law of motion!). ~INFJ

It's nice, and very rare. It takes a lot of work to get us.

@@shikhasuman871 Totally, it's all or nothing. Happen to me too recently. And regret it after overshare. Why I done this ? I am so weird. In my mind after : Ok next time I will say nothing to no one.

Infps are so emotionally wise

Yeah but that Ni be dropping those experience free insights doe.

@@nabsnabster3488 I think it's more of how much you can take from an experience thing, rather than having none.

INFP purpose is to create great social, moral, holistic vision. INFJ purpose is to take this vision, analyse it, help to improve it and then execute in the world.

@@sentienttrash2179 Thank you (made me think), my statement is probably inaccurate. You are right, data/stimuli is always necessary. But I guess my statement meant, "Takes a lot from an experience, then applies the principles like a net over a lot of other things, thus to specific other things it's like, no experience needed, got an insight for ya.

Probably because we are secretly self-aggrandising and have this belief that we are special and yet are lazy and never put the effort into making that reality. Most of us INFPs will not achieve anything in life but we still walk around believing in our own self-importance and the world revolves around us despite this

Meeting other INFPs remind me why we piss people off. ENTPs especially like to call us out on our bullshit

As an INFP, I know we walk around silently judging everyone and the problem is that we are silent about it which is so selfish and pathetic. For a personality type that is supposedly authentic, you would be surprised at how many INFPs just stand from afar and never speak up which makes US even worse than THEM. I used to do this all the time but have learnt to stop recently

@@juliall255 well now thank you for reminding me why I don't like my type... very uplifting 🤣🤣

@@anaissainza 😂😂You are most welcome. Just be glad that it's me and not an ESTP or ENTP. They will gladly drag us to hell and back and burn us to a crisp with their harsh but sadly true criticism

My mom is an ISFJ and I think this affects her tremendously.

I love yall yall r too cute lmfao

I think you're awesome! I accidentally have 3 ISFJ friends. I'm the ENFP who adopts introverts 😂

Agreed. The moment I heard the description for INTJ, I felt like I have been exposed.

@@jahazielice777 same here, basically my main struggle for life

I absolutely hate to take risky courses of action unless I’ve somehow made the odds of something bad happening negligible

It can be soul crushing to see life plans fall apart and yet people see only little of our emotions....

this reminds me of the time when i told someone that i am optimistic realist after talking about a grim topic and then brush it off as something which isn't too bad in relativity to some other worse thing. to which he laughed at in my face saying that that is crazy talk and it's not possible. so i told him, the difference between him and i is that i accept reality as it is, the bad, the good and everything in between without much prejudice and am able to still pick the positive out of the muck. he wasn't convinced though... lol

@@kailanGoreng optimistic realist is how I've always described myself too 🤔

@@kailanGoreng Don't feel badly about the other person not accepting our reality (fellow ENFP). Many people and types are black/white believers and refuse to concede that grey is the real color of the world. We just happen to see that as a fascinating and beautiful mix of every color humanity and nature have ever dreamed of. One of my ENTP friends craves this vision of mine constantly and openly admires me for it, and in the next breath will lecture me on the only way to think about topics A, B or C & the horrors of humanity. I think this need to label and categorize (or not) is one of the most fundamental differences between people. Different outlooks though can be friends, especially one of them is an ENFP 😏

As an ENTP, I lament having deadlines, because I feel like things should come as they come-- if I want to do it, let me do it when I want to, please, it'll be amazing. But forcing it in a timeframe stresses me out and I procrastinate without willing

@@archelynwolf Agreed! Time constraints stifle inspiration and creativity. If only we lived in a world without deadlines... Though in such a world, the INFPs would probably never get anything done (or only get a few things done, very slowly)

INFP and I can relate to that a lot. It's frustrating and you wanna shake them and tell them what it takes to stivk to the light, but you equally know the limits human condition imposes on us and that it's pointless. For if they could right now, they likely would. But they likely currently cannot. So it's about leaving people be unless you come by someone who's got "a window open" and is willing to have a chat through it, maybe throwing sth. out or taking something in.

@@KxNOxUTA Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. I am a social worker, graduated in november. When I started the course I had that mentality of shaking people to make them understand that we all have shadows and the important thing is to work on them in your own terms. But now I see it way more as in: people will change if they want to change. You can create an environment where people will ask for your help if they need something in the process of them changing, but you cannot control them. You can't control anyone. There's only hoping for the best and doing what you can with the psychological and physical resources you have at the moment to help along the way, if they want.

