Disconnect from the thought that I created about some persons , i always used to think how they fill what they value what are their likes and dislikes but they don't even make any move to know about me and my likes and dislikes they don't even know why during talking sometimes I stopped and lost in my world .. they think i avoid them but yaa it's enough.. i can not be always like this only giving giving and giving I have to be by bestest friend and my own soulmate as i have come on this world and have to leave one day alone ... I need to wake up and improve my SE part more because sometimes i always dream and lost in my fantasy that how my life will be if I will be with that person haw can I be their saviour and how I help them to understand about themselves but these really has stopped my life ...i want to let it go..from my life.🤞💚💛
In my teens I understood I was woefully inadequate at interacting with people. It was painful and scary, fear of rejection and all that, it was a quagmire I didn't see how people were navigating cleanly. But I knew I could have all the best ideas in the world but if I couldn't share them I'd have nothing. So I started to only take jobs that required me to interact with people, the hardest ones, security guard, door to door sales. Things that I was scared of and would be frustrating. It was rough, but it gave me what I needed. A sacrifice of my comfort opened up the world to me in a big way.
Doing a change I've been hesitant & not certain of how I wanted to become my New Authentic self with a title to match. Gain a good bit of experiences interacting with Humans having a variety of social experiences, but consistently coming short of important goals which would set Myself up for a Stable Life made me start anew. It wasn't from scratch rather than Experience. Breaking away from loved ones & distractions for a fixed time period has allowed me to catapult my life into What I've dreamed it being about since 2016, and I'm very pleased 😤🙏🏾
@@Karmyst88 Yes!! This is excellent advice. I find it has been very good for me to take on the things that scare me. I have even learned to speak to large groups of people I don't know. It feels really good to overcome these things. I still jump when the phone rings tho.
I used to imagine the reaction others might have when i decided what car I’m buying… when I let that go the few people near me that had negative comments, turned out they were negative towards me most of them time and I let them go from my list of people I’m invested in. Then I went thru my list and proactively chose who will stay and who can be let go. That improved my life and lot.
Whose reality? There is the delusional, and there is also 'whose reality'. You are not an INFJ if you can't discern. If you go with others' reality, then you are just brainwashed. I don't mean 'you', I'm talking in general.
Was very much able to relate to all points, but especially #5. That's a very good explanation of what it's like to get dragged into the internal world in our mind, and then disappointed when the actual world around us is nothing like it.
Stop relying on others for excitement @1:13 Take consistent action @2:22 Disconnect from others @4:50 Start focusing on extroverted thinking @7:11 Wake up @10:20
Is it bad that I get the videos on my feed, but then I put off watching them because I see too much of myself in the title and I don't want to face another person's opinion about me? That seem to happen a lot with this channel. But after some time I watch, and come back.
Your videos have been really helpful for me. You've helped me narrow my focus to my 2 top priorities: my family and my art. I started working on a novel in January and although I only write 1-2 pages at a time, it's really coming together because I work on it consistently.
The 4th one, thinking extroverted, is something I’ve had to learn to do at an early age in life. I always tell people, before you overreact (or under-react for that matter), take everything at face value. What it is on the surface, what’s objectionably observable is all it factually is right now. That’s been my best proven method for handling extroverted environments, and it’s great advice for young INFJs.
