I feel this in my bones -- about a week ago I came upon a line of cars on the side of the highway in a fairly remote part of Minnesota. As I rolled past the line of parked cars, I saw a man doing CPR on a motorcyclist with 10 other people watching. I quick stopped grabbed my first aid kit which is velcro'd to the back of my passenger seat and ran toward the situation. Once I got there they shared that the motorcyclist had no pulse and the man had been performing CPR for 5minutes prior to my arrival. I was able to hand out gloves to other good samaritan folks who happened to be medical professionals but, didn't have PPE. Once I handed out gloves I realized that the biggest risk was a car coming down the highway and hitting the scene, me and 2 others walked up the road and started controlling traffic for about 15-20 minutes until the sheriff and search and rescue were about to assist. Tragically, the motorcyclist did not make it. Ironically, I added a valved CPR mask to my First Aid kit the next day (Monday) and resupplied my gloves in the kit -- and the ironic part is someone decided to break into my car Tuesday night and steal my firstaid kit. Anyway, Van, Thank-you for the "kit your " video and sharing the philosophy of "the spirited man".
You did amazing given the circumstances, thankyou for being such a good person trying to help. I hope the motorcyclist rests in peace, thoughts with their family.
@@wellversedhealthyhealing9979 Thanks! We've changed how we park our cars -- we live in a fairly urban area and our parking pad is covered by some fairly obvious cameras. I think there is a trick to arming my car alarm by hitting the lock button twice. Granted, there was some oversight on my part as I don't think the hatch was fully seated and it prevented the door locks from activating. I have been playing with the idea of putting my First Aid\Trauma Kit below the drivers seat (I like having it in a place where I can grab it) -- it was previously velcro'd to the back of the passenger seat for quick grab and go.
Goddamn Neistat, it's every video. I just fucking love your take on the background audio. No one else, that I know of, does their sound quite like you do.
Confidence (a la Van Neistat) Ingredient 1: Desire Ingredient 2: Resolve Ingredient 3: Foolishness Ingredient 4: Practice Ingredient 5: Punk Rock Arrogance (just a touch) Want something. Commit completely. Ignore (the many, little, imagined) risks - fear will stop you from ever starting. Fail or no, keep trying - Die trying. Create within a story - a story that says "I deserve to be here. I will succeed here, because, of course I will."
Joe’s instructions for confidence 1) try something hard 2) maybe succeed 3) probably fail 4) ask for help or figure it out yourself but at all costs try 5) learn something and ultimately succeed 6) repeat knowing that trying will lead to something good 7) understand that success has many flavors 8) help other people to do #1 You’ve got this
When I was 6 I got lost in the largest water park in America (at the time). Very very formative experience. I did panic a bit but only a bit. Eventually I thought it out and figured out a plan and it worked. It was practice…and it gave me a touch of punk rock attitude.
The cloest I have gotten to seeing someone almost die was the last time I had gone up on Mt. Hamilton to go bird watching. I was walking along the side of the road, watching cars and bicyclists wizz by me. I had spotted an American Kestrel up in the sky, and I watched it for some time, after it flew out of my view I started walking back to my car. On the way there, I saw a man in a full suit (thank god) come around a corner at a very high speed, I watched him wizz by me, and just as I was about to turn my head away from I'm, I watched him fly off a cliff. I had a small moment to think what the hell I was going to do, I dropped my camera bag on the floor and ran over to him. Thank god he only went a few feet over, and this cliff was more of a hill. In his excess of speed going around the corner, his bike jumped around, and right at the apex his front tire lifted up and he got sent over. He crashed through some barbed wire fence, but was overall OK. Once I got over to him I made sure he wast dying, and me and a few road cyclists I waved down pushed his KTM Supermoto off the side of this hill. I stayed with him till he confirmed he had a ride on the way to pick him up, and I made sure to offer him water. There wasn't much better I could've done to help the guy out, but I wish I would've found a way to make sure he was genuinely OK. God bless that guy for not dying, he was real close.
An overlooked detail: a six year old at a waterpark could be wearing a life jacket. But it's not a lake. There's people everywhere. You can introduce a little risk to carve out that initial comfort zone that starts scary, but eventually acts as a well for future confidence. Great video as always!
Confidence comes from competence. There is NO OTHER WAY. Anyone telling you anything else, is either lying or wants to sell you something. You need to be supremely competent in what you do, to be confident in what you do. Sure you can fake it, but that goes only until you are caught. Any lie about competence falls short at some time.
Imo, you can and should be confident about something you're not competent with. How else can you learn anything? Being good at something can definitely increase your confidence, but you won't get good at something without confidence in the first place. Performing something unsuccesfully with confidence, while you're trying to learn said thing, doesn't make you a liar, that's called doing the best you can.