ENFP, I relate. I think another part of the darkness is that when we face challenges we grow but also become a little darker and colder each time we get hurt

@@dcgreatman I guess that's true. An area in my life that I've had some hurt (which is romance) I catch myself being every day more hopeless and i don't like it.

i'm currently being ghosted by my former best friend; and i feel this so much. i acknowledge the nuance of the situation but it's so hard not to hate her. the juxtaposition of wanting her to talk to me and be my best friend again while also wishing she just didnt exist is so hard

I suspect the way to deal with the ENFJ is, critically, don't let the tension build up, rumblingly, in yourself, till it explodes. As you have admitted, it doesn't really work, and the whole cycle just starts all over again. Clearly, therefore, you need to ditch that approach in favor of a completely different one. The thing to do is respond to each and every instance of perceived (I emphasize "perceived") manipulation and control, but NEVER respond to it as if it's manipulation/control. Instead, respond to each instance as if...what analogy might work...as if it's a waiter suggesting a dish. If you like it, say "yes," if not, say, "no". Keep, as much as possible, your ego out of it. Here's another analogy, though it might seem cruel: if you were walking down a city street and some demented wino on the corner were hurling random abuses at random people, telling them how ugly or fat or stupid they were, and one of those abuses happened to float generally in your direction, you'd hardly be crushed. You'd recognize it as something entirely "about" the poor wino and not by the remotest conception in any way involved with you. Now, I'm not calling ENFJs winos, of course, but you get my point. You need to maintain that same kind of emotional, uninvolved distance. What would it take for you to chuckle at these eruptions of ENFJ "interference"? There's a good question to meditate over for a while. You need a complete overhaul of your way of "taking" it. One thing that helps is to identify somebody else on the receiving end of ENFJ criticisms who seems to handle it swimmingly, not bothered at all, and emulate them.

Our callousness must be more appealing to an ENFP's dark side 😂 but we love that ENFPs get over hurt pretty quickly upon finding it was unintentional. Emotions can really get in the way of a good friendship at times

@@kensears5099 EXACTLY !! When an ENFJ or other feeling types say things while overwhelmed by emotion, it's not necessarily about us. It's part of their process.

I simply don’t trust enfjs in my life anymore with my honest thoughts because they judge everything morally and can’t find compassion with people’s darker sides, but call themselves empathy. It’s tiring to discuss anything with them cause they get really pushy and I perceive them as self righteous.

Speaking as an ENFJ, I do recognize in myself a desire to help people I care about to improve in areas that clearly hinder them. I want to be encouraging as a friend, but it is a fine line between that and pushy or overbearing. Trying to walk that fine line could come across as manipulative, which is something I try to avoid. I've been working on being more direct with people, particularly as a lot of my social circle are thinkers (which can be its own challenge). I can accept someone as they are if where they are makes them happy and well. Those people are growing. But self improvement is a big motivating factor for me. I am pretty patient with people, talking years, and able to distance myself from people when help clearly isn't wanted. As long as I see someone trying to live their life to the best of their ability, I can support them. But here's the thing: I'll have issue if someone takes support from me again and again and then refuse to listen to advice on how to not run into the same problems. Someone who is clearly in a bad spot of their own making but refuses to even consider changing, no one can help. As for accepting them as they are? That's a lot of energy spent caring about someone who won't improve either of our lives, and who actively takes from me. I've been there. That gets dark and stressful. Besides, my presence hadn't helped them so far, so it would make no difference if I was there or not. So if I'm judgmental, it's only to measure who will drain me and who will grow with me, so I don't pour years into someone who will make me regret it. So as to the ENFJ in your life, it sounds like they're trying to express that they care about you, they want to make sure you're growing, and you're both getting frustrated over that overbearing nature. They probably need to work on distancing their emotions from yours. If I was in their spot, what I would need to hear is that you're doing to best you can, and that they need to trust you to make the right decisions. As an ExxJ, things being out of our control can be anxiety inducing, but trust is something necessary to become healthy and to avoid those uglier tendencies towards those we care about. Being told to trust is a hard pill to swallow, but we know it's important. I hope this has been useful in understanding where ENFJs are coming from, and in dealing with the ENFJ in your life. tldr; Judgement is long-term self defense, but we ENFJ need to learn to trust people we care about to live their lives to their best ability without our constant imput, or we risk damaging the relationships we care most about.

