lol I couldn't stop laughing when he was talking about seeing the "beta" version of himself on Snapchat, his stories are gonna light a massive fire under the ass of a lot of young guys
Time Stamps Intro 0:00 Strong Eye Contact 2:41 Sends Enthusiastic Text messages 3:32 Invades Personal Space 7:04 Shares emotional parts about her 9:15 Talk about you to her friends 10:52 A message 12:57
It's definitely hard at first to know if a girl or a guy is legitmately interested in you. But the more you hang out with the opposite gender, the more you'll be able to know. Get out there and get that experience! You got this ❤️
What I think is the best approach is the hell yes or no approach. It's either you look at a girl and you go "yep that girl is all over me" and if it's not that then "I am misunderstanding/wrong" in which case you forget about the latter girl completely and only focus on girls who really make it easy for you to be with
The editing team has been killing it with the thumbnails lately! I'm grateful for them and the effort they put into these videos along with Hamza of course.
Being a guy who was constantly bullied by pairs I fully understand... It even got to a point where I had so called "friends" asking girls to agree if im ugly, never felt so humiliated in my life This gave me the opportunity to grow, hit the gym and learn a valuable skill in music. I am grateful to them because if it wasn't for them, I'll be that chubby losee from 2015.. Great video Hamza
You don't understand what this man can do to you and I'm telling you I watched his videos. I'm 15 right now but when I was 14 i would see his videos and would ignore them but ever since the mid october till now I've watched and lerned from him and implemented the things he says and recommends in these videos helped me start my self improvement journey and I can't be more grateful. It's hard trust me I even stopped my self improvement during my Halloween break from school but after waking up late and feeling shit I got back into my self improvement and I'm grateful I did. Keep up the hard work and stay strong
So glad I found your channel. I've been on my self improvement journey for a mere 2 weeks, but I've never felt better in my entire 21 years of existence.
Even if one *isn't* interested in being in a relationship it's important to be aware of when a woman is interested in you, as you might see her as a friend while she might think you're in a serious relationship with her.
Hey Hamza, please do videos talking about trauma. Childhood trauma from parents, from struggling financially, always being down by toxic friends and how to overcome it.
Hamza is so inspiring. He has changed me from a 12 year old fat obese bad habits etc into a (i cant consider myself a man) but i am full of test in the gym meditating and just improving on myself every day. I have my hat off to this guy.May you live in peace if you read this and may God be with you. Amen.
I'm the guy that didn't get any female attention in high school and was very insecure, I started working out after high school and after about a year I just totally forgot that women could be attracted to me until this one girl that I met was so into me that anyone could see the signs of it, but its a weird experience going from a loser in high school to getting attention from other women the best way I can describe it is that it rewires your brain in a way that lets you know that women are attracted to you, not to mention the confidence you get from it, I was extremely anxious and unconfident until I worked out but honestly speaking I did get confident from working out but absolutely nothing compares to the confidence that you get when an attractive woman is interested in you.
I can relate to you with this. I was 300 pounds and lost 140 pounds by my senior year. It was as surreal for me to walk into school and was known as “the hottest guy in the grade”. It was so weird to go from the fat clown to someone who can actually talk to and seduce girls. Major rewiring of my brain and a huge boost in my confidence in every area of my life. Consistency towards your goal and pushing through failure will take you places. I wish you the best in the future brother stay on the grind 💪🏻
My social skills improved 10 fold in the 3 years before the pandemic. Then covid butt fucked all of that progress. I feel like a robot when talking to women.
Bro, i am still on the same boat as you, I'm pretty tall. 6ft 8 inches don't really think I'm that ugly, was hella skinny. was not the best in high school, never really stuttered or did anything weird when talking to women but never got any attention from women, and it has compounded after 2 years of working out that i still cannot get any girl to like me regardless of what i do. I genuinely belive that the idea of a girl liking me is pathetic and physically impossible. Still believe it to this day. I always assume; oh they r just being friendly, who cares, focus on yourself first. Sure Im confident now and Im a great talker with both genders but still at the back of my head I am certain I will never attract any girl. I don't really know what to do at this point, i have had this in my head forever. Nothing has changed my mind yet. If anyone got some advice, I would appreciate it.