Possibly the single most helpful video you have produced! I have watched this three times and shared it with my wife as well. So much to unpack even though it is expressed very simply. There is a lot of ground to cover in those 5 sacrifices. Everything you are saying rings true though. I have spent my life letting others into my life just to live off their "S" energy. Its about time I cultivate more of my own thoughts, likes, and creativity and quit becoming so attached to all these others who ultimately drain me and leave me empty. I really appreciate you and what you do for us Wenzes!🥰
This message spoke to me on another level!! I am such a dreamer - I live locked in my own head sometimes, but if I want to realize the dream, I have to act. Oooh, I'm going to replay this a few times. ❤
I’m so grateful for all you teach and share with us because as a projector, I don’t think people understand how challenging it can be to take action and bring things into physical form from your mind, so this isn’t a highly talked about topic or one that you can find a lot of guidance on so thank you so much for touching on this. I’d love more videos on how to take action more consistently and do things you don’t necessarily enjoy to have the freedom you desire. I’m currently building my marketing agency and my biggest challenge is actually doing the tasks that I need to do so I can get my clients and then have my team do the work. It’s embarrassing that it’s really not that much work, and then I am essentially earning mostly passive income, and yeah, I can’t even get myself to do those things because I just don’t enjoy it that much and it doesn’t make me feel excited to do it, but the financial stability and independence it’s going to bring me & the freedom & time to be in my projector energy and live the life I want to live does excite me. So how do I make it happen? 😞
For me I am cursed. I am an infj with high functioning autism, chimerism and intersex with lupus. What a crazy combination, makes me a literal one of a kind. I feel like a super computer the way I am able to analyze the world and predict things years before they happen. Since I am unable to work it leaves me a ton of free time so I have studied many topics thru life from computers to ancient history, quantum physics, human medicine and biology. World religions and cultures. All these topics became essential to the path I was starting to go down without realizing it. It took me into studying ancient spirituality which resulted in an awakening that revealed my own past lives which gave me a very different perspective on humanity, especially the path humans are on. I realized why it was so important for govt to be behind a 20 year long psy op and censorship agenda. For so long I seriously believed that govt was trying to do this whole 1 world order thing, turns out I was only partially right. The human civilization as we knew it came to an end and emerging now is the new human nexus civilization. For the first time in human history children are smarter than there parents. That doesn't mean they are wise or properly educated. Just they have access to more information than the United States president did in the 1980s. So how does that affect today? It's an event known as the singularity. It is quite literally globalist boomers vs genz/millennials. The conflict is tradition, heritage, culture, religion and dominance. The old Bible approved slave Master mentality against the modern diversity. What makes this so dangerous is that the boomers are the most corrupt group in our American history. Not only does every single person owe the govt 250,000 in debt from boomers spending, they destroyed the planet and blame everyone else. I'm not talking about the hoax climate change, news flash that's called seasons just to them winter is global cooling and summer is global warming. I'm talking about the thousands of nuclear tests that put radiated material Into our atmosphere and jet stream that has poisoned everything. Nobody seems to wonder why in the past 60 years things such as cancers, tumors, genetic mutations have sky rocketed where before ww2 was nearly unheard of. Now these same boomers hold the key to our future behind dead mans triggers. When the ussr collapsed, nuclear weapons ended up on the black market. Many were never recovered. Leaked docs have stated that people such as gates, soros, Kerry, Clinton, putin, Xi, and many others have dead mans triggers. Last week out of desperation Ukraine tried to assassinate putin twice. Both times diverted by cia. If America is so anti Russia and claims war will only be over when putin is gone, why didn't they allow the assassination? Well now you know. The only way I am ever able to feel comfortable in life is when I feel I have a grasp on what is happening around me. The world is hostage to boomers who see there way of life has ended who is spending billions to collapse everything. Becoming spiritual is the only way I make it thru each day.
You could study how to make a a story, or video. Your vision of the boomer lifestyle being a major adversary, can generate many fictional charaters and drive your stories.
I would love to have the skill to write a story or script. I know my original comment was all over the place, so many thoughts all at once. As for what I was saying about boomers doesn't mean they are trying to do something diabolical. What I was meaning was there is a select few of that generation who literally feel they are the last of a species. From family values to societal status to what is freedom. Gen x had the best music and live and let live. Millennials had everything pulled out from under them and the debts placed on them where 90% still live with family or friends and has the least college success. Gen z is the first to fully grow up in a tech environment but to parents who still haven't figured life out and complain about there own kids as if someone elses. This is truly the most confusing time in human history because everything is converging at once. People without patience and filters who are used to instant gratification vs people who understand patience and cling to old values that can not sustain in the modern world.
Are you cursed with overthinking? Writeing down your thought, like you are doping in here is a cure. But are all your thoughts really your own thoughts? If you meditation, there are good meditation to protect from this. You might also spend too much time with other people.
Try Non-Duality teachings.. u can thank me later! I’m also INFJ with Autism+… Now I no longer overthink or need to understand things to feel safe & secure…
Wow. This was a really helpful video for me. Thanks for making it. I didn't know there was an INFJ 'community' and have never felt so represented before. I've been contentedly "cocooning" (that's what I call it) since leaving a 7-year relationship a year ago and the 5 sacrifices you describe fit perfectly.
excellent video it is far better coming from you than a therapist or reading self help book or watching videos that sound good but cannot be applied or implemented into my life this video clears the cobwebs in my mind thanks appreciate it. that was like a cold bath. when you mentioned co dependent that was when the penny dropped
Yep, all true. I have like a million ideas constantly and I just need to limit my choices, be boring and really focus into things I can manage and stay consistent with, I'm getting closer, but I still have a long way to go. Of course being aware is already that first important step, the next is TO DO IT.
