In this video we discuss why men and women are incompatible as friends. Let us know your experiences below! Have an idea for a video topic? email us at questioningthequo@gmail.com #relationships #men #friendzone
Lol i had à guy friend But it ended up me liking him but i keep ignoring him cuz he blocked me on social media and lied to me and told the truth to my other guy friend
Maybe not now, but when you start looking for more meaningful relationships, ones that involve sharing a life of substance with a woman you’ll see how important friendship with the opposite sex really is..
It cant happen because of the physical attraction. Yeah maybe but honestly it cant happen think about it guy n girl are friends it's not gonna be a deep and close relationship that you can share things with and there is no fun when you dont have feelings
@jay c. smith bcoz you accept being in friend zone & keep hiding your desires. If you are a successful man you won’t need female friends, every girl will wanna be yours. Only a loser will go for being just a friend...
Not true! I have a friend that i find attractive for a couple of reasons: 1.hes my friend wich makes his perosnality appealimg to me, and that automaticay makes you admire them as a whole and 2. Looks and things like that are normal to admire and even be attracted to in a friend, because again, its someone you chose to be around and find a good person. But being friend-attracted and romantically-attracted feels different. Maybe boundaries, maybe compatibility only existing in a platonic form and not a romantical form, certain case is that i never even felt and incling to catching feelings, and that feels impossible. Both of us find each other physically attractive and we get along fine, but romantic have no room to grow, because the chemistry at hand is specifically platonical
Unless she's unattractive, it's impossible for men and women to be friends. I have a GF, but when I was single, I never saw most of the women I dealt with as "just friends." I'm always ok with not having a lot of female friends because chances are that my feelings for them will develop overtime, and I would eventually tell one of them about my feelings. If a guy is gay, of course it'll be ok for him to have female friends. As a straight guy like me, I'm too high valued to be friends with a woman I find attractive. I also can't believe the hate you guys are getting from the ladies on the comment section. They're just mad because you two are speaking the truth.
you might wanna say she's not your type, or else you just being so controversial on your own words and i have nothing nicer to say to you. Nobody is "unattractive", sir...
@@nhi8851 Fuck off Troll. Doesn't matter if what I say is controversial or not. I'm just stating my opinion on this topic based on my experience. So cry me in a fucking river for being butthurt about what I said isn't something you agree with.
@@giovannichambers2841 wow real mature huh. You probably think this is social media and you can say bad things to anyone, but in fact it is tracked down and one way or another I think it's time to grow up. Considering your comments I aware you might have a good intentions, but rather talk down to females with your narrow narratives, you could raise your mindset for a little bit. Try harder to respect others because guys like you are the reason why females only hang out with gay men and the guys they actually trust.
I'm a guy and I hate these guys or people in this community. It's not because it's not true. It's how they deliver the messages. All of this sounds like women vs men, us vs them and they keep using cringey internet slangs like beta orbiter, no one use these words irl lmao. You can advice us to not befriend with women in a normal way. Too much testosterone
This might be true when you’re younger, but the older you get the more you will realize the value of a good, platonic friendship, be it male or female.
Only two scenarios I can think of where it “might work” 1. Both parties are not attracted to each other and just happen to have things in common (extreme rare) 2. You’re childhood friends and see each other as siblings (also pretty rare)
As a girl, I have both female and male friends. But with my female friends I can talk to them about my problems, go shopping or saloon. With guys I can go for karaoke or bowling. It depends.
If your male friends are straight and you're even half-way attractive they want to have sex with you. They're just waiting for the right opportunity and for you to feel the same about them.
I don’t like hanging out with my girl friends 😢 they’re all talking about marriage, pregnancies, and kids. I’ve known them since school bc I went to an only girls school, but I don’t like pretending interest in those topics. with my male friends, though, I have more things in common and I feel more comfortable around them. I’m tomboyish so they treat me like a bro. XD
@@nelacaro57 I'm a feminine lady. So I vibe more with my girlfriends and we can talk about anything and share problems. With guys most of the time just for outdoor activities kinda stuff. Each with their own way
@@emanuelmota7217 and why is that? Because we are weak? Oh please, there are women who are way stronger then the avrage man. Women in the military is a better idea then men in the military. Plus, you mostly use weapons anyways and when it comes to weapons strength does not matter at all so shut it will ya?
@@summergirl222 strength does matter… how much do you think the equipment used weighs??? and biologically speaking the average man is probably stronger than the average woman.