I've only pursued competence in a subject when I was confident that i'd enjoy learning it; this has been good and bad in many ways growing up, sifting through to find what makes me happy, but eventually grew a confidence to be competent in the things that make me happy; so I can produce competent action towards the intent of the things that make me happy, and grow with it. If I learned all I could to feel confident before I had the experienced of trial and error and failure of making new choices and discovering my desires; I may not have had the time to learn how to learn confidently and discover what makes me happy beyond reason. Now, I can reach the limits of competence with my joys without lack of confidence, so long as I'm only concerned with what I think about my path. We each have a different way of reaching the same goals, which is the beautiful thing. If we had more confidence in each other, maybe there'd be less to distract us or break our confidence or have us question our own competence on our paths.
If you want a clarification that better expresses what you're saying, self-esteem is unconditional. Self-confidence, on the other hand, is conditional. Obviously, if you're bad, it's normal for people and yourself not to have confidence in you, but that doesn't stop you from doing your best and enjoying what you do with unconditional self-esteem. It's not a bad thing not to have confidence in something you haven't mastered. On the contrary, it's a sign of good sensitivity and objective understanding. If you don't have self-confidence, even though you’re good, it's because you have low self-esteem. on the other hand, self-confidence without competence has nothing to do with giving one's all, and everything to do with being arrogant.
I don't resonant with this video. It reminds me of the saying, "If you can't convince them, confuse them." I lost my four year old for one and half minutes of hell in Disneyland's Mickey house. I ran screaming like a banshee moving people out of the way, backward through the line. My desire and resolve didn't give me confidence, just a force to die trying. Outside I saw her politely explaining to a staff person she was lost. Thank God! she knew what to do. I suffered horrible shame after. I hope X feels good he knew how to get help. I would have like to have seen that ending.
I live in El Paso and ive almost lost my son a few times. WET N WILD is pretty big but luckily most people are nice and wouldnt take a kid for the wrong reasons.
Not sure fear begins in the stomach. In my experience it mostly begins with a thought or perception - in the senses and brain - and then is felt in the stomach. And much more of it is created in my head than ever arises from the gut.
I’m 47 and lack fundamental existential confidence. I just don’t feel like the world needs anything I have to offer. I’m 6 months sober and it’s getting better. Stay tuned I guess.
This is why I never developed the "confidence" to let my kids play hide and seek at any park - my FEAR - was exactly this. I had no Desire to play hide and seek.
Richard Bransons' mom took him a mile from their house when he was 4 years old, dumped him off, and encouraged him to find his way home...to build confidence. It worked.
I find it amusing that the person who utters the words expat and whose favourite thing to tell people about berlin, is the americans he met there, is of course also a strong advocate for israel. Its mesmerizing to see how this man with all his know-how and artistry cannot exercise enough critical thought on the world around him and himself, to realize what kind self-righteous ideology he propagates. But what can one expect from someone living in california after all.
P 17 did you use a real therapist? Or did you do some online shenanigans masquerading as mental health therapy? BetterHelp has been proven to be a flawed business. Stop promoting their nonsense when you know there are better methods
Yeah I don’t get it. It’s like he doesn’t understand his audience. He’s a little boastful that he doesn’t read RU-vid comments but if he did he’d understand his viewers are sick of better help’s BS and annoyed with him for promoting it
@@Rufio1975 it goes “you can please all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time”
Despite having a friend that can benefit from this video, the last minute is such a strange endorsement. Morrisey and Israel? Viva Mexico and all that, but dang dude read the room.
As a father. A necessary skill to learn is to develop a loud, recognizable whistle. Go learn one spirited men, and teach your children to come on command.
I claimed that competence is a funny thing, then I pointed out how sometimes people with large amounts of authority are incapable of performing what are considered basic skills for someone who gets paid way less, and saves lives. It raises a lot of ideas about what someone who leads others, or who holds high office should be capable of. That's all.
@@jaredt.murphy8257 weird conclusion tbh. People who hold “high office” have more important things to do. They’re also surrounded by people who could perform CPR? Just a strange thing to say. No I don’t think people who hold high office should be able to perform CPR. I also don’t think they should carry a defibrillator, narcan, or be able to perform the heimlich ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Great video as ever Van. Morrissey...hmm tricky. I was a huge fan of his and the Smiths but his numerous racist outbursts have made it almost impossible to enjoy his music now
If you can't separate art from the artist, then you need some personality. You don't get an award for crying about every single thing that could be deemed offensive. Maybe black trans muslims will finally forgive you for your inherent white privilege if you boycott and divest from the Neistat family
@@564bruno nope. Since the very first one (casey fan). He can do whatever he wants of course, but as a father too its hard to understand that part. Didnt mean to offense.
Its true that he should stop taking Better help Sponsor, but on the other hand we should also understand that he have to support himself and his family
