16 Personalities Dark Secrets 

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INTJ dark secret - sometimes I like people…

Time stamps: ESTP - 0:26 ISTP - 1:22 INFJ - 2:24 ENFJ - 3:07 ISTJ - 3:59 ESTJ - 4:57 ESFJ - 5:37 ISFJ - 6:27 ENTP - 7:44 INTP - 8:36 ENTJ - 9:41 INTJ - 10:27 ISFP - 11:10 ESFP - 12:01 ENFP - 12:55 INFP - 13:45

there's that saying "the more you know, the more you realize how much you don't know" and I think that's how most INTPs feel and why they think people who view them as intelligent are mistaken.

I have a theory that INFJs and ENTPs like each other as much as they do because ENTPs seem like they don't care, but do, and INFJs seem like they care, but often don't. ENTPs aren't shocked and appalled that INFJs are secret assholes, and INFJs immediately see that ENTPs do care, and just skip over the whole process of sincerity and discovery that makes ENTPs really uncomfortable. So both types get to really be themselves from the first meeting.

INTPs brag about their intelligence in situations where they are made to look stupid, yet consider themselves unintelligent in situations that prove that they are intelligent.

I think INFPs are constantly toeing the line between wanting to see the best in everything vs acknowledging the futility of existence and the disappointments of the world. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Over time, I think we learn to approach life with a more pragmatic optimism (or at least realism). We learn to hide our melancholy better, to cope with things and even laugh about it... though a bit of darkness is ever present. Thank you for going beyond surface-level stereotypes, as always. How do you know so much about people? Also, I like how ENTP's "dark" secret is that they actually *care* (about some things). Wow, can't have people finding out about that.

Hmm this is my point of view as an INTP: I don't doubt my ability to fully understand things, sure, we all have moments where we feel dumb but I do think I'm quicker at understanding (in a logical way) than most people. However, I often notice how other people are far better than me in other abilities such as wit, empathy, consistancy, harmony, physical activities, creativity, etc. This can make me feel insecure of my own abilities and sometimes I can think that my intelligence is my only good trait. Which doesn't sound bad but it can feel awful when you realize that you suck at everything else. I would like to be more balanced and not just good at analyzing stuff in my head. I feel like INTPs are naturally one of the least balanced types and we have to try hard to develop our other weaker skills

INTJ - holding back is accurate. A darker “secret” for me would be worrying that I can’t handle my environment, or that I’m not fit for survival in it. That Se bugbear. The Machiavellian ability is a reaction to that, really - needing to see all the exits to compensate, even if they’re not taken.

The INFP was spot-on for me. Although, with a slight offset: it's not really my "secret side", because I am like that right now. I was a typical INFP ("cute and cuddly") in my childhood, but after encountering the harsh Reality as it is, I am indeed pretty moody and hopeless. And quite often pretty cynical as well. The fact that I'm still pretty idealistic doesn't help either. I often dream of perfect worlds, of perfect lives for me and people that I like and respect, but pretty soon coming back to the cold and dark Reality, which in turn makes me even more sad and hopeless. That's why I see ISTP as the perfect type: they don't dream of better worlds, instead they focus on "right here right now", embracing the harsh Reality as it is, with all its unforgiveness and unfairness. They are perfect for this world. I wish I was an ISTP myself...

INFP-accurate. Also, we have very dark humor and morbid side we rarely show to anyone.

Entj here - another dark secret is how deeply we care for our people/pets and the lengths we’d go to for them. Relationships are a critical, yet difficult, world to us. I wonder if we prefer to be seen as strong and action oriented because then it’s easier to protect what we care for

INFP married to an ENFJ. In my case, he's pretty brutally honest with me but I think it's because he cares and expects great things of me 🤷‍♀️🤣 He's still quite tactful but there is definitely more expectation of the people he loves and cares about. I take it as a compliment.

