5 Surprising Things that Are Different About Dating After 60 | Senior Dating Tips from Lisa Copeland 

I have a comfortable paid-for home, work I love, and passive income. All I want now is an attractive male who enjoys my company. I want the monogamy with him I enjoyed with my late spouse. We don't have to move in with each other or marry. His place can look and be however he wants it, and I'll enjoy spending the night there, as I hope he would at mine.

I think it helps to make a good first impression by wearing a dress or a skirt - something besides pants or jeans. I wear dresses all the time but live in an area where jeans are worn more often and I've noticed, even though I'm not "looking', that men will smile at me or hold doors open for me or simply be kinder and "clean up their language" due to the way I dress. Very surprising!

I find that most men my age are "old." I'm a very young 61. Finding someone of the same mindset has proven difficult.

OMG, this was such a great conversation ❤. I am in my 70's and i have a few great, high value men friends. We enjoy each other's company. They make me feel desirable and its wonderful to feel desirable. I am in love with one of them and the feeling is mutual. The connection is intense. Life is beautiful in spite of whatever limitations there are! Your guest presenter was so on point. Life is good when there is love and maturity ❤

My confidence is great but comfort with being alone is also great

Well let’s get it straight. 50 years old men are still pretty young. Let’s talk about 65+

67, living a great life, alone but not lonely. Dating is so not worth it.

You're so right. We put OURSELVES down. Because we compare our 20yr old self, to how we look NOW

Men need to be the pursuer at any age. Exceptions are shy men. Ask him if he can help you with something simple, directions. Always smile when meeting men or women. Always acknowledge to him things you like. I love a man that opens a door for me.

It is important to have male friends I grew up with a dad and I loved hanging out with my dad , his brother my uncle and my brother and my male cousins. They liked to jest it was fun and if you have male friends that you can hang out with, they could also introduce you to some of their male friends. Great way to meet people.

Katharine Hepburn said it best - "live close and visit often"!

I am finding quite a few of my single friends in their 60's are now dating their "high school sweetheart".

Hearing you say how you smiled at so many men at the homewares show and you got great interest of all ages doesn't surprise me. You personally have a young energy and your smile is the red carpet to men, and doesn't that just make sense? I think this tells us in our 50s, 60s and up that we need to stir up our own internal waters as opposed to leaving it still or dormant within us.

WELL.... I rather disagree here -- the "getting out there" has become a ridiculous cliché now... Are you aware that SO many men in their 60's are incredibly unhealthy, broken down not to mention too many do not even make efforts in their appearance; your information suggests that it's all about what women could do better. I came across a man who was in My h.s. grad class 50 years ago; now keep in mind I'm in good condition - minus any debilitating illnesses, etc. OK... Jump to meeting him - nice guy, 15 years first marriage then divorced, second marriage... 32 years wife recently deceased just last year... First off, when we embraced after the first time hello the first thing he said was it had been SO long since he touched a woman; all in all he's really broken down; knee replacements, hearing aid not to mention he sleeps with a CPAP as well as being about 50 to 60 lbs overweight! Why, I ask should I level THAT far down in order to as you say - "give a man a chance?" Too many times your post ask what are WOMEN doing wrong, that's truly rather a bit much. As far as being invisible is concerned, yes with all the smiles and ez going ways I possess, the reality is that men really DON'T even look in My direction any longer, it's true. AND, yes .. it's true... Men do want younger, (moldable and dumber!) girls... Is it too much to ask for an average guy who can keep up and someone I don't have to be his nurse? THEY/men need to pull themselves together. As a 69 year old... I've been there and still here 👍

good point about 4 min in. Men do not want to be your girl friend but women seem to expect that.

I have been trying this online dating. For three years. And when I do get to talk to a man . They do say my smile Attracts them to my profile but I keep getting all these people that are out of the United States trying to get me to send the money and I am so tired of it

Why do you have to practice smiling around men?! Just be yourself is my philosophy!

🤔🤔Older attractive women attract both young and older men. The older woman who understands men is light years of us all.🤓🤓

I had a man as a friend . He has been wanting to go out with me for a while. So i finally went out with him an he would not keep his hands off me. I do not know what to say to him about it but I never want to go out with him again!!

STD's highest among people in their 60's; whew!

I agree with Lisa again on the fact that it is wonderful to have male friends. Some of my best friends in my life have been men...but I don't kiss my friends. I only kiss my dates. So men who want to date need to know how to get out of that friend zone.

I agree no games for me.

Ladies, be careful when using the word "friends", when talking about men. Throughout my life, I have found it difficult to be long-term "friends" with women, because all the women who wanted to be my friend really wanted a relationship with me. Things get complicated. There becomes a push/pull tension. Eventually, that becomes uncomfortable, and I must end it. Besides, strictly speaking, my best friendships, other than having a significant other, come from males, because males have so much in common with males. Males don't have to be at their best with other males and be on our toes all the time. Cheers.

60+ gals are great 👍 They have life experience, style, grace, poise and a brain. Younger women really let themselves go too far. I don't bench-press 300lbs in the gym, so why would I do that on a date or on my wedding night???? I won't! 👍💯

What about someone who's going to stand by you, in your final days? What a time this is.

Fantastic thank you. I've been struggling since turning 60. Your discussion is helping enormously.