PRO TIP: this isn't entirely accurate when the girl's personality is just extremely flirtatious. I've experienced it first hand. She likely has a flirtatious personality if 1. shes been in a lot of relationships 2. talks to many boys at the same time 3. majority of her friends are boys 4. starts getting comfortable with you really fast.
at which point you might as well ask yourself what you want from this person - cause commitment doesn't resonate with all that, just a "situationship".
I think I'd need to thank you Hamza. I am a short (5'7), bald guy who was struggling in life and last year, when I saw your videos I had decided to start improving myself. Now thanks to your advice I have a beautiful and lovely girlfriend that loves me, I would've never imagined that before. So thank you.
I am 23 now, and the message at the end really had me in tears. All my life I have been rejected and few months ago I got friend zoned by one of the girl I liked. It's been really hard for me to accept after all of the things that happened to me that girls are into me, its really hard for me to believe that anyone is interested in me.
Man, the last few minutes hit me hard as an Indian man in the US. And yet going through the video I realized that I missed a lot of shit in HS. Never again, knowledge is power. We go through so much of our lives without being told or shown these things. I want to make my body and mind the best it can reasonably be. To live without seeing the peak is a tragedy. I don't agree with everything you say but I don't need to either.
I loved this video. Got a lot of good little nuggets out of it. One thing I did want to say however, is what you talked about with the whole ‘not liking to be touched, hugged, affections’ bit. I recently started dating a girl that has never had a bf and told me she doesn’t like that kind of stuff at all. But the more we hang out, the more touchy she gets. The more affection she shows me/wants me to show. This girl I just don’t think has known that’s what she likes. Has just been closed off to that. A girl that truly has feelings for you will show you affection. Period.
@@uhhhi.8499 it’s funny you say that. Because more and more I keep having that same thought. I’m used to like half a dozen red flags by the first date. But this girl just keeps getting better and more appealing.
Bro that speech on the end of this video about guys believing that they are ugly etc literally made me cry, maybe because I could see myself in that guy. Thank you Hamza, you genuienly changed my life.
- Eye contact for sure is a big sign. - I'm not too sure about the enthusiastic text messages, I'd say that the actual sign related to that is when it is she who begins text conversations with you. Like, if she texts you "Good morning, how are you doing?" in the morning (without you having texted her before that), that's a sign she likes you. - When she engages in unnecessary physical contact is definitely a huge sign she likes you. - The sharing emotional parts about her maybe.. it's not that obvious like the other ones. She might as well see you like a good friend.
Yeah I don't agree with the emotional part. When I've met completely new female co workers they talk about their emotions a lot. It's just a feminine trait and doesn't necessarily mean they have any feelings for you
This is something I am trying to work on for myself. After having a huge breakdown last week for hating everything about myself. I don't feel worthy since I have been made to believe I am not masculine enough. I don't have a deep voice people stare at me when I talk. Most of my friends are girls because honestly most teenage guys are stupid, I could never relate to the conventionally 'straight guy' things. All this makes people think I'm gay even though I'm not. I haven't really liked myself as such for the past few years since I gained a shit ton of weight a few years back due to the fact that I had just shifted to the other side of the country from my closest friend ever and that manifested in eating way more than I normally do. Thankfully I lost it all lol. Like people will tell me "oh just workout and get muscles no one will think you're gay", but I don't want to. I'm perfectly healthy, not too thin and not too fat. Having a muscular body is just not me. All this made me spiral into this huge self pity party where I just cried. Thankfully I have a really nice support system on my side and I'm starting trying to be a bit more confident in my own skin, but it's really hard. But people like Hamza are motivation. Not cos I want to have muscles all around, but cos he learnt to become comfortable with his body. I know I'm probably in the extreme minority here since most of Hamza's audience is guys who aspire to be absolutely jacked and not enough people talk about my pov on the internet. I would like to know if there's someone like me here. Thanks for reading this bullshit rant I wanted to get it off my chest.