I noticed the music symbol next to your name. Do you have experience with mixing? I loathe trying to learn how to turn knobs when I make music and was curious if you had any advice. I love making uplifting melodies but it means nothing when I'm not happy with the end result because I suck ass at mixing and sound design.
Hey, I do have some experience in mixing - just to be clear, mixing and sound design are two different subjects all together but can be used interchangeably! 😁 With mixing it is always best not to overcomplicate it, especially when you first start off! Learn the basics. I would suggest you learn how to layer instruments first when composing your melodies. Doing this will help with your mixing later on! So basically, not too much bass, not too much mids, not too much highs. Too much of anything drowns out your work! You'll notice when you do EQ in your mixes your instruments will start to sound more free and have their own space to breathe and play in your track! Once you have this nailed down you are ready to begin mixinvg! I would suggest taking it step by step. There are some very useful tutorials over on RU-vid tbh. I specalise mostly in vocal mixing and production! But mix tracks from time to time as well. Hope this helps you! 🎉😊@@austinatyahoo
I read what a previous commenter wrote - that the 5 points boil down to staying with reality. YESSS! I thoroughly agree. Point #4 especially pointed this out to me. I had never thought that I could cultivate Te - extroverted thinking - even though it's not in our nature. But when you told us it was a matter of "seeing what's there," it brought back some memories of how this gave me the courage to either change my mind, behavior, circumstances and even get out, based on plain old seeing what was there and acting on it. Giving people the benefit of the doubt and trying to consider "all of the implications" can be a good thing, but it can also be run into the ground to our detriment. The times that I have focused on Te I have found out that while it doesn't come easy at times, when I do focus on it and use it, I always end up glad that I did. And by the way, it wasn't always as hard to do as I thought it would be. 🙂. It was also a great way to get out of my own very consistent daydreaming habit. I'm want to explore the other shadow functions as well because I have a hunch it'll be will be worth it. We INFJs are stronger than we think we are!
Three phrases Having ESTJ dad exposed me to Te. Feels like fiery arrows to me. Sakirmova score shows how much of each of the 8 functions we have. Yes it is worth the try. ENFPs would gladly help broaden you. ISTJs could if you want it hard mode.
thanks for the extraverted thinking point and advice. my reluctance to this has hindered me, i have been making an effort with this over the last month and I have found some major changes in my life and joy and also dealing with manipulative people and seeing clearer. please keep doing what you are dong
Yours videos are just my perfect internal notice ! This one again and maybe the best. Thank you so much for your work, you help me so much with myself, even if i'm psychologist (french one). I'm so glad to know what you do 🙏
Extroverted thinking ( Example - person not calling you) is objective knowledge that should make us move on , this makes us genius and results appear , Wake up from the dream ✨💥
Number 4 is hard. A certain Rick and Morty episode said it best; using your fe function to survive in this anti-INFJ existence you must get used to including spiders in your ice cream.
I don’t think we have a choice in making these sacrifices. We either do them proactively or at some point life forces us to… which was what happened to me, and it was painful…
I tell myself this everyday 12:35 😅 I will make your videos my Trampoline to take big steps in my life 💞🤍 Inspiring and motivating~~ Thank you so much 🤍
Thank you, this was very relevant and complimentary to what I've learned lately about pursuing dreams. I find that I put off practical busy work tasks in favor of actions that get me closer to a big goal. Is this common for INFJs?
The only required step is the last one ..... #5 ..... Wake Up! Once an INFJ sees the real world for what it really is, the INFJ must decide to what extent he/she wants to participate in it .... or perhaps to decide how best to manipulate the real world to obtain the things he/she needs or wants to be happy. INFJ's are Masters of imagination, so "waking up" is really just consciously being able to apply the right INFJ talents to manipulate relationships or situations to achieve goals and objectives. Seeing the process as playing a game within one's imagination can actually make the effort fun and not force the INFJ to try to somehow assign "life value" to dealing with others in this way within the game.
