4 Myths About Being a Single Catholic (w/ Lillian Fallon) 

This is encouraging to hear. Thanks. God bless your family. Can you share the novena to St Joseph you did?

@@lindaoforka I don't know if my link worked on the other post, but EWTN has a very nice one. You should be able to search for it

Amazing story

Praise God, and Amen!

That is encouraging to hear. I'm 32 and most days I fear that it's over for me

Ask for the intercession of Sts. Anne and Joachim. They suffered similar negativity as you have experienced for being childless. Yet God's plan for them was incredible. God bless.

I really do understand your plight sis, am also a Nigerian barely turning 27 by this month end but everyone is just at me as though something is wrong with me

There are at least one billion Catholics in this world . Fifty million of those Catholics might be your marriage partner . How hard can it possibly be to find somebody to marry ?

@@globelove_ go to a SSPX Mass, plenty of seriously CATHOLIC men!😊

Cultural expectations and people's pettiness can be really crappy to endure. You're right though it's them not you.

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I'm Hispanic too and single, 26 years old one of the things I blame myself for when I think about this is having not been interested in high school and only until it was in college to date. And did that contributing to the singleness and it's absolutely very not true. I am holding out hope that if the Lord Wills I will be in a relationship but also I have learned and am learning still a journey and a process that if I am going to be single then it's okay because the lord always has my back and I don't have to worry about being lonely for the rest of my life or anything like that. My cousins are all around my age so that definitely doesn't help with the Hispanic family culture

@@gloriarodriguez3721 I'm 27 and also didn't date in college. Pray for your future spouse and for you to enjoy this time. It hurts and it's painful but I feel God is calling me to singleness in this season and it's a time to learn and grow

Oh yeah I've given up on attending weddings -- can't do it

We got this, J!

Why not leave the western world?

Rowing along in this boat! All the best to you!

“Preparing a home” made me smile :,) God bless~ May that home be a place of comfort for yourself and those you will love in the future

I think it’s easier if we as Catholics open up our dating pool to Protestants. I feel the core values are the same as with Catholics. Jesus being our savior and our relationship to God being number 1.

eugh!! A guy told me I was going to shrivel up if I didn't have babies soon. Like, where do these guys come from!? haha Thank you for sharing your experience!! It's always so inspiring to hear what other people's paths to their vocations look like!

Congratulations. You're lucky it happened for you.

Wow. Your story is so uplifting. I'm 39 and still single. You are right, it's all about God's timing. Congrats!!!! Blessings on your 💑

There are so many stores from the Bible and Tradition which speak to God's grace coming into the lives of much older couples. Let those examples be your prayer inspiration. Haters are going to hate.

Thank you for sharing this, I am also 38 but have not met anybody yet! I realize now how in the video she says she had to let God work. I was a control freak about solving my singleness. However I feel in my heart my future spouse will come when God knows I am ready. Thank you for sharing and Congratulations 🎉🎈🎊🍾

Stay willing and open to God’s will in each moment Bill. Who ever down voted you is a 🤡 Keep the faith brother 🙏🏻⚔️🛡🕊

Good bless brother

@@rick6272 Thanks for the encouragement and kind words. 🙏🏻

Ask the Lord what His will is there are a lot of single converts who are passionate about Christ…. And I’m sure you have heard 1000 times pray and ask if He has called you to the priesthood

@@caedanjennings Thanks for the encouragement. I've been praying and pondering about that a lot-also, a deacon. Or a monk. I'm hard of hearing by birth, and there is a lack of access for me to a sign language interpreter in courses. I do have a burden for the Deaf and HOH Catholics and desire to serve them. I pray that there is something that is a door for me to go in to start somewhere. Pray for me. 🙏🏻 Thanks.

I just turned 25 and I'm in the same boat! When I was in high school I hoped to be married by now, but now I know that it's not too late and hopefully I'll meet a Catholic man to marry eventually!