Nope. One girl in any strongly working system acn bring tye whole sysytem down or atleast change its proper functioning added that to them being physically weak.... WORST IDEA EVER
This is so sad and gross. What do you mean "spending a bunch of time with her and not getting anything back"? Her time and genuine friendship are invisible to you because you only see her as a tool. Female friends are not a waste of time. You are.
one of my friend has a female friend and now he wants his female friend to breakup with her current boy friend so he can get the chance...They started as friends
@@unapologetic1413 Whether he was attracted to her from the beginning or developed those feelings later, the point is - at SOME moment - he realized he was attracted to her and wanted MORE than JUST friendship. (Odds are, though, you're right - he was attracted to her right away and played the "friend card", which is exactly the point of this video).
@@emanuelmota7217 The first part of your paragraph was completely irrelevant because you still agreed that he had an initial attraction in the first place. Men will NEVER understand what females go through and they will continue to make excuses for each other. I can't count how many "so-called" male friends I've had to cut off because they lied under the guise of "friendship." However, if they simply would have expressed their interest from the BEGINNING, I would have accepted that. Men need to understand that agreeing to be a woman's friend doesn't automatically guarantee that that woman will fall for you. In fact, it's quite the opposite. As soon as a woman views you as just a friend, (which means that she doesn't find you sexually attractive) you might as well get comfortable in the "friend zone." However, there are "rare" instances when a woman will give a longtime male friend a chance.
@@unapologetic1413 You're missing my point. I'm not making excuses for any men. I'm saying that, if a man is physically attracted to a woman then he will never be satisfied with JUST being her friend - he will always want more. He'll want sex (at least) and maybe also a relationship. Now - it IS very possible that the woman in this situation is not aware of the man's true feelings. Though I DO think that MOST of the time women ARE aware if this man-friend actually would WANT to have sex with her. And that women often take advantage of the man's secret attraction and string him along for his attention and validation. (btw - This is NOT an uncommon occurrence. Happens a LOT to people in their teens and twenties. Usually stops when they settle down, as the wife will NOT allow her husband to have close female friends. If you're still young you WILL learn this). Eventually the man realizes that he's never going to have sex with \ date this female friend of his (or he makes a move on her and is rebuffed) and he pulls away, for good.
Tbh Men are Friends Because they Understand each other, Support Each other, crack Some Jokes To each other and because they Understand each other in what They are Goin through they Know its a Tough world out there and are Willing to do their Best and men would Never Forget about Each other even if they are away for some yrs cause it just shows how strong the bonding is between men
I...my friendship group is mostly men always has been, non of us are attracted to eachother and most have girlfriends and i have a boyfriend, i really think it truly depends on the person, this is just your thoughts and experiences everyone is different.
"thats not in their nature" wft are you talking about? making fun of people and making crude jokes doesnt have anything do do with gender. And not all guys like that stuff. "girls function more emotionally and guys function more logically" Thats not true at all, dudes get emotional all the time. Anger is still an emotion "someone is gonna catch feelings" Do they think that every gay man is attracted to their male friends then? its imposible for a bisexual person to have friends without falling for them?
Exactly! These guys are full of crap. I know I sound dramatic but this is bs. If anything, these two gentlemen are off the rails. I make offensive jokes with my friends all the time. Thanks man for your insight
I only have 2 types of female friends: 1. Women I am not attracted to 2. Female internet friends I would never has a in real life friendship with a women I find attractive. I cut women like that out of my life.
@@isolow9910 It hurts bro. You pine and wonder what you can do to get with them etc etc or they use that against you for shit rides food drinks etc etc had it happen too many times
This is why I ditch my guy friend because I realize I catch feelings for him. But he want to be just normal friends not close friends not good friends. Just a friend who motivate him and always be his advisor in life and praised him. But get nothing in return. For 7 years, he keep me at arm length so I decided before my feelings got hurt more than it already have I decided to break the friendship by slowly fading away from his life.
