@@vanessalinus1850 Body: you can use any oil and add a little glycerine and rose water to it. I use Nice and Lovely Glycerine or cocoa butter. Lotion is good if you want to mix oils compared to body butter. Face: Watch the #60SecondRule video to learn how to wash your face. I apply rosewater on my wet face ( I have oily skin) but you can do that with what works for you. Use a little oil when applying it on wet skin.
Two showers is a MAJOR KEY LADIES. You don’t have to scrub like crazy. My morning showers are usually cold with a touch of gentle soap under the arms. Nighttime showers are my buss down
I try to avoid people who speak badly about themselves. It shows they don’t love themselves and I’ve already broken that habit. I don’t want to pick it up again. I also don’t need that energy around. And I will NOT give them the compliments they may be fishing for either. I’ll just distance myself.
This is wise. Especially since you are working out of it. It's important that you don't get reeled in again and now you are more aware. Much love to you!
This is so me, this year my goal is to be surrounded by people who love themselves, so I won’t always have to remind them of how beautiful they are 24/7. I need to be around people who have self-confidence
1.) Curated care: skin care routine, body routine. Morning and evening. Exfoliate, address, figure out what works Your body is a temple You are important You have a purpose New skin, new life. Take 2 showers a day 2.) emotional balance: U r responsibile and you need to manage your feelings Develop emotional strategies Spend time with yourself Write down your feelings You could cry, get it out Try doing it alone that's why you have God Meditate: time to pray and hear from God There's no reason why you should use your physical agression. emotions are temporary and they're a beautiful thing to feel. Allow feelings to come and go. 3.) Watch your mouth How you talk about yourself. Dont be negative. Never say " my voice is ugly, my teeth are ugly" instead say "im working on being more patient " and "im working on loving myself" rewire the way you see yourself
As black women we don't think about pampering ourselves. There's an ideology that's ingrained in US that if we begin to pamper ourselves then we are selfish and have unrealistic expectations of the world around us. This is so far from the truth. When you take the time to pamper yourself you send a message to the World At Large that you I worth it!
Exactly what I said on another commit. The backlash we get for taking care of ourselves. The whole family will be a burden to our backs until we break the cycle of the female work mule mentality.
My mother taught me as a child to shower in the morning so that you’re fresh for the day, at night so that you don’t take any of the germs and bacteria from the day and bring them into your bed and to freshen up mid day if needed (especially in the summer or on your period).
Yes same here and you have to now work through that as an adult because it I'm sure it also had positive effects in learning how to cope with life, but comes with a price.
Dr. Michelle Yes, yes, yes! Thank you so much for putting this type of experience into a positive, healthy light. I’m learning as an adult that I still have that mindset of not talking back. I’m working to overcome that.
Same for me. I believe it's what makes us reserved and at times aloof. There is power in it. When you become passive in a conversation you'll notice people do tell on themselves.
Hello I grew up in a troubling household where my parents have never taught me proper feminine hygiene and self care. I had to learn about shaving and everything all by myself because my mother never felt that I was old enough for it even though I am about to be 18. Thank you so much for this video. It may seem like all of this is common sense but for some of us who was never taught any of this, this video is very helpful!
My household isn't troublesome but nobody told me about shaving and taking care of me as well. I have learnt through my friends, online articles, boyfriends and videos. I understand the necessity of someone feminine who will guide on these topics.
The 2 showers a day is big in Ghanaian households. I was shocked when I found out that two showers a day isn't the norm for everyone. Personally I like to shower in the morning before I go anywhere so i feel fresh and awake. The night time shower is the most necessary because you have been out and about all day, sweating, etc and I personally cannot sleep unless i have showered!
I think it makes a lot of sense in hot or humid climates! :) However, I live in Scandinavia, where it is generally colder, and we are taught to shower every morning, and after exercise. Since it is so cold, you don't sweat as much, as you would in a warmer country, so one is enough, unless you work out. :) And most people work out 2-4 times a week, so not every day.