As a young ENTP, how do you meet deadlines without procrastinating? Really need help there

@@archelynwolf GREAT question. I'll be honest...I have yet to fix my procrastination habit, but I've found that it helps to look at my to-do list and every item on that to-do list as a puzzle. I'll give myself a goal, and then think of my to-do list as the puzzle pieces that will get me there. Also (and this is more just general time management), think of today's workload as a chance to give yourself more time tomorrow. Lastly...I used to get REALLY upset about my procrastination problem, but I've realized it can be a strength. Yes, it sucks when I'm working on papers till 3 a.m., but it also means I perform great under pressure. I write my best papers when I've procrastinated on them. I've had two very fast-paced, kinda crazy jobs, and I impressed my bosses at both of those because I performed better as the work got crazier. Yes, it's good to try not to procrastinate, but don't deny the strengths it brings. Good luck!!

Me too! But the quickest way to get my blood boil is lack in simple etiquette and good manners towards others 😅😆

I felt called out, too. My husband always wonders why I obsessively take care of others, but refuse to admit when I need help. I think it’s a need to be needed, deep down, that makes me feel like I have to prove my worth by taking care of others. If I can occupy a role that’s indispensable, then I can feel like others aren’t just putting up with my presence. Accepting help threatens that role and therefore my right to occupy that space.

😂we are dead inside but we are happy about that 😂😂

lol exactly

You're most likely an ENFP enneagram 4. (There are 3 variations of the enneagram 4) Check it out, see which ones fit.

I, as an INFP, resonated with both the INFP and ENFP

@@nabsnabster3488 I'm an enneagram 5w4 so yes I do see the 4 tendencies in myself, thank you for sharing:D

The forest is closing in and I'm looking for a gap in the trees

Lots of love to ya! In a world full of either toddlers or stiff "adults", the only sensible thing is to tape into "The Fool"'s energy and shake it up in a fun way. You go rattle them and send them rolling and tumbling. This INFP sister of yours will be picking them up after you, quietly giving them little care packages that'll bloom when they're ready to unpack them. (* . *) Let's be evil and plant hope and joy unasked!

The reason I've been so confused about my type is that at home, I am an infp, zoned out and in my own world, but around others, I almost always try to be an enfj. I typically have feelings of great concern for various people, wanting to help them and telling them to get more sleep or drink more water. And that energizes me as much as sitting in my room watching random RU-vid videos and thinking about random things. I don't have that sense of effortless charisma and smoothness that enfjs have, but I have the same ideals. It feels like I aspire to become an enfj, and I almost can, but I don't know if I really am or if that's just wishful thinking.

Agreed! I love Nathan's insights and can't believe he gets them all so consistently right (or at least they jibe with my own experiences of my wide range of friends). As an ENFP, I'm used to these things getting more wrong than right. Nathan's commentaries are a breath of fresh air. I'll add on that an INTJ great friend and work partner of mine also takes quite a long time to commit to any new project because he doesn't commit lightly. He knows he'll see it to the end, and he's always overworked as it is. But once he's in your corner, you know you're going to hit a home run. Our biggest champion!

I'm INTP and I had no trouble in school. At least by the time third grade came around and I realized I had to do my homework.

I know this feeling.

@@user-ky1sk7kr6t hang in there.

try layering in additional value into the same endeavour so that if the primary reason for it didn’t pan out you can still extract a lot of value for other things from the attempt.

As a depressed ENTP I know this feeling very well (shadow of entp is intj).