Incredible, your sixteen. You sound very smart, you have a bright future. Your story reminded me of myself in highschool, it was a nightmare dodging easy sex to stay devout. I'm not going to lie if your not really pursuing dating, or considering that maybe you can help a girl find her way back to the one true church, your in for a hard road. I'm 35 now, still no bueno. I too have almost 20 nieces and nephews like this woman in the video, I don't think I'm better than anyone, faith is a gift, and being devout takes work, I had 15 years of construction under my belt by the age of 32, just finished writing a book, and if it ever gets really hard consider writing one too. Or something else, it helps you reconnect with the holy spirit. Reality is hard, these girls don't walk with signs that say they are Catholic. I'm an usher at my church and no one really talks to you. I don't believe in dating sites. I think of myself as traditional. All I'm saying is it's ok to be a friend with girls if they ain't the right one, and if you do want a relationship maybe don't do what I did and wait, or think being a nice guy will get noticed. I only get noticed for my truck etc... And that doesn't do it for me, I like good morals. Might have to think outside the box. But don't ever let a woman tell you when your a man, not even your mom. Or your dad. I was the right hand man number one guy for three different companies, two of my bosses were veterans, all were my friends. And I don't talk to them anymore. Never give up on God. Most people find their way to God through their kids or an experience, while I have had experiences as well, a man's 20's are the hardest and can be the loneliest, I found my way to God really as an adult man through Jesus. He truly is man incarnate. A real person. God Hero. My savior. King of Kings. I would give my life for him, and hopefully someone else if I had too. There is always improvements when we take on our duty. I use to feel stupid all the time, so I quit smoking pot 4 years ago, still no wife. I think sometimes I'm too damaged. But I feel so loyal and honest. I want to be alone but I know that's not necessarily the best thing for me. I considered priesthood but my heart still has hope for a family. Prayer is real and it helps me, but falling into desolation is a trap. Helping others is really the only thing that makes you feel good if it gets so bad. Take my wisdom please. God bless. Your brother in Christ.

@@robertmontoya8915 Thank you for your kind words and for taking the time to write this advice. It means a lot that you'd share with me your own faith journey. Congratulations on quitting smoking by the way! I pray to God that you'll continue to keep that up and stay strong despite temptations. And I can't imagine the things you've been through. Life is full of beautiful, amazing moments, but it has it's fair deal of hardships too. However, as tough as they may be, they really can draw us closer to Christ. Mother Teresa once said that all the pain she's been through has led her right to Jesus on the cross and that allowed her to be close enough to our Lord that He could bend down and kiss her head. So the struggles we face, if given to Christ, have a purpose. We can grow and learn from each experience we have, knowing that God is greater than any mistake or failure or sin. I sometimes think I'm too far gone as well. But that couldn't be further from the truth. We're all works in progress, and God would never give up on us. In fact, we're the ones who often give up on Him. So may we pray for the strength to persevere, the humility to go to Him in all things, and the love to let Him lead us wherever He wants. It's nice to know I'm not alone in relationship struggles, and I pray that you'll continue to cling to the Catholic faith. I pray that one day you'll be able to start the family you hope for with the right person. I like Ephesians 3:20 (at least I think it's 3:20 😅) a lot, because it's a solid reminder that whatever we hope for, God promises to give us something even better and beyond our imagination. Thank your for your encouragement once more! And if you need anything, whether it be a prayer or a virtual hug, don't be afraid to reach out. ~Your sister and fellow "saint in training" in Jesus Christ 😊

@@lovemovedfirst7710 being married to someone who doesn’t love God is excruciatingly lonely. Praying regularly and meetin God in Prayer is more awesome tan any human relationship ❤🎉😅

@@granmabern5283 I can imagine...not being able to share what's most important to you with one of the closest people in your life sounds like a struggle. I'm actually trying to discern something similar to that right now. Whether it's worth being in a relationship with someone who isn't Catholic. And it really something that each individual has to pray to God about because everybody has a different situation and people in their lives. In the end though, as you said, God is the greatest Love we could ever have, the One we're truly longing for, and whether we're single or not, we should go through life with peace in our hearts, because we know life is indeed a love story between us and our Lord Jesus Christ. Are you married to someone who isn't Catholic?

@@lovemovedfirst7710 He is becoming more Catholic over the decades....it’s kind of snowballing, now, which is lovely. Thanks be to God.

PREACH IT! Shared faith does not in itself merit a healthy relationship

Yes! I fell into the same trap at one point. Was dating a Catholic man for a very long time, we had very little in common but I would often tell myself he was Catholic, his family was Catholic, they were very devout. It was part of the reason why I stayed with him for so long (for over a year) even though looking back he definitely wasn't the right guy for me. It's hard because we are surrounded by people who don't share our faith, and finding a Catholic man who actually wants a relationship with you is hard.

