This video is a Relationship Advice video. It’s all about 419 Romance Scams from Nigeria - their origins and how to avoid them. This Part One of a Two Part Series.
Amazing!!!! Look at the comments and the questions ladies are asking about their situations!! Some of the situations are full of "red flags", the exact scenarios you're talking about (evident scams!!) but these ladies are still asking if their "relationship" is a scam or not..........Ever heard of the "long con"? This is what many ladies are dealing with. The scammer baits the hook with all the things we ladies like to hear and slowly reels us in. It might take a while but the heartbreak and loss of cash and dignity is real (lol).............
linda brown So true! I get inbox messages on other social media accounts with similar stories. People hate to accept that all the time they invested was in vain. They refuse to accept the obvious and continue on with the “relationship” until they are really hurt.
My lovely lady thanks for the heads up But what if you married to a Nigerian who said he has also now called another woman is wife well he has not seen for years could you shed some light in that area
@@NigerianWifestyle Thanks for putting this video out there. I love just everything you said and it makes alot of Sense. I'm dating a Nigerian man, And he wants me to send money to get his degree for school. I already knew it was a red flag, And he kept saying he loves me for just a day that he met me. Lol wow!
I am a Nigerian woman and I will say, stay away from Nigerian men most especially if he doesn't have his Green card or nothing much going for himself. 99.9% of the time he is a scammer. Be forewarned
@Vee Oby - it would have been better if ur advice was "stay away from men who don't have green cards or anything going for them" and l would support that 100 percent. Any man from any country in the world can be a scammer. U should have also added "know their sources of income", don't get carried away with the "handsome looking guy, in expensive clothing, driving a flashy car". Be content with what a man an offer, don't compare him to other men and work with him for both of ur progress and don't leave everything to him.
@@charlzfin319 l am completely with u on this one. This is how "we" Nigerians are tarnishing our image by our utterances and create a platform for non-Nigerians to attack us. So who are we to blame those people. There are evil people all over the world irrespective of nationalities and the advice to both men and women should be " be careful" and not target men from a particular country.
A Nigerian attorney in NYC that I worked with told me with her own mouth that Nigerians, men, women and children consider getting the best of someone financially A GAME to be won. It is a blood sport. Honest to God truth.
I had dated a Nigerian man for two years and was engaged to him. In the two years I have sent him a lot of money in the form of visa gift cards or itunes cards. I finally had an awakening and told him that I wasn’t sending him anymore money. One week later he told me it was over. He completely crushed my heart because I was in love with him. Guess I should have known better. 😔💔
@@NigerianWifestyle Thank You. Wish I found your page before I met him so I wouldn’t have to deal with a heartbreak now. But trust me this will never happen again!
You hit the nail on the head but you can’t be just too sure when it comes to dating Nigerians..I’m Nigerian and Yoruba, I’ll advise when dating a Nigerian man be wise, use your head at all times and be super sensitive
Martha SAntana lol I can honestly see what the attraction is for men going overseas because the women seem to be more mature...... I think it actually comes down between alpha people and beta people, givers and takers
@@marthasantana426 why are you so afraid to end this thing that might be a fraud? I have seen you comment on so many videos and it's telling of your insecurity of this man and the relationship. That insecurity alone is a huge reason to end the relationship whether he is scamming you or not. If you do not trust him or feel secure with him then the relationship is DOA. Dead on arrival. That is my advise that you are asking for but you wont use it. All these people advising you is still not enough for you because you desperately want your relationship to be real. So why do you keep asking, babe? It's okay sweetie, I understand that kind of loneliness, but it IS dangerous.
Its not just online u have to be careful. U have to be careful of fake friends and church people acting as a broker . Some of these Nigerians know our system better than we do.Also they know that alot of african American women want to be married and there is not enough eligible me to marry so they capitalize on this. Using your vulnerability to get what they need .