Hamza I just wanted to say thank you for everything you have taught me so far. I’ve started to apply your advice to my daily life and I haven’t been as happy as this in 8 years. I’ve been doing nofap, going to church, making eye contact and engaging in great conversation with people, meditating/journaling, working out regularly, stopped watching anime and playing video games and even more great things. I want to lead a great generation of men through tough times and be someone who people respect. Your life changing brother and I live with a fire in my heart because of you. Stay blessed
Not being exposed to physical touch as much as others really fu*ks up the mindset cause everytime it becomes like a fight or flight situation. Really confusing and scary at first from a female but getting the right signal is really hard.
1. hold strong eye contact 2. sends enthusiastic texts/replies (be careful 3:29 go watch) 3. makes physical contact 4. opens up 5. she talks about you to her friends
"I just don't like being hugged." Hamza, "bro, she just doesn't like being hugged by you." Bro, this info would have saved me a metric ton of heartbreak and aggravation.
When girls get loud around you its also a sign of interest, if she moves the group in a club to near you, or she will be more challenging, or she can actually get quiet around you. There's a lot of subtle signs, context is most important, superficial body language interpretation can lead to problems. Trust what you gut says, you know when there's a vibe :) The biggest sign, she doesn't walk away easily from you 😜
These are extremely good tips and advice that is extremely helpful to guys with low self esteem. My dad was one such guy who believed that he was extremely unattractive to everybody around him. He told me a few things about his life during these times that I could genuinely relate to since I'm extremely introverted because I have ASD. However, going through his old photos of him when he was my age, he looked like an absolute Chad. He had a good build, had extremely good power to weight strength, and he was educated about how to fix engines, plumbing systems and even do some complicated wiring. If he had been more confident at the time, he definitely wouldn't be the same as he is today.
Right around 14:15 this resonated with me a bit…. I have known for a fact about girls liking me (never acted on it, I’m now 17 years old and a junior in high school) and a part of that was that I believed I was ugly… and kind of still do. I know I’m not some sigma male who just looks stunning but I’m working towards gaining more confidence and self-respect. Something that never really helped was a lot of the girls around me (ESPECIALLY white girls, some of whom I liked) saying they don’t like white guys, only dark skinned guys (I’m Scandinavian and have had ancestors in the US for centuries) and tbh when girls you like say that shit I think the fellas can agree it’s de-moralizing, at least at first. I assume it’s a result of a combination of things in my life and with myself, but I’ve never had a gf, never kissed a girl, nothing. I assumed they just didn’t like me or I just didn’t approach them. I also SUCK at talking to girls (at least as far as flirting is concerned). I’m now working on myself heavily and trying to build more relationships and friendships with people.
been there bro. i try to ignore women like that (you can’t convince them that it’s possible to be racist to white people) but hang in there you got a whole life ahead of you 💯
Hey Hamza, please do a video on how to stay motivated after recovering from an injury? I have had a shoulder injury for about 4 months now and I still don't know what it is and how to treat it (I've been to physio twice). I can't workout and feel quite unmotivated to stay on self improvement. Thanks bro 🙏
Similar situation actually but not nearly as bad, I actually injured my arms doing bicep curls and I'm kinda worried I ain't doing enough but I think the best thing to do is to work on what you can so at least ur working on smthing if that makes sense
hey dylan im sorry to hear about that i also suffered an injury a couple of years ago and i just kept myself busy with other things, i played a lot of fortnite and looking back that probably wasnt the best thing to do but you can learn a new skill like programming, read some books or study a subject that you are passionate about and i know the struggles but everything will be alright just give it some time and you will recover💌
I feel you, but my situation is kinda different bcuz I used to train calisthenics a lot(I was pretty good), until they diagnosed me with pretty big scoliosis which has progresing quite quickly. Since then almost every specialists told me to stop training bcuz it might make my scoliosis worse or atleast will slow down or cut down my healing progress:/
I don’t usually comment on things very often but this comment kind of struck a chord with me. I remember over a year from now I suffered from some weird form of carpal tunnel syndrome I felt so helpless and I remember the electrifying pain that came with it. It took almost an entire month for me to move my fingers and some more to actually start doing normal tasks again, at one point I also went to physio. It took a while but things gradually started getting back to normal and now I’ve just recently started going to the gym with my friends and I’m training to strengthen my arms and just get healthy overall. I would’ve killed to know that there was someone else going through the same thing as me so Dylan just know you’re not alone in this and that, believe it or not, things do gradually get better over time. I recommend picking up a fun hobby that you can do whilst you recover for me I played chess and I’ve gotten really good. Turn your negatives into positives. - sorry for the long rant
not believing anyone could find you attractive hits home. i still kinda feel like that. it only changed a bit when a girl legit fell in love with me and we got super close even though it sadly didnt work out. now i at least know for a fact that its not impossible, and it makes me wonder how many others have also found me attractive.