The other MBTIs you mention are 75% you. :)

@@DiminutiveFlower well, maybe. I also need a movie for INTJ - ISTJ comparison, because for all other letters there are already movies on this channel, that make the situation more or less clear: with a HUGE DOUBT I'm not INTP (a bit more utilitarian), clearly not INFJ (f*** people and their social games) and rather not ENTJ (always more out and against the collective, than leading it). Only N/S comparison left. But I saw a movie "5 reasons you're not INTJ" on another channel, which bases more on cognitive functions analysis, and on 2 points I pass as an INTJ, on 1 strictly out, and on 2 I couldn't give any distinct answer. So I'm in doubts. That author also trolls like, "It's common for INTJs being proud to be an INTJ, but that pride is one of probable hints for mistype" -_-_-_-

I'd be curious on your mercury placement and it's aspects. As an INTP myself, my mercury is in conjuction with both my moon and Venus Rx in Capricorn 1st house while being squared by Saturn who rules the house in Aries. Mercury heavily projects a need for framework in how I approach my emotions and creativity. Virgo is ruled by mercury, less chaotic than that of Gemini's influence, but nonetheless it's a deep interest in knowledge. Since I'm assuming you are referring to your Sun, the outward projection and sometimes associated with the conscious mind in evolutionary astrology: Virgo Sun definitely could have this effect, especially if Mercury is sitting there as well and Virgo being a 1st or 9th house. I'm rambling at this point. But astrology, actual astrology beyond the fad can give deep insight. There is a reason Jung researched it heavily and came up with archetypes and eventually this personality system. You could say MBTI has roots in archetypes displayed in Astrology and Myth.

I'm an INTP and a Cancer.

Nice , I'm Virgo and INTJ ....

@@PupDeLaTart Yep, INTP’s should (in theory) have quite cerebral placements throughout their chart and it would be interesting to compare a number of charts to see if there are discernible patterns. My Sun Venus and Mars are in Gemini. I also have Mercury in the 1st (Conjunct Asc) in Cancer. Mercury is in trine with Moon and MC, with minor aspects being septile with Saturn, and Bi-quintile with Pluto. An INTP’s Uranus placement would also be interesting to track given that it is often referred to as a higher octave of Mercury It’s great to see other INTP’s with an interest in Astrology. I was attracted to learn about astrological charts due to my interest in history. Throughout historical times, astrology was a means of interpreting and explaining the world. It only made sense that in order to learn about how people of the past thought, that I explored it myself. Regardless of whether any weight should be applied to it, it’s a great way to provoke deeper thoughts about our own behaviour. It’s extremely unsurprising that Jung looked towards astrology to create the archetypes.

Am an INTP and don't believe in zodiac at all

That's a slogan that I can very much get behind, I like it! ~ Nathan

I was sent for testing because teachers were 'sure' I have ADHD so many times. I don't have ADHD, I'm an ESTP. I don't have any problems focusing and never did. I just wasn't interested in what the teachers are doing.

Enfjs ,, dated one for 3 years -- the best out there ,, but they dont accept you , they wanna softly menuplate and change u ,,, also they have dark could over their heads

@@PaperMicShow ENFJ’s often get taken advantage of in a similar way to ESFJ example in the vid but the difference is they may never be able to express their frustration due to a sense of guilt this can give them. This can lead to bitterness and resentment or even emotional explosiveness in an unhealthy ENFJ to those they love.

@@PaperMicShow Everyone knows that not all comfort zones are actually good… be glad someone is nudging you to get you out of your habits… it means they want you in the future.. not just for three years..

@@PaperMicShow we can’t protect you no matter where you are, the forces of nature are very powerful, so you have to be flexible enough to move out of the way or else you perish.. No enfj can protect their loved ones from Nature..

@@PaperMicShow don’t be rigid..

Ohh, a rare ESFP! I was searching for one in this comment section because of how rare they seem - INFP

Enfj here, also waited for our type to be described! Regarding the stereotype, i think most of us know when we’re manipulative, but we may call it ‘persuasion’ in our minds haha

Hi, always cool to see you in the comments. If you ever join the discord come find me on there ~ Nathan

In behalf of all of my fellow ESFPs, we are sorry. I can’t imagine having to have parented myself. I have an ENTP child, so I guess I’m getting my comeuppance! 😆

My daughter also, dje says she has a "memory box" to remember all things, but cant stay on track with a mission

@@sirbradfordofhousejones I love being my ESFP 's mom. He makes me want to strangle him sometimes, but he's so much fun too and I just live his observations and Outlook on life 🥰

Dating an ESFP is exactly like this. Zero memory of half our last conversation (which he was really passionate about at the time), followed by an amazing observation of our relationship dynamic over the years. Plus, he folds towels like nobody's business 😏

@@MelanieHooks hahaha… sigh. 😂 Very relatable

Say more! It’s accurate. We won’t mind 😆

😂

Thanks, Mate! 😄