Regarding INTJ having a machiavellian bent: without knowing my type, my friend once told me “you would be evil if you didn’t have such strong morals.” I’m way too sensitive/empathic and too much of a social coward to go supervillain, but that doesn’t mean that I’m unaware of how certain strings might be pulled. Edit: I have also told my friends and family to never vote for me if I run for office.

I think you nailed it with INTJ, at least for me. Sometimes the coldness of the thoughts in my head genuinely concern me and it happens so easily. If I didn't have the morals that I do, I would be a damn menace.

I'm an INFJ, and I mentioned in the comments of the "How INFJs defy their stereotype" video that I can feel like I don't _have_ feelings some times. And it seemed like a bunch of people agreed with that sentiment. My theory is that our Fe is only really "activated" when it's stimulated by other people's feelings. So when we're by ourselves, or concentrating on Ni, we can put our Fe "away" or turn on "rest mode" for it. This also means that our Own feelings are somewhat distant to us, and only really show up when they aren't being drowned out by everyone else's. I think another "dark secret" is that INFJs can be "Machiavellian" in a way, similar to INTJs. Since Ni lends itself well to understanding where the future might be heading, I think both INTJs and INFJs can't help but to try to affect what's going to happen. I think that "Machiavellian" side is mostly used for good in both INTJ and INFJ cases, but I also recognize the temptation of wanting to push the dominoes to see if they fall in the right way, just to see if our "vision" was correct. INFJs can be very calculating in this way too (imo). Edit: basic grammar

ESTP - 0:27 ISTP - 1:22 INFJ - 2:24 ENFJ - 3:07 ISTJ - 3:54 ESTJ - 4:58 ESFJ - 5:36 ISFJ - 6:28 ENTP - 7:45 INTP - 8:37 ENTJ - 9:42 INTJ - 10:24 ISFP - 11:10 ESFP - 12:02 ENFP - 12:55 INFP - 13:45

ISFP: his description was more focused on anger, which is true, for me at least, but the isolation hits harder for me. I hate feeling like I'm pushing myself on to other people, especially if I don't really know they want me around.

The thing about ISTPs being unattached and responding with "It is what it is" is so accurate for me. Back then looking at how others behave I wondered if I should feel more or put more effort into the things I should be attached to but I've come to accept that my level or threshold for that sort of thing is just different and that's okay. As long as I don't make it obvious enough to hinder my daily life, that is.

as an ISTP, I feel so called out... my most used and go-to phrase in any situation is literally "it is what it is"

INTJ, true. However, i do think that a lot of it boils down to nihilism and disillusionment. The true secret is that the reason we don't care about other people's opinions is that we have given up. We are also unforgivingly brutal to ourselves regarding our own shortcomings, and yet often too prideful to ask for help. We hate having to depend on someone or not being in control. At least that's my two cents on it... PS: if some odd being appeared and offered us three wishes, but warned us that accepting the offer would cause billions of casualties, I guess our innate reaction would not be shock, but the urge to ask why and if we could influence it in any way that we'd and the few we actually care about are safe...

Intp with “im not smart, you’re dumb” is the best. Dark Secret: relief when watching these videos knowing im not the only person trying to understand humans

I love the fact that he always mentions the analytical-logical side of the INFJs, not just the "sensitive" side... Which I think is too much stereotype... Great video! INFJ.

I’m an isfp and the isolation and anger is true (at least for me). I literally take walks throughout each day to be alone, especially when I’m stressed or conflicted with what’s going on.

This was accurate. ENFP’s like myself are highly misunderstood and taken only at face value. Unfortunately there’s a huge ‘dark side’ we have that can be dangerous (mentally, emotionally, socially, hopefully not physically) if we fall down that rabbit hole.