Damn this is really sad. These dudes really can’t get past gender or see anything beyond primitive nature. They’re saying that their lust is so uncontrollable and it consumes them so completely, that women are useless for anything besides sex. That’s really sad It’s also really sad to hear them say that men cant be men unless they’re toxic to eachother and make crude jokes that are probably about raping women…. They said they can’t be friends with women because they can’t enjoy the pleasure of being toxic around women… 😬 their lives just sound so…..vapid and boring. They have all these rules that they call “nature” It’s not natural to be obsessed with gender…. It’s called social conditioning. Nothing they’ve said is logical
We all are at different levels of awareness and healing and consciousness. That's why reincarnation is a real thing. We all need to learn lessons. Souls incarnate in different lives ans bodies to have experiences. But that's a really esoteric subject most won't get. They speak from their own experience and viewpoint. At least it informs us how these two feel and think! Always useful to know
@@skyejacques damn you were really looking for an excuse to talk about reincarnation weren’t you 😂😂😂 Well blah blah blah whatever you say I guess. Sounds like the new age bullshit really seeped into you
@@skyejacques lmaoo “healing and consciousness” Lol I remember when I use to study new age bullshit. All the little buzzwords and all the “healing” I’m not making fun of you babe, it’s just really corny and weird to be trying to squeeze that shit into every single conversation. Maybe one day you’ll cringe at yourself and move on to bigger things…right now all that new age consciousness bullshit seems like the holy grail of knowledge because you’re just beginning to find yourself through it, but trust me if you are really a seeker you will get tired of the corniness and desperation
@@skyejacques basically saying “it’s okay that these dudes are narrow minded and toxic, it’s BEAUTIFUL & magical like a Disney movie and our souls are meant to come to earth and be annoying and toxic and misunderstand the existence of others because that’s OUR journey and it’s HEALING and beautiful and blah blah blah” Like come on babe…..not everyone is that naive and corny. There are better ways to be “esoteric” and spiritual that don’t involve being annoying
So my question is, just because one of them has feelings, why does that make it impossible to be friends? Just because the guy, or the girl, is hoping things will go further, why does that mean that they are being "strung along"? I just don't understand.
because with each and every smile you gave them, you keep feeding their false hopes that someday in the future you will be their partner, this is just cruel because sometimes the other person can't move on, so he/she keeps hoping and hoping and hoping and be jealous of your boyfriens/girlfriends until forever. Just coldly reject them already, it is much more humane. Safe travels.
@@invictus7207 wow, sounds like maybe you've had a really hard experience of this sort. I'm sorry, unrequited love and feelings for someone it doesn't work out with truly can be painful.
@@devalillaheart3320 The typical female non-answer: "Who hurt you?" smh. Basically used, when women have nothing concrete to say. You are mostly uninteresting to us, unless there is a romantic involvement. The way we spend our free times don't match with each other. Men are more action oriented and women are social talkers. Most men have no interest in talking to you, unless there is some romantic action coming right after.
@@erkanerenoglu1355 so are you saying men dont have any interest in conversations? Edit, ok that's clearly a rhetorical question i admit. I'll be honest with you, i personally feel a little upset reading your comment, that feels very heartbreaking to me because of my own past experiences. I would ask that you just try to be open-minded and understanding of women. We are all human at the end of the day, despite our differences. We both have hearts that break and that love.
I think you're completely wrong. why can't you just be firends? you've known each other for other 20 years..... like you have both dated, both even been married.... like why can't you be fiends???!!!
There is so many illogical things you just said clearly you have dated ok? What happened to being freinds? You have gotten married oh what happen to being freinds?? And now you are freinds😐🤔...WHATTT????? You are clearly a woman with that kind of mind set
Maybe im the odd one out, but I never understood this at all, this concept is so foreign to me. I always liked being friends/aquaintiances with girls, a good portion of my friends/acquiantiances from online communities, college, grad school etc have been of the opposite gender and I saw them as human beings. Girls are people too, i never understood this at all. I always felt weird and odd getting along better with women, because of social stigmas. I've never really been one of the guys tbh. Im a straight male.
This video completely disregards altering perspectives, such as demisexual, asexuals etc. Beyond that, there is so much value in platonic relationships, women have more to offer beyond sex. This implies men are not able to set their sexual interest aside and have platonic interactions with a female. Sure, straight male to female friendships can complicate things, but it's not impossible and can be really rewarding.
You! (And most women) Place value in platonic friendships....most men don't see it that way...and because you arent a man you can really tell me how i benefit as a man from a platonic friendship with a woman...
@@superdrew8564 I'm a man and I'll tell you that there isn't really a difference in friends who are girls and guys for me. I don't see my friends who are girls as sex objects, I can acknowledge that they are just as distinct as any man is. My friends who are girls have different personalities and therefore bring just as much value to my life as any male friend I have. I make jokes with them, I hang out and have fun with them, I'll even go shopping with them from time to time. It's no different than any other relationship.
If a woman looks at a guy as her “male girlfriend”, he has no game. If he is a potential sexual partner other women will find him attractive. Women want guys who other women want. If that is the case, he won’t be her friend for long.
I had a short fling with a youngish (28) French girl recently. She told me that she sleeps in the same bed as her male “friends”. I thought it was really weird but she didn’t see anything wrong with it. She found it weird that I wouldn’t sleep in the same bed as her before we actually got down to business. I could never commit to a girl who thought this was ok. Any thoughts on this?
