1.) They Change Their Story Based on Who They’re Talking To
Imagine a narcissist is trying to avoid responsibility for a mistake at work.
To one coworker, they might say, “I had the report done on time, but the computer crashed and I lost everything.”
To another, they might claim, “I was waiting on information from someone else, and they never got it to me.”
They adjust their lie to suit the person they’re speaking to ensure they’re using the most believable version.
If they truly believed in their own words, there wouldn’t be a need to switch stories; the truth doesn’t change based on the audience.
2.) They Get Defensive When Questioned
For example, if a narcissist tells a friend, “I was at the gym last night,” but the friend knows the gym was closed, the narcissist might react with anger when challenged, saying something like, “Are you calling me a liar?!”
If they were confident in their honesty, a simple clarification or proof would suffice rather than an emotional outburst aimed at making the other person back down.
3.) Quick to Blame Others to Divert Attention
When a narcissist lies and feels they might be caught, they often shift blame to others as a diversion tactic.
By shifting blame, they not only try to divert attention from their lie but also imply their wrongdoing is actually someone else’s fault.
This maneuver shows they understand their original statement was untrue, as they’re prepared with an alternative explanation that removes personal blame.
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7 сен 2024