You nailed INFP for sure. Especially these days. I'm actually very very good at appearing "normal" even pleasant really. But I cry at least 3 times a week. Especially in this world. My husband is the only person who sees that side.

you know what? as an INTJ, it is really very true. Even I would be sometimes taken aback by how cold my thoughts are. I had to frequently step back and see my plan in other's POV so that I could check if my plans would hurt anyone's feelings. But that doesn't mean that I see myself as the big bad guy playing a game of chess with other people, I also see myself as another chess piece and see thr problem from a third POV. No selfish errors in my plans! That's one of the basic rules in my book.

INTJ real secret is we love people and would go a long way for them. We're not malevolent type villains, we're more like the kind of villains where you find out at the end that their motives were better than the protagonists.

ISTP being kinda detached and going with the shrug and "it is, what it is" is oh so familiar! 😅

"The intp's secret is that they constantly doubt themselves" *_That was a secret?_*

This ISFP isn’t a bit afraid to spend time alone. I can disappear for two months and then go back to friends and be puzzled what they’re complaining about. I didn’t even realize I was doing it. Right now it’s been around two months, but I told people that I was going to be incognito for a while, so that’s an improvement. Seems fair.

ESTJ--"Soft underbelly": So true. My mom is an ESTJ and honestly really sweet.

I'd say, the ENFJ part is pretty accurate. As an ENFJ, I just think it's better to not mention the truth in a conversation. I won't lie, won't tell the truth either. For me, the people who can handle the truth deserve it. Also, over speaking your truth sometimes means you have to talk even more because now you have to justify things to make it sound more enlightening or "less cruel" which is a waste of time if you're talking to someone who you don't like. I still be friends with people I don't like, donno about other enfjs

As an ISFJ, it was so spot on! When someone says I am not capable enough, I slap them back by giving them a performance that exceeded their expectation.

There's a general trend in many of these I'd like to highlight. Many of the things you mention seem to be the opposite of a types greatest strength. Actually that does make perfect sense. These may to be the drivers of that strength. The only way to improve a "skill" is to be aware where one falls short. These "secret" (or often not so secret) thoughts (or fears) accomplish that awareness.

The biggest secret of an ISTJ is that, despite popular opinions that we are emotionless robots, are actually quite emotional and sentimental (not that we’d like to let anyone know that). We have feelings, it’s just we find it hard to show it and people never expect us to either. So true that no one offers to help nor are we able to ask - so we need the other types within a team to add balance.

INTJ: Machiavellian...............yeah i can see my self become like this if i lose hope for humanity. so please humanity! don't fail me!

ENTP: we worry we won’t get our life together, that we aren’t on the best path, that perhaps we’re being lazy(bc we know how to be lazy especially compared with the volume of ideas & project lists we have), etc. we worry we aren’t being smart enough about our own choices & we privately question the accuracy & wisdom of those who give advice/input. We question everything so much it becomes possible for us to feel stuck in it & not actually do anything or live up to our own ideas.

VERY accurate! I am very rational and stoic, which makes me seem cold. But I do care. 😢 Sincerly, an ENTP with a heart.

I'm an ISTP (admittedly) and also a big follower of Stoicism. So I sometimes wonder what that really says about me.

INFJ hit home way too much,, there comes a time where almost all relationships I had felt like it wasn't genuine because I was so eager on understanding them-- not personally,, but more on analyzing them and how humans work generally,,

ENFJ - I genuinely feel very attacked. Hope none of my friends see this.

ISTP, I don't see ours as particularly dark nor secret. It's adaptive. perhaps not for relationship health, but for life in general.

As a gay male INFP, traversing through relationships and trying to find a partner is such a difficult thing. So I prefer to hide behind my perfectly curated bubble around all my tastes than search for an ideal partner. It's so strange this feeling of longing but to also be afraid to sabotage a possible great relationship.