When I went to Nigeria and didn't shower st night, my aunties openly told me I dirty. You bet I showered the next night, lol 😆. I was so confused because I was used to showering once a day. But my Aunt asked me if I want my dirt and sweat from the day to be in my bed. Yup, I now show twice a day. Hahaha
No offense but not everyone has the money (for a large water bill) or environmental allowance (because the country they live in just doesn’t supply or permit that much water to use) to be able to take 2 showers a day! We may want to take that many but we’re limited to 5 minutes of shower per day
I've always took two showers and i'm from a country where taking 1 shower in 3 or 4 days is the norme. But since i workout i take a shower in the morning and then go to uni and stuff and once i get home i take a second shower. Literaly the people i know thinks i'm crazy hahaha even my family they find excessive....
I only realize recently, being from the Caribbean, that taking two showers isn’t a regular thing. If you’re from a cold climate I can understand but living in the tropics or during the summer.. please take two baths. Also being from a water scarce country, you don’t need to use a gallon of water to bathe. You can even bathe with a bucket if you wanna be extra conservative so this high water bill thing isn’t making much sense to me unless the rates are absolutely ridiculous.
I was doing good on my feminine journey. My brother passed away from Covid and I'm slightly despondent. I know I should be moving on but, I don't feel like taking care of myself right now. I'm stuck. This virus is really affecting me. Thanks for your video Dr. Michelle. You always make me feel like I have a feminine friend. I will get back to myself eventually.
Take time to heal yourself sweetheart. Everything may not be like before but you will be fine. God is listening to your prayers. Stay blessed and hope your brother is in peace wherever he is.
I am 34 years old and I never learned any of this growing up. I have been feeling like I am too old to start this but YOU give me hope that it isn't too late. Thank you for taking the time to teach us this. You are like the sister I never had. Sending you so much love beautiful!!❤❤
I don’t want to make you cry BUT... I want to thank you for your content. I’ve lost myself in my past relationships and I had no one to turn to to help me remove my mental blocks. Thank you so much. You’re sooooooo appreciated. May God Bless you beautiful. 💋
My mother really never taught me anything that had to do with femininity and she was very closed off herself...I think that has really started to show now that I’m in my early 20’s. I have no one else to turn too, no sister or close friends that I feel comfortable sharing my thoughts or questions with but your videos have really helped me begin to change my life ❤️
i’m turning 18 soon and after being a childish tomboy all my life i finally feel called to really bloom into who i’m meant to be as a feminine woman because i’m growing up, figuring out who i am, working on having healthy habits, taking care of myself, helping my self esteem and confidence, starting my own life and am in a serious relationship now and embracing my femininity is really helping me in all areas of my life and you’ve truly helped me sooo much in that your content means a lot to me. i want to thank you for that. because of you i’m finally starting to feel like myself ❤️❤️ ❤️❤️ we love you too God bless you
I’m turning 18 in a week and this comment makes me feel better that I have been such a slob till now and reassured me that it’s not too late so thank u I hope u succeed on your journey❤️❤️❤️
Thank you. I am in my late 40’s and going into my second divorce. I have been on a journey that began seven years ago. An evolving into a better version of myself. Trust me when I say, God led me to your page. I am a believer and I prayed about the next phase of my sense of self. He led me here. ❤️ I am on my journey to unlearning negative mindsets and learning a new mindset.
I didnt realize just how necessary it is to have a good skin care and hair routine. But u can definitely see a difference between someone who does and someone who doesnt. Especially as we age.
I used to feel ugly because I got some issue with my skin. Then I would get angry when called ugly by friend who I told I felt ugly. They were envious and used my low self esteem against me. I also tried to be fake humble to ward off envy. I don't verbally abuse myself anymore. I feel pretty whole and complete. I work on leveling up my mind even about deserving to be treated nicely by generous men. I deserve the best.
I was raised in a Caribbean home and we bathe/shower twice a day ... standard... it's about being clean and not scrubbing like crazy as one sister mentioned ... nothing is more attractive then smelling nice and clean ... hmm. Being clean (external and internal) was taught to us (male and female) as being important just like having manners and etiquette... Love this video Sis xx
I think experiencing trauma for all my 25 years of living and having to suppress my emotions to even being told that I am irrational from your own mother makes you become 🙃 like I don't want to live. However, I am starting all over and you and other channels have helped me realized this. Thank you so much and I will take this into consideration.
