#32 Why 20somethings Are Single Pt. 2 |  

I think I'm single because I have growing to do. Growing into myself, my relationship with God and the relationships He has called me to. I believe the same is true for whomever God has for me. When the time comes where we're better off together and apart, God will bring us into each other's path. Until then my job is to seek God, and put my effort into what He calls me to. Not letting my talents go to waste, but cultivating the gifts He has given me.

Just found your channel and it is great! I am 34 and love being single! I'm sure being un-single would be fun too, but it is great to read 1 Corinthians 7 and know that a perk to being unmarried is that my full devotion belongs to the Lord! However, I continue to learn that it is hard to give my full devotion to the Lord even when I'm single! (My devotion to Netflix might need evaluation! Ha!) While it is awesome to grow in faith and devotion to the Lord as a single, I know that it can also grow and be sharpened with someone who is also serving and seeking the Lord. Single, dating or married will each bring the same as well as new challenges, for which we can depend on the Lord! Thank you for this little series; I want my desire to be that I am content and equipped to live as a single, Christian woman, while I am! So, thanks again!

You made a very valid point on your last bit about this. Men just aren't pursuing like they use to. Most of them have become so shy or too scared. AND some women have become so hard to approach. We have to think. It takes courage for a man to approach us, and many of us get all rude and "I don't need a man" attitude when they do approach us. But that's all just my opinion :)

#storyofmylife 😂 😃 Thank you for sharing! I totally agree there is not really place to meet like minded individuals around the same age. I go to a rather large church but still find it hard to find a like minded man. There is very slim pickings.

I can't speak for everyone but for me marriage and having a beautiful godly relationship are dreams that have been put into my heart. However I think I need to grow more In God before I can be with someone else. also relationships terrify me, they take time and work, they don't always work out and it seems like no matter how much I have prayed and asked God if the relationship with so and so would be ok it never works out. it's that possibility that I will be hurt again or misunderstood. I guess relationships are a risk and right now I am content with being single. I'm not ready to take that risk 😃

I didn't realize they were a lot of young christian singles, thought it was just the older Christians like me, but your time will come Jamie Grace. You are too beautiful inside and out.

So spot on. You nail your last point about it being hard to meet someone. I know in my life & my friends' lives even when we have met someone who possibly has potential, it's often in a smaller setting like church. The instant you have a conversation just the two of you, 20 people start to analyze your relationship and future before there even is one. So, it scares people away from wanting to even meet someone.

I have noticed at my church that the young women our age are ready to find that relationship and get married, but all of the Christian guys our age are no where near ready to be in a relationship or to settle down. From talking with a few friends their congregation is the same way. It all comes down to the maturity and mind set that we have. The hardest part that I have is meeting like minded Christian our age. Not just for relationships, but for lasting friendships. We all need to find a way to lean on each other through this waiting period. God will always provide if it is in His plan!

Love love love this! Thank you for making this video. As a 22-year-old girl waiting for the guy God has for her, I needed this. :D

I hope you know that your messages about singleness are so encouraging. Thank you :)

Thank you for such a positive advice. Love you Jamie Grace. You are Amazing! God is good ❤

Jamie Grace I cannot deal with u!!! 😂😂😂😂 You are so funny! I agree with all the points in this vid and pt 1.

i believe God meant for you to be single right now to make these videos to your subscribers who worry about being single :) thank you jamie xoxo

Your such a great example of being content where God has you

You're always so positive about life....God bless you richly💕💕

I agree! Especially with #3. I LOVE my church and they are my family, but there are not other guys my age. I have been searching to a 20 somethings group that meets on a week night and am so excited to finally have found one!

i totally agree with all your points most especially the wanting "Mr/Ms perfect" but truly the men and women we admire, the couples have both built each other to what they are and we all must realize that quickly enough. On the other hand i myself am very picky not only with the opposite sex but even food,cloths just everything guess need to torn down on that part too but in it all, thank you so much Jamie, learnt something

Ahh Jamie G I love this!!(: (btw I'm the girl who interviewed you ab Christianity in Hollywood a couple months ago!) I tweeted a pic of our skype awhile back on my Twitter @michellekriso ! Love your videos forreal girl!

watching this...i remember a while back my friend thought of making a place like a hangout where young people who believe in christ and have like minded values and interests like playing pool...dancing to appropriate music...or jamming session....like a youth hangout place...it would be fun...