INTP: Don't think I nor other INTP really make a secret out of us doubting our ability. People just continue to be surprised at how rigid that rule is for us, never to feel save in our opinion. To say that I think others are Idiots for thinking differently of me is not quite hitting the point for me. Well, not always. There's a reason I keep that belief whatever others may say. That reason is that it is quite essential to remain as correct as I want to be. Because I've at time been too certain in my "Intelligence", and it almost always eventually went wrong, with me just being too full of myself to correct wrong assumptions. It's also socially unacceptable. People already have a hard time accepting you if you're often correct. If openly adopt that view most people will hate you, and most of the ones that don't are the kind of people you really should stay away from. Anyways, getting back to when others say they're certain in our Intelligence. Well, often they are basing that on accurate data. It's just that for a few reasons, including the ones above, we cannot adopt the same belief, otherwise it would destroy that very thing. Another point I'd like to make is that, while we may doubt our own "Intelligence", that does not mean that we think others are better in that regard. We usually just think we're the one-eyed among the blind.

I'm an INFP, depressed and conscious about my dark side. Beung recognised as this somewhat naive childish innocent character that's always happy and always believes that everything is good, that image is the exact reason why so many of us won't open up. We just care about the details, we care about morality and we care about fighting the real battles. I'm not a little naive happy pacifist, I just don't see any point in most conflicts. I do want to go out and talk to people, but all they talk about is boring. They take pointless things very seriously and neglect and forget what is truly important. They think they'll live forever, they make great plans and great talk and actually believe they could keep all their money and pride but the world will forget about them for they leave nothing behind.

I think this is a really great video! The video and the comments here really give a great insight into the struggles we all have. And that is somehow weirdly uplifting and motivational. Thnx, An ENTP (who slept way too short last night, which somehow unlocks my emotional side and makes me overshare my feelings)

The process of understanding the cognitive functions is truly fascinating. But, realizing that people use personality types to further divide and equate their value to historical figures, is toxic. One becomes quickly aware that the primary focus for most people is an ego boost, rather than: what can I learn from this? Can this help me to truly understand people and the world around me?

Right on the button for ENTP, me and ENTJ, my husband. It has been very difficult for him to "retire" Impossible actually, he always has to have a big project going. When he went through a slump of inactivity he would watch James Bond, or Steve McQueen movies or Pierce Brosnan movies with whom he identifies. I made him stop because he is much more than these guys, and because I think it wrong to live illusionary lives. (ENTPs do have principles as you pointed out, and we do care about the people around us. And, I used to drive him nuts questioning everything and then stopped because it was undermining his energy to have to explain every single thing he was going to do. Fortunately, at age 76 he still has lots of physical, and mental energy to learn new things like right now creating a 30 page website with hundreds of photos (no easy task to get them all coordinated in size) when he has never done this kind of thing before. BTW Thank you ever so much for your series. It is informative and so much fun.

I find the ENTP synopsis to be fairly correct in describing me.

ENFJ - This is painfully true. We take pride in our ability to mediate and control the emotional tone of a room for a more positive outcome, so admitting our more negative thoughts is... difficult. I can find a positive thing to say about pretty much any situation or person, but I don't only think those things. Even some of my closest friends don't know what I'm thinking most of the time. My Ni & Ti are for me, and me alone. There have been a couple of times that I'll say what I really think when someone is treating a friend/SO badly. I do not hold back, you'd be wise not to mess with people an ENFJ cares about. Our Te shadow (demon function) is ruthless when it serves our Fe.

INFP is spot on, definitely. I used to be a very stereotyped INFP as a kid, but people ended up breaking me beyond repair. Bullying, rejection, disappointments, a failed love life, crushing loads of stress from college, toxic friendships, etc. For a while I didn't even knew who I was anymore, I was pretty much just existing until I got typed as INFP and realizing how much of it was right about me, I got to understand myself a lot better. But still, the damage is there, and though I might never see that old childhood innocence I used to have again, I'm just more than glad to be able to guide people with their own struggles (even if I have a ton of struggles myself)

Intj is machiavellian? As one I was sort of surprised by that. I would say our darkest secret is how much we are moved by our emotions and how much we protect them. So we start life like an old hardened person, pretending we don't have Fi, and end like kid indulging that Fi. But are we machiavellian? I donno,.... I definitely poke around in people's heads silently. Kinda like INFJ pokes in peoples emotions I poke around in their minds. I do see them as a system, and everything they do as a result of that. But I don't feel I use people to get to my ultimate goals at all costs... hmmm.

