Kudos to you for taking the effort and time to educate yourself to be able to understand and help your daughter better. I wish you and your daughter all the best
My grandmother was a nurse. She didn't use this term, but she taught me about the vagina being self-cleaning. She said, "You take care of the outside. The inside will take care of itself." Much love to Grandma, born in 1910.
@@cimbaerly She was. That side of my family is Quaker going way back, and it showed in who she was: very interested in social justice, anti war, progressive, open minded. She was also amazing when I came out to her, and would actually ask how my girlfriend was doing.
I thought I was weird for having discolored underwear... Growing up, my mom used to say that I didn’t wash up properly that’s why my underwear got in such state... Years later I’m finding this video and I’m glad to know I’m not the only one and that it’s normal and healthy ☺️ Thank you so much for this video!! 💜
Don’t be afraid I make my husband of ten years watch stuff like this cuz we now have a daughter. And be honest guys just don’t know that they should know this stuff
As a single mom of a son I fully understand Because i wish there was a tutorial on how to teach your son to pee standing lmao Edit: thanks for all the help I just wanted to add here that i was talking about outside I'm glad he sits on the toilet lol
@@calycalyps0 I have a dad and my brother always peed sitting down xD he doesn't have to aim and that way and it doesn't sound like a freaking waterfall.
same. didn't know about the bleaching until it came up randomly in a conversation with some friends. and it was a male friend that mentioned it because he loves knowledge in its many forms.
I just learned about it now through this video! And will turn 32 in about a month! I never worried about it luckily. But now I at least know it is totally normal! Or in case it wouldn’t have been normal, I knew to go to my doctor about it. Same goes for other things we learn here from MDJ! And not only is there need for better sexual health education in the US. I am from the Netherlands! Didn’t know this either. And never learned about things like spotting (for example) either. Most of these things I just have conversations with female friends and sometimes they know it when I don’t, or the other way around. If we both don’t know it, we look it up, or ask other female friends! At least I’m glad to have MDJ around over here! Like just now with this video I learned about the bleaching thing! So if a friend asks me this, I know the answer ☺️. Grateful for MDJ! 🙌
I grew up in Juneau, Alaska, and I literally had ONE MONTH (of once a week, one hour classes) in middle school, and they didn't teach us anything but about STDs.
@@Keeperoffyre I love that your male friend likes to learn about many things, even things like this! So many men feel disgusted by the topic of menstruation, or just things vagina’s do!
My own mother SHAMED me for the regular discharge I had outside of my period. It IS something that is totally normal, but because its not something she personally experienced, she told me I was dirty. If I had heard this information at 11 and not at 30 when I finally had the courage to talk to an OBGYN about it life would have been very different
I have asked a few friends how on earth they can go without wearing panties under a dress or something. They don't have discharge. Imagine an average woman sitting down in a dress without panties. Might have a moist spot on the back when ya stand up. Also, wearing jeans with no panties would only work for someone without loose lips. 😊 Oww for the rest of women.
@@Theintrovertednow If she doesn't experience it (the amount varies greatly), and, as was common for her generation, these things were not talked about, she may well be ignorant about it. Still could have made an effort to find out instead of shaming out of ignorance, though.
I was just telling my grandmother about the discharge and she was telling me it was not normal because she used to be a woman's health expert in the 70s through 90s. I tried telling her about what Mama Doctor Jones and she didn't believed her and wanted to give her a piece of her mind. My dad had told me to take what my grandmother says with a grain of salt.
Yes but honestly they need to educate everyone about menstration and what's normal. I'm trans so experiance it but it always shock me how little cis men know about afab anatomy.
Yes! I learned nothing about my body in the ONE health class I had in elementary school. Never again did I have a health class. So I am still learning what is normal and what isn't. When I first got my period I thought I was dying! So....yeah education should be a thing.
This is BLEACHING!!? I thought they were stains that just never came out. I was like "yeah, kinda nasty, but I'm not about to throw out my perfectly good underwear for this"
Note to parents: please warn your child that brown blood/discharge can be normal with their cycle! I completely forgot that part and when it happened to my daughter she was worried. Learn from my mistakes!
Yeah the first time I had it happen I was in college and so my mom wasn't around to ask and I was scared. Definitely something to remember to tell your daughter when she's young!
Also that you could skip a period without being pregnant. I was 14 and had an absolute breakdown cause I hadn’t had a period in 3 months. Between stress and thyroid issues that weren’t diagnosed until I was 24, now I know that it’s normal for my body 😅 Now I’m on the pill so thankfully I have a consistent cycle
@@mandymagnolia1966 I did remember to cover that before they got there. My oldest did have that happen in the beginning but it seems to have regulated now. They both have tracking apps!
@@mandymagnolia1966 oh no that is so sad. Poor 14 year old you. this happened to me also but I was a lot older. I didn't get my period till I was 16 or 17 (I can't remember) and mine like to show up for 3 months and then be gone for 3 months. This continued until I was 18 and I finally went on birth control and then it was normal from there on out. Except for now 15 years later it decides to not show up at all so I'm back to the same spot but whatever
@@UlexiteTVStoneLexite God I was a mess 🤣 I was sobbing to my mother and she just looked at me and asked if I had had sex. When I said no she laughed and said “you’re not pregnant, you can skip your period”
My grandmother and I never discussed my body. I am blind, completely so. She was very, uh, not kind. When I got my period for the first time. She literally made me wear diapers. So learning that I'm not a dirty sl*t for having vaginal discharge is a huge relief. I thought it meant I had some kind of disease or something. Thank you.
Didn't think menstruation would be considered that when I had my first period my grandma explained it's a sign I'm growing up and becoming a woman that it will happen a few days a month till I'm between 45 to 50 and I hope your doing better now days
Oh dear, I am so sorry you were treated that way. I hope you can heal and be comfortable with your awesome body. I hope you have kinder people around now.
Happy to see dads with daughters commenting here. Nice to see men interested to learn about female body to understand what women face on daily basis. Kudos to all conscious dads out there!
I remember getting freaked out when my underwear starting getting lighter from vaginal bleaching. Then I had my first girlfriend and was told by my dentist. "Always brush your teeth after being orally intimate with a woman because the acid can break down your enamel". Thank you dentist for the awkward but informative talk.
I did not know this. Good to know. That was a dentist dedicated to oral health. You can't get your enamel back once it's lost, so as awkward as that conversation must have been, kudos to the dentist.
My mother gave me hell for the bleached undies. One day she tried to shame me for it in front of my best friend's mom. And she was like "... that's normal tho" my mom argued that it wasn't. And I should be ashamed, Thankfully you friend's mom, for making me feel normal. And thank you Dr Jones, for confirming that.
I just want to take time to say think you for all that you do… I am a disabled soldier with multiple military sexual assaults. Ur videos really helped me understand myself better and gave me the ability to learn in a space I feel safe. Many rape victims really struggle going to the gyno… I really appreciate your videos more then you know. You help me so much as an adult. I didn’t have the best parents growing up and talking about my body was forbidden in a sense. I’m happy I found your channel. ❤❤❤ Education is key for so many successful things especially women’s health. 🇺🇸
I was trafficked. Just know you're not alone. It does get better. There will always be bad days, but over time you will have more and more good days. I recommend EMDR and Tapping therapy. EMDR let's you process things in the background without even having to say a word by using the same eye movements used in rem sleep and Tapping helps reframe thought processes so that you feel safer doing things that are hard or that trigger you. It helped me a lot. I hope it helps you too. I wish you the best of luck on your healing journey.
Picked up feminine products on many occasions for my wife. Was never an embarrassment for me. Also had three daughters . Seen pretty much all of the process. No biggie, just a little part of life.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on RU-vid for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!!
They really need to be talking about this in school. It's important to learn about this at a young age. It would help a lot of people and could save girls from quite a few awkward conversations.
Honestly I think it is the parents responsibility. I just wish my mother had told me about periods. I was 11 and at school when I started bleeding and was scared. I thought I had hurt myself. Thankfully a lady teacher came into the girls bathroom and explained what was happening and helped me out. I was clueless thanks to my mother not being much of a mother and preparing me for it.
@@matchabug9204 no it's not school is where you learn they can learn there if they want parents to teach them then why send kids to school at all so they can learn shit they won't even use like geography school is supposed to prepare children for adult life education wise all parents are supposed to do is teach morals
It's only due to Tiktok that I learnt about the underwear bleaching thing. I've spent 20 years thinking I was the only person this happened to. Thanks to Gen Z for talking about it.
Yeah, I learned that it wasn't just me in my early twenties from RU-vid. I told it to my mom who is a highly educated woman and she actually didn't know. It's crazy.
@@cocosiren2859 I'm not a white woman, though. It's a some women problem. I actually looked it up once, a few years ago, whether there are racial differences in acidity, and according to one study I found, black women have a slightly less acidic vagina than white women, which is great for the underwear, but not necessarily for health.
Same. I used to call it acid crotch 😂 My male gynecologist didn’t know anything about it when I asked about it I’m my teens or early 20s. I’m guessing women just didn’t talk about it much back then.
Glad you mentioned that “really heavy” bleeding with clots isn’t normal. I feel like “light and “heavy” are totally subjective terms based on one’s own typical period, which could be affected by a chronic condition. At 30, I went to my GYN complaining of “fairly heavy bleeding” that was starting to affect me at work. She didn’t respond until I specified that I had started AND finished a value-pack of super-plus tampons in the space of one cycle. Most women don’t know how much they are supposed to bleed or know when to seek help unless there is a marked change.
That's also another reason why I like to use a menstrual cup, many of them include a small scale on the side, about how much one cup or half of one should be. If you track that, you can give your doctor an estimate about how much you are actually bleeding
@@hi-kt8jj I just figured that if it wasn't coming off in the washing machine, then it probably wouldn't come off in any other situation either and let it be. But it did cause me some stress like "oh no do I need to buy a different detergent or use warmer water"
same here!! I thought I was doing laundry bad/ wrong or my machines werent working. Also, I used to get HEAVY discharge where after washing it, the undies are still stiff from it...is this normal? it wouldnt come out until after 2 washes, then maybe come out. I think it just destroys the fabric
It's sad that girls aren't hearing this from their moms and or doctor's. Schools don't even wanna teach the basics and u wanna trust them to teach female biology...nope, schools will teach that once u identify as something, everyone else has to go on with that delusion to not hurt feelings and other nonsense.
TO ALL THE DADS HERE::: Just wanted to say you are all amazing! You are doing more for your daughters than my mother ever did for me. As a girl that had to figure everything out on my own, I can tell you your daughters will definitely appreciate it 💜
And thanks to the moms who actually put an effort into figuring this out for our daughters. The parents who actually care are who are the real heroes here ❤ and the doctors that teach them 😊
I'm in the same boat as you. My mom didn't prepare me at all for puberty -- I was just free-flowing my first 2 periods and it took another family member intervening for me to get a pack of pads and learn how to use them. Happy to see all these dads here doing right for their kids, I hope it makes for more healthy and trusting families out there!
SAME! Ive been carrying for my mid 70s mother who devoted incontinence after breaking her femur.. anyway- I've had to drop everything I'm doing in my own family's life to bring my mom continence pads bc she doesn't give me a heads up. I recently realized how frustrating it is that I'm taking much better care of her than she'd ever done for me. When I was a young teenager, I started my period and told her, she brought back a bag of pads from the store, tossed them to me on the couch, and that was the extent of menstruation care or information I ever received from her. Being ashamed and embarrassed to buy my own, I always used toilet paper, for YEARS. So when I drop everything when she crabily tells me in her guilt giving way, she's using washclothes to supplement her briefs, I finally had a chance to let her know how well she cared for me back then. (and guess who gets to wash those washcloths, yay.....) Sorry if I sound bitter, she was a pretty terrible mother to me, though my little brother was the prince 🙄... Jeez, thanks for the cheap therapy over here 😅. This lady is awesome! I love how 'matter of fact' this all is to her. It's how it should be. I never want my daughter to be ashamed of her bodily functions, and hope she'll even have a sense of pride as the lovely young lady she will be. Lord knows many of us need all the help we can get! 💖💖💖
To all the men coming here out of interest: you're chads and A+ dating material. I know my friend has a boyfriend who, when we talking about the period in biology class, listened intently to a degree that it was kinda odd. When I asked him about it, he said: "My girlffriend goes throigh this every single month. What kinda boyfriend would I be if I didn't know about something she expierences every month." Be like that guy. 🙏🏻🥺
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on RU-vid for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!!
I’m so glad you added in the part about NOT bleaching. I have always had bleached underwear and known it was normal, but the last few years it stopped and I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me 😂 I asked my gyno and he looked at me like I had 3 heads.
Yes, me too. I've never had bleached underwear, so I wasn't aware it was a thing. I was getting a little worried when I heard about it in this video and realised I don't have it. I'm happy she added that extra bit to say it's also fine if you don't have it.
As a father with young daughters, I appreciate these videos a lot. My hope is that if they see that I'm comfortable (and knowledgeable) enough about these matters, then maybe they'll find that I can be approachable enough to discuss it with me, and not be embarrassed.
Suggest this channel, and I bet your girls will be like ,,,DADDD LOL IT WILL DEFINE OPEN UP THE COMMUNICATION LINES ,IVE ALWAYS TOLD BOTH OF MY CHEST, THEY CAN COME TO ME ABOUT ANYTHING, THAT MAY BE BOTHERSOME THEM OR IF THEY HAD A QUICK ABOUT SOMETHING ,I HAVE A GIRL AND BOY IN THERE 30S NOW BUT I WANTED THEM TO KNOW THAT NO MATTER WHAT ,ILL ALWAYS BE HERE TO JUSY LISTEN AND GIVE ADVISE IF THEY EVER NEEDED OR WANTED ANY ...
When I was a teenager my dad told me it was because my underwear wasn't washed properly and it felt weird because it was always just my underwear that had the bleaching. My sister's never had it. Then one day years later once I was an adult, I asked my Obgyn and she explained it. I just wish I knew from the beginning.
"although about 50% of the population is in possession of a vagina" You're a literal queen, we the trans, gender fluid, questioning, and non-binary thank you 🥺💕💕
A single dad with a teenage daughter who wanted to say thank you greatly for your videos. I've taught her since a young age never to be embarrassed or afraid to talk to me about anything. If I didn't know I'd find out, hence where you come in! Today she's not shy about talking to me about anything.
Thank you for being interested in your daughter's life, its hard to have these conversations but you knowing whats happening with het does help tremendously
Hey they can be embarrassing especially if you are with a boyfriend cause they dont understand but I knew it was normal all along cause most of the ladies I know theirs are like that
Idk how to explain this to my sister, sometimes I would forget to pick my undies out of the sun so my sister would pick it up and ask me why its so dirty, I would tell her it isn't dirty I've cleaned it thoroughly with the detergent, but she wouldnt get it. She doesn't get it cuz her undies are absolutely clean, no stains at all which confuses me a lot, and for the same reason I am too shy to explain it to her
Being the son of a nurse has always had me curious to know more about how our bodies operate. Pair that with my natural curiosity and ADHD, I search out random bits of knowledge to keep my mind learning everyday. I'm always worried someone will come by and see what I am watching and think I'm a pervert 🤣 This stuff needs to be taught in schools, especially here in the states. It's important for everyone to know how their's and others' bodies function.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on RU-vid for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!
omg, I wish I had resources like this back in my day. Back when I was a kid in middle/high school I received a pretty bare bones sex-education, and turned to the internet for help answering the questions I had. Some of my earliest understandings of sexual anatomy is exclusively from Wikipedia and porn. RU-vid was still in it's infancy back then and didn't have awesome educational content like this. I'm glad to have progressed past the dark ages of not knowing how to get to this kind information, but I still mourn for the younger version of myself that the adults in my life didn't see as deserving of a comprehensive sex-education.
This is something that schools need to show cause I’m 15 and I have alway thought that this stuff was not normal and I felt uncomfortable but now that I have seen this I feel better knowing it’s normal, and a lot of other females don’t even know it’s normal and feel uncomfortable. Thank you for sharing this
@@marytc2714 I’m questioning my sexuality. I thought I was a lesbian, but I’m into some men as well. I’d say I’m pansexual. I just love the lesbian flag.
I felt very uncomfortable with that stuff all my teenage years as well... and there were sooooo many irrelevant details I was complexed about, now I cringe just thinking about how much I was focusing on that hahaha! I wish I had such a resource at that time!
As a single dad with two sons never thought i would find myself watching anything like this. But i can say i learned more way more than i ever imagined and feel empowered to answer any of their questions.
Well done sir! Imagine if one of your sons ends up in a similar situation as you....but with daughters. Or worse, their future wife doesn't know. By you teaching them proper biology now (no matter how gross they may find it) it sets the foundation for the future. Example? My uncles grew up in an area where the woman was expected to do the cooking and cleaning, and the man worked. A man cooking a full dinner by himself was unheard of. My grandma ignored that and taught all of her boys the traditionally feminine chores, and Grandpa taught the girls traditionally masculine activities; every single one of them grew up to be well rounded individuals, despite the neighborhood gossip. Fast forward X number of years, and the second oldest boy got married. Unbeknownst to him, she had no idea how to cook anything that didn't come pre-prepared. If she couldn't cook it, she just got takeout. New couples are often on tight budgets, so to keep them from starving, he wound up cooking the meals and teaching her in the process. Fast forward even more years, and now all of his kids have been taught the same set of skills he learned, and then some. He was the one to teach the girls about periods, and drive them to their first GYN appointments. He was the one to teach the boys to sew. The oldest is now living by himself, and calls home for social reasons, not panicked emergencies because his shirt popped a button or he can't cook anything besides ramen. Over half of my cousins (I'm the oldest of 28 grandkids) are pretty confident in their survival/homemaking skills...all because two people ignored the social norms and taught their children what they needed to know, and most of those children did the same. People, teach your kids non-traditional skills. Guys, it's not gay to know how to mend a hole in your shirt (or even sew it from scratch). Gals, learn to swap a flat tire and check your fluids. No, you won't be considered 'un-feminine' for it. If you already know how to do this kind of stuff, teach your friends. There's a time and a place to allow the opposite gender to swoop in and save the day, but in an emergency when there isn't someone who can around to do so, you'll wish you had learned. Educate yourself on biology on both sides so that you know what is normal, and when someone is giving you false information. Let's promote intelligence and independence rather than looking good on social media. The world would be so much better for it.
Someone tell whoever is responsible for the educational programs in schools to substitute all the useless stuff we learn in our early years with these videos. Let's normalize talking about our bodies. And most importantly, let's normalize talking about the male and female sex organs.
@@defenderoffreespeechand2a794 neither did we; we took the ovarian cycle and reproduction but we never took sex organs in detail. A shame, really. This channel is a blessing.
During postpartum, my discharge bleached all my underwear. It had never done that before so it was a bit alarming. But it stopped after about a year. Pregnancy changes the body in so many ways, many of which I had never heard of, nor was prepared for. Your channel helped me realize how normal many of those things were.
Legit my mother would always go on at me during puberty for my bleached undies, she was convinced I was peeing my pants and I was like no I swear it just happens. Thanks for the shame mum geez
my mom knew that it was discharge, but she always called it nasty and dirty, she always told me to put on a daily pad every day and change my panties regularly so i wouldnt get infections because of the discharge, i still dont know if the discharges can cause infections but i put on daily pads everyday because i dont like my panties getting bleached out :(
@@ilchu8167 the discharge can not cause infections, but it can be a *symptom* of an infection. Discharge is normal. You should only be worried if it suddenly changes and looks like cottage cheese, is green, or smells very bad.
My gods thank you please tell men this! My hubs insists that it’s not normal to have black panties get bleached and thinks I need to go to the dr I keep telling him that it’s normal but mansplaining is a very real thing.
As a retired midwife and Gynaecology nurse who specialised in women's health studies, I am deliggted to ' fall upon' this channel, educating women about the normal properties of their vagina. It still amazes me that in 2021 people continue to find the subject, even the anatomical names a taboo. Good work.
Yes! Omg I wish I had access to something like this channel waaaayyyyy back (think late 70’s) when I was entering puberty. I swear my mom, the nuns at school and even friends moms made it seem so secretive. My aunt was a nurse and answered a lot of questions but she passed away when I was about 14.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on RU-vid for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!
Hello Carolyn i hope my comments didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comments tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comments section but i feel you deserve this compliment. If you don't mind can we be friends? God bless and thank you.
As a 13 year old female this was really helpful we never talked about female body’s and Virginia’s in school and only male body’s, so this was really helpful thx 😊
damn they only taught about the male parts? your school prob sucks, theres females too 🙄 glad youre able to learn now from videos, i feel bad for ppl wanting to know this stuff before the internet and could have access to this education
As a woman, it's nice to know the WHY behind things instead of just being told "it's normal" I always wondered about the bleaching ... and even sometimes compared the smells to bleach at some times on cycle and my mom / sister would kinda just look at me like I had a 3rd eye out my forehead... but doc said "it's normal" .... now I know WHY it's normal. Thanks.
ok, not trying to be gross but just really curious... your discharge smells like bleach? Could be a lot worse. And your partners would think you really cleaned up for them!
My mom never spoke about anything to me..not even sex..all she would say was.." you better not come home pregnant!"...i kind of knew about sex ..thanks to health class in 8th grade. I waited till marriage and Now i have 3 boys and i will teach them all i can about both female and male reproduction. Thankyou❤️
Exactly the same happened with me, except she didn’t say “don’t get pregnant”... I knew nothing about my period when I got it. I got it and thought I was dying! Very straight to the point, no explanations, nothing. Shortly after that, she bought a set of books that explained everything. But, when I saw them I was afraid to read them, bc I thought I would get in trouble. I explained all the sex education to both mine children, boy & girl. I must have done a descent job, she met me on the sidewalk when I returned from town & said “ I think I got my period” I said ok, let’s go and change . She said , nope, already took care of it. So I did something right, lol .👻🍍👿
My mom was the exact same and would never tell me what sex was or even what a tampon was when I’d see them advertising them on tv, she literally wouldn’t tell me anything, I think I learned what everything was from my friends here and there. But because of that I now don’t really know how I am supposed to educate my daughters about this stuff when it’s time because I never had an example from experience of how to go about that talk☹️
I'm a woman of a certain age who's actually finished with periods and everything that goes with them, but I'm still learning stuff from this channel.. thank you.
Have to say, definitely could have used this video ages ago, no idea why a majority of this stuff isn't taught in sex ed. I'm 23 and for a good portion of my life after puberty, I was shamed by my own mother for having weird coloration in my underwear. I thought there was something wrong with me because I never heard my sister getting talked to like that. It wasn't until after I left at 21 and moved in with a friend, also a woman, that I wondered if it was normal. I would do both of our laundry if she was working long shifts, and I noticed the same coloration. I didn't even know what discharge was until last year. I'm an adult, married, and hoping to have kids soon, and still don't know everything about my own body. Thank goodness this channel exists!
@@kellyalves756 "I’m just astounded at my lack of curiosity. I had no reason to not believe it was a problem..." Incredibly relatable take of the day, right there. For better or worse, sometimes I just default to "Well, okay. I accept this. This is normal ¯\_ (ツ)_/¯"
You know, that is such a sensible way of thinking about it. If one bodily fluid (sweat) can change the colour of fabric, why not another. Huh. Well done.
We seriously need to thank that girl and others who made that tik Tok, because of which we are able to talk about it today and not feel bad about our bodies
Huh. So that explains why literally every single pair of underwear I own has spots in it that are lighter. Yes, even my light colored ones. Every single pair.
@@thepunisherplayz it could also just be the discharge staining. I’ve never thought of it as bleaching, and my undies look nothing like that girls. I just get spot stains from discharge and obviously blood
@@BladeX11883 bruh for real!! Fruit of the loom 8 packs are where it’s at. If you can find your preferred style, there’s no reason to buy expensive underwear again! I used to think of them as child and “granny” panties but now I only keep a small collection of “fancy” undies.
I’m a dude and I also experience the “is this strange” stuff. Was 18 when my pee came out with a split stream and it freaked me tf out, fortunately found out that was normal
@@kayleighbrown459 probably because a bit of semen or mucus has exuded out of the penis after intercourse or maybe just sexual arousal, and then it's dried on the outside, across the opening. It can be very annoying when you're trying to point the stream at the right place at a urinal or toilet, and the urine suddenly comes out sideways or in two streams for a split second. Worse, it's never the same twice, lol.