@@NigerianWifestyle I agree with all the wisdom that you have shared. I"ll be old school here and a bit of tough love. I am not sure if these guys use hypnotism or they are into diabolical means. But one thing is for sure anyone who is out for an international dating online, so to speak, is taking an extremely high risk. And the likelihood that risk will materialize is high. If one is into Nigerians, there a lot of them in the Western hemisphere, you may get scammed, but you'll know where they live. Above all, "know his family".... there are fake mommies, daddies, uncles, bla de bla, especially, the across the ocean relationship. Love is not blind in the 21st century, people should open their eyes and all their senses.
I think someone should start a site where we can see if our Nigerian guy is seeking other women, or scamming..........like if we post their name if someone else has had encounters with him it'll pop up!
Just subbed! Met my Nigerian bf last summer while I was in Ghana for a study abroad. He lives and works in Ghana. I had a big wall up but it’s slowly going down hahha. Thanks for speaking on this topic.
Thank you so so much u have hit the nail on head , I just strolling through utube and came across your channel and I am also talking to a Nigerian man for the past 10 months lately a lot of things have changed and for the first time I was asked for money crazy almost did it too but because of you nope and I'm going to block him thank you thank you thank you and now I'm a scriber , I thank God for putting you in my path many blessings to you and your family thank you again 👍🏼🙏🏽🙏🏽🙌🏾🙌🏾😷✌️🌎❤️❤️❤️❤️
Carmen Cortez yes you have a good point. Marriage is deeply embedded in the culture and of course the worst of them will use that to their advantage - from polygamy to scamming
I'm sorry they may have a bad rap...but I can't put my future husband in the same bucket. We cannot say all Nigerian men are this way. If you know you are gifted with government then you would know if a man is trying to scam you because the spirit of God will tell you! Don't automatically dismiss a Nigerian man because that maybe your blessing!
@@tamyrajones9566 be safe they go in stages watch they need a Green Card most likely they coming and not asking for nothing means nothing all the best to you
First, it's nothing wrong with being polite to everyone. Now, marrying someone that's not an American doesn't interest me at all. Scammers come in all races, Nigerians, Indians and Africans have a notorious rep. I notice a lot of the Carribbean and African guys in the states are married and single seem to get annoyed if you're not interested in them, too aggressive. You're giving good information hopefully, people well listen, it's called "common sense."
ThnQ so very much for the real info on 419 or dating online.... I have been privy to some of their approaches and not only africans. I am done with the online thing. It is non productive for me. i don't even know how i stumbled upon your channel. THis is much needed. ThnQ very very much. I love nigerian men, west african men and i know there are great people but I have been on guard even before you have shared. I do exactly like you...they get the block!
LADY?!!! FOR SURE YOU HAVE DONE YOUR HOMEWORK WELL. I AGREE EITH YOUR PRESENTATION. IT IS WELL RESEARCHED, CONTEMPLATIVE?, AND FULL OF TRUTHS. WAITING FOR MORE. DORIS
Thank you for sharing this information I am a new subscriber and recently began a friendship with a Nigerian man but am being real and will keep him as just a friend no money exchange once asked blocking very smooth talker and easy on eyes but to be bamboozled want no parts
One more contribution. The Term 419 actually originated in Nigeria, from the Criminal Code Section 419 of the constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, which states that: “Any person who by any false pretence, and with intent to defraud, obtains from any other person anything capable of being stolen, or induces any other person to deliver to any person anything capable of being stolen, is guilty of a felony, and is liable to imprisonment for three years.” ... And hence the origin of the term 4-1-9.
They have destroyed the reputation of ALL Nigerian s. You couldn’t pay me to even talk to a Nigerian. If that precludes me from a possible great relationship that’s a risk I’ll take. No Nigerians ever!!!!!!!
Robbyn Mathews I get your point but those are some extreme thoughts. To not speak to person because they are from a certain country just seems so extreme to me. The same thing you are trying to avoid could be the very thing you run to. Whatever happened to judging folks by the content of their character? To each his or her own, I guess.