YESSSSSSSSS!!!!!🔥

Yesssss. I saw something once that said "do I actually like him or did he just capitalize the M in Mass"

Marriage needs to be something entered into completely freely in order to be valid as well. So marrying someone because of pressure to get married, either pressure from society at large or from other Catholics, could be grounds for annulment later on.

Yep, it's pretty much exactly what she said it is

Yeah, it’s even worse when you’re single because you’re not good enough for anyone, like me

Oh, man, this feels so similar to my situation, with the difference that I'm still not successful in my career and struggle with regular confessions. You seem to be doing great and remind me that I should focus on becoming better and grow in these fields! All the best to you!

Your story mirrors mine. It's so easy to blame singleness on appearance when you're someone who's struggled with weight. It's just simply not true. I can't say why God keeps us all single for different amounts of time, but I love that you're using your singleness to focus on your relationship with God and work on the "faults" as you call them. I, too, should be getting to confession more often. Thanks for the inspiration! :)

Men are the ones who open the door to relationships. While women open the door to sex. It's frustrating being a woman when you show interest in a man and make it obvious but they never ask you out xD

He is a good God. The challenges and the tears are bitter but I believe this is how God wants me to grow in a deeper relationship with him.

Amen 🙏🙏💜

@CrownRoyalMaple for sure!

Some people are good at being alone. Others crave love from another person outside their family. God DID in fact create man and woman for each other so i get why.

Married people are obsessively wanting you to date. That's because they want to date. Single people want to marry. Old people are just happy being alive for another day.😏🌕

I was going to say the same thing myself..........when something takes up that much of your time and energy it becomes an idol, it consumes you. And when something consumes you(other than God)you'll bring suffering upon yourself.

30 and single is A WORLD of difference from 40+ and single!

She would also make a WONDERFUL religious sister, or just amazing single person that helps her brothers and sisters in Christ.

God doesn't "make" husbands. Singles have to meet and date. Parishes used to help with that by being socially active with events and a social network. Those days are gone.

Hi Ada I’m a catholic man since me your IG

Hey Hannah! Just wanted to say hi haha

@@TradGuyTravels I do! hanalexie:)

@@michelgellad8666 hi, Michel! :)

@@hannahalexie5158 Hannah! I’m 29, single, and Catholic! Pretty much on the same boat lol Dating a Catholic has been a challenge! I’d love to get to know you and see where this goes. Just search me on fb, I’m easy to find. If I’m your type, let me know :)

@@michelgellad8666 I added you :)

😇 May God Bless You Always! 😇

So true. And truly practicing Catholics are VERY RARE. Like no sex before marriage or natural family planning. Unicorns are easier to find.

Single life is not a vocation

If you want singleness why not become a priest or consecrated laity

@@Baraodojaguarysome of us want to do Gods will but still having trouble accepting that will be singleness. So in effect we want to be single, but still can’t be satisfied with it until we’re able to grow our faith enough to trust Him fully. We don’t all grow into it instantly. Rather we dwell in loneliness praying for a way out of it without being able to understand that the only solution for loneliness is through Christ. Along the way we get to offer Him our suffering as we learn the difference between self centered love and authentic love, we get to learn how to break our patterns of lust, sloth, gluttony, addictions and other defects we have as coping mechanisms for loneliness that easily devolves into depression, low self esteem and self worth. Loneliness creates a host of issues that make us poor choices as spouses and can only be resolved with relief from the suffering of loneliness and that can only be done through Christ but my selfishness says that I want to be relived of the pain now while in reality the pain won’t subside until I’m able to fully accept my state in life. In reality, the pain of singleness, while it certainly does hurt and has days I can’t even get out of bed if I decide to live in my thoughts, when I push through it to be of use to others and strive for Gods will for them above my own I’m no longer in my head and I’m practicing loving Christ in others. When I find myself lusting over someone I immediately pray that God finds them a suitable partner that is right for them and ask that He finds me a suitable partner for myself and for the discernment to recognize it. This way rather than obsessing over someone for the wrong reasons and desiring that which is not mine, I’m able to love her authenticity rather than selfishly with lust and avoid the guilt of lust as well as the heart stabbing pain of rejection while feeling good about being able to love her the way I’m supposed to, by genuinely wanting what’s best for her and not trying to make her conform to my will. I still haven’t accepted singleness and I still suffer the pain daily but it has been somewhat lessened as I offer my suffering as part of the cross that I must bare. If I were to live a consecrated life, I might lose that suffering as I wouldn’t be able to hold on to hope that the suffering could end. Not knowing exactly what I’m called to do adds to the suffering and loneliness in some ways. Besides just the loneliness, I’m finding a lot of fears buried within it too. Things like what am I going to do when I’m old and alone, how will I live, what if I get sick and have no one to care for me, and a ton of other things. Another fear is that I’ll remain single until all of my fears are dealt with. So in this way I’m unfit for a consecrated life and only fit for singleness. These are some reasons why I remain single without a commitment to singleness. It’s helping me to grow closer to God and be grateful that my pain isn’t worse than it is because it hurts every day. I may not know the fullness of how He plans to use my suffering, but I am occasionally given a glimpse of how it’s used daily to increase my ability to live more closely aligned with His will than the previous day

