5 Signs You're Being Used - 12 Week Relationships Podcast #22 

I’ve recently ended a friendship with somebody, after looking back I realized he has a classic textbook anti-social personality disorder. He has superficial charm that lured me to him but he only used me for his advantage. He is callous, irresponsible, lacks remorse, he is impulsive and reckless, failing to consider or disregarding the consequences of his actions. Blames me for the wrong things he did. It was so toxic that I had to leave.

The label of manipulative or not being nice because you are expecting reprocity is wild

I love this conversation and love your channel. I don’t agree though with the idea that doing nice things for people is necessarily manipulative. I do lots of nice things for people with no ulterior motive and without keeping tabs. (Yes, I am a person who struggles with saying “no”). Occasionally, however, with a few friendships, there comes a point when it becomes obvious to me over time that certain relationships are not reciprocal because the situation has become so one-sided. Having that realization after the fact and over time doesn’t mean you’re “keeping score” or you had “manipulative” motives when you did nice things in the first place. To make an observation that a situation or friendship is not reciprocal it is necessary to evaluate behaviors of both parties, including your own. It just means you’ve made an observation that you are being used. I disagree with the premise that making such an observation means you’re somehow “keeping score”; that’s not true at all (at least it’s not true for me that I’m aware of). Also, I get why you were initially upset about the girl asking to see Tom Brady while you’re on your first date with her (that was rude) but seriously, what did you think, that after your almost first date you had some sort of claim on her? Obviously she and Tom Brady had a connection and there comes a time when you need to let go and accept what is. This story about ending your friendship with Tom Brady a year and a half later because he took your girl (who turned out to be his first love) is such a weird thing to do and I think shows you as lacking empathy, not him.

Despite the great lessons we learn here, the colour and nature of your voices and the way of talking is sooooo enjoyable to listen to.

Thank you for doing this. This helped me understand why I attracted the narcissistic type personality. I can relate to Pye's father. I can relate to Dr. Glenn also. I come from being raised in a big family environment. I basically struggle for a long time telling people "no."

I am dealing with a narcissist but could not understand until I start watching your videos, you guys make it so easy to see, understand and I am done asking questions

Thank you gentlemen… Wow!!!! Love your podcast dropping so many knowledge!!! I am like a sponge absorbing all this 🙏🏼. Keep the hot topics coming!!!

So good towards end of video when Dr. roleplays the way to work with a narcissist!😊❤Excellent! Thank u!

Enlightening to look at the inverse position in order to change my behaviour in reinforcing boundaries. Particularly recognised some of the 'roles' people 'play' so I can let them run without stepping into the drama. Thank you.

Loved it ! Keep the good work guys ! Helping me understand what my relationship was

Guuuuys…. THANKS SO MUCH for this one.

Really love your podcast. I can really relate. Thanks for sharing

Thanks for sharing this!

This was wholesome

I disagree with doing things to get something in return... maybe some.

Thanks you ! From photography fan to this channel

I always ask myself why I help people all the time but then when i need help or even get stuck on the road I don't have anyone to run to, and i have to call the police to help me? but now i know and one thing I planned to do as of today 01/01/2024 is to say no coz i always felt guilty and help even when it bothers me to please the other people. I took the empathy too far but no more.

Great info

Thank you , 🙏

The jokes & laughs kill me

Thank you, this was very eye opening