1) They Want to Feel In Control
A big reason why narcissists might not respect your boundaries is that they have a strong desire to control situations and people, including you.
By pushing past your boundaries, narcissists show they don’t recognize your right to make your own choices.
When you set a boundary, it challenges their power over you, which they might try to reclaim by disrespecting your limits.
2) They Want to Get Attention and Validation
Narcissists often disrespect boundaries because they crave attention and validation from others.
Imagine you’ve told the narcissist that you need some space and time alone.
Instead of giving you that space, they might text, call, or show up uninvited, demanding your attention.
This behavior stems from their deep need to be the center of attention and to feel important.
When you set a boundary that limits their access to you, it can make them feel less important or ignored.
3) They Have a Strong Sense of Entitlement
Another reason narcissists might disrespect your boundaries is their strong sense of entitlement.
They often believe they have the right to do whatever they want, whenever they want, regardless of how it affects others.
For instance, you might tell a narcissist not to use your things without asking.
But they do it anyway because they feel entitled to use whatever is around them, even if it belongs to someone else.
Instead of seeing your boundary as a reasonable request, they view it as an unfair limitation on their “rights.”
4) They Lack Empathy
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another person. Narcissists usually struggle with this.
Their inability to empathize means they can’t fully grasp why your boundary is important to you.
Instead of seeing it as a line that protects your feelings, they see it as an obstacle to what they want.
Since they prioritize their desires over yours, they cross your boundaries without considering the impact on you.
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7 сен 2024