Intj here: one of my darkest secrets is hollowness. I think i can get whatever i want in life, but, to do so, i will be so distant from my family and potential loved ones that that i will feel empty about all of my achievements. So, it can mean that loneliness is scaring me, as well; this scares me much more than becoming a villain😂. Maybe I’m not an intj.

Oh yes as an ENFJ I have often thought it's just as well people are not telepathic or that my thoughts don't instantly write themselves on social media. Also when I do give someone the whole truth it's not done on a whim, I've calculated that I will do so whether that is because I truly believe that they are need of that tough love (and can handle it), really want to hear the truth or because I am very angry, being pushed and decide I deliberately want to hurt them back - it may appear as I snapped but I will have actually thought about it. It's not something to be proud of, it's definitely something I will feel ashamed of once done, more so because I did it deliberately. Fortunately I've only done so rarely, unfortunately with those closest to me (since they are the ones most likely to be able to get me to a state of furiousness)

As an ENTP, I agree with that so much. By the end of the day, I do want the people around me to feel happy and I do feel bad when I accidentally hurt someone who didn't deserve it with a joke or a controversial hot take. That tertiary Fe is always there.

As an INFP, I often struggle with this intense and overwhelming passion for whatever I am really excited about. I want to share that with my family, but nobody in my inner circle cares, so I feel very angry and dark and frustrated with everyone. But I keep those feelings hidden most of the time. To be fair, I do like to go on and on about things sometimes. Like my personal research on brain chemistry or whatever new thing I learned to do on my violin. I just want to share my passion with someone. Essentially I feel alone all the time and it takes a toll on my mental health.

Good video. A lot of things ring true, especially for the Te/Fe/Ti family members whose insecurities I’m intimately familiar with (my four-person family is a complete lead-judging-function square!). The ISTJ/ESTJ/ENTJ stuff all essentially comes from having relatively little handle on and control over the inner world of feelings and the psyche and the self, and I’ve seen all of those traits within the same person. As an INFP, it’s often pained me to see people expend so much effort on controlling externalities like their environment or their image/status or sometimes other people to maintain their sanity or self-esteem instead of delving directly into the source within. It speaks to the sort of opposite approaches to life that FPs and TJs tend to have. As for ‘dark and disillusioned’ for INFP: Can be. Been there. Maybe still am about certain things. But I’m also a fundamentally optimistic person, and someone driven to make the best of myself and my experiences, even the bad ones. Some of the most important internal struggles I’ve been through have involved finding ways to make peace with harsh realities and empower myself against them - and to integrate facets of realism and practicality into myself without ‘betraying’ my nature. In the end, I’m still my optimistic, idealistic self, but more well-rounded and better equipped to deal with various realities of life. I’ve put in a lot of work tending to my mind and can really say there isn’t all that much darkness in me these days, except when I’m actively dealing with BS from people. But if you read my journal from the past decade, you’d see a lot of dark and depressing stuff for like 3/4 of the way. I’ve definitely seen some INFPs who just get stuck in that kind of place indefinitely… Another thing about INFPs and ‘darkness’ is the openness that a lot of us have to exploring all kinds of feelings and ideas, to a degree that people sometimes don’t expect or understand. I remember seeing an MBTI sketch where the INFP was disturbed about the theme of some game being ‘dark’, and that rang pretty false to me. As far as I go, at least, when it comes to imagination, art, and ideas, pretty much anything goes. I’m interested in the full spectrum of human emotion, psychology, and self-expression and more open to the dark and uncomfortable facets of all this than most people I’ve known. But yeah, sometimes our soft and gentle outward demeanor doesn’t jive with that for people. I’ve definitely gotten some puzzled (or concerned/judgmental) reactions in my life in that regard. I cut two whole paragraphs out of this post and it's still long AF. Congratulations/sorry if you made it this far.

