well done - all painfully accurate. If I might pile on with a little more of my avoidant experience of these: 1. The argument about getting all the details of my plans also felt like my competence was being challenged. My feeling was, I don't need my partner to double-check everything - please just trust that I've got this. 2. Not proud of how many times I have done the abrupt exit, but it often felt like my anxious partner would never end the disagreement. She said her piece and I said mine, and maybe we didn't agree. If the discussion isn't moving forward it should end. But she would just keep going and going and try to wear me down. 3. Yeah, words of affirmation were a blind spot, because it felt like repeating myself. I've said I love you, I've asked you to marry me, so I think my position is clear, right? I also stank at romantic gestures; I'm just too practical a person. I can be kind, helpful, considerate, supportive - but I can't randomly do something that doesn't have a purpose.
These are so specific to what I have got going on right now.. do you have a live stream on my relationship? Haha crazy, thanks for the video really helps!