Robbyn Mathews Im sort of on the same boat, although i would talk with them ( just being polite especially if i happen to work with a Nigerian). I most definitely wouldn’t take it as far as striking a friendship etc.
Another idiot of the highest order talking. Can't even talk to them because some idiots way of making money u must be joking i wonder were u are coming from rubbish.
Nigerian this and that why all this ugly girls running after nigerian handsome and genetic men? Stop chasing after good looking people called nigeria educate your men how to eat good food and how yo dress and bath well so that they may look atract to you leave handsome people call nigeria alone jealous in a highest place
Thank you for all this great information . I am currently dating a great Nigerian guy . We met at the airport and we have seen each other a few times . We live in the same city . He says that he will be moving to another state due to work , so I am just hanging out with him because I don’t know if is going to work out . But thank you for the information
I met a guy through a dating app and I am in america he seems like a really nice guy I never dated a nigerian man but my guards have been up after doing my research. its so hard because you dont know if the person is truthful or is he is scamming just to come to the US
Arial Deserae That is correct. They also know how to talk to you and convince you that they are authentic. I think the fact that he is in Nigeria would be enough for me to just move on.
I met a guy from Nigeria on an online dating group- married him and he hasn’t worked in 10 years since we’ve been married ! He got in my mind somehow and manipulated me into building his mother a house in her village, sending his nephews to school- I’ve done things that I can’t believe that I’ve done now that my eyes are open. He now is looking for another wife because I’m putting heat on him about getting a job. He walks around carrying his bible and quoting scriptures, posting photos of himself on social media displaying the house that I’m paying for making his family at home in Nigeria think that he’s over here prospering. Instead of working, he’s on his computer looking for women to manipulate by telling them how spiritual he is and how much he wants to please God giving them the impression that he’s a famous writer who’s written many books, etc. but he is broke without a pot to piss in or a window to throw the piss out of. There are many other things that I’ll share later I’m doing a video soon to share my story of how my stupidity got me in a very costly, bad situation.
Obi Diya wow I am just seeing this message. I am sorry that you are having this experience. If I were you, I would seek help immediately (therapy) and file for divorce. I wish you the best.
hello friends , i am from Nigeria , not every one Nigeria are scammer ,it just 5% bad , if you got an honest Nigeria guy ,baby you will fined true love , not every one ,
Tony Osas thank you for that comment sir...this beautiful didn’t keep mentioning Nigerian without saying it’s few Nigerians and what I don’t understand is if she as forgotten she is married to a Nigerian man or could her husband be a mix or what?lol I just don’t get her...she should know by now that their are a lot of tribes and languages in Nigeria so it’s a large population...she keep throwing shads on the country and I was beginning to like her channel
SCAMMERS ARE STUCK IN STATES, OVERSEAS, NIGERIA, LET EM STAY STUCK...OR STUCK OUTSIDE THEIR GOLD, BANK ACCOUNTS, LET EM STAY STUCK, OR STUCK IN A EMERGENCY, LET EM STAY STUCK, OR U WILLBE STUCK BROKE,& STILL LONELY, U CANT BUY LOVE...EVEN POOR PEOPLE KNOWS HOW TO LOVE..
So I met an Nigerian Guy and I live in America he lives in Nigeria. He’s not rushing me into Marriage Pregnancy or a trip to the USA neither does he ask me for money I offered and he refused me and the next thing I know he got what I offered in his own lol now I would tell you he wants to marry me but isn’t pushing it he’s willing to go on my time trust me I’ve tested him about it only thing I feel rushed in is me coming to Nigeria to meet his family I don’t get any sense of threat or bad feelings from him trust your inner wishing but I don’t feel either way I don’t feel as if he’s scamming me he doesn’t ask for much but to talk to me all day and wait until I feel comfortable and ready to move forward but I’m still playing it safe
I'm in a different situation, my sister is getting scammed. We are trying to convince her, but he has brainwashed her over a period of 3 years. We just found out about the extent of his manipulation. She met him on fb. I heard him talk on the phone, " I love you baby, baby I love you baby. You're so beautiful baby.. I was cringing! She is a widow, and lonely. Can someone please help me find a way to help to prove to her he is a scammer. It is breaking my heart!