I have some suggestions!! No, a bar is not a place to find your future husband! That's a great start. So here's some other places I have met nice guys. Note that I am single. But yet, still socializing with people I haven't met before while in public. I believe I'm probably going to meet my husband in some sort of setting like that... But here's a few places I've gone: dog parks, any park really, Barnes & noble, coffee shops, various stores, literally just on the street. I also have no issues walking up to people to make small conversation if I want to. That probably helps too.. But I'm just saying, there's so much more out there then bars & clubs. I don't want anyone who hangs out there anyway. We'd probably have nothing in common.

you are so wise!!! ...speaking of dancing...I would love to hear you sing "dance like David danced"...your voice is unique...plus my son likes your songs...I would like him to hear that song with your voice...trying to put songs in his heart that glorifies God...the worlds music is pulling him....blessings to you!!!

God Bless You!💕 Love the message💕Amen!💕

Thank you for the encouragement. One of the hardest things I've done is dating while working in the ministry. It is tough to find people my age that are that have the desire for ministry in the local church. I know that God has a plan though. Content but desiring!

Thank you Gracie. Love your music. Why there are too many single people.1. Everyone is into themselves.2. We lost our moral grounding 3. Marriage laws have an attorney attached4. Do we really want to get married - we have too much of good thing going. I do not want anyone telling me what to do mentality. I have my own money. I see most women are the ones responding to this post, don't gang up on me lol.

I agree we are all too picky, I know for a fact at this time, I probably would not be single if I weren't as picky about the trivial things.Thanks Jamie!!!

Your parents must be wonderful people, they raised a wise child☺️

Jamie, you've always been a big inspiration to me, and have helped me developed my confidence in myself for being single. If you asked me a month ago what my thoughts were on dating at my age, I would've said no way. But I met a guy I really like. Well, more like noticed how much I liked a guy that I already knew. He is now my boyfriend. I love him, and I love being in a relationship with him, but I feel like I am letting "past me" down. Like I should've stayed true to that standard. But I also don't see the problem in dating him. We both love God, and kind of share that same intentions view you always talk about. I have conflicting views that are hard to explain and confusing, even to myself, but I was hoping that maybe you could offer an outside point of view.

I would add that many girls are taught (especially in black families) to get an education and a career before even considering a romantic relationship.

I got married when I was 21. like you said it's ultimately about God's plan for our lives and when he chooses to release a spouse. about the issue of not having enough opportunities to meet the right person I think the solution for that is just prayer and discernment. A lot of persons are seek to meet their spouse in certain areas like church school or like you said Club and they do that for years and find nobody. and then one day in the coffee shop or at the post office or just anywhere like that is where they would meet the love of their lives so i would say to pray for that opportunity that God will allow and orchestrate that moment for you to meet the person for you and that it will all be in His will. God bless u!

awesome girl, great example for your generation, great example for my teenager daughters

God has someone for us let's not rush God knows the right time for everyone I feel.

I'm a 32 year old female and I'm still single. The desire to marry is deep set in me but it just hasn't happened for me yet. I think one reason were still single is because God is still prepping us! Over the past year when I've talked to folks about wanting to marry they ask "What are doing to prepare for it?" At first I had no answer. But the Lord has grown me so much in the past year and I know He's preparing me for marriage one day. It's just all a matter of God's timing.

"my solution to all this? i don't have one"😂😂😂😂😂😂

Jamie, you are so awesome 😃👌🏼

😂😂😂 Hi Jamie! 😊 I'm a fan from South Africa and I just had to comment after I heard you mention, 'Steph and Ayesha Curry' lol I also love them 🙊💃🏽

you are defiantly meant for me Jamie trust me :)

I'm not in my twenties, but I think that so many people are so afraid of taking the first step, if they do find someone they are interested in, because they're afraid that if they ask, it'll just be straight up rejection. It's really nerve wracking trying to weed out the deets, and collect info from your friends, and just trying to figure it all out, and it's just exhausting sometimes. I'd say people need to be a little more courageous. Have faith in yourself.

Great video! And I totally agree that there aren't many places to connect with single Christian guys... :/ Guess we'll have to see what God has in mind for us singles

Good video, thanks for sharing. I think another reason a lot of Christian women are single is that when it comes to ratios there are more young women in the church typically then men. Could you do a video on having/making non-Christian friends? It sounds like your views on clubs and drinking are pretty strict. How do you navigate that with your non Christian friends. I mean I think a good way of connecting is going out to a pub for a drink and doing life together, and sometimes soberly getting ones dance on. Would be interested in your thoughts.

as a 20 something christian woman, can you discuss the issue of being healthy and working out but not being over obsessive with self image and body weight and finding that balance???