The INFP one hits home. I don't like to lie, but when it comes to feeling like the worst but making it look like I'm fine I can say I'm an expert on that regard. People might be better not knowing though.

I was thinking to myself, what will my INTP one be? Perhaps he will reveal my imposter syndrome? Nah, that's a personal conditi- My flavor of imposter syndrome is exactly as he describes. When I do push past my lack of confidence, I notice that I become highly INTJ-like.

As an INFJ: You feel like you understand everybody, yet nobody seems to understand you

ENTP: Debating becomes tedious eventually. Yes, there is always another point of view, and expressing all of them takes so much energy and so much time. Often, I would rather not start a conversation if it is going to take so many hours just to get out all the points of view. Eventually, the ENTP seeks something that they can truly believe in. That may initiate the quest for the missing Fi. If NE is the hero, then FI is the handsome prince or beautiful princess. It is feeling that one can believe in and that is immune to any equivocation. For me, this essential virtue has to do with having faith in one’s own essential “goodness.” I cannot find any other word for it that carries any resonance. This goodness is not a moral quality, and it has no opposite. It is simply inheres in all human beings, and one knows it by feeling it. It cannot be destroyed by abuse, betrayal, or disappointment - it is there in Charles Manson - although one can forget - and, once a person forgets, it may take them a long time, and a lot of work, to remember. If a person does not have faith in this part of themself, they are always “catching up” to the starting line. Life is rootless and restless without this faith in the basic goodness of oneself. I believe that the “worst thing” that a person can do is to encourage another person to loose this essential faith in the goodness of themself. That does not mean that one is unaware of the parts of themself that need more work. I am ENTP to the core, and I have come to this perspective - a simple, internal, feeling perspective - after many years of searching. I appreciate having the opportunity to articulate it here.

This makes me understand my ISTJ fiance better. I have been surprised several times that talking about uncertain future events makes her really worried and stressed. I guess the fact that she is willing to show me this means that she trusts me a lot. I will try to be more gentle with this in the future.

INTP: 8:36 and I think this is right on. I am critical of myself always, and by extension, everyone else as well. I also expect others to hold themselves to the same standards and anything else is intellectually dishonest. And never do I think of myself as intelligent the way others see me, I believe them to be wrong, misguided, and thinking too highly of me.

💯 infj: selectively cold. Distance to recharge Silence to process Silence to formulate the best answers A break off to keep peace or recover

You are so right about me!! (ENFJ) 😂😂 There are a few people in my life that I pour sappy compliments on and sometimes they don’t think I really mean it because it’s so much. However, while I genuinely care for everyone, I like few and my opinions of most people is a bit harsh. If those I have overwhelming positive thoughts toward only knew what a big deal it is for me. 😂😂😂

To be clear, ENFJ only do that because truth is not easily handled by everyone. I used to hurt and fight with people a lot back when I had no filter. I still speak my mind as honestly as possible because otherwise I'd suffocate. Now if what I'm thinking might hurt someone yet needs to be said I use tact or hint at it, and sometimes I simply wait for the right moment to give it 100%. Like I don't see the point in hurting people unnecessarily. My truth isn't always the truth or other's people truth.

I will say it again just because we like to see the good things doesn't mean we are this cute innocent things that need to be protected. We know those things. Just some accept it and other don't -INFP

The trick to the INTJ one is never allowing the chess pieces to know they are a piece on a board.

ENFP here. So true... And I think ESTJ is also very accurate. You need force help on them since they won't ask for it.

"INFPs are dark" INFPs: *panik* NO! we're totally NOT!