I I married a Nigerian he is a wonderful Guy all Nigerians are not badI met his mother the first time I went she was the first person I met when I went to Nigeria and I met him online
😳 I am glad that I ran across your video 🥺. I made a comment on TD Jakes and the next thing I see is a man from Nigeria writing me. I'm like okay cool but dang the next day he is writing me about how nice I am 😏 and calling me babe 😂🤣😆. Uh yeah game recognize game. I know that I am signle but I am No damn fool. He is already wanting me to meet his mom 🥺😳😔. Uh yeah that ain't gonna happen. Not only that he was demanding to see my face on messenger 😂🤣😆 talking about how God sent me to him. I told him to go pray again and ask God how much hell I will raise if he tries to use me. I was born in 69 not 2009. Thank you for this video warning ppl.
Yes but internet cafes are running 24/7in Nigeria and Ghana showing them how to start a scam by finding email address they generally target the single old and divorced ?.
This message was very good advice. My fiance is from Nigeria. They culture relationship take understanding and patience to know each other. I feel that I'm failing the results. All Nigerian men are different. Thank for sharing this video,
I can relate to everything that you're saying and you doing a wonderful job I love you channel I am so embarrassed I meant on the Jeremy Guy 2 years ago for the first she tried to scare me then we've been in a relationship over 2 years I know it sounds crazy I mean I FaceTime him I met his mom his dad his family his cousin's brother but I'm still not sure I'm so confused
This is so true! I read alot of Nigerian Wife's post and for the most part so excited to send there men money open up bank accounts for them and will comment I left him with $100 in his account he will be right. My point is at what time and place can the African man in your life do anything of substance for you?
I have had men from India try and do the same thing two women just like the ones in Nigeria and I had to delete them from my social media that I was using and it was through Google
I always have a good laugh when I realize the scammers. I love the ones who prey on men thinking if you throw pictures of celebrity women at us we will throw all our money at you. Not how that works. I had fun messing with them while it lasted though.
Attention non Nigerian/ African ladies: Do you know how Nigerian women mee the Nigerian men they marry? Through friends and family. Not arranged marriages but you should know at least one person that knows the guy personally and vice versa. How can you meet someone on Facebook ( who lives in another country) and then fall in love and start sending them money. That's mugu 101. I am tired of all this scamming sob stories. Use common sense and be cautious. If you really want to meet Nigerian men meet them in your city where you live. Make friends with Nigerians men and women at your workplace/ school and you will get to meet more Nigerians and eventually someone of interest. Nigeria has a large diaspora anywhere in the world, meet them the old fashioned way: face to face or through a friend's hookup. Tracy met her husband through a friend. I met my Nigerian husband through a friend ( im Nigerian too).
Thank you. I'm older and am being pursued heavily by a much younger Nigerian man. He is VERY persistent. He gives me money (I never asked), tales me out and seems to adore me. He is divorced. I've been so fed up American men for so long that it's difficult to trust that he isn't too good to be true.
New to your channel trying to catch up, it wasn't your marriage to a Nigerian that brought me to your channel. Just watching positive black love videos.
I met him through his cousin and i noticed him first. Honestly be careful of that as well. They will set you up and will deceive you as well. They will LIE and claim that they've never seen them so happy and in love, they'll pretend to tell you secrets and stories about them to gain your trust. I honestly will just stay by myself because it seems as if all men are trash
Sounds like you’re still hurting. Have you considered therapy? After taking care of yourself and when you’re ready, have the courage to give love another try.