Maybe we're single 'cause we stay looking for a perfect love story or we're single 'cause we have difficult to make our friends part of our day to day and because this they can't know more about us to be interested in. (kisses from Brazil, We love your videos)

We are the same person. Lol love this!

Jamie Grace I loved your video I'm 29 and I wished many times to find miss right, but nowadays it's not always easy,most of the girls and the women I've met in my life are shallow headed &materialistic all i can say is she has to be your soulmate,likeminded person who you don't have to explain yourself to her in every detail that's the most important aspect to me.

I think it's also a matter of dying to our own views of marraige. ppl are disenchanted with the alternatives to singleness( stuck with the wrong person, family destroying divorce, infidelity etc), so why get married. the world is big on that grey area. many Christian twenty somethings dont want to be in the grey but havent sat down and created a personal viewpoint for marraige based on what the Word says. if we see marriage as an option to end loneliness we don't have the right mindset, but if we see it as a ministry it changes everything. I love u r message and these videos are awesome. question: have u read the dating manifesto by Lisa Anderson? she has a lot of input on the topic

Jamie let me just say you and I would be great friends! Every time I watch one of your videos it seems as if you've read my mind! As a college student that doesn't drink or go to clubs, as well as working part-time, it's hard to find a guy with the faith and the heart that I'd wish to be with. Besides if I do find that right guy someday, I want to be the woman that he'd want for a wife, and that just means I need to keep seeking the Lord!

Not a lot of places to meet the right places!!! But God still does His thing!! how He brings souls together is amazing!!!

Speaking for myself I think we may be we have some growing to do regarding some aspects in having a relationship and God is preparing us to receive that someday spouse but until then, let's keep growing!

Like you said, us as humans try to find the perfect person to match the high standards we put on ourselves due to what i said on the previous video, it takes time, as long as you know what you want out of a mate, he/she will find you.

i think the meeting people is such a big factor. my mum's always like marry a christian guy at like church or bible study group in the future but i feel like that is actually so rare. if you havent already please check out 'breelovesbeauty' and her vlogging channel too! She is a beautiful young christian with a great boyfriend of faith and shes so helpful just like jamie

I think a lot of people are single because they are still waiting on someone they're compatible with. It's one thing to be saved and another to meet someone saved and who shares interest. Stay encouraged too sister! God's gonna send that man to you and you're gonna be like, "I like you way more than 'Just a Friend'." (Get it? Like your song?)Haha 😆🙌

I agree with everything you said......

My brother is in the air force my dad and step dad both served in the military

Marriage or more importantly a great marriage is such a concern for single Christians, that a lot of us can be scared to death of messing up (maybe again) and the marriage not working out, so many Christians are just afraid of marriage because the Church pounds this message into our brains of how important marriage and family is. These things are of course, but trying to get it right because divorce is not supposed to be an option for us Christians is ultimately sort of scary, unlike in the secular world where if you marry the wrong person you can just get a divorce and move on down the road to the next person...

Nice job! 👍

Jamie Grace, have you seen ChaseGodtv on RU-vid? You guys should do a collab! If you haven't, look it up!

Hi Jamie G. Let my God blesse you about your sound it beautiful day, i lake it so much, thanks.

Also, so true! I have been surrounded by girls and guys nowhere near my age for the past 2 years (and it wasn't much better before that). But that has probably helped me to focus on waiting for God's timing. :D

I love you Jamie!! role model for sure!! I'll imitate you imitate Christ ( Paul's words😂) you're cool!! I share all your beliefs!!! yes I'm single!! yes I'm 21!! yes my parents have a perfect marriage too❤❤❤❤ love you dad!!! good tips!!!

haha oh Jamie, I love you! I wish I could tell you why I'm single. I wish YOU could tell me why I'm single! haha. Okay, I know in the greater scheme of things it's because God has me in a place, doing something I couldn't do if I were married and I can look back on the past five years and say the same, but in the here and now I'm like, "what is going on?!". The hardest thing for me is that people *think* I'm too picky, but there have been two guys in the past year I would've gladly let pursue me if they'd wanted to. One of them I actually ended up initiating a DTR with, which was super hard for me because I so desire to be pursued but this guy was a super close friend and I couldn't let the friendship continue to just go on with my heart in the place it was. That was so hard, and I still struggle with wondering why he doesn't feel the same as me. Like you say, there aren't a whole lot of places to find great guys! So when you do find one and they don't feel the same you kinda feel like you just found a needle in a haystack and then lost it again :/ I'm even trying the eharmony/ChristianMingle thing, and it's still hard. So honestly, I agree with all your points and don't have much to add other than sometimes it's just not what God has for us yet! A wise counselor told me, "Is it really that these guys don't like you or is it that God has you single right now for a reason and either he isn't the right guy for you and God has someone better, or he isn't ready for you right now". It's so hard not to rush when you're 26 and all you've ever wanted was to get married, but I know I don't want to impede the work God is doing in my future husband right now by stepping on the scene too early, and I certainly don't want to force anything!