Haven't watched in a while bc I stopped identifying with this label but yea I do forget extroverted thinking sometimes. Oh wait same thing? I stopped caring about what this external sys. Of thinking says about me. lol damn anyway happy eclipse szn y'all 🦂
I can list what people perceive as boring in my life: painting, alone time to ponder, creating food dishes, nature trail roaming, photography and loving my time with my husband❤ have a peaceful life and people perceive it to be boringAF lol but I like it❤I am a part of the 2% of women that didn't want kids and remain childless, so I have a lot of freedoms and people think I don't have anything to do😂but I am busy with my own stuff❤
that number for scenario. I could give an opinion on it . but I think I would rather not because that's never been the case with me I'm sure it has quite a few others guys and girls I'm sure that's not a gender type thing wouldn't fall into that category. wanting lying to yourself and misreading yourself the emotionally have with it because that would mean you were needy you wanted something so bad that you actually care about the truth of the matter and you were in puppy love with it and created your own subjective little bubble around that topic new topic only in literally just let your imagination run wild. in situations like that that is the worst thing you could ever do you're setting yourself up for extreme failure at the hardest level possible. again that also has to do with the fact you waited you are with your mind creating those feelings you're having. back to the second subject you talked about know who and what you are no lie to yourself. you know when people say you got to make that change and you're starting with that man in the mirror like the Michael Jackson song. you're not changing yourself when you're doing that. you're actually stopped being lying to yourself and accepting yourself thus coming to terms with who and what you are it's literally getting to know yourself your intentions your little quirks that make you angry or happier whatever the case maybe and if you're going to look in yourself to find those answers that you have to do. cube solve these problems and you lie to yourself you just look the other way you just cause more of a problem 2 times the amount a problem that comes with it
subject number to that she brings up. agree with almost all of this. you do have to have will the drive to do something in the first place are you never going to do it in the first place the motivation a willpower you ever heard of it's real. but you can't rely on that alone. people do not go for an identity change. that part is a hundred and 10% completely wrong! you are who and what you are and nothing more! you trying to change who you are! kills you leave you with no identity the person you are as no longer and never will be again! they call it dying inside and some terms when it comes to like hartfield losses. don't bring up this one pacifically because most people can identify with it. losing a loved one. being done extremely batty bat badly by someone you thought loved you. things of that nature. kill that person inside and they're no longer the person they once were. everyone has felt it or if they're young will feel it sooner or later. everyone can identify with it and know what I'm talking about. when you think of it. when that incident happened. it changed you your identity change you are no longer that person that killed that person you weren't changed you into something you are not. you can only be who you are and what you are. and hope that you don't lose who and what you are at all. but you will. when I hope for your sakes and my own that it's very very very little of ourselves that we lose that dies. within us. that changes our identity of who we are. first and foremost. that reacts in a way that it changes what we are. when that happens the you. it's gone. don't ever try to change your identity you can only be you. you can't magically change you and somehow things get better because you just literally took you out of the equation!
people you can focus your energy all your energy on somebody else and still have all your energy on yourself as well it doesn't create a codependency between you needing them whatever purposes making you codependent on them. you got a really good friend the reason why you know all that shit about him this cuz you've been friends for so long and you hang out everyday. that's not a codependency on them that's not putting all your energy into to them. that's taking your interest your opportunity and your energy to do what you doing with them because that's what you want to do with them. both of you being your own individual. that's what friends are that's what family supposed to be you your family and your friends are not there for you. you are there for your friends and family. and if they're actually your friends or family they will be there for you because you are their family so they would be there for you so that works. if you expect them to be there for you or if they expect you to be there for them it could be greatly Miss understood ideology you from them. but if they're expecting it that means the right back to the number one root of all evil selfishness. and they only seem like they're there for you because of what they can obtain from you and use you for with you being there for them. thou shall not want. it doesn't mean you ain't going to want to change things in life. it means you should not want what other people have and rely on them to give it to you or steal it from them. be happy with what you have and if you ain't happy with what you have make yourself happy with what you have by obtaining what you want and it eliminates the warrant. you should never ever want something of somebody else's but they aren't offering to give you this there's you have no right to that you didn't earn it.
Love your work but consider not saying people are AI. AI is just copy and paste deluxe. AI is using our combined work without paying us. We are not like AI. We are humans. 8:15
the first topic she mentioned that must be just on the female side or maybe I just never had that problem. people believe in yourself. someone else look up to yourself. have that Faith to know you don't need to believe in something else because the powers within you. I mean if you can't believe in yourself. no one will believe in you even though they say they do. you can't love someone else without loving yourself first. it's exactly the same thing same concept he's not too different concepts to make the scene push together to make seem like one it is that same concept just under a different topic in a different category.