I agree with this but there again life is not fair to anyone.. If one dollar equals one naira it would be so easy.. I believe that the Imbalance in all the amenities in Africa and western world has given many men from the struggling world see western women as a bait, for green card, money etc .. There's always a black white ans grey side to every story... Scamming, 419,frauding and it's like are WRONG.. Marring a good Nigerian man is a key to bliss. Stay blessed. ❤ from Kuwait
Biko abeggo just be careful...nigerians work hard many of them..but beware...get the bad leaders out of office..buhari..I know many woman fall prey with the men online..sad...I love nigeria my igbo men...all I cant say is be careful ....
Can You help me to answer a couple questions I have? WhAts 419? I have a Nigerian Man who speaks Yoruba Adebowale Maxwell Ogunsanya (saw his ID which matches name) He seems really nice & Genuine and talks about getting his Visa to come up n June! How do I determine the validity of things as I just can’t determine as I’m super Leary anyways, But I see sooo much about Yoruba men?? What do I do and How can I test the waters to see if he’s playing with my heart or serious??
Let him come on his own and make alllllll arrangements himself. Don't you lift a finger. If he can stand on his own and meet you half way without you supporting his visa app, sending money, staying in your home during his trip, then I would say at least he has himself together and you should give him a shot at dating. No one can tell you with 100% certainty. Trust your gut. Be smart.
What if I was to ask this potential scammer to call/video me? weve been txting for 3 months. She gave me an actual address in Lagos to send money to. (I already told her I was broke.
howard sartin Calls or Videos do not necessarily separate the wolves from the pack. Eventually they will require you to do all the calling. It’s hard to get quality video from Nigeria. She will get tired of wasting time without receiving funds and disappear. Stay strong!
I truly accept what u said here. Y will u send money to a person u just met whom u have not met physically and it doesnt even make sense for somebody to give u a story u cannot verify authenticity as claimed. I also blame a woman of about 59 years old and will come out to say she has found love to a boy of 19 years. Can it ever happen in the US? Is that not wickedness and scam?
I would really appreciate it if you can do that for me and I thank you so much I've been trying to find one for a long time now I just think they are so gorgeous men
Hi I need your guidance I 've married and dated Nigerian men but I tend to get men who use me for money or I'm the main breadwinner etc also they need green card I'm attracted to African men but getting the bad men not sure what I'm doing wrong
This is complex without knowing you but to start...you have to stop dating what you know you don’t want! Try something different for a change and see what happens when you ONLY date the one who has status, a job that matches yours or better, and is professing you to his whole world as his. In the between time, spend your alone time getting everything together that you need to fix in your life (such as mental health) because when the right one comes along you want to be ready! And if ”the one” turns out to be something other than Nigerian, then embrace what God planned for you and still vibe with the culture.
hello Marie. i know how you feel about this. seriously i would just advise you to watch out for scammers. and don't ever send money to anyone who ask you for money. but as i'm typing this to you, i must confess that i'm already in love with you. please can we chat. here is my number.....+2348027519290. thanks
Marie, meet them through friends. Make African friends that will jave your best interest at heart and they will genuinely introduce you to their friends too. When Nigerians meet they also do background checks on their potential love interest. Stop going into these relationships blind.
Luv your Channel Wifestyle and my friend is planning to marry a Nigerian man she met in Ghana..Your show has been very helpful and she with so many met them in Ghana..the year of return..
Hi , am a big fan. I love your show. I love the way you start this show , every country,every tribe,every race and everything ethnic have their own dark side. I will have to disagree with you about meeting someone you have never seen online is a red flag. There are some good people out there. True you met your husband out there. But there are some people that will meet their life companion on Facebook. We all have different call or we are all destined for different things. And am not saying they are no scam or fraudster or 419 on internet. My point is just don't send them any money.