Me and my boy bsf been friends for yearss and never had any types of other feelings towards each other and we’ll never cuz we dont wanna ruin our friendship and sees each other as siblings, and not tryna be cocky but I aint ugly lmao, yall just never had a real friendship with the opposite sex
You can not read your boy bsf mind... you are a woman and women doesn’t have same feelings for every man the way men have for every woman unless you really are ugly & unattractive or man has way better options than you... Men conceal their feelings that doesn’t mean he doesn’t have feelings for you. It’s your fault you don’t see that
@@mahmoodmkj1 uhh he said it himself💀and btw not all bestfriends will have feelings for each other, idk why yall acting like a girl and a boy cant be just friends/bsf without having feelings involved
@@Wesss509 No Man will ever be a best friend with a woman unless he is attracted to her. On the other hand women are different creatures, some are really smart & know it but some go with the flow & never try to be logical.
@@mahmoodmkj1 I been single for a while now since I wanna concentrate on school, he had the chance(and still have) and still didnt take it so..we just dont see each other that way. and wym be logical wtf? U dont even know the bond I have with him to b talkin in the first place, we have like a sister brother type like relationship, aint never going to b us dating or catch feelings💀thats gon b weird af
@@Wesss509 either he has better options than you so he doesn’t need that from you or in other words, you are not attractive enough... OR he has some kinda fear: it could be he doesn’t wanna lose you even as a friend coz he thinks if he tells u his feelings he may lose u as a friend too so he won’t show his feelings, or he has fear of common friends etc... guys don’t always wanna go for serious relationship but they always want sexual affair. If he doesn’t tell you anything that doesn’t mean he is not physically into you... Many girls that are friend with me and I respect them all, they have no idea how much I’m physically attracted to them & I never show them that. If you will ask them they will say i never think about them more than a friend. But that’s not true.... you don’t know the nature of men... God created us like that. Women are greatest drug for men... even their voice can affect...
Same(We're among the minority). I've got about 3 really close best friends too. Unlike guys best friends that I've had, they're the only one who are still by my side/always there for me!!💙💝
Ask her if she wants to have sex with you and see how long she sticks around? Having a female friend is dangerous because of all the collateral issues that come into play.
we can be friends i think. but when it gets to that "guy / girl best friend" point that's where it gets complicated. im in that situation rn we consider each other besties but if you were to ask me if our relationship had crossed the bestie line i'd say yes
I usually only talk with girls when they are in group, but 1on1 they are really shy but smiling at he same time, they can't even look at my face for more than a half of second... All of my life I spend with male company, mostly in football and I think girls consider me as a guy that is inaccessible and exotic to appear in female society, but I don't know, I want a wife and kids and many girls find me attractive so for me is bit awkward to hang out with girls as friends... btw I don't have nothing against male/female friendship but 1on1 they are shy and in group almost every girl stare at me or kinda kidding me little bit when I walk past them, bandy about me lol, so I feel bit weird, the only comportable situation is actually when we had to work together in school or business...
Lol seriously?! 😅 They can't look at u more than that. Aren't u exaggerating 😂 i mean that's like too childish. Female -males friendships shouldn't be a problem in my opinion. You can find someone attractive but it's not a big deal. Hope u can find the wife you want and kids in the long term. Just try to be more humble, i kinda had the opposite vibe from you're comment. Maybe you didn't want it to go for that but anyways God bless u, grettings!
« Women want attention » eh. Whether we want it or not we will always get attention. I think as a man, because you don’t get chased, you’re projecting. Now let me tell you, women don’t have their ego boosted by average men. They do by hot men that is true.
What women want is irrelevant to men, unless it's some intimacy. What men want is important. We don't find most women interesting enough to be buddies with. Our interests don't match. That's why we have most fun with our brothers. Exceptions don't matter. This is the general state.
Im a woman and i only look at men as dating and marriage prospects full stop. And if i am not attracted to the guy, i dont dangle this lets just be friends BS to them when i know they are genuinely interested because it is not fair to them and so, i cut them loose. Thats why my phone list doesnt have the numbers of back up fellas to use in case i end up single forever, i lead a pretty boring life as a result. I do NOT have the right to friend zone any guy, i either desire you and would love to date you and see if something beautiful happens or i never see your face again. It may sound old fashioned but old fashioned has proven to work so many times in such situations. I really love this video by the way, great points esoecially about how high quality would react in scenarios like this. And by the way, you both are very handsome fellas!🤩❤
i have 3 best guy friends, we were classmates in high school and we are still very good friends, even though we dont meet as often, because we are adults that have stuff going on, everytime we meet its like we met a couple days ago. they have never liked me more than a friend because im pretty aware that physically im not their type and ive always been one of the guys. i've even gone on vacation with one of them, stayed in separate bedrooms and we never did anything to cross the friendship boundary. so yeah, i think when you meet at a young age and you are not attracted physically AND you are not compatible as a couple then yes. they can be friends.