ive always felt what hamza said from 13:00 to 14:46 but have never been able to put it into words. Being a brown guy living in a white country can really make you feel like ugly and an outsider
Man I wish I knew the girls in high school or college that were into me were actually into me and not looking at me or smiling at me because I look "weird" or whatever, because that was what I was led to believe. I had so many chances to be in loving relationships with girls who want to be with me but I couldn't because of the self-limiting belief of me not thinking that I deserved love. To this day I am still trying to heal that part of me and starting to believe that girls actually find me attractive but it's still hard to look past that as people in the past made me feel that I didn't deserve it. If I never had that self-limiting belief I wonder how much happier my life would be if I were to be with the girls who would love me from the beginning. Seriously Hamza, your message at the end made me tear up, because I could relate to it so hard. I'm only a year younger than you and I am just now starting to fully accept that girls find me attractive. I hope soon I can be with someone who loves me and I can accept their love for me without question.
I've recently started getting my life together, but I hate it when I have notifications no matter what. If I get a notification I open it immedietly, half as read it and close it if not important.
13:45 fully hit me man, I’ve had times where a girl told me or someone else they liked me but I just couldn’t believe it and didn’t want to be on the wrong end of a joke
Man I was mid set watching this and when u said some people believe their ugly and no women will ever be attracted to them this hit me bro I low-key think I’m dat ugly and I didn’t realise how. Bad it really was damn
I'm not even kidding you, I've always wanted to become a better person. I've dreamed about it, I've desired it, but never had the motivation to actually pursue this change. Then I stumbled upon your videos, and something clicked for me, something I've never felt before. Now all I do throughout my free-time is watch your videos on various categories of self-improvement. I have finally started to take action. I can not thank you enough.
I met a girl recently, we're close when we meet in real life, really good vibes, but when we send each other messages from time to time, it feels like we don't know each other that much or she's not into it... it feels dry, slow paced messages etc. Anyway, I want to ask her this week if she's interested in dating because I never asked a girl out before, I'll take this as practice and see what I can improve if she says no. What do you guys suggest me to do ?
fuck it bro, try it, even if the signs arent well experience is experience, experience everything when ur young. but right when you feel it goes the wrong way immediately Drop it, dont let oneitis get to you or settle down or get complacent, keep improving
If she is dry then she might not be interested, I aint tryna hate I'm just being honest but go for it for sure but don't be heart broken if she says no. I got rejected like this so I don't wanna see my bros in pain, but go for it my man!
Texting totally different then meeting up. There are some girls that are bad texter, or disconnects the "texting you" from the real you in her mind. Ask her out, if she accepts spend time with her and you will see. If she doesn't you don't waste time comptemplating and you can start searching for something new.
Thank you Hamza, you made me release that No one girl likes me! I have never had any of these hidden signs, except the last one, when a girl said to her friend that "I`m the stupidest man she has ever known"
last part got really deep but hamza was just speaking facts. When my parents broke up and I was living with my mom, I was a happy kid and I didn't have any insecurities but when time passed and my dad was less present and less masculine, I started feeling really unattractive and I couldn't feel attractive around women and when the signs were there, I didn't see them, but now I do, I have to thank Hamza, he really helped me a lot to become more masculine, now I'm not insecure at all and even got a girlfriend.