I think ENTP dark secret, at least for me, is that I don't know how I feel about something. I just don't know. So my way of combating that is to keep hoarding information and exploring the world (and I end up doing things I shouldn't do just so I can "know" how I feel about something) this usually means pressing pause on important things like study, social interactions, work, where I live and instead I go "experimenting." I question everything, even good things, just to make sure if it really is a good thing because I don't know if that's true because there is always another stone to turn and learn (there is always the other side).

This is a brilliant video. Thank you!

Man I don't comment much on the videos I watch but i gotta say, I feel so understood and excited when I watch you, top job man keep going. -ISTP ps: not a native English speaker if a said something wrong just correct me 😉

Entj here and that definitely makes sense. Though they aren't achievements per se, most people know me for what I do rather than who I am. Whenever I refer to myself, it's by what I do and what I'm good at rather than who I am. For example, I don't identify myself with traits such as kind, smart, etc rather I go straight to something like "I make music". Something like that

INTJ here. Well, I have manipulated people and became toxic to some to gain stuff. Not proud of that. When I was young, I created a mental list in my head of all the things my sister did that our mum doesn’t know about. I threatened her with them. I was really selfish. Almost dictator-y. Even now, sometimes I hate it when others have higher power than me. I also sometimes think that the world would be a much better place if everyone thought like I did. I sometimes write very long, manipulative emails to my teachers when they grade me low. It scares me sometimes. But I’m quite confused. I don’t think I would be cold to achieve my goals. Not intentionally. I’m kinda soft yk

Scouring through your channel, ingesting each single detail, savouring every detail mulling over each single word of yours 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞

I’m late, but I wanted to say this video is brilliant Nathan!

i 10000% agree with the ENTP one

Omg that INTP was spot on.

As an INFJ, yes! I often help because I want to be a good person or because I'd want someome to help me or because I dont want someone to suffer or whatever other reason, but I also sometimes help and put up with people's shit -- especially from people ive known for awhile -- because I need people to like me. I realized it a few weeks ago and mentioned it to a friend because I thought it was obvious -- I use humor (I'm always making friends double over with laughter) and advice-giving and compassion to make myself useful and relevant to others, and when I subconsciously pick up on their emotions and feel them, that makes me want to make them feel good for my own sake, especially since I and other INFJs arent always in touch with our own emotions like we are for others' -- we can use other peoples' feelings to get our emotional fixes without even knowing it. Tl;dr the video is spot on. Dont expect me to be nice all the time just because I'm an INFJ. We have a lot of patience but when that wears thin, youve fucked up.

(Istj) I always feel like I'm an open book with my insecurities about all uncertainties in the world, but GOD how many times people were genuinely shocked that I'm not as confident and stoic as I (somehow) seem to be. So true...

As an ISTP I can confirm. I can have a things are what they are sort of mentality regardless of a situation, in which I am sort of accepting of everything, but that strength to see the and accept the actuality of things is where I think a strength can be found, because I can analyze every aspect of it without being so emotional about it, to where I can think of solutions out of it from a detached perspective.

INFP truly spot on. Especially when you said "in fiction, infps are the one who doesn't stop believing that things would go well, or good guys will win" FACTS! I have been told by people (I've been arguing with) on the internet before that I'm too hopeful or optimistic about something that's either in fictional or in theories, the "good guys will win/are right" mindset etc. BUT! In reality, I can think of the most morally and ethically fucked-up thoughts in my mind against my will. I don't know if I have a bit of OCD (obsessive thoughts) but these "indecent" thoughts would flash through my brain before I can stop myself and it makes me feel legitimately disgusted with myself but I can't control it.. but there's also pretty dark thoughts that I have by choice.