If a man isn't sexually interested in a woman, he usually won't hang out with her. As most women are at least moderately attractive, if men start hanging out with them, we start to get feelings, imagining them naked etc. The only reason sex doesn't happen is because the woman wants to just be friends, once the guy realises he usually stops hanging out with her.
For all the females that are stating they can have guy friends and that's all, well get stuck on an island for a Month and let me know if he's not attracted to you then after about a Month then come back here into the comment section
I don't disagree with these points at all but, when you genuinely enjoy spending time with someone and see them as a person and not just as someone to have sex with than it can work out. But, its definitely easy to cross that line between friends and being more than friends. Like if two people enjoy each others company enough than they're going to want to spend time together but, mabe they both agree that they wouldn't want to mess up the friendship by pushing it too far but, it is definitely possible for 1 person or both to catch feelings. I don't see it as "wasting time" when the reward is getting to hang out with someone who you enjoy as a person. You can always pursue other females for sexual desires but, keep a good friendship with said specific girl.
Well said. I have always enjoyed and valued my friendships with men who I was attracted to or had strong feelings for. Its not wasting time if you can get value out of the connection and the sharing of conversations, kindness, wisdom etc.
@@devalillaheart3320 Sure, it's great for YOU. YOU are getting attention from these male friends, but THEY want MORE than just friendship. They want to F you.
A girl I knew in 2007, I had enough of her, not because of her, because her friends and my big brother controlled our friendship, so I kicked out all her friends and my big brother out of my house. Ever since I kicked her friends and my brother out of my house, I was no longer friends with her friends and my big brother. I disliked her friends because they had ruined my friendship with her, 9 years later, in 2015, she tried to get my friendship back, but she failed too, because I was no longer her friend anymore. So I walked away from her, because she chose her friends over me. From the start.
I’m so envious of the amount of fun boys seen to have, and the connection that they have with their bros. I never get along with girls and men never give me the time of day unless I show interest in more than a friendship. It makes me so depressed that the people who I feel like I can actually connect with will never want to be just friends with me. Its so lonely and I fucking hate it. Also it’s only immature boys who think like this, and men mature like 10 years after girls do.
Have you considered getting a boyfriend? Assuming you are heterosexual. He gets what he wants, you get fun and places to go with his friends, etc. If it makes you feel better, I never had bros and half men I know are lonely or just have acquittances. Bros are rare and they probably closed their friend groups long ago.
No, all men feel this way. (it's not a "thinking" thing) If we're attracted to you we want to have sex with you - we don't want to be JUST your friend. AND most guys who are "friends" with attractive women are actually just "orbiting" - spending time with them and their attractive friends in the hope that something will eventually happen sexually.
@@josephanglada4785 they dont want something more with men, they want to be just friends, so suggesting they have a romantic relationship with a man is not helpful.
@@emanuelmota7217 yeah well you men need to understand that all those attractive friends that dont like you like that are going to stay away from you forever, you will never see or spend time with them again. Why cant you look at a girl and not want anything more? Its annoying.
@@summergirl222 No problem with that, sorry if it was not helpful, but most men do expect a romantic or sexual relationship if they have to spend too many resources and time with you. Without that from a woman, for men bros are 10x better than any female friend, because they have more in common with them... just as women prefer female friend if they can get all they want from them. The gender dynamic is very interesting. There is nothing wrong with men sexually desiring women, and honestly they do not have much control on that aspect anyway. Male sexuality is like this, however, that that does not mean they hate you or see you as a sexual object to dispose, as some suggest. Those are psychopaths. Men are very visual and sexual, and male sexuality has its own beauty, passion and uniqueness that everyone can also learn to appreciate and enjoy. Male sexuality is what literally moved us to invent most things that we use today as a civilized society... to get status and get a loving wife and sex... Imagine that all... it is an amazing technology: all that animal sexual force focused as a laser to create the lifestyle and technology we enjoy, which made life of women and men far better than ever before.
Um taken advantage of??? If I tell a man I'm not interested point blank and not wanting to date them, and they say they are okay with only friendship it seems to me if they are lying they are the ones taking advantage.
I think it is logical. If my friend insults me I'm totally cool. The emotional and logical thing isn't super true. These guys are quite wrong about female nature because it varies. They have their right to an opinion, but here's mine. Most of my best friends are men, and we have all decided that we should look beyond gender. I've only had one friend ever have a crush on me and he admitted that, and we moved past it and are friends to this day. We look beyond gender and we mess around. They think of me as one of the guys, and I like to think of myself like that too. Let's be clear, my friend's aren't gay, at least not that I know of. I hear all sorts of crude jokes and so long as it isn't crazy offensive(I have a disabled brother and one of my best friends is autistic), I laugh along too. I know that some men think of this, but the truth is, think of a girl for her interests, not for what her body or birth gender is. Lol I might sound sensitive but I'm pretty chill. Just my opinion what do ya'll think?