I really vibe with the last part, thank you for all you do, all the time, all the videos and skill you bring, teach and show us Hamza.... thanks brother
The last rant really made me tear up. I really thought I could never get laid because I grew up hating the way I look, only like 1 year ago I started going to the gym and putting in some big effort and seeing some decent results but like 1-2 months ago a girl started having a really big crush on me and I didn't know how handle it properly, I opened up to her and we are currently in a weird stage because in a way I don't want to be w/ her but I've made out with her before. I feel stupid for doing this to her because I just know I'm playing with her feelings but in the same time I don't want to date her but in the same time I really think she is attractive. I think I'll find a moment ig to tell her all of these thoughts or something.
you aren’t playing with her feelings. If anything it is the opposite. You probably think about her way more then she thinks about you. You literally commented on a self improvement video a whole paragraph about this girl. Do you think she doing the same?
Don’t stress bro. Make a decision and act on it. If you don’t want to be with her then don’t. She’s not the only person out there there’s more. Don’t settle.
This video helped me out a lot but the only different thing was I was brought up by my dad who btw is is the best person in the world for me. He's basically the mother and father role in my life. Don't worry, I didn't lose my mum or anything, she just wasn't there or cared much for me and my brother, just though it was all about her yk. So things were much different for me because I didn't really get hugged (since I was like 4 or 5 just messing around with my dad), kissed or comfortable saying love you and stuff yk. So I'm honestly just trying to improve myself now that I'm in a relationship because I like her and I want to keep it going strong :) Also it's really cool getting to know her mum because I didn't really have that type of person in my life.
2:33 describe me too well. Dated a girl I used to work with and at some point we talked about the other girls in the place and ''what they tought'' about me and that the day I learned I was terrible at knowing when a girl is actually interested (like.. 5 girls in the the place would have actually being down for fun or more and I never noticed in more than a year beside the one I dated).
bro... i know your videos aren't make for everyone, but it worked for me, i followed your advices and my life just got a lot better this year, it's insane, thanks a lot
Ive been homeschooled all my life so Ive never been in a environment that would allow me to come into contact with a bunch of girls, but in my general day to day life I can carry a sober convo with a girl or woman in general and can handle myself just fine so mostly it'll have to come from experience and confidence and having trust in yourself to Interact with women.....never been on a single date in my life though 😅
You're chill bro, most girls really get into the dating/sexual game heavily & all the fun, wild stuff & great stories happen when they leave home & aren't under the eye of their parents in universities/colleges anyway. Just study hard & keep improving, by the time you're 18 in college most guys wouldn't have even gotten into self improvement consistently & seriously, and you have your entire life ahead of you post college as well, you're doing fine, in the mean time just go out & explore whatever area you are in, make it a goal to have a great conversation with 1 person a day then increase it to 5, approach everyone, old, kids, your teachers or principals at school, break your social anxiety with everyone before you start having casual good interactions with stranger girls.
@@neltins5308 Oh mate im turning 20 real soon and dont really have any plans to go to college unless its for a specific reason, im gonna be focusing on myself and working on starting my business, im ahead of the curve 😆
i really have a story about it: we had technology class at school and there was a closet full of tools but it was quite small, i took some out and there was this girl behind me who i like, instead of asking me out of the to way she gently caresses my upper arm and asks if she can go there. I am 5.9 and she is 5.5 I don't know if she's into me but that's why I watch the video but so far everything applies to it
Hamza, I’m a 17 year old man and I’m getting into self-improvement, and I’m wondering where I should start? Should I start by fixing my mindset, or start by building financial stability? Because I currently don’t have a source of income, but I also struggle with discipline and consistency. If anyone in the comments could help with this that would be great
Watch hamzas video on how to improve mental health, it's so important. I got on Self improvement around the age of 18, I'm 20 now. I've made alot of progress and I'm proud of myself but, the one thing that has prevented me from making massive progress, is my mental health.
Just a reminder to the people out there to not watch self improvement videos when you're meant to be doing something else. Still procrastinating bros. Love.
Damn Hamza it hit me hard when you said even you had to deal with stereotypes. Being the man you are now gives me great inspiration. I’m 34 and even though you are younger than me I look at you as a leader of modern men that we desperately need. Thanks and much blessings to you
for me (im very young) if i told a girl i liked her 1. if she said she didnt like me it would suck she would tell her friends and it would be embarrasing BUT 2. even worse my brother and his friends would laugh and me so much and it would break my heart 3. i just feel im not good enough tho
The thing that sucks too is that I do get checked out by girls throughout my day... Sometimes girls I don't know at my school that are decently attractive. Just have trouble committing and approaching them and introducing myself. I'm not a socially awkward guy I just don't know how to properly escalate with girls in a natural manner.