Perfect video Jamie. Im also 24 and love beeing single. I think its hard to find young people with a good mind today...here in brazil is! All guys my age are sooooo imature 😱 And agree.. not a lot of places we could meet someone 😜

My daughter (27 beautiful girl) were just talking about this. Can't say we came up wit "the " answer😕 we did seem to think that millennials take the commitment more serious and yes people are looking for that perfect person. I think they have seen so much divorce they are afraid of not choosing the right person and therefor the bar get raised higher.

Agree wth you Jamie a guy who treats you right is what matters and trust in the lord for sure my ex would always fight with me about going to church and I don't think it's a bad thing yup I have a guy at church idk if likes but yea your so right their isn't much ways to find Christian guys my sis served love her.

This is just a theory, but I believe many 20 somethings are single because they are in a particular season of where God just simply wants them to be single. It is a grace and a gifting to be patient and content where you are. Also not letting somethings or someone go will block from advancing to the next season in life. Being obedient to Gods plan is a must! One more thing: reminding God of the desires of our heart! and trusting in Him and his sovereignty. And another thing. Ask yourself this...are you truly READY to advance? Tell God what you want in a Man! And trust that His ways are perfect toward us, and we need not get frustrated in the singleness. When we don't get what we want when we want it...yes! ITS HARD to be patient and wait, but it CAN be done through the gracing of God :-) He's our #1 Sustainer! Psalms 37:3-4. "Trust in the Lord and do good!! Dwell in the land of safe pasture. Delight yourself in the Lord and HE will give you the desires of your heart."

You should create an app & or dating/meeting site for young Christians! I mean I have the same problem with not being able to meet any good Christian people. I know there is Christian mingle but this could be centered around young adults wanting to meet new friends or a boyfriend/girlfriend. You could get something really great going!

One must always remember what the Bible says concerning situation like these. Proverbs 18:22 WHOSOEVER FINDS a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord. Let him find you. whenever it comes to being unequally yoked 2 Corinthians 6:14, it is very important that you read this with Godly understanding when it comes to marriage and relationships read 1 Corinthians 7th chapter in it's entirety.

I think we are still single becuase God is guiding us to a state of maturity and comfort in our being. I always look at Cody Carnes and Kari Jobe, for example, they waited and in their purity they set an example to us. Btw, do you so happen to be friends with them too?

SOMEONE PLEASE FIND A SOLUTION BECAUSE I AM IN THE EXACT SAME PLACE IN LIFE

Great video! You have a beautiful spirit! I can already sense in my gut that God is going to bless you with a singer to marry. lol Watch!

6:20 was the highlight of the video lol

trust me Jamie grace we will be together soon....keep looking out the window for me I'll be there soon

Oh and love you Jamie grace

I'm single and dont desire to be married is that weird?

A lot of single Christians I know they've missed their chance bc they wait for their parents approval ...they don't wait to feel the love between them and the opportunity....but instead they wait for their parents to approve and they miss out on gods plan ...if you feel the love and feelings pray and go for it ...it's important to have parents approval but don't base your life off of what your mom and dad say ....you will miss gods Devine plan

I have to say I'm in the same boat. No place to meet/mingle with Christians the same age as me, and most of the people I get along with and know are older/mentor type people. That and I don't think it's for me to start dating, that's the majority as to why I'm single.

😂😂😂 not appropriate for my spirit lol I feel this way about many pop songs. thank you once again for this content, I too am single since birth 24 year old. to answer the question, I'm very single because I don't believe in dating just to date when guys did approach me but now that I'm out of school myself, there's not a single place (maybe Walmart or the gas station) that I can meet someone. Jamie, or anyone, what are you guys thoughts on online dating for Christians? not specifically Christian mingle lol

Hey idk about anyone else but for me alot of ppl ask the same question. Why arent u married yet? And for me it all comes down to waiting. At any time i can go and pursue a man but that's just not me. Only because when the Lord is ready for me to have a spouse he will provide one for me and if I go and pursue someone I will miss out on the spouse the Lord has for me. Only the Lord knows best for me and he will pick out the best for me and that's what I tell people. Whether this man can sing and play guitar like me or he's the best with kids than I am if I go and pursue someone I will miss out on whatever the Lord has 💕

Some of us are 40 somethings and still single. It sucks....

jamie grace!!!!