I am sorry to hear about your pain. You are here for a purpose. God designed your life for a reason do not allow others to strip that away from you. I am happy to know that I am a part of your healing. Blessings and love
That yellow on you...😍 Even when I didn’t workout I shower/bathe twice a day. You have to cleanse yourself in the morning to get your day going...plus people don’t want to smell last night or your bed on you at work. And my mom taught me that you don’t get in your bed with the day on you!
Beautiful. This info is so needed. I’m soo tired of seeing bed hats, pajamas, bedroom slippers, I’ll-fitting clothing etc being worn by females in public. Just trashy and tacky looking. Some people don’t care how they look when they go out. It’s so nice hearing someone speak on how to bring out our “feminineness”. After being a nurse for 45+ years taking care of others I’ve retired and it’s time to take care of me. BION we really have to focus on what we can do for ourselves. Thank You for these videos. Keep them coming.
I created a skin care and body care routine in May and it changed my life. I never used to put lotion on. Mind you im in my late 20's. When I do my routine I feel loved and taken care of. It's a form of self love that every one needs
So many of us feel guilty about taking a significant amount of time for ourselves. That includes taking long showers. We need to stop that we deserve time for ourselves. You can get in the shower and you're already thinking about a million things that you need to be doing when you get out of the shower. On the other hand you'll notice that men get in the shower and they're in there for half an hour at least. Sometimes they even carry their phone in there and turn on music .
Two showers is it! The morning to wake up, the evening to get the day off of me, and relax. Emotions was an issue with me. I was raised in an environment where emotions were repressed or out of control. I repressed my emotions and never showed them. I have been called cold. But when I show my emotions, people get scared of me. So I'm learning
It has always been such a pleasure watching your videos. They are so therapeutic, nurturing, and healing. I haven't worn a dress in over 10 years until I started taking your feminine series seriously. I put everybody else first and just forgot about the woman I used to be. Because of you I've bought 3 cute dresses and I can't wait to wear them.God bless you richly
You made a huge impact on my feminine journey! Thank you so much Michelle. You are an amazing and beautiful person in and out! Sending a big hug and love from South Korea!
I grew up hearing my family always complaining about themselves and what they wanted to change about themselves. It wasn't until I was 21 and looked around at all of us at a family party and realized we weren't ugly. That sounds awful, but the way you speak about yourself also impacts the way others view you. It was insane having that realization one day.
Be blessed! I used to watch another lady, whose words I disapproved of sometimes, and then I bumped into your videos. I love the fact that you mentioned God. As we know, nothing is possible without him. Love from France!
I’m 39 and saying taking two bathes a day is new too me. I feel dirty as I’ve never heard of this. Me and mostly everyone I know was raised on taking a bath at the end of the night. 😫
I just discovered you and watched 2 videos already! At this point in my life I needed this change because as a mom I put everyone first then deal with myself last. So huge thank you!
You're always talking about colours and I'm listening to this video whilst working from home, so I can't see what you're wearing. But I just clicked on to press pause and I was blown away by the beauty, the colours you are wearing really compliment you and it made my day. Yes, just seeing your beauty made my day haha :D
Growing up I was always told I was too sensitive and too much. I was living with undiagnosed issues and my parents didn't even know, so while I don't really hold it against them I can't deny that it had a major impact on my emotions. I'm having to re-parent myself while trying to parent my two small children and it breaks me when I burst out the way it was done to me on my kids when they're emotionally upset and can't explain it... You can't teach what you don't know, thank GOD I have the sense to at least *try* to learn so I can be a better example to my kids. The cycle stops here!