Unless you're ugly....your so called male friends would all smash you...so they aint platonic... You can look beyond gender all you want, men and women are biologically different, we interact differently, etc...are there outliers aka exceptions yes but exceptions do not make the rule...on a balance of probability most women are X and most men are Y...
You literally said your friend had a crush on you and liked you. Therefore you aren't his friend... you're his crush. If you were to say let's get together, let's fool around do you really think he'd say no?? Don't be so naive.
@@ascotter Like I said he probably still has a crush on you. Why would he suddenly not like you if you are roughly the same person. If I were his gf I would not want him hanging out with a girl he fancied. I bet if you were to ask him if you were both single would he go out with you/ make out, he would say yes. In which case he's not just your friend. Test it out.
I like watching this and yet 85% of my friends are girls, this is hilarious, unless I’m just special and not like most guys, and honestly I’d prefer that lol
Only shows you are actually developed as a human being and can have non superficial relationships with humans! It shouldnt be rare but some people,(like these incels) defo cant reach that level lol
Men and women can be friends....I have 2 best friends...one is a girl and another is a guy. My guy friend and I are really close, with no feelings for each other at all. He has his own crush, (which it's not me) and I don't even have a crush. Simple.
Honestly, life isnt about being in a romantic relationship, you dont have to have feelings for someone even for someone whois attractive. Life is more then dating, people need to move past dating and sleeping with eachother. You know why r4pe happens? Because people think life is all about s3x or who is "lucky" enough to get a hot looking chick or jock, like life is more then that. If you really think men and women cant be just friends then it is clear you have the wrong intentions for every good looking person you see.
What about if you just meet a person that’s a cool person, inside and out, whether they are male or female? I prefer to hang out with guys, I love to golf and I love to play cards and poker and chess. I am sort of like an old man myself LOL But I don’t like to shop and do some of the things my girlfriends do So it makes it hard, because I do notice that there are different expectations with my guy friends
Finally someone said it I'm not high value man but no can't be friends with a girl especially if u single like eventually those feelings are gonna come
@@Christian-ml9sx what if i, as a guy, tell you that you're wrong? Kinda sad that people think about men/women this way. Of course we not "all work the same". Because we're individuals with different experiences and opinions. Stop speaking for all men only bc you're _that_ way.
Christian doesn’t speak for most guys I knew honestly. I mean especially if they were the type of guy that was driven to go to college and make something of themselves then you evolve somehow mentally and you can have friends lovers peers etc. lovers you get highly selective over end it isn’t all about looks or sex then
how do we know women are more emotional and men more logical, I know we keep hearing this but that alone doesn't make it true, what if they're less emotional, more cold and calculating?
A guy befriending a woman is typical in Asian dating. It is slow burn. Even if there is an instant attraction, one would hit a brake and take it slow. Try watching Asian dramas, it's all the same. Slow burn. That is the reason why Asian marriages last longer. It is meant to establish emotional, mental, and vision compatibility first than sex.
I learned this the hard way. I truly thought I could be friends with girls, but quick answer is nope. (Unless you're gay perhaps) If your sister(s) or female friend(s) get close to your girlfriend, the moment you break up, they're going to ditch you and support your ex. Never have I realized this to be so true until my best female friend of nearly two years up and pulled that shit on me. When she was down, had gotten into fights with her boyfriend, family problems, friends leaving her because of her stupid decisions, I was one of the very few people to make sure she was alright. And I already had some trust issues because of other people in the past, and then after my breakup and I told her I basically fucked up, she acted all friendly at the kickback, and then never spoke to me again/its been some weeks now. After all the time and effort us guys put in to make sure our male and female friends are doing ok, she had the audacity to not even check if I got back from the kickback alright. The time I needed a friend the most, fucking ditches me and tries setting my ex up with the friends of her cheating and manipulative boyfriend's friends. Its like they say, men are dumb and women are mean. You show your emotions and they fuck you over.
WOW! loving the heteronormativity! i also really appreciate the repression of male emotion! I totally forgot that men can’t feel anything other than bloodthirst and horniness!!!! Nero must be proud!!!!!! great video!!!!!!!!!!🤡👍
@@cookiek3350 i 100% agree with your comment regarding their use of “heteronormativity”. it's a stupid fucking word. although i agree with the video for the most part, i do believe men vary more than these guys claim. not trying to say their dumb, but they probably aren't really the introspective type. you typically surround yourself with people relatively similar to you. my friends are pretty open about things. but yeah, i'd never wanna hang out with a chick 1 on 1 unless i was interested in them and that i made that clear. so i do agree with this person that men shouldn't have to repress their emotions, and although I wouldn't say we're necessarily horny all the time, we do differ from women in the sense that we're basically always down to fuck. a woman needs to be put in the mood. with men you can just say "hey, wanna have sex?" and you'll get a yes. i mean not if you think they're unattractive, but i think a lot of men would still say yes to sex if the chick is totally average, without having feelings for them and regardless of being sober or drunk.