This made me laughhhhh

whaha your so funny XD as to the question why?? girl i dont know... i have dated a few ladies before that i thought where "wifey material" just to put it a bit blunt but hey they dint want to continue.. and i was like are you kidding me do you even know how awesome i am? :P haha but i guess everyone is looking for that feeling of "your the one!" and if that doesnt happen right away they just think nah your not it. (this doesn't apply to everyone obviously)

This is soooooo me.

#3 preach

talk more about being single!!! more more more!!!!

I think there are a lot of single pringles because they want God to be their focus instead of finding a man/woman. It's best to wait for someone to come to you in the future than to seek everywhere you go to find someone that my not be the best for you.

I think we are single because I feel there are not many christ-like men as there are women. It could be my mind playing tricks on me, but that's how I honestly feel. I think to myself...should I just settle for someone who kind of likes Christ or just knows his name? Then immediately I remember...well that would defeat the whole purpose of marriage and dating (as a christian) for me. I don't think jumping into a relationship that will not help or may even hurt my relationship with Christ is the answer. We know our purpose is not just to be married to anyone, but to become one with Christ first...so I don't think I can settle (spiritually speaking), so that's why we are single and waiting for a christ-like guy. Im 23 going on 24 in 2 weeks so I understand. I'll just keep doing me and trust God (I know we are all tired of hearing this lol) that God's plan will prevail...whatever that is.

Praying that God will bring a God fearing, God loving, christian man into your life hun❤️

I agree that there aren't any places where you can meet single Christian people except for church ha

some day my prince will come, or maybe I can go find him. lol

Helloo

I think that this is #32

i love you

What about if you are dating a guy who does not believe in God, but you do? Isn't it possible to influence them? I notice the bible says that you can marry someone who doesn't know Christ because you can influence them to accept Christ. Hmm what are your thoughts on dating someone who is not Christian? :)

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ear Jamie and your single followers, please read 1 Corinthians 7. Paul is speaking about these very things. Marriage is a gift and it is a great joy to have kids with my faithful husband but as Paul points out my concerns are divided. I long to serve my heavenly father but I must also think about what pleases my husband and how to raise my children. I cannot so easily put my life on the line for my faith knowing how much it would effect the people I love most. Perhaps God knows you well enough to know that you would not be happy living this divided life at this time. He is taking you as far as you can run wholly devoted to Him, saving a multitude of souls from the lies of this world before He will let you settle down into that divided life which i am sure you will want to give your all to as well. Trust me it is almost painful to Love God as we do and also love a mere mortal nearly as much. It is truely the greatest feat of the human heart. Enjoy loving God with all u got now. The rest will come as God wills it. Inspired by all you have done at your age.

1.they should focus mire on jesus then looking for a man or wife cause if you focus more on got and not about the future love of youre life at some point jesus is going to give youre future husband or wife . 2. we can also just pray to jesus christ ar lord an saviour if can show us or give us or future spouse 3. God father has a plan for our lives focus on that first. 4. Ask God father for patience ( hopefully i spelled that rigth) 5. Youre future spouse is part of that plan that God father has for you !!!! wait for the rigth time!!!! 6. DO NOT FEAR THAT YOU ARE NEVER GOING GET MARRIED OR FALL IN LOVE READ Job 7.AND DO NOT GO AFTER SOMEBODY CAUSE YOU HAVENT FIND THE ONE PATIËNCE IS REALLY IMPORTANT. 8. Last but not least HAVE FAITH AND BELIEVE THAT YOU WILL RECIEVE 😊

God hasn't brought "the one" into their life yet. Everything happens in God's time.

When you are looking for that someone think about how the relationship should be like it should ofcourse be a JESUS CHRIST CENTERD RELATIONSHIP !!!!!!!! and you guys need to know that you should get married at the end! Cause if your relationship is not focused on JESUS CHRIST AT JESUS CHRIST IS. NOT THE CENTER EITHER . And YOU GUYS DO NOT HAVE GOAL then it is all based on feelings and has no point and WILL fall apart.