May i give a suggestion for a future video? I love the content you produce and you show me that it's nice to be feminine. I struggle with time management and the willpower to even start with my journey. This is more on the mental side of things but i'd appreciate to hear your side and how you manage your time ❤ blessings
Thank you for this video. I grew up with a very emotionally unavailable mother. Always busy working, i never saw her pampering herself or nothing. But deep inside of me, i knew it wasn't the truth. I'm so happy being a woman, pampered and sexy. It's crazy how much girls are wounded in their feminity
I’m 14 and I’ve always been really feminine. Thank you so much for your advices and tips🥰 ly girl and your videos of course. And keep making videos. They really inspire me and other women as well❤️❤️
Oh my lord! How perfect are you at selecting your clothing and makeup colours 💕 You look alluring ❤️ Pleaseeee make a video how we can select the colors that look best on us💕
So thankful to find a strong beautiful woman to look up too. Grew up in a Ghanaian household as the only girl with 4 older brothers....now im a mother of a toddler and newborn in september i need to REALLY get it together so my daughters dont struggle like me with bad self worth esteem and negative thoughts from C-PTSD
I’ no longer have a menstrual cycle. I still shower in the morning and at night. I love exfoliating my skin. Sometimes I use a sugar scrub and some days I will do a dry scrub prior to showering. It is so relaxing. I had to learn to stop talking down about myself. For instance I use to refer to myself as fat, I’m too dark. It is so hard to break that habit.
Omg I feel you! Whenever I talk to God I always get emotional! Its hard to talk to God and not cry! Because you realise how loved you are and how good things are and how supported you are! 🙏✨
I also take 2 to 3 showers a day or even a shower and then a bath. I need to feel fresh before bed. I love your channel you have really great tips. I am so happy I found you.
I really dont want to make you cry😅 But you have such a beautiful soul. Im in a complicated season of my life and Im very lost. Your videos are helping me rediscover myself again and your voice just calms me down and encourages me to take on things slowly. Thank you so much! Stay healthy and safe and have a nice weekend 😇
I’ve been loving your videos, truly indulging myself into the advice you give. My life is changing and I can’t wait to embody the new woman I’m becoming ✨ Blessings to you Queen 👑
Neglecting my femininity was really pushing me back ! Just a while into this journey and I feel the changes, I'm so so much more positive, calm and kind. Overall more beautiful. I finally feel I'm becoming who I wanted to be for so long. Thank you Michelle, truly. I prepare my morning coffee and come watch your videos. ☕🌤️ Sending love from Brazil 💗
I am looking forward to seeing your meditation video. I really need it.. I’ve been struggling with my emotions & it’s been impacting my relationship with my boyfriend. I really need it, thanks Dr. Michelle
I'm from Trinidad it's hot there and in my household we take at least two or three showers a day I live in Florida now and I do the same I love you so much your videos are on point 💋🇹🇹
you are such a blessing in my life! You have challenged me to start this new journey on loving myself more intentionally. You feel like the big sister I never had yet always wanted ! thank you ! & continue to be Blessed ! Glory to God!
Really? Push back for two showers? What do said women do if they're menstruating then? From this, to the sweat that accumulates from working out, corona virus, hot weather and dirt from pollution, two showers are key.
@@linaoyara7529 I'm not sure why people say that, there are ways to clean without drying the skin. One of the showers can be a cooler shower and with natural organic soaps/or just a shower to rinse off. If they use soaps with high sulfates and blazing hot water, of course it's going to be drying. Medical advice is often given with generalizations, because they have to appeal to people who have the lowest education levels in our society, but everyone should still be aware that it's not a one size fits all. It's easier to tell people not to clean chicken and not to clean themselves too much than to explain on a deeper level how they can avoid harm if they do want to do extra cleaning.
I live in a really cold climate. Showering before leaving my house, or before bed will make me sick. I can only shower once a day or sometimes I'll skip a day if I've not gone anywhere/exercised. In warm countries, 2 showers are necessary, but when you live somewhere extremely cold and your skin is already dry/tight from the climate and you don't sweat, then 2 showers a day is a death sentence.
I also have a feeling people have different definitions of showering. For me, showering means getting fully under running water and usually washing my hair and some people here are talking about bucket baths with washcloths and mean the same thing. So to me, I take one shower a day in the morning. Showering again during the same day happens, but only when necessary. With my definition of showering, taking two full showers everyday sounds a bit excessive and 3-4 absolutely unnecessary. I wash my pits and private parts every morning and evening, more often when I’m on my period. Freshening up 3-4 times during a hot day or when on period sounds fairly normal. I’m white woman living in a Nordic country.
All I can say is thank you! I cry once a day as well....they are not always sad tears....sometimes they are just because tears.... so happy to have stumbled on your channel