Hey Hamza, Love From Bangladesh ❤. I have a question, Literally in my country there’s nobody like adonis and hardly found any bodybuilder, also less inspirational people. So Im kinda getting brainwashed by the society and everybody's laughing at my progress. They go mad when i tell them for Dopamine Detox (like Everybody). I’m stuck help me!!!
13:48 hit me really hard Hamza, I have for the longest time I had convinced myself that I was ugly due to being brown. However I have recently completed a glow up period lasting a year: - I`ve lost fat and gained muscle - I have straightened my teeth and gotten venners - undergone a hair transplant and used minoxidil for thicker hair growth - grown out a short beard - upgraded my clothing style - fixed my posture Now that I walk outside I see more and more of these signs, and I think that it cannot be a coincidence. Thank you for making all of us aware of these signs!
Your last point is the most important point! You are worthy of Love. Improvements is what you do and worthy of love is who you are. Stay strong my dudes!
After School (I'm in high school) I go to the local library after hitting the gym. There's a girl in my class that goes to the library as well. She sits next to me on the couches, she helps me do work but she sits, almost leaning against me. I don't know what to do, but i think she likes me. I have had a crush on her or a long time but not a strong like fruity crush making it awkward being around, but a pretty normal crush.
Recently I have been a bit confused because I feel like I don't really have to much of a desire to get girls. To give a bit of context maybe, I'm 19 and in college right now, I had one "real" girlfriend so far but am still a virgin and have made quite decent progress on self improvement especially in the last few months but I don't really feel like getting girls if that makes sense. There are definitely girls attracted to me and I'm capable of picking up signs as well but I just don't want to fuck around even if I could. My problem is that I have the feeling that I should have that desire as a young man and something is subconsciously holding me back, maybe not having any experience so far for example or me being to picky. Thanks if anyone read this far and I'm happy to hear your thoughts on this :)
Hey man, honestly its all up to you and you dont "need" to have a girlfriend to feel fufilled and i know someone just like you if it helps. many people need a significant other to feel whole but you shouldnt force yourself if thats how you feel. Also if you ever do change your mind and decide to search for love theres no inauthenticity in that 👍
While this isn't so much "hidden" as these signs, something you should really pay attention to with a girl you like, is how she responds to your jokes. I don't consider myself a very funny guy. But with my girlfriend, when I'm with her, it kind of brings out a kind of humor that doesn't show itself when I'm around my friends and family. Teasing her and dad jokes and all that. And she loves my humor. Even when I think it's too silly or too simple a joke or whatever, she just gets a lot out of it. If she loves your humor, good chance she loves you. Also, the touchy thing is real. When I first held her hand, I just had to gesture towards her hand, and she was a little flustered, but she took it. When I sat down on the couch with her to watch a show she really liked, she was too far for me to put my arm over her shoulders, but over the course of an hour she just kind of inched towards me every now and then, even when her parents were there for a few minutes, and eventually she got close enough for our arms to touch, so I just went ahead and put my arm around her. No negative reaction, she didn't go stiff or nothing, she was comfortable. And bro a few days later I sat down to watch that show again with her, and I just told her "come 'ere," and she melted into me. Now this is all stuff that's really useful if you're already dating/hanging out with a girl, which indicates she at least likes you enough to spend a lot of time alone with you. But if you're unsure if she's just hanging out to be nice or if she's really very interested in you, then it's good to look out for this kind of thing. Also, thanks Hamza for pointing out eye contact and her talking to her friends! My girl will fairly often just hold very strong eye contact, which is a little odd because of her ADHD. But I only just realized recently it was because she's so infatuated. And her talking to her friends too. She was just texting her friend the other day and she just straight up took a selfie with me to send to her friend. I like to think I'm fairly observant but this kind of stuff slips through so easily. Pay attention boys! If you're not paying attention you're never gonna learn through the best teacher: experience. You will learn most of what you will know from it, so make sure you're really present.