This is so sexist. I'm a girl, and I have 2 BEST friends that are guys, and they are the best. This is all false information because people can be friends with whoever they want. We insult each other, we joke around, we do everything best friends would do, even though I'm a girl and they are guys. Please don't say things like this because it will make people think that it is wrong to be friends with the other gender😒😒
@@nunka34ify Men and women can't be friends because there's always going to be an attraction....Why would i want to be friends with straight women??? What do we have in common....now, I have female acquaintance but I'm not friends with them personally...its a differences.
I had 2 freinds one hates women other hate man it was bad they fight every single day about who had it harder and who is the worst gender I try to help them but they just being stupid so I give up
A man doesn’t waste time with a girl he is not attracted to... may be he doesn’t want relationship but he may have lust... or he is just a loser who is happy even in friend zone
My best friend of 28 years is a male. So you’re telling me that he wanted more. I doubt it. We are very close and we talk about life ect. I love him dearly but only as a friend.
yeah, he definitely either doesn't find attractive but still likes your personality, is gay, or secretly wants more than friendship. i think it's more likely the last two. i have girl friends that i like and enjoy having around in a friend group. a couple im not sexually attracted to at all, and a couple who are average, where i dont have feelings for them. but none of these chicks i'd wanna hang out with one on one, even though i like them. although i dont have feelings for any of them, there are a couple that if they suddenly wanted to have sex, i would. if i genuinely dont find a chick attractive or sorta unattractive, id turn it down, but even if they're just average and i dont have feelings for them,,, yeah i'd be down to get laid. so yeah, he's either gay or wants to be with you. im the furthest thing from a "bro" and i still believe this as well. i just disagree with the whole part about men never talking about their feelings and what not. maybe meet heads dont, but there are plenty of introspective men who do. and even if a guy sorta falls into the nice guy category and is fairly introspective and what not, they're usually down for sex on a complete whim.
lol i'd stay in a friendship with you for 40 years as long as i know that there is something in it for me, unless you're extremely unattractive even then i'd still consider it (btw, is your male friend gay?)
It depends really but if both r straight and it's a close relationship its either he caught feelings n never wanted to say and gave up or he lost interest or hes gay or he just thinks of you like family which is acceptable if you 2 were both good friends when you were little besides that you're talking bs
no i had a girl that i was friends with my mom friend daughter she was 22 I was 19 when met I loved her but when my mom told me she found a boyfriend got pregnant with him my heart was broken so bad I was about to tell her how I feel on her 23rd birthday but she dropped the news showed her boyfriend to the rest of my family my dad and sister I was shock I buy her some gifts for her I returned her necklace she wanted a diamond I had feelings for her so bad now I am fighting depression I don't feel my self anymore now since my heart got broken .
As a woman, we notice the “I love you” eyes. We just don’t mind as long as you are not pushy. We just like the attention and power over you. You’ll do a lot for us but we’ll refuse to sleep with you unless an accident happens. But just because a drunken accident happens doesn’t mean we’ll keep having accidents with you. We’re still friend zoning you when hottie david comes through
i agree with everything other than opening up to friends. unless im just in a rare sort of group, but we've all been super transparent. you guys seem very "bro" so perhaps you just can't fathom it. Not trying to say that as an insult, but more so your mind is quite different. just like I can't fathom the whole "bro" mindset. my friends and i are all quite introspective and a bit neurotic, and have all struggled a bit with depression and anxiety. Additionally in are earlier 20s we did quite a few drugs together, so of course things like LSD and MDMA are going to give you a deeper bond. I dunno.... i just dont agree that men all think alike. of course there's certain stuff that is specifically male and other things that are specifically female in traits, women vary quite a lot, and men vary quite a lot. but yeah, of course men are wired differently, and basically are always down to fuck, unlike women. also women dont hang out and shit talk each other for laughs. i think there's an extremely high chance that gay men have WAY more sex than straight men, because they're both men. i have girl friends kinda, but only hang out with them in a group of friends. i wouldn't hang out one on one unless i was genuinely interested in something more. hanging out with a chick just as "friends" sounds boring as fuck. i don't even wanna hang out with multiple chicks unless im seeing one of them. not to sound sexist, because i like women, and being in a relationship with a woman is fantastic; however, i feel like for men, you pick your guy friends, but the girl friends sorta just happen to be there and although you may like them and feel like they're a friend, you wouldn't hang out one on one and they're way more disposable. It sounds harsh, but i just think it's the truth. if it's not a full blown sausage party, it's cuz those women are dating one of the guys, or they used to and happened to stay friends. so although they become part of the group, they weren't necessarily "chosen" and just sorta brought in. i mean i feel like it goes both ways. they pick their girl friends, and any guys coming into that group are seeing on of them. if a guy ends up at a party of mainly women, he's either seeing one of them, or is hoping to, or is gay. i cant see how a straight dude would go to a party of mainly women just as a friend and have zero thoughts about getting laid or something.