St Gemma Galgani and Bl Pier Giorgio Frassati vehemently disagree with you there😂😂.

Women have no reason to worry about being single. You can find a man anytime. Men over 30 never find a woman, like me. I’ve given up

​@@Mashfan6507not true, not a lot of men are practicing the faith

@@Maiseymax696 well I’m practicing as best I can and still can’t find someone. And at this point I’m too old to find anyone. This video is good, but I’m still trying to accept the fact I’m gonna be alone forever.

I am a 58 yr old single female. I am struggling big time for a long time. I wanted to marry and have kids and I am lonely and feel left out. How do you manage?

Thank you for being a supportive father

Will pray man, just be the best man you can be for God and all else will fall into place while clinging to Him. Pray for me too please, I just lost my 2 year relationship and it's been really hard, but I still have a hope that I can only describe as supernatural that we'll get back together. Whatever God wills though. And don't let my story discourage you - God bless you too!

@@alexanderlazowski7562 sorry to hear brother. Recover God has his permissive will and I’ve been through MUCH turmoil in life. You are merely weathering a rough patch. I will make sure to include you in my prayers tomorrow !

Will pray for you. Please pray for me as well as I'm in my late twenties and haven't had any luck in finding a devout catholic. I come from a community without dating culture, was never allowed to date until I was in my twenties, and the catholic culture here seems lukewarm to me (I maybe wrong, but contraceptives, porn, fewer confessions etc are being looked at as something normal by the youth, and only the older generation seems to be devout) . I'm also psychologically vastly different from people within my community (and most communities) because of my uncommon upbringing. Sorry for the long rant and all this TMI.

Please pray for my future spouse!

Well it seems like y'all just discerned the heck out of that relationship for me, she said bye the next day seemingly out of nowhere after I posted this comment, lol. I appreciate the prayers and will focus on prayers for the replies now.

Hey don’t be disheartened. God bless you

Life can bring so many more precious blessings aside from children. Don't feel disheartened by her comment. There is so much work you can do for our God as a single person. Your legacy can live on through your good deeds and kind heart.

People of older generations are clueless on this stuff

The "single vocation" is due to the Church being unwilling to admit that parishes have become cold, unsociable places with no social basis at all. Fallout from the clergy scandals is one reason - parish council just wouldn't dream of putting on a social without putting everyone through the "safe environment" indoctrination first. What few social cliques that exist, totally exclude working-age single adults. The Catholic marriage rate is all but zero but no one cares, no one dares to ask why.

I agree. I am 60. A great gal but single, never married. I feel like my church is for couples only. I still attend and try to be active but feel rather lonely at times. Thank goodness God has blessed me in other ways. I could not do this without HIM. For HIM I am thankful. Why is the church like this? Why am I still single when others of all shapes, sizes, pretty/thin/heavy/old/young find someone? I have no answers. But I am blessed to have God in my life.

Hi Jennifer do you have Instagram?

God will use your life anyway!

By 'history' do you mean recent history? As in tudor era-recent? Yes it is not normal in recent western history but a lot of past historical figures married or remarried past 30 in life. Example: Abraham and Sarah.

What you’re saying is true. I have a hard time believing that God wants single women wasting 10+ years of fertility so they can chase careers.

@@xoho3462 well the Blessed Virgin Mary was betrothed to a much older man, St. Joseph, when she was 16 or so. And that wasn't the scandalous part of her story back then!

Right??? I wish it was my house. It was an Ascension staff member's house. I was like, "So, I'm gonna be a squatter...and live here..."

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Even being married doesn't guarantee you'll have a child right away, if at all. Comparison is the thief of joy - hold onto your joy 💙

@@TarTelperienNumenor Get married young minus birth control doesn’t always equal children.