You've exposed me big time. I've always been labeled as intelligent, but always felt like an idiot. Especially given my poor performance in school. As I've gotten older, however, I've realized that I'm typically the smartest person in the room. Despite this, I still doubt my intelligence. Especially when I'm proven wrong or have to eliminate some type of cognitive dissonance. -INTP

Great video! It rang true to me about most people/types I know, especially the ENTP. However, I find I resonate about 50% of the time with your description of ISTP as much as I do my own type, ENFP. This video has me wondering if this is because of the slight difference in the concepts of “cynicism” and “nihilism/detachment”. I feel the shadow in me is more the latter, and I believe those closest to me would agree. Any other ENFPs relate?

ISFP with the need to isolate, 100%.

I love these videos!!! I deal with the cynical side of being an ENFP by concentrating my dreams and idealistic plans on myself and those I love. I am no longer trying to save the world, because, my dear friends, that is a sure fire way of getting burned out by the time you're 50. You know how you should put the oxygen mask on yourself first before you help the person next to you? It's not selfish, it's actually the opposite ❤😘

ISTP- this is so accurate, Jeezuss😂😂

Also, I think you finally got me to try the Discord again, but I gotta keep it muted. Dealing with a noisy server is one of the things that makes me doubt my "E."

I was considered always perfect on the outside because of grades and my shallow optimistic attitude towards everything. I got spoiled by people and they never allowed me to express myself in my own way except for what they expected of me, so most of my life has been nothing but half truths. I'm still a perfectionist but as I am getting older it feels like I am more avoided, getting all of that attention back then despite not having friends to a sudden switch going off where no one wants to talk to me because of my physical out put. It never quite bothered me because I am a very calm person, stressed mind but calm heart. It is a odd switch but I've been told I am intimidating because they don't know what I am thinking or feeling anymore and that I actually know what I want in life for myself (societal wise; career. Natural wise; living in nature with my own family which I have never told anyone about). I am very out of touch with people, at least that's what I know deep down but not what I show to the world... I don't mind but I do at the same time. I am nihilistic to go with the Machiavellian thoughts/beliefs to the point I found myself numb when I go do anything. Anything manmade feels grey to me because of it's real nature of "improvement" for us. I hate people and the societal system.. yet I wouldn't be no different if I had that power to control everyone; whether they prosper or get offed for the sake of population control. I see improvement, I am very optimistic about that, but I don't see it for society and human nature. I want every person on the planet dead yet I want to see if we can prosper out of space or helping our own planet. I get jumbled between what is real and what could be real but what could be isn't always guaranteed and is determined by the people. I have been in this loop for some years... It keeps me up at night and gives me existential dread on who I want to be and what I want to do in my control that will make me happy but not fall over the greedy system society created. It makes me feel like I'm losing it overall -INTJ

I relate to IXTJs secrets and as INTJ I try to always share my knowledge but I’m worried to lose “patience” one day and leave all people I’ve got behind and be a “villain” (this made me think I’m Fe user but no, basic humanity)

I have an enfj friend and his dark secret was dead on lol

INTJ: Well put, especially the very last bit.

ENFJ here that is generally honest and blunt in nature. I deeply analyze people and then I can accurately sum them up and predict what they would do in situations. When people ask me for advice or ask me to tell them what's wrong with them. I am so blunt with them that they become shocked theirselves. What can they do I'm not wrong. I always remind them that we are human and there are quirks that make us but it's the actions according based on those quirks and in general that define us. I do see as I age I am becoming more sensitive to the feelings of others so I kinda sugar coat depending on if the person is very neurotic.

As an ISTP, It is somewhat unnerving how well a stranger can peer into my mind.

As an ISTP with adhd, I am absolutely guilty of nihilism (my ISFJ mother has called me “stonehearted”) but relate equally to the ESTP issue because of the difficulty I have buckling down and focusing on one thing. What fun 😃

as ENFJ there is one thing I can say 100% truthfully: THIS IS CORRECT! I am always holding back my full opinions and choosing only the best possible words to say what I mean!

I'm ISTJ and what you said about us is very, VERY accurate

INTJ here. Read The Prince a few months ago so this is spot on.