Yeah maybe you never were expose to enough people for that. Every human is interesting in theirvown way and living your life not finding people interesting enough just to be friends is weird. To each their own but idk My friendship group was well, never like that. We habged around cuz we liked our dynamics. We hanged out alone or all at once, i never had any sort of relationship to any of them, all with girlfriends. Actually, one of the friends in pur group was a guy that wasn't in our group and only reason he started being in the group was cuz he was dating her, abd tge second tgey stopped dating nobody hanged around with him. I have several friendship groups that are split equal between girls and boys, literally none of us romabtically linked and only connection being coming from the same school. We all have sibling like relationships, where everyone talks about realtionship troubles, hanges around in all type of formations, nothing ever weird or different then a same sex friendship.
And that's a-ok. A lot of people are like that, but don't let that discourage you from trying because the guys in this video are douches and stupid lol
I thought they were wrong. But experience showed they are absolutely right! It's sad but it's the truth. Woman tend to catch feelings or want to be treated like wifey after a certain while because they start to expect a lot from you when you're too nice to them. Going back to normal behaviour will make them angry and emotional...
Just because you have had a few negative experiences doesn't make it true for everyone else too xD I have only hung out with guys all my life and I have never caught feelings for any of them and they have not caught feelings for me. I am engaged now and still my group of closest five friends are all guys :)
Welp maybe you just didnt have the luck to meet girls who want the same you do, just like all the girls that had the misfortune to have ,"friends," trying to get into their pants. Give it a little timd and you ll get thosr platonic women friends
@@ilincabogza Hahaha of course there will be some women who are capable of being "just" a friend. But I guess you have to be an "asshole" and a "piece of shit" like a million times before you find those lmao
When I was a kid, I refused to have friends that are girls. I didn’t want to sit with them, I didn’t want to work with them, I didn’t want to do anything with them. I wanted to do things with boys. I’m a teenager now and things are different. I have friends that are girls and I have friends that are boys too. I’m actually glad I gave up my old ways with girls because if I continued doing it today, I would end up being gay. So yeah, I have friends that are girls, and I currently have feelings for one
I disagree. Men and women can be friends but it's important to understand your nature as a man and the nature of a women. Second. It's always best to evaluate why your doing "anything" with the women. Women love having orbiters, men on call when things are "needed". You have to evaluate if she is a true friend to you and vise versa. If you can't satisfy at least those two basic conditions, you run the risk of creating a fake friendship because of hormones. Bonus: being vulnerable is no big deal. The issue most ppl run into is they look for emotional support instead of emotional guidance and understand of one's self. Be careful of the narrative that has been spewing out for the past couple of years, where you need to embrace emotion like women do and being super open. Emotions/ feelings add to life but it isn't the point to Life. If emotions guide your life, most likely you will never be happy.
If a Man has a heavy duty GF that rocks his world. He could be a good friends with a woman if she is married and he thinks of her as a sister, and they are basic with each other. Like just getting desert and coffee 6 times a year. Thats ok with maybe another girl as well. Not 7 women though.
I my self never try to make women friends. I think that is unnatural. I had exeptions to this in the past and i never let those women to be in my sexual interest but because of that I could see the tables turning. One of my so called friends that was a girl is one of the people that i known from way back. But she was more like a sister me i know her scince we where babys. She was supposed to be into older men at least she braged about that now she was only an year older that me. But one night she tryed to suduce me really hard and to get validation as much as possible.
Bruh.. Not everything is about "relationship" I am boy and me and my girl bsf are friends for like 5 years. We act like brother ans sister. I've never been attracted to her and won't ever be "in love" With her because i love her like my sister and best friend. Even when we had sleepover we had much fun together.. Like friends! So that's bullshit. I have some guy friends but they will never be better then her.
@@lanzoalisson3483 yeah I was confused, I'm a straight male, and I know for a fact girls and guys can't be friends. Even if the guy isn't interested, the girl could be. It's a very low chance.
@@lanzoalisson3483 Just because you can make friends with people who make up half the population on this planet doesn't mean you're gay, gay is a completely unrelated thing)))