Lisa Copeland is 100% correct with everything she said! 🤩

I hope you are still around. A few things you said "hit me" especially the invisibility thing. Thank you.

You two are a great pair.

Love video where you wore your hair up, Margaret. It was so flattering

So appreciate your videos! If ever doing program in USA I'll be there to see you! Blessings!

I think there is so much said about men understanding women but not nearly as much as women understanding men. It’s as if “love” is more important than “respect” which is more of a woman thing. Just look at all the greeting cards for couples about love…. but love for a man is usually respect. Our society seems to say that women know more about love. Wrong.

And a video on what is man talk? And women talk?

Choose wisely. A man you choose Can end up being responsible for You during illness. Do you really want that ? Wanting to re-create The dating experiences of the 20s - 50s , the marriages,so on. I bet there isn’t a book about Dating over 60-70s

I dont care anymore if they call it infatuation, calculated or reckless risque, etc. I feel love then IT IS LOVE. Screw the biases, the third party goodytwoshoes, my ego, the trends...I deserve good partner and BE a GOOD partner. That is all to it. I wasted many years to do otherwise ---Which is anything but wise. Nature never tells which flower should pollenate which other and whatnot.

love to learn more on how woman think thanks !!!!

I think I would like to have casual male friends who respect me. To go out and have fun with once in a while. I don't want to live with anyone. I am a 67 year old athlete who hates small talk. Very fearful of STDs. Just getting a divorce after 30 year marriage to emotionally abusive man. I laugh a lot. I really doubt any man would be interested.

I'm not interested in men that age. Looking for someone to marry, not someone to bury.

Thank you

Really enjoyed this conversation! It made sense.

Really great advice!

Women in 60’s need an older man (70’s 80’s 90’s) unless you look so young you can date younger.

Most women don’t know to either flirt or expect the man to do all the work.

I had a man tell me he wants to date women in their 30's. He was late 50's I'm early 60's. How do we deal with that?

I do WOMAN things with women. I Am not an arm-twister. I don’t want to turn a man into my girl-friend.

Great advice. I'm going to give this a whirl.

Malarkey! We emasculated men? NO! Feminism tried to correct the "condition" of women having to do it all because most men refused to participate even close to equally in households, even though most women worked full time outside of our homes. Women adapted to that, but men NEVER took up any slack where neverending household chores were concerned. Everything was ours to do. What is the the equivalent of emasculation when it comes to the way men treat women? And why do we not have a word for that? I believe it's because we treat women as though their egos & self esteem don't matter & they haven't. My advice to women who are now free of the "burden" of men, is to stay single, date if you like, but enjoy the freedom from the drudgery men have caused you. Have a good rest of your life. Cheers!

Men like to be listened to. They like to be acknowledged.

Great advice like alway love your channel😍💞

I really enjoy your channel.

That asymetric neckline along with the more delicate necklace is very attractive on you!

Ladies, if I may..... NEVER ask a woman their advice about men. Unless they've been one, they don't know. Ask a man what he wants; he will tell you, but the question is, will you listen?

Where are these men?

I don't see how men over 50 are different. They are only willing to do what they want to do. So women need always to have other options, friends etc.

How about 70's?

I am 60

So nice

What about younger men with we 60+ yo?

Im 64 is it wise when he's in need of help money wise and two make or his job that he's counting on but if he's going to struggle do I need to step up financialy

Sounds like issues of control. Except for me, of course 😂

Some women in our 66yrs. young have worn old brittle tender teeth. A smile is not as pretty as 10 years past. 😢😢 we can NOT NOT afford cosmetic teeth. I enjoy the dopamine RUSH when i SMILE ☺!!! I SMILE just to blow off depression symptoms!!!! A remedy!!! 😊😊😊😊 Need guys whom practice COMPASSION- LOVING KINDNESS, PROPERLY Generously $$$$$ helpful. 👍👍👍👍👍👍 Be a good giver!!!😊 Have some healthy hobbies to share. 😊

Most men 57-60 + seek younger, or lease escorts. Sad but true. Too many on both sides are set in their ways , so not very flex or livable beyond brief honeymoon stage. In a nutshell, dating after 55+ isn't on the top of most mens list due to the difficulties of some ladies, too many hurdles and games. So, hello easier porn and leasing what u need. Just the messenger here lol! Lastly, most women 55-60+ have babies at home, literally. Grandkids! Many boast they're my world. I want to have them over all the time as ones home now becomes a dump off , loud, crazy nursery. This one is huge, total deal breaker for men now wanting a quieter life. And there's no explaining this to women celebrating granniehood either. You're now viewed as a child hater.

I really struggle with having women as friends. My definition of friend must be different. I'm in Meetup etc and find women don't want to be friends, or actually have much contact with the male member sat all.

Um maybe, you might want to do videos on what is and isn't flirting? How to do it? How not to overdo it. My BF was just out of the driveway and the neighbor calls me over. Suddenly, he's asking to kiss me. WTF! I don't flirt cuz that one came out of nowhere.

Lifestyle seem to divide daters. I dated a guy who wanted a CBD, liberal drinking buddy and it wasn't comparable.

under 60 but close...

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Be flexible? I don't think so! If they don't care enough to do something about their appearance (you mentioned the bellys), and dressing in a cleaned up appearance way, then they are not considered. Many men become more unnactractive when older...so they have to try harder to present themselves well. Otherwise, they're out!

Most women die single???