I was shamed for my underwear not being perfectly “clean” and “unblemished”. I thought that there was something incredibly wrong with me because no matter how hard I tried I just couldn’t get my dark underwear to stay dark. 😔😔😔
I thought there was something wrong with me because my period blood was always brown! Like 100% of the time for 30 years! I did have a GYN who told me I have an exceptionally long cervix for someone my height! Chemistry!
This woman's approach is magnificent! As a teacher, I wish there were so many more people out there happy to discuss our 'icky bits' in such a fun, forthright manner that doesn't insult our intelligence.
All the dad's on here thanking her warms my heart. My dad has always been fine with me talking about my periods, cramps etc and him not blinking an eye when I get him to go get my liners/pads etc. It's great to see dads wanting to learn more especially from a credible source! He'd even looked at the tissue that I passed just to make sure I was ok my mom was positive it was from endometriosis but we wanted to be sure and that's what it was(he's a EMT and is in medicine too that's why I went to him) .
I'm 25 and I always thought something was wrong with me because of my "bleached undies". You have helped me so much with this! I'm so glad I found this video! I use to excessively clean myself because I thought I was dirty or something. Literally everyone should watch your videos! Thank you so much!
Im 13, and have always been physically “matured”. My mom explained to me that discharge was normal, but I’ve been having bleaching discharge since I was about 7 or 8, and never told my mom because I thought i thought there was something wrong with me. Only now do I realize other people experience the exact same thing, and that it’s fine.
Oh, I noticed my first discharge when I was 10 and I was soo self-conscious and insecure about that. Especially because I have a lot of discharge, so it made me feel confused. And since that day I use dailies and I still remember time when I didn't have discharges
I was just saying this to myself and I’m 32. I grew up thinking it’s abnormal because no one talks about it and they always made it sound like nothing is suppose to be in your underwear. It wasn’t until my late teens, early 20s that I realized it’s normal. Good that you’re learning this early on.
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The other thing that nobody ever talks about is how discharge happens as young as like 7 years old. I started getting discharge at around that age and I would stuff my underwear with tissue which led to many yeast infections and uncomfortable days at school.
Also nobody talks about the discharge you get when you’re ovulating, you know when it is like egg white. I used to think something was wrong with me for that but it’s completely normal also!!
When I was in high school, we did have to do a mandatory health class, but they never went over something like this. They taught the organs of both male and female and moved on. I didn't know why any of these things happen (because they do to me) and was embarrassed. Thank you for helping with teaching.
YES !! this is exactly what my “sex ed” lesson consisted of! like they forgot the whole part of sex, then just moved on. however they did teach us about periods (to an extent, literally only the basic “blood comes from here to prepare for baby, etc etc) but they didn’t teach the boys. the boys learned about condoms, which, yea, great, but both of these things are things that everyone needs to know. to sum it up, the education system sucks when it comes to sex education, and it left me confused and scared with many questions unanswered as a little girl with no female role model close in my life.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on RU-vid for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!
Omg the first time I had a blood clot when I went to the bathroom I thought i was dying!My mom (who is a nurse) quickly reassured me that it was normal but we need to educate young girls about this kinda stuff to avoid unnecessary stress and anxiety. Thanks so much for putting out good educational content! 💜
After you have a baby, they tell you that it’s normal to have blood clots the size of a *LIME* for couple weeks after. Since then, period clots are like no big deal. 😆
My daughter is 11 and I’ve been talking to her about getting her period since she was 9. I’m just very matter of fact about it. I explained everything to her because she was developing and I knew it would happen fairly early. I also know she is terrified of blood and I didn’t want her to freak out about it. She got her first one in March and because I’ve talked to her, she didn’t get upset. She was able to come to me without embarrassment. I did that because when I was growing up, it was like a taboo subject and I felt gross and embarrassed. No girl should have to feel this way about a completely normal body function.
@@charlottesmom I hear you girlfriend! I was toughing menopause out until I eventually passed what looked like it could have been half my liver...figured time to buck up and see the GYN. I was 58 and still having periods...needless to say I was famous at the office that day. They did a d&c, and that solved everything. I was kicking myself for not going sooner....what a relief!
@@queenbunnyfoofoo6112 , Ugh!! So glad you got it taken care of, that must have been a heck of a scare! Menopause sure was a heck of a ride, I went through it early-ish (54 now and completely done) it was luckily fairly issue free.
Husband and I didn't live together until the night after we were married. Early on, I was doing my night stretch/ handstands routine. Afterwards, I queefed, and I had to explain what that was. He was like, "Vaginas can fart?!" Not exactly, but close enough
You may be amused to know that in Australia, where 'fanny' is not your bottom, but your vagina, a queef is sometimes referred to as a fanny fart. It may not be a widespread term, but I've heard it from a few different places.
It's such a relief to know that I'm not a disgusting human being for having a bleached underwear, omg. I really thought I'm doing something wrong but was too embarrassed to even check xD thank you
I am a man and even for me it was a relief to know this! WOW!! I spent so so so many years wondering why those things happened to my then wife and I was so so so embarrassed to talk about it... WOW
@@tarshagraham7099 Yes. Just how acidic are our vaginas?? And should we responsibly allow someone else to put their body parts into them? (I'm saying yes, but have to play the devil's advocate.) lol
I’m just gonna be straight to the point: health class is pointless. As someone who had vaginal discharge at 11 I started crying thinking I was hurt and messed up. So I searched it up, I love how that was so much more helpful then my classes or family.
Atleast nowadays girls can google stuff. At my young age that kind of information was hard to find. No need to look things up from encyclopedias anymore 😆
Oof, I feel ya. Despite only having discharges a few years after the blood sacrifices started, it was still a nightmare and shock when mine also started at 11. I mean, I didn't even look like a proper middle school girl yet, how tf was I gonna cope with the ability to get pregnant.
Nobody had educated me when, months before my 11th birthday, I came home from swimming and saw blood in my swimsuit. I was terrified. Called my mother at work and said I thought I was sick. I'll never forget the fear. Education needs to start very early for those that mature earlier than others.
The school board in my city just ruled this video too inappropriate for a sex Ed/health class. I’m so disappointed. There is nothing in this video that 13+ year olds shouldn’t see. It’s so educational and honestly, the school system really makes people with vaginas very confused about what should or shouldn’t be happening. I wish I had this in health class, yet they choose to leave people confused. Sure you can say it’s the parents job to educate, but there are a large portions of parents who either are too awkward/conservative, are also unsure about things, or have been fed misinformation by society. I’m so glad you make these videos, but it’s just so irritating to see adults and school boards willingly shoot down scientific, important info that could really be helpful to so many. Sorry for my rant lol
Thinking about the sad time my religion textbook said discharge was a symptom of gonorhhea.. I was kinda concerned I had that even though I was a virgin(still am at 14) This was the only time it mentioned discharge MISINFORMATION DISSINFORMATION Of the textbook 🐯🧸
I just realized a couple years ago that the clitoris is a big organ with legs stretching back into the body. Medical science typically doesn't give a crap about women's bodies. And I also didn't realize that my undies were bleached because of the acidity of my vaginal fluids.
@@Ben-Carr ah so you're a transphobe 😏😏 please read some scientific articles and educate yourself because sex ≠ gender. Gender is socially prescribed. trans people exist and we've existed for centuries all in dozens of cultures. men can definitely have vaginas
@@Ben-Carr really just sounds like you came to this channel to invalidate people and make them have a bad day/feel bad about themselves for literally no reason. But ok, bigot
I love how she explains everything simply, but also makes it known that she knows the medical terms. I also love how I don't feel uncomfortable listening to this, because she says it all in such a natural way, that most people in real life wouldn't
Even though I may not be a woman, I have learned a lot from this video and I’m sure that this knowledge would be very beneficial to pursue a career in the medical field(particularly family medicine). Thank you, MDJ, huge fan btw!
MDJ, I feel like you should create your own sex ed curriculum and allow schools to use your videos! You definitely offer what every middle school girl needs to hear! 💛
Glad this video was explained gender neutrally too! I'm a transguy and it's really annoying when I wanna look up things about my genitals and all the results are seemingly strictly for/referring to women. Testosterone changes a LOT about the natal genitals lol
I worked in a clothes shop and a lady tried to return some knickers as they’d bleached and she tried to say the fabric/dye was faulty. I tried to tell her (discretely) that it was because discharge is acidic and she looked at me like I had 3 heads. Glad I am now vindicated!
67 years old and this is the first time I ever heard about bleaching of underwear as it never happened to me. This video was very informative. Thank you.
I don't have periods anymore since I'm over 70, however...I wish I knew this when I was younger so I wouldn't have to go through all the anxiety that I suffered from not knowing. Thank you for all the information and clarity in this sensitive subject.
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Omg one of my chores as a child/teen was doing the washing and I was always confused why my mother's underwear was stained/bleached. I feel really bad now asking my mum why all her underwear was ruined, and she kept saying it was bleach... And I only put two and two together now. I think that vagina education is something that never gets taught to boys/men and I feel like understanding the vagina is important to everyone.
I'm helping my boyfriends sister learn about her body since she doesn't have anyone else who can teach her and this channel really helps with her more difficult questions that I don't know. Thanks and keep up the good work! #vaginapositivity
That's nice that she has another female to talk to. The only people in my family I feel comfortable talking to about my lady parts are my mom and my Grandma Patty.
I don't really know how to thank you Dr odija on RU-vid for making me to live like my fellow mates and for curing me from diabetes.... thank you so much may God always strengthen you and your work.!!!!!!
I literally thought I was the only one who had bleached spots in my underwear. I felt so uncomfortable growing up, it really made me feel like this isn't normal.
I was 26 when I found out that morning woods happen to everyone. I thought there was something wrong with me mechanically. Then I discovered a few years later about the bleaching underwear with my girlfriend, and it happens all the time. Why doesn't society write these unwritten rules somewhere and force everyone to read it at least once?
@@rickabodcrane2062 So true. Also, I am not insulting any religion but they be writing fat books on heaven and hell while ignoring basic issues on Earth.
@Luke Reproductive organs and their functionalities fall under science. Not every parent is educated to know a lot of things. Science is taught in schools -- not when your parents are busy working two jobs to make ends meet. Are you one of those religious zealous who doesn't want kids to get educated about their own bodies?
For all the ladies...did y’all hate when you were in class and you were on your period and when you stood up it felt like a gush of blood came out? Just me? Lol 😂 I hated that in middle school! Thank goodness I discovered tampons!
@@wartanabadanooh7157 Nah they're easy and once theyre in, you dont feel them as much as a pad imo. Many people just wear them to bed or on high activity days. Whenever you think you'll be moving/rolling around for long periods. You can swim with them in too
@@wartanabadanooh7157 I once got traumatized by them, but not for the reason you might think. I put the damn thing in wrong and it was NOT a great size for me. Ouch. Just make sure you relax and get the right fit, then you’ll be just fine.
I wish my mom would have heard this but sadly, she passed away. She always made me feel so guilty for having all the things you just mentioned are normal. I think the education system fails to fully educate on this topic and people are too embarrassed to ask.
@@johnseeker9520 Even though youre saying it in a mean way... She definitely was a great and loving mother!! It wasnt her fault. Everything sexuality was taboo in her generation and even before that. It wasnt like it is today you need to understand that.
I understand! My mom is a smart lady, and a caring mom, but she was never given the opportunity to get educated about her body. Unfortunately, she handed down many of the same painful fears and misinformation about our bodies that she inherited from her mother and grandmother. I grew up thinking nearly everything about our bodies is something shameful to hide/correct- from body hair to sweating, and from going to the toilet to having dry skin and skin blemishes. She "corrected" the way I walked, focused heavily on not being overweight, and told me that one of the most embarrassing things is to be seen naked. I'm doing some learning/unlearning and she is doing a little as well. They didn't have the access that I do - to information (like these videos!), research, healthcare, product choices, etc. and the culture didn't allow for talking about it. I'm glad that I can take all that she taught me about the importance of education and caring for others, and do better for the next generation.
I love your channel so much because it not only teaches me about my own body and how to properly take care of it, but it makes me feel better about myself and all of the odd things my vagina does that make me feel bad. Like the “bleaching the underwear” point, I’ve been insecure about that and worried that in the future I would be judged for that happening even though it’s normal and I’m surely not CHOOSING for it to happen. I’ve been wearing this brand new pair of underwear for a DAY and it’s already like that, it’s impressive honestly.
This is so normal, and most of us didn’t know about it. 🙄 BUT, if you don’t like that your undies are discoloured maybe try panty liners, or something like that.. that can help preserve the undies 😂
@@blackcatbitch a vagina tie-dye!!!! Going to remember that! Such a cool way to think of it! We can tie-dye our undies without needing any materials! Women are incredible!! 😎
My dad is a British Urogynaecologist and I’m a student nurse, these topics are literally conversations had over dinner 😂😂. So this just made me laugh a lot! It baffles me the lack of knowledge the general public actually have about normal functions of our reproductive organs! Great videos, lots of love from England 🇬🇧❤️
Honestly that has made me feel so much better. I always thought that it was just me and it wasn't normal. I even started wearing pantyliners ALL the time to prevent it
Thank you for talking about the brown blood! My friends and I have always whispered about it, wondering what was going on. I’ve asked every OB/GYN I’ve had, and none of them explained it and only one ever said “It’s normal.”
Bruh I've never had bleaching, all my black underwear looks like the day I got them 😂 Instead, my light underwear turns yellow. Turns out it's just oxidized discharge but its still kinda embarrassing cause it looks like my underwear is always dirty.
Yes! The yellowed white underwear freaked me out too. I noticed it when I was pregnant. I asked my OB about it and she said that it's normal especially in pregnancy when your ph changes.
Yup this is why I avoid white underwear. I always thought discharge was not normal, so when it got on white underwear , and then made yellowish stains it was embarrassing. I used to sometimes get bleaching on my black or other colored underwear, but really only if the panties were too tight /small in the crotch causing them to kinda go in between the labia.
Thank you for talking about this, I’ve been having so many questions about discharge and my body for most of my teenage years and this completely soothed all of my worries. Talks like these need to be normalized, with families and partners!
THANK YOU FOR THE BROWN PERIOD THING!!!!!! I've had dark period blood since middle school and I had no idea what was going on. I have a Mirena IUD and no longer get my periods so I don't really worry about it anymore but I definitely thought something was up with the equipment up there. THANK YOU MDJ!!!