My best friend is dating a Yoruba man and there’s some red flags that are popping up in my head I HAVE A TON of questions especially becauE I and my family live with her theyve been talking alittle over a week and he’s already trying to “meet us” so he can come over.....I have three little girls so this is not ok with me they know nothing about each other besides he says there’s levels to dating in his culture they can’t make love until their married but the can have sex and stuff it just sounds weird she doesn’t no anything about his family or or life but is ready to have sex with him and bring him home.....if anyone has any information please let me know
If you have specific questions, you can write to me at BlakeSalami@gmail.com - but keep in mind that this is your friend’s relationship and she may or may not respond as you expect. Sometimes you will just have to be a friend. My best friend at many times has just held the phone for me. Be the friend who can hold the phone. Best wishes.
I met this Nigerian guy in a singles travel group a good friend of mine added me to on Facebook. He private messaged me and we began conversating initially on Facebook Dec 27 and then moved to video chatting daily on WhatsApp. We've been talking for two weeks, he sends me poetry, tells me im beautiful everyday, and invited me to meet his family, he lives in Nigeria and I am from the US, I plan to give it several months to see what happens before considering visiting him to meet his family and see how he acts.
I would like to know how this turned out or is turning out.... this is real close to my story... I haven’t sent any money and don’t plan to... but I would like to know what’s going on now
We are still involved with each other, not much has changed since my initial comment, he doesn't ask me for anything and when I visited he paid for everything, I met his family and everything.
I was scammed by a Nigerian guy I've been talking to him for almost 2 years I don't know what to do because I think he's terrorizing me now and you absolutely right he has more excuses why he needs money and this and that and if I don't have it or something he treats me real bad calls me out my name and stuff I blocked him but he keeps getting through to my phone he tells me he loves me and stuff yes I was stupid and gullible at first I just lost my husband do you have any advice for me
I appreciate you to the time to educate vulnerable people on the tactics of scammers. It helped me alot to identify potential dishonest folks for taking advantage of someone's kindness. May God Bless You and Your Family.
*Beware of the sexy young smart ones, that appeal to our Cougar sides....omg....they can be persuasive. Glad I didn't fall for it....I was thinking of really taking a flight ✈️. They do not make them like that in America...Dang, that was a tough one...😆 🤣 😂 #StaySafe
You should know better than to give money to someone YOU DON'T KNOW! I have had few come through my FB, IG and email send me messages with an assinine story, and I delete and block them. I've been communicating with a Nigerian man for several years, and he's revealed to me that he's been in love with me since our communication, but not once has he come at me for money or green card purposes. He makes his own money, and he doesn't want for anything. Our levels of communication is still great!
I support what you you are saying. But I know for a fact that not all online relationship, turn out bad. I know a couple working on there 7 year of marriage.
Being broke means nothing they will attempt to have you get loans they don't care if they are scammers ...trauma bond's are what they try to create with potential victims...
I have a person who is saying that is flavour from niegra. He inboxed on Instagram. And he has been consistently asking to want me to send him gift cards or wanting me to despoit a check into my account. Then tell me that I don't understand him and don't care about him
I just meet an Nigerian man he is in New York and we talk on facetime he work at an dry cleaners. Not in a rush for anything but this helped out an lot
Be very careful, probe into everything he tells you and prove it for yourself. Watch out for sudden family emergencies where he will be in need of money. Try not to get too emotionally connected with him until you know who you are dealing with because there is an 80% chance that he is a scammer. They can be very rootless I have seen this happen to someone close to me and it was devastating. They will feed on your emotions and tell you what you want to hear. Please beware!
My ring is on its way from Nigeria. He has never asked me for any money. We are getting married in January 2021. I’ve met his family and friends. It has taken over a year for us to get to this point.
I met this Nigerian woman online we have video chat and got to know each other better she doesn't want to get married right now however is open to the idea she have not ask me for any money should I ask to meet here family on our video chat I want to send her a clothing package but it's not a big thing to me but it is for her, I feel comfortable with what I know about her but should I ask about more and what should that be
Thomas Scott Learn more about her tribe and what the standards are for marital relations. At some point if this budding relationship gets real I am assuming that you will need to get the blessings of her family and actually see them in person. I don’t see anything wrong in mailing a care package.
