1. Doesn’t speak in a assertive confident tone 2. Anxious, neediness, clingy emotional attachment 3. Lacks leadership and the initiative to be direct and make a move 4. Bad vibes. Being the dude in the corner, anti social 5. can’t pick up social cues and read the situation
Dood U nailed it with 4 & 5 I was shocked to find out how many people thought I was arrogant or stuck up- the whole time I thought I was being respectful giving people their room and privacy. Now I realize how many people are trying to crawl up my aaa and lately been much much better at engaging everyone- and it's working. I even went so far as getting business cards made lol
That tonality section really cracked me up at the rapport breaking part NO WOMAN WOULD BE ATTRACTED TO THAT ARTIFICAL ASS TONE LOL. You have a lot of good point but that was bad. Women just care about how confident you can speak
I understand what you mean, it did sound a bit try hard, almost as if you need to speak in the Batman tonality, lol but the principal of what Danny is saying is true, you can’t sound as if you’re seeking when you ask something, I catch myself sounding like that and I try to adjust it into a more neutral form, but when you speak in a rapport breaking tonality you almost have to speak as an authoritative figure, kind of like a police officer, principal or CEO of some sort. I first heard of this from the RU-vidr Brett Maverick and he goes a bit in-depth with it, makes sense.
Though I love many of your videos I feel like this is seriously missing the mark. You are right about the martial arts analogy, but if all one does is correcting this and that and that all the time, then the person looses being Himself. Because if I try to correct X, then I turn her off by making mistake Y, because "I focused too much on X" or if I do X and Y correct, I'll still turn her off with mistake Z, because "I did those correct, but it something still felt off, I didn't sound genuine" and so on. You can't win. Like I have to pre calculate all the time my tone, timing, etc. I'd love to have a video more about being Yourself. But to be honest, by now I pretty much given up on pursuing any women, and not expecting anything out of anybody.
I am like you and quite negative on the dating market. At the same time, this guys advice is really good. As he said; its not about perfection, its about getting better. Your defeatist mindset isn't going to help you. If you were truly done; you wouldn't have spent the time to watch this video.
4:02 The topic of tonality is interesting and something I hadn’t thought of before when I was single and dating. It also makes me curious about my tonality in my daily interactions and what messages I’m sending through my tone. 🔥 jacket!
Damn bro, I was wondering why a girl went cold on me all of a sudden, now I have like 5 possible reasons. I led convo real good, still wasn't sure if I was ready to show my intention and she ghosted. Totally on me.
Honestly there's a lot of influencers out there who pretend like they can offer you this one stop shop tip to make it all make sense but I think this guy is probably one of the realest ones for not doing that. You're straight to the point, you're honest and you also realise that it's a process, that sometimes it may even be wise to look into therapy to actually get comfortable in your own skin. You offer solid advice and you're solid all around. Keep up the good work man, you really giving some good perspective.
Neediness always comes from the seeking of a desire. Desire uses people to achieve an endgoal. Desire comes from a lack of gratitude. Gratitude should be pure awareness of the present. Desire is different from honest intentions. Once you have that solved you can be curious and open to the world.
You need to like girls to have them not just look at them. I was ultra unsocial when I was teen playing pc games for 18 houra a day with many problems around me and after working on myself in every way that girls like after few years of many many rejections and threats from risking with them I became good with them like I get girls with ease and still I try to become even better because I love girls and think about them whole time.
So women don’t want to be your mother but they expect you to provide financially for them , listen to their emotions and so many more things ??? What’s the difference??
Looks are really the ONLY thing guys are rejected on. More specific, your looks level versus the level of the guys she has access too. Everything else is completely cope.
Looks get you in the door but won’t help you retain a girlfriend. If gives you a greater buffer of fumbles but at some point if you’re constantly a doofus and a simp she’s gonna bail. Your looks need to match the personality.
this is the dumbest take I've ever heard. I know loads of ugly guys who pull women like crazy- and handsome guys with absolutely no game/ make women uncomfortable
You are absolutely right. One day, woman told me that she loves my voice. That was the first time we met. I was stocked. I didn't know women do care about men's voices.
Not going to lie the tonality part was good until “rapport breaking.” It sounded ingenuine and trying too hard. Neutrality was the difference between rapport-seeking. I believe neutrality should be tied to rapport breaking. Thanks for tips man it has help my confidence
Bro, your rapport breaking needs some work too 😂. I think it’s the one most guys struggle with. But your neutral is top tier! You forgot positive dominant tone, which comes across as assertive, but light, fun, and pro-social
That positive dominant tone you speak of would be awesome to master, especially if you’re in some type of a leader role at work. I would like more insight on that topic
Hmmmm. . . interesting, but, to be honest, I would not want to have a conversation with someone using neutral or rapport breaking tone of voice, it’s way too monologue, boring as hell. The first rapport seeking voice sounds like it comes from someone who is positive and a whole bundle of fun.
Speaking of tonality, how do women react to the “vocal fry”? Even though, this style of speaking seems to resemble the rapport-breaking, it absolutely drives me nuts when females (or anyone) speaks with it!!
Y’all should realized that all these doesn’t apply to men in their 20’s. If you’re in your 20’s and you as a man is not trying to better your look, your finances, your health, your mental, you won’t be able to do none of what he is mentioning because nobody will want to stay around a loser.
Nah brother, you're only 19 and have plenty of time to improve yourself. Never give up, don't defeat yourself before you even get in the game. Stay